Speaker 1: Hi guys, Happy Thursday. You're joined it with Sam And
Speaker 1: I've actually got Blake, our producer.
Speaker 2: On because we're doing a little Q and A today
Speaker 2: and he's gonna road dog the questions.
Speaker 1: I'm roll dog in the questions.
Speaker 3: And kind of me at the moment, I'm like, wow,
Speaker 3: here too.
Speaker 2: We're gonna go a little quick fire Q and A
Speaker 2: with Sam.
Speaker 3: There's some juicy ones. How do we start with this?
Speaker 3: Let's say go right in. I feel like you spoke
Speaker 3: about this recently. Yeah, how to deal with people constantly
Speaker 3: shit talking and negative energy.
Speaker 2: I feel like Melbourne is a very small bubble and
Speaker 2: there's a lot of shit talking that's happened. And I've
Speaker 2: heard like my name thrown around in situations and I'm like.
Speaker 1: Mitch, I wasn't even there, so like why are you
Speaker 1: mentioning my name?
Speaker 2: And there's always drama and I feel like, like, again,
Speaker 2: Blake and I were just speaking about before that everyone
Speaker 2: thinks that I'm like sleeping with izzyes ex Bailey, and
Speaker 2: I'm like what, like where does that come from? Like
Speaker 2: so many people shit talk me, but no one's ever
Speaker 2: shit talked to me to my face. And that's something
Speaker 2: that I can back and everyone it's been really nice
Speaker 2: to me to my face, So I don't really let
Speaker 2: it get to me unless it's someone personally that I
Speaker 2: know is shit talking. I just think you, like you
Speaker 2: just got to feel bad for them and just go like, honestly,
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry that you feel like they need to
Speaker 2: comment hate or shit on me about my life.
Speaker 1: Like, just feel bad for them.
Speaker 2: It's embarrassing, Like if my friend, if I ever caught
Speaker 2: my friend commenting hate on TikTok, I would be embarrassed
Speaker 2: to be their friend.
Speaker 3: I always say this, and like I work with people
Speaker 3: like you yourself, and I always just say, like, who
Speaker 3: do you know that does this?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, I do not want to be associated with you.
Speaker 2: So I'm so glad that you've commented hate. So I'm
Speaker 2: going to block you now, Like you don't like my face,
Speaker 2: so good, I don't want to see your I don't
Speaker 2: want to see your comment either.
Speaker 3: Yeah, this one people are quite stressed about. So let's
Speaker 3: address that. Okay, what made you want to move to
Speaker 3: the UK temporarily? And are you scared?
Speaker 2: I'm scared. I think it's really hitting me. I've kind
Speaker 2: of got like two weeks in Melbourne. That I'm like
Speaker 2: really here for until my new chapter is of my
Speaker 2: life is kind of just sitting around in front of me.
Speaker 1: I am really scared, Like I'm really really scared.
Speaker 2: But I know that with being scared and putting myself
Speaker 2: out there and giving myself this challenge, I will really
Speaker 2: grow as an individual.
Speaker 1: I feel like because.
Speaker 2: Of the job that I'm in, I've had a kind
Speaker 2: of fast track into being an adult, and I live
Speaker 2: a very adult life in Melbourne, and I've got to
Speaker 2: experience a lot more at a young age compared to
Speaker 2: like other girls my age maybe that I went to
Speaker 2: school with. And I feel like it's the next challenge
Speaker 2: for me being in a bigger city, like living it
Speaker 2: up and meeting new people and putting myself out there
Speaker 2: in that social aspect and.
Speaker 1: Just giving it a go.
Speaker 2: Like I feel like this is the perfect time I'm single.
Speaker 2: Nothing's really keeping me back here, so why not? And
Speaker 2: I think I will always kick myself if I didn't
Speaker 2: experience that, So like, I just want to remove myself
Speaker 2: for a little bit and see what it's like to
Speaker 2: meet new people and go outside my comfort zone by
Speaker 2: myself individual next one.
Speaker 3: I feel like we spoke about this in our last recording,
Speaker 3: but there was a TikTok on it, So I want
Speaker 3: to get your take. What are influencer events like.
Speaker 2: I think it really depends on what your mental headspace
Speaker 2: is like, Like sometimes they're so so much fun. It
Speaker 2: really depends on the brand as well. They're nice because
Speaker 2: I have some girls there that I can lean on,
Speaker 2: but also it is you have to think about the
Speaker 2: influencer scene as kind of like high school in a way,
Speaker 2: like you're having a big classroom slash cohort of girls
Speaker 2: that aren't all going to get along. They're not all
Speaker 2: going to be the friends because they're all doing social media.
