1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:13,441 Speaker 1: Apologie Production. I need your advice. Are you okay? What happened? 2 00:00:14,041 --> 00:00:18,481 Speaker 1: Promise it won't be too much. Bring it in. Welcome 3 00:00:18,601 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: to our Bestie segment. This is the place for you. 4 00:00:27,481 --> 00:00:30,441 Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of our Best the Advice Segment. 5 00:00:30,721 --> 00:00:32,200 Speaker 2: This is our favorite time of the week. I love 6 00:00:32,241 --> 00:00:35,281 Speaker 2: it absolutely fun. This one is a little bit of 7 00:00:35,321 --> 00:00:38,601 Speaker 2: a distressing submission, A little bit chaotic, a little bit yes, 8 00:00:38,801 --> 00:00:39,721 Speaker 2: should we get into it? 9 00:00:39,881 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: Yes? The title is trapped in chaos when an affair 10 00:00:42,961 --> 00:00:48,281 Speaker 1: turns into fear, control and silence goodness. Just remind yes, 11 00:00:48,601 --> 00:00:50,961 Speaker 1: and just a reminder. These are completely anonymous. We have 12 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 1: no idea who's written it in. If you want bestI advice, 13 00:00:53,441 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 1: we'll lead the link out description box, or just come 14 00:00:55,361 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 1: into our DMS and we'll send it through there. Hey, ladies, 15 00:00:58,641 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: I need best the advice now more than ever. A 16 00:01:01,561 --> 00:01:03,761 Speaker 1: long time ago, I had an affair on my husband. 17 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:06,201 Speaker 1: I told them the true and we worked on us. 18 00:01:06,481 --> 00:01:08,241 Speaker 1: The thing is the man that I had an affair 19 00:01:08,281 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: with that promised me the world at the start, and 20 00:01:10,121 --> 00:01:12,321 Speaker 1: I did fall in love with him. We both have 21 00:01:12,481 --> 00:01:14,881 Speaker 1: children and he is still living with his fiancee. Oh 22 00:01:15,121 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 1: here's a problem. He won't leave me alone. He's very manipulative, 23 00:01:20,041 --> 00:01:23,681 Speaker 1: He's a narcissist, and he is an awful man. If 24 00:01:23,721 --> 00:01:26,321 Speaker 1: I try and cut contact, he will threaten me, call 25 00:01:26,401 --> 00:01:29,920 Speaker 1: me all the names under the sun. He's absolutely destroyed 26 00:01:29,961 --> 00:01:31,761 Speaker 1: my mental health to the point that the only way 27 00:01:31,801 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: I can escape him is to not be here. He 28 00:01:34,801 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: verbally abuses me and physically abused me. Also, I'm genuinely 29 00:01:38,321 --> 00:01:41,361 Speaker 1: stuck in the state of darkness, scared and feeling so alone. 30 00:01:41,681 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 1: My kids mean the world to me, and he knows this, 31 00:01:43,761 --> 00:01:46,321 Speaker 1: which he uses to advantage of threats. I don't know 32 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:48,081 Speaker 1: how I would stand going to the police because of 33 00:01:48,081 --> 00:01:50,281 Speaker 1: the communication on both ends, which he knows. When he 34 00:01:50,321 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 1: threatens me, Ira respond and the cycle begins. My husband 35 00:01:54,001 --> 00:01:55,921 Speaker 1: doesn't know that I still have contact with him, and 36 00:01:56,001 --> 00:01:57,681 Speaker 1: if you found out, I would get kicked out and 37 00:01:57,681 --> 00:02:01,721 