1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: Hey chicks. Before we jump into the episode, we want 2 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:05,200 Speaker 1: to start by sending all of our love to the 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:08,880 Speaker 1: victims of the terrorist attack in Bondai on Sunday, the 4 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: fourteenth of December. We are so heartbroken by this absolute 5 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:18,240 Speaker 1: tragedy that words just aren't enough. We send all of 6 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 1: our love to the victims, their friends and family, the 7 00:00:21,960 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: Jewish community, and anyone affected by this tragedy. We paused 8 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: our content and podcasts for the last week as we 9 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:33,319 Speaker 1: wanted to give space and show respect. These episodes were 10 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 1: also pre recorded on Friday, the twelfth of December before 11 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:41,920 Speaker 1: the attack, and therefore don't acknowledge the many lessons about 12 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:45,639 Speaker 1: the importance of kindness, love and unity that we've been 13 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: reminded of now more than ever. Our hearts are still 14 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:51,559 Speaker 1: feeling very heavy, and we know a lot of you 15 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: chicks love these end of year episodes and use them 16 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: as an opportunity to reflect, pick up a life lesson, 17 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: and some giggles. So we hope this episode feels like 18 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: a little bit of a reprieve and a cuddle from 19 00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: us to you. If you're looking for ways to show 20 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 1: your support and help victims of the Bondie attack, We've 21 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: shared some resources in the show notes, and if you're 22 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: feeling overwhelmed, we have also shared some free resources for 23 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: help there too. We're sending all of you chicks so 24 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:24,840 Speaker 1: much love. All right, let's get into the episode. This 25 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:28,520 Speaker 1: podcast is recorded on gadigle Land Always was, always will 26 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: be Aboriginal Land. Welcome back to two broad chicks. I'm 27 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: Out and I'm Sam, And this is part two of 28 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: our twenty five lessons from twenty twenty five. We realized 29 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 1: we were yapping too long and we needed to break 30 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 1: this up into two parts, so welcome to part two. 31 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 1: We're just gonna jump straight back into it. One of 32 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 1: my favorite life lessons that comes from a lot of 33 00:01:56,600 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 1: memories this year is that in your out of friendships, 34 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: sleepovers are a must. Because when I think about some 35 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: of my favorite memories with friends this year, all of 36 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:16,079 Speaker 1: them are from sleepovers. Yeah, so like one going on 37 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: tour with like gem Who's from like the Psychology of 38 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 1: your twenties, and like there is an intimacy and openness 39 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: in friendships that happens when you know you're having a 40 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: sleepover that happens at like eight thirty to like ten pm, 41 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:38,080 Speaker 1: where you just get giggly and silly and fun and 42 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: we just had so much fun having sleepovers at Like 43 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: there was that with jem when we went to Melbourne 44 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:50,359 Speaker 1: with Maddie and the house was conmpletely haunted and like 45 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 1: Maddie was in this room with like a flickering lamp 46 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 1: the whole time she was about to enter the upside down. Yeah, 47 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:56,880 Speaker 1: and there was this like random chair in the corner 48 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: of the room that we kept calling the cup chair. 49 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 1: That city ghost was sitting in the ghost cutch. It 50 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 1: was amazing. And then like last night when we were 51 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: just being fucking idiots trying to set up friends miss 52 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: and it's just like that's when I think you sometimes 53 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: have some of the most like silly, vulnerable and pure 54 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: moments that we've like been talking to people in the 55 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 1: past and like say how we have sleepovers all the time, 56 00:03:21,280 --> 00:03:23,399 Speaker 1: and they're like, what, you guys still have sleepovers? 57 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, And we're like you don't, Like, yeah, there's just 58 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 2: the beauty to sleepovers with friends at whatever age it is, 59 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 2: but especially as you get older, Like when you sleepover, 60 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 2: I'm like. 61 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 1: Rob on the couch, I'll go waybait. We're like childlike whimsy. Yeah, 62 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 1: And it's just so much fun, and so it's a 63 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 1: quick one. But I'm like more of that, No, I 64 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: like that, more of that in twenty twenty six for sure. 65 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 1: A practical one. 66 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 3: When you're buying printer ink, always buy a backup because 67 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 3: every time you need printer ink or every time you 68 00:03:57,080 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 3: got to use your printer, you run out. Like whenever 69 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 3: you're printing something that's important, that's when your print ink 70 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 3: runs out. 71 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 1: And it's one of those things that I'm like, why 72 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: don't I just buy doubles every time that I buy it, 73 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 1: because like it's not going to expire by the time 74 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: I need to use it. And it's always one of 75 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 1: those things that you're like that paper like safety py, 76 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 1: printers suck print, Yeah, printers never. Why can we send 77 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:24,839 Speaker 1: somebody to the moon and we can't have a printer 78 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: that just prints? Doesn't work? Printers and fucking maps in 79 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:33,800 Speaker 1: a tunnel, yeah, yeah, I don't get that. Yeah, we 80 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 1: can literally like cure diseases, but I can't get Google 81 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 1: Maps in a tunnel. Yeah, it can't tell me what 82 00:04:43,920 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: exit to take. I'm confused. That's when I start crying, 83 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:50,240 Speaker 1: which is a completely valid reaction, and I won't hear 84 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 1: any other opinion about it. No, I agree, it's scary 85 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:58,040 Speaker 1: in there. So I saw this on Instagram and it's 86 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:01,040 Speaker 1: that doctors say people should not be on the toilet 87 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: for longer than ten minutes. Every boyfriend just went, I know, 88 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 1: I know. So doctors warn that spending excessive time on 89 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:12,360 Speaker 1: the toilet, often due to phone news, can harm your health, 90 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 1: such as like bowel movements, hemorrhoids. Yeah, how long do 91 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: you reckon? What average? Do you reckon? You spend over 92 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:27,280 Speaker 1: or under under? Yes? Same, I'm in and out of there, Like, 93 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:29,799 Speaker 1: I feel like I could definitely get down a rabbit 94 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 1: hole if I'm like on my phone, I'm like shit 95 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:39,039 Speaker 1: as the days go by. Yeah, I'm like, do you reckon? 