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<v Speaker 1>Apota Production. Welcome back to another episode about I a

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<v Speaker 1>Bad Mom podcast but on Instagram as well. At am

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<v Speaker 1>I A Bad Mom? For the lolls and the memes.

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<v Speaker 2>Just literally laugh. I was lolling at myself actually at

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<v Speaker 2>a few of the memes I put up. I was

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<v Speaker 2>having a moment. I was like, I was on fire. Basically,

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<v Speaker 2>do you ever have those moments where you're putting up

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<v Speaker 2>like real good memes lolls? It's actually more on am

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<v Speaker 2>I A Bad Mum? That I do that more than

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<v Speaker 2>even my own personal one. Jeez, there's some good parenting

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<v Speaker 2>memes out there.

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<v Speaker 1>They're really funny because they're so relevant.

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<v Speaker 2>I was going to say, this's so relevant, but people

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<v Speaker 2>are so creative.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just life. It's just living your everyday life. I

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<v Speaker 1>take video literally. Last night I said to Amelia, I said,

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<v Speaker 1>if you keep doing that, I'm to start filming. She

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<v Speaker 1>was carrying on, so I started filming her. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>just wait, I'm gonna put this up on Instagram. I

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<v Speaker 1>would love to imagine that. Imagine if you just started

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<v Speaker 1>posting all your kids shit every time they have a meltdown,

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<v Speaker 1>every time they start arguing or being rude or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>It might be just post it all.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually this could go viral. Yeah, I think it would

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<v Speaker 2>be the funniest shit to watch ever.

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<v Speaker 1>My kids would absolutely hate that.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, my girls would die.

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<v Speaker 1>Put that up and then sponsor it. Sponsored post put

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<v Speaker 1>some money on it target their age group across Brisbane.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I bad mum for making an ultimatum? I just

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely lost it last week. It got to the point

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<v Speaker 1>where everything came to a head and Jay and I

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<v Speaker 1>were both on the same page with this, but we

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<v Speaker 1>got to the point where I was like, you are

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<v Speaker 1>literally the laziest people I've ever met in my entire life.

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<v Speaker 1>So nearly sixteen years old, don't have a job yet

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't want one.

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<v Speaker 2>They applied for two, didn't they.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like half ass And I even rach when we

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<v Speaker 1>talk about what we should and we shouldn't say to

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<v Speaker 1>our kids. And I know, if you're a psychologist, you'd

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<v Speaker 1>be listening and like, you know, shaking your head and

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<v Speaker 1>going what the fune we done? But I had a

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<v Speaker 1>moment where I turned around and said, you do nothing

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<v Speaker 1>with your life. You literally do nothing with your life, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>think about what you do day to day? No jobs

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<v Speaker 1>at home, argue over who's feeding the animals every single

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<v Speaker 1>fucking day, every single day doing it. Half fash your homework,

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<v Speaker 1>Just do what you need to do. Don't go to

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<v Speaker 1>your job because you don't have one. And then you

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<v Speaker 1>watch Netflix. So I said, literally, look at you, Look

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<v Speaker 1>at you. All you do is watch Netflix.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't they ever run out of shit to watch on Netflix?

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<v Speaker 1>Because we got too many fucking subscriptions. And then every

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<v Speaker 1>now and then I cancel them all, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>got to watch that.

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<v Speaker 2>The trial again.

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<v Speaker 1>And the minute you cancel it, they go, oh, we'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to come back half priced. I like, you could

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<v Speaker 1>have made it half price in the first place. You

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<v Speaker 1>really could have. But yeah, I'll come back because that's

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<v Speaker 1>what we do, isn't it. And we just go back.

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<v Speaker 1>I made an aultimatum, so I basically said, if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have a job by the time you're sixteen, so

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<v Speaker 1>bearing in mind, this is four months time.

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<v Speaker 2>Three months time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, if you don't have a job by then, your

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<v Speaker 1>phone bill's cut off. So you don't have a phone,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have data, you don't have you know, snapchat,

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<v Speaker 1>none of those things. Like it's going to affect everything.

