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Speaker 1: Lady unfiltered. Oh hi there, I'm Hailey and I'm Lauren,
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Speaker 2: We're bessies. We're business partners with the creators of Adelaidy.
Speaker 1: Hello, I say hey, Lossy Media, and we do everything
Speaker 1: together except bang, what a week?
Speaker 2: What a week? How are you? I don't like it
Speaker 2: when you ask me how we are, Like, how are you?
Speaker 2: We know that is the worst question. So how's everything going?
Speaker 2: How life going?
Speaker 1: Oh? Shut up, I don't care. No, I don't care
Speaker 1: what this is big for light. We've been you know, backstory.
Speaker 1: We this morning we were at Nova. We're doing an
Speaker 1: interview with Jodie and Hazy.
Speaker 2: We're together. We spoke on the way there.
Speaker 1: We spoke there at the radio station, and then we
Speaker 1: got our cars, drove to your house and spoke the
Speaker 1: whole way here.
Speaker 3: Because we literally speak twenty four seven And when I
Speaker 3: don't speak to you, I feel like there's something weird
Speaker 3: going there, Like we're fighting, yes, even though it's been
Speaker 3: like three hours. Like if you don't answer your phone
Speaker 3: in my who could you possibly be on the phone to?
Speaker 2: That's oh, I know you've got a husband. Wun. I
Speaker 2: hang up on everybody if you're calling to go, I know,
Speaker 2: and I'm calling even no reason whatsoever. So anyway, so
Speaker 2: i'd just like to hear breathe as a drive.
Speaker 1: We have a shopping list today, and one of them
Speaker 1: a bit nervous to talk about.
Speaker 2: In fact, sure.
Speaker 1: We're going to get a bad review from our mums
Speaker 1: for this, but let's dive in.
Speaker 3: Who gures all right, So we're gonna be talking about
Speaker 3: escaping death today, and then we're going to be talking
Speaker 3: about something that's just whack, and then we're going to
Speaker 3: be talking about the sandwich generation whack thing.
Speaker 1: We are sandwiching in the middle because hopefully it's you
Speaker 1: can digest it, and then we'll move on quite fast.
Speaker 3: Yes, okay, and maybe our mums won't listen to the
Speaker 3: middle of the podcast.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I'd like to know their thoughts on it.
Speaker 2: Though it's pretty gross.
Speaker 3: I'll get the text straight away. That's disgusting. Wow, it
Speaker 3: is fanscusting.
Speaker 2: But we'll get to that soon. Let's start with that
Speaker 2: member of the week.
Speaker 3: Okay, So you know how I'm slightly crazy, slightly adhd
Speaker 3: and when I make it Minch, I do it quite quickly.
Speaker 3: So about nine days ago I decided I think I'm
Speaker 3: going to sell my house. Story I was like, I've
Speaker 3: had enough. I don't have a linen press, so I
Speaker 3: can't bring a baby into my house without a linen press.
Speaker 3: So I'm going to pack up my house and I'm
Speaker 3: going to sell it. And then the agent was like,
Speaker 3: you're about to have a baby in you know, like
Speaker 3: two months, Like are you okay with this? My yeah,
Speaker 3: I am. So anyway, Burger comes home, so we're selling
Speaker 3: our house. He goes, what a great idea. So that's great.
Speaker 3: So I cleaned everything, put everything in the shed. Within
Speaker 3: seven days on the weekend, I had people through my house.
Speaker 3: Within seven days, I had painters, cleaners, gardeners. The shed
Speaker 3: is so full. I said to the real estate agent,
Speaker 3: if anyone asked to look in the shed, don't let
Speaker 3: them because they may die because things may fall on them.
Speaker 2: As a few dead there, okay, and the bodies in there.
Speaker 2: And then you see me in.
Speaker 1: A video down the street going, oh my god, there's
Speaker 1: people coming to see my house. And it doesn't surprise
Speaker 1: me because when you put your mind to something, when
Speaker 1: we give you a goal. You fricking get there, I know.
Speaker 3: But it was also funny because you were like, you
Speaker 3: and I have the same brain and we're crazy. Whereas
Speaker 3: Jimmy brings you back to earth. Yeah, whereas berg and
Speaker 3: I my partner, Berga and I are the same.
Speaker 1: Do you know we spoke about you the other day
Speaker 1: because we're talking about this because I was like, I
Speaker 1: need someone to level me out. But you guys are
Speaker 1: both dopamine, Like that's how you act on everything.
Speaker 2: But and it was the same as when you got
Speaker 2: a dog.
Speaker 1: We did all this research into like where we get
Speaker 1: the dog from, and you know, you decided one morning,
Speaker 1: I'm going to get a dog, So you drove out
Speaker 1: to Port Agusta and picked a dog up from Macas.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: In the it was literally like a drug dealer. I
Speaker 3: was like, well, here's two and a half grand cash.
Speaker 3: Let me count that out and I will be gone.
Speaker 2: I would be lost if I was with Burgo, because
Speaker 2: we're the same. I just couldn't do it.
Speaker 3: But do you know what also as well, on Saturday,
Speaker 3: after we cleaned the house, and he kept cursing me
Speaker 3: like he did because he's six five, He's cleaned every
Speaker 3: single window with squidges.
Speaker 2: Like we mopped the floor.