96 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 1: You could go to the bathroom the a phone? Yeah, 97 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 1: sometimes I do. That's terrifying. Just at home, I feel 98 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:46,920 Speaker 1: like I couldn't do that. 99 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:48,040 Speaker 2: Work. 100 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:50,640 Speaker 1: Need to get my brick so I can. Yeah, so 101 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: you can brick, so I can brick? Will you brick? Well, brick? 102 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, brick squeid the majority of the time, like ninety 103 00:05:57,960 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 3: I feel like. 104 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:00,599 Speaker 1: Most women would be under ten minutes. I feel like 105 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:02,280 Speaker 1: most men would be over ten minutes. 106 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 3: Definitely, you're always fucking around in there and in the. 107 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:11,599 Speaker 1: Shame fucking clash royale or chess, or watching YouTube or 108 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 1: reading some fucking obscure Reddit thread. Yeah, so you can 109 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:16,840 Speaker 1: share that with your boyfriends and. 110 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:21,280 Speaker 3: If it was also you, jiggies pop off off the Dunny, 111 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:24,839 Speaker 3: Off the Dunny. This life lesson was inspired by a 112 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 3: trend that's probably still happening on TikTok. But it's my 113 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:32,359 Speaker 3: private Instagram story versus my public Instagram story trend, which 114 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 3: is fucking hilarious and I love it and it's so relatable. 115 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:38,240 Speaker 3: I think the crux behind it is that it reaffirms 116 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:42,120 Speaker 3: that social media isn't real and that what we put 117 00:06:42,200 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 3: out to the majority of people, like in our public forums, 118 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:48,360 Speaker 3: is like the polished version and like the best pick 119 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 3: with the best lighting. And then it is like funny 120 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 3: that we have like a private story that you can post, 121 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 3: you know, the silly, unhinged shit to your friends. It's 122 00:06:56,760 --> 00:07:00,119 Speaker 3: a good reminder that social media is fake and it's 123 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:02,720 Speaker 3: so easy to compare yourself to what is out there. 124 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 3: But just think about what you would put on your 125 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:07,400 Speaker 3: private story versus what you put on your public and 126 00:07:07,440 --> 00:07:09,559 Speaker 3: that if you are comparing your life to somebody else, 127 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 3: you know, Yeah, it's the best version of themselves. 128 00:07:13,200 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 1: And a lot of the time you're getting like the 129 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:19,080 Speaker 1: end of the funnel. Right. So it's like, let's say 130 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: you see someone from high school like by a house, 131 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: and you're like, I have a thousand dollars in savings. Yeah, 132 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 1: Like you don't really get the journey with a lot 133 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 1: of those things either, like you just see the end result, 134 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 1: like you probably didn't see them like you know, crying 135 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: over an expensive energy bill, or like not going to 136 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: a couple of their friends like events because they couldn't 137 00:07:41,400 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: afford a twenty five dollars cocktail, which don't get me 138 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:47,840 Speaker 1: started on that, which is half cordial anyway. Yeah, literally 139 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: and ice and do you know what I will get 140 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:53,400 Speaker 1: star I'm kidding. I think as well. From knowing so 141 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 1: many people within this industry, it's like it's so crazy 142 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 1: how much you don't know. I feel like that kind 143 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: of brings it back to that whole thing of like 144 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:05,480 Speaker 1: the race doesn't exist, like this make belief thing of 145 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 1: like other people's success when they post their accomplishments, that's okay, yeah, 146 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 1: like that's good for them, but don't compare your journeys 147 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 1: because you didn't see theirs. Yeah, so it's like maybe 148 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 1: you did, maybe it's your best bucking friend, yeah, and 149 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: then you probably have and so you're not comparing it. 150 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, because you know, hardships exactly, road humps that they 151 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 3: had to overcome exactly. That actually reminds me of another 152 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:34,080 Speaker 3: life lesson that somebody one of the chicks sent in 153 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:37,839 Speaker 3: to our Instagram story months ago and it was don't 154 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 3: compare your mixtape to somebody's greatest hits, which I was just. 155 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 1: Like, oh my god. 156 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 3: Because you're at completely different stages of your journey to 157 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:51,080 Speaker 3: somebody else. 158 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: And yeah, again, I think all. 159 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 3: Of these things relate to each other, but I was like, 160 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 3: that one really rocked my world. 161 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, some spicy one. Ooh. This one was like a 162 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: discussion between Rob and I that we were like, okay, 163 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 1: we're going to stop doing this, stop using Uber eats. 164 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: The only reason I would use Uber eats or like 165 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 1: Uber is they do that Red Cross initiative, which we 166 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 1: worked with them on, and it was like that you 167 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 1: could donate your clothes for free and they would come 168 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: and pick it up. Outside of that, I'm fucking done. 169 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:25,719 Speaker 1: I'm fucking over it. I'm so sick of it. It's 170 00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 1: so expensive, the service is shit, and I've got facts. 171 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 1: I'm here to speak on facts now. With this using 172 00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 1: uber eats, I think is my worst money habit. I 173 00:09:37,880 --> 00:09:42,719 Speaker 1: got my up bank result. It's the year my wraps. 