1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:13,161 Speaker 1: Apologie Production. Welcome to the She Rises Podcast. I'm Ashi 2 00:00:13,281 --> 00:00:15,201 Speaker 1: and I'm Tiana. This podcast is. 3 00:00:15,201 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 2: About female empowerment and encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest, 4 00:00:18,801 --> 00:00:20,800 Speaker 2: and most authentic version of yourself. 5 00:00:20,961 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to new level. 6 00:00:23,321 --> 00:00:26,241 Speaker 1: We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone 7 00:00:26,281 --> 00:00:27,801 Speaker 1: else is too afraid to talk about. 8 00:00:28,401 --> 00:00:32,321 Speaker 2: Get ready for your next level of self. Welcome back 9 00:00:32,321 --> 00:00:35,001 Speaker 2: to she Rises. I'm your host, Tiana and Ashley. 10 00:00:35,201 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 3: Welcome back guys. 11 00:00:36,361 --> 00:00:38,401 Speaker 1: If you missed our first episode on Monday, it's a 12 00:00:38,521 --> 00:00:41,480 Speaker 1: kind of welcome to she Rises. Who is Tiana? How 13 00:00:41,521 --> 00:00:43,801 Speaker 1: we met? The plans the podcast? If you miss that 14 00:00:43,881 --> 00:00:46,121 Speaker 1: one makes you go and check it out. But today 15 00:00:46,161 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 1: we're talking New Year, new goals or are we I 16 00:00:50,480 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: feel like it's so good to set your intentions for 17 00:00:52,801 --> 00:00:54,481 Speaker 1: the new year, but sometimes it can be a little 18 00:00:54,521 --> 00:00:57,321 Speaker 1: bit here we go again. Yeah, we want to talk 19 00:00:57,321 --> 00:01:00,321 Speaker 1: about how we do it, our perspective on it. We 20 00:01:00,361 --> 00:01:02,881 Speaker 1: really want to reflect on twenty twenty four, talk about 21 00:01:02,881 --> 00:01:04,721 Speaker 1: our three fun words. It's going to be kind of 22 00:01:04,761 --> 00:01:08,801 Speaker 1: like really leaning into when we're making decisions, when we're 23 00:01:09,241 --> 00:01:10,521 Speaker 1: thinking about who we want to be and what we 24 00:01:10,601 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 1: want to bring into our life what we're saying yes 25 00:01:12,601 --> 00:01:14,481 Speaker 1: and no to. It's going to come down to these 26 00:01:14,521 --> 00:01:16,401 Speaker 1: three words. If they kind of don't a line, it's 27 00:01:16,441 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 1: a hard no. And a couple of lessons that we 28 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 1: learned last year as well that are really going to 29 00:01:20,721 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: help propel us forward in twenty twenty five. 30 00:01:23,121 --> 00:01:25,961 Speaker 2: I'm excited to say, not excited to say goodbye to 31 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:29,881 Speaker 2: twenty twenty three, but I am please see y'all, but 32 00:01:30,161 --> 00:01:33,321 Speaker 2: more of like grateful and happy that you know. I 33 00:01:33,321 --> 00:01:35,561 Speaker 2: feel like it was such at least speaking for myself, 34 00:01:35,601 --> 00:01:38,681 Speaker 2: it was such like a year of like hardship and 35 00:01:39,401 --> 00:01:42,241 Speaker 2: she's such a heavy word, but like more like I 36 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:44,241 Speaker 2: was learning a lot of lessons, Yeah, a lot of 37 00:01:44,321 --> 00:01:47,841 Speaker 2: lessons about myself, about life, about behaviors I want to 38 00:01:47,881 --> 00:01:50,041 Speaker 2: let go of, and like a radical conversation that we 39 00:01:50,081 --> 00:01:53,121 Speaker 2: get to have this around this new year, new me 40 00:01:53,241 --> 00:01:55,081 Speaker 2: kind of conversation, but with a little bit of a twist. 41 00:01:55,441 --> 00:01:58,401 Speaker 1: Last year was a lot and everyone that I know 42 00:01:58,721 --> 00:02:02,841 Speaker 1: or spoke to was going through so much transformation, transition, 43 00:02:03,521 --> 00:02:06,041 Speaker 1: a lot of shedding and like go I know, for myself, 44 00:02:06,081 --> 00:02:09,601 Speaker 1: it was huge, like where it was this time last 45 00:02:09,681 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: year to now, like I don't have baseline anymore. I've 46 00:02:13,401 --> 00:02:15,761 Speaker 1: had one brain surgery, I'm about to go into a second. 47 00:02:16,441 --> 00:02:20,801 Speaker 1: My lifestyle has changed, my relationships like done leaps and bounds. 48 00:02:21,441 --> 00:02:24,121 Speaker 1: I just feel so much lighter coming into this new year. 49 00:02:24,481 --> 00:02:26,401 Speaker 1: I know it is just like another day, but the 50 00:02:26,441 --> 00:02:28,561 Speaker 1: new year represents like a new staff for me, and 51 00:02:28,561 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 1: I really feel this like fresh energy. But it's also 52 00:02:31,841 --> 00:02:34,281 Speaker 1: really cool to reflect on last year and what it 53 00:02:34,281 --> 00:02:36,321 Speaker 1: did teach us and what we're going to be bringing 54 00:02:36,561 --> 00:02:40,401 Speaker 1: or saying yes or no to. And my word last 55 00:02:40,481 --> 00:02:44,401 Speaker 1: year was surrender because I felt like before that I 56 00:02:44,481 --> 00:02:48,881 Speaker 1: was very attached to people, to situations, to things. I 57 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:50,641 Speaker 1: just wanted to be a certain way. It was coming 58 00:02:50,641 --> 00:02:53,120 Speaker 1: from a place of fear. I wanted to just surrender me, 59 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:56,081 Speaker 1: like whatever's meant to be will be. The universe, it's 60 00:02:56,121 --> 00:02:58,441 Speaker 1: already ten sets ahead of me. Just have more trust 61 00:02:58,441 --> 00:03:01,521 Speaker 1: in the universe, have more trust in myself. Whatever happens 62 00:03:01,561 --> 00:03:04,801 Speaker 1: to me is there to serve a higher purpose. Even 63 00:03:04,841 --> 00:03:07,281 Speaker 1: like finding out about my brain aneurism. Yes, it was 64 00:03:07,321 --> 00:03:10,041 Speaker 1: one of the hardest days to hear that news and 65 00:03:10,561 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 1: learn I've got to have surgery. But honestly, it changed 66 00:03:12,881 --> 00:03:16,521 Speaker 1: so much for me for the better. And without me 67 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:19,361 Speaker 1: getting that diagnosis, I suppose I don't think I would 68 00:03:19,401 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 1: have changed as much as what I did, and I 69 00:03:21,721 --> 00:03:23,921 Speaker 1: wouldn't have been able to step into this new version 70 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:25,881 Speaker 1: of myself and be able to live this life I'm living. 71 00:03:26,041 --> 00:03:28,441 Speaker 1: I feel so much more emotionally peaceful with all the 72 00:03:28,441 --> 00:03:30,761 Speaker 1: decisions and changes I made last year, and it. 73 00:03:30,721 --> 00:03:32,361 Speaker 3: Feels really good. So I'm really glad. 74 00:03:32,361 --> 00:03:34,201 Speaker 1: I actually lent on that word, and that's why we 75 00:03:34,281 --> 00:03:36,161 Speaker 1: want to talk about our three words were brought in 76 00:03:36,201 --> 00:03:38,481 Speaker 1: three this year, not just one, but yeah, last year 77 00:03:38,481 --> 00:03:39,961 Speaker 1: for me was surrender, and I really felt like I 78 00:03:40,001 --> 00:03:43,041 Speaker 1: did surrender and just drop in and trust the process more. 79 00:03:43,281 --> 00:03:45,441 Speaker 1: So I'm definitely continuing that in but I'll share my 80 00:03:45,481 --> 00:03:50,521 Speaker 1: three words going into this year. It's fun, flow, and curiosity. 