WEBVTT - Dry January isn't going very well

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<v Speaker 1>Appo Shae Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am

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<v Speaker 1>I A Bad Mom?

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<v Speaker 2>Podcast?

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<v Speaker 1>Twenty twenty five. I'm actually a little bit sad that

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<v Speaker 1>that whole Christmas New Year's period is over.

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<v Speaker 2>It always for me is like a climax, climax, climax,

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<v Speaker 2>and then after Christmas, I just sort of goo done

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<v Speaker 2>done because I don't ever make New Years Let's be honest,

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<v Speaker 2>It's just not my thing. I think I'm much more

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<v Speaker 2>like This has been a constant reply of mine to

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<v Speaker 2>people that were in us out or doing or asking

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<v Speaker 2>me what are you doing for New Years?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, guys, I'm a mom.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I'm home with my kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm also a mom. On New Year's Day at

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<v Speaker 1>two am, sitting on the steps outside of an apartment

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<v Speaker 1>building in the city because I couldn't get it uper home.

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<v Speaker 2>See exactly what I didn't want to be doing, exactly

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<v Speaker 2>what I did want to be doing. And this year

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<v Speaker 2>I was just like, no, I just need to wake

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<v Speaker 2>up a little bit, okay. I just was like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, I'm much more fun on an impromptu

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<v Speaker 2>night out, Like if I'm not planned, I'm so much

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<v Speaker 2>more fun if I have to plan it. And you're

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<v Speaker 2>telling me I have to stay awake until midnight. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>asleep by ten at least, I think. Yeah, I literally

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<v Speaker 2>climbac that that Christmas Day, like Christmas Day is so

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<v Speaker 2>big for most families, like where you just everyone's up early.

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<v Speaker 2>Then there's lots to do, especially if you're hosting. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, I feel like hosting is just takes it

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<v Speaker 2>out of you. And by Christmas Day in the afternoon, Katie,

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<v Speaker 2>I had a nap?

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<v Speaker 1>Good?

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<v Speaker 2>I know? Who am I? I waits?

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<v Speaker 1>Used to have a nap on Christmas Day because my

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<v Speaker 1>kids would get up so early. And we've talked about

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<v Speaker 1>this before. Yeah, my kids would go to bed so

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<v Speaker 1>late because they were so excited. Yeah, and we would

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<v Speaker 1>just get get so drunk because we had to be

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<v Speaker 1>up until the early hours of the morning before they

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<v Speaker 1>went to sleep. Sometimes even go to bed, sat and

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<v Speaker 1>alarm to then do the whole center thing later. And

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<v Speaker 1>then I would wake up Christmas morning so early because

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<v Speaker 1>they were so excited. Again that I would often spend

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas Morning.

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<v Speaker 2>Still just well if you think of you, Katie. And

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<v Speaker 2>this is just like the lead into I guess our topic.

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<v Speaker 2>But the lead into this was I told you, I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't have the availability on the twenty fourth this year

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<v Speaker 2>to be wrapping presents, right, so I had done it

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<v Speaker 2>all on the twenty third. No, i'd done it a

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<v Speaker 2>few days leading up to the twenty third, and the

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<v Speaker 2>twenty third was like my last cut off, Like I

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<v Speaker 2>ain't wrapping anything else. If it's not wrapped, you'll get

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<v Speaker 2>something that's unwrapped. So that on Christmas Eve, all I

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<v Speaker 2>would have had to do is just put everything in

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<v Speaker 2>the stockings and voila.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep.

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<v Speaker 2>We went over in the afternoon to a friend's place

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<v Speaker 2>who doesn't have children, like, just come for a bubbles

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<v Speaker 2>and we'll have some nibbles and then Katie, it was

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<v Speaker 2>like an impromptu night. I was like, let's just carry on,

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<v Speaker 2>forgetting that the next day was Christmas Day. So I

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<v Speaker 2>wake up on Christmas Day just feeling a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>on the edge, and I was like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>what is wrong with you? Like it's rough, it's so rough.

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<v Speaker 2>And so by Christmas afternoon, I'd done everything carried over,

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<v Speaker 2>carried over. I'd had a few champagnes during the day,

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<v Speaker 2>but nothing was doing anything, and I ate so much food.

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<v Speaker 2>So then I thought, perfect place to go for a

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<v Speaker 2>n app is in my child's bedroom because they're definitely

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<v Speaker 2>not going to sleep today. So I just took myself

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<v Speaker 2>up to Elsie's room, found a little corner on her bed,

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<v Speaker 2>and went to sleep for like, I think it was

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<v Speaker 2>like forty five minutes. So bad but so.