174 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 1: How many Uber eats orders do you think I made? Maybe, like, 175 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 1: was it like three hundred times or something? Three hundred 176 00:09:53,559 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 1: I'm just thinking days. If you ever did multiple and 177 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 1: a lot? Yeah, I know, two hundred Okay, no, but 178 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:08,240 Speaker 1: thanks for the faith. I made one hundred and twenty 179 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:11,200 Speaker 1: one Uber eats orders in twenty twenty five, which makes 180 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:13,959 Speaker 1: me want to throw up. That's an Uber eats order 181 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:17,600 Speaker 1: every three days. Yeah. Fuck, it's not good. Yeah, that's 182 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 1: not good. And so anyway, Rob and I were like, 183 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 1: we have to stop ordering Uber eats because Uber eats 184 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 1: and grocery delivery apps can be up to thirty nine 185 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:32,960 Speaker 1: percent more expensive. I saw that this week too. Yeah. 186 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:36,480 Speaker 1: It makes me want to throw up. Yeah, because it's like, 187 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:40,280 Speaker 1: obviously there are moments when you couldn't be fucked cooking, 188 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: or there's a reason why you need to get food delivery, 189 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: but that stat just shows that you were so much 190 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 1: better off going out for dinner, lazy tar and going 191 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: to the restaurant because we still want to support small 192 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:57,280 Speaker 1: businesses and restaurants and absolutely experiment with new places. And 193 00:10:57,480 --> 00:10:59,840 Speaker 1: so that's what we were saying. So we were like, Okay, 194 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: you know what, one takeaway night a week, give that 195 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:08,160 Speaker 1: to ourselves because I love a takeaway night. I love it. Yeah, 196 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:11,080 Speaker 1: but we were like, we just need to go back 197 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:13,959 Speaker 1: to the days where you had menus in a draw 198 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: in the kitchen, you call up and you go drive 199 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 1: and pick it up. Yeah, that's what I want to 200 00:11:19,280 --> 00:11:22,640 Speaker 1: do in twenty twenty six more because one nostalgia slut 201 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:25,319 Speaker 1: through it in nostalgia. Put that shit on a T shirt. 202 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 1: Slut for nostalgia. There's been some more media around it, 203 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:32,880 Speaker 1: but delivery apps are turning a forty dollars meal into 204 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:37,480 Speaker 1: a fifty four dollar purchase as Australians pay around thirty 205 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:41,320 Speaker 1: six percent more when ordering food through platforms such as 206 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 1: like Uber Eats, Door Dash all that vibe, and so 207 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 1: while they offer convenience, the convenience is too expensive now, 208 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: especially when to just have it delivered to you without 209 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,319 Speaker 1: it going on like the Lord of the Rings journey 210 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:59,320 Speaker 1: to get to you is also an extra five dollars 211 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:02,600 Speaker 1: and to get like your food warm and whatever. 212 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 3: Like you're so much better off just jumping in the 213 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 3: car or like calling up somewhere near to and going 214 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:11,240 Speaker 3: for a walk up to the shops and getting it, yeah, 215 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:14,560 Speaker 3: or going to a restaurant and actually enjoying that experience. 216 00:12:14,640 --> 00:12:16,959 Speaker 1: I'm not sitting here being like I'm never gonna use 217 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:20,720 Speaker 1: it again totally, but I'm like, enough is enough, Alexandra, 218 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: enough is enough, because it's way too expensive. A thirty 219 00:12:25,360 --> 00:12:30,080 Speaker 1: six to thirty nine percent markup is wild. That is 220 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: a lot of money. Half of us didn't even get 221 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 1: that discount on like Friday for things will buying. You know, 222 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 1: my thing next year is maybe one Uber eats per 223 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:41,960 Speaker 1: week and just like organizing myself and buying groceries for 224 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 1: the week and like meal prepping if need be. And 225 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 1: then also if that's not the option, if I'm so tired, 226 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 1: I'm not going to like beat myself up for it. 227 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:52,440 Speaker 1: Little ring ding, a little ring ding dang dong, little 228 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:56,960 Speaker 1: great place across the road, Jerry, the usual. Please put 229 00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:59,080 Speaker 1: it on my tail for a little walk, maybe go 230 00:12:59,120 --> 00:13:02,200 Speaker 1: for a little drive, pick it up home, lovely, Yeah, 231 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 1: c bring it back. Yeah, and so that's that's my thing. 232 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:09,840 Speaker 1: I like that we can keep each other accountable. Yeah, 233 00:13:10,600 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 1: I need to stop. Yeah, it's my worst money habit. Yeah, 234 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 1: me too easily. This next life lesson is probably one 235 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 1: of my favorite life lessons of the whole year, and 236 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:24,440 Speaker 1: I've spoken about it on the podcast before, but it's 237 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:27,320 Speaker 1: the hobby that I've picked up and actually stuck through 238 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:29,920 Speaker 1: the whole year, which is junk journaling, which I've spoken 239 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:31,959 Speaker 1: about on the pods. I won't go into too much, 240 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 1: but it can be hard to find hobbies that you 241 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:38,360 Speaker 1: actually really like when you're an adult and to make 242 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:41,600 Speaker 1: time for them and actually be consistent and do things 243 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:44,400 Speaker 1: that isn't just scrolling on your phone or concentrating on 244 00:13:44,480 --> 00:13:45,320 Speaker 1: work all the time. 245 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:50,000 Speaker 3: So I've created a Dopamine hobby formula that you can 246 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 3: follow to find hobbies that you actually enjoy and you'll 247 00:13:54,559 --> 00:14:00,079 Speaker 3: keep doing. Ooh hit me, okay. Step one, follow your curiosity. 248 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:04,720 Speaker 3: Don't overthink it. You don't have to do or start 249 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:07,640 Speaker 3: a hobby just because it's trending or cool. Ask yourself, 250 00:14:07,720 --> 00:14:09,839 Speaker 3: what's something that when people bring it up or you 251 00:14:09,880 --> 00:14:12,079 Speaker 3: see other people doing it, you're like, I should start 252 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 3: doing that or I've always wanted to try that and 253 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 3: do that. Step two, choose what feels good, not what 254 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:19,920 Speaker 3: looks good. 255 00:14:20,120 --> 00:14:21,280 Speaker 1: The hobby doesn't have to. 256 00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 3: Be cool or trendy or even something that you're good at. 257 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:29,600 Speaker 1: If you would still do the hobby without sharing it, 258 00:14:30,080 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 1: that's a green flag, which leads me on to Step three. 