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Speaker 1: Apota Production. Welcome back to another episode about I a

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Speaker 1: Bad Mom podcast but on Instagram as well. At am

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Speaker 1: I A Bad Mom? For the lolls and the memes,

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Speaker 1: just literally laugh.

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Speaker 2: I was lolling at myself actually at a few of

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Speaker 2: the memes I put up. I was having a moment.

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Speaker 2: I was like, I was on fire. Basically, do you

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Speaker 2: ever have those moments where you're putting up like real

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Speaker 2: good memes lolls? It's actually more on am I A

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Speaker 2: Bad Mum? That I do that more than even my

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Speaker 2: own personal one. Jeez, there's some good parenting memes out there.

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Speaker 1: They're really funny because they're so relevant.

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Speaker 2: I was going to say, this's so relevant, but people

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Speaker 2: are so creative.

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Speaker 1: It's just life. It's just living your everyday life. I

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Speaker 1: take video literally. Last night I said to Amelia, I said,

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Speaker 1: if you keep doing that, I'm to start filming. She

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Speaker 1: was carrying on, so I started filming her. I was like,

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Speaker 1: just wait, I'm gonna put this up on Instagram. I

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Speaker 1: would love to imagine that. Imagine if you just started

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Speaker 1: posting all your kids shit every time they have a meltdown,

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Speaker 1: every time they start arguing or being rude or whatever.

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Speaker 1: It might be just post it all.

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Speaker 2: Actually this could go viral. Yeah, I think it would

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Speaker 2: be the funniest shit to watch ever.

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Speaker 1: My kids would absolutely hate that.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, my girls would die.

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Speaker 1: Put that up and then sponsor it. Sponsored post put

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Speaker 1: some money on it target their age group across Brisbane.

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Speaker 1: Am I bad mum for making an ultimatum? I just

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Speaker 1: absolutely lost it last week. It got to the point

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Speaker 1: where everything came to a head and Jay and I

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Speaker 1: were both on the same page with this, but we

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Speaker 1: got to the point where I was like, you are

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Speaker 1: literally the laziest people I've ever met in my entire life.

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Speaker 1: So nearly sixteen years old, don't have a job yet

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Speaker 1: because I don't want one.

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Speaker 2: They applied for two, didn't they.

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Speaker 1: They're like half ass And I even rach when we

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Speaker 1: talk about what we should and we shouldn't say to

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Speaker 1: our kids. And I know, if you're a psychologist, you'd

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Speaker 1: be listening and like, you know, shaking your head and

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Speaker 1: going what the fune we done? But I had a

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Speaker 1: moment where I turned around and said, you do nothing

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Speaker 1: with your life. You literally do nothing with your life, Like,

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Speaker 1: think about what you do day to day? No jobs

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Speaker 1: at home, argue over who's feeding the animals every single

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Speaker 1: fucking day, every single day doing it. Half fash your homework,

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Speaker 1: Just do what you need to do. Don't go to

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Speaker 1: your job because you don't have one. And then you

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Speaker 1: watch Netflix. So I said, literally, look at you, Look

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Speaker 1: at you. All you do is watch Netflix.

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Speaker 2: Don't they ever run out of shit to watch on Netflix?

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Speaker 1: Because we got too many fucking subscriptions. And then every

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Speaker 1: now and then I cancel them all, and then I

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Speaker 2: The trial again.

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Speaker 1: And the minute you cancel it, they go, oh, we'd

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Speaker 1: like to come back half priced. I like, you could

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Speaker 1: have made it half price in the first place. You

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Speaker 1: really could have. But yeah, I'll come back because that's

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Speaker 1: what we do, isn't it. And we just go back.

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Speaker 1: I made an aultimatum, so I basically said, if you

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Speaker 1: bearing in mind, this is four months time.

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Speaker 2: Three months time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you don't have a job by then, your

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Speaker 1: phone bill's cut off. So you don't have a phone,

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Speaker 1: you don't have data, you don't have you know, snapchat,

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Speaker 1: none of those things. Like it's going to affect everything.

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Speaker 1: And like Jay will say, the odd thing like, what

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Speaker 1: about when they get the bus home. I'm like, they

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Speaker 1: they don't need to even need one. No, they just

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Speaker 1: their phones away from them. Oh yeah, from that recently,

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Speaker 1: like I was done. I was like, no, no phones.

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Speaker 1: And they got home and they said, we fell asleep

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Speaker 1: but instead you actually fell asleep on the bus.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's great, we got off the road. That was

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Speaker 1: And they can't phone me because they have a phone,

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Speaker 1: and I can't see them on Life three sixty because

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Speaker 1: I have it. But not only that rage, but I've

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Speaker 1: now enforced the fact that they need to get a job.

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Speaker 1: Otherwise everything's been cut off. You're not paying for shit anymore.

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Speaker 1: The other thing that I said was every day because

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Speaker 1: a while ago, and we talk about this, you choose

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Speaker 1: your battles, right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, years ago I.

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Speaker 1: Stopped making them make their beds because I was getting

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Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I make my bed

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Speaker 1: to get into a made bed at the end of

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Speaker 1: the day. I also like the fact that it's kind

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Speaker 1: of my first job ticked off the to do list

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Speaker 1: in the mornings, Like, I don't know, just make the

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Speaker 2: Clean room is a clean mind.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And if they don't want that, what are your problem?

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Speaker 1: Not my problem. But now I'm like, no, the laziness

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Speaker 1: has got to such high levels that you now will

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Speaker 1: set your alarm so there's none of this. We wake

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Speaker 1: you up at seven, you get out of it at

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Speaker 1: seven point thirty, we leave the house at eight. That's

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Speaker 1: not happening.