Speaker 2: Like everyone has a personality. Everyone has a big personality.
Speaker 2: That's why we're all in social media. So put a
Speaker 2: bunch of extroverts in a room, you're going to get
Speaker 2: drama and you're going to get like people not liking
Speaker 2: each other. So sometimes if you're like for me right now,
Speaker 2: influencer events are really really hard because I'm so anxious.
Speaker 2: When my social anxiety is not as bad, they can
Speaker 2: be really fun. I like doing events on like a
Speaker 2: Friday or a Thursday night, just Saturday or something like
Speaker 2: that because I can drink and stuff during the week.
Speaker 1: Those events I don't really drink, but lunch events.
Speaker 2: Are really nice because you get to sit down and
Speaker 2: actually catch up with people. Standing events are kind of like, yeah,
Speaker 2: it's a lot. There are a lot, and you really
Speaker 2: have to be on the ball and you have to
Speaker 2: be good.
Speaker 1: At small dog.
Speaker 3: So I feel like you've been like working so hard
Speaker 3: on this this year, excited for your take care. How
Speaker 3: do you manage to stay motivated and stick to routines,
Speaker 3: especially on tough days.
Speaker 2: You can't rely on motivation to get you places in life.
Speaker 2: Consistency in discipline over motivation. If I solely relied on motivation,
Speaker 2: I would never go to the gym, But I think
Speaker 2: it's really good, especially again tying it back to not
Speaker 2: having a full time nine to five or even girls
Speaker 2: in like your young like early twenties. It's so easy
Speaker 2: to sit around and have a lazy morning during the week.
Speaker 2: But I just don't allow myself to have that up
Speaker 2: by seven point thirty, Going on a walk, going to
Speaker 2: the gym, going for a run, like it really starts
Speaker 2: your day and you're like starting your day with endorphins
Speaker 2: running through your body. Like that is my consistency and
Speaker 2: my discipline on that is because knowing that I'm going
Speaker 2: to have endorphins at the end of it, and I'm
Speaker 2: doing something for myself and for my health before other people.
Speaker 2: And if you rely solely on motivation, you're never going
Speaker 2: to get it done. And I'm a very headstrong person.
Speaker 2: So if I want something, I'm going to get it.
Speaker 2: And I want to have a good, consistent, healthy routine,
Speaker 2: so I get it.
Speaker 3: Love, what do you look for in a man or day?
Speaker 3: Its purely looks or something else.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is gonna sound so official, but looks I
Speaker 2: won't lie are a very big driving.
Speaker 1: Factor for me.
Speaker 3: It's a starting point.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like if I do have to be somewhat attracted
Speaker 2: to you to then want to pursue something romantically or
Speaker 2: in any sort of romantic way, I do have to
Speaker 2: find you attractive, but I think attraction can grow when
Speaker 2: I find out your personality. I love like an introvert,
Speaker 2: quaiet guy, someone who isn't like outgoing, but like not arrogant,
Speaker 2: and you have to be funny. I think the biggest
Speaker 2: thing is making me feel safe as a girl, and
Speaker 2: as a young girl, that's what I've really come to
Speaker 2: cherish and I think men sometimes I'm experiencing recently aren't
Speaker 2: all that respectful.
Speaker 1: So that's a big thing that I'm looking for in
Speaker 1: a date.
Speaker 3: Do you see yourself doing anything other than influencing such
Speaker 3: podcasting in the near future.
Speaker 2: I would love to come out with a brand in
Speaker 2: like maybe how old am I now? I'm twenty two?
Speaker 2: In yeah, like the next five years. I would love
Speaker 2: to have like investment properties as a source of income.
Speaker 2: And I would love to come out with a brand.
Speaker 2: That's like my next goal. But I don't want to
Speaker 2: rush into that and just put my name on something
Speaker 2: because I'm an influencer. Like no, I want it to
Speaker 2: actually be something I'm really passionate about. I know what
Speaker 2: the brand is, but I'm going to leave my secrets.
Speaker 3: Back to dating. How do you go navigating dating in
Speaker 3: the public eye.
Speaker 2: I don't want to answer this question and sound like
Speaker 2: super fucking up myself and super obnoxious, because I feel
Speaker 2: like people can take something and run with it, but
Speaker 2: I am wary. I think in Melbourne's especially, like as
Speaker 2: I said before, Melbourne is a small place, and like
Speaker 2: guys I've been on a date with, they'll be like,
Speaker 2: oh yeah, like I've seen your TikTok and stuff, and
Speaker 2: that doesn't bother me. Like, if you're online as a
Speaker 2: young male, there is a likely chance that you're going
Speaker 2: to scroll past me on the Internet or in an
Speaker 2: ad or on something like that, which I don't care about.