259 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:35,360 Speaker 1: Do it quietly if you want. 260 00:14:36,200 --> 00:14:38,480 Speaker 3: With a lot of hobbies, I think people feel pressured 261 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 3: to create content around it these days and to document 262 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:46,240 Speaker 3: it and share it, and that you know, to use 263 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:48,840 Speaker 3: that as like a potential, like content opportunity, which of 264 00:14:48,880 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 3: course is amazing, Like, definitely do that if you want to, 265 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:55,360 Speaker 3: and that fuels your passion. But also you can try 266 00:14:55,400 --> 00:14:57,680 Speaker 3: your hobby in silence, like if you want to learn 267 00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:00,720 Speaker 3: a new language, but you know, you of embarrassed, Like 268 00:15:00,720 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 3: what if I try doing it and I realize I 269 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:04,560 Speaker 3: don't like it, or you know, you feel like there 270 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:07,720 Speaker 3: might be some pressure there. You don't have to post, 271 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 3: you don't have to document, you don't have to tell 272 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 3: anyone if you don't want to. 273 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:16,680 Speaker 1: There's also the neuroscience behind you know, telling people and 274 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:19,320 Speaker 1: getting the reward of them and being like wow, that's amazing, 275 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:21,520 Speaker 1: that's so cool. That's so cool that you're doing that. 276 00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 1: That makes you feel like you've completed the task, so 277 00:15:23,760 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 1: you actually don't stick to it. Yeah, exactly, like saying that, oh, yeah, 278 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 1: I'm going to run a marathon, people like what, that's amazing, 279 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:32,600 Speaker 1: that's so cool, and you're like, well, now I don't 280 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:34,160 Speaker 1: need to run a marathon because everyone just gave me 281 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 1: pre Exactly, everybody already thinks it. I'm amazing. Yeah. I 282 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:40,240 Speaker 1: think when you remove the audience, your brain can relax 283 00:15:40,280 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: a little bit. Step four, habit stack it. This has 284 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:47,640 Speaker 1: been definitely the key to me sticking to it. So 285 00:15:47,920 --> 00:15:51,479 Speaker 1: don't rely on motivation all of the time to pursue 286 00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 1: your hobbies. 287 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 3: So for example, maybe it's in the morning when you're 288 00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 3: having your coffee, that's when you read ten pages of 289 00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:00,640 Speaker 3: your book. Or for me, it was like on a 290 00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:03,280 Speaker 3: Sunday afternoon that's when I would journal, and I would 291 00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:05,240 Speaker 3: usually do it when I was watching the foot ear 292 00:16:05,280 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 3: because I was already sitting down like doing shit all anyway. 293 00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:12,680 Speaker 3: So I had that anchor every single week and I 294 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,520 Speaker 3: knew that that was my time that I would be journaling. 295 00:16:15,640 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 3: Or if it's before bed, that's when you do your 296 00:16:18,520 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 3: wordle or ten minutes, which. 297 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:23,520 Speaker 1: I also love and has been a new hobby of 298 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:26,120 Speaker 1: mine this year. Wordable for bed h Yeah, you're ten 299 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 1: minutes of duo lingo or whatever it is. 300 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 3: But start small and have that anchor there, Step five, 301 00:16:33,080 --> 00:16:36,480 Speaker 3: rotate when you're bored. So I think something that I 302 00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:38,240 Speaker 3: was seeing a lot of people talking about is like 303 00:16:38,320 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 3: they have a hobby and then they feel like they 304 00:16:40,280 --> 00:16:41,600 Speaker 3: get a little bit bored of it and then they 305 00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:44,800 Speaker 3: completely let it go. And somebody said that they always 306 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 3: have three different hobbies on the go so that you know, 307 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:50,880 Speaker 3: they'll be really into painting for a little while, so 308 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 3: they'll do that, and then when they get over that, 309 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:55,160 Speaker 3: they're like, Okay, now I'll jump to crochet. 310 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:57,360 Speaker 1: And then they'll do that, and then when they kind 311 00:16:57,360 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 1: of are like no, I've had enough of that, they'll 312 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 1: move on to reading. Because I know for some people 313 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 1: a lot of the time like that is a very 314 00:17:03,960 --> 00:17:06,680 Speaker 1: legitimate thing. You do get bored and you don't have 315 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:10,159 Speaker 1: that same sense of like reward and stimulation. So like 316 00:17:10,280 --> 00:17:12,320 Speaker 1: allow yourself to have multiple hobbies and to be like, yeah, 317 00:17:12,320 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 1: I'll let that go for a couple of weeks and 318 00:17:13,840 --> 00:17:15,680 Speaker 1: then I can jump back on when it seems exciting 319 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:18,400 Speaker 1: to me. If that is you having multiple hobbies means 320 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:20,960 Speaker 1: that you're not going to fall back into the routine 321 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:23,240 Speaker 1: where maybe your hobby is scrolling on your phone, which 322 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:25,440 Speaker 1: I think for so many of us it is step 323 00:17:25,520 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 1: six give yourself permission to suck, because I think that's 324 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:33,080 Speaker 1: the thing with hobbies as well, is a lot of 325 00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:34,600 Speaker 1: us are like, well, I don't want to start something 326 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:36,320 Speaker 1: and then just be bad at it, Like I want 327 00:17:36,320 --> 00:17:38,080 Speaker 1: to be good at something straight away, that's when I'll 328 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:41,119 Speaker 1: get the enjoyment out of it. But you don't actually 329 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:43,720 Speaker 1: have to be good at your hobbies, and it could 330 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:46,320 Speaker 1: be something that maybe in the beginning you're not the 331 00:17:46,320 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 1: best at it, and obviously practice makes perfect. Yeah, So 332 00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:54,120 Speaker 1: the formulae is follow your curiosity, choose what feels good, 333 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:57,440 Speaker 1: not what looks good, do it quietly if you wantn't 334 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:01,359 Speaker 1: have it, stack and anchor it, rotate, and give yourself 335 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:06,000 Speaker 1: permission to suck. My next life lesson of twenty twenty 336 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 1: five is to know your stress languages, so you know 337 00:18:11,800 --> 00:18:17,119 Speaker 1: about love languages, but not necessarily about stress languages. And 338 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:19,320 Speaker 1: so this was a post that I saw on TikTok 339 00:18:19,359 --> 00:18:21,840 Speaker 1: and I was like, holy shit, like this makes so 340 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:25,440 Speaker 1: much sense because you have like knee jerk reactions when 341 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:28,879 Speaker 1: you're stressed, right, yeah, and everyone has different ways that 342 00:18:28,920 --> 00:18:30,800 Speaker 1: they deal with it. There's a post on this, by 343 00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:33,879 Speaker 1: the way, it's from Mental Fitness Collective, so we'll make 344 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 1: sure we link it in the show notes if you 345 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:37,639 Speaker 1: want to save it for later. So the different types 346 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:41,199 Speaker 1: of stress languages. Number one fight, so this can be 347 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 1: expressed as like you're wrong. It's defensive. It's you know, irritability. 