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Speaker 2: Enomore.

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Speaker 1: You have an alarm clock, old school alarm clock, no phones.

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Speaker 1: You set that for six, six thirty whatever time sit.

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Speaker 1: I started with six because I was like, I made

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Speaker 1: them get the bus to school for a week. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you get up at six, you make your bed, you

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Speaker 1: get ready, you feed your animals and you get out

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Speaker 2: For seven that's great. Yeah, did they do it?

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Speaker 1: Yes, for a whole week?

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Speaker 2: Can we make it longer? Or that's so good of

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Speaker 2: them that they did it. Yeah, the challenge on board,

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Speaker 2: which absolutely displays the fact that they're very capable of.

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Speaker 1: It, very capable. And to be honest with you, Rach like,

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Speaker 1: it's inconvenient because now we're paying for them to get

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Speaker 1: the bus to school every morning, but we still go

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Speaker 1: that way to work, so we technically control.

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Speaker 2: And cheaper.

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Speaker 1: But it's just going you need to get shit together.

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Speaker 1: You do absolutely fuck all.

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Speaker 2: I love the idea. So if I'm going to like

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Speaker 2: recap what we did discuss over dinner one night, your girls,

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Speaker 2: we were chatting about it and they were telling me

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Speaker 2: very excitedly. Might I add how they were going to

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Speaker 2: be buying a car from the money that they earned

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Speaker 2: this year, and you were going to match what they'd

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Speaker 2: earned from their job this year when they turned sixteen,

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Speaker 2: they get the car because they get their learners. Yeah. Now,

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Speaker 2: if I was correct, I would say that we're about

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Speaker 2: eight to ten weeks off of their birthday. So I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna say, at this point in time, there's still jobless. Yep,

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Speaker 2: so there's definitely no car on the horizon night.

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Speaker 1: So at the moment, are they feeling matching nothing. I'm

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Speaker 1: matching nothing. They've saved nothing, so I'm safely matching with nothing.

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Speaker 2: Like this was the start of the year, wasn't it

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Speaker 2: when we had this conbo, Like I was pumped for them. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I thought they were absolutely, Like they were so excited

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Speaker 2: have a car. They were going to share the car,

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Speaker 2: so they were both going to get a job and

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Speaker 2: then put it all their money together and then you

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Speaker 2: would match that and they would have like a forty

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Speaker 2: thousand dollar car. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It's great plan, isn't it. It's a great plan until

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Speaker 1: you forget your part of the saving process.

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Speaker 2: Job job, job.

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Speaker 1: And what I said to them is because I taught

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Speaker 1: them how to edit podcasts, which was great. They're really

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Speaker 1: good at it. They're very talented at it. Like I

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Speaker 1: can see that that is going to be something that

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Speaker 2: It's fantastic.

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Speaker 1: Apart from what I realized is that I'm still handing

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Speaker 1: everything to them on a plate, because what they were

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Speaker 1: doing was they were going, hey, mom, we've organized to

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Speaker 1: go to the Echo with our friends tomorrow, so can

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Speaker 1: I edit for podcasts today? And I'm like, it doesn't

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Speaker 1: work like that. I budget for producers, I have, you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't just willingly have endless amount to spend just

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Speaker 1: when you decide. When someone comes to me and says

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Speaker 1: seven hundred podcast said it, No, it doesn't work like that.

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Speaker 1: I said. What you need is a really shit job

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Speaker 1: where people are going to stink to you, like shit. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what you need.

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Speaker 2: You need to like clean some dirty dishes or like hospitality.

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Speaker 2: My first few jobs in hospitality, mate, it was hard YAKA, yeah,

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Speaker 2: hard YAKA. And I was only at the cheesecake shop. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that was my start. That was my first job. But

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Speaker 2: at the same time, I remember working like twelve hour

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Speaker 2: the sunday rates. Yeah, and as a kid, that was

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Speaker 2: obviously not the most highly paid, but at the same time,

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Speaker 2: you worked bloody hard for twelve hours.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I started six dollars an hour.

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Speaker 2: They need that.

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Speaker 1: And Emilia was like she's worked out the math. She

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Speaker 1: was like, it's like nine dollars an hour, Like I'm

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Speaker 1: going to literally get bugger all for a week. And

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Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, nah, but I'll be so impressed.

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Speaker 2: That's called life. At least you've got a great finish

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Speaker 2: to the end of the year. I meaning you're not

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Speaker 2: out of pocket for that's a positive.

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Speaker 1: I like the ultimatum them getting the buses really quite

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Speaker 1: inconvenient and it's expensive, but I'm willing to continue doing it.

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Speaker 1: Do you know The funniest thing is it's one of

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Speaker 1: those days, rach I stayed in bed. I stayed in

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Speaker 1: I was feeling, well, yeah, and instead of feeling like

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Speaker 1: I have to get up, No, I don't have to

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Speaker 1: go to school today. I don't have to go to school.

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Speaker 2: I don't have to get into the traffic and then

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Speaker 2: sit in the traffic on the way to school and

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Speaker 2: then on the way home behind you.

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Speaker 1: I had the alarm beak when they came downstairs. I

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Speaker 1: was like, right, they're down the way on the way.

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Speaker 1: I had the front door unlocked and closed behind them,

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Speaker 1: and I went to school.

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Speaker 2: The very cluey, very smart girls. I know what they're doing.

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Speaker 2: Late than never, better late than never, I say