Speaker 1: lose my house, my security, and potentially my children. Please, 38 00:02:02,001 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: any advice, big or small is appreciated. I'm a woman 39 00:02:05,561 --> 00:02:07,641 Speaker 1: that doesn't see a way out. The scary thoughts that 40 00:02:07,721 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 1: run through my mind is very overwhelming. Holy, you were 41 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:17,601 Speaker 1: in a really tough situation. Oh my goodness, I don't 42 00:02:17,601 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 1: even know where to start on that. 43 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 2: I just can't even imagine how that feels emotionally, Like, 44 00:02:21,761 --> 00:02:23,960 Speaker 2: obviously to have an affair is one thing, but then 45 00:02:24,001 --> 00:02:26,561 Speaker 2: the physical, emotional abuse all of it and then to 46 00:02:27,321 --> 00:02:30,321 Speaker 2: feel stuck in between two worlds is really hard. 47 00:02:30,761 --> 00:02:35,361 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm really curious the threats what they potentially are, 48 00:02:35,441 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: because would your husband still leave you if he knew 49 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:42,280 Speaker 1: he was just threatening you because you're not still having 50 00:02:42,321 --> 00:02:44,681 Speaker 1: sex with him, or like encouraging him to contact you 51 00:02:44,761 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 1: like these are I'm guessing quite bad threats. I would 52 00:02:48,201 --> 00:02:50,281 Speaker 1: imagine your husband would want to protect you from that, 53 00:02:50,401 --> 00:02:53,401 Speaker 1: and protect the children from that, and actually stand up 54 00:02:53,401 --> 00:02:55,761 Speaker 1: for you and take a stance. That's where my mind 55 00:02:55,841 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 1: went too. 56 00:02:56,441 --> 00:03:00,001 Speaker 2: So before you had said my husband doesn't know I'm 57 00:03:00,001 --> 00:03:02,641 Speaker 2: still in contact, my question was going to be does 58 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:05,601 Speaker 2: your husband know about the affair I told him? 59 00:03:05,641 --> 00:03:07,761 Speaker 1: She said at the start? She told him yeah, yeah, okay, yeah. 60 00:03:07,841 --> 00:03:10,761 Speaker 2: So that to me, I'm like, that seems like something 61 00:03:10,761 --> 00:03:13,601 Speaker 2: that if you were to stay open with him about 62 00:03:13,601 --> 00:03:16,361 Speaker 2: and communicate with him, I think that would create more 63 00:03:16,401 --> 00:03:18,641 Speaker 2: trust with him. Obviously, because it's gone on for a 64 00:03:18,641 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 2: little while now, there's obviously it's going to be a 65 00:03:20,321 --> 00:03:22,881 Speaker 2: bit jarring for him, but also if it's your safety 66 00:03:22,921 --> 00:03:25,241 Speaker 2: and the children's safety at hand, he would want to 67 00:03:25,281 --> 00:03:26,120 Speaker 2: know because those. 68 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: Are his children too. 69 00:03:27,001 --> 00:03:29,721 Speaker 2: Yes, right, And also, yes, there's been a level of 70 00:03:29,721 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 2: betrayal there, But it's not like you're choosing to stay 71 00:03:32,561 --> 00:03:34,641 Speaker 2: or continue talking to him because you want to continue 72 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:36,761 Speaker 2: having an affair. No, by the sounds of it, it's 73 00:03:36,801 --> 00:03:39,281 Speaker 2: because he's threatening you and you feel scared feel safety. 