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Speaker 1: So, even though we're on a high, we've got lots
Speaker 1: of energy, we all need to rest. And there's actually
Speaker 1: seven different styles of resting. So we're going to tell
Speaker 1: you all about them and break them down, talk about
Speaker 1: the ones that we need more of and that we
Speaker 1: struggle with as well. Yeah, so the first one is
Speaker 1: a physical rest. This one's really obvious, but actually physically
Speaker 1: like resting your body, so not exercising, not getting up
Speaker 1: and doing everything, so literally allowing your muscles to recover,
Speaker 1: allowing your body to just chill out and have a
Speaker 1: break from doing so much.
Speaker 2: Yeah, sitting down reading a book, having a nice gentle stretch,
Speaker 2: just taking it nice and slow.
Speaker 3: Even getting a massage.
Speaker 1: It's one of my favorite physical types because it's like
Speaker 1: you're horizontal, you're laying there. I love physical touch as well,
Speaker 1: but they're actually like soothing your muscles to be able
Speaker 1: to really drop in and rest and massage is one
Speaker 1: of the main things that and acupuncture that actually fully
Speaker 1: forces me to stop. Apart from sleep, I fully fully stop.
Speaker 1: I'm so present, I'm fully in that like rest or
Speaker 1: digest beautiful?
Speaker 3: So nice?
Speaker 2: Do you struggle with physical rest?
Speaker 3: No good? I feel I feel like I'm pretty good now.
Speaker 3: I feel like I've got a really nice balance.
Speaker 1: Maybe ten years ago, when I was like smashing and
Speaker 1: bashing my body and all I did was want to be,
Speaker 1: you know, superlean and fit and strong, then I would
Speaker 1: And I think I was also like always running away
Speaker 1: and distracting myself from emotions too, so I'd keep really busy. Yes,
Speaker 1: and a lot of that was through exercise, even as
Speaker 1: a little girl, Like I remember my mum saying that
Speaker 1: I've always loved being active, but I remember not wanting
Speaker 1: to be at home with my stepdad. I would go
Speaker 1: and like do stair sprints and like walk around my
Speaker 1: neighborhood and just always be moving. Yeah, it just helped
Speaker 1: me feel safe. I think that's why it's always been.
Speaker 1: Back then maybe it was healthy and unhealthy, but now
Speaker 1: it's just such a healthy tool. But yeah, you definitely
Speaker 1: need the balance of your body always being on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so nice to just have a slow day every
Speaker 2: now and.
Speaker 1: Then one hundred percent. So that's one of them. The
Speaker 1: next one is mental rest.
Speaker 3: So this is.
Speaker 1: Really allowing your brain and your mind to actually switch
Speaker 1: off from thinking and doing and creating, like literally just
Speaker 1: allowing it, which things like meditation, breastwork, going and just
Speaker 1: sitting at nature and like listening to the ocean, just
Speaker 1: something with your mind doesn't have to be on. And
Speaker 1: I feel like in today's society we are just always on. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're always on. We're always thinking of the next things
Speaker 1: to do. We're always thinking of especially mums, our mental load.
Speaker 2: Yeap, have I got this? Have I got that? What
Speaker 2: about this?
Speaker 1: Yet? To make the lunch? Just pack the bags, get
Speaker 1: clean clothes, do the washing.
Speaker 3: What's for dinner? Did they book the dentist appointment? Like
Speaker 3: there's just always something.
Speaker 1: And we're also caretakers, like for our partners and our friends,
Speaker 1: so we just there's always something to do.
Speaker 2: So true, and they recommend that every two hours we
Speaker 2: actually take a mental break. So I'm going to start
Speaker 2: doing this. I'm going to set a two hour alarm
Speaker 2: on my phone and it might have to give a
Speaker 2: take minup, set it for like ten minutes later, or
Speaker 2: if you're ready a bit early, give it a go.
Speaker 2: But just a minute, a minute or two, just like
Speaker 2: don't think, just we just breathe and do some breain.
Speaker 2: Just sit breathe for just like thirty seconds a minute.
