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Speaker 1: Apoge Production.

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Speaker 2: I'm Mickey Fisher, and welcome to the Village Crazy Lady.

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Speaker 2: People are talking to me and they are not physically

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Speaker 2: in this room, so just strap in for that. Can't

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Speaker 2: call me crazy, so I said it first. Whoever's trying

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Speaker 2: to come through, whatever messages need to come through, like,

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Speaker 2: just bring it on.

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Speaker 1: Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Crazy Crazy Crazy the Village Crazy Lay Podcast. Hello, Goodeous Legends,

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Speaker 2: and welcome to another episode of the Village Crazy Lady.

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Speaker 2: Today we've got part two of my chat with the

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Speaker 2: Yoni Queen herself, Rosy Rees. If you haven't listened to

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Speaker 2: the first part of the episode, make sure you go

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Speaker 2: back and listen to the first part because there is

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Speaker 2: just so much that we chat about. So let's get

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Speaker 2: into it. Like the concept of the over sexualizing is

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Speaker 2: so true, and I feel like that's a good segue

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Speaker 2: into like what I want to talk about next, which

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Speaker 2: is like teach this sort of stuff to our kids

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Speaker 2: or just children in general, right, because like I think

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Speaker 2: that the sexualization of everything starts so so young. There's

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Speaker 2: so many no you can't do this, No you can't

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Speaker 2: do that. But then where sort of like everything is

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Speaker 2: sexual like you know, over sexualized about our bodies and

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Speaker 2: how we're treated. And I mean, like, you know exactly

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Speaker 2: what I'm talking about, And something that I am always

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Speaker 2: trying to learn about and sort of really understand and

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Speaker 2: find the balance with is like, how do we help

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Speaker 2: our children understand I guess sex and our bodies and

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Speaker 2: everything about it in a really safe way. Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: like you've got you know, a step daughter, so you've

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Speaker 2: got like experience doing that, Like what do you recommend?

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Speaker 1: It starts with the parents. People who feel shame around

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Speaker 1: their sexuality or their sex find it really hard to

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Speaker 1: be a role model for their children. And fair enough,

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Speaker 1: you know, but it really starts with the parents to

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Speaker 1: work on themselves. Because if like, and it makes so

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Speaker 1: much sense, Like my mom didn't tell me anything about

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Speaker 1: sex or menstruation, nothing, zero, zilch, absolutely nothing, And so

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Speaker 1: so of course she's not going to tell her kids

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Speaker 1: She can't, and but her mum couldn't either, So it

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Speaker 1: makes sense. And you can't demonize parents who aren't doing

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Speaker 1: it because you know they have to work on them

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Speaker 1: else first to be able to educate their children. So really,

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Speaker 1: I just want to drive that home, like it starts

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Speaker 1: with you, and it starts with the home. You cannot

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Speaker 1: because we just can't rely on school systems to do that.

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Speaker 1: Yet I don't think I think it is happening. Kenzi,

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Speaker 1: our eight year old daughter, did receive. It was more

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Speaker 1: or Rosie or Daddy or your grandparents that we approve of,

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Speaker 1: you know, I don't know, wiping your barm or something.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't need that anymore, but no one else is

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Speaker 1: allowed to touch that. That's part of your body. And

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Speaker 1: If they're asking or curious, they're ready. You do not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, from someone that's not you really, you know, Like

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Speaker 2: like if they're asking the question and you're not going

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Speaker 1: They will and they will get it from the worst

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Speaker 1: like get it. If you find it really uncomfortable to

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Speaker 1: right now, can ask his boot ken Zie once in

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Speaker 1: but when she is, she knows they're there. So that's

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Speaker 1: a big one, if they're asking, if they're curious, do

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Speaker 1: very innocent, yeah, like it's they're not It's not like

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Speaker 2: Yes. The removing the shame, I think is like really

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Speaker 2: I think of like wanting to protect them and like

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Speaker 1: These are literally just bodies.

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Speaker 2: Like I'm just genuinely intrigued and like the I remember,

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Speaker 2: but it is interesting, like how you notice what your

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Speaker 2: That's the first thing. Like it is a you thing.

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Speaker 2: Whatever you're feeling, that is a you thing. It is

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Speaker 1: That's our charge, and that's our charge from our conditioning

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Speaker 1: and our upbringing totally. If you don't want to pass

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Speaker 1: that on to your child, then get the education that

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Speaker 1: you need from a sex educator. There's so many sex

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Speaker 1: I think there's the traffic light system. So you can

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Speaker 1: look that up in terms of like what's healthy and

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Speaker 1: but let's find out together, you know, make it a

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Speaker 2: Yes, literally, Yeah, you're also.