348 00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:50,359 Speaker 1: It's aggressive, harsh and potentially saying things you regret later. 349 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:54,920 Speaker 1: When you're feeling inside this stress response, it's I need 350 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 1: this now. It's the urgency. It's that anxiety. What you 351 00:18:59,840 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 1: need in this moment is movement rather than stillness, so 352 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:09,160 Speaker 1: using energy rather than just trying to calm down. And 353 00:19:09,480 --> 00:19:13,719 Speaker 1: you can regulate by punching a pillow, dancing to music, 354 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:17,679 Speaker 1: taking a walk, or like five deep belly breaths. The 355 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:21,159 Speaker 1: next one is flight. So this is expressed as I 356 00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:23,480 Speaker 1: can't do this anymore. I've got to get out of here. 357 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:27,840 Speaker 1: It's like ghosting, leaving, walking away, worrying about like perfectionism. 358 00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:31,480 Speaker 1: The feeling inside is I need to get away from this, 359 00:19:32,040 --> 00:19:34,399 Speaker 1: like I need to just get out. I feel trapped, 360 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 1: I feel overwhelmed. I need to escape. So what you 361 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 1: need in this moment is to understand that you're not 362 00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:43,240 Speaker 1: alone in this. You need connection and understanding, whether it's 363 00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:46,960 Speaker 1: with someone else or another version of yourself, and also 364 00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 1: movement rather than stillness. Though a good way to regulate 365 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:54,480 Speaker 1: is saying positive affirmation, such as I have the tools 366 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:57,360 Speaker 1: and the capacity to get through this, and imagine how 367 00:19:57,400 --> 00:20:01,080 Speaker 1: someone you admire would also manage the c situation, and 368 00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 1: that could be a better version of yourself as well. So, 369 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:07,440 Speaker 1: like you know, if you were dealing with something really 370 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:09,240 Speaker 1: stressful and you didn't know how to make a decision, 371 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:11,080 Speaker 1: you had like two choices and you're like, I don't 372 00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:12,440 Speaker 1: know what to pick. I don't know what to do. 373 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:14,639 Speaker 1: What would a version of me that was good at 374 00:20:14,680 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 1: making decisions do in this scenario? And you can write 375 00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:20,200 Speaker 1: a book, you can go into creative writing, and that 376 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:23,520 Speaker 1: can get you to the answer. The next one is freeze. 377 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:27,240 Speaker 1: So this can be expressed as I don't know and 378 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:29,399 Speaker 1: it's lots of emotion, but you don't know how to 379 00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:33,200 Speaker 1: express it, so you shut down, you numb, and you 380 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:36,199 Speaker 1: procrastinate and you're maybe you're scrolling on your phone and 381 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:40,720 Speaker 1: it's like just distancing yourself from it, and the feeling 382 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 1: inside is like feeling stuck. So it's overwhelmed, it's indecisiveness, 383 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:49,440 Speaker 1: it's anxiety, it's zoning out, dread, wanting to give up, 384 00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:52,760 Speaker 1: and like avoidance. Basically, so what you need in this 385 00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:58,120 Speaker 1: is like time and space, gentleness, easy movement, connection in 386 00:20:58,200 --> 00:21:00,840 Speaker 1: tolerable doses, which I think is a very key part 387 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:04,119 Speaker 1: to that. And then to regulate this, you narrate what 388 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,720 Speaker 1: is happening around you, do a grounding exercise to bring 389 00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:09,680 Speaker 1: awareness to your senses, shake or stretch your body, or 390 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:13,600 Speaker 1: give or receive a long hug. A let's love a hug. 391 00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:17,280 Speaker 1: I love a good hug. Hold me okay, fawn, which 392 00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:19,560 Speaker 1: I hadn't thought of this. Have you heard of this? 393 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 1: I've heard of this one. This is expressed as yes, 394 00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:25,720 Speaker 1: you're right, I'm sorry, I'll do what you say, which 395 00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:28,280 Speaker 1: I was like wow. And so this is a people 396 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:32,679 Speaker 1: pleases stress response, and it's neglecting your own feelings to 397 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:37,199 Speaker 1: appease others, to avoid conflict, no boundaries, and overly apologetic. 398 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:42,040 Speaker 1: The feelings inside is I don't matter. Yeah, and you're overwhelmed. 399 00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:45,920 Speaker 1: You lack identity and self critical codependent. What you need 400 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:49,800 Speaker 1: in this moment is healthy boundaries, self compassion, and to 401 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 1: prioritize your own needs so to regulate. Don't be afraid 402 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:56,119 Speaker 1: of emotions such as anger and learn how to express 403 00:21:56,119 --> 00:22:01,360 Speaker 1: them healthily. A lot of those sound as the anxiety 404 00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:06,600 Speaker 1: response to danger that comes as like from evolution. Yeah, 405 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 1: big old jows, dowling, Yeah, charlesy vibes. But yeah, So 406 00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:15,600 Speaker 1: it's like those are responses that we learn through evolution 407 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:19,359 Speaker 1: to immediate danger of like there's a line in the room, 408 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:21,919 Speaker 1: and like that's what our body would do, whereas now 409 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:27,840 Speaker 1: we have a disregulated nervous system just due to how 410 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:31,080 Speaker 1: long do you have? Right? Yeah? And I think understanding 411 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,919 Speaker 1: what your stress language is allows you that ability to 412 00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:36,320 Speaker 1: zone out and be like, Okay, my knee is doing 413 00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,920 Speaker 1: the jerk reaction of being like this is what's happening? Yeah, 414 00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 1: And knowing that's your stress language also allows you to 415 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:46,960 Speaker 1: know what your need is and regulation is in those moments, 416 00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:49,160 Speaker 1: whether it's punching a pillow, whether it's getting a long 417 00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:51,840 Speaker 1: hug from a friend. And I just had never heard 418 00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:54,399 Speaker 1: of those and I feel like I dip into like 419 00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:56,960 Speaker 1: all four of those. Yeah, you know, like it's not 420 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:58,960 Speaker 1: going to be the same one every single time. Maybe 421 00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:01,360 Speaker 1: it depends on the person that you're with. Maybe it's 422 00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:04,360 Speaker 