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<v Speaker 1>And like Jay will say, the odd thing like, what

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<v Speaker 1>about when they get the bus home. I'm like, they

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<v Speaker 1>could just get the bus home. The bus takes them

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<v Speaker 1>from school and drops them down the road from home,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't need to even need one. No, they just

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<v Speaker 1>sit on the phone. Just really funny because I took

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<v Speaker 1>their phones away from them. Oh yeah, from that recently,

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<v Speaker 1>like I was done. I was like, no, no phones.

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<v Speaker 1>And they got home and they said, we fell asleep

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<v Speaker 1>on the bus. I was like, oh, you must have

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<v Speaker 1>needed it, and you must have been If you had

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<v Speaker 1>your phones, you would have been scrolling that entire time,

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<v Speaker 1>but instead you actually fell asleep on the bus.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's great, we got off the road. That was

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<v Speaker 2>the first thing that came to mind for me. It

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<v Speaker 2>was like, and then they end up three or four

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<v Speaker 2>suburbs past yours because they.

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<v Speaker 1>And they can't phone me because they have a phone,

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't see them on Life three sixty because

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<v Speaker 1>I have it. But not only that rage, but I've

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<v Speaker 1>now enforced the fact that they need to get a job.

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<v Speaker 1>Otherwise everything's been cut off. You're not paying for shit anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>The other thing that I said was every day because

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<v Speaker 1>a while ago, and we talk about this, you choose

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<v Speaker 1>your battles, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, years ago I.

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<v Speaker 1>Stopped making them make their beds because I was getting

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<v Speaker 1>so frustrated at having to bang on about making the

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<v Speaker 1>bed that it was making me stressed every morning. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, you know what, I make my bed

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<v Speaker 1>because I like it to be made and I like

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<v Speaker 1>to get into a made bed at the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the day. I also like the fact that it's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of my first job ticked off the to do list

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<v Speaker 1>in the mornings, Like, I don't know, just make the

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<v Speaker 1>bed and it's done.

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<v Speaker 2>Clean room is a clean mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, And if they don't want that, what are your problem?

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<v Speaker 1>Not my problem. But now I'm like, no, the laziness

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<v Speaker 1>has got to such high levels that you now will

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<v Speaker 1>set your alarm so there's none of this. We wake

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<v Speaker 1>you up at seven, you get out of it at

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<v Speaker 1>seven point thirty, we leave the house at eight. That's

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<v Speaker 1>not happening.

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<v Speaker 2>Enomore.

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<v Speaker 1>You have an alarm clock, old school alarm clock, no phones.

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<v Speaker 1>You set that for six, six thirty whatever time sit.

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<v Speaker 1>I started with six because I was like, I made

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<v Speaker 1>them get the bus to school for a week. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you get up at six, you make your bed, you

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<v Speaker 1>get ready, you feed your animals and you get out

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<v Speaker 1>of the house and you walk to the bus stop.

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<v Speaker 2>For seven that's great. Yeah, did they do it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, for a whole week?

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<v Speaker 2>Can we make it longer? Or that's so good of

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<v Speaker 2>them that they did it. Yeah, the challenge on board,

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<v Speaker 2>which absolutely displays the fact that they're very capable of.

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<v Speaker 1>It, very capable. And to be honest with you, Rach like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's inconvenient because now we're paying for them to get

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<v Speaker 1>the bus to school every morning, but we still go

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<v Speaker 1>that way to work, so we technically control.

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<v Speaker 2>And cheaper.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's just going you need to get shit together.

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<v Speaker 1>You do absolutely fuck all.

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<v Speaker 2>I love the idea. So if I'm going to like

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<v Speaker 2>recap what we did discuss over dinner one night, your girls,

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<v Speaker 2>we were chatting about it and they were telling me

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<v Speaker 2>very excitedly. Might I add how they were going to

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<v Speaker 2>be buying a car from the money that they earned

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<v Speaker 2>this year, and you were going to match what they'd

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<v Speaker 2>earned from their job this year when they turned sixteen,

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<v Speaker 2>they get the car because they get their learners. Yeah. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>if I was correct, I would say that we're about

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<v Speaker 2>eight to ten weeks off of their birthday. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna say, at this point in time, there's still jobless. Yep,

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<v Speaker 2>so there's definitely no car on the horizon night.