Speaker 3: We had to move all the pop plants, but because
Speaker 3: I'm pregnant, I can't do anything. So I'm like, you
Speaker 3: need to move that over there? Can you move that
Speaker 3: over there?
Speaker 2: Move that?
Speaker 3: So I'm just directing him and firing around and he's like, anyway,
Speaker 3: we did it all. The floor was still wet. As
Speaker 3: families are coming in like it was we literally fly
Speaker 3: by the seat of.
Speaker 2: Our pants and did you sell the house? No?
Speaker 3: So no one put in an office. So then I've gone, well,
Speaker 3: maybe we just won't sell.
Speaker 2: It's too hard. I just left my body.
Speaker 3: I was expecting someone to go, oh, buy it, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, so it was worth like washing the
Speaker 3: floors and no one has.
Speaker 1: No Now do you know what, though, you've just cleaned
Speaker 1: your house out, you've decluded, You've forced yourself to do it,
Speaker 1: and now it looks really nice.
Speaker 2: And this is the sad part.
Speaker 1: When everyone sells your house, it never looks or feels
Speaker 1: better than the day that it goes up for sale.
Speaker 1: Why why don't we look.
Speaker 2: After it ourselves and make it look nice for us?
Speaker 2: Why don't we have to do it for someone else?
Speaker 3: We don't have time. But poor Sophia, She's like, can
Speaker 3: I play with my Barbie dreamhouse mates in the shed?
Speaker 3: You can't go in there? Can I play with my barbies? No,
Speaker 3: they're in the shed. Like She's literally like, can I
Speaker 3: play with the spoon from the kitchen.
Speaker 2: Is in the shed? I was going to put her
Speaker 2: in the shed? Okay, that's your men? You ready for
Speaker 2: my men? Yes? Go all right, it actually involves you.
Speaker 1: On a couple of weeks ago, we were at at
Speaker 1: lady slumber party. It was the best night ever. Two
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty women in a hotel dancing. The dance
Speaker 1: hall was going off by about six ten, right in
Speaker 1: the afternoon.
Speaker 2: It was unbelievable. It was so fun.
Speaker 1: Now, the funny thing is, you broke a rule that
Speaker 1: I would have on a dance for.
Speaker 2: There's one thing that you don't do want to dance for,
Speaker 2: and you.
Speaker 1: Did it, and you tried to do it multiple times
Speaker 1: to did I really?
Speaker 2: Oh? What did I do? So we're dancing. I am
Speaker 2: slut dropping like a prayer.
Speaker 1: I am having so much fun. I am just dancing.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm out of festival. I'm so happy,
Speaker 1: I've got all this like joy in me right and
Speaker 1: you start to have a serious conversation with me on a.
Speaker 2: Dance floor and I'm like, I was, I can't hear what?
Speaker 1: And you start telling me about this woman that we
Speaker 1: know that almost died.
Speaker 2: I needed to share it with you. Wait, I want
Speaker 2: a dance floor. Right now, I'm dancing.
Speaker 3: But if I don't tell you, then what am I
Speaker 3: going to tell you?
Speaker 1: You don't tell me on a dance floors, It's like
Speaker 1: your brain was like, it's in my brain.
Speaker 2: I have to tell her about that right now, Ian,
Speaker 2: Right now, we're on a dance floor dancing.
Speaker 3: When I find out something, I need to tell you
Speaker 3: straight away. That's why I call you about dumb things,
Speaker 3: because they come into my brain and if I don't
Speaker 3: tell you, I feel like I've.
Speaker 2: Lied to you.
Speaker 1: So the funny thing is, if you picture this, I'm
Speaker 1: on one side of the dance floor, you're on the other,
Speaker 1: and I can see your eyes and your eyebrows when
Speaker 1: you get concerned, go like full eyebrow concern.
Speaker 3: Well, I could never have botox. No, you couldn't tell.
Speaker 1: I need to see that face. But you come, you
Speaker 1: start coming towards me, and I'm like, she's got her
Speaker 1: sad eyes on. Oh God, what she gonna say? And
Speaker 1: then you started telling them. I'm like, let's just hold
Speaker 1: and tell me a second. But then you started again
Speaker 1: because like the next song started, the backstroke boys are starting,
Speaker 1: and you're like, so anyway, she almost died.
Speaker 2: I'm like, stop telling me this information. I went rude.
Speaker 3: All the nut pushes on it.
Speaker 2: That's our rain. My two rules on a dance floor.
Speaker 1: One you don't tell your friend a morbid story while
Speaker 1: you're on a dance floor.
Speaker 2: You just don't do a serious conversation. Wow.
Speaker 1: And two, you don't go on a dance floor, go
Speaker 1: to the bathroom, do a number two, and then come
Speaker 1: back to the dance floor, because that's gross too.
Speaker 2: There's always been my rules.
Speaker 3: What do you mean I didn't do that.
Speaker 2: I'm was saying you do that. If you did that,
Speaker 2: I would fight you from being my friend. What do
Speaker 2: you mean you can't do a number two?
Speaker 1: You can't be on a dance floor like at a
Speaker 1: club and go to the toilet and do a number
Speaker 1: two and then go back.
Speaker 2: That's so crappy. What if you need to go to
Speaker 2: the toilet, you go home. That's your cue to go home.