1: a mother in law, whether it's your boss, whether it's 423 00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 1: a friend. Like that, stress language and response may be 424 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 1: different depending to the scenario, but equipping yourself with the 425 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:14,040 Speaker 1: information allows you the emotional intelligence to know what to 426 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:18,480 Speaker 1: do in the situation. So I was like, love that. Yeah, 427 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:21,359 Speaker 1: I feel like that's something that my therapist was like 428 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:24,320 Speaker 1: talking me through last year with it is that Obviously 429 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:26,199 Speaker 1: the brain, like all of these things, the kind of 430 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:28,760 Speaker 1: like learn behaviors as well. So the more you do it, 431 00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 1: the quicker like you'll respond like that. 432 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,000 Speaker 3: And she was like, so, it's really hard because when 433 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:39,000 Speaker 3: you're hyper stressed too, your nervous system is like disregulated, 434 00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:41,040 Speaker 3: and you know you're prone to stress. 435 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:45,040 Speaker 1: That's your automatic response. So knowing what those things are, 436 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:48,080 Speaker 1: then even if you do sort of like respond and 437 00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,840 Speaker 1: you know, say you accidentally bite at somebody or you 438 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:54,400 Speaker 1: feel yourself shutting down, you can at least recognize this 439 00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:56,760 Speaker 1: is an anxiety response or a stress response and be 440 00:23:56,880 --> 00:24:00,119 Speaker 1: like I'm sorry. I'm stressed, or do you mind if 441 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,200 Speaker 1: I go take a walk around the block for a yeah, 442 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:05,560 Speaker 1: or go make a cup of tea, like you can 443 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,880 Speaker 1: take yeah, yeah, like you can take more responsibility even 444 00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:11,200 Speaker 1: if you do fall into those things as well. Yeah, 445 00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:12,040 Speaker 1: it's gonna happen. 446 00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:14,639 Speaker 3: This is a life lesson that I saw from a 447 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 3: creator called Lily Eve on TikTok, a pretty name, I know, 448 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:24,440 Speaker 3: and it had millions of likes, so it obviously resonated 449 00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:27,640 Speaker 3: with a lot of people. And she said, people talk 450 00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:30,640 Speaker 3: about you because they lost the privilege to talk to you. 451 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,840 Speaker 1: I know. That's good. Yeah, part of that I felt 452 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:36,199 Speaker 1: a bit sad. 453 00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 3: Also then I felt vindicated, you know, also like kind 454 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,160 Speaker 3: of a bit smug, Like there's a few different ways 455 00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,640 Speaker 3: I think you can take on that piece of information, 456 00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 3: but it's always just the reminder that what people are 457 00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:52,200 Speaker 3: saying about you is a reflection of themselves. 458 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 1: Really. I love that I've got another quick life lesson 459 00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:03,760 Speaker 1: and it is to get a shower lamp. So I 460 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:07,000 Speaker 1: spoke about this in our Sleep episode about like our 461 00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:11,000 Speaker 1: nighttime non negotiables, but I wanted to kind of have 462 00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 1: an update on it, you know, the post pr Hall 463 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 1: because that was like early days of when I bought it. 464 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,159 Speaker 1: It is one of the best things I've bought. I 465 00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,160 Speaker 1: probably should have put it in the episode last week 466 00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:24,359 Speaker 1: of Best and Worst Investments, but I didn't want to 467 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,560 Speaker 1: not include it in my twenty twenty five recap because 468 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:32,120 Speaker 1: it is easily one of the best integrations into my routine, 469 00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:37,880 Speaker 1: into my nighttime ever. And it's basically a waterproof lamp 470 00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:40,919 Speaker 1: that you can put in your shower or in your bathroom, 471 00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:44,359 Speaker 1: and it's just so much better than the big light. 472 00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:47,520 Speaker 1: It's so much more relaxing. It really makes me feel 473 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:52,680 Speaker 1: like I'm winding down. It really romanticizes like your evening shower, 474 00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 1: and I just love it. I just got mine on 475 00:25:56,280 --> 00:26:00,399 Speaker 1: Amazon for like thirty bucks, and they're so good. I 476 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,960 Speaker 1: love it. How bright does it light up the bathroom? 477 00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:06,600 Speaker 1: Like I can see everything? Okay, it's as if you 478 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:08,639 Speaker 1: know what It's as if you had like lots and 479 00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:11,720 Speaker 1: lots and lots of candles. Okay, it's like that. It's 480 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,119 Speaker 1: like you can see everything. I can see. Yeah, it's 481 00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:16,600 Speaker 1: good lighting. I can see all of my shampoos, conditions, 482 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 1: body washes. You know, I'm not gonna be using fucking 483 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:23,440 Speaker 1: neir hair remover in my as my shampoo, Like, yeah, totally, 484 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,800 Speaker 1: you can see everything, right, if it's the everything shower, 485 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:28,880 Speaker 1: maybe I'll probably use the big light for that, right, 486 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:30,439 Speaker 1: because I need to be able to shave and do 487 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:33,200 Speaker 1: all that shit. Yeah, but like for an evening shower, 488 00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:35,280 Speaker 1: that's just get in, wash your face, wash your body, 489 00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:39,560 Speaker 1: go to bed, love it. It's so good. That is 490 00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:42,520 Speaker 1: really good because bathroom lighting is often so sterile. I 491 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:45,720 Speaker 1: was more asking because I was like, well, I get 492 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:50,040 Speaker 1: scared if I'm kind of in the dark. No, no, 493 00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: because I also get scared in the dark. That happened 494 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:53,800 Speaker 1: the other day. I finally turned the light off before 495 00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:57,199 Speaker 1: I open the door. Fight or flight kicked? In Ye, 496 00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:59,480 Speaker 1: fight or flight kicking. I'm still scared of the dark. 497 00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:04,240 Speaker 1: I am twenty nine years old and I am still 498 00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,760 Speaker 1: petrified of the dark. We were talking in the office 499 00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:09,840 Speaker 1: with the team the other day about like what our 500 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:15,600 Speaker 1: fears are and ghosts, sharks and the dark. Yeah. Never 501 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:17,520 Speaker 1: been good with it and I don't like it. The 502 00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:19,920 Speaker 1: weird thing is I literally was pouring at the door 503 00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:21,639 Speaker 1: like a dog. Yeah. Same. 504 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:23,880 Speaker 3: Or if like Chris is in the bathroom sometimes I'll 505 00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:25,320 Speaker 3: be showering and he comes in and he brush his 506 00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,000 Speaker 3: teeth or you know whatever, and. 507 00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:30,159 Speaker 1: Then he'll flick that. I always like, I'm always so scared. 