WEBVTT - JFG Girls Guide: A Q&A with Sam!

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<v Speaker 1>Hi guys, Happy Thursday. You're joined it with Sam And

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<v Speaker 1>I've actually got Blake, our producer.

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<v Speaker 2>On because we're doing a little Q and A today

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<v Speaker 2>and he's gonna road dog the questions.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm roll dog in the questions.

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<v Speaker 3>And kind of me at the moment, I'm like, wow,

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<v Speaker 3>here too.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna go a little quick fire Q and A

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<v Speaker 2>with Sam.

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<v Speaker 3>There's some juicy ones. How do we start with this?

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<v Speaker 3>Let's say go right in. I feel like you spoke

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<v Speaker 3>about this recently. Yeah, how to deal with people constantly

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<v Speaker 3>shit talking and negative energy.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like Melbourne is a very small bubble and

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<v Speaker 2>there's a lot of shit talking that's happened. And I've

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<v Speaker 2>heard like my name thrown around in situations and I'm like.

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<v Speaker 1>Mitch, I wasn't even there, so like why are you

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<v Speaker 1>mentioning my name?

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<v Speaker 2>And there's always drama and I feel like, like, again,

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<v Speaker 2>Blake and I were just speaking about before that everyone

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<v Speaker 2>thinks that I'm like sleeping with izzyes ex Bailey, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like what, like where does that come from? Like

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<v Speaker 2>so many people shit talk me, but no one's ever

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<v Speaker 2>shit talked to me to my face. And that's something

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<v Speaker 2>that I can back and everyone it's been really nice

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<v Speaker 2>to me to my face, So I don't really let

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<v Speaker 2>it get to me unless it's someone personally that I

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<v Speaker 2>know is shit talking. I just think you, like you

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<v Speaker 2>just got to feel bad for them and just go like, honestly,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry that you feel like they need to

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<v Speaker 2>comment hate or shit on me about my life.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, just feel bad for them.

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<v Speaker 2>It's embarrassing, Like if my friend, if I ever caught

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<v Speaker 2>my friend commenting hate on TikTok, I would be embarrassed

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<v Speaker 2>to be their friend.

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<v Speaker 3>I always say this, and like I work with people

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<v Speaker 3>like you yourself, and I always just say, like, who

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<v Speaker 3>do you know that does this?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like, I do not want to be associated with you.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm so glad that you've commented hate. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to block you now, Like you don't like my face,

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<v Speaker 2>so good, I don't want to see your I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to see your comment either.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, this one people are quite stressed about. So let's

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<v Speaker 3>address that. Okay, what made you want to move to

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<v Speaker 3>the UK temporarily? And are you scared?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm scared. I think it's really hitting me. I've kind

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<v Speaker 2>of got like two weeks in Melbourne. That I'm like

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<v Speaker 2>really here for until my new chapter is of my

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<v Speaker 2>life is kind of just sitting around in front of me.

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<v Speaker 1>I am really scared, Like I'm really really scared.

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<v Speaker 2>But I know that with being scared and putting myself

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<v Speaker 2>out there and giving myself this challenge, I will really

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<v Speaker 2>grow as an individual.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like because.

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<v Speaker 2>Of the job that I'm in, I've had a kind

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<v Speaker 2>of fast track into being an adult, and I live

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<v Speaker 2>a very adult life in Melbourne, and I've got to

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<v Speaker 2>experience a lot more at a young age compared to

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<v Speaker 2>like other girls my age maybe that I went to

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<v Speaker 2>school with. And I feel like it's the next challenge

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<v Speaker 2>for me being in a bigger city, like living it

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<v Speaker 2>up and meeting new people and putting myself out there

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<v Speaker 2>in that social aspect and.

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<v Speaker 1>Just giving it a go.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I feel like this is the perfect time I'm single.

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<v Speaker 2>Nothing's really keeping me back here, so why not? And

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<v Speaker 2>I think I will always kick myself if I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>experience that, So like, I just want to remove myself

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<v Speaker 2>for a little bit and see what it's like to

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<v Speaker 2>meet new people and go outside my comfort zone by

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<v Speaker 2>myself individual next one.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like we spoke about this in our last recording,

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<v Speaker 3>but there was a TikTok on it, So I want

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<v Speaker 3>to get your take. What are influencer events like.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it really depends on what your mental headspace

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<v Speaker 2>is like, Like sometimes they're so so much fun. It

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<v Speaker 2>really depends on the brand as well. They're nice because

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<v Speaker 2>I have some girls there that I can lean on,

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<v Speaker 2>but also it is you have to think about the

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<v Speaker 2>influencer scene as kind of like high school in a way,

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<v Speaker 2>like you're having a big classroom slash cohort of girls

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<v Speaker 2>that aren't all going to get along. They're not all

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<v Speaker 2>going to be the friends because they're all doing social media.