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<v Speaker 1>Needed, so good.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I a bad mom for just kicking off a

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<v Speaker 2>new year?

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<v Speaker 1>Kicking off a new year?

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<v Speaker 2>I just feel like I'm just keep topping myself, Like

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<v Speaker 2>these kids on holidays, bullshit is killing me right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Like these girls of mine are just sort of huge expectations.

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<v Speaker 2>What are we doing today, where are we going? How

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<v Speaker 2>much more money could you spend on us? And you're like,

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<v Speaker 2>what is wrong with you? Like I've asked to do

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<v Speaker 2>the dishwasher today and you moaned about how hard your

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<v Speaker 2>life is. Why do I want to then take you

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<v Speaker 2>out into public? Honestly, Katie, you think, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>New Year knew me. How many times have you heard

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<v Speaker 2>that in the last few days.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, what makes me laugh the most is just going

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<v Speaker 1>back to the whole New Year's Eve thing. So we

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<v Speaker 1>start a new year going, Okay, I'm going to have

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<v Speaker 1>goals I'm going to do on board and get fit

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<v Speaker 1>and healthy and I'm going to eat good food and

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<v Speaker 1>all the rest of it. But the first day we

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<v Speaker 1>are usually so hungover. Yeah I had right New Year's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>I had macas. Oh yeah, I was waiting for that

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<v Speaker 1>maccas for I reckon at least a year, maybe longer longer. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>New Year's Day. I think they will start the new

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<v Speaker 1>year with a bang. It's a fucking burg kind of

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<v Speaker 1>fucking bang. Is that?

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<v Speaker 2>That's just like a big mac dhl. You're like, but

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<v Speaker 2>was your daughter's working when you were going through the

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<v Speaker 2>drive through?

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<v Speaker 1>They were, But yeah, that's how we start the New

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<v Speaker 1>Year's They're like.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, there's mum in the drive through. She's hung today

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<v Speaker 2>New Year's Day. I didn't want to be in that

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<v Speaker 2>state for New Year's Day. I know it sounds like

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<v Speaker 2>I sound fuddy duddy, and yes, guess what, guys, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>turning forty this year. It makes me feel ill just

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<v Speaker 2>saying it, but I am turning forty. I just had

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<v Speaker 2>that moment of going, I think I need to just

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<v Speaker 2>get up. And I don't get me wrong, I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>not drink or anything like that. I just didn't go

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<v Speaker 2>crazy because I was just sort of like, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know how much more my liver can take.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're saying that, I'm like, oh. But at the

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<v Speaker 2>same time, don't get me wrong, I can get caught

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<v Speaker 2>up in the moment and then all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a hot mess at two am in the morning,

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<v Speaker 2>just the same.

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<v Speaker 1>I have my kids with me too. Yeah, trying to

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<v Speaker 1>get an uber at two am this New Years They said, Mum,

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<v Speaker 1>last night you told us how much you disliked us,

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<v Speaker 1>because I said, do you know why? Because you were

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<v Speaker 1>blaming me for not being able to get an uber.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember sitting on those steps outside the apartment building, going,

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<v Speaker 1>what do I do. I've got my kids out here,

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<v Speaker 1>it's two ams, people everywhere. I can't get a car.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh. I would absolutely dread that. But your girls,

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<v Speaker 2>at the same time are just like they will be

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<v Speaker 2>in no time have their license and you won't have

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<v Speaker 2>this problem again because they'll be driving, because they'll be driving.

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<v Speaker 1>New Year's Eve.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, next New Year's Eve, they'll be driving. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>you won't even have to worry about that. It's like

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<v Speaker 2>no uber. But carrying forward into kicking off the year

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<v Speaker 2>with a bang where now obviously another week into almost

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<v Speaker 2>being closer to high school for Gracie. So I feel like, Katie,

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<v Speaker 2>each day we are I don't know if everyone that

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<v Speaker 2>has a that is starting high school this year, if

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<v Speaker 2>it's the same for them, but oh my gosh, emotions

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<v Speaker 2>are high, and they seem to just like notch a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit higher every single day that we get a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit closer. Yeah, anxiety to the point that I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, oh my gosh, I've never wished time away

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<v Speaker 2>as in to move fast, so because I don't like

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<v Speaker 2>that stuff. But I just sort of go like, this.

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<v Speaker 1>Can't be lingering this long.

