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Speaker 2: We've got pomo fear of missing out, and there's phobo

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Speaker 2: fear of a better option. Now there's faux po that

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Speaker 2: it's another stress fursing a acronym that stands for any idea.

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Speaker 3: Anyone want to have a crack?

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Speaker 2: No, oh, you are better than you are, way better

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Speaker 4: Come on, mate, fear of punching on.

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Speaker 3: No, it's fear of people's opinions. Oh god, I got

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Speaker 3: rid of that.

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Speaker 2: So this is actually this is becoming an epidemic that

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Speaker 2: there's a lot of people and this obviously social media

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Speaker 2: at comments and how many likes they're getting, and faux

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Speaker 2: a psychiatrist sees this quite a bit, so he's developed

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Speaker 2: the word fau po. Just people have to stop relying

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Speaker 3: Getting out of control it is.

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Speaker 4: And the sad thing is when you have say a

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Speaker 4: more than possibly the person intended or realizes they're causing

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Speaker 4: to It could be just a flippant comment or a

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Speaker 4: flippant turn of phrase, and then you don't It doesn't

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Speaker 4: mean anything to them, but it sits you back in

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Speaker 3: Oh, that really hurt. Well.

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Speaker 2: I'll give you some other examples of faux pai. Pretending

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Speaker 2: this is a big one for mete, laughing at jokes

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Speaker 2: that you don't find humorous, feeling anxious that you taught,

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Speaker 3: It's getting it. I do that all the time. Do

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Speaker 3: you know what? As older in life?

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Speaker 2: I just when people want to go into details, when

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Speaker 2: know the other day, mate, I was driving up that street.

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Speaker 3: God, what's that street that's next to the fish and ship?

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Speaker 3: What's that time? Care? I just or I just agree

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Speaker 3: Just to move on.

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Speaker 4: Little details, that's That's the art of the conversation though too.

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Speaker 4: The amount of conversations I'm in where I have no

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Speaker 4: And I just say, you couldn't have said it better, mate.

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Speaker 4: I do a lot of that gear you couldn't have

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Speaker 3: Over to you.

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Speaker 4: All the power to you for that.

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Speaker 2: Mate, Bernadette from Camden, You're a firm faux po believer,

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Speaker 5: I just think you know you can you need other

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Speaker 5: You can't make all your decisions based on everyone else.

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Speaker 5: You're not going to make everyone else happy, So you've

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Speaker 5: just got to do what's best for you. So put

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Speaker 3: If you don't.

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Speaker 4: What do they say, if you don't stand for something,

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Speaker 4: then you'll never stand for anything exactly?

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Speaker 5: Genius?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm a genius. Did you say, Bernadette? Something else

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Speaker 3: That that? That was a phrase there?

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Speaker 2: That that's another term for THI pa, well, fear of

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Speaker 2: phrases overload, Right, I've got a lot of the fits

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Speaker 4: How's this for a new term? And I've got my

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Speaker 3: Man Keeping is.

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Speaker 4: A new term that women are throwing around Ryan James.

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Speaker 4: So it's officially been named as man keeping, and the

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Speaker 4: idea is that it's sucking the life out of straight

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Speaker 4: partner doesn't have too many friends, then everything falls back

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Speaker 3: Of course?

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Speaker 6: The beginning of time?

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Speaker 4: Is there a burden on women that men like. If

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Speaker 4: I say to Lisa, hey, you can have a chat.

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Speaker 4: You know a bit upset about this. I thought that

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Speaker 4: was like what normal partners do in a relationship, where

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Speaker 4: you share your troubles, will share mine, we'll get through

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Speaker 4: it together.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's great, it's great when the when the

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Speaker 4: But yeah, I probably chat to my girlfriends more than.

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Speaker 3: More than advice.

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Speaker 4: All right, So you don't go to him for advice.

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Speaker 3: I just think that you're trying to get it more.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't go both ways. I don't know. Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: It depends on how independent you are as a guy,

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Speaker 2: I suppose, I mean some guys do. If you don't

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Speaker 2: have a friendship group as a guy, you are leaning

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Speaker 4: What says here in the US, one in five men

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Speaker 3: Oh that's really sad. That's sad, isn't it.

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Speaker 4: I mean, join the club, like sport, play sport, Join

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Speaker 4: a bowling clubs, join a chess club.

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Speaker 1: Class Dungeon and Dragons, I don't care, join a join

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Speaker 1: a pub trivia Pokemon collecting club like Olie Loves.

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Speaker 4: Pokemon and he's in a Pokemon. They catch up on

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Speaker 3: Which is really cute.

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Speaker 4: He's going to pick at your outfit on now. But

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Speaker 4: you know that's how you can make a friend. Just

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Speaker 4: part about their relationship is having to keep their man

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Speaker 4: like some sort of pet or animal. The needs maintaining

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Speaker 4: on a daily basis. You know what my wife said

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Speaker 4: to me last night. It's over, she said. Every time

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Speaker 4: over to her and I turn around, which represents gimme

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Speaker 4: a backscratch. And you know what, when I nudeed up

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Speaker 4: and went over to her last night and just turned

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Speaker 3: Went, do I have to do that? We're trying to

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Speaker 3: hold onto forest's mate?

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Speaker 2: You know what, Like the logging of forests has been

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Speaker 2: you know, we need it for oxygen and stuff like that,

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Speaker 2: so you know she shouldn't be doing that and bringing

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Speaker 2: down those trees on your back.

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Speaker 4: Could I also say, I don't know if I'm sharing

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Speaker 4: too much. On Saturday night, when we did some kissing.

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Speaker 4: Let know, don't look for a bucket dispute in two.

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Speaker 4: This is what couples do. This is what's going to

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Speaker 4: be happening on the Jackson right. We're kissing on Saturday night,

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Speaker 4: proper kissing, Maddie, like, you know what I mean, tongue kissing. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: and she says, can you just not push so hard

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Speaker 4: your face is scratching me?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you need to share. But aren't we pass that.

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Speaker 4: Aren't you wanting to embrace the power of a man

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Speaker 4: from a man to a woman?

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Speaker 3: Feel the man? Are we still on?

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Speaker 6: We are?

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Speaker 3: This must be tell me we're going live? Oh we

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Speaker 3: are live?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I can't clean this one up in the edit.

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Speaker 4: Sorry, Maddie. Don't you like it when you're kissing a man?

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Speaker 3: Yes? I do love kissing a man, Yes, my man,

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Speaker 3: just the one.

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Speaker 4: Go and tell that because I'm a great kisser. Guys, guys,

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Speaker 4: you're there, and I just feel like there should be

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Speaker 4: some sort of love back, like you know, scrunch up

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Speaker 4: the hair on the back of the head and say, oh,

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Speaker 4: you're my man.

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Speaker 3: I'll have a chat to Lisa. Sure you want me

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Speaker 3: to move on to your job. It's like a good

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Speaker 3: time I think Lisa wants to move on too, but

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Speaker 3: that's another point. Just got a back to scratch tonight,

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