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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Kate Richie podcast. This

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Speaker 1: is an interesting one, mate, I've never heard of this

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Speaker 1: term before, but they're talking about your digital body language.

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Speaker 1: Your digital body language is how you show up and

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Speaker 1: how you present yourself on the dating scene. So it's

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Speaker 1: what you do in your back and forth on your smartphone,

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Speaker 1: whether you're do an emojis or whether you're just sending

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Speaker 1: direct messages, whatever it might be. But the other thing

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Speaker 1: is too the timing of your messages. This article talks

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Speaker 1: about being the most crucial thing with your digital body language.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so what are we talking like? If you meet

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Speaker 2: someone for the first time, do you have to give

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Speaker 2: it a bit of time.

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Speaker 3: Before you reply or is this the digital body language?

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Speaker 3: They say seventy seven percent of singles when meeting another single,

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Speaker 3: if you get into that back and forth with message

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Speaker 3: reply within thirty minutes.

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Speaker 1: Well that's that's quick.

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Speaker 2: That is quick. And you know what, if you're keen

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Speaker 2: on if someone, you're going to do it because you're excited,

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Speaker 2: you've got a few butterflies in your stomach, You're going

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Speaker 2: to revise straight away.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what was I mean, it was annoying

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Speaker 1: when you were in the dating scene, and you would

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Speaker 1: wait maybe one day or two days, and you didn't

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Speaker 1: know whether it was gameplay, and you would say to

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Speaker 1: a mate, she's playing me, and then your mate would go, no,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't care. No, that's not right. She must care.

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Speaker 1: We got on really well, but she hasn't messaged you back. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because she's not interested is.

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Speaker 2: The worst feeling. Oh, and then it's but then it's

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Speaker 2: like a day later, and then it sounds like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm really keen to catch up again this weekend. It's like, well,

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Speaker 2: why did it take you twenty four hours to reply

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Speaker 2: to that? I know I've been thinking about you the

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Speaker 2: whole time. I'm actually perched outside your house. Just watch.

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Speaker 2: But she's watching you come home from work. I've been

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Speaker 2: watching the whole time, and you haven't gone to your phone.

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Speaker 1: You've had your phone in your hand because I'm up

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Speaker 1: a tree outside your bedroom window. I know exactly where

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Speaker 1: you are.

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Speaker 2: I'm hanging off the second level window up here, and

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Speaker 2: it's really it just reply.

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Speaker 1: Couldn't you get a ground floor apartment? This is killing me.

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Speaker 1: I'm in a harness. Do you know? The thing is? Though?

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Speaker 1: Because I reckon it the start of every relationship, and

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Speaker 1: especially if you've been on the dating scene trying to

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Speaker 1: find the right person for a while, you take the

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Speaker 1: stance of I don't play games, I'm not in it

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Speaker 1: for games, and I think both parties do the same thing.

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Speaker 1: But then if your aim is to make that person interested,

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Speaker 1: you want to build the tension. So therefore you might

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Speaker 1: wait a couple of days now hoping that they go

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Speaker 1: I've been thinking about them, way haven't they message? And

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Speaker 1: then what happens is it becomes a power struggle. So

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Speaker 1: finally you get that message back and you go, great,

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Speaker 1: got the message. Now I'll wait two days, and then

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Speaker 1: all of a sudden you're in this really staged and

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Speaker 1: stepped out back and forth. Where if you're waiting two days,

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Speaker 1: every time you've missed the weekend.

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Speaker 2: Or the detriment is when you get your friends involved

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Speaker 2: and we have a segment and it called write my reply,

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Speaker 2: where we will decipher one of your texts. And this

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Speaker 2: is where you sit down with friends.

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Speaker 1: And in friendship.

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Speaker 2: Groups you always have one who is outspoken and they'll

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Speaker 2: go no, no, no, I don't reply straight away. You're

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Speaker 2: keinot massively keeno. And then you'll have another one we'll go. Mate.

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Speaker 2: If you do like it, get onto it straight away,

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Speaker 2: you're gonna have conflicting stories and you won't be able

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Speaker 2: to You don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: You know. Kate Richie made a really good point when

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Speaker 1: we were talking about this last time, and she said,

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Speaker 1: one of the great moves is to send a photo

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Speaker 1: if you're out and about at a bar and maybe

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Speaker 1: you've got you've ordered an espresso martini or something fancy

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Speaker 1: or something fun, and then you send a photo, but

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Speaker 1: you've got two glasses, so you have two espresso martinis

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Speaker 1: there in the background in the side of the shot,

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Speaker 1: so it looks like you're out with somebody part. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And they think, oh, he's firing off a message. That's great,

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Speaker 1: but hang on a minute, see how with someone else?

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Speaker 2: What would you do that? Go?

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Speaker 1: You a play? Oh my gosh, solid game play.

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Speaker 2: For everyone thinking where is Kate as well? She's flirting

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Speaker 2: on the phone. She's actually flirting with Dr Chris Brown

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Speaker 2: at the moment they're filming. We don't even know what's

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Speaker 2: going on. There's a new television show on Channel seven

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Speaker 2: and Kate Richie's filming with doctor Chris Brown. So she'll

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Speaker 2: be away for the next week and a half.

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Speaker 1: She told me she was home and away.

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Speaker 2: She's just sent me a text message with two espresso Martine.

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Speaker 1: Don't reply for a couple of days. Lacey and Narrabin Hello,

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Speaker 1: Oh hey guys, how I Grace. What do you think

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Speaker 1: about the timing of when you actually do reply to

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Speaker 1: get the right impact? Oh? Look, I've got over me.

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Speaker 1: I'm kind of one of those people that get game

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Speaker 1: player sometimes don't what you don't reply? Well, I will,

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Speaker 1: I will. It just sometimes takes me a little bit

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Speaker 1: of time, Lacey. Does it work place? Yeah, Well, I'm

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Speaker 1: also I actually am.

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Speaker 2: I'm a caller.

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Speaker 1: I like actually call people. So sometimes I'll just wait

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Speaker 1: and then I'll wait some driving home for work, and

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Speaker 1: then I'll just sell your old school So you actually talking?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I am.

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Speaker 1: I'm one of those people hate for diary, pretty diaries,

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Speaker 1: phone calls.

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Speaker 2: Got to the day I'm old school. I write them

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Speaker 2: a letter and I sent it to them with the

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Speaker 2: one seal reply, a little bit of perfume. Then I

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Speaker 2: tie it to my Hiddens thoughts and she goes.

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Speaker 1: She goes where she lands, nobody knows. It's in Whipper

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