74 00:03:39,561 --> 00:03:40,921 Speaker 2: So I think I don't know the first thing that 75 00:03:40,961 --> 00:03:43,041 Speaker 2: I feel like I would do in your situation, and 76 00:03:43,081 --> 00:03:45,001 Speaker 2: this is a huge assumption by the way, I feel 77 00:03:45,001 --> 00:03:46,401 Speaker 2: like I would want to go to my husband and say, 78 00:03:46,481 --> 00:03:47,481 Speaker 2: this is what's happening, and. 79 00:03:47,441 --> 00:03:49,761 Speaker 1: I would even preface it with, like what I'm going 80 00:03:49,801 --> 00:03:52,201 Speaker 1: to tell you. I'm telling you because I'm literally scared 81 00:03:52,201 --> 00:03:54,201 Speaker 1: for my own life. I'm scared of what this person's 82 00:03:54,201 --> 00:03:55,801 Speaker 1: going to do, and I'm also really scared of my 83 00:03:55,841 --> 00:03:59,081 Speaker 1: own intrusive thoughts because I feel so out of control. Yeah, 84 00:03:59,161 --> 00:04:02,041 Speaker 1: like preface it like that's the honest truth. You literally 85 00:04:02,081 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 1: don't see a way out of this. So I'm coming 86 00:04:04,241 --> 00:04:05,561 Speaker 1: to you because I need your help. 87 00:04:05,521 --> 00:04:08,001 Speaker 2: Yes, and pre framing it as what I'm about to 88 00:04:08,041 --> 00:04:10,201 Speaker 2: tell you is going to be big, So I would 89 00:04:10,241 --> 00:04:12,441 Speaker 2: really appreciate if you can just hold the space and 90 00:04:12,481 --> 00:04:15,361 Speaker 2: just listen if you can, I would really appreciate that 91 00:04:15,841 --> 00:04:17,401 Speaker 2: so that I can just get everything out because I 92 00:04:17,401 --> 00:04:18,521 Speaker 2: don't know how this is going to come out. 93 00:04:18,561 --> 00:04:20,361 Speaker 1: It's going to be really messy and I can't hold 94 00:04:20,361 --> 00:04:22,921 Speaker 1: it anymore. Yeah, Like it's literally killing me inside and 95 00:04:22,961 --> 00:04:25,721 Speaker 1: I'm scared for my safety. And then from there, one 96 00:04:25,761 --> 00:04:28,601 Speaker 1: hundred percent the police. I feel like you don't have 97 00:04:28,601 --> 00:04:31,081 Speaker 1: a choice there. You need to be protected. I'm not 98 00:04:31,081 --> 00:04:33,081 Speaker 1: sure either too, but part of me be tempted to 99 00:04:33,121 --> 00:04:35,921 Speaker 1: tell the fiance as well. Is she in danger? Is 100 00:04:35,921 --> 00:04:38,121 Speaker 1: she getting abused? Does she know what's going on? Yeah? 101 00:04:38,161 --> 00:04:39,841 Speaker 1: Woman to woman, I think I would want to know, 102 00:04:39,841 --> 00:04:41,561 Speaker 1: and I'd appreciate a woman coming to me to tell 103 00:04:41,561 --> 00:04:43,801 Speaker 1: me what's happening. Yeah. I think more people need to 104 00:04:43,841 --> 00:04:46,641 Speaker 1: know about it to hold him accountable to what he's doing. Yeah, 105 00:04:46,641 --> 00:04:49,601 Speaker 1: and to stop this behavior before something bad happens. Yeah, absolutely, 106 00:04:49,601 --> 00:04:51,001 Speaker 1: And I would be telling your husband. 107 00:04:51,401 --> 00:04:53,001 Speaker 2: Yeah, And again take this with a grain of salt, 108 00:04:53,041 --> 00:04:54,921 Speaker 2: but like what seems like the thing to do would 109 00:04:54,921 --> 00:04:56,281 Speaker 2: be telling your husband and then going to the police 110 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 2: and getting an AAVIO on this man straight away, because obviously, 111 00:04:58,481 --> 00:05:01,161 Speaker 2: if you have a lot of contact via text, phone calls, 112 00:05:01,201 --> 00:05:02,921 Speaker 2: things like that, you've got a lot of proof as well. 113 00:05:03,161 --> 00:05:05,041 Speaker 2: And if you have any proof of the physical abuse, 114 00:05:05,121 --> 00:05:07,521 Speaker 2: use any marks or anything like that, I would recommend 