Speaker 2: It doesn't need long, but every two hours to just
Speaker 2: like give your brain a break.
Speaker 3: You're going to set like five alarms a day to do.
Speaker 2: I think I should at the start and then hopefully
Speaker 2: it starts to become a habit. But I was like
Speaker 2: so easy to find, like thirty seconds. Yeah maybe you
Speaker 2: you the kids aren't there.
Speaker 3: Even if you're not setting alarm something that might be
Speaker 3: a bit hard. You could definitely do it.
Speaker 1: But every time you go to the toilet, like once
Speaker 1: you've done your wik Oh, that's just a.
Speaker 2: Good idea because that's pretty much every couple hours how.
Speaker 1: Often you go to the toilet, especially if you're a big
Speaker 1: water drink carts, Like when you go to the toilet,
Speaker 1: that's your time, do you weaed, but then just sit
Speaker 1: there for thirty seconds or a minute and just fully
Speaker 1: slow your breath down.
Speaker 3: Yeah so Gooday?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember when I when I was first trying
Speaker 1: to get better at slower breathing. I would do it
Speaker 1: like in the car, in any queue, like if I
Speaker 1: was in a grocery store or anything like in busy environments.
Speaker 1: I would use that time to practice in chaos, getting
Speaker 1: my breath nice and calm.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and to get into a bit of a habit.
Speaker 3: And I still sometimes do it. Yeah, that's the mental.
Speaker 2: Thing's a good one. That's a good remind. Yeah. I
Speaker 2: definitely weave because when you're in the toilet, you're like away, Yeah,
Speaker 2: you wait till the moment's right, You're not gonna go,
Speaker 2: and everything happy, you know, everyone said all everyone' happy, Like, hey,
Speaker 2: now I'm finally your the twiter.
Speaker 3: It forces you. You have to go toilet. You can't
Speaker 3: avoid it.
Speaker 1: No, you make that like a new standard, new rule.
Speaker 1: You have to breathe when you go to the toilet.
Speaker 2: Yeah, stop your thinking stop.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a challenge for all of us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so the next one is emotional rest. So but
Speaker 1: me personally, and I think a lot of us feminine females,
Speaker 1: we love to talk. Yeah, we love to vent. What
Speaker 1: Tony Robin calls it a meadow report, give all the details.
Speaker 1: Like most masculine men don't do meatow reports. It's like,
Speaker 1: you know, how day, Yeah, it was good. You know,
Speaker 1: they're very simple and shape to the point.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And whereas where it's like, oh my gosh, my day started,
Speaker 1: the alarm went off, I went down here, then I
Speaker 1: spilt my coffee.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I bumped into this man. Blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: It's like every single detail, yes, so true. So yeah.
Speaker 1: For me, emotional rest is having someone holds space for
Speaker 1: me to get things off my chest and talk about
Speaker 1: all the details, all the feelings, everything that I'm going through.
Speaker 3: I really enjoy.
Speaker 2: That, and I think this is something that's really important
Speaker 2: to remember if you are going through a season of
Speaker 2: like healing. I feel like I, reflecting back, have gone
Speaker 2: through phases where I've been so emotionally attached to everything.
Speaker 2: But sometimes it's like, just give your body a break
Speaker 2: because it is really draining sometimes reliving things or you know,
Speaker 2: working through things. So it's so important to also detach
Speaker 2: and be like, Okay, for the next couple hours, I'm
Speaker 2: just going to try my best not to think about this.
Speaker 3: Awesome.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't find that with coaching about you, but
Speaker 1: like if I have a really deep, heavy session with
Speaker 1: a coach. I'll need to allow myself a couple of
Speaker 1: weeks before I read book when I'm going through.
Speaker 3: Like the thick of them.
Speaker 1: Yes, reading every couple of days, have a coaching session
Speaker 1: because it's so much to process.
Speaker 2: Uh huh.
Speaker 1: I remember when I first booked my mum into this
Speaker 1: beautiful lady called Moira. I feel like all of my
Speaker 1: friends have her. She's incredible. She's the very first person
Speaker 1: that I ever ever saw for some kind of therapy.