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<v Speaker 1>So at the moment, are they feeling matching nothing. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>matching nothing. They've saved nothing, so I'm safely matching with nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>Like this was the start of the year, wasn't it

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<v Speaker 2>when we had this conbo, Like I was pumped for them. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought they were absolutely, Like they were so excited

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<v Speaker 2>about the fact that they get their learners and they'd

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<v Speaker 2>have a car. They were going to share the car,

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<v Speaker 2>so they were both going to get a job and

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<v Speaker 2>then put it all their money together and then you

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<v Speaker 2>would match that and they would have like a forty

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<v Speaker 2>thousand dollar car. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>It's great plan, isn't it. It's a great plan until

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<v Speaker 1>you forget your part of the saving process.

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<v Speaker 2>Job job, job.

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<v Speaker 1>And what I said to them is because I taught

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<v Speaker 1>them how to edit podcasts, which was great. They're really

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<v Speaker 1>good at it. They're very talented at it. Like I

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<v Speaker 1>can see that that is going to be something that

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<v Speaker 1>they'll be, you know, really getting friend into. It's fantastic.

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<v Speaker 1>Apart from what I realized is that I'm still handing

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<v Speaker 1>everything to them on a plate, because what they were

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<v Speaker 1>doing was they were going, hey, mom, we've organized to

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<v Speaker 1>go to the Echo with our friends tomorrow, so can

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<v Speaker 1>I edit for podcasts today? And I'm like, it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>work like that. I budget for producers, I have, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't just willingly have endless amount to spend just

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<v Speaker 1>when you decide. When someone comes to me and says

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<v Speaker 1>I want to go on holiday tomorrow and I have

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<v Speaker 1>seven hundred podcast said it, No, it doesn't work like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I said. What you need is a really shit job

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<v Speaker 1>where people are going to stink to you, like shit. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what you need.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to like clean some dirty dishes or like hospitality.

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<v Speaker 2>My first few jobs in hospitality, mate, it was hard YAKA, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>hard YAKA. And I was only at the cheesecake shop. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that was my start. That was my first job. But

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<v Speaker 2>at the same time, I remember working like twelve hour

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<v Speaker 2>days on a Sunday to just try and rake in

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<v Speaker 2>the sunday rates. Yeah, and as a kid, that was

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<v Speaker 2>obviously not the most highly paid, but at the same time,

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<v Speaker 2>you worked bloody hard for twelve hours.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I started six dollars an hour.

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<v Speaker 2>They need that.

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<v Speaker 1>And Emilia was like she's worked out the math. She

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<v Speaker 1>was like, it's like nine dollars an hour, Like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to literally get bugger all for a week. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, yeah, nah, but I'll be so impressed.

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<v Speaker 2>That's called life. At least you've got a great finish

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<v Speaker 2>to the end of the year. I meaning you're not

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<v Speaker 2>out of pocket for that's a positive.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the ultimatum them getting the buses really quite

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<v Speaker 1>inconvenient and it's expensive, but I'm willing to continue doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know The funniest thing is it's one of

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<v Speaker 1>those days, rach I stayed in bed. I stayed in

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<v Speaker 1>I was feeling, well, yeah, and instead of feeling like

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<v Speaker 1>I have to get up, No, I don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>go to school today. I don't have to go to school.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have to get into the traffic and then

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<v Speaker 2>sit in the traffic on the way to school and

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<v Speaker 2>then on the way home behind you.

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<v Speaker 1>I had the alarm beak when they came downstairs. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, right, they're down the way on the way.

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<v Speaker 1>I had the front door unlocked and closed behind them,

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<v Speaker 1>and I went to school.

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<v Speaker 2>The very cluey, very smart girls. I know what they're doing.

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<v Speaker 2>Late than never, better late than never, I say