508 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:33,000 Speaker 1: He's like sorry, sorry. And I've always had a really 509 00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:37,840 Speaker 1: irrational fear about being in the bathroom, specifically in the dark, 510 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 1: ever since I was a little kid. I think it's 511 00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:40,840 Speaker 1: because of bloody Mary. 512 00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:41,320 Speaker 4: Yeah. 513 00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 1: Man, it's the mirror three times right now? Do you 514 00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:52,160 Speaker 1: freak out because there's a bloody mirror. She's gonna come 515 00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:56,879 Speaker 1: up in the monitor. Imagine if someone and that was 516 00:27:56,920 --> 00:28:01,000 Speaker 1: like a prank, all I would literally really shit myself 517 00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:06,040 Speaker 1: if I okay, can I ask does BM? I'm not 518 00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:10,520 Speaker 1: saying it. Yeah. Does that run out after twenty four hours? Yes? 519 00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:12,440 Speaker 1: When does it reset? I think so if I say 520 00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:16,240 Speaker 1: BM tomorrow, oh will she come? No? Does she have 521 00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:20,600 Speaker 1: a time zone? And you know what another irrational fear 522 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,760 Speaker 1: I have as well, Sharks in a pool. That is 523 00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:27,040 Speaker 1: another one. But also looking in a mirror. 524 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,919 Speaker 3: At twelve o'clock exactly or three o'clock exactly. And I 525 00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:32,880 Speaker 3: don't know what it is, but like say, I'll get 526 00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 3: home from a night out or something, and I'll look 527 00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:36,959 Speaker 3: up at the mirror and then I'll look down and 528 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 3: it like ticks over to midnight and I'm like, what 529 00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:43,200 Speaker 3: the fuck, Like it's like my angel number, bit, my devil, 530 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 3: my devil. 531 00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:44,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. 532 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,600 Speaker 1: Do you know what my irrational fear with that is 533 00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:49,360 Speaker 1: is if I'm bending over to put my hair and 534 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:50,520 Speaker 1: a hairtowel. 535 00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:54,160 Speaker 4: And then I'm going to flip back up and there's 536 00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:57,720 Speaker 4: going to be someone or someone behind me, I'm like, eh, yeah, 537 00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:04,120 Speaker 4: like if you have a cupboard mirror. Yeah, yeah, irrational, irrational, 538 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:13,200 Speaker 4: sweaty bad the like shark and a pool one is 539 00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 4: so real. 540 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:18,120 Speaker 1: Why I'm thirty two? When am I going to get 541 00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:20,440 Speaker 1: over this? Yeah? I end up feeling a bit sick 542 00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:24,800 Speaker 1: and I'm like I need yeah, yeah, like it's coming. 543 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 1: I need to know if other people still have like 544 00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:30,600 Speaker 1: irrational fears like that, please comment below what your irrational 545 00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:32,280 Speaker 1: fear is? Yeah, I need to know. 546 00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 3: My last life lesson is that even if it doesn't 547 00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:40,040 Speaker 3: add up now, to trust the process and keep going. 548 00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:42,920 Speaker 3: And I know that that's really cliche and probably like 549 00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:45,240 Speaker 3: an earnest way to wrap up the episode, but fuck it, 550 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:48,400 Speaker 3: because there have been like some things during the year 551 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,360 Speaker 3: that I think at the time I was like, why 552 00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:53,040 Speaker 3: is this happening? Or you know, like that were just 553 00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:56,160 Speaker 3: so stressful or whatever, and you're like, why is this 554 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:58,000 Speaker 3: happening now? Like I wish I could go back in 555 00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:00,600 Speaker 3: time and like fix this little thing. And you know 556 00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:02,480 Speaker 3: everybody has these moments in their life. 557 00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:05,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's so easy with hindsight to look back 558 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:07,560 Speaker 1: and be like it's okay, like it's all worked out 559 00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:10,240 Speaker 1: for the best. You've wanted so many things, or just 560 00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:13,440 Speaker 1: the timing of things. I think it's you know, it's 561 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:15,720 Speaker 1: always really interesting that you're like, wow, if that didn't happen, 562 00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:18,120 Speaker 1: then it wouldn't have led to X y Z, so 563 00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:20,400 Speaker 1: like something falling through that you're like, fuck, Like that 564 00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:22,520 Speaker 1: was a really good opportunity, Like I wish I got 565 00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:25,200 Speaker 1: that job or whatever it is. But when you look 566 00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,760 Speaker 1: back and you realize, like I wouldn't be where I 567 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:31,760 Speaker 1: am without it. I do that all the time. Yeah. 568 00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:34,160 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, if that didn't happen, 569 00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:35,760 Speaker 1: then this wouldn't happen. This would have happened. Then I 570 00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,320 Speaker 1: wouldn't be happy with this thing. Yeah. Yeah, Like if 571 00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:42,680 Speaker 1: I didn't get that job at our old job, none 572 00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:44,640 Speaker 1: of this would exist. I know, we wouldn't even be here. 573 00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:48,520 Speaker 1: I wouldn't have like met you, so that two roches 574 00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:52,040 Speaker 1: wouldn't exist. I wouldn't have met like an ex partner, 575 00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:54,160 Speaker 1: which then led me to move to a new suburb 576 00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,400 Speaker 1: that then allowed me to make friends and then meet 577 00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:59,240 Speaker 1: my new partner. It's like the string theory. Yeah yeah, yeah, 578 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:01,520 Speaker 1: yeah yeah. And I was talking to Chris about that. 579 00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:05,520 Speaker 3: I turned down the job at first and was like, Nah, 580 00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:06,960 Speaker 3: how different my life could have been? 581 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:07,680 Speaker 1: Look at us? 582 00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:08,320 Speaker 3: What that? 583 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:12,480 Speaker 1: Nam nam? I feel like. My final life lesson is 584 00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:17,240 Speaker 1: also along a similar vein. My biggest life lesson of 585 00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:20,840 Speaker 1: twenty twenty five is to slow down You're doing fine? 586 00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:25,320 Speaker 1: Hmmm great now cry Yeah, I've had the song stuck 587 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:32,440 Speaker 1: in my head slow down, you're doing fine? Well, got 588 00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:35,080 Speaker 1: a way to listen back to that. To really communicate this, 589 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,960 Speaker 1: I wanted to share a neuroscientist ten signs you're doing 590 00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:42,680 Speaker 1: better than you think in life because you're probably doing 591 00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:46,560 Speaker 1: better than you're giving yourself credit for. So Number one, 592 00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:53,200 Speaker 1: you celebrate small wins. Number two, you try again after failing. 