Speaker 1: She does counseling and meditation and kinesiology.
Speaker 3: She's beautiful. But her sessions go for about three hours.
Speaker 1: Wow, So you do a lot of talking, you do
Speaker 1: energy healing, Remember I like cry a lot, and then
Speaker 1: she'd finish off with the meditation or sometimes fall asleep.
Speaker 3: But I remember being really.
Speaker 1: Exhausting, so like afterwards I would just be zonked out
Speaker 1: and need to go straight to bed. And my mum
Speaker 1: said the same thing. When she did one, she was
Speaker 1: like tied for a whole week, just processing it all
Speaker 1: in all land. So it's a really good point and detaching.
Speaker 2: Yeah, even like after I went to the Ultimate Girl's
Speaker 2: Day Out. Yeah, like when I came home that weekend,
Speaker 2: I just rest, like I just got really slow because
Speaker 2: it's such a big, emotional, transformational, amazing day. But it's
Speaker 2: a lot of emotion, a lot of releases, a lot
Speaker 2: of releasing things. So it felt really nice afterwards, like
Speaker 2: it's just so nice to have a bit of a
Speaker 2: break again.
Speaker 1: Is the biggest Like I was thinking about this, like
Speaker 1: the hardest type of stress, Like, would you say it's
Speaker 1: emotional stress, financial stress, physical stress?
Speaker 3: Like what would be the biggest to hardest on for you?
Speaker 2: Emotional for me?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think me too. Emotional then financial.
Speaker 2: Yeah, agreed.
Speaker 1: Sensory rest, let's say it for louder, for all the
Speaker 1: mums out there, do you see me?
Speaker 2: It's the noise, the screens, the lights, Yes, yeah, the noise,
Speaker 2: the noise.
Speaker 1: I feel like most mums can relate to this, right Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was talking to Steve about this the other day
Speaker 1: because he was trying to talk to me and the
Speaker 1: kids were going crazy with this toy and loud louder loud.
Speaker 3: And Steve and I talked to me. He's like, are
Speaker 3: you listening, babe?
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, but I literally cannot concentrate on
Speaker 1: what you're saying with that, and he's like, wow, it's
Speaker 1: so crazy. As a dad, I can tune out, but
Speaker 1: women biologically cannot because we are wired to keep them alive.
Speaker 1: And especially like in this day and age, we don't
Speaker 1: have the village there to help with the babies and
Speaker 1: with the kids, whereas back in the days, everyone's looking
Speaker 1: out for everyone's kids. For us, it's like it's stressful
Speaker 1: to hear the wine or cry, like I cannot switch
Speaker 1: it off.
Speaker 2: It's always just so many noises going on once, like
Speaker 2: the whining, the crying, then one TV, then this is
Speaker 2: still rolling over here. Then there's a kettle boiling, then
Speaker 2: there's a like juice a going There's just so many
Speaker 2: things happening that someone screens.
Speaker 1: It's just like, ah, it really is. We never have
Speaker 1: TV on just in the background. We'll always trying to
Speaker 1: have music, yeah, but even then.
Speaker 3: It's still another noise.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I even find sensory For me, I'm getting more
Speaker 2: and more sensitive to like screens, so like my phone
Speaker 2: and my computer. Like when I have a big workday,
Speaker 2: I get a headache every single time. And I know
Speaker 2: it's my body, Like I know it's because I've had
Speaker 2: too much. But some days you just got to look
Speaker 2: at a screen. But when we come up here, it's
Speaker 2: quite a bit looking at screens. But then when I
Speaker 2: go home, I like go, okay, like have a break
Speaker 2: just because I get a headache.
Speaker 3: Yeah eyes as well.
Speaker 2: Well my close up for my eyes is fine. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's just my far away so I think it's so
Speaker 2: you'll notice, like I always have my brightness turned right down, yeah,
Speaker 2: because that just helps with it all.