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<v Speaker 2>And I try and talk her off the edge and say,

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<v Speaker 2>enjoy every day, take for the holidays, will fly, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>just let's just But at the same time, Katie, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>trying to quietly in the background tickboxes like new shoes,

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<v Speaker 2>whole uniform, do haven't got a uniform? Ye? Book lists

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<v Speaker 2>like but it's all for a brand new school now,

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<v Speaker 2>and you're also then as a parent, learning the ropes

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<v Speaker 2>of the new school for the child to then feel

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<v Speaker 2>comfortable for the first day.

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<v Speaker 1>Lockers you can act to so much. I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>time for that, you have to read the newsletter. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you know how many newsletters I've read of high school?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>None? Okay, but there's an app and you can just

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<v Speaker 1>tick the information for that year group. Yeah, so you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to have read the whole thing. The newsletter

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<v Speaker 1>is really redundant. I don't know why they even still

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<v Speaker 1>do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think that someone should really take upon themselves

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<v Speaker 2>to create the bullet point, like we've always talked about. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>And I've been talking to a few different parents over

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<v Speaker 2>the holidays and they feel the same way. They say

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<v Speaker 2>the same thing about the newsletter. Don't read it. I

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<v Speaker 2>haven't got time to that. I just need bullet points.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, I know, I've been.

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<v Speaker 2>Saying this for years, yeah, years, But I'm not a

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<v Speaker 2>big person about like the whole New year, new meat.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I just we should be trying to execute this

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<v Speaker 2>every day, you know. That's the space that I sit in.

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<v Speaker 2>We need to execute this every day. But when it

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<v Speaker 2>comes to parenting, like it's a different ballgame and we

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<v Speaker 2>say it stages and ages, right. I feel like my too.

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<v Speaker 2>Even over these holidays, we've just ramped it up a

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<v Speaker 2>notch and we've just really like gotten a hold of

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<v Speaker 2>those hormones and just gone bam, and what are we

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<v Speaker 2>going to do? We'll just take it out on them.

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<v Speaker 2>And sometimes I literally like leave them in their bedroom

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<v Speaker 2>at night, going why am I doing this? Please tell

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<v Speaker 2>me why I'm doing this, Please refresh my memory, Please

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<v Speaker 2>make me wake up tomorrow and make me feel better

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<v Speaker 2>about why I'm doing this. Yeah, because it's really tough

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<v Speaker 2>at the moment with these preteen hormones. And I know

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm only at the start of it, Katie, because

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<v Speaker 2>your girls are well and truly into it. But honestly,

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<v Speaker 2>the squabbling and the fighting and now all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 2>my two are okay with being like physical towards each other.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's because they've forgot too much time off. One

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<v Speaker 1>of these is too long.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what to do. But my whole New

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<v Speaker 2>Year it knew me. I was like, Okay, how am

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<v Speaker 2>I going to change this up? How am I going

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<v Speaker 2>to like find some more patience within myself to be

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<v Speaker 2>able to stop and listen to them differently and hear

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<v Speaker 2>them differently so that I can respond a little.

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<v Speaker 1>Bit better than I am at the moment.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I feel like I'm explosive, and then I try

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<v Speaker 2>and calm it out, then explosive, then I calm it

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<v Speaker 2>that it's not going to work. It's youl really.

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<v Speaker 1>Good at doing that whole Like said, it's not a

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<v Speaker 1>New Year, New Me, like we should be doing that

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<v Speaker 1>every day kind of thing, Whereas I'm like a bit

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<v Speaker 1>the opposite in that I'm very much like Friday, we

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<v Speaker 1>can eat that food for lunch on a Friday. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not putting KFC in my body on a Monday. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not an idiot.

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<v Speaker 2>I honestly I understand that we all have those days,

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<v Speaker 2>but when it comes back to parenting, I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>it's just one particular area for me, Like, yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>really good at that, right, New Year, New Meat, Nah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's an everyday thing. You don't need to be setting

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<v Speaker 2>goals for like twenty twenty five. How about set it

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<v Speaker 2>for the first three months of twenty twenty five.

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<v Speaker 1>And see what you cannot right when you're the person

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<v Speaker 1>that's sitting outside an apartment block at two in the

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<v Speaker 1>morning on New Yearesday, Like, well, there you go. What

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<v Speaker 1>do you always re al? We're starting it on the

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<v Speaker 1>second of January, and I'll tell you what dry January

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<v Speaker 1>isn't going very well.