Speaker 2: You you are out for what if it's seven o'clock
Speaker 2: of the night. You work so cooked. He's saying, it's
Speaker 2: okay to go to the club. I need to go.
Speaker 2: I need to go, and then I come back.
Speaker 3: Clubbing because I'm feeling three killers ladder.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, how are we? You have the weirdest rules.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm not allowed to talk about death and I'm
Speaker 3: not allowed to take shit.
Speaker 1: All right, we're about to talk about death. Are you
Speaker 1: ready to talk about this? I've got an amazing things
Speaker 1: so where you took your jacket off? Yeah, I'm getting
Speaker 1: hot and sweaty.
Speaker 3: I'm getting Oh my god, I'm getting so hot and sweaty.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, I want to talk about you know, the
Speaker 1: movie Final Destination.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I've never seen it, but I'll pretend.
Speaker 2: Have you never seen no hat movies? Because I can't
Speaker 2: talk in that. Oh god. Devin Sawyer, the guy in it,
Speaker 2: his name's Devon. His name is Devon like the Fritz.
Speaker 2: We were all obsessed with him back in the day.
Speaker 2: But then you watch it as an adult and you're like, oh, yuh,
Speaker 2: why was I tracted to that guy? Anyway?
Speaker 3: Sorry, Devon, if you're watching it's a bit offense, Devin.
Speaker 1: Okay, a few weeks ago it was Ann's ac Day,
Speaker 1: and obviously people were sharing stories about their grandpas and
Speaker 1: everything that they.
Speaker 2: Went to war.
Speaker 1: I found out something about my grandpa Bob, and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, I wish he was still
Speaker 1: alive so I could talk to him about this. I
Speaker 1: never knew this, and this is amazing. Do you really
Speaker 1: want me to read something? I should I tell you
Speaker 1: the story. I might tell you the story because I'm
Speaker 1: not very good at reading.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just tell me. But it was documented. I will
Speaker 2: just have proof.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: So my grandpa Bob and his brother Hugh were in
Speaker 1: the war, right, They went in the war together, and
Speaker 1: they were in New Guinea and they went.
Speaker 2: To separate little areas.
Speaker 1: One day, in the middle of the jungle, my grandpa
Speaker 1: and Hugh were on different trucks. They went past each
Speaker 1: other and they said, oh, mate, maybe mate. Hughes like,
Speaker 1: get in my truck, come with me. We're going over here.
Speaker 1: And his commander was like, oh, all right, you can
Speaker 1: go with him only because he's your brother. That's the
Speaker 1: only way you can swap trucks. So Bob, my grandpa
Speaker 1: got out of his truck, got into his brother, Hugh's truck,
Speaker 1: and they went off to fight. The truck that my
Speaker 1: grandpa was in about twenty minutes later was bombed by
Speaker 1: an American plane and ninety two people died. My grandpa
Speaker 1: was meant to die. He escaped death.
Speaker 2: Isn't that bizarre?
Speaker 3: And how old was he when he actually died?
Speaker 2: Eighty something?
Speaker 1: Yeah, so his brother that just that like serendipity, that
Speaker 1: timing of seeing him and going oh, and the only
Speaker 1: reason he could swap trucks is because they were related.
Speaker 1: Everybody else in that truck had to stay, but Bob
Speaker 1: got out and got in with you, and he lived.
Speaker 3: He wasn't meant to die.
Speaker 2: It wasn't his time.
Speaker 1: So the thing with Final Destination, though if you haven't
Speaker 1: seen it, it's like nineties movie or whatever it is,
Speaker 1: it's all about escaping death. So it basically starts off
Speaker 1: with all these kids on a school camp and they
Speaker 1: go on this plane and then they get off the plane.
Speaker 1: Half of them get off the plane, and that plane
Speaker 1: goes down, and they were meant to be on the plane.
Speaker 1: So the whole concept is that fate is if you're
Speaker 1: meant If that's your time. Your time is up.
Speaker 2: You're meant to die. If you escape it, it's.
Speaker 1: Going to catch up to you. Death is going to
Speaker 1: chase you because you were meant to die that day.
Speaker 3: No, I see it as in like, it wasn't your
Speaker 3: time to die, so you're not going to die.
Speaker 1: Yes, So you can look at it it both ways.
Speaker 1: So I actually look at it at your way as well,
Speaker 1: going that's not my time. So I was never meant
Speaker 1: to die that stage. I'm meant to die when I'm
Speaker 1: ninety five and I'm in my bed surrounded by my
Speaker 1: family like Titanic, like Titanic, yes, speaking of Okay, so
Speaker 1: I've done some research because I love this year.
Speaker 2: Like Roades.
Speaker 3: She died at like ninety two in her bed. She
Speaker 3: didn't die the Titanic. But that was a movie that
Speaker 3: was yeah, but it was real. Yeah, it was a
Speaker 3: Titanic went down Rose.
Speaker 2: Rose was not a true story.
Speaker 3: Leonardo dicapprou wasn't on Titanic. I get it.
Speaker 2: So this is a true story.
Speaker 1: A woman survived Titanic. So she survived the Titanic, but
Speaker 1: a couple of months later died in a car accident.
Speaker 2: So that is an.
Speaker 1: Example of death going no, no, no, mate, you were
Speaker 1: meant to die this day.