81 00:03:51,641 --> 00:03:53,961 Speaker 1: I just want to have more fun. I feel like 82 00:03:54,561 --> 00:03:56,841 Speaker 1: since I closed down baseline, I have invited more play 83 00:03:56,881 --> 00:03:59,081 Speaker 1: in and we said it in the last episode, but 84 00:03:59,201 --> 00:04:01,641 Speaker 1: things get to be however you want them to be. 85 00:04:02,161 --> 00:04:04,681 Speaker 1: We get to make work fun. We get to make 86 00:04:04,761 --> 00:04:06,801 Speaker 1: being with our partner's fun. We get to meet me 87 00:04:06,881 --> 00:04:08,721 Speaker 1: with our kids fun. We get to make whatever it 88 00:04:08,761 --> 00:04:10,161 Speaker 1: is fun. I want to bring more funy in if 89 00:04:10,161 --> 00:04:12,721 Speaker 1: it doesn't bring funny and I'm like, well do I want. 90 00:04:12,561 --> 00:04:12,961 Speaker 3: To do that? 91 00:04:13,641 --> 00:04:15,721 Speaker 1: And it's not to say running a business or being 92 00:04:15,761 --> 00:04:17,401 Speaker 1: a parent. That isn't things that you don't want to 93 00:04:17,401 --> 00:04:19,401 Speaker 1: do that you have to do. I don't really want 94 00:04:19,401 --> 00:04:22,441 Speaker 1: to change three nappies every single day, pooh nappies, but. 95 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:23,041 Speaker 3: You gotta do it. 96 00:04:23,041 --> 00:04:25,161 Speaker 1: It's not fun but whatever. But it just mean in 97 00:04:25,161 --> 00:04:26,761 Speaker 1: the gist of it, like as a whole, I want 98 00:04:26,801 --> 00:04:29,440 Speaker 1: to bring more fun in. I want to bring more flow. 99 00:04:29,561 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: I worked with a feminine coach last year and I 100 00:04:31,481 --> 00:04:34,201 Speaker 1: felt like I really had to drop in more and 101 00:04:34,721 --> 00:04:37,961 Speaker 1: trust more, feel more, and it helped me become more flowy. 102 00:04:38,481 --> 00:04:40,721 Speaker 1: The thing Steve and I went through last year as well. 103 00:04:41,041 --> 00:04:44,921 Speaker 1: He was such a rock for me and so that protector, 104 00:04:45,001 --> 00:04:47,041 Speaker 1: that rock and that support and I was even saying 105 00:04:47,041 --> 00:04:49,681 Speaker 1: to him last week since he stepped into more of that. 106 00:04:49,761 --> 00:04:51,681 Speaker 1: He's always been that, but I felt like last year 107 00:04:51,681 --> 00:04:53,601 Speaker 1: he was, I don't know, really stepped into it for me. 108 00:04:54,121 --> 00:04:56,801 Speaker 1: It helped me soften and flow more. I feel safer 109 00:04:56,841 --> 00:04:59,321 Speaker 1: to flow more and just trust more. And then the 110 00:04:59,401 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 1: last one's curiosity, which was inspired by you because you 111 00:05:02,201 --> 00:05:04,361 Speaker 1: said curiosity has always kind of led the way for you. 112 00:05:04,401 --> 00:05:07,161 Speaker 1: If you can leave with curiosity, for me, it just 113 00:05:07,241 --> 00:05:10,001 Speaker 1: means I've got an open mind. I'm like curious, like, ooh, 114 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: if I get this opportunity or I meet that person 115 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:16,241 Speaker 1: or something happens, like, get curious on it. What does 116 00:05:16,281 --> 00:05:19,121 Speaker 1: that feel like for me? What are the options? Where 117 00:05:19,121 --> 00:05:20,641 Speaker 1: can I go with that? Where could that lead to? 118 00:05:21,361 --> 00:05:22,881 Speaker 1: Even if it's not for me or I decide to 119 00:05:22,880 --> 00:05:24,761 Speaker 1: say no, I'm still gonna be really curious. I'm not 120 00:05:24,761 --> 00:05:27,281 Speaker 1: going to shut it down straight away out of fear, 121 00:05:27,481 --> 00:05:30,721 Speaker 1: out of judgment, out of a place of lack. I'm 122 00:05:30,721 --> 00:05:33,721 Speaker 1: going to be really curious on everything. Ask more questions, 123 00:05:33,801 --> 00:05:36,561 Speaker 1: do more research, explore it more. And that seems really 124 00:05:36,561 --> 00:05:38,241 Speaker 1: fun for me as well. Yeah, so I feel like 125 00:05:38,281 --> 00:05:39,921 Speaker 1: those three words together are really cool. 126 00:05:40,001 --> 00:05:42,561 Speaker 2: That's beautiful. They all kind of like interlinkers. They do, 127 00:05:42,841 --> 00:05:45,201 Speaker 2: and I feel like you've already done a lot of that. 128 00:05:45,281 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 2: I'd be curious. What does more play look like for 129 00:05:47,561 --> 00:05:48,121 Speaker 2: you this year? 130 00:05:48,521 --> 00:05:52,281 Speaker 1: More fun adventures with people that I love, people that 131 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:54,440 Speaker 1: bring up my inner child, people that I can be 132 00:05:54,481 --> 00:05:58,201 Speaker 1: silly and playful with. More holidays. I'm booking in the holidays, 133 00:05:58,201 --> 00:06:00,561 Speaker 1: this year and I'm making them happen. I feel so 134 00:06:00,721 --> 00:06:03,321 Speaker 1: free in fun of it, like everyone does. But last 135 00:06:03,401 --> 00:06:06,121 Speaker 1: year I said I wanted to do more decades and holidays, 136 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:07,841 Speaker 1: and yeah, we went in a couple of good ones, 137 00:06:08,201 --> 00:06:10,481 Speaker 1: like went to Europe with Taj, which was awesome, but 138 00:06:10,521 --> 00:06:12,361 Speaker 1: Steve and I didn't get away like we said we would. 139 00:06:12,481 --> 00:06:14,481 Speaker 1: And I want to bring more of that in. And 140 00:06:14,521 --> 00:06:17,361 Speaker 1: it's also the friendships that I'm around. A lot of 141 00:06:17,401 --> 00:06:20,401 Speaker 1: the friendships I'm around are really playful and feminine, fun, 142 00:06:20,601 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 1: and they've got a very curious mindset. Yeah, the older 143 00:06:23,201 --> 00:06:25,081 Speaker 1: you get, you do get pickery and choosier with who 144 00:06:25,161 --> 00:06:27,640 Speaker 1: you spend your time with. And it doesn't mean there's 145 00:06:27,681 --> 00:06:30,441 Speaker 1: any bad blood or you hate anyone or sometimes something 146 00:06:30,601 --> 00:06:33,241 Speaker 1: hasn't even happened, but you're more drawn to the people 147 00:06:33,241 --> 00:06:36,561 Speaker 1: that align with where you're at right now. So true, 148 00:06:36,761 --> 00:06:37,801 Speaker 1: what are your three words? 149 00:06:38,041 --> 00:06:41,281 Speaker 2: I love that that's so beautiful. You feels good good, 150 00:06:41,401 --> 00:06:43,321 Speaker 2: And that's what twenty twenty five gets to be about. 151 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:45,561 Speaker 2: It gets to feel good. Actually, we had this conversation 152 00:06:45,641 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 2: the other day where we were like, why don't we 153 00:06:48,801 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 2: get to have it all? Yes, Like that's the whole 154 00:06:51,201 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 2: conversation in itself, but like, why don't we get to 155 00:06:53,801 --> 00:06:55,281 Speaker 2: have it all, all of the things that we want 156 00:06:55,281 --> 00:06:57,841 Speaker 2: and that bring us joy, And like why can't life 157 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 2: be about filling it with things? And I think you 158 00:07:00,481 --> 00:07:03,681 Speaker 2: do this really beautifully already, Like we'll talk about micro moments, 159 00:07:03,961 --> 00:07:06,721 Speaker 2: and I think you do this really beautifully where you 160 00:07:07,041 --> 00:07:10,161 Speaker 2: interject the things that you want in the micro moments 161 00:07:10,201 --> 00:07:12,001 Speaker 2: of life, you know, like when you spend time with 162 00:07:12,041 --> 00:07:14,761 Speaker 2: the fam, or like you know, when you're with Steve 163 00:07:14,881 --> 00:07:17,121 Speaker 2: or with the kiddies, or like with me or like 164 00:07:17,241 --> 00:07:19,481 Speaker 2: other friends. She doesn't allowed to have other friends. 165 00:07:20,801 --> 00:07:22,281 Speaker 3: You can love them, but you must love me more. 166 00:07:23,001 --> 00:07:24,401 Speaker 3: It's all, It's real. The other day I was like, 167 00:07:24,401 --> 00:07:26,761 Speaker 3: that is so us so territorial. 