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<v Speaker 2>Like everyone has a personality. Everyone has a big personality.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why we're all in social media. So put a

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<v Speaker 2>bunch of extroverts in a room, you're going to get

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<v Speaker 2>drama and you're going to get like people not liking

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<v Speaker 2>each other. So sometimes if you're like for me right now,

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<v Speaker 2>influencer events are really really hard because I'm so anxious.

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<v Speaker 2>When my social anxiety is not as bad, they can

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<v Speaker 2>be really fun. I like doing events on like a

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<v Speaker 2>Friday or a Thursday night, just Saturday or something like

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<v Speaker 2>that because I can drink and stuff during the week.

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<v Speaker 1>Those events I don't really drink, but lunch events.

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<v Speaker 2>Are really nice because you get to sit down and

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<v Speaker 2>actually catch up with people. Standing events are kind of like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a lot. There are a lot, and you really

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<v Speaker 2>have to be on the ball and you have to

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<v Speaker 2>be good.

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<v Speaker 1>At small dog.

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<v Speaker 3>So I feel like you've been like working so hard

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<v Speaker 3>on this this year, excited for your take care. How

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<v Speaker 3>do you manage to stay motivated and stick to routines,

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<v Speaker 3>especially on tough days.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't rely on motivation to get you places in life.

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<v Speaker 2>Consistency in discipline over motivation. If I solely relied on motivation,

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<v Speaker 2>I would never go to the gym, But I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's really good, especially again tying it back to not

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<v Speaker 2>having a full time nine to five or even girls

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<v Speaker 2>in like your young like early twenties. It's so easy

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<v Speaker 2>to sit around and have a lazy morning during the week.

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<v Speaker 2>But I just don't allow myself to have that up

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<v Speaker 2>by seven point thirty, Going on a walk, going to

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<v Speaker 2>the gym, going for a run, like it really starts

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<v Speaker 2>your day and you're like starting your day with endorphins

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<v Speaker 2>running through your body. Like that is my consistency and

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<v Speaker 2>my discipline on that is because knowing that I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to have endorphins at the end of it, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>doing something for myself and for my health before other people.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you rely solely on motivation, you're never going

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<v Speaker 2>to get it done. And I'm a very headstrong person.

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<v Speaker 2>So if I want something, I'm going to get it.

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<v Speaker 2>And I want to have a good, consistent, healthy routine,

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<v Speaker 2>so I get it.

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<v Speaker 3>Love, what do you look for in a man or day?

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<v Speaker 3>Its purely looks or something else.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this is gonna sound so official, but looks I

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<v Speaker 2>won't lie are a very big driving.

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<v Speaker 1>Factor for me.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a starting point.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like if I do have to be somewhat attracted

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<v Speaker 2>to you to then want to pursue something romantically or

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<v Speaker 2>in any sort of romantic way, I do have to

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<v Speaker 2>find you attractive, but I think attraction can grow when

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<v Speaker 2>I find out your personality. I love like an introvert,

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<v Speaker 2>quaiet guy, someone who isn't like outgoing, but like not arrogant,

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<v Speaker 2>and you have to be funny. I think the biggest

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<v Speaker 2>thing is making me feel safe as a girl, and

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<v Speaker 2>as a young girl, that's what I've really come to

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<v Speaker 2>cherish and I think men sometimes I'm experiencing recently aren't

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<v Speaker 2>all that respectful.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's a big thing that I'm looking for in

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<v Speaker 1>a date.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you see yourself doing anything other than influencing such

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<v Speaker 3>podcasting in the near future.

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<v Speaker 2>I would love to come out with a brand in

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<v Speaker 2>like maybe how old am I now? I'm twenty two?

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<v Speaker 2>In yeah, like the next five years. I would love

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<v Speaker 2>to have like investment properties as a source of income.

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<v Speaker 2>And I would love to come out with a brand.

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<v Speaker 2>That's like my next goal. But I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>rush into that and just put my name on something

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm an influencer. Like no, I want it to

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<v Speaker 2>actually be something I'm really passionate about. I know what

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<v Speaker 2>the brand is, but I'm going to leave my secrets.

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<v Speaker 3>Back to dating. How do you go navigating dating in

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<v Speaker 3>the public eye.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to answer this question and sound like

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<v Speaker 2>super fucking up myself and super obnoxious, because I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like people can take something and run with it, but

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<v Speaker 2>I am wary. I think in Melbourne's especially, like as

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<v Speaker 2>I said before, Melbourne is a small place, and like

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<v Speaker 2>guys I've been on a date with, they'll be like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh yeah, like I've seen your TikTok and stuff, and

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<v Speaker 2>that doesn't bother me. Like, if you're online as a

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<v Speaker 2>young male, there is a likely chance that you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to scroll past me on the Internet or in an

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<v Speaker 2>ad or on something like that, which I don't care about.