Speaker 1: Yeah, your headaches from that, but you can see why
Speaker 1: you would. Yeah, just like concentrating. Yes, yeah, it's the
Speaker 1: noise for me. I feel like a lot of mums
Speaker 1: really struggle with that too.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and even a phone like sometimes if I just
Speaker 2: like I am getting a bit hooked on my phone,
Speaker 2: yeah I might okay put it down.
Speaker 3: Yeah we all need detoxes. Hey.
Speaker 1: Yeah, as a mum, I think we really value time
Speaker 1: by ourself in silence or in nature yep, and then
Speaker 1: like a digital detox. But it's so hard when your
Speaker 1: job is on your phone. Like our whole work, every business,
Speaker 1: everything we do is on our phone. Yeah, you've really
Speaker 1: got to have strong boundaries on when your phone goes away,
Speaker 1: Like mine's pretty much in the arbos is going to
Speaker 1: get home from work, I plug it in the charge
Speaker 1: in the bedroom, and then I don't think about it.
Speaker 2: Yep.
Speaker 1: But then I'm in this bad habit of like when
Speaker 1: I go to bed, I can't and I quickly catch
Speaker 1: up with my work that I've missed, like our last
Speaker 1: couple of hours in case stuff I've needed something, or
Speaker 1: there's an email from my manager or something I've got
Speaker 1: to get off or something I've got to send for approval.
Speaker 1: So then I get back into that work mode when
Speaker 1: I'm trying to go to sleep. Yeah, it's just hard
Speaker 1: to find the right land.
Speaker 3: That's it.
Speaker 2: High. Yeah, and it comes and goes, changes and shit.
Speaker 3: So true. I've had seasons I'm really good, and then
Speaker 3: seasons from like thicken work.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and listening to our body and where we're at too.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, life sometimes, isn't it.
Speaker 2: This next one I struggle with so hard creative rest,
Speaker 2: switching off from always thinking about just with work. I think,
Speaker 2: and also like I am a creative being. I love
Speaker 2: being creative even when I'm not like working. I love painting.
Speaker 2: I love like I just really love doing it. But
Speaker 2: then sometimes I'm like.
Speaker 3: I should just stop, Yeah, I should just stop, just.
Speaker 2: Be in the moment just chill or like I'll read
Speaker 2: or do something I don't know. But a lot of
Speaker 2: the time, I feel like I'm always like wanting to
Speaker 2: create or learn or.
Speaker 1: Grow and think ahead. A lot of our job is
Speaker 1: creating content. We're always thinking ahead of like making sure
Speaker 1: that we've got enough content and how are we going
Speaker 1: to edit that? And like create that, and we've got
Speaker 1: this brand to do and that brand and.
Speaker 2: We packed your right clothes.
Speaker 1: Yeah, even though a brand gives you a brief, you've
Speaker 1: still got to be creative on how you put your
Speaker 1: own authentic spin on that. Like it is a lot
Speaker 1: of brain power. And I feel like if I don't
Speaker 1: take sensory rest, it'll affect my creativity. We'll talk about
Speaker 1: that at the end. But you'll find when you hear
Speaker 1: about all these sevens, so stay with us all the
Speaker 1: seven you'll feel like you need more rest in some
Speaker 1: than others. Some you'll be like, oh, I feel like
Speaker 1: physical rest me, it doesn't really affect me. No, I
Speaker 1: feel pretty good with that. But sensory rest, I don't
Speaker 1: feel like I get enough. And I think that's just
Speaker 1: a season of having young children. Yeah, you know, our
Speaker 1: job and whatever. But yeah, the creative rest, it gets
Speaker 1: affected if the other rests haven't.
Speaker 3: Been on it. Yes, but I'm the same. I'm a
Speaker 3: very creative person.
Speaker 1: I love it, but sometimes I can have creative blocks,
Speaker 1: and that's where I'm like, oh, I need a creative
Speaker 1: rest and reset. Yeah, take a rest, and then the
Speaker 1: creative juice of stuff free flowing again.
Speaker 2: Definitely. And for me having like a just solo time
Speaker 2: and just telling myself, like, I'm just going to sit
Speaker 2: down and enjoy this coffee, Like it stops me from
Speaker 2: trying to like always create or do this or do that.