168 00:07:27,041 --> 00:07:29,121 Speaker 2: But yeah, you do that really beautifully where you interject 169 00:07:29,121 --> 00:07:30,961 Speaker 2: the things that you want in your everyday life. And 170 00:07:31,001 --> 00:07:32,441 Speaker 2: it's just like that's what it gets to be about 171 00:07:33,281 --> 00:07:35,841 Speaker 2: every day, Like that life is the micro moments. Yes, 172 00:07:35,881 --> 00:07:38,241 Speaker 2: it's everywhere, and you get to experience it everywhere. 173 00:07:38,241 --> 00:07:40,241 Speaker 1: Because I felt like the playfulness was more just when 174 00:07:40,281 --> 00:07:42,361 Speaker 1: I was with my kids. Yeah, I'm like, why can't 175 00:07:42,361 --> 00:07:44,601 Speaker 1: I bring that to every aspect of my life? Why 176 00:07:44,601 --> 00:07:46,761 Speaker 1: can't I make work more fun being more fun with 177 00:07:46,801 --> 00:07:48,561 Speaker 1: my husband. Why does it have to be serious? And 178 00:07:48,681 --> 00:07:50,641 Speaker 1: like does a parent have a work hat on all 179 00:07:50,641 --> 00:07:52,281 Speaker 1: the time? Yeah, Like I want to be playful and 180 00:07:52,281 --> 00:07:54,881 Speaker 1: slip with him as well, and like being more conscious 181 00:07:54,921 --> 00:07:56,281 Speaker 1: of that because you can get kind of stuck in 182 00:07:56,281 --> 00:07:58,001 Speaker 1: your ways and stuck in a rat and get in 183 00:07:58,001 --> 00:08:00,081 Speaker 1: the groundhog day of like routine. 184 00:07:59,801 --> 00:08:01,001 Speaker 2: Or whatever every day life. 185 00:08:01,121 --> 00:08:02,761 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I felt like when I ran basline, it 186 00:08:02,841 --> 00:08:04,561 Speaker 1: was very much in that it's very in my masculine, 187 00:08:04,641 --> 00:08:07,601 Speaker 1: very struck, and I just did not feel good. And 188 00:08:07,641 --> 00:08:09,241 Speaker 1: now it gets to feel good because I'm choosing to 189 00:08:09,281 --> 00:08:11,521 Speaker 1: do things differently. Doesn't mean it wasn't hard to close 190 00:08:11,601 --> 00:08:14,481 Speaker 1: that down and make that decision, but now it feels 191 00:08:14,481 --> 00:08:15,361 Speaker 1: more flowy and easy. 192 00:08:16,041 --> 00:08:17,641 Speaker 3: But what are your three words? Enough about me? 193 00:08:18,641 --> 00:08:22,121 Speaker 2: Know more? My three words? So last year I had 194 00:08:22,121 --> 00:08:25,161 Speaker 2: three words as well. Last year was devotion and the 195 00:08:25,201 --> 00:08:28,321 Speaker 2: second one that I can remember was action regardless of emotion. 196 00:08:28,641 --> 00:08:30,441 Speaker 3: Oh wow, there's two. 197 00:08:30,361 --> 00:08:31,561 Speaker 2: Things that I want to speak to you on that. 198 00:08:31,681 --> 00:08:35,561 Speaker 2: So whilst I allowed myself to become and my focus 199 00:08:35,721 --> 00:08:38,721 Speaker 2: was self discipline, I think there's absolutely a time and 200 00:08:38,721 --> 00:08:40,721 Speaker 2: a place for that. And it was a really beautiful 201 00:08:40,961 --> 00:08:43,081 Speaker 2: lesson that I really wanted to learn over the year 202 00:08:43,201 --> 00:08:47,321 Speaker 2: of like consistency with myself and commitment to myself and 203 00:08:47,321 --> 00:08:48,641 Speaker 2: the things that I was saying that I was going 204 00:08:48,721 --> 00:08:51,401 Speaker 2: to commit to regardless of how I may feel day 205 00:08:51,441 --> 00:08:53,761 Speaker 2: to day, because like we know, like that fluctuates. As 206 00:08:53,801 --> 00:08:55,121 Speaker 2: soon as I get a period, all I want to 207 00:08:55,121 --> 00:08:56,681 Speaker 2: do is sydneyt ice cream, Like do you know what 208 00:08:56,721 --> 00:08:59,841 Speaker 2: I mean? Like it's like those like influxes of different moods, 209 00:08:59,881 --> 00:09:02,881 Speaker 2: and I really just wanted to prove to myself that 210 00:09:03,321 --> 00:09:05,721 Speaker 2: I could do those things and be really proud of 211 00:09:05,761 --> 00:09:08,681 Speaker 2: myself for that. And so even the word devotion for 212 00:09:08,721 --> 00:09:11,521 Speaker 2: me last year was like I'm staying devoted to myself. 213 00:09:11,961 --> 00:09:15,481 Speaker 2: Love that. And the interesting thing about that vulnerable share. 214 00:09:15,561 --> 00:09:18,241 Speaker 2: But I'll probably touch on this in a different episode. 215 00:09:18,481 --> 00:09:20,921 Speaker 2: There was a part where I didn't stay devoted to 216 00:09:20,921 --> 00:09:24,001 Speaker 2: myself in a relationship last year, and so it was 217 00:09:24,001 --> 00:09:26,641 Speaker 2: almost like life had given me an opportunity to say, Hey, 218 00:09:26,641 --> 00:09:30,121 Speaker 2: how devoted are you to yourself? And I had to 219 00:09:30,161 --> 00:09:33,321 Speaker 2: go through that experience of not one hundred percent devoting 220 00:09:33,321 --> 00:09:37,241 Speaker 2: to myself but giving that to somebody else instead. And 221 00:09:37,321 --> 00:09:39,561 Speaker 2: so I think that was a huge lesson for me 222 00:09:39,801 --> 00:09:43,801 Speaker 2: in twenty twenty four, but also is and has made 223 00:09:43,881 --> 00:09:46,241 Speaker 2: me who I am right now. And I cannot tell 224 00:09:46,281 --> 00:09:49,481 Speaker 2: you the contrast of who I was six months ago. 225 00:09:49,641 --> 00:09:50,921 Speaker 3: See the difference to who. 226 00:09:50,761 --> 00:09:53,361 Speaker 2: I am now so like bizarre and it's amazing. 227 00:09:53,561 --> 00:09:55,361 Speaker 1: I had been weird to almost watch it because I've 228 00:09:55,361 --> 00:09:57,761 Speaker 1: like watched the transition. It's seen it in real time. Yeah, 229 00:09:57,801 --> 00:10:00,801 Speaker 1: but you're amazing beforehand, but then it's like everything's changed. 230 00:10:01,281 --> 00:10:02,001 Speaker 1: It's so cool. 231 00:10:02,081 --> 00:10:05,921 Speaker 2: Yeah, so many different parts and yeah, so a lot 232 00:10:05,961 --> 00:10:08,881 Speaker 2: of last year was really just like rebuilding that relationship 233 00:10:08,921 --> 00:10:11,841 Speaker 2: with myself, as it is every year. But this year, 234 00:10:12,321 --> 00:10:15,321 Speaker 2: whilst action regardless of emotion has the time and a place, 235 00:10:16,041 --> 00:10:19,041 Speaker 2: I really didn't honor what I wanted and needed in 236 00:10:19,081 --> 00:10:22,881 Speaker 2: some places. And so this year, right my word one 237 00:10:22,921 --> 00:10:26,561 Speaker 2: of them is still devotion, but devotion to what it 238 00:10:26,641 --> 00:10:28,881 Speaker 2: is that I need and want, but tapping into my 239 00:10:28,921 --> 00:10:32,161 Speaker 2: intuition with it. Yes, discipline always we need to discipline 240 00:10:32,161 --> 00:10:34,721 Speaker 2: and self control on all those things, but checking in 241 00:10:34,761 --> 00:10:36,881 Speaker 2: with myself first, is this actually direction I want to 242 00:10:36,881 --> 00:10:39,561 Speaker 2: go in? Is this actually aligned? Is this what I 243 00:10:39,681 --> 00:10:42,321 Speaker 2: genuinely want? Or is this what I think I should 244 00:10:42,361 --> 00:10:44,801 Speaker 2: want because other people want that, you know, And I 245 00:10:44,841 --> 00:10:47,561 Speaker 2: think I've had trouble with that in the past of 246 00:10:47,641 --> 00:10:50,401 Speaker 2: being like no, no, no, I want this, I want XYZ, 247 00:10:51,001 --> 00:10:54,201 Speaker 2: but then deep down having resistance to it and being like, 248 00:10:54,201 --> 00:10:56,961 Speaker 2: oh do I actually yeah, So there's that part. 249 00:10:57,201 --> 00:10:57,401 Speaker 1: Yeah. 250 00:10:57,841 --> 00:11:00,921 Speaker 2: My other one is curiosity. Yes, so I like live 251 00:11:01,001 --> 00:11:04,601 Speaker 2: by the word curiosity. I love what curiosity encapsulates because 252 00:11:04,601 --> 00:11:07,961 Speaker 2: there's no thing that you can't work through, move through, discover, 253 00:11:08,761 --> 00:11:12,521 Speaker 2: or create when curiosity. Yeah, when you have curiosity, and 254 00:11:12,561 --> 00:11:16,361 Speaker 2: it's like curiosity about myself right, because every year we grow, 255 00:11:16,441 --> 00:11:18,921 Speaker 2: evolve and learn and change, Like I a different person 256 00:11:18,921 --> 00:11:22,081 Speaker 2: than I was six months ago, being curious about how 257 00:11:22,121 --> 00:11:26,041 Speaker 2: I'm changing, Curiosity about what's different about me? Does this 258 00:11:26,121 --> 00:11:28,721 Speaker 2: behavior align with me? Still? Does this not? Does this 259 00:11:28,801 --> 00:11:31,281 Speaker 2: person align with me? Still? How am I showing up 260 00:11:31,361 --> 00:11:34,401 Speaker 2: other people? And just curiosity of every single thing in 261 00:11:34,441 --> 00:11:38,321 Speaker 2: my life and not always just always asking questions? And 262 00:11:38,361 --> 00:11:41,281 Speaker 2: my other one is play Oh so fun. Yeah. So 263 00:11:41,681 --> 00:11:44,521 Speaker 2: I've mentioned in a different podcast that I've been through 264 00:11:44,561 --> 00:11:48,801 Speaker 2: different stages with friends where I've had like isolated periods 265 00:11:48,881 --> 00:11:53,481 Speaker 2: or lots of loan time time by myself, and life 266 00:11:53,521 --> 00:11:55,881 Speaker 2: is so much more richer when you have genuine people 267 00:11:55,921 --> 00:11:59,081 Speaker 2: in your life, you know, like our friendship, and this year, 268 00:11:59,121 --> 00:12:00,961 Speaker 2: I really want it to be about like following my 269 00:12:01,001 --> 00:12:04,521 Speaker 2: intuition and the devotion, but incorporating play into it, you know, 270 00:12:04,601 --> 00:12:06,801 Speaker 2: because it's like I'm having so much fun and the 271 00:12:06,801 --> 00:12:08,961 Speaker 2: more fun that I have, the more things come into 272 00:12:08,961 --> 00:12:09,361 Speaker 2: my life. 273 00:12:09,481 --> 00:12:11,441 Speaker 3: So true and a different frequency you. 274 00:12:11,401 --> 00:12:13,481 Speaker 2: Are, You're in a different frequency, and it's just the 275 00:12:13,521 --> 00:12:15,361 Speaker 2: more that you increase in, the more fun you have. 276 00:12:15,561 --> 00:12:19,121 Speaker 2: It's like the more your energy rises, the better you 277 00:12:19,161 --> 00:12:21,801 Speaker 2: feel day to day, the more energy you have, and 278 00:12:21,881 --> 00:12:25,641 Speaker 2: the more fulfilled and field that you feel. Well, like 279 00:12:25,681 --> 00:12:29,681 Speaker 2: specifically talking about myself, but that's something that I want 280 00:12:29,721 --> 00:12:32,561 Speaker 2: to really push the levels on, you know, like I 281 00:12:32,601 --> 00:12:35,881 Speaker 2: really want to see like how good it can actually 282 00:12:35,921 --> 00:12:39,321 Speaker 2: get and continue to hold like that frequency of play 283 00:12:39,361 --> 00:12:42,761 Speaker 2: and enjoyment and love and pleasure, life and pleasure and 284 00:12:42,841 --> 00:12:45,561 Speaker 2: all of the beautiful things life has to offer, and 285 00:12:45,601 --> 00:12:47,401 Speaker 2: going like why do I have to put a cap 286 00:12:47,441 --> 00:12:49,361 Speaker 2: on these things? Do you know what I mean? Because 287 00:12:49,361 --> 00:12:51,201 Speaker 2: I've always done that. I've been in the past, I've 288 00:12:51,241 --> 00:12:54,281 Speaker 2: always limited myself of how good things can get for me, 289 00:12:54,961 --> 00:12:56,441 Speaker 2: you know, or if it does a little bit too much. 290 00:12:56,441 --> 00:12:57,801 Speaker 2: Then I put myself down a bit, you know, I 291 00:12:57,921 --> 00:12:59,841 Speaker 2: knock myself down a bit, and I'm like so done 292 00:12:59,881 --> 00:13:02,441 Speaker 2: doing that, Like why doesn't it get to be beautiful 293 00:13:02,441 --> 00:13:05,281 Speaker 2: and fun and playful and you get to enjoy so 294 00:13:05,361 --> 00:13:08,081 Speaker 2: true the one life that you actually do have. So 295 00:13:08,121 --> 00:13:10,081 Speaker 2: that's my three words for them. 296 00:13:10,321 --> 00:13:11,161 Speaker 3: I love that. 297 00:13:12,441 --> 00:13:15,441 Speaker 1: Let's talk about goal setting. How do you have a 298 00:13:15,481 --> 00:13:18,401 Speaker 1: certain structure you do with it? Do you write everything down? 299 00:13:18,441 --> 00:13:20,561 Speaker 1: Do you put it in canva? Do you have a 300 00:13:20,601 --> 00:13:23,041 Speaker 1: system in place? How do you set your goals and 301 00:13:23,041 --> 00:13:24,401 Speaker 1: intentions for and you y are? 302 00:13:24,801 --> 00:13:27,441 Speaker 2: I think for me, I found in the past when 303 00:13:27,441 --> 00:13:29,281 Speaker 2: I write all these lists and do all these things 304 00:13:29,281 --> 00:13:32,761 Speaker 2: in goal set, I sometimes can overdo it where I 305 00:13:32,761 --> 00:13:35,801 Speaker 2: write all these different things and then I create overwhelmed 306 00:13:35,801 --> 00:13:38,681 Speaker 2: for myself. It's like my goals have previously overwhelmed me 307 00:13:39,201 --> 00:13:41,561 Speaker 2: because I've just done too many different things, and I'm like, 308 00:13:41,801 --> 00:13:44,801 Speaker 2: what even are my goals anymore? So for me, what 309 00:13:44,881 --> 00:13:46,721 Speaker 2: I like to do is I like to live by 310 00:13:46,761 --> 00:13:50,241 Speaker 2: the three words and just keep it simple. So asking 311 00:13:50,281 --> 00:13:54,041 Speaker 2: myself questions and making decisions based on those three goals. 312 00:13:54,481 --> 00:13:56,361 Speaker 2: Is the decision that I'm going to make right now? 313 00:13:56,401 --> 00:13:59,321 Speaker 2: In this moment in alignment with those three goals, yes 314 00:13:59,401 --> 00:14:03,721 Speaker 2: or no? Then I decide based on that. So, okay, 315 00:14:03,801 --> 00:14:06,361 Speaker 2: if it's not in alignment with my devotion to myself, 316 00:14:06,601 --> 00:14:09,201 Speaker 2: do I continue down this path? No? Okay, cool? Then 317 00:14:09,241 --> 00:14:11,561 Speaker 2: I take action. Then it pushes me in the direction 318 00:14:11,641 --> 00:14:14,721 Speaker 2: of devotion, right or same thing with curiosity and play 319 00:14:15,321 --> 00:14:18,161 Speaker 2: and so that has been really powerful for me to 320 00:14:18,281 --> 00:14:22,001 Speaker 2: not create emotional overwhelm. Yeah, and I find that I 321 00:14:22,041 --> 00:14:23,921 Speaker 2: always somehow end up getting to where I want. 322 00:14:23,761 --> 00:14:27,281 Speaker 1: To go anyway beautiful, Yeah, yeah, cool step and I 323 00:14:27,281 --> 00:14:30,161 Speaker 1: did last year. I did my own goal setting session. 324 00:14:30,241 --> 00:14:31,881 Speaker 1: He did his own, and then we came together as 325 00:14:31,881 --> 00:14:34,121 Speaker 1: well and spoke about like our family goals and couple 326 00:14:34,201 --> 00:14:36,721 Speaker 1: goals and everything. But I kind of break mine up 327 00:14:36,841 --> 00:14:38,801 Speaker 1: and I love to write things down because it's almost 328 00:14:38,841 --> 00:14:40,241 Speaker 1: like I do a vision board, and I write it 329 00:14:40,281 --> 00:14:42,281 Speaker 1: down because if it's in front of me, it's all 330 00:14:42,481 --> 00:14:44,481 Speaker 1: in the forefront of my mind and I can visually 331 00:14:44,521 --> 00:14:47,161 Speaker 1: see it. And then I've got my things I'm working towards, 332 00:14:47,201 --> 00:14:48,801 Speaker 1: and then from what I've gotten written down, I then 333 00:14:48,841 --> 00:14:51,521 Speaker 1: create action plans around each of those. I love what 334 00:14:51,561 --> 00:14:54,121 Speaker 1: you said about the overwhelm because there is some things 335 00:14:54,161 --> 00:14:56,481 Speaker 1: that I won't achieve, but at the end of the day, 336 00:14:56,601 --> 00:14:59,081 Speaker 1: if I don't, there's no shame in myself for or 337 00:14:59,121 --> 00:15:01,401 Speaker 1: punish myself. I might just pop on the next year's 338 00:15:01,401 --> 00:15:03,721 Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, there wasn't enough space or time for that. 339 00:15:04,001 --> 00:15:07,081 Speaker 1: You obviously in prioriti That's cool, that's okay, not meant 340 00:15:07,121 --> 00:15:09,201 Speaker 1: to be right now, but yeah, I break it up 341 00:15:09,201 --> 00:15:15,201 Speaker 1: into like family, finances, freedom, health, and fun under each 342 00:15:15,241 --> 00:15:17,601 Speaker 1: of those categories, or make a list of what that 343 00:15:17,641 --> 00:15:19,161 Speaker 1: looks like to me, what it feels like to me, 344 00:15:19,241 --> 00:15:20,721 Speaker 1: and then what actually need to put in place to 345 00:15:20,761 --> 00:15:24,201 Speaker 1: make that happen. All of those are really important for me. 346 00:15:24,761 --> 00:15:28,401 Speaker 1: They're like my pillars to live my best life, really 347 00:15:28,841 --> 00:15:30,041 Speaker 1: and it was really cool. A lot of the stuff 348 00:15:30,081 --> 00:15:32,601 Speaker 1: so we put on ours this year we've overachieved, which 349 00:15:32,681 --> 00:15:35,121 Speaker 1: is so cool. Yes, it's like setting that bar. And 350 00:15:35,401 --> 00:15:38,561 Speaker 1: also when we set a goal, we do make it 351 00:15:38,601 --> 00:15:40,881 Speaker 1: that little bit more edgy, and it's like even our 352 00:15:40,881 --> 00:15:43,721 Speaker 1: finances goals, like it's probably more than what we think 353 00:15:43,761 --> 00:15:47,441 Speaker 1: we can do, but set the bar high, manifest that, like, 354 00:15:47,521 --> 00:15:49,881 Speaker 1: believe that you can do that. So that's how we 355 00:15:49,881 --> 00:15:52,081 Speaker 1: break up our goals and then I love to do 356 00:15:52,121 --> 00:15:54,281 Speaker 1: a vision board. I just find them so much fun. 357 00:15:54,481 --> 00:15:56,481 Speaker 1: And it's not even just putting a picture on there. 