115 00:05:07,521 --> 00:05:09,961 Speaker 2: documenting all of it and putting it in a statement 116 00:05:10,001 --> 00:05:12,721 Speaker 2: and getting an av against this person. I would be 117 00:05:12,721 --> 00:05:15,001 Speaker 2: taking it to the police straight away. Me too, I've 118 00:05:15,041 --> 00:05:17,481 Speaker 2: done this process before. You can get a temporary protection 119 00:05:17,601 --> 00:05:19,641 Speaker 2: order put in place immediately from the moment you put 120 00:05:19,681 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 2: a statement in. A temporary one goes into place before 121 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 2: you go to court, and then from there then a 122 00:05:24,681 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 2: long term one goes into place for five years. 123 00:05:26,921 --> 00:05:28,561 Speaker 1: And can you not just block his number as well? 124 00:05:28,601 --> 00:05:30,601 Speaker 1: I actually stop the contact, Like on your phone, you 125 00:05:30,601 --> 00:05:32,761 Speaker 1: can actually block someone and then you can't even get 126 00:05:32,761 --> 00:05:33,481 Speaker 1: in contact with you. 127 00:05:33,641 --> 00:05:35,841 Speaker 2: Yeah, but I imagine that would come the fear of him 128 00:05:35,841 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 2: showing up to places that she goes, or if he 129 00:05:37,681 --> 00:05:39,721 Speaker 2: knows where the kids go to school, could show up there, 130 00:05:39,721 --> 00:05:41,401 Speaker 2: and if he's threatening the children. 131 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:43,481 Speaker 1: So even more teaching tell the husband. 132 00:05:43,681 --> 00:05:45,721 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I don't think blocking in that situation might 133 00:05:45,801 --> 00:05:48,401 Speaker 2: not feel safe enough for her, you know, because she's like, oh, 134 00:05:48,401 --> 00:05:49,841 Speaker 2: if I block him and I stop talking to him. 135 00:05:49,841 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 1: What's he going to do? You did say in there, 136 00:05:51,961 --> 00:05:53,841 Speaker 1: you're scared to go to your husband. He uses the 137 00:05:53,841 --> 00:05:55,881 Speaker 1: threats against her because they've been in contact, but the 138 00:05:55,921 --> 00:05:57,561 Speaker 1: sounds of it, the contact that you're having, is him 139 00:05:57,561 --> 00:06:00,201 Speaker 1: abusing you. Yes, you've got nothing to hide, You've got 140 00:06:00,201 --> 00:06:03,241 Speaker 1: nothing to worry about. You've actually got proof of him 141 00:06:03,281 --> 00:06:05,601 Speaker 1: doing wrong, and you like not want any of this. 142 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:08,201 Speaker 2: The only way that I would imagine that he would 143 00:06:08,201 --> 00:06:10,361 Speaker 2: have something over you is if you continued the affair 144 00:06:10,481 --> 00:06:12,481 Speaker 2: after that and then that's something that you now have 145 00:06:12,561 --> 00:06:15,521 Speaker 2: to own and then fear losing your husband over it. 146 00:06:15,561 --> 00:06:17,121 Speaker 2: That's the only thing that I can think of as 147 00:06:17,121 --> 00:06:19,681 Speaker 2: to why he would have something over you, unless there's 148 00:06:19,721 --> 00:06:21,400 Speaker 2: more context of the story that we don't know about. 