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Speaker 1: We from here and you bleed from here, and you

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Speaker 2: You guys came out of here exactly shameful. How about though,

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Speaker 2: I guess it changes when they become like, not changes,

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Speaker 2: So how do you think like you navigate that age.

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Speaker 1: It's tricky because I'm just gonna say this, and this

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Speaker 1: I don't know, a therapist, it's counselor or something. But

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Speaker 1: in terms of high school, listen, I'm the worst person

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Speaker 2: I love that. Just that realization and the connection to

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Speaker 2: because it's not the first time I fucking heard that.

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Speaker 2: Yes, follow the pussy. Before we finish up, I do

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Speaker 2: while they're like, I'm not sure this is for me.

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Speaker 2: They're just like like getting get out, especially like in

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, a couple of boyfriends that I had before

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Speaker 1: for a pussy to replicate. And like I've been told

427
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Speaker 1: once that I was too wet or too open. No, no, no,

428
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:29,081
Speaker 1: a wet, open pussy is what you want. Like that

429
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,201
Speaker 1: means she's turned on. That means she's aroused and wet

430
00:24:32,241 --> 00:24:35,400
Speaker 1: and like it's all happening. Yet men want this tight,

431
00:24:36,120 --> 00:24:38,640
Speaker 1: friction based kind of experience, So I think there's a

432
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,720
Speaker 1: lot of rewiring for men to do, you know, so

433
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 1: slowing down self pleasure, having a looser grip. Potentially camphraises

434
00:24:48,001 --> 00:24:50,521
Speaker 1: the man for all of this stuff on the internet,

435
00:24:50,561 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 1: so check him out. But I think also like using

436
00:24:55,281 --> 00:24:58,521
Speaker 1: your breath, using your pelvic floor muscles if you're a man,

437
00:24:59,001 --> 00:25:02,881
Speaker 1: can really help and help to slow down, like rather

438
00:25:02,921 --> 00:25:05,961
Speaker 1: than having that vigorous sex, see if you can just

439
00:25:06,001 --> 00:25:08,921
Speaker 1: slow down the whole process, slowing down everything. Like when

440
00:25:08,961 --> 00:25:11,321
Speaker 1: I'm using my glass ones to self pleasure, I'm not

441
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:16,281
Speaker 1: like ramming it in it. It's like whoa the slot.

442
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:22,041
Speaker 1: Think about it. When you do something slower, you feel more. Yeah, totally,

443
00:25:22,120 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 1: Like if you were to touch your hand, if you

444
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:27,480
Speaker 1: weren't really really slow, you can really really feel the

445
00:25:27,561 --> 00:25:30,120
Speaker 1: subtle tea and like the tickle and the sensation, you

446
00:25:30,120 --> 00:25:32,161
Speaker 1: can feel exactly where it's at, Whereas if you were

447
00:25:32,201 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 1: to vigorously rub eventually you just almost don't even feel

448
00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:38,001
Speaker 1: it like it's just really kind of send up with

449
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:43,641
Speaker 1: like Chaffinger exactly, but not only that. A man's semen

450
00:25:44,001 --> 00:25:48,001
Speaker 1: is his life force energy, and in ancient teachings, they

451
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 1: would teach the men to not ejaculate or if because

452
00:25:53,120 --> 00:25:55,880
Speaker 1: I talked to my Kundalini yoga teacher about this actually,

453
00:25:56,201 --> 00:25:58,801
Speaker 1: because that's all about channeling your sexual energy, channeling your

454
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:02,881
Speaker 1: kundliny energy, and he said that it's recommended for men

455
00:26:02,961 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 1: to ejaculate once a month. And I was like, okay,

456
00:26:06,201 --> 00:26:08,920
Speaker 1: what about women. You know what if we're coming every day,

457
00:26:08,921 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 1: because coming for us brings us often, it will bring

458
00:26:12,441 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 1: especially internal orgasms, it'll bring energy. And he was like

459
00:26:15,721 --> 00:26:18,321
Speaker 1: once a week for a woman. Listen, I don't. I

460
00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:20,761
Speaker 1: can potentially do it a lot more than that, and

461
00:26:20,801 --> 00:26:22,561
Speaker 1: it's not like you need to follow this, but he

462
00:26:22,721 --> 00:26:26,400
Speaker 1: was saying, yeah, that the semen is the that really

463
00:26:26,481 --> 00:26:29,880
Speaker 1: life force energy, and when a man ejaculates, he loses

464
00:26:30,360 --> 00:26:33,120
Speaker 1: that life force. And so the more a man can

465
00:26:33,441 --> 00:26:37,801
Speaker 1: practice it's called sublimation, it's recirculating the semen, and it's

466
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,041
Speaker 1: obviously you need to be trained to do it and

467
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,281
Speaker 1: read lots of books and do courses on this because

468
00:26:42,281 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: it's I would I would hate men to be listening

469
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 1: being like, oh god, I can't masthurbate. I'm gonna have

470
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:51,600
Speaker 1: blue balls for like a month. But yeah, just starting

471
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: to maybe slow down, use your breath and watch less porn.