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<v Speaker 2>It's more about what they're saying to their friends. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if I'm being taken seriously or not, which

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<v Speaker 2>makes me a lot more closed off than I probably realize.

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<v Speaker 2>And you just have to be protective because you don't understand.

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<v Speaker 2>Like sometimes me opening I get nervous because me opening

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<v Speaker 2>up to them on a date for them to get

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<v Speaker 2>to know me could then be away and a secret

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<v Speaker 2>that they could go tell their friends and use it

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<v Speaker 2>as a topic of conversation, which like is hard because

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<v Speaker 2>you want to be open to someone, but you also

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<v Speaker 2>need to protect yourself a little bit more than just

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<v Speaker 2>a person who doesn't have social media. So it probably

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<v Speaker 2>does make me a little bit more closed off and

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<v Speaker 2>a bit more reserved.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's funny. I've never looked at it in that way,

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<v Speaker 3>because like, even when you think of your first therapy

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<v Speaker 3>session with a new therapist, you have to like literally

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<v Speaker 3>out the road and like tell them your full story

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<v Speaker 3>And I don't know if I should be doing this,

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<v Speaker 3>but when I was dating, I would do that on

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<v Speaker 3>first dates. Yeah, it's like it's naturally how you communicate

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<v Speaker 3>when you're first getting to know someone. That probably prolongs

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<v Speaker 3>things for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I kind of end up becoming a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>of a listener because I'm like, you open up about

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<v Speaker 2>your family or sometimes like you'll kind of go down

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<v Speaker 2>the road of like your dating history, and like I

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<v Speaker 2>was in a very public relationship and he does play

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<v Speaker 2>athol and he is an athlete.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I don't want my.

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<v Speaker 2>Way of being like, oh, why did your relationship and

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<v Speaker 2>like a very open casual question, which I completely understand,

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<v Speaker 2>but people want to know the tea on that. People

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<v Speaker 2>want to know why we broke up and all the

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<v Speaker 2>ins and outs of that that like I could go

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<v Speaker 2>tell him and then he could go hang out with

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<v Speaker 2>all these girlfriends the next night being like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 2>know why Sam and Caleb broke up?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what I mean? And it's like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want that to be spoken about.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's like then you're not open like little things

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<v Speaker 2>like that, which it's actually not that big of a deal,

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<v Speaker 2>but I just don't want it to be a topic

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<v Speaker 2>of conversation in his other parts.

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<v Speaker 3>Of his life totally. But it's definitely a strain if

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<v Speaker 3>you can't be fully open, can't fully yourself, and you

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<v Speaker 3>kind of have to be calculated in your mind, especially

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<v Speaker 3>on first dates. I don't know about you, but I

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<v Speaker 3>was banging back the wines and leaks a.

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<v Speaker 1>Little bit more.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's like, I also don't think you're always going

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<v Speaker 2>to do that, but I'm wary that you could, like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not. And they're like, oh, well, you should trust them,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm like, should I? But I don't know you?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So our next one advice for dealing with debilitating anxiety.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, i'd fucking love to know.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually just went on medication because it's so fucked

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<v Speaker 2>and bad at the moment, like debilitating. I used to

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<v Speaker 2>go and I was on medication a while ago, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I was like, it's a band aid approach, and

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<v Speaker 2>my life circumstances are a little bit different, so I'm

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<v Speaker 2>trialing it out again. I don't know. My anxiety is

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<v Speaker 2>very debilitating, but it shows up in different ways. I

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<v Speaker 2>actually go really quiet and like, I just like have

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<v Speaker 2>so much anxiety in my head but I'm very good

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<v Speaker 2>at putting on a front, so I honestly don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Like sometimes I literally getting out of bed seems like

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<v Speaker 2>the hardest task.

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<v Speaker 1>In the world at the moment.

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<v Speaker 2>But like me saying I don't have the answers and

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<v Speaker 2>everything like that, like I say that in a way

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<v Speaker 2>that I want you guys to not feel alone when

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<v Speaker 2>you feel like this. Like my big thing on social

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<v Speaker 2>media is being real and raw and honest, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't have the answers for everything. I'm trying to figure

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<v Speaker 2>it out. So I do lean on you guys, and

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<v Speaker 2>I do make videos about my anxiety and now I've

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<v Speaker 2>recently started talking about my eating and everything like that,

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<v Speaker 2>because I wanted you guys to feel less alone. So

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<v Speaker 2>it's okay that you have these feelings, and you will

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<v Speaker 2>get over that.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll all get over that, we'll all work together. Not