Speaker 2: Isn't that weird?
Speaker 3: You would be so annoyed as a ghost like I
Speaker 3: literally was in that water, that cold water, and now you.
Speaker 2: Kill me in another really violent way. I would be
Speaker 2: so pissed off because.
Speaker 1: Seth McFarlane creator A family guy, Michael Jackson, and someone else,
Speaker 1: Mark Wahlberg were meant to be on that plane that
Speaker 1: went into on the nine to eleven. They were meant
Speaker 1: to be on the plane, and they survived for various reasons.
Speaker 1: One of them slept in. One of them, Michael Jackson
Speaker 1: was probably having too many I don't know, pills, but
Speaker 1: he didn't make the plane. So they were meant to
Speaker 1: They were meant to die that day. So this leads
Speaker 1: us to where we want to talk about escaping death.
Speaker 1: You and I have escaped death twice.
Speaker 3: We are literally hoo DEEDI when it comes to escaping death,
Speaker 3: which now scares me because now I'm just imagining the
Speaker 3: Grim Reaper going.
Speaker 2: Hello, hello, I'm just he'd have jazz hands for us.
Speaker 1: The Grim Reaper, I legit thought on both of those
Speaker 1: occasions that we were going to die. Both of them
Speaker 1: happened in Fiji. Okay, how do you remember the story?
Speaker 1: Do you tell the first time? Because this happened the
Speaker 1: first time we were there together.
Speaker 2: So this is the first time.
Speaker 3: We were supposed to be on a boat by midday, right,
Speaker 3: and apparently you shouldn't be on a boat between two
Speaker 3: and three and Fiji or something. But you and I
Speaker 3: instead of hopping on this boat at twelve, we saw
Speaker 3: people riding horses on the beach and we were in
Speaker 3: Camilla's and went, oh gosh, let's go ride horses at
Speaker 3: the beach and our Camilla's, which we did because we're like,
Speaker 3: that'll be great. Shops the photo, Yes, yeah, droning us
Speaker 3: on a beach. So then we got to this boat
Speaker 3: at two.
Speaker 2: O'clock too late, too late, and we missed the catamaran.
Speaker 3: Yes, so then we had to go on a smaller boat,
Speaker 3: to which we took all these photos on the boat.
Speaker 3: We uploaded them to the cloud that merely got so
Speaker 3: merely got all these lovely photos of us having fun
Speaker 3: at the boat. Then the boat took off and suddenly.
Speaker 1: Could I just say, it wasn't just a boat, It
Speaker 1: was like a dingy. It was a tiny little boat.
Speaker 1: We were meant to be on a massive catamaran. So
Speaker 1: this is a really small boat that had you, me,
Speaker 1: a cameraman, are soundy eighty from Fiji, and our producer.
Speaker 2: It was six of us.
Speaker 3: There should have been one person on this boat, but
Speaker 3: where they were six. We were literally like rowing out
Speaker 3: into the ocean to Cloud nine.
Speaker 2: We're on our way to Cloud nine, which.
Speaker 3: Is like a party boat thing in the middle of nowhere,
Speaker 3: and it is so cool. So we're out, we're on
Speaker 3: our way, and then suddenly the cloud start coming and
Speaker 3: they go dark, and the water starts going dark. And
Speaker 3: then suddenly we're in this boat looking forward and instead
Speaker 3: of seeing sky, we can only.
Speaker 1: See water because the waves were like two story buildings,
Speaker 1: that's how high they were.
Speaker 3: Yes, and it was engulfing our boat. And I never
Speaker 3: forget our SOUNDI, who's not religious, did the sign of
Speaker 3: the Cross.
Speaker 2: That's what I looked at.
Speaker 3: Him and went, Okay, we're going to die.
Speaker 2: And and we all did it, even the Fijian lady.
Speaker 3: Yes, she was screaming, say I'm a mother. I don't
Speaker 3: want to die.
Speaker 2: That was Onnie, I'm a mother.
Speaker 3: And then the lady from that was the guy that
Speaker 3: was driving the boat threw the life jackets at us
Speaker 3: and said put these on when you hit the water.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: And at that point you thought I wouldn't swim, which
Speaker 1: is weird because I was very good at swimming. I
Speaker 1: should have known with your giant paddles that you'd be great.
Speaker 3: I was thinking, how am I going to save Hailey.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have put Haley on my back because she
Speaker 3: can't swim. And I was also thinking of our insurance policy,
Speaker 3: like if we survive, did I tick boats?
Speaker 2: We didn't have an insurance policy back then? No, we
Speaker 2: really did, did we? Yeah? Always?
Speaker 3: But I was worried that we were going to be
Speaker 3: out of a lot of money, Like if we survived this.
Speaker 1: I was thinking of just drowning and sharks. That's all
Speaker 1: I was thinking here because at this point we won't.
Speaker 2: See land right, also thinking of your kids, because I
Speaker 2: was your only mom, I had anything. We had nothing
Speaker 2: to live for, No, just the insurance policy, so I
Speaker 2: had nothing. All our footage and everything was also on
Speaker 2: this boat. So we went over. We've just been filming
Speaker 2: for five days in Fiji. We were going to lose everything.
Speaker 2: We're going to lose a lot of money. That my
Speaker 2: head was at Do you remember.