Speaker 2: But even like some morning so I'm like.
Speaker 3: Oh, this is a cute clip.
Speaker 2: Stick it up, honestly, but yeah, it's just trying to realize. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's just trying to be like, can just be present.
Speaker 1: It's hard to because it's really fun, Like we actually
Speaker 1: really enjoyed creating content. So sometimes I do struggle with
Speaker 1: that creative rest because I genuinely really.
Speaker 2: Lie no, But it is still energy out, isn't it?
Speaker 3: One hundred percent of energy out?
Speaker 1: So that's why today we just wanted to like highlight
Speaker 1: them all so you can just have a little bit
Speaker 1: more awareness around them and check in, like every single day,
Speaker 1: you check in on how much water you've drank and
Speaker 1: how much healthy food you've had, what excise you've done
Speaker 1: like check in or where you need rest, check in
Speaker 1: on your nervous system. How do I feel today? Where
Speaker 1: am I feeling pulled? Where am I feeling drained? Whereas
Speaker 1: my cup over here feeling a little bit empty?
Speaker 3: And honor that. Yeah, order that social rest.
Speaker 1: This one is one that I definitely when I was younger,
Speaker 1: no idea about I.
Speaker 3: Was so social.
Speaker 1: I think, just always busy, such a social butterfly. I
Speaker 1: don't think I enjoyed being by myself, and I think
Speaker 1: once again, because I used to run away from how
Speaker 1: I was truly feeling deep down, and I think this
Speaker 1: was totally unconscious. I don't think I knew I was
Speaker 1: doing this. But I just loved to be around people.
Speaker 1: I always said, I'm the biggest extrovert, love to be
Speaker 1: out about. Maybe it was back then, but as I'm
Speaker 1: getting older, I definitely have less of that and less
Speaker 1: of a social battery.
Speaker 3: Alsos.
Speaker 1: All my friends that I'm surrounding myself with right now
Speaker 1: feel so good and they recharge my batteries.
Speaker 3: But I still need my solo time. Yeah, I still
Speaker 3: need my say good time with my family. I still
Speaker 3: need like to be out in nature.
Speaker 1: I look at some of my girlfriends, like Nadine, she's
Speaker 1: so social me makes you always were like, oh, I
Speaker 1: get exhausted hearing about her social schedule. Yeah, it's like
Speaker 1: during the week, people are popping around her house as
Speaker 1: a house that everyone goes to. But yeah, she'll have
Speaker 1: like Friday night, Saturday morning to do this, Saturday night
Speaker 1: at this and everyone's coming over for a barb to
Speaker 1: you on Sunday. And I'm like that is too much
Speaker 1: for me. Like I just I need my slow time
Speaker 1: on the weekends because the weeks are so busy. I
Speaker 1: like just like not having any plans and going with
Speaker 1: the flow and just so good chilling.
Speaker 2: I love solo time. I feel like it's something that
Speaker 2: is hard to come by sometimes being a mum, definitely,
Speaker 2: but I for off off it, Like I absolutely am
Speaker 2: in my element when I could.
Speaker 3: Get my own. Do you feel like the more you
Speaker 3: enjoy it, Yeah, me too.
Speaker 2: I it And even like throughout the week, like if
Speaker 2: I end up finishing something and I have an hour
Speaker 2: and all the kids are at school and that I'm
Speaker 2: just like, I'm lapping this out. I've got a house
Speaker 2: to myself, like yourself, my gosh, I just really really
Speaker 2: love being with myself. I think there's just no sensory overload,
Speaker 2: there's no anything happening. You just like oh, and it's
Speaker 2: a really great way to tune into yourself and get
Speaker 2: in touch with yourself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, as well as when you're busy with kids and
Speaker 3: sensory noises and work, like, it's hard to checking in. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you don't have the space to.
Speaker 1: That's being alone creates the space to see how you're
Speaker 1: actually feeling, and.
Speaker 2: Then the kids go down. You want to be if
Speaker 2: you're uppy, Yes, yeah.