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Speaker 1: The men that I was with, they both of them

473
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:03,881
Speaker 1: stopped watching porn, and you know what, our sex life

474
00:27:03,921 --> 00:27:04,961
Speaker 1: changed completely.

475
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 2: Wow.

476
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Speaker 1: I remember one day my boyfriend picked me up from

477
00:27:07,761 --> 00:27:10,041
Speaker 1: work when I was working out this little cafe and

478
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:11,400
Speaker 1: I said, to you, as soon as I got in

479
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:13,801
Speaker 1: the car, I felt his energy and I just said

480
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:16,321
Speaker 1: to him, I'm like, did you watch porn and masturbate today?

481
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 1: He's like, how did you know? And I could just

482
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:24,321
Speaker 1: feel it. His life boss was not as vibrant and

483
00:27:24,360 --> 00:27:25,360
Speaker 1: alive and energetic.

484
00:27:25,721 --> 00:27:26,041
Speaker 2: Wow.

485
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,761
Speaker 1: And so after that experience, actually that was really big

486
00:27:28,801 --> 00:27:31,001
Speaker 1: for him. And he'd had an addiction to porn for

487
00:27:31,041 --> 00:27:35,281
Speaker 1: many years and he stopped. And we can't underestimate the

488
00:27:35,360 --> 00:27:37,001
Speaker 1: mind and had the role of the mind and the

489
00:27:37,041 --> 00:27:40,521
Speaker 1: brain and witnessing something like that plays in sex. If

490
00:27:40,561 --> 00:27:44,400
Speaker 1: your partner's watching a lot of porn, it's very hard

491
00:27:44,441 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: to switch into like a sensual, erotic, intimate experience with

492
00:27:48,321 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: your partner. That you've been with save for twenty five years,

493
00:27:51,201 --> 00:27:56,440
Speaker 1: and so cutting porn out or down is really beneficial, man.

494
00:27:57,761 --> 00:28:00,561
Speaker 2: I mean that's its own conversation itself is like just

495
00:28:00,761 --> 00:28:03,801
Speaker 2: so true, just the disconnection and the like so used

496
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:07,120
Speaker 2: to and like it really is an Instagram versus like

497
00:28:07,241 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 2: reality sort of situation, isn't it.

498
00:28:09,441 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 1: It is because when you're on porn, if something's not working,

499
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:13,481
Speaker 1: you go to the next one and she's got bigger

500
00:28:13,481 --> 00:28:15,841
Speaker 1: boobs and she's doing this crazy shit and then it's

501
00:28:15,961 --> 00:28:18,721
Speaker 1: like really violent and then you need all this crazy

502
00:28:18,801 --> 00:28:22,281
Speaker 1: fucking shit to get off hotally go back to your

503
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:25,121
Speaker 1: wife that you've been with for twenty years, and obviously

504
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,281
Speaker 1: she's not going to do that, Like that's not realistic.

505
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:31,921
Speaker 1: This person is born and it's you know, she's performing.

506
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 1: That's what her job is, that's her role. But you

507
00:28:37,120 --> 00:28:40,801
Speaker 1: don't want to performer in the bedroom. Sex isn't about performance,

508
00:28:40,841 --> 00:28:44,481
Speaker 1: it's about connection. Well for me anyway, if I want

509
00:28:44,521 --> 00:28:47,601
Speaker 1: to have sex, yes, like once a month with ovulation,

510
00:28:47,801 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 1: I'm like I just need an orgasm. I'm really horny.

511
00:28:50,481 --> 00:28:54,321
Speaker 1: But around that it's connecting. I want to connect and

512
00:28:54,361 --> 00:28:56,521
Speaker 1: I want to feel my partner. I want to feel bonded.

513
00:28:56,961 --> 00:29:00,921
Speaker 1: Women need to feel bonded. We need that eye contact.