Speaker 1: We went to the guy that was driving the boat,
Speaker 1: you need to take us to land, and then he
Speaker 1: said how much money have you got?
Speaker 3: Yeah, he literally said, well, if I was to take
Speaker 3: you to land, of course you ten dollars per person.
Speaker 3: And I was like, mate, at this point, fucking charges
Speaker 3: my money had to die.
Speaker 2: And then what happened. Then he just goes, oh, land.
Speaker 1: So after the water, the boat's doing this, the waves
Speaker 1: are coming in, We're putting on our live jackets. We're
Speaker 1: sobbing our eyes, and he goes, oh, I see an island,
Speaker 1: and he took us to this island and.
Speaker 2: We kissed the ground.
Speaker 3: We were sobbing, and then we had coronas and pizzas
Speaker 3: all afternoon because we survived on a deserted island.
Speaker 2: And I called my husband.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I die, and hear me thought
Speaker 1: I had died. He thought I said Lauren died, and
Speaker 1: so he started to go into shock. And then it
Speaker 1: was only because I had a mouthful of pizzas that
Speaker 1: I couldn't die.
Speaker 2: I couldn't articull.
Speaker 3: It anyway, So we almost died. But then we had
Speaker 3: a really lovely afternoon where we didn't have to work.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But then we found out interesting story that there
Speaker 1: was a cyclone and everyone from Cloud Night was evacuated.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they got helicoptered off.
Speaker 3: But here we are in our dinghy and our door,
Speaker 3: rowing off to an island, whereas all these people were
Speaker 3: just like, I'm just gonna hop in our chopper and
Speaker 3: fly off.
Speaker 2: Okay. So there's one near death incident here the next one. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Every year Lauren and I say we are never going
Speaker 1: on a boat again, but every year we find ourselves
Speaker 1: on a boat again.
Speaker 2: Every year of clients, I want to go on a
Speaker 2: boat with that.
Speaker 1: Same Three years later, we find ourselves in Fiji again,
Speaker 1: and we're filming and we.
Speaker 2: Love Fiji, we love it so much.
Speaker 1: We're on this island and we needed to get back
Speaker 1: to denner Ow, the main island, to be able to
Speaker 1: fly out the next day. So it's seven o'clock at
Speaker 1: night and I already have a real fear of boats
Speaker 1: because of what's happened in the past. So now it's blackness.
Speaker 1: We have to travel for an hour and ten minutes
Speaker 1: to get back to denner Our. So we're in this boat,
Speaker 1: another smallish boat.
Speaker 3: But it's like a nice boat.
Speaker 2: A fire boat is slightly bigger than the dingy. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so we're on this boat.
Speaker 1: It's fine while we can see the lights likely of
Speaker 1: the island as we go out, and then all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, oh god, this makes me feel sick.
Speaker 2: I hate it this day so much. The boat started
Speaker 2: doing that thing where it.
Speaker 3: Goes because you started crying, and it flickers with us.
Speaker 1: Starts crying, and I just got my men, our producer
Speaker 1: ad him at the time, started screaming and screaming at the.
Speaker 2: Screaming at the men who were driving the boat.
Speaker 1: And at this point we were now vertical, so going over
Speaker 1: the waves, and we said slow down, slow down.
Speaker 2: But that made it worse because that means it was like.
Speaker 1: A slow motion of going all the way almost backwards
Speaker 1: over a wave.
Speaker 3: And then oh he didn't have a boat license. Like
Speaker 3: it literally was like me trying to drive a boat.
Speaker 2: It was like they just did not give a effing.
Speaker 3: They did not care about it at all. They were
Speaker 3: just driving into the waves. The waves are hitting us,
Speaker 3: and I took my.
Speaker 1: Jumper off, so I was holding on tight and I
Speaker 1: took my jumper off with one hand because I was like,
Speaker 1: we're going in and this is going to weigh me down.
Speaker 1: I just knew it was nighttime and this was what
Speaker 1: I was done. And I actually came up with something
Speaker 1: that day of what to think about when you're really scared.
Speaker 1: I couldn't think of my kids because that was like,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to see my kids again.
Speaker 2: So I started thinking of a stapler.
Speaker 1: And I've used this thing every time I'm on a
Speaker 1: plane or if I'm nervous. It's something that has no
Speaker 1: emotional attachment has it's not alive.
Speaker 2: And you start thinking of something like.
Speaker 1: An object like a stapler, where I started thinking of
Speaker 1: the shape of it and how it works. And you
Speaker 1: put the staples in just to distract my mind, and
Speaker 1: it worked.
Speaker 3: Maybe I'll think about this when I'm having my cesarean,
Speaker 3: start thinking of a staple.
Speaker 2: Actually, do get stapler. Oh gosh, that's a terrible idea.
Speaker 2: I take it back.
Speaker 3: Do you know what as well? You said the two
Speaker 3: figi ones. We also died in a boat in Vietnam.
Speaker 3: It was in Vietnam to Thailand. Remember, but we can
Speaker 3: see land.
Speaker 2: Oh when we're on the long boat. Yeah, we're on
Speaker 2: a long boat. That's where I thought you were going.
Speaker 3: But I was like, it's cool, Like if it sinks,
Speaker 3: I can see lands and I can swim.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not a scary when you see the land, no,
Speaker 1: I think we Yeah, there's a lot of boats that
Speaker 1: we almost died on.
