1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:25,161 Speaker 1: Appo Shae Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am 2 00:00:25,201 --> 00:00:26,201 Speaker 1: I A Bad Mom? 3 00:00:26,401 --> 00:00:26,961 Speaker 2: Podcast? 4 00:00:27,121 --> 00:00:30,361 Speaker 1: Twenty twenty five. I'm actually a little bit sad that 5 00:00:30,361 --> 00:00:32,961 Speaker 1: that whole Christmas New Year's period is over. 6 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:39,160 Speaker 2: It always for me is like a climax, climax, climax, 7 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:43,201 Speaker 2: and then after Christmas, I just sort of goo done 8 00:00:43,480 --> 00:00:47,241 Speaker 2: done because I don't ever make New Years Let's be honest, 9 00:00:47,281 --> 00:00:49,601 Speaker 2: It's just not my thing. I think I'm much more 10 00:00:49,721 --> 00:00:52,601 Speaker 2: like This has been a constant reply of mine to 11 00:00:52,721 --> 00:00:55,321 Speaker 2: people that were in us out or doing or asking 12 00:00:55,321 --> 00:00:56,761 Speaker 2: me what are you doing for New Years? 13 00:00:57,361 --> 00:00:58,721 Speaker 1: I was like, guys, I'm a mom. 14 00:00:58,761 --> 00:01:00,721 Speaker 2: Like I'm home with my kids. 15 00:01:00,761 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm also a mom. On New Year's Day at 16 00:01:03,561 --> 00:01:06,560 Speaker 1: two am, sitting on the steps outside of an apartment 17 00:01:06,601 --> 00:01:09,281 Speaker 1: building in the city because I couldn't get it uper home. 18 00:01:09,481 --> 00:01:13,041 Speaker 2: See exactly what I didn't want to be doing, exactly 19 00:01:13,081 --> 00:01:14,481 Speaker 2: what I did want to be doing. And this year 20 00:01:14,521 --> 00:01:16,560 Speaker 2: I was just like, no, I just need to wake 21 00:01:16,681 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 2: up a little bit, okay. I just was like, no, 22 00:01:19,881 --> 00:01:22,041 Speaker 2: you know what, I'm much more fun on an impromptu 23 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:25,041 Speaker 2: night out, Like if I'm not planned, I'm so much 24 00:01:25,081 --> 00:01:27,081 Speaker 2: more fun if I have to plan it. And you're 25 00:01:27,081 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 2: telling me I have to stay awake until midnight. I'm 26 00:01:29,681 --> 00:01:33,441 Speaker 2: asleep by ten at least, I think. Yeah, I literally 27 00:01:33,481 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 2: climbac that that Christmas Day, like Christmas Day is so 28 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:41,081 Speaker 2: big for most families, like where you just everyone's up early. 29 00:01:41,441 --> 00:01:44,121 Speaker 2: Then there's lots to do, especially if you're hosting. I 30 00:01:44,121 --> 00:01:47,881 Speaker 2: don't know, I feel like hosting is just takes it 31 00:01:47,921 --> 00:01:51,001 Speaker 2: out of you. And by Christmas Day in the afternoon, Katie, 32 00:01:51,041 --> 00:01:51,801 Speaker 2: I had a nap? 33 00:01:52,721 --> 00:01:53,041 Speaker 1: Good? 34 00:01:53,281 --> 00:01:55,841 Speaker 2: I know? Who am I? I waits? 