358 00:15:56,481 --> 00:15:59,761 Speaker 1: It's like putting something realistic. So that helps me visualize 359 00:16:00,081 --> 00:16:02,361 Speaker 1: and get in that feeling vibration of what that will 360 00:16:02,361 --> 00:16:05,681 Speaker 1: feel like when that's mine. I really creative board through 361 00:16:05,721 --> 00:16:07,761 Speaker 1: like a whole experience every time I look at it, 362 00:16:08,121 --> 00:16:10,481 Speaker 1: like I can see myself doing that, Like that is 363 00:16:10,561 --> 00:16:13,521 Speaker 1: me in that house, in that locational That is me 364 00:16:14,041 --> 00:16:17,201 Speaker 1: traveling business class to that beautiful. 365 00:16:16,761 --> 00:16:18,681 Speaker 2: Spot, Like that's my dream card. Yeah. 366 00:16:19,001 --> 00:16:21,841 Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely create this experience around it and find 367 00:16:22,361 --> 00:16:26,121 Speaker 1: photos on Pinterest that represent that feeling for me, so 368 00:16:26,161 --> 00:16:29,001 Speaker 1: it's not just a pretty photo. So that's kind of 369 00:16:29,001 --> 00:16:31,081 Speaker 1: I break up the goals do a vision board, and 370 00:16:31,081 --> 00:16:33,401 Speaker 1: that just gets me in this really good energy to like, 371 00:16:33,641 --> 00:16:35,921 Speaker 1: this is what I'm wanting to achieve, now let's go 372 00:16:36,001 --> 00:16:36,281 Speaker 1: for it. 373 00:16:36,361 --> 00:16:38,721 Speaker 2: I love that and it's so beautiful because it creates 374 00:16:39,001 --> 00:16:41,161 Speaker 2: so much clarity, direction. 375 00:16:40,961 --> 00:16:42,281 Speaker 3: Forward, so much clarity. 376 00:16:42,361 --> 00:16:44,521 Speaker 2: Do you really need that? You need the clarity and 377 00:16:44,601 --> 00:16:46,521 Speaker 2: direction to be able to go, Okay, what is it 378 00:16:46,561 --> 00:16:48,721 Speaker 2: that I do want for this year? How am I 379 00:16:48,761 --> 00:16:51,561 Speaker 2: going to get there? And creating that like really tangible 380 00:16:52,121 --> 00:16:54,881 Speaker 2: action plan so that you don't go like I'm just 381 00:16:54,921 --> 00:16:58,041 Speaker 2: winging it here, and it's cool. I think both perspectives 382 00:16:58,041 --> 00:17:00,161 Speaker 2: are really cool as well, because it's like you kind 383 00:17:00,201 --> 00:17:03,281 Speaker 2: of need different things at different levels. If you're someone 384 00:17:03,321 --> 00:17:05,561 Speaker 2: who's like constantly planning all the time and then you're 385 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:09,160 Speaker 2: never following through, it's like, is the planning beneficial for 386 00:17:09,201 --> 00:17:10,840 Speaker 2: you in the way that you're doing it? Okay? Cool 387 00:17:10,880 --> 00:17:13,640 Speaker 2: if not? Pivot. And then if you're somebody who's in 388 00:17:13,681 --> 00:17:15,920 Speaker 2: the stage where you're like ready to take action, you're clear, 389 00:17:16,041 --> 00:17:18,761 Speaker 2: you know, you're like in the zone, then it's like, okay, 390 00:17:18,801 --> 00:17:21,400 Speaker 2: create the action plan for you, get clear on exactly 391 00:17:21,481 --> 00:17:23,801 Speaker 2: what it is you want take action towards those things. 392 00:17:23,961 --> 00:17:27,161 Speaker 2: So it's like also discernment on like where you're at, 393 00:17:27,201 --> 00:17:28,001 Speaker 2: what you're doing. 394 00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:29,840 Speaker 3: What you're working towards, what. 395 00:17:29,801 --> 00:17:32,321 Speaker 2: Different behaviors that you have when it comes to like 396 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:35,681 Speaker 2: you know, procrastination or not goals and things like that. 397 00:17:36,281 --> 00:17:38,001 Speaker 2: But then on the other side of that, I loved 398 00:17:38,001 --> 00:17:39,680 Speaker 2: what you said of like aiming higher than what you 399 00:17:39,681 --> 00:17:42,561 Speaker 2: think that you can achieve, because the likelihood of you 400 00:17:43,041 --> 00:17:46,041 Speaker 2: achieving more is going to be higher because you've set 401 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:48,921 Speaker 2: the goal. So high that you might actually surprise yourself 402 00:17:49,281 --> 00:17:50,840 Speaker 2: what you'll be able to achieve. 403 00:17:50,561 --> 00:17:51,601 Speaker 3: And when you set them too. 404 00:17:51,721 --> 00:17:53,281 Speaker 1: When I found with me when I went to set 405 00:17:53,281 --> 00:17:56,080 Speaker 1: some of the goals, I was like, oh, And when 406 00:17:56,120 --> 00:17:58,561 Speaker 1: I had that doubt, I was like, Okay, what limited 407 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:01,001 Speaker 1: beliefs here? Who's told you that you can't do that? 408 00:18:01,400 --> 00:18:03,400 Speaker 1: Where have you limited to yourself? Where do you have 409 00:18:03,441 --> 00:18:05,480 Speaker 1: evidence that you can't do that? And then it's like 410 00:18:05,481 --> 00:18:07,120 Speaker 1: I got to go and journal from that. Yeah, So 411 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 1: I remember taking it. I said to Steve one afternoon, 412 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 1: like you might if I just go out for a 413 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:11,561 Speaker 1: couple of hours. I took my journal and went down 414 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:13,640 Speaker 1: to the park for like over three hours, and I 415 00:18:13,721 --> 00:18:15,600 Speaker 1: journaled all the limiting beliefs that came up for me 416 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:17,561 Speaker 1: at that time when I was doing my goals, like 417 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:20,561 Speaker 1: I don't think I can achieve this because XYZ, And 418 00:18:20,561 --> 00:18:23,120 Speaker 1: then I had to reframe that sentence I can do 419 00:18:23,241 --> 00:18:26,561 Speaker 1: this regardless of outside da da da, and I would 420 00:18:26,561 --> 00:18:28,600 Speaker 1: reframe each of them and I was like, cool, that 421 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:30,680 Speaker 1: gets me my new story. That's my new language. I'm 422 00:18:30,681 --> 00:18:32,201 Speaker 1: not going to use that language anymore because that will 423 00:18:32,201 --> 00:18:35,120 Speaker 1: become my truth. Your body feels what you're thinking and 424 00:18:35,201 --> 00:18:37,960 Speaker 1: becomes your reality. So be so mindful of the language 425 00:18:37,961 --> 00:18:40,480 Speaker 1: that you're using, so aim high and if you get 426 00:18:40,521 --> 00:18:43,921 Speaker 1: that little equila resistance, okay, let's explore that. Let's take 427 00:18:43,921 --> 00:18:45,481 Speaker 1: a moment, and why do you think like that? 428 00:18:45,721 --> 00:18:47,680 Speaker 2: How cool is that? As well? It's like this self 429 00:18:47,681 --> 00:18:51,041 Speaker 2: inquiry work. It's like you're already overcoming your own challenges 430 00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:54,680 Speaker 2: before they even like manifest in relax exactly, like before 431 00:18:54,681 --> 00:18:56,480 Speaker 2: you get to let's say that level of money and 432 00:18:56,521 --> 00:18:58,720 Speaker 2: then your nervous system starts to freak out and you're like, 433 00:18:59,120 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 2: I can't hold this, I can't do this. This is 434 00:19:01,201 --> 00:19:03,921 Speaker 2: you know or imposter syo or whatever kicks in. It's 435 00:19:04,001 --> 00:19:07,641 Speaker 2: like you've already cross that bridge. Yeah, before you get there. 