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Speaker 1: Hi guys, Happy Thursday. You're joined it with Sam And

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Speaker 1: I've actually got Blake, our producer.

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Speaker 2: On because we're doing a little Q and A today

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Speaker 2: and he's gonna road dog the questions.

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Speaker 1: I'm roll dog in the questions.

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Speaker 3: And kind of me at the moment, I'm like, wow,

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Speaker 3: here too.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna go a little quick fire Q and A

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Speaker 2: with Sam.

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Speaker 3: There's some juicy ones. How do we start with this?

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Speaker 3: Let's say go right in. I feel like you spoke

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Speaker 3: about this recently. Yeah, how to deal with people constantly

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Speaker 3: shit talking and negative energy.

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Speaker 2: I feel like Melbourne is a very small bubble and

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Speaker 2: there's a lot of shit talking that's happened. And I've

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Speaker 2: heard like my name thrown around in situations and I'm like.

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Speaker 1: Mitch, I wasn't even there, so like why are you

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Speaker 1: mentioning my name?

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Speaker 2: And there's always drama and I feel like, like, again,

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Speaker 2: Blake and I were just speaking about before that everyone

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Speaker 2: thinks that I'm like sleeping with izzyes ex Bailey, and

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Speaker 2: I'm like what, like where does that come from? Like

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Speaker 2: so many people shit talk me, but no one's ever

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Speaker 2: shit talked to me to my face. And that's something

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Speaker 2: that I can back and everyone it's been really nice

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Speaker 2: to me to my face, So I don't really let

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Speaker 2: it get to me unless it's someone personally that I

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Speaker 2: know is shit talking. I just think you, like you

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Speaker 2: just got to feel bad for them and just go like, honestly,

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry that you feel like they need to

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Speaker 2: comment hate or shit on me about my life.

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Speaker 1: Like, just feel bad for them.

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Speaker 2: It's embarrassing, Like if my friend, if I ever caught

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Speaker 2: my friend commenting hate on TikTok, I would be embarrassed

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Speaker 2: to be their friend.

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Speaker 3: I always say this, and like I work with people

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Speaker 3: like you yourself, and I always just say, like, who

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Speaker 3: do you know that does this?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, I do not want to be associated with you.

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Speaker 2: So I'm so glad that you've commented hate. So I'm

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Speaker 2: going to block you now, Like you don't like my face,

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Speaker 2: so good, I don't want to see your I don't

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Speaker 2: want to see your comment either.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this one people are quite stressed about. So let's

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Speaker 3: address that. Okay, what made you want to move to

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Speaker 3: the UK temporarily? And are you scared?

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Speaker 2: I'm scared. I think it's really hitting me. I've kind

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Speaker 2: of got like two weeks in Melbourne. That I'm like

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Speaker 2: really here for until my new chapter is of my

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Speaker 2: life is kind of just sitting around in front of me.

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Speaker 1: I am really scared, Like I'm really really scared.

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Speaker 2: But I know that with being scared and putting myself

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Speaker 2: out there and giving myself this challenge, I will really

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Speaker 2: grow as an individual.

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Speaker 1: I feel like because.

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Speaker 2: Of the job that I'm in, I've had a kind

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Speaker 2: of fast track into being an adult, and I live

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Speaker 2: a very adult life in Melbourne, and I've got to

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Speaker 2: experience a lot more at a young age compared to

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Speaker 2: like other girls my age maybe that I went to

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Speaker 2: school with. And I feel like it's the next challenge

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Speaker 2: for me being in a bigger city, like living it

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Speaker 2: up and meeting new people and putting myself out there

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Speaker 1: Just giving it a go.

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Speaker 2: Like I feel like this is the perfect time I'm single.

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Speaker 2: Nothing's really keeping me back here, so why not? And

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Speaker 2: I think I will always kick myself if I didn't

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Speaker 2: experience that, So like, I just want to remove myself

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Speaker 3: I feel like we spoke about this in our last recording,

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Speaker 3: but there was a TikTok on it, So I want

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Speaker 3: to get your take. What are influencer events like.

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Speaker 2: I think it really depends on what your mental headspace

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Speaker 2: is like, Like sometimes they're so so much fun. It

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Speaker 2: really depends on the brand as well. They're nice because

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Speaker 2: influencer scene as kind of like high school in a way,

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Speaker 2: like you're having a big classroom slash cohort of girls

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Speaker 2: that aren't all going to get along. They're not all

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Speaker 2: going to be the friends because they're all doing social media.

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Speaker 2: Like everyone has a personality. Everyone has a big personality.

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Speaker 2: That's why we're all in social media. So put a

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Speaker 2: each other. So sometimes if you're like for me right now,

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Speaker 2: influencer events are really really hard because I'm so anxious.

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Speaker 2: When my social anxiety is not as bad, they can

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Speaker 2: be really fun. I like doing events on like a

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Speaker 1: Those events I don't really drink, but lunch events.

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Speaker 2: Are really nice because you get to sit down and

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Speaker 2: actually catch up with people. Standing events are kind of like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's a lot. There are a lot, and you really

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Speaker 1: At small dog.

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Speaker 3: So I feel like you've been like working so hard

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Speaker 3: on this this year, excited for your take care. How

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Speaker 3: do you manage to stay motivated and stick to routines,

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Speaker 3: especially on tough days.

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Speaker 2: You can't rely on motivation to get you places in life.

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Speaker 2: Consistency in discipline over motivation. If I solely relied on motivation,

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Speaker 2: I would never go to the gym, But I think

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Speaker 2: it's really good, especially again tying it back to not

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Speaker 2: having a full time nine to five or even girls

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Speaker 2: in like your young like early twenties. It's so easy

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Speaker 2: to sit around and have a lazy morning during the week.