35 00:01:55,921 --> 00:01:57,601 Speaker 1: Used to have a nap on Christmas Day because my 36 00:01:57,641 --> 00:01:59,401 Speaker 1: kids would get up so early. And we've talked about 37 00:01:59,401 --> 00:02:01,641 Speaker 1: this before. Yeah, my kids would go to bed so 38 00:02:01,721 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 1: late because they were so excited. Yeah, and we would 39 00:02:04,761 --> 00:02:07,321 Speaker 1: just get get so drunk because we had to be 40 00:02:07,481 --> 00:02:09,481 Speaker 1: up until the early hours of the morning before they 41 00:02:09,521 --> 00:02:11,641 Speaker 1: went to sleep. Sometimes even go to bed, sat and 42 00:02:11,681 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: alarm to then do the whole center thing later. And 43 00:02:15,441 --> 00:02:19,001 Speaker 1: then I would wake up Christmas morning so early because 44 00:02:19,001 --> 00:02:22,441 Speaker 1: they were so excited. Again that I would often spend 45 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: Christmas Morning. 46 00:02:23,321 --> 00:02:26,961 Speaker 2: Still just well if you think of you, Katie. And 47 00:02:27,001 --> 00:02:30,001 Speaker 2: this is just like the lead into I guess our topic. 48 00:02:30,081 --> 00:02:32,001 Speaker 2: But the lead into this was I told you, I 49 00:02:32,041 --> 00:02:34,881 Speaker 2: didn't have the availability on the twenty fourth this year 50 00:02:34,881 --> 00:02:37,561 Speaker 2: to be wrapping presents, right, so I had done it 51 00:02:37,601 --> 00:02:39,841 Speaker 2: all on the twenty third. No, i'd done it a 52 00:02:39,841 --> 00:02:41,801 Speaker 2: few days leading up to the twenty third, and the 53 00:02:41,841 --> 00:02:43,841 Speaker 2: twenty third was like my last cut off, Like I 54 00:02:43,841 --> 00:02:46,601 Speaker 2: ain't wrapping anything else. If it's not wrapped, you'll get 55 00:02:46,601 --> 00:02:49,921 Speaker 2: something that's unwrapped. So that on Christmas Eve, all I 56 00:02:49,921 --> 00:02:51,961 Speaker 2: would have had to do is just put everything in 57 00:02:52,041 --> 00:02:53,721 Speaker 2: the stockings and voila. 58 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:54,201 Speaker 1: Yep. 59 00:02:54,721 --> 00:02:56,961 Speaker 2: We went over in the afternoon to a friend's place 60 00:02:57,001 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 2: who doesn't have children, like, just come for a bubbles 61 00:03:00,761 --> 00:03:03,401 Speaker 2: and we'll have some nibbles and then Katie, it was 62 00:03:03,441 --> 00:03:06,561 Speaker 2: like an impromptu night. I was like, let's just carry on, 63 00:03:07,561 --> 00:03:10,601 Speaker 2: forgetting that the next day was Christmas Day. So I 64 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,121 Speaker 2: wake up on Christmas Day just feeling a little bit 65 00:03:14,641 --> 00:03:17,761 Speaker 2: on the edge, and I was like, oh my gosh, 66 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:21,161 Speaker 2: what is wrong with you? Like it's rough, it's so rough. 67 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 2: And so by Christmas afternoon, I'd done everything carried over, 68 00:03:25,641 --> 00:03:28,481 Speaker 2: carried over. I'd had a few champagnes during the day, 69 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:32,321 Speaker 2: but nothing was doing anything, and I ate so much food. 70 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 2: So then I thought, perfect place to go for a 71 00:03:34,721 --> 00:03:37,201 Speaker 2: n app is in my child's bedroom because they're definitely 72 00:03:37,201 --> 00:03:39,241 Speaker 2: not going to sleep today. So I just took myself 73 00:03:39,321 --> 00:03:42,441 Speaker 2: up to Elsie's room, found a little corner on her bed, 74 00:03:42,481 --> 00:03:44,321 Speaker 2: and went to sleep for like, I think it was 75 00:03:44,361 --> 00:03:48,081 Speaker 2: like forty five minutes. So bad but so. 76 00:03:48,201 --> 00:03:49,121 Speaker 1: Needed, so good. 77 00:03:58,081 --> 00:04:01,361 Speaker 2: Am I a bad mom for just kicking off a 78 00:04:01,441 --> 00:04:01,921 Speaker 2: new year? 79 00:04:02,401 --> 00:04:03,641 Speaker 1: Kicking off a new year? 80 00:04:03,961 --> 00:04:06,361 Speaker 2: I just feel like I'm just keep topping myself, Like 81 00:04:06,601 --> 00:04:10,761 Speaker 2: these kids on holidays, bullshit is killing me right now. 82 00:04:11,121 --> 00:04:15,281 Speaker 2: Like these girls of mine are just sort of huge expectations. 