436 00:19:08,561 --> 00:19:12,481 Speaker 2: I'm choosing to do this self inquiry work obliterate these 437 00:19:12,521 --> 00:19:15,281 Speaker 2: like limiting beliefs that we like set on ourselves so 438 00:19:15,321 --> 00:19:17,360 Speaker 2: that when it does come you're like, no, this makes 439 00:19:17,400 --> 00:19:19,601 Speaker 2: so much sense. This makes sense that I'm here. 440 00:19:19,921 --> 00:19:21,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, it's cool to do it if you're in 441 00:19:21,761 --> 00:19:24,561 Speaker 1: a relationship as well, because we did our goal separately 442 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:26,401 Speaker 1: and then brought it together. So I've got to see 443 00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:28,160 Speaker 1: what things he wanted to achieve, and maybe there was 444 00:19:28,201 --> 00:19:29,721 Speaker 1: a destination that he wanted to go to and that 445 00:19:29,801 --> 00:19:31,321 Speaker 1: I didn't like. A few years ago, he wanted. 446 00:19:31,080 --> 00:19:31,720 Speaker 2: To go to Egypt. 447 00:19:31,961 --> 00:19:34,120 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, it's just not a place I've 448 00:19:34,120 --> 00:19:35,721 Speaker 1: ever wanted to go. And he went on a solo trip. 449 00:19:36,321 --> 00:19:39,360 Speaker 1: And there's just different discussions around what he's desiring, why 450 00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:41,161 Speaker 1: he wants it, how it fits in with each other 451 00:19:41,201 --> 00:19:44,281 Speaker 1: because we're two separate people. Yes we're together, but we're 452 00:19:44,281 --> 00:19:46,961 Speaker 1: still our own individual peoples with different desires and wants 453 00:19:46,961 --> 00:19:48,840 Speaker 1: and needs. And it's cool to be able to have 454 00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:51,641 Speaker 1: those discussions of like, oh, cool, this is really important 455 00:19:51,681 --> 00:19:53,080 Speaker 1: to you, Like for me going on a girl ship 456 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:55,360 Speaker 1: every year, I would love to take that as every 457 00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:57,161 Speaker 1: single year for the rest of my life. 458 00:19:57,481 --> 00:19:58,881 Speaker 3: For him, not really that important. 459 00:19:59,041 --> 00:20:00,761 Speaker 1: He'd rather go with family or just go on a 460 00:20:00,761 --> 00:20:03,360 Speaker 1: solo chip or go on a golf trip for the weekend. 461 00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:05,761 Speaker 1: But for me, like, I love my girl, I love 462 00:20:05,761 --> 00:20:08,880 Speaker 1: being playful and silly and going with friends that share 463 00:20:08,921 --> 00:20:10,841 Speaker 1: the love of food that I do and like fitness 464 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:12,920 Speaker 1: or whatever. You know, we're off to Balley in April. 465 00:20:12,921 --> 00:20:13,681 Speaker 3: Can't wait and come. 466 00:20:16,921 --> 00:20:18,801 Speaker 1: So it's really cool to have those conversations with your 467 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,241 Speaker 1: partner as well, so we just want to talk about 468 00:20:21,241 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: that to kind of simplify. Maybe you'll will resonate with 469 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:25,920 Speaker 1: how Tiana does things or how I do things, but 470 00:20:26,321 --> 00:20:28,641 Speaker 1: I like to simplify it. But I'm also like quite masculine, 471 00:20:28,721 --> 00:20:30,721 Speaker 1: Like I want structure. I want to see it nice 472 00:20:30,761 --> 00:20:32,441 Speaker 1: and clear, and then be able to create action plan 473 00:20:32,561 --> 00:20:35,281 Speaker 1: around that and tackle any limiting beliefs that come in 474 00:20:35,360 --> 00:20:35,881 Speaker 1: the process. 475 00:20:36,001 --> 00:20:38,401 Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely, And you know it's cool about that as well 476 00:20:38,441 --> 00:20:41,481 Speaker 2: as like on different years I have done different things. Yeah, 477 00:20:41,921 --> 00:20:44,201 Speaker 2: where I'm at, so like that's cool. Said, last year, 478 00:20:44,281 --> 00:20:46,521 Speaker 2: I did the three words and then I just stuck 479 00:20:46,561 --> 00:20:48,281 Speaker 2: to that, and in the year before that, I did 480 00:20:48,321 --> 00:20:50,880 Speaker 2: a visual vision board that's the photos, you know, and 481 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:53,880 Speaker 2: then this year I feel aligned to do goals and 482 00:20:53,921 --> 00:20:55,680 Speaker 2: a vision board, like we've spoken about doing this. So 483 00:20:55,721 --> 00:20:58,281 Speaker 2: it's like just discerning where you're at, what it is 484 00:20:58,281 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 2: that you're needing in the moment because everyone is so different, 485 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:04,400 Speaker 2: so different, Like figuring out what's working and what's going 486 00:21:04,441 --> 00:21:06,801 Speaker 2: to work for you. Yeah, one size fits all for 487 00:21:06,801 --> 00:21:08,840 Speaker 2: everybody else, just not like that is a no. You 488 00:21:08,921 --> 00:21:10,521 Speaker 2: just got to like figure out what feels good for 489 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:12,321 Speaker 2: you and then you take the parts that resonate and 490 00:21:12,360 --> 00:21:13,001 Speaker 2: leave what doesn't. 491 00:21:13,201 --> 00:21:15,601 Speaker 1: Yeah, and one thing we wanted to kind of end 492 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,600 Speaker 1: on is I think around the New year, especially around 493 00:21:18,600 --> 00:21:21,561 Speaker 1: health and fitness, but it could be your finance goals, 494 00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:23,161 Speaker 1: your relationship goals, whatever. 495 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:27,001 Speaker 3: Is in the new year. Feels so motivated, so much motivation. 496 00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:29,600 Speaker 1: It's like flowing with motivation, so motivated to achieve this 497 00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:32,441 Speaker 1: and do this, and it's like whoa. And then February 498 00:21:32,521 --> 00:21:36,281 Speaker 1: hits and you're like, where's that motivation gone. I've said 499 00:21:36,321 --> 00:21:37,681 Speaker 1: in a million times and I will say it again, 500 00:21:37,681 --> 00:21:39,680 Speaker 1: and I will say every year, every time we do 501 00:21:39,721 --> 00:21:43,120 Speaker 1: this New Year's episode. You cannot rely on motivation. It 502 00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:45,801 Speaker 1: ebbs and flows, it dips. It's just not something you 503 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:49,041 Speaker 1: can really rely on. I think discipline is such a 504 00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:53,761 Speaker 1: strong form of self respect and self love. It's really 505 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:56,521 Speaker 1: showing up for yourself and showing up for what you 506 00:21:56,681 --> 00:21:59,880 Speaker 1: value and what's important, because you have to show up 507 00:21:59,880 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 1: even when it's hard, even when you don't want to, 508 00:22:02,281 --> 00:22:05,080 Speaker 1: even all the excuses or things are happening outside and 509 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:08,920 Speaker 1: it's noisy, you're still showing up to the commitment of yourself. 