Speaker 1: That time is so important. I look forward to that
Speaker 1: time every night. So good, even it was just half
Speaker 1: an hour, an hour, like, that's just the time.
Speaker 3: Hey. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So the last one is spiritual rest, which is basically
Speaker 2: just connecting to whatever it is that you believe in,
Speaker 2: whether that be the universe or higher power. Good, that's it.
Speaker 2: So taking time out to connect and pray or put
Speaker 2: out manifestations whatever that may.
Speaker 3: Look like to you.
Speaker 1: That might be through meditation, they might be through doing cards,
Speaker 1: but just making sure you're staying connected to your spirituality
Speaker 1: however that looks and feels to you. Yeah, which is
Speaker 1: so different for everyone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, this is something really interesting that I saw
Speaker 2: as well. So if we just get sleep alone, that
Speaker 2: is not enough to restore us. So if you get
Speaker 2: getting a full, solid nine to ten hours sleep and
Speaker 2: you're waking up and you're still freaking exhausted, it's because
Speaker 2: one of these other rests is lacking, which is really cook.
Speaker 2: I think a lot of the time we think like,
Speaker 2: why am I so tired? Like I've just had a
Speaker 2: full night sleep. It's so cool to have these seven
Speaker 2: different areas to look at and be like, which one
Speaker 2: of these have I not been tapping into?
Speaker 3: One hundred percent?
Speaker 1: I feel like that I have to hospital. Remember, I
Speaker 1: was so frustrated with myself. I was like getting full
Speaker 1: night sleeps and I was like, I'm getting eight hours,
Speaker 1: how am I waking up?
Speaker 3: And this first time in my whole.
Speaker 1: Life that I've struggled to get out of bed early
Speaker 1: in the morning. I was sleeping into like six quarter
Speaker 1: past six, my kids up at six thirty. So just
Speaker 1: not doing my normal routine, which already makes me feel
Speaker 1: like flustered. Have that solo time but yeah, I was
Speaker 1: just waking up so exhausted. So it's so cool to
Speaker 1: learn about all of this and now to be able
Speaker 1: to really implement it all.
Speaker 2: Definitely an emotional rest, like that's a huge one. I
Speaker 2: feel like when we're so upset and emotional and going
Speaker 2: through a hard time, you get your full same amount
Speaker 2: of sleep and you're just like still so exhausted. So
Speaker 2: you're like, that's the biggest one for me. Like, when
Speaker 2: I think of times when I'm really being low or down,
Speaker 2: I just feel like I'm literally tired all the time.
Speaker 2: If I don't have a break, I'm snapping out of it.
Speaker 2: I was just gonna ask, what's the hardest one for
Speaker 2: you out of all those seven. It's definitely emotional for
Speaker 2: me too. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think emotional and then
Speaker 2: also creative.
Speaker 3: Emotional and sensory.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yes, Oh gosh, I don't know. I feel
Speaker 2: like we're saying this. I was like, how is it
Speaker 2: like new mums they literally like can pretty much not
Speaker 2: tap into a lot of these most of the time.
Speaker 1: No wonder mums are so frazzled and so burnt out
Speaker 1: and so tired and sort of resentful because they don't
Speaker 1: like you think about just the traditional gender roles if
Speaker 1: the partner goes to work in the staying home with kids,
Speaker 1: like there really isn't a lot of time for them
Speaker 1: to tap out and be creative or have time by
Speaker 1: theirselves or have any quiet, Like really isn't. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: non stop.
Speaker 2: It's non stop, and the sensory overload is just like.
Speaker 1: Huge with kids even when you're a working mum though,
Speaker 1: Like we always talk about this, like I go to
Speaker 1: work and Tala stays with our nanny, and then I
Speaker 1: picked Taja.
Speaker 3: From school and then come home.