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<v Speaker 1>all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to have the answers to everything, and that's

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<v Speaker 2>why I'm trying to be as raw and honest on socials.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So our next one. You've spoken a lot about this,

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<v Speaker 3>and I feel like we have answered that. But you've

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<v Speaker 3>been asked at a fair few times, how did you

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<v Speaker 3>find the courage to start posting on social media, any

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<v Speaker 3>tips of someone wanting to start.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so hard because I feel like sometimes you kind

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<v Speaker 2>of forget about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I started posting on mine.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like mine was easy because I was in

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<v Speaker 2>lockdown and it wasn't seeing people too for them to

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<v Speaker 2>judge me. When I started taking it seriously, I think

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<v Speaker 2>I was over that hurdle of people caring because I

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<v Speaker 2>like everyone posts, do you know what I mean? Like

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<v Speaker 2>everyone makes it get ready with me? Is everyone is

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<v Speaker 2>a let's get dressed with me? Like we all love

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<v Speaker 2>doing the same things. And if someone's bullying it for you,

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<v Speaker 2>like they would be posting if they had the opportunity,

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<v Speaker 2>Like who is going to.

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<v Speaker 1>Turn down being an influencer? Do you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Like no one everyone had like it would be great,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I want that for everyone. There's room for everyone

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<v Speaker 2>in this job, So who gives a fuck?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what I mean? You live once, do

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<v Speaker 1>it while you're young.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think just consistency is key, Like I always

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<v Speaker 2>try to post and posting what I like, not what

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<v Speaker 2>you think, is going to get good engagement, because when

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<v Speaker 2>if that does, for example, and you don't actually like

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<v Speaker 2>filming those content, you're going to make yourself miserable.

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<v Speaker 1>So literally just post what you like and hope for

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<v Speaker 1>the best.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so we'll end on a juicy one, not aimed

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<v Speaker 3>at anyone, just generally, I think good advice for girls.

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<v Speaker 3>But someone has asked, when did you know was the

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<v Speaker 3>right moment to walk away from your past relationship?

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<v Speaker 2>I my last relationship was the most loving, open, caring

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<v Speaker 2>relationship I have ever ever been in. My mum said

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<v Speaker 2>when we first met that I wish you guys met

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<v Speaker 2>when you were older because you have a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>growing up to do, and we would always go, no,

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<v Speaker 2>don't say that, No, don't say that. And then when

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<v Speaker 2>my parents broke up when they were twenty one years

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<v Speaker 2>old and ended up getting back together. But when we

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<v Speaker 2>were twenty one, we broke up because I think our

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<v Speaker 2>lives became not dependent on one another. But we had

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<v Speaker 2>done so much growing up as adults together that we

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know what we were with as adults without each other.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think, yes, high school sweethearts all like being

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<v Speaker 2>together since you were young is amazing and it's such

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<v Speaker 2>a great love story, But you learn so much when

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<v Speaker 2>you're alone, And I think both of us knew that

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<v Speaker 2>we needed to be alone to almost be better for

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<v Speaker 2>one another, and like the breakup turn around was really quick.

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<v Speaker 2>It was maybe like two weeks and we just literally

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<v Speaker 2>just said, like we both need to grow up, Like

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<v Speaker 2>we both are living such adult lives with so much pressure.

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<v Speaker 2>We have high pressure jobs, being in the public eye.

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<v Speaker 2>We almost couldn't be there for each other because we

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<v Speaker 2>couldn't even be there for ourselves. Very similar to how

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if your girls know Phoebe and Testa

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<v Speaker 2>broke up. They had their lives really intertwined. But I

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<v Speaker 2>need to be an adult. I needed to learn how

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<v Speaker 2>to be a fucking functioning adult without him. And you

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<v Speaker 2>are so comfortable in a relationship, and I just think

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<v Speaker 2>if you're constantly feeling like the second option, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>constantly not feeling prioritized because that person is so big

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<v Speaker 2>on doing their own thing, or you don't feel valued

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<v Speaker 2>as a person in a relationship, it's time to walk away.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you should be number one person's priority. You shouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>have to be telling someone how they treat you or

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<v Speaker 2>how they make you feel.

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<v Speaker 1>They should just know.

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<v Speaker 2>And if they can't adjust their life to accommodate for

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<v Speaker 2>that walk away, because you are settling. If you're sitting

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<v Speaker 2>there and just hoping for one day for it to change,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not going to change unless you walk away. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>you can walk away and they'll fix themselves and realize

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<v Speaker 2>what they lost. And sometimes they won't and you have

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<v Speaker 2>to walk away to figure that out. But I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like being alone is the best way to figure that anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you guys so much for coming along this Girl's

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<v Speaker 2>Guide episode, and we'll see you on Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye. This is so much fun. Bye bye bye