Speaker 1: Appo Shae Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am
Speaker 1: I A Bad Mom?
Speaker 2: Podcast?
Speaker 1: Twenty twenty five. I'm actually a little bit sad that
Speaker 1: that whole Christmas New Year's period is over.
Speaker 2: It always for me is like a climax, climax, climax,
Speaker 2: and then after Christmas, I just sort of goo done
Speaker 2: done because I don't ever make New Years Let's be honest,
Speaker 2: It's just not my thing. I think I'm much more
Speaker 2: like This has been a constant reply of mine to
Speaker 2: people that were in us out or doing or asking
Speaker 2: me what are you doing for New Years?
Speaker 1: I was like, guys, I'm a mom.
Speaker 2: Like I'm home with my kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm also a mom. On New Year's Day at
Speaker 1: two am, sitting on the steps outside of an apartment
Speaker 1: building in the city because I couldn't get it uper home.
Speaker 2: See exactly what I didn't want to be doing, exactly
Speaker 2: what I did want to be doing. And this year
Speaker 2: I was just like, no, I just need to wake
Speaker 2: up a little bit, okay. I just was like, no,
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm much more fun on an impromptu
Speaker 2: night out, Like if I'm not planned, I'm so much
Speaker 2: more fun if I have to plan it. And you're
Speaker 2: telling me I have to stay awake until midnight. I'm
Speaker 2: asleep by ten at least, I think. Yeah, I literally
Speaker 2: climbac that that Christmas Day, like Christmas Day is so
Speaker 2: big for most families, like where you just everyone's up early.
Speaker 2: Then there's lots to do, especially if you're hosting. I
Speaker 2: don't know, I feel like hosting is just takes it
Speaker 2: out of you. And by Christmas Day in the afternoon, Katie,
Speaker 2: I had a nap?
Speaker 1: Good?
Speaker 2: I know? Who am I? I waits?
Speaker 1: Used to have a nap on Christmas Day because my
Speaker 1: kids would get up so early. And we've talked about
Speaker 1: this before. Yeah, my kids would go to bed so
Speaker 1: late because they were so excited. Yeah, and we would
Speaker 1: just get get so drunk because we had to be
Speaker 1: up until the early hours of the morning before they
Speaker 1: went to sleep. Sometimes even go to bed, sat and
Speaker 1: alarm to then do the whole center thing later. And
Speaker 1: then I would wake up Christmas morning so early because
Speaker 1: they were so excited. Again that I would often spend
Speaker 1: Christmas Morning.
Speaker 2: Still just well if you think of you, Katie. And
Speaker 2: this is just like the lead into I guess our topic.
Speaker 2: But the lead into this was I told you, I
Speaker 2: didn't have the availability on the twenty fourth this year
Speaker 2: to be wrapping presents, right, so I had done it
Speaker 2: all on the twenty third. No, i'd done it a
Speaker 2: few days leading up to the twenty third, and the
Speaker 2: twenty third was like my last cut off, Like I
Speaker 2: ain't wrapping anything else. If it's not wrapped, you'll get
Speaker 2: something that's unwrapped. So that on Christmas Eve, all I
Speaker 2: would have had to do is just put everything in
Speaker 2: the stockings and voila.
Speaker 1: Yep.
Speaker 2: We went over in the afternoon to a friend's place
Speaker 2: who doesn't have children, like, just come for a bubbles
Speaker 2: and we'll have some nibbles and then Katie, it was
Speaker 2: like an impromptu night. I was like, let's just carry on,
Speaker 2: forgetting that the next day was Christmas Day. So I
Speaker 2: wake up on Christmas Day just feeling a little bit
Speaker 2: on the edge, and I was like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: what is wrong with you? Like it's rough, it's so rough.
Speaker 2: And so by Christmas afternoon, I'd done everything carried over,
Speaker 2: carried over. I'd had a few champagnes during the day,
Speaker 2: but nothing was doing anything, and I ate so much food.
Speaker 2: So then I thought, perfect place to go for a
Speaker 2: n app is in my child's bedroom because they're definitely
Speaker 2: not going to sleep today. So I just took myself
Speaker 2: up to Elsie's room, found a little corner on her bed,
Speaker 2: and went to sleep for like, I think it was
Speaker 2: like forty five minutes. So bad but so.
Speaker 1: Needed, so good.