514
00:29:01,161 --> 00:29:03,841
Speaker 1: We need, you know. And I always say, like, start

515
00:29:03,881 --> 00:29:07,361
Speaker 1: from the top down, Okay, look into her eyes, look

516
00:29:07,401 --> 00:29:10,601
Speaker 1: into each other's eyes first. It's amazing, how because I

517
00:29:10,721 --> 00:29:13,841
Speaker 1: practiced eye gazing in naked yoga. Not much we don't

518
00:29:13,841 --> 00:29:18,401
Speaker 1: do with naked yoga yoga on everything. I do some

519
00:29:18,521 --> 00:29:21,361
Speaker 1: eye gazing, and most women are like, I have never

520
00:29:21,401 --> 00:29:23,601
Speaker 1: even done this with my partner that I've been with

521
00:29:23,641 --> 00:29:28,241
Speaker 1: for decades. Yeah, you know. It's just sitting looking into

522
00:29:28,241 --> 00:29:30,521
Speaker 1: each other's left eye the window to the soul, and

523
00:29:30,641 --> 00:29:33,801
Speaker 1: just breathing, and then like kiss actually do some open

524
00:29:33,801 --> 00:29:37,281
Speaker 1: mouth kissing every day ideally, and then breasts maybe, like

525
00:29:37,681 --> 00:29:40,761
Speaker 1: just focus on her heart and her breasts, and then

526
00:29:40,841 --> 00:29:41,561
Speaker 1: go to the pussy.

527
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Speaker 2: That is the last place you've done all this, have

528
00:29:46,041 --> 00:29:50,281
Speaker 2: the checklist, check everything, add in a few more other

529
00:29:50,321 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 2: body parts, and then land the pussy. Very finally, I

530
00:29:55,481 --> 00:29:58,721
Speaker 2: feel like everyone, I hope everyone listening is taking notes

531
00:29:58,761 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 2: and we've got some things to practice. I know for me,

532
00:30:01,561 --> 00:30:04,601
Speaker 2: I'm like, the looking like they're actually looking at my

533
00:30:05,441 --> 00:30:08,121
Speaker 2: in the mirror is something that I'm like, all right,

534
00:30:08,161 --> 00:30:11,241
Speaker 2: that's my challenge. To myself. I've also been so slack

535
00:30:11,321 --> 00:30:15,081
Speaker 2: with the egg because that's like how we first connected,

536
00:30:15,081 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 2: because I was like, oh, guys, I got this egg

537
00:30:17,521 --> 00:30:20,000
Speaker 2: and like I'm gonna put it inside me. And then

538
00:30:20,081 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 2: they were like is it one of rosies? And then

539
00:30:22,041 --> 00:30:23,601
Speaker 2: you were like you need one of my eggs? And

540
00:30:23,641 --> 00:30:26,761
Speaker 2: then we had a conversation and like even you saying

541
00:30:26,841 --> 00:30:29,161
Speaker 2: like you know, for thirty days you use the egg.

542
00:30:29,361 --> 00:30:32,321
Speaker 2: I'm like, that's gonna be my challenge for everyone listening.

543
00:30:32,441 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 2: Keep me accountable for thirty days once I've finished bleeding.

544
00:30:37,641 --> 00:30:39,961
Speaker 1: Yes, not when you're bleeding, so like twenty one days

545
00:30:40,041 --> 00:30:40,161
Speaker 1: or so.

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00:30:40,521 --> 00:30:43,441
Speaker 2: And I also already like literally two days ago, well

547
00:30:43,441 --> 00:30:46,281
Speaker 2: actually not two days ago. Yesterday I didn't I couldn't

548
00:30:46,281 --> 00:30:47,801
Speaker 2: find my menstrual cup and I.

549
00:30:47,801 --> 00:30:49,041
Speaker 1: Was like, where did it go?

550
00:30:49,321 --> 00:30:51,321
Speaker 2: This is so weird, And I shoved a tampon, in

551
00:30:51,361 --> 00:30:53,121
Speaker 2: which I normally don't, but I was like, I can't

552
00:30:53,161 --> 00:30:54,481
Speaker 2: find it and I need to go to the beach.

553
00:30:54,601 --> 00:30:56,321
Speaker 2: And then it wasn't until I was like halfway to

554
00:30:56,361 --> 00:30:59,521
Speaker 2: my destination. I was like, ah, it's already in me.

555
00:30:59,641 --> 00:31:03,881
Speaker 2: I've got them both in me. I'm chokers.

556
00:31:03,361 --> 00:31:06,241
Speaker 1: I've done that with a yonia egg in there with

557
00:31:06,401 --> 00:31:08,321
Speaker 1: like a yeah, putting a tampoint in it's like a

558
00:31:08,321 --> 00:31:09,321
Speaker 1: traffic jam in there.

559
00:31:09,601 --> 00:31:12,041
Speaker 2: Literally, it's wild how much you can store up there.