83 00:04:15,361 --> 00:04:17,601 Speaker 2: What are we doing today, where are we going? How 84 00:04:17,681 --> 00:04:19,801 Speaker 2: much more money could you spend on us? And you're like, 85 00:04:19,881 --> 00:04:22,401 Speaker 2: what is wrong with you? Like I've asked to do 86 00:04:22,481 --> 00:04:25,801 Speaker 2: the dishwasher today and you moaned about how hard your 87 00:04:25,921 --> 00:04:28,841 Speaker 2: life is. Why do I want to then take you 88 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:32,801 Speaker 2: out into public? Honestly, Katie, you think, oh my gosh, 89 00:04:32,961 --> 00:04:35,921 Speaker 2: New Year knew me. How many times have you heard 90 00:04:35,961 --> 00:04:37,001 Speaker 2: that in the last few days. 91 00:04:37,041 --> 00:04:39,681 Speaker 1: Well, what makes me laugh the most is just going 92 00:04:39,721 --> 00:04:41,601 Speaker 1: back to the whole New Year's Eve thing. So we 93 00:04:41,841 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: start a new year going, Okay, I'm going to have 94 00:04:44,401 --> 00:04:46,961 Speaker 1: goals I'm going to do on board and get fit 95 00:04:47,001 --> 00:04:48,801 Speaker 1: and healthy and I'm going to eat good food and 96 00:04:48,801 --> 00:04:52,081 Speaker 1: all the rest of it. But the first day we 97 00:04:52,121 --> 00:04:57,001 Speaker 1: are usually so hungover. Yeah I had right New Year's Day, 98 00:04:58,121 --> 00:05:00,521 Speaker 1: I had macas. Oh yeah, I was waiting for that 99 00:05:01,841 --> 00:05:07,121 Speaker 1: maccas for I reckon at least a year, maybe longer longer. Yeah, 100 00:05:07,201 --> 00:05:09,361 Speaker 1: New Year's Day. I think they will start the new 101 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:12,521 Speaker 1: year with a bang. It's a fucking burg kind of 102 00:05:12,561 --> 00:05:13,721 Speaker 1: fucking bang. Is that? 103 00:05:13,721 --> 00:05:16,801 Speaker 2: That's just like a big mac dhl. You're like, but 104 00:05:17,121 --> 00:05:19,281 Speaker 2: was your daughter's working when you were going through the 105 00:05:19,361 --> 00:05:19,801 Speaker 2: drive through? 106 00:05:22,161 --> 00:05:24,281 Speaker 1: They were, But yeah, that's how we start the New 107 00:05:24,361 --> 00:05:25,121 Speaker 1: Year's They're like. 108 00:05:25,121 --> 00:05:28,121 Speaker 2: Oh, there's mum in the drive through. She's hung today 109 00:05:28,281 --> 00:05:31,801 Speaker 2: New Year's Day. I didn't want to be in that 110 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 2: state for New Year's Day. I know it sounds like 111 00:05:34,161 --> 00:05:38,121 Speaker 2: I sound fuddy duddy, and yes, guess what, guys, I'm 112 00:05:38,121 --> 00:05:41,041 Speaker 2: turning forty this year. It makes me feel ill just 113 00:05:41,121 --> 00:05:44,041 Speaker 2: saying it, but I am turning forty. I just had 114 00:05:44,081 --> 00:05:45,921 Speaker 2: that moment of going, I think I need to just 115 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:48,521 Speaker 2: get up. And I don't get me wrong, I didn't 116 00:05:48,561 --> 00:05:50,601 Speaker 2: not drink or anything