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Speaker 2: But I just don't allow myself to have that up

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Speaker 2: by seven point thirty, Going on a walk, going to

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Speaker 2: my discipline on that is because knowing that I'm going

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Speaker 2: doing something for myself and for my health before other people.

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Speaker 2: And if you rely solely on motivation, you're never going

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Speaker 2: to get it done. And I'm a very headstrong person.

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Speaker 2: So if I want something, I'm going to get it.

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Speaker 2: And I want to have a good, consistent, healthy routine,

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Speaker 2: so I get it.

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Speaker 3: Love, what do you look for in a man or day?

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Speaker 3: Its purely looks or something else.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is gonna sound so official, but looks I

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Speaker 1: Factor for me.

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Speaker 3: It's a starting point.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like if I do have to be somewhat attracted

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Speaker 2: to you to then want to pursue something romantically or

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Speaker 2: in any sort of romantic way, I do have to

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Speaker 2: I find out your personality. I love like an introvert,

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Speaker 2: as a young girl, that's what I've really come to

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Speaker 2: cherish and I think men sometimes I'm experiencing recently aren't

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Speaker 1: So that's a big thing that I'm looking for in

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Speaker 3: Do you see yourself doing anything other than influencing such

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Speaker 3: podcasting in the near future.

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Speaker 2: I would love to come out with a brand in

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Speaker 2: like maybe how old am I now? I'm twenty two?

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Speaker 2: In yeah, like the next five years. I would love

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Speaker 2: And I would love to come out with a brand.

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Speaker 2: That's like my next goal. But I don't want to

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Speaker 2: actually be something I'm really passionate about. I know what

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Speaker 2: the brand is, but I'm going to leave my secrets.

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Speaker 3: Back to dating. How do you go navigating dating in

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Speaker 2: I don't want to answer this question and sound like

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Speaker 2: like people can take something and run with it, but

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Speaker 2: I am wary. I think in Melbourne's especially, like as

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Speaker 2: I said before, Melbourne is a small place, and like

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Speaker 2: guys I've been on a date with, they'll be like,

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Speaker 2: that doesn't bother me. Like, if you're online as a

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Speaker 2: It's more about what they're saying to their friends. I

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Speaker 2: makes me a lot more closed off than I probably realize.

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Speaker 2: And you just have to be protective because you don't understand.

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Speaker 2: Like sometimes me opening I get nervous because me opening

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Speaker 2: need to protect yourself a little bit more than just

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Speaker 2: a person who doesn't have social media. So it probably

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's funny. I've never looked at it in that way,

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Speaker 3: because like, even when you think of your first therapy

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Speaker 3: And I don't know if I should be doing this,

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Speaker 3: but when I was dating, I would do that on

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Speaker 3: first dates. Yeah, it's like it's naturally how you communicate

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Speaker 3: when you're first getting to know someone. That probably prolongs

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Speaker 2: Well, I kind of end up becoming a little bit

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Speaker 2: of a listener because I'm like, you open up about

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Speaker 2: Way of being like, oh, why did your relationship and

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Speaker 2: like a very open casual question, which I completely understand,

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Speaker 2: but people want to know the tea on that. People

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Speaker 2: want to know why we broke up and all the

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Speaker 2: tell him and then he could go hang out with

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Speaker 2: all these girlfriends the next night being like, oh, I

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Speaker 2: know why Sam and Caleb broke up?

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? And it's like I

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Speaker 1: don't want that to be spoken about.

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Speaker 2: So it's like then you're not open like little things

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Speaker 2: like that, which it's actually not that big of a deal,

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Speaker 2: but I just don't want it to be a topic

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Speaker 2: of conversation in his other parts.

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Speaker 3: Of his life totally. But it's definitely a strain if

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Speaker 3: you can't be fully open, can't fully yourself, and you

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Speaker 3: kind of have to be calculated in your mind, especially

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Speaker 3: on first dates. I don't know about you, but I

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Speaker 3: was banging back the wines and leaks a.

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Speaker 1: Little bit more.

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Speaker 2: But it's like, I also don't think you're always going

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Speaker 1: Well, i'd fucking love to know.

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Speaker 2: But like me saying I don't have the answers and

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Speaker 2: I do make videos about my anxiety and now I've

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Speaker 2: it's okay that you have these feelings, and you will

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Speaker 1: We'll all get over that, we'll all work together. Not

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Speaker 2: It's so hard because I feel like sometimes you kind

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Speaker 2: I feel like mine was easy because I was in

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Speaker 2: like everyone posts, do you know what I mean? Like

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Speaker 1: Turn down being an influencer? Do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Like no one everyone had like it would be great,

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Speaker 2: Like I want that for everyone. There's room for everyone

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? You live once, do

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Speaker 2: And I think just consistency is key, Like I always

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Speaker 2: if that does, for example, and you don't actually like

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Speaker 3: Okay, so we'll end on a juicy one, not aimed

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Speaker 3: But someone has asked, when did you know was the

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Speaker 2: I my last relationship was the most loving, open, caring

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Speaker 2: And I think, yes, high school sweethearts all like being

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Speaker 2: We almost couldn't be there for each other because we

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Speaker 2: I don't know if your girls know Phoebe and Testa

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Speaker 2: on doing their own thing, or you don't feel valued

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Speaker 2: as a person in a relationship, it's time to walk away.

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Speaker 2: Like you should be number one person's priority. You shouldn't

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Speaker 1: They should just know.

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Speaker 2: And if they can't adjust their life to accommodate for

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Speaker 2: it's not going to change unless you walk away. Sometimes

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Speaker 2: to walk away to figure that out. But I feel

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Speaker 2: Thank you guys so much for coming along this Girl's

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Speaker 2: Guide episode, and we'll see you on Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: Bye. This is so much fun. Bye bye bye