Speaker 2: Am I a bad mom for just kicking off a
Speaker 2: new year?
Speaker 1: Kicking off a new year?
Speaker 2: I just feel like I'm just keep topping myself, Like
Speaker 2: these kids on holidays, bullshit is killing me right now.
Speaker 2: Like these girls of mine are just sort of huge expectations.
Speaker 2: What are we doing today, where are we going? How
Speaker 2: much more money could you spend on us? And you're like,
Speaker 2: what is wrong with you? Like I've asked to do
Speaker 2: the dishwasher today and you moaned about how hard your
Speaker 2: life is. Why do I want to then take you
Speaker 2: out into public? Honestly, Katie, you think, oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: New Year knew me. How many times have you heard
Speaker 2: that in the last few days.
Speaker 1: Well, what makes me laugh the most is just going
Speaker 1: back to the whole New Year's Eve thing. So we
Speaker 1: start a new year going, Okay, I'm going to have
Speaker 1: goals I'm going to do on board and get fit
Speaker 1: and healthy and I'm going to eat good food and
Speaker 1: all the rest of it. But the first day we
Speaker 1: are usually so hungover. Yeah I had right New Year's Day,
Speaker 1: I had macas. Oh yeah, I was waiting for that
Speaker 1: maccas for I reckon at least a year, maybe longer longer. Yeah,
Speaker 1: New Year's Day. I think they will start the new
Speaker 1: year with a bang. It's a fucking burg kind of
Speaker 1: fucking bang. Is that?
Speaker 2: That's just like a big mac dhl. You're like, but
Speaker 2: was your daughter's working when you were going through the
Speaker 2: drive through?
Speaker 1: They were, But yeah, that's how we start the New
Speaker 1: Year's They're like.
Speaker 2: Oh, there's mum in the drive through. She's hung today
Speaker 2: New Year's Day. I didn't want to be in that
Speaker 2: state for New Year's Day. I know it sounds like
Speaker 2: I sound fuddy duddy, and yes, guess what, guys, I'm
Speaker 2: turning forty this year. It makes me feel ill just
Speaker 2: saying it, but I am turning forty. I just had
Speaker 2: that moment of going, I think I need to just
Speaker 2: get up. And I don't get me wrong, I didn't
Speaker 2: not drink or anything like that. I just didn't go
Speaker 2: crazy because I was just sort of like, I don't
Speaker 2: know how much more my liver can take.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I know.
Speaker 2: And you're saying that, I'm like, oh. But at the
Speaker 2: same time, don't get me wrong, I can get caught
Speaker 2: up in the moment and then all of a sudden,
Speaker 2: I'm a hot mess at two am in the morning,
Speaker 2: just the same.
Speaker 1: I have my kids with me too. Yeah, trying to
Speaker 1: get an uber at two am this New Years They said, Mum,
Speaker 1: last night you told us how much you disliked us,
Speaker 1: because I said, do you know why? Because you were
Speaker 1: blaming me for not being able to get an uber.
Speaker 1: I remember sitting on those steps outside the apartment building, going,
Speaker 1: what do I do. I've got my kids out here,
Speaker 1: it's two ams, people everywhere. I can't get a car.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. I would absolutely dread that. But your girls,
Speaker 2: at the same time are just like they will be
Speaker 2: in no time have their license and you won't have
Speaker 2: this problem again because they'll be driving, because they'll be driving.
Speaker 1: New Year's Eve.
Speaker 2: Yeah, next New Year's Eve, they'll be driving. Oh my god,
Speaker 2: you won't even have to worry about that. It's like
Speaker 2: no uber. But carrying forward into kicking off the year
Speaker 2: with a bang where now obviously another week into almost
Speaker 2: being closer to high school for Gracie. So I feel like, Katie,
Speaker 2: each day we are I don't know if everyone that
Speaker 2: has a that is starting high school this year, if
Speaker 2: it's the same for them, but oh my gosh, emotions
Speaker 2: are high, and they seem to just like notch a
Speaker 2: little bit higher every single day that we get a
Speaker 2: little bit closer. Yeah, anxiety to the point that I
Speaker 2: was like, oh my gosh, I've never wished time away
Speaker 2: as in to move fast, so because I don't like
Speaker 2: that stuff. But I just sort of go like, this.
Speaker 1: Can't be lingering this long.