Speaker 3: And I've actually never told you I almost died on
Speaker 3: the Popeye. Well, I've never talked you this. I was
Speaker 3: having a high t on the pop Eye once it
Speaker 3: was a half cut, so I was like so fun,
Speaker 3: but like the engine started smoking and we had to
Speaker 3: hop on the other pop Pie. So I literally was like,
Speaker 3: how can I almost die? In Fiji and Thailand and
Speaker 3: now so it's jumping in the torrens. I actually would
Speaker 3: have died.
Speaker 1: So death is trying to chase us, but only on boats.
Speaker 2: I know, my god cruise though, that's different. That's a
Speaker 2: big boat. All right, we have covered escaping death.
Speaker 1: Now it's time to talk about the thing that is
Speaker 1: gross and yucky.
Speaker 2: But it is all over us on Instagram. It's chasing
Speaker 2: on Instagram.
Speaker 3: It's literally like the Grim Reaper. Okay, So I've started
Speaker 3: spiraling and I started sending it to you, and then
Speaker 3: I started sending it to Berjo, which I probably shouldn't
Speaker 3: have sent it to Bergo because it's kind of gross.
Speaker 3: This girl is following me all over Instagram talking about
Speaker 3: free bleeding.
Speaker 2: Anyone free bleeding? Oh my god, I can describe what
Speaker 2: it is.
Speaker 3: It's where I mean. Women, we get our periods, it's fine.
Speaker 3: What happens we use tampons, pads, the period under these cups. Well, shit,
Speaker 3: she uses nothing. She uses nothing, and apparently it's a
Speaker 3: new trend that women are doing. It's not just her,
Speaker 3: it's a movement, it's a full movement.
Speaker 4: Free bleeding is when you are not using anything that
Speaker 4: obstructs the flow of blood, and you're not sitting in
Speaker 4: your blood for periods like hours at a time. Free
Speaker 4: bleed you bleed directly onto a surface, and you're allowing
Speaker 4: your blood to completely flow and release out of your body. Look,
Speaker 4: I know that this isn't for everyone. No, everybody is
Speaker 4: lifestyle and routine allows for it.
Speaker 3: It's not for everyone, she says in this grab, So
Speaker 3: because you literally you're not allowed to use anything like
Speaker 3: this girl doesn't even wear underwear.
Speaker 2: Okay, but what's the why why?
Speaker 3: It just believes that it's healthier for your body to
Speaker 3: just flow out whenever it needs to flow out. So
Speaker 3: this girl works from home and she just covers all
Speaker 3: the surfaces in her head with rugs.
Speaker 1: Okay, so I didn't tell you, but I have my
Speaker 1: period right now and I'm free bleeding your cash.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, that is so proud.
Speaker 2: I'm not even body.
Speaker 3: And so when something is fed to me this is
Speaker 3: the bad thing, I start spiraling and watching it and
Speaker 3: now it's like everything.
Speaker 2: It's like, hey, are you a free bleeder.
Speaker 3: I'm like, no, I'm not a free bleeder.
Speaker 2: Stop giving me this. Sorry.
Speaker 1: Like I guess, back in the day, everyone free bled
Speaker 1: because they didn't have things like tampons and period cups
Speaker 1: and pats.
Speaker 3: I remember my mom telling me, like, back in the day,
Speaker 3: they used to like put it on like a little
Speaker 3: metal hoister thing around their waist.
Speaker 2: They do it up like a belt. And that's why
Speaker 2: they call them a rag because they're like rags.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, and I never stay get full.
Speaker 2: But this is why technology is so amazing.
Speaker 3: I know. I once had a cleaner as a kid,
Speaker 3: our family cleaner, a panty liner, went through the wash
Speaker 3: and when I got home, it was sitting on my bed,
Speaker 3: on my pillow, and she said, I didn't know where
Speaker 3: to put your bow tigh.
Speaker 1: So I put it, choose it, I put it on yours.
Speaker 2: I was like, that's.
Speaker 3: She was like eighty and I'd never seen a boy
Speaker 3: I ever want a bow seye.
Speaker 2: It was the way I was like.
Speaker 3: So, I'm going to take this and then I'm going
Speaker 3: to put this in the bin because that's a bandy lainey.
Speaker 2: But they're there for a reason.
Speaker 1: I get people wanting to be grounded, you know those
Speaker 1: you know you want to go out to the wilderness
Speaker 1: and take your shoes off and feel your feet around yourself,
Speaker 1: touching trees and getting all that stuff.
Speaker 2: I get that. I get touching trees. I do. I
Speaker 2: get you are so ground I don't know.
Speaker 1: My dad is a tree hugger, and so I've grown
Speaker 1: up like going on bushwalks with dad and he would
Speaker 1: be like, stop here and feel it.
Speaker 2: Give it a feel, really feel it. Close your eyes.
Speaker 1: I feel it, and then like like, yeah, I get
Speaker 1: the whole hugging tree thing.
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't mind that your dad flies through
Speaker 2: this guy and hugs trees.
Speaker 3: I love our family so much.
Speaker 2: You should try touching is.
Speaker 1: They're reaching out for you. That's why their branches are
Speaker 1: reaching over you.
Speaker 3: Really, Yeah, that's really nice.