Speaker 2: It's more about what they're saying to their friends. I
Speaker 2: don't know if I'm being taken seriously or not, which
Speaker 2: makes me a lot more closed off than I probably realize.
Speaker 2: And you just have to be protective because you don't understand.
Speaker 2: Like sometimes me opening I get nervous because me opening
Speaker 2: up to them on a date for them to get
Speaker 2: to know me could then be away and a secret
Speaker 2: that they could go tell their friends and use it
Speaker 2: as a topic of conversation, which like is hard because
Speaker 2: you want to be open to someone, but you also
Speaker 2: need to protect yourself a little bit more than just
Speaker 2: a person who doesn't have social media. So it probably
Speaker 2: does make me a little bit more closed off and
Speaker 2: a bit more reserved.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's funny. I've never looked at it in that way,
Speaker 3: because like, even when you think of your first therapy
Speaker 3: session with a new therapist, you have to like literally
Speaker 3: out the road and like tell them your full story
Speaker 3: And I don't know if I should be doing this,
Speaker 3: but when I was dating, I would do that on
Speaker 3: first dates. Yeah, it's like it's naturally how you communicate
Speaker 3: when you're first getting to know someone. That probably prolongs
Speaker 3: things for you.
Speaker 2: Well, I kind of end up becoming a little bit
Speaker 2: of a listener because I'm like, you open up about
Speaker 2: your family or sometimes like you'll kind of go down
Speaker 2: the road of like your dating history, and like I
Speaker 2: was in a very public relationship and he does play
Speaker 2: athol and he is an athlete.
Speaker 1: Now I don't want my.
Speaker 2: Way of being like, oh, why did your relationship and
Speaker 2: like a very open casual question, which I completely understand,
Speaker 2: but people want to know the tea on that. People
Speaker 2: want to know why we broke up and all the
Speaker 2: ins and outs of that that like I could go
Speaker 2: tell him and then he could go hang out with
Speaker 2: all these girlfriends the next night being like, oh, I
Speaker 2: know why Sam and Caleb broke up?
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? And it's like I
Speaker 1: don't want that to be spoken about.
Speaker 2: So it's like then you're not open like little things
Speaker 2: like that, which it's actually not that big of a deal,
Speaker 2: but I just don't want it to be a topic
Speaker 2: of conversation in his other parts.
Speaker 3: Of his life totally. But it's definitely a strain if
Speaker 3: you can't be fully open, can't fully yourself, and you
Speaker 3: kind of have to be calculated in your mind, especially
Speaker 3: on first dates. I don't know about you, but I
Speaker 3: was banging back the wines and leaks a.
Speaker 1: Little bit more.
Speaker 2: But it's like, I also don't think you're always going
Speaker 2: to do that, but I'm wary that you could, like
Speaker 2: I'm not. And they're like, oh, well, you should trust them,
Speaker 2: but I'm like, should I? But I don't know you?
Speaker 3: Okay, So our next one advice for dealing with debilitating anxiety.
Speaker 1: Well, i'd fucking love to know.
Speaker 2: I actually just went on medication because it's so fucked
Speaker 2: and bad at the moment, like debilitating. I used to
Speaker 2: go and I was on medication a while ago, and
Speaker 2: then I was like, it's a band aid approach, and
Speaker 2: my life circumstances are a little bit different, so I'm
Speaker 2: trialing it out again. I don't know. My anxiety is
Speaker 2: very debilitating, but it shows up in different ways. I
Speaker 2: actually go really quiet and like, I just like have
Speaker 2: so much anxiety in my head but I'm very good
Speaker 2: at putting on a front, so I honestly don't know.
Speaker 2: Like sometimes I literally getting out of bed seems like
Speaker 2: the hardest task.
Speaker 1: In the world at the moment.
Speaker 2: But like me saying I don't have the answers and
Speaker 2: everything like that, like I say that in a way
Speaker 2: that I want you guys to not feel alone when
Speaker 2: you feel like this. Like my big thing on social
Speaker 2: media is being real and raw and honest, and I
Speaker 2: don't have the answers for everything. I'm trying to figure
Speaker 2: it out. So I do lean on you guys, and
Speaker 2: I do make videos about my anxiety and now I've
Speaker 2: recently started talking about my eating and everything like that,
Speaker 2: because I wanted you guys to feel less alone. So
Speaker 2: it's okay that you have these feelings, and you will
Speaker 2: get over that.
Speaker 1: We'll all get over that, we'll all work together. Not
Speaker 1: all the time.
Speaker 2: You have to have the answers to everything, and that's
Speaker 2: why I'm trying to be as raw and honest on socials.