like that. I just didn't go 117 00:05:50,721 --> 00:05:53,281 Speaker 2: crazy because I was just sort of like, I don't 118 00:05:53,281 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 2: know how much more my liver can take. 119 00:05:55,121 --> 00:05:56,521 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I know. 120 00:05:56,761 --> 00:05:59,481 Speaker 2: And you're saying that, I'm like, oh. But at the 121 00:05:59,481 --> 00:06:01,481 Speaker 2: same time, don't get me wrong, I can get caught 122 00:06:01,561 --> 00:06:03,280 Speaker 2: up in the moment and then all of a sudden, 123 00:06:03,801 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 2: I'm a hot mess at two am in the morning, 124 00:06:05,681 --> 00:06:06,121 Speaker 2: just the same. 125 00:06:06,361 --> 00:06:08,481 Speaker 1: I have my kids with me too. Yeah, trying to 126 00:06:08,481 --> 00:06:11,041 Speaker 1: get an uber at two am this New Years They said, Mum, 127 00:06:11,121 --> 00:06:15,401 Speaker 1: last night you told us how much you disliked us, 128 00:06:15,841 --> 00:06:18,721 Speaker 1: because I said, do you know why? Because you were 129 00:06:18,721 --> 00:06:20,801 Speaker 1: blaming me for not being able to get an uber. 130 00:06:21,241 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: I remember sitting on those steps outside the apartment building, going, 131 00:06:25,241 --> 00:06:26,921 Speaker 1: what do I do. I've got my kids out here, 132 00:06:26,921 --> 00:06:30,041 Speaker 1: it's two ams, people everywhere. I can't get a car. 133 00:06:30,241 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. I would absolutely dread that. But your girls, 134 00:06:33,921 --> 00:06:36,801 Speaker 2: at the same time are just like they will be 135 00:06:37,001 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 2: in no time have their license and you won't have 136 00:06:39,281 --> 00:06:42,001 Speaker 2: this problem again because they'll be driving, because they'll be driving. 137 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:42,921 Speaker 1: New Year's Eve. 138 00:06:43,041 --> 00:06:46,081 Speaker 2: Yeah, next New Year's Eve, they'll be driving. Oh my god, 139 00:06:46,121 --> 00:06:48,161 Speaker 2: you won't even have to worry about that. It's like 140 00:06:48,241 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 2: no uber. But carrying forward into kicking off the year 141 00:06:51,921 --> 00:06:57,241 Speaker 2: with a bang where now obviously another week into almost 142 00:06:57,281 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 2: being closer to high school for Gracie. So I feel like, Katie, 143 00:07:00,841 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 2: each day we are I don't know if everyone that 144 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:07,361 Speaker 2: has a that is starting high school this year, if 145 00:07:07,361 --> 00:07:10,001 Speaker 2: it's the same for them, but oh my gosh, emotions 146 00:07:10,041 --> 00:07:12,801 Speaker 2: are high, and they seem to just like notch a 147 00:07:12,801 --> 00:07:15,441 Speaker 2: little bit higher every single day that we get a 148 00:07:15,481 --> 00:07:19,641 Speaker 2: little bit closer. Yeah, anxiety to the point that I 149 00:07:19,721 --> 00:07:22,601 Speaker 2: was like, oh my gosh, I've never wished time away 150 00:07:23,081 --> 00:07:25,281 Speaker 2: as in to move fast, so because I don't like 151 00:07:25,361 --> 00:07:27,081 Speaker 2: that stuff. But I just sort of go like, this. 152 00:07:27,241 --> 00:07:28,761 Speaker 1: Can't be lingering this long. 153 00:07:28,841 --> 