Speaker 1: There is such thing is it's gonna sound so great?
Speaker 1: There is such thing as like watching a tree and
Speaker 1: talking to it and then reaching out.
Speaker 3: Isn't that like in Cinderella or something with the trees
Speaker 3: a fantasia where the trees like running?
Speaker 2: That's true. Anyway, that's a whole other thing. Hey, I
Speaker 2: get that. I don't get the free bleeding.
Speaker 3: Free bleeding. They use nothing. They just let it all
Speaker 3: flow out and like energetically and spiritually, their world is better.
Speaker 3: And I just can't escape this and I don't. Anyway,
Speaker 3: we said we talk about it for ninety seconds, it's done.
Speaker 1: Can I just wrap that up by saying, though I
Speaker 1: was talking about this with one of my best friends
Speaker 1: on the weekend.
Speaker 2: Women get it so hard.
Speaker 1: In that every month you get two weeks that are
Speaker 1: good weeks. Two good weeks, yeah, because in those two
Speaker 1: weeks you're not pre minstrel, so you're not going through
Speaker 1: psycho throats in your head or sad or whatever, and
Speaker 1: you don't have your period. The other two weeks it
Speaker 1: is you're bleeding, or you're feeling emotional, really emotional and
Speaker 1: irrational thoughts. We only are good for half of our life.
Speaker 3: So literally half the year I'm terrible.
Speaker 1: I'm an emotional rap six months of the year, we suffer, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but we still push through.
Speaker 2: Anyway, we won't talk about that ever again because that
Speaker 2: was gross.
Speaker 3: Now we'll never talk about free bleeding and hopefully jewels
Speaker 3: and Rosa just skip that part.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was discussed. That was foul.
Speaker 3: Okay, Pearson, I've wanted to talk to you about the
Speaker 3: sandwich generation for a while.
Speaker 2: Now. What is the sandwich generation?
Speaker 3: The sandwich generation, It's not just people who like sandwiches.
Speaker 2: I love a sandwich.
Speaker 3: I am in that generation.
Speaker 2: P Paninis. Give me one right now.
Speaker 3: I love a PAPEDI do you know what thinking about
Speaker 3: a priciero Panini does that to me as well. So
Speaker 3: the sandwich generation refers to middle aged adults, typically age
Speaker 3: thirty to sixty, simultaneously supporting aging parents and their own
Speaker 3: children as.
Speaker 2: Well in the middle the beast sandwich. Yes, this is
Speaker 2: where we're at.
Speaker 3: So for me, I've got a four year old girl,
Speaker 3: a baby on the way, and then my parents are
Speaker 3: like mid to late seventies. So I've started worrying about
Speaker 3: them and I can't stop, and I've text my numerous
Speaker 3: times is checking in how are you?
Speaker 2: Are you okay?
Speaker 3: How's your knee, how's your heart, how's your test, to
Speaker 3: the point where on Friday night Mum messaged me going,
Speaker 3: I'm just going into a movie. I'm not going to
Speaker 3: have my phone for two hours, just letting you know
Speaker 3: I'm okay and I haven't died. And at that point
Speaker 3: I've gone, oh, maybe it's a bit much what I'm doing.
Speaker 1: So this is the hard thing because the people in
Speaker 1: the Sandwich generation have got everything going on. We're still
Speaker 1: working full time, We're still trying to pay our mortgage off,
Speaker 1: and we're worrying. We're trying to raise children, but we're
Speaker 1: also worrying about our parents. Does that mean that we
Speaker 1: are in the hardest stage of our lives right now.
Speaker 3: The hardest stage, like and you look around, no wonder
Speaker 3: like divorces and things happening because we put our last,
Speaker 3: We put our relationships last. Everything to do with us
Speaker 3: is last. Long as Sofia is fed, like long as
Speaker 3: your boys are fed, the house is fine, the dogs
Speaker 3: are fine, our parents are fine. And then we just
Speaker 3: like left like twitching on the outside.
Speaker 2: Can I flip it?
Speaker 1: Because I think we're also at the luckiest stage because
Speaker 1: right now we still have our parents. Our parents are
Speaker 1: still alive. Our kids need us, they want us. We're
Speaker 1: at home with our kids. We've got all the chaos happening.
Speaker 1: One day in the next ten years, the next generation,
Speaker 1: we will lose our parents. And then to me, that's
Speaker 1: the worst time.
Speaker 3: That is the worst time. And that is why I'm lucky.
Speaker 3: That's why I'm worrying. Mum is seventy three. Dad is
Speaker 3: seventy nine this year.
Speaker 1: But your dad has the brain of a fifty year old.
Speaker 1: He is, so I just love his brain so much.
Speaker 3: He's a party animal. He could drink anyone under the table.
Speaker 3: He just wants to hang out with young people, go
Speaker 3: to the crows, travel and eat Pugierto sandwiches. Like he
Speaker 3: just lives his life. But I'm constantly worried because also,
Speaker 3: and I know you find that whenever you call your parents.
Speaker 3: What are you doing today, Oh, I'm just going to
Speaker 3: have a scant on my heart. I'm just going to
Speaker 3: check my eyes, going to the padat. I think I'm deaf,
Speaker 3: so I'm going to the hearing specialist. Like if they
Speaker 3: didn't see their doctors every day. It's like, what would
Speaker 3: they do in their days.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, but I think they want to feel
Speaker 1: it like they're feeling it like our parents do have
Speaker 1: other things, Like your dad goes and does his like
Speaker 1: doesn't he have his mandate where he goes and does pool?