Speaker 2: And I try and talk her off the edge and say,
Speaker 2: enjoy every day, take for the holidays, will fly, you know,
Speaker 2: just let's just But at the same time, Katie, I'm
Speaker 2: trying to quietly in the background tickboxes like new shoes,
Speaker 2: whole uniform, do haven't got a uniform? Ye? Book lists
Speaker 2: like but it's all for a brand new school now,
Speaker 2: and you're also then as a parent, learning the ropes
Speaker 2: of the new school for the child to then feel
Speaker 2: comfortable for the first day.
Speaker 1: Lockers you can act to so much. I don't have
Speaker 1: time for that, you have to read the newsletter. Do
Speaker 1: you know how many newsletters I've read of high school?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: None? Okay, but there's an app and you can just
Speaker 1: tick the information for that year group. Yeah, so you
Speaker 1: don't have to have read the whole thing. The newsletter
Speaker 1: is really redundant. I don't know why they even still
Speaker 1: do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that someone should really take upon themselves
Speaker 2: to create the bullet point, like we've always talked about. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And I've been talking to a few different parents over
Speaker 2: the holidays and they feel the same way. They say
Speaker 2: the same thing about the newsletter. Don't read it. I
Speaker 2: haven't got time to that. I just need bullet points.
Speaker 1: It's like, I know, I've been.
Speaker 2: Saying this for years, yeah, years, But I'm not a
Speaker 2: big person about like the whole New year, new meat.
Speaker 2: Like I just we should be trying to execute this
Speaker 2: every day, you know. That's the space that I sit in.
Speaker 2: We need to execute this every day. But when it
Speaker 2: comes to parenting, like it's a different ballgame and we
Speaker 2: say it stages and ages, right. I feel like my too.
Speaker 2: Even over these holidays, we've just ramped it up a
Speaker 2: notch and we've just really like gotten a hold of
Speaker 2: those hormones and just gone bam, and what are we
Speaker 2: going to do? We'll just take it out on them.
Speaker 2: And sometimes I literally like leave them in their bedroom
Speaker 2: at night, going why am I doing this? Please tell
Speaker 2: me why I'm doing this, Please refresh my memory, Please
Speaker 2: make me wake up tomorrow and make me feel better
Speaker 2: about why I'm doing this. Yeah, because it's really tough
Speaker 2: at the moment with these preteen hormones. And I know
Speaker 2: that I'm only at the start of it, Katie, because
Speaker 2: your girls are well and truly into it. But honestly,
Speaker 2: the squabbling and the fighting and now all of a sudden,
Speaker 2: my two are okay with being like physical towards each other.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's because they've forgot too much time off. One
Speaker 1: of these is too long.
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do. But my whole New
Speaker 2: Year it knew me. I was like, Okay, how am
Speaker 2: I going to change this up? How am I going
Speaker 2: to like find some more patience within myself to be
Speaker 2: able to stop and listen to them differently and hear
Speaker 2: them differently so that I can respond a little.
Speaker 1: Bit better than I am at the moment.
Speaker 2: Because I feel like I'm explosive, and then I try
Speaker 2: and calm it out, then explosive, then I calm it
Speaker 2: that it's not going to work. It's youl really.
Speaker 1: Good at doing that whole Like said, it's not a
Speaker 1: New Year, New Me, like we should be doing that
Speaker 1: every day kind of thing, Whereas I'm like a bit
Speaker 1: the opposite in that I'm very much like Friday, we
Speaker 1: can eat that food for lunch on a Friday. I'm
Speaker 1: not putting KFC in my body on a Monday. I'm
Speaker 1: not an idiot.
Speaker 2: I honestly I understand that we all have those days,
Speaker 2: but when it comes back to parenting, I feel like
Speaker 2: it's just one particular area for me, Like, yeah, I'm
Speaker 2: really good at that, right, New Year, New Meat, Nah,
Speaker 2: it's an everyday thing. You don't need to be setting
Speaker 2: goals for like twenty twenty five. How about set it
Speaker 2: for the first three months of twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1: And see what you cannot right when you're the person
Speaker 1: that's sitting outside an apartment block at two in the
Speaker 1: morning on New Yearesday, Like, well, there you go. What
Speaker 1: do you always re al? We're starting it on the
Speaker 1: second of January, and I'll tell you what dry January
Speaker 1: isn't going very well.