149 00:06:21,761 --> 00:06:23,921 Speaker 1: I also don't think you would lose your children from 150 00:06:23,961 --> 00:06:27,041 Speaker 1: having an affair. I don't know, but I don't see 151 00:06:27,281 --> 00:06:29,521 Speaker 1: you're not harming your children. Well, I don't know how 152 00:06:29,521 --> 00:06:30,321 Speaker 1: that works, but. 153 00:06:30,481 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 2: I wonder because obviously she's told him about the affairs, 154 00:06:33,401 --> 00:06:35,841 Speaker 2: so there's obviously broken trust and there's obviously a lot 155 00:06:35,841 --> 00:06:39,481 Speaker 2: of betrayal there. So I wonder if this would be 156 00:06:39,521 --> 00:06:41,361 Speaker 2: she feels it's like this is the nail and the 157 00:06:41,361 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 2: coffin kind of thing for him. 158 00:06:42,601 --> 00:06:44,601 Speaker 1: But then this set him over the end in court. 159 00:06:44,641 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: How would that stand, like, Oh, you can't have access 160 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:48,721 Speaker 1: to the children because you've had an affair, Like, Yeah, 161 00:06:48,761 --> 00:06:50,921 Speaker 1: I don't think that works like that. Yeah, if she's 162 00:06:50,961 --> 00:06:53,481 Speaker 1: not endangering them and they're still safe with her because 163 00:06:53,481 --> 00:06:56,481 Speaker 1: she's scared of losing custody of her children. I don't 164 00:06:56,521 --> 00:06:58,081 Speaker 1: know because I have been through that, but I wouldn't 165 00:06:58,081 --> 00:07:00,481 Speaker 1: think that would make you lose your children. Yeah. I 166 00:07:00,481 --> 00:07:03,241 Speaker 1: wonder if it's like a finance this thing. Maybe losing 167 00:07:03,281 --> 00:07:06,160 Speaker 1: finances and being kicked out of the house. Yeah, home 168 00:07:06,241 --> 00:07:08,401 Speaker 1: to live in, not sure plays to take the children. 169 00:07:08,681 --> 00:07:10,401 Speaker 1: Then the children would naturally go with the dad if 170 00:07:10,401 --> 00:07:12,641 Speaker 1: he had more resources. True, but if they're married in 171 00:07:12,641 --> 00:07:15,121 Speaker 1: the same home, he doesn't just get to kick her out. Yeah, 172 00:07:15,161 --> 00:07:18,001 Speaker 1: as a workrate that either. Oh this is a tough one, 173 00:07:18,161 --> 00:07:19,881 Speaker 1: really messy. But I think you definitely need to go 174 00:07:19,881 --> 00:07:21,801 Speaker 1: to your husband and get protection. To go to the police. 175 00:07:21,881 --> 00:07:25,441 Speaker 2: Biggest thing is getting some emotional support behind you. Having 176 00:07:25,481 --> 00:07:26,961 Speaker 2: your husband there with you so that you're not going 177 00:07:26,961 --> 00:07:29,321 Speaker 2: through this alone will help, and then having the police 178 00:07:29,361 --> 00:07:30,481 Speaker 2: behind you will also help. 179 00:07:30,521 --> 00:07:30,761 Speaker 1: To get. 180 00:07:31,841 --> 00:07:34,441 Speaker 2: Obviously, this is a really sticky situation. I can't even 181 00:07:34,481 --> 00:07:36,641 Speaker 2: imagine my sending is so much love. But I think 182 00:07:37,161 --> 00:07:39,321 Speaker 2: even if there is more context behind the story, and 183 00:07:39,361 --> 00:07:41,161 Speaker 2: there's some things that you maybe have left out, if 184 00:07:41,161 --> 00:07:43,441 Speaker 2: there has been a continued affair or anything like that, 185 00:07:43,801 --> 00:07:45,481 Speaker 2: the best thing that you can do in those moments 186 00:07:45,601 --> 00:07:47,801 Speaker 2: is to just own your fuck up, own your mistake, 187 00:07:47,881 --> 00:07:50,081 Speaker 2: own what you've done, and clean that up. 188 00:07:50,001 --> 00:07:52,001 Speaker 1: First, because it's going to come out one day's going 189 00:07:52,001 --> 00:07:53,121 Speaker 1: to come out. It's the better. 190 00:07:53,201 --> 00:07:54,881 Speaker 2: Yeah. You can spin a light on a web all 191 00:07:54,921 --> 00:07:56,201 Speaker 2: you want, but at the end of the day, people 192 00:07:56,201 --> 00:07:56,841 Speaker 2: always find out. 193 00:07:56,881 --> 00:07:58,441 Speaker 1: Yeah, it will always come back to bite you in 194 00:07:58,481 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 1: the arse. So do the right thing. Be brave. 