00:07:30,841 Speaker 2: And I try and talk her off the edge and say, 154 00:07:31,041 --> 00:07:34,481 Speaker 2: enjoy every day, take for the holidays, will fly, you know, 155 00:07:34,641 --> 00:07:37,281 Speaker 2: just let's just But at the same time, Katie, I'm 156 00:07:37,361 --> 00:07:40,881 Speaker 2: trying to quietly in the background tickboxes like new shoes, 157 00:07:41,361 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 2: whole uniform, do haven't got a uniform? Ye? Book lists 158 00:07:45,761 --> 00:07:47,801 Speaker 2: like but it's all for a brand new school now, 159 00:07:47,841 --> 00:07:50,401 Speaker 2: and you're also then as a parent, learning the ropes 160 00:07:50,441 --> 00:07:52,481 Speaker 2: of the new school for the child to then feel 161 00:07:52,561 --> 00:07:53,961 Speaker 2: comfortable for the first day. 162 00:07:54,241 --> 00:08:00,001 Speaker 1: Lockers you can act to so much. I don't have 163 00:08:00,081 --> 00:08:03,081 Speaker 1: time for that, you have to read the newsletter. Do 164 00:08:03,081 --> 00:08:05,041 Speaker 1: you know how many newsletters I've read of high school? 165 00:08:05,201 --> 00:08:05,641 Speaker 2: No? 166 00:08:05,641 --> 00:08:09,001 Speaker 1: None? Okay, but there's an app and you can just 167 00:08:09,081 --> 00:08:11,481 Speaker 1: tick the information for that year group. Yeah, so you 168 00:08:11,481 --> 00:08:13,441 Speaker 1: don't have to have read the whole thing. The newsletter 169 00:08:13,521 --> 00:08:15,961 Speaker 1: is really redundant. I don't know why they even still 170 00:08:16,001 --> 00:08:16,281 Speaker 1: do it. 171 00:08:16,561 --> 00:08:19,841 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that someone should really take upon themselves 172 00:08:20,441 --> 00:08:24,081 Speaker 2: to create the bullet point, like we've always talked about. Yeah, 173 00:08:24,121 --> 00:08:26,041 Speaker 2: And I've been talking to a few different parents over 174 00:08:26,041 --> 00:08:28,361 Speaker 2: the holidays and they feel the same way. They say 175 00:08:28,361 --> 00:08:31,401 Speaker 2: the same thing about the newsletter. Don't read it. I 176 00:08:31,401 --> 00:08:33,161 Speaker 2: haven't got time to that. I just need bullet points. 177 00:08:33,201 --> 00:08:34,321 Speaker 1: It's like, I know, I've been. 178 00:08:34,241 --> 00:08:37,321 Speaker 2: Saying this for years, yeah, years, But I'm not a 179 00:08:37,321 --> 00:08:39,801 Speaker 2: big person about like the whole New year, new meat. 180 00:08:39,921 --> 00:08:42,401 Speaker 2: Like I just we should be trying to execute this 181 00:08:42,521 --> 00:08:45,001 Speaker 2: every day, you know. That's the space that I sit in. 182 00:08:45,241 --> 00:08:47,321 Speaker 2: We need to execute this every day. But when it 183 00:08:47,361 --> 00:08:51,401 Speaker 2: comes to parenting, like it's a different ballgame and we 184 00:08:51,481 --> 00:08:55,121 Speaker 2: say it stages and ages, right. I feel like my too. 185 00:08:55,201 --> 00:08:57,881 Speaker 2: Even over these holidays, we've just ramped it up a 186 00:08:57,921 --> 00:09:00,161 Speaker 2: notch and we've just really like gotten a hold of 187 00:09:00,201 --> 00:09:02,601 Speaker 2: those hormones and just gone bam, and what are we 188 00:09:02,641 --> 00:09:05,001 Speaker 2: going to do? We'll just take it out on them. 189 00:09:05,601 --> 00:09:09,641 Speaker 2: And sometimes I literally like leave them in their bedroom 190 00:09:09,681 --> 00:09:12,521 Speaker 2: at night, going why am I doing this? Please tell 191 00:09:12,561 --> 00:09:15,161 Speaker 2: me why I'm doing this, Please refresh