510 00:22:09,521 --> 00:22:11,920 Speaker 1: I know that could also sound quite masculine, because a 511 00:22:12,001 --> 00:22:14,400 Speaker 1: feminine's very soft and flowy, and listen to your body 512 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:17,281 Speaker 1: and your intuition. I fully believe both can kind of 513 00:22:17,281 --> 00:22:21,281 Speaker 1: blend and dance together. But sometimes when I've been too flowy, 514 00:22:21,321 --> 00:22:23,001 Speaker 1: I'm like, I actually just don't want to do it 515 00:22:23,001 --> 00:22:25,841 Speaker 1: because I'm feeling lazy. When I'm being really honest with myself, 516 00:22:25,921 --> 00:22:27,801 Speaker 1: and if I'm making an excuse not to do something 517 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,761 Speaker 1: and I'm procrastinating, like, oh, just being my feminine flow, 518 00:22:31,360 --> 00:22:33,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, no, you're actually just being lazy, and I 519 00:22:33,961 --> 00:22:35,361 Speaker 1: have to beat myself up on that. I'm like, get 520 00:22:35,441 --> 00:22:36,721 Speaker 1: up and do the thing. You're not always going to 521 00:22:36,761 --> 00:22:39,041 Speaker 1: want to feel like this. You've set a goal and 522 00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:40,960 Speaker 1: you know where you want to be, and you have 523 00:22:41,001 --> 00:22:42,520 Speaker 1: to take the steps to get there. You're not going 524 00:22:42,561 --> 00:22:46,281 Speaker 1: to get there unless you create that change and nothing changes. 525 00:22:46,321 --> 00:22:49,041 Speaker 1: If nothing changes, you think about yourself from now in 526 00:22:49,120 --> 00:22:51,521 Speaker 1: six months time, if you don't change what you're doing, 527 00:22:51,561 --> 00:22:54,201 Speaker 1: I promise you'll be sitting here in the exact same 528 00:22:54,201 --> 00:22:56,561 Speaker 1: position that you were six months ago, looking back on 529 00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:57,600 Speaker 1: your life and going. 530 00:22:57,640 --> 00:22:59,120 Speaker 3: Damn, I wish I stuck to that habit. 531 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:01,600 Speaker 1: Why did I give up with myself so easy just 532 00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,441 Speaker 1: because I didn't feel motivated one day. No, you're better 533 00:23:04,441 --> 00:23:06,521 Speaker 1: than that. You were above that, and you will do 534 00:23:06,561 --> 00:23:08,561 Speaker 1: the hard things even if you don't feel like doing it. 535 00:23:08,761 --> 00:23:11,241 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, oh I love that. And you know what's interesting, 536 00:23:11,561 --> 00:23:15,280 Speaker 2: it's like it really only counts when you don't want to. 537 00:23:15,481 --> 00:23:16,640 Speaker 3: Oh isn't that true? 538 00:23:16,921 --> 00:23:17,081 Speaker 2: Oh? 539 00:23:17,120 --> 00:23:19,441 Speaker 3: My god? Like the hard hitting truth, Like I'm. 540 00:23:19,281 --> 00:23:22,840 Speaker 2: Sorry, ladies, but you can do anything when you have 541 00:23:23,360 --> 00:23:26,281 Speaker 2: high energy, when you're well fed, when you've had eight 542 00:23:26,321 --> 00:23:28,521 Speaker 2: hours of sleep, you can do anything. 543 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,521 Speaker 3: You're emotionally regulated and everyone's happy. 544 00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:34,761 Speaker 2: You're exactly and like everything is going smoothly. Anyone can 545 00:23:34,801 --> 00:23:37,801 Speaker 2: show up a one hundred percent. So how many of you, 546 00:23:38,001 --> 00:23:42,161 Speaker 2: including myself, show up when things are really hard, when 547 00:23:42,321 --> 00:23:44,961 Speaker 2: you've just gone through a breakup, when you just get 548 00:23:44,961 --> 00:23:47,001 Speaker 2: told that you have to go for surgery, brain surgery, 549 00:23:47,201 --> 00:23:49,120 Speaker 2: when you don't want to go to the gym, and 550 00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,720 Speaker 2: you committed to creating your dream body, whatever it is, 551 00:23:51,721 --> 00:23:54,200 Speaker 2: the goal that you're going after, if you can commit 552 00:23:54,281 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 2: to the mindset and say to yourself, it only counts 553 00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 2: when I do it when it's hard. It only counts 554 00:23:59,321 --> 00:24:01,440 Speaker 2: when I do it when I don't want to. It 555 00:24:01,521 --> 00:24:04,120 Speaker 2: only counts when the odds are not in my favor. 556 00:24:04,721 --> 00:24:06,641 Speaker 2: That's when it's going to mean the most. And if 557 00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:09,120 Speaker 2: you can count those days instead of the good days, 558 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,881 Speaker 2: I promise you will see progress. 559 00:24:11,281 --> 00:24:13,720 Speaker 3: One hundred percent. Isn't that so true? 560 00:24:14,001 --> 00:24:16,121 Speaker 1: And the more consistent you do that, it's like going 561 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:18,080 Speaker 1: to some gym and building a muscle, Like you're building 562 00:24:18,120 --> 00:24:20,720 Speaker 1: that muscle, that confidence. You're giving yourself evidence that you 563 00:24:20,721 --> 00:24:22,160 Speaker 1: can push through even when you don't want to. 564 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:23,201 Speaker 2: So much evidence. 565 00:24:23,281 --> 00:24:25,001 Speaker 1: Yeah, otherwise you're going to have a story that I'm 566 00:24:25,001 --> 00:24:26,681 Speaker 1: always lazy. I always just give up when it gets 567 00:24:26,681 --> 00:24:28,880 Speaker 1: hard like that. It's just who I am, Like I 568 00:24:28,921 --> 00:24:30,401 Speaker 1: can't do it. I've never been able to do it. 569 00:24:30,561 --> 00:24:31,321 Speaker 1: We don't use that. 570 00:24:31,281 --> 00:24:33,360 Speaker 2: Language here, No, not at all, because what you tell 571 00:24:33,360 --> 00:24:35,840 Speaker 2: yourself is so important, and you know, like what you're saying, 572 00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:38,360 Speaker 2: like even going to the gym building your dream body 573 00:24:38,441 --> 00:24:41,360 Speaker 2: is like it's the surface level thing and that's amazing, right, 574 00:24:41,481 --> 00:24:45,240 Speaker 2: But the discipline and the self trust and the confidence 575 00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:48,561 Speaker 2: and the deep rooted like conviction you have in yourself 576 00:24:48,561 --> 00:24:50,641 Speaker 2: of like I know I can do hard things. Yeah, 577 00:24:50,801 --> 00:24:53,400 Speaker 2: I know I can show up for myself when nobody 578 00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:54,881 Speaker 2: else can do it for me. And I'm the only 579 00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,521 Speaker 2: one that I can rely on. That's where true confidence 580 00:24:57,801 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 2: is built from. So true, it's from that. It's not 581 00:25:00,041 --> 00:25:02,360 Speaker 2: from the pretty dress, so are the earrings. And then 582 00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:05,601 Speaker 2: while we love those things, it only lives for so long. 583 00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:07,801 Speaker 2: If you want something that's more of like a longer burn, 584 00:25:08,241 --> 00:25:10,401 Speaker 2: where your confidence is going to last for the long haul, 585 00:25:10,801 --> 00:25:11,880 Speaker 2: it's in those things. 586 00:25:12,041 --> 00:25:14,960 Speaker 1: Yes, I love that too. Like you can do hard things. 587 00:25:15,281 --> 00:25:17,801 Speaker 1: Who said you can't do hard things? Even if mum, dad, 588 00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:20,041 Speaker 1: or someone at school or a coworker told you can't 589 00:25:20,041 --> 00:25:22,840 Speaker 1: do it, Like, they're just words that don't hold anyway. 590 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:24,961 Speaker 1: You can do hard things. 591 00:25:25,201 --> 00:25:27,920 Speaker 2: Even when you say it to yourself. They're just words. 