560
00:31:13,761 --> 00:31:15,281
Speaker 1: I had in there.

561
00:31:15,481 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 2: If I had this woman, she's like, I work in

562
00:31:17,281 --> 00:31:20,321
Speaker 2: a women's jail, and you would you would be shot.

563
00:31:21,361 --> 00:31:25,561
Speaker 2: I'd bear It's like a Merry Poppin tampack so much.

564
00:31:25,801 --> 00:31:27,321
Speaker 1: All right, well, yes, you do need to use your

565
00:31:27,361 --> 00:31:29,401
Speaker 1: on egg a little bit more consistently because it does

566
00:31:29,441 --> 00:31:32,361
Speaker 1: tone the pelvic floor, yes, amongst other things. I didn't

567
00:31:32,361 --> 00:31:35,601
Speaker 1: get into it to tone my yoni. But after birth, yeah,

568
00:31:36,161 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 1: perfect floor muscle can decrease, and having the egg in there,

569
00:31:40,521 --> 00:31:42,121
Speaker 1: if you think about it, it's just a weight. And

570
00:31:42,121 --> 00:31:44,561
Speaker 1: this is like just to rewind five thousand years. But

571
00:31:44,601 --> 00:31:47,161
Speaker 1: this is why women started to use it. The Queen

572
00:31:47,241 --> 00:31:50,161
Speaker 1: and her concubines in China would use this egg to

573
00:31:50,841 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 1: keep a strong vagina because they knew back then, like

574
00:31:54,801 --> 00:31:57,681
Speaker 1: they didn't have prolapse surgeries to lift up your bowl

575
00:31:57,841 --> 00:31:59,761
Speaker 1: or your bladder or your uterus or your vagina wall,

576
00:32:00,041 --> 00:32:03,041
Speaker 1: but they knew, okay, wearing a weight in the vagina

577
00:32:03,201 --> 00:32:06,841
Speaker 1: is like a weightlifting practice, you know, out of work

578
00:32:07,161 --> 00:32:11,041
Speaker 1: and so typically women, well historically women used rocks if

579
00:32:11,041 --> 00:32:13,681
Speaker 1: they weren't like wealthy, like the queen or whatever. Potatoes

580
00:32:13,761 --> 00:32:17,641
Speaker 1: were used. So a little JD. Egg is or if

581
00:32:17,641 --> 00:32:20,041
Speaker 1: you've got like a kegel weight at home, use it,

582
00:32:20,601 --> 00:32:23,361
Speaker 1: even if it's just for fifteen minutes twenty minutes a day,

583
00:32:23,761 --> 00:32:26,441
Speaker 1: were your nickers In case it topples out of there

584
00:32:26,521 --> 00:32:29,161
Speaker 1: and falls down on the footpath and someone picks it up.

585
00:32:29,281 --> 00:32:32,721
Speaker 2: You you didn't want that. You definitely don't want them

586
00:32:32,761 --> 00:32:35,281
Speaker 2: to watch you lose your leg, you lose your egg.

587
00:32:36,641 --> 00:32:38,041
Speaker 1: I mean, there would be sorry.

588
00:32:38,081 --> 00:32:40,121
Speaker 2: That was that's my egg that I just laid.

589
00:32:41,961 --> 00:32:42,761
Speaker 1: Where your niggers.

590
00:32:42,881 --> 00:32:45,641
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for coming in and chatting to

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Speaker 2: me and answering every seven hundred and eighty questions that

592
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Speaker 2: I had. That was a roller coat like so we

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Speaker 2: went every weekday. I love that. And you're just such

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Speaker 2: a wealth of knowledge and so grateful for like what

595
00:32:59,921 --> 00:33:03,761
Speaker 2: you do and what you teach women, especially because it's

596
00:33:03,801 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 2: so empowering. How can people find you? I'll obviously have

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Speaker 2: it all in the show notes, and I'm sure everyone's

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Speaker 2: website and get an octopussy and also an egg and

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Speaker 1: you know. I love that. There's a lot to do

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Speaker 1: that I've got the work to do here on this

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Speaker 1: planet Busy in a message, I feel like.

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Speaker 2: I've done squirting. I'm now onto titties. I've done eggs.

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Speaker 2: I've done inside, I'm on outside.

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Speaker 1: It's just const growth, isn't It's never too late. I

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Speaker 1: love that.

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Speaker 2: Well, we'll leave on that It's never too late. Thank

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Speaker 2: you so much for listening, guys, and make sure you follow, rate,

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Speaker 2: out a lot. But I will see you next week.

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Speaker 1: Bye,