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Speaker 1: And you might be listening and you might not have

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Speaker 1: that circle of friends. You might have that bestie or

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Speaker 1: We're obviously not emotionally attached to your situation either, which

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Speaker 1: girls writing in what have we got for today? Okay,

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Speaker 1: the breakup didn't see coming? Was she jealous of me?

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Speaker 1: Is the title? Let's get into it best the advice please.

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Speaker 1: I have had a friend who had been in my

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Speaker 1: life for years through the good and through the bad.

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Speaker 1: We've been there for each other. We would spend hours

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Speaker 1: together talking crap over numerous cups of coffee, sometimes laughing,

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Speaker 1: her on social media but not replying to me. We

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Speaker 1: were close as sisters could be. It came at a

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Speaker 1: time when I got a new, better job and I

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Speaker 1: thinks that she's jealous of me. I'm also happily married,

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Speaker 1: She doesn't have any of those things without sounding full

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Speaker 1: of myself. Maybe she really is just jealous and handling

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Speaker 1: got a really generic reply. This is over a month ago.

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Speaker 1: I've reached out again since, but have been left unread.

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Speaker 1: Do I keep holding out for closure, keep pouring effort

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Speaker 1: I just accept it's done and block, delete and move on.

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Speaker 1: I don't want her on my socials and future. If

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Speaker 1: Thanks girls, Oh that's so tough.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for bringing this in here. Yeah, I do

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Speaker 3: think there's not enough context to assume that she's jealous

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Speaker 3: unless you feel it, Like, unless you can genuinely say

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Speaker 3: things that you have, it could absolutely be true. But

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Speaker 3: I think with things like this in terms of like

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Speaker 2: It's hard to assume.

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Speaker 3: And did we spend enough time together that this is

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Speaker 1: Hey?

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Speaker 3: Can we talk about this? What's going on between us?

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Speaker 1: What if I can pick up though, whoever this is,

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Speaker 1: I've been in this exact situation, and I am quite

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Speaker 1: She did request for space. Almost think you need to

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Speaker 1: because I was like, oh, if she can't even meet

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Speaker 1: It's just not what I wanted my friendships. That's okay,

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Speaker 1: If people aren't doing communicate like you, babe.

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Speaker 3: Because I've had past experiences as well where that's kind

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Speaker 3: Then also, it depends on the relationship, and it depends

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Speaker 1: Yeah, aggressive don't want to hear how you're feeling, so

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Speaker 1: I don't know, you haven't given any context on her personality,

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Speaker 3: I've just decided that, like I don't have the space

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Speaker 3: And I feel like in those moments when you can

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Speaker 3: But by that time I had raised my standards too,

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Speaker 3: Evolution of this is definitely, you know, grieving the friendships

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Speaker 3: that's so hard I get to have with this girl

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Speaker 2: And that's a really hard thing to face.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, and a thing that helps me get through

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Speaker 1: have evolved, or they're evolved, or you're in different paths,

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Speaker 1: and that's okay. It should not be something that's looked

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Speaker 1: as bad. It's like intimate relationships. We all most people

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Speaker 1: go through a couple and to their find their person.

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Speaker 1: It's not bad. You learn what you like, what you

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Speaker 1: a part of life's journey. It's just a hard part

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Speaker 3: It gives you so much resilience too, and I think clarity.

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Speaker 3: I think it's something that we all get to learn

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Speaker 2: And you know what, Like, if you are somebody who.

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Speaker 1: And sometimes when you grow away from someone or a

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Speaker 3: We wouldn't be the versions of ourself that we are.

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Speaker 1: not being ghosted. Yeah, I deserve better than that. You do,

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Speaker 1: You deserve better one hundred percent. We hope this helps

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Speaker 1: and we feel you're on this. Good luck with it

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