593 00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:55,720 Speaker 1: So many of us go ooh that's not for me. 594 00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:57,000 Speaker 1: I'm not good at it. I'm not going to do 595 00:31:57,040 --> 00:32:01,200 Speaker 1: it anymore. Everyone that's good at something was bad at 596 00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:06,720 Speaker 1: it first yeap. Number three, you pause before reacting. Four 597 00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:10,360 Speaker 1: you take breaks without guilt. So you take a rest. 598 00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,080 Speaker 1: You go, Okay, do you want I need to sleep 599 00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:15,440 Speaker 1: in on Saturday or I'm just gonna watch TV tonight. 600 00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:17,640 Speaker 1: I don't need to go to the gym. Four times 601 00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 1: a week you take a break. Five You recover from 602 00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:25,320 Speaker 1: setbacks faster than what you previously did, which I think 603 00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:27,120 Speaker 1: is a lot people don't realize that they do that, 604 00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,480 Speaker 1: and that they learn that is that you know one 605 00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:33,280 Speaker 1: shit thing happening, remember maybe the last time that happened, 606 00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:34,960 Speaker 1: and that you probably got over it a bit quicker 607 00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:38,840 Speaker 1: this time, like you adjusted. Number six, you ask for 608 00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:42,320 Speaker 1: help when you need it. Number seven you're kind to 609 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:45,640 Speaker 1: yourself when you make mistakes. Number eight you notice patterns 610 00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:49,640 Speaker 1: instead of judging them. Nine you make decisions based on values, 611 00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:55,280 Speaker 1: not pressure, which I really like that. One and ten 612 00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:59,760 Speaker 1: you're more curious than anxious about what's next. I feel 613 00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:03,360 Speaker 1: like that last point is what I want to embody more. 614 00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:05,760 Speaker 1: There is always going to be an unknown in life. 615 00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:09,040 Speaker 1: No one knows what's happening next. No one has a 616 00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:11,520 Speaker 1: crystal ball, No one's a psychic that can be like, 617 00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:14,120 Speaker 1: I know exactly what's gonna happen next year. Yeah, And 618 00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:17,160 Speaker 1: it's about remembering that your brain doesn't know the difference 619 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:23,200 Speaker 1: between excitement and anxiety, and so embracing curiosity for twenty 620 00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:25,680 Speaker 1: twenty six is the best way to go into it 621 00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:27,200 Speaker 1: of being like, I don't know what's gonna happen, but 622 00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:29,520 Speaker 1: you know what, I've made it through every bad day 623 00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,080 Speaker 1: I've ever had so far because I'm still fucking here, 624 00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:35,000 Speaker 1: So you're gonna be able to make it through every 625 00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:37,480 Speaker 1: single other thing. And remembering that eighty five percent of 626 00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:39,880 Speaker 1: the shit you think is gonna happen never happens. Yeah. 627 00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:43,520 Speaker 1: I love that stat because guess what great creative writer 628 00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:45,640 Speaker 1: in here being like and then a blue monkey is 629 00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:47,520 Speaker 1: gonna come in this You'll all your money, and then 630 00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,440 Speaker 1: the yellow elephant will come and hit it on your head. 631 00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:57,200 Speaker 1: I guess so, yeah, yellow Elephant's actually a great guy. Well, 632 00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:02,680 Speaker 1: oh my god, that is That is a rap for 633 00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:05,480 Speaker 1: our twenty five Lessons of twenty twenty five. Thank you 634 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:08,319 Speaker 1: so much for listening to both part one and part two, 635 00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:11,360 Speaker 1: because it was a big boy and we ended up 636 00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:13,879 Speaker 1: having to split it into two episodes because we liked yeah, 637 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:16,319 Speaker 1: we do. But thank you so much for having us 638 00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,880 Speaker 1: in your ear holes. Not only today, but this entire 639 00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:22,160 Speaker 1: year has been one of the biggest years for us 640 00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:27,120 Speaker 1: ever and there's only even more to come. But truly, 641 00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:29,040 Speaker 1: from the bottom of our hearts, we can't thank you 642 00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:32,960 Speaker 1: for your support enough. Like it's kind of crazy all 643 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:35,319 Speaker 1: the times that I remember, I'm like, oh my god, 644 00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:39,520 Speaker 1: there's like a million chicks collectively across like all of 645 00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:43,360 Speaker 1: our platforms, and I'm like, where these two? Yeah you 646 00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:47,040 Speaker 1: pe okay, all right, you're good. You've me. I liked it. 647 00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:50,320 Speaker 1: We love your chicks so much, so fucking much. I 648 00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:52,600 Speaker 1: wish I could like crawl out of your ear hole, 649 00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:54,480 Speaker 1: out of your ear and like hug you and then 650 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:57,319 Speaker 1: go back in. Yeah. Yeah, probably scared a little. People 651 00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:59,400 Speaker 1: like a little butterfly, like a little eve butt fly. 652 00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:01,759 Speaker 1: Don't I look those up on YouTube? Chicks expros. My 653 00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:04,439 Speaker 1: dad had like a weird obsession with videos on once. 654 00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:09,839 Speaker 1: He was like, girls, come watch the botflies. God, he's 655 00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:12,640 Speaker 1: just a boy. He is standing in front of a 656 00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:16,399 Speaker 1: YouTube video of a boffly. We've been talking for two 657 00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:20,560 Speaker 1: hours straight, Okay, we need some non verbal time. Thank 658 00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:22,440 Speaker 1: you so much for having us in your ear holes. 659 00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:25,560 Speaker 1: We love you so much. We'll see you in twenty 660 00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:30,440 Speaker 1: twenty six. Feather chicks, let's fucking go love it. Merry Christmas, 661 00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:34,799 Speaker 1: Happy New Year, be safe, be kind, have fun. Let's 662 00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:39,360 Speaker 1: get a little bit silly. This yea, my lo