Speaker 1: The moment I step into the door, she's running into
Speaker 1: my arms, which is so beautiful. But like that whole day,
Speaker 1: from the moment she's woken up to the moment she
Speaker 1: goes to bed, she's on my hip. Yeah, it's even
Speaker 1: going to work, like my brain's being creative, working with
Speaker 1: the team, being on organizing logistics, structure, goals, deadlines. It's on,
Speaker 1: and then from the moment you get home, it's on
Speaker 1: again until I actually put my head down on the
Speaker 1: pillow that's my rest. So it is hard to find
Speaker 1: those pockets of time we actually get to be by
Speaker 1: yourself and rest.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like Kur and I are getting pretty
Speaker 2: good now at tapping with each other. Yeah, yeah, quite often, and.
Speaker 3: It works really well. Guys are lucky in that sense.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but we've got Reagan there still five days of
Speaker 2: the week she's at home with us, but it's just
Speaker 2: being like, Okay, I'm going to go take her out for.
Speaker 3: Chili, take it two days. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is a juggle. But then the beautiful thing too,
Speaker 2: because we are both there is like sad Kurt can
Speaker 2: go do the drop offs and bring reeds and then
Speaker 2: I can like work, and then he can come back
Speaker 2: and I can take rigs. So it is such a
Speaker 2: juggling act.
Speaker 3: That's what I mean. The mums that are at home
Speaker 3: and don't have that, you just don't get that.
Speaker 2: Definitely, Oh gosh, no, so lucky.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I said, you've got that, or yeah, I suppose
Speaker 1: it's just if you don't have that, it's tapping in
Speaker 1: and out when your partner gets home space then but
Speaker 1: then it's like the crazy bath routine and bedtime.
Speaker 2: You know. It's been life changing for me is the crash.
Speaker 2: And I wish I did this when Kurt was working,
Speaker 2: because when Kurt used to work six I say, when
Speaker 2: he was working. He's still working, yeah, but I was
Speaker 2: doing yes when he was away six days a week,
Speaker 2: huge crazy hours. I was so nervous to go do
Speaker 2: it on my own initially, and I went and also
Speaker 2: worried to how Reagan would go, and she absolutely loves it.
Speaker 2: And it's just like little things like that, and even
Speaker 2: like with our craze, they're like if you want it afterwards,
Speaker 2: like go grab a coffee. If you only have a
Speaker 2: half hour work out, like grab a coffee.
Speaker 3: So like for mom, it's kind of.
Speaker 2: Amazing to be able to, like if you want to
Speaker 2: get a work out of it, or you know, go
Speaker 2: do a yoga class or a meditation or whatever you wanted,
Speaker 2: and then be able to like duck down and grab
Speaker 2: like a coffee and have a solo date just to
Speaker 2: like recalibrate.
Speaker 3: That's incredible, But it's.
Speaker 2: Just going initially, like the first time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think the big mainstream gym there was a
Speaker 1: big thing online about it was a Good Life members.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure they took the crash away.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I remember Sky really posting about it because she was
Speaker 1: so upset because as a mum, that was her time
Speaker 1: and took it away. So once again it's like it's
Speaker 1: not an optional all gyms, but if it's there, if yeah.
Speaker 2: Because yeah, I was just too scared.
Speaker 1: Every gym should have it. Hey, when I used to
Speaker 1: own a gym, we had it. Yeah, so important for months.
Speaker 1: So important is that hour that they can like enjoy
Speaker 1: and put into themselves.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and even if you like go to the gym
Speaker 2: to just literally stretch, like if you're feeling overwhelmed, like
Speaker 2: don't even work, just go there and have a stretch.
Speaker 3: To put a podcast in, yeah, or meditation and meditate.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I've gone to the gym before and like done minimum
Speaker 2: and been like I'm fucking need a break.
Speaker 3: It's still putting into you. It's still putting into you. Yes, Yeah,
Speaker 3: so important.
Speaker 1: Alrighty guys, nice little short pep talk pick me up information,
Speaker 1: little bite sized pieces that you guys can implement into
Speaker 1: your life and we'll leave you guys with it.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I find this so fascinating. I've got so many takeaways
Speaker 2: from this. It's just made me realize and open my
Speaker 2: eyes to so many areas of life where it's like,
Speaker 2: oh I need to break a bit more there.
Speaker 3: Definitely.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we hope you guys enjoyed and we'll see on faya.
Speaker 3: Bye bye.