195 00:08:01,201 --> 00:08:03,201 Speaker 2: It's going to fucking suck, but it will be the 196 00:08:03,201 --> 00:08:04,801 Speaker 2: best thing that you do because you will have owned 197 00:08:04,801 --> 00:08:07,001 Speaker 2: your stake and at least that way, from that place, 198 00:08:07,481 --> 00:08:09,401 Speaker 2: you can then choose who you want to be after that. 199 00:08:09,401 --> 00:08:12,601 Speaker 1: And protect you and your children. Yeah, with whatever he's threatening, Absolutely, 200 00:08:12,641 --> 00:08:15,561 Speaker 1: like that's your utmost priority right now. You need to 201 00:08:15,561 --> 00:08:17,041 Speaker 1: take action on that. Absolutely. 202 00:08:17,121 --> 00:08:19,241 Speaker 2: You can wait around for absolutely, And you know this 203 00:08:19,281 --> 00:08:21,321 Speaker 2: is a thing that people who are abuses, what they 204 00:08:21,361 --> 00:08:24,521 Speaker 2: do is they will fearmonger you into doing exactly what 205 00:08:24,561 --> 00:08:25,041 Speaker 2: they want. 206 00:08:25,321 --> 00:08:26,401 Speaker 1: This is what he's doing. 207 00:08:26,801 --> 00:08:29,281 Speaker 2: You still have choice in this, and you still have 208 00:08:29,721 --> 00:08:32,921 Speaker 2: space between you two, time to get away, time to 209 00:08:32,961 --> 00:08:36,001 Speaker 2: create space and create safety around you. And like, if 210 00:08:36,001 --> 00:08:38,361 Speaker 2: you believe in that, then you'll be able to create that. 211 00:08:38,721 --> 00:08:41,121 Speaker 2: But so long as you stay fearful and almost like 212 00:08:41,241 --> 00:08:43,201 Speaker 2: under this person's control, it's going to feel a lot 213 00:08:43,241 --> 00:08:45,761 Speaker 2: harder for you to actually get out. Yeah, you're just like, 214 00:08:45,801 --> 00:08:48,201 Speaker 2: you're very lucky that you're not actually living with him 215 00:08:48,201 --> 00:08:50,921 Speaker 2: and in a relationship with him and being abused, because 216 00:08:50,921 --> 00:08:52,241 Speaker 2: who knows what's happening to the wife. 217 00:08:52,521 --> 00:08:56,321 Speaker 1: Yeah, so true, fiance. If there's any more context or 218 00:08:56,761 --> 00:08:59,441 Speaker 1: other questions or if you need us to talk to, like, 219 00:08:59,641 --> 00:09:01,721 Speaker 1: we can definitely be here for you. Just pop into 220 00:09:01,761 --> 00:09:05,481 Speaker 1: our DMS or submit another submission. But really hope it helps, 221 00:09:05,481 --> 00:09:06,961 Speaker 1: to really hope that you choose to take care of 222 00:09:07,041 --> 00:09:09,761 Speaker 1: yourself and get protected becauld you deserve to be protected, 223 00:09:09,801 --> 00:09:11,921 Speaker 1: regardless of what's happened in the past. Your safety is 224 00:09:11,921 --> 00:09:12,681 Speaker 1: the most important. 225 00:09:13,001 --> 00:09:15,761 Speaker 2: And if you need to change phone numbers, do all that, 226 00:09:15,961 --> 00:09:18,521 Speaker 2: do everything every protective measure that you possibly can, because 227 00:09:18,601 --> 00:09:22,201 Speaker 2: unfortunately this is a very common thing when it comes 228 00:09:22,201 --> 00:09:26,081 Speaker 2: to relationships and obviously not your dynamic, but you know, 229 00:09:26,161 --> 00:09:29,081 Speaker 2: abuse in relationships and things like that, so just be 230 00:09:29,121 --> 00:09:29,721 Speaker 2: really careful. 231 00:09:30,241 --> 00:09:32,681 Speaker 1: Safety is very important, it really is. We're sending you 232 00:09:32,721 --> 00:09:34,641 Speaker 1: so much love and you just reach out if you 233 00:09:34,641 --> 00:09:37,561 Speaker 1: need us. All right, guys, we'll see you on the 234 00:09:37,561 --> 00:09:39,241 Speaker 1: next one, See you tomorrow. Bye.