Speaker 3: Okay, So our next one. You've spoken a lot about this,
Speaker 3: and I feel like we have answered that. But you've
Speaker 3: been asked at a fair few times, how did you
Speaker 3: find the courage to start posting on social media, any
Speaker 3: tips of someone wanting to start.
Speaker 2: It's so hard because I feel like sometimes you kind
Speaker 2: of forget about it.
Speaker 1: I started posting on mine.
Speaker 2: I feel like mine was easy because I was in
Speaker 2: lockdown and it wasn't seeing people too for them to
Speaker 2: judge me. When I started taking it seriously, I think
Speaker 2: I was over that hurdle of people caring because I
Speaker 2: like everyone posts, do you know what I mean? Like
Speaker 2: everyone makes it get ready with me? Is everyone is
Speaker 2: a let's get dressed with me? Like we all love
Speaker 2: doing the same things. And if someone's bullying it for you,
Speaker 2: like they would be posting if they had the opportunity,
Speaker 2: Like who is going to.
Speaker 1: Turn down being an influencer? Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Like no one everyone had like it would be great,
Speaker 2: Like I want that for everyone. There's room for everyone
Speaker 2: in this job, So who gives a fuck?
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? You live once, do
Speaker 1: it while you're young.
Speaker 2: And I think just consistency is key, Like I always
Speaker 2: try to post and posting what I like, not what
Speaker 2: you think, is going to get good engagement, because when
Speaker 2: if that does, for example, and you don't actually like
Speaker 2: filming those content, you're going to make yourself miserable.
Speaker 1: So literally just post what you like and hope for
Speaker 1: the best.
Speaker 3: Okay, so we'll end on a juicy one, not aimed
Speaker 3: at anyone, just generally, I think good advice for girls.
Speaker 3: But someone has asked, when did you know was the
Speaker 3: right moment to walk away from your past relationship?
Speaker 2: I my last relationship was the most loving, open, caring
Speaker 2: relationship I have ever ever been in. My mum said
Speaker 2: when we first met that I wish you guys met
Speaker 2: when you were older because you have a lot of
Speaker 2: growing up to do, and we would always go, no,
Speaker 2: don't say that, No, don't say that. And then when
Speaker 2: my parents broke up when they were twenty one years
Speaker 2: old and ended up getting back together. But when we
Speaker 2: were twenty one, we broke up because I think our
Speaker 2: lives became not dependent on one another. But we had
Speaker 2: done so much growing up as adults together that we
Speaker 2: didn't know what we were with as adults without each other.
Speaker 2: And I think, yes, high school sweethearts all like being
Speaker 2: together since you were young is amazing and it's such
Speaker 2: a great love story, But you learn so much when
Speaker 2: you're alone, And I think both of us knew that
Speaker 2: we needed to be alone to almost be better for
Speaker 2: one another, and like the breakup turn around was really quick.
Speaker 2: It was maybe like two weeks and we just literally
Speaker 2: just said, like we both need to grow up, Like
Speaker 2: we both are living such adult lives with so much pressure.
Speaker 2: We have high pressure jobs, being in the public eye.
Speaker 2: We almost couldn't be there for each other because we
Speaker 2: couldn't even be there for ourselves. Very similar to how
Speaker 2: I don't know if your girls know Phoebe and Testa
Speaker 2: broke up. They had their lives really intertwined. But I
Speaker 2: need to be an adult. I needed to learn how
Speaker 2: to be a fucking functioning adult without him. And you
Speaker 2: are so comfortable in a relationship, and I just think
Speaker 2: if you're constantly feeling like the second option, and you're
Speaker 2: constantly not feeling prioritized because that person is so big
Speaker 2: on doing their own thing, or you don't feel valued
Speaker 2: as a person in a relationship, it's time to walk away.
Speaker 2: Like you should be number one person's priority. You shouldn't
Speaker 2: have to be telling someone how they treat you or
Speaker 2: how they make you feel.
Speaker 1: They should just know.
Speaker 2: And if they can't adjust their life to accommodate for
Speaker 2: that walk away, because you are settling. If you're sitting
Speaker 2: there and just hoping for one day for it to change,
Speaker 2: it's not going to change unless you walk away. Sometimes
Speaker 2: you can walk away and they'll fix themselves and realize
Speaker 2: what they lost. And sometimes they won't and you have
Speaker 2: to walk away to figure that out. But I feel
Speaker 2: like being alone is the best way to figure that anyway.
Speaker 2: Thank you guys so much for coming along this Girl's
Speaker 2: Guide episode, and we'll see you on Tuesday.
Speaker 1: Bye. This is so much fun. Bye bye bye