592 00:25:28,001 --> 00:25:30,961 Speaker 2: It's so true because how many times do we immediately 593 00:25:30,961 --> 00:25:33,960 Speaker 2: stop ourselves from trying something? Oh but I can't do that, 594 00:25:34,321 --> 00:25:36,521 Speaker 2: but I'm not capable all but I don't know how. 595 00:25:37,241 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 2: We are the ones to limit ourselves more than anybody else. 596 00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:44,281 Speaker 2: Oh yes, stories, but they're just words. What if it 597 00:25:44,281 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 2: could be? Like I don't know how, but I'm willing 598 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:50,801 Speaker 2: to try. Yeah, I feel fear. I will do it anyway. 599 00:25:51,001 --> 00:25:54,201 Speaker 1: Yes, I'll try. It doesn't work out, that's also okay, 600 00:25:54,241 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 1: But at least I can look back and go I 601 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:56,281 Speaker 1: gave it a. 602 00:25:56,201 --> 00:25:58,840 Speaker 2: Go absolutely, or I'll learn something from it. 603 00:25:59,001 --> 00:26:01,041 Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe the experience will be fun. 604 00:26:01,561 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 2: Even if you do something and your quotations fail. Yes, 605 00:26:05,281 --> 00:26:06,400 Speaker 2: either way exactly. 606 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:06,880 Speaker 1: I say. 607 00:26:07,201 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 2: I've said this to myself for years on end and 608 00:26:09,281 --> 00:26:11,840 Speaker 2: has never strayed me wrong because I say to myself, 609 00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:14,241 Speaker 2: even if I try and I quotations fail, or if 610 00:26:14,241 --> 00:26:16,760 Speaker 2: I win, I win and I learned something, or if 611 00:26:16,761 --> 00:26:19,440 Speaker 2: I fail, I win because I learned something that's so true. 612 00:26:19,521 --> 00:26:22,480 Speaker 2: So it's like perspective on everything. You can always choose 613 00:26:22,481 --> 00:26:25,161 Speaker 2: what you take from something, and if you get to determine, 614 00:26:25,281 --> 00:26:26,601 Speaker 2: like how good it's going to feel or how. 615 00:26:26,561 --> 00:26:30,001 Speaker 1: Shit it's going to feel, so true. We hope you 616 00:26:30,041 --> 00:26:32,640 Speaker 1: guys love this episode. Hope it does motivate you and 617 00:26:32,681 --> 00:26:35,041 Speaker 1: inspire you to really step in and create your plan 618 00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:37,281 Speaker 1: and get your vision and get really clear on what 619 00:26:37,321 --> 00:26:39,881 Speaker 1: you want twenty twenty five to be, which you don't 620 00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:41,481 Speaker 1: want to be sitting here this time next year, being 621 00:26:41,561 --> 00:26:43,721 Speaker 1: like I could have tried harder, I should have given 622 00:26:43,761 --> 00:26:45,961 Speaker 1: that a go. Oh my god, that held me back 623 00:26:46,041 --> 00:26:49,401 Speaker 1: another year. I'm another year older, Like no, no, no, 624 00:26:49,921 --> 00:26:52,801 Speaker 1: rise above it, Step into your power, have calmed so 625 00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:54,081 Speaker 1: you can get it done and know that you can 626 00:26:54,120 --> 00:26:54,840 Speaker 1: do hard things. 627 00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:58,161 Speaker 2: You don't need to worry about who you've previously been, 628 00:26:58,481 --> 00:27:03,080 Speaker 2: nothing from today, before, in the past. Nothing matters. Anything 629 00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:05,561 Speaker 2: that you've previously done. Who you were yes today, who 630 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:07,241 Speaker 2: you were a week ago, who you were in twenty 631 00:27:07,241 --> 00:27:10,121 Speaker 2: twenty four, None of it fucking matters. If you can 632 00:27:10,201 --> 00:27:12,761 Speaker 2: just focus on today, in the next twenty four hours, 633 00:27:13,041 --> 00:27:14,440 Speaker 2: and who you want to be in the next twenty 634 00:27:14,441 --> 00:27:17,880 Speaker 2: four hours, focus on that and do that every single day, 635 00:27:18,201 --> 00:27:20,080 Speaker 2: and you will progress so much further than what you 636 00:27:20,201 --> 00:27:22,001 Speaker 2: probably did in the whole of twenty twenty four. 637 00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,720 Speaker 3: So true, you know, all you need. 638 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:24,921 Speaker 2: To do is focus on who you're going to show 639 00:27:25,001 --> 00:27:25,481 Speaker 2: up is today. 640 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:26,041 Speaker 1: Absolutely. 641 00:27:26,281 --> 00:27:28,600 Speaker 2: The whole reason why most people don't achieve their goals 642 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:31,840 Speaker 2: is because they think of problems in three years from now. 643 00:27:32,120 --> 00:27:34,281 Speaker 2: They're preempting problem. What am I going to do when 644 00:27:34,281 --> 00:27:37,160 Speaker 2: this happens? When I achieve this? What about you know, like, 645 00:27:37,721 --> 00:27:39,481 Speaker 2: what am I going to do when once I get 646 00:27:39,481 --> 00:27:41,000 Speaker 2: to this level? All these people are going to say 647 00:27:41,041 --> 00:27:43,721 Speaker 2: these things about me. You're preempting problems that haven't even 648 00:27:43,721 --> 00:27:46,200 Speaker 2: happened yet. Yeah, you need to focus on what's happening 649 00:27:46,281 --> 00:27:49,161 Speaker 2: right now and the step in front of you that 650 00:27:49,201 --> 00:27:51,920 Speaker 2: matters right now, that's it, That's the only thing that matters. 651 00:27:52,281 --> 00:27:53,840 Speaker 2: Love that and having fun along the way. 652 00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:57,561 Speaker 1: Yeah, lots of fun. Thank you so much for listening, guys. 653 00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:59,840 Speaker 1: I really appreciate I hope you enjoyed this. Don't forget 654 00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:02,480 Speaker 1: to join in our Facebook forum and we can continue 655 00:28:02,481 --> 00:28:04,720 Speaker 1: on the conversation. I'd actually love to hear from all 656 00:28:04,761 --> 00:28:07,241 Speaker 1: of you. You guys have listened to us gas Bag 657 00:28:07,241 --> 00:28:07,720 Speaker 1: for half. 658 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:08,160 Speaker 2: An hour on this. 659 00:28:08,561 --> 00:28:10,360 Speaker 3: What are your goals? What are your intentions? What are 660 00:28:10,360 --> 00:28:11,200 Speaker 3: you having to achieve? 661 00:28:11,321 --> 00:28:13,600 Speaker 1: Is there something you've never done before that you're trying 662 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:16,080 Speaker 1: this year? Are you quitting your job, starting in your career, 663 00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,521 Speaker 1: are you ending a relationship that's not aligned? Are you 664 00:28:18,961 --> 00:28:20,600 Speaker 1: going sky to having I don't know. Let me know 665 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,360 Speaker 1: what you Let me know what you're up to this year. 666 00:28:22,761 --> 00:28:24,881 Speaker 1: Come into the forum, let us know. We would love 667 00:28:24,921 --> 00:28:26,561 Speaker 1: to see and you can see what everyone else is 668 00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:28,840 Speaker 1: up to as well and help keep each other accountable, 669 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:29,680 Speaker 1: which is really cool. 670 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:32,920 Speaker 3: Otherwise, we'll see you in the next episode on Friday. 671 00:28:32,721 --> 00:28:34,401 Speaker 2: For Freaky Friday. 672 00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:38,240 Speaker 3: It's a gcy one. I can await. I'm excited, Oh 673 00:28:38,241 --> 00:28:39,281 Speaker 3: my gosh, we'll see that.