my memory, Please 192 00:09:15,201 --> 00:09:16,881 Speaker 2: make me wake up tomorrow and make me feel better 193 00:09:16,961 --> 00:09:20,801 Speaker 2: about why I'm doing this. Yeah, because it's really tough 194 00:09:21,041 --> 00:09:24,121 Speaker 2: at the moment with these preteen hormones. And I know 195 00:09:24,201 --> 00:09:26,041 Speaker 2: that I'm only at the start of it, Katie, because 196 00:09:26,041 --> 00:09:29,681 Speaker 2: your girls are well and truly into it. But honestly, 197 00:09:29,761 --> 00:09:33,601 Speaker 2: the squabbling and the fighting and now all of a sudden, 198 00:09:33,641 --> 00:09:36,641 Speaker 2: my two are okay with being like physical towards each other. 199 00:09:36,881 --> 00:09:39,641 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's because they've forgot too much time off. One 200 00:09:39,641 --> 00:09:40,601 Speaker 1: of these is too long. 201 00:09:40,761 --> 00:09:42,601 Speaker 2: I don't know what to do. But my whole New 202 00:09:42,681 --> 00:09:44,401 Speaker 2: Year it knew me. I was like, Okay, how am 203 00:09:44,441 --> 00:09:46,361 Speaker 2: I going to change this up? How am I going 204 00:09:46,401 --> 00:09:49,401 Speaker 2: to like find some more patience within myself to be 205 00:09:49,441 --> 00:09:52,361 Speaker 2: able to stop and listen to them differently and hear 206 00:09:52,401 --> 00:09:54,721 Speaker 2: them differently so that I can respond a little. 207 00:09:54,521 --> 00:09:56,201 Speaker 1: Bit better than I am at the moment. 208 00:09:56,201 --> 00:09:59,041 Speaker 2: Because I feel like I'm explosive, and then I try 209 00:09:59,081 --> 00:10:01,081 Speaker 2: and calm it out, then explosive, then I calm it 210 00:10:01,081 --> 00:10:01,921 Speaker 2: that it's not going to work. 211 00:10:02,081 --> 00:10:05,321 Speaker 1: It's fel really good at doing that whole Like said, 212 00:10:05,561 --> 00:10:08,041 Speaker 1: it's not a New Year, New Me, like we should 213 00:10:08,081 --> 00:10:10,721 Speaker 1: be doing that every day kind of thing, Whereas I'm 214 00:10:10,761 --> 00:10:13,641 Speaker 1: like a bit the opposite in that I'm very much 215 00:10:13,841 --> 00:10:17,881 Speaker 1: like Friday, we can eat that food for lunch on 216 00:10:17,921 --> 00:10:20,841 Speaker 1: a Friday. I'm not putting KFC in my body on 217 00:10:20,881 --> 00:10:22,161 Speaker 1: a Monday. I'm not an idiot. 218 00:10:24,841 --> 00:10:27,681 Speaker 2: I honestly I understand that we all have those days, 219 00:10:27,721 --> 00:10:29,961 Speaker 2: but when it comes back to parenting, I feel like 220 00:10:30,041 --> 00:10:32,801 Speaker 2: it's just one particular area for me, Like, yeah, I'm 221 00:10:32,841 --> 00:10:35,121 Speaker 2: really good at that, right, New Year, New Meat, Nah, 222 00:10:35,161 --> 00:10:37,361 Speaker 2: it's an everyday thing. You don't need to be setting 223 00:10:37,401 --> 00:10:39,921 Speaker 2: goals for like twenty twenty five. How about set it 224 00:10:39,961 --> 00:10:42,321 Speaker 2: for the first three months of twenty twenty five. 225 00:10:42,281 --> 00:10:45,641 Speaker 1: And see what you cannot right when you're the person 226 00:10:45,681 --> 00:10:49,201 Speaker 1: that's sitting outside an apartment block at two in the 227 00:10:49,241 --> 00:10:51,601 Speaker 1: morning on New Yearesday, Like, well, there you go. What 228 00:10:51,681 --> 00:10:54,281 Speaker 1: do you always re al? We're starting it on the 229 00:10:54,361 --> 00:10:59,561 Speaker 1: second of January, and I'll tell you what dry January 230 00:10:59,641 --> 00:11:00,601 Speaker 1: isn't going very well.