Speaker 3: He goes shirt and he walks around like mitcham shopping
Speaker 3: center with his little bag that looks like a gun,
Speaker 3: but it's his snooker.
Speaker 2: Queue also probably has a gun.
Speaker 3: It's a gun and snooker que. No, but it's just
Speaker 3: this this worrying.
Speaker 2: Of Yeah, I just I see it with you. It's funny.
Speaker 1: And my mum and dad have said they see it
Speaker 1: with you. You fuss over your dad so much. It's
Speaker 1: beautiful to see you. You are, like, Dad, what do
Speaker 1: you need? Can I get you more of this? Do
Speaker 1: you need help doing this?
Speaker 2: Dad? What do you need? You really do look after
Speaker 2: him like he's a four year old.
Speaker 3: At the detriment of my mom. Because my mom is
Speaker 3: mentally fine, yeah, like she'll tell.
Speaker 2: Me what's what.
Speaker 3: Whereas Dad, I feel like mentally is slowing down. Whereas
Speaker 3: Dad physically if I said to him, I need you
Speaker 3: to come here and do twelve hours of gardening, he
Speaker 3: would do it. He wouldn't even come inside for lunch.
Speaker 3: He would do everything, whereas Mom's not physically fit like that,
Speaker 3: but she's more mentally fit. So a couple of weeks
Speaker 3: ago was Mother's Day and this got me thinking as well,
Speaker 3: I don't know about you, but my whole day was
Speaker 3: spent making sure my mother in law and my mom
Speaker 3: were okay.
Speaker 1: I just saw this on Instagram and it's the first
Speaker 1: time someone had said it out loud that Mother's Day
Speaker 1: in our generation, so the Sandwich generation.
Speaker 2: Should be about us.
Speaker 1: I feel guilty saying that because our moms, like they've
Speaker 1: already had their time as being celebrated as mums, now
Speaker 1: their grandma's. It should be we're in the thick of it,
Speaker 1: we're in the trenches. We should be the ones that
Speaker 1: it should be all about us. But then we feel
Speaker 1: selfish saying can we have a little bit more about us?
Speaker 3: And it wasn't, and I felt guilty. So we went
Speaker 3: out for breakfast with Burgo's family when saw his parents again,
Speaker 3: then it was to my family to have champagne with
Speaker 3: mum and then dinner with my family. Like it it
Speaker 3: was the best day and it was so lovely and
Speaker 3: I love hanging out with everyone. But I got home
Speaker 3: and I said to Berg, I didn't do anything for
Speaker 3: me today, like you gave me flowers. I got a quick,
Speaker 3: little half hour sleep in and it was a beautiful morning.
Speaker 3: But I didn't do anything for me. I was too
Speaker 3: busy worrying about the older women in my life, like
Speaker 3: even my auntie, who's not my mum. I was like,
Speaker 3: happy Mother's Day, and here's champagne for you, and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and also if you're going out for lunch, it's
Speaker 1: generally us organizing calling around, which I did to try
Speaker 1: and find out different places, and my husband helped as well.
Speaker 2: He's brilliant.
Speaker 1: But on our day it was like, well, come over
Speaker 1: to our house to have a roast because it was
Speaker 1: so expensive to go out, and who cooked the roast?
Speaker 2: I cooked the roast, yea.
Speaker 1: And Mum did the veggies, and then we came over
Speaker 1: and Mom made of havelover. And the thing is, though,
Speaker 1: I think our generation of men help heaps more like
Speaker 1: they do. They're amazing, Ginny and Burgo, our partners are incredible,
Speaker 1: our dads and we love you so much, Dad, But
Speaker 1: I think in your.
Speaker 2: Generation it's Father's Day every day.
Speaker 1: My Mum cooks for Dad every day, and everything that
Speaker 1: he wants she makes.
Speaker 2: He never cooks. It's not a thing that he ever does. Ever.
Speaker 3: Dad wouldn't know where the kitchen or the laundry is. Yeah,
Speaker 3: he's an old school Italian in that sense, not like
Speaker 3: that's where women belong or anything. Nothing bad, He's just oblivious.
Speaker 3: And now after forty years, when he goes, oh, can
Speaker 3: you make me toast?
Speaker 2: Julie, so I want to be made toast? Make me toast.
Speaker 3: He would never make her toast, so she goes, oh,
Speaker 3: can't you make your own toast? He goes, oh, but
Speaker 3: your toast tastes better, this is true, and then she
Speaker 3: goes okay, and you know that and enables the toast making.
Speaker 1: But maybe women like that We yearn to be needed.
Speaker 3: Yes, because when we were kids we needed like for me,
Speaker 3: we needed mum all the time. And now we've left
Speaker 3: dad needing Mum gives her that sense of purpose. I
Speaker 3: guess it's like when he goes to his snooker days
Speaker 3: with his friends and mom makes him his lunch of
Speaker 3: all his paninisarfish sandwich. You've seen the garfish like his
Speaker 3: Panini's like literally, if you dropped it on your toel
Speaker 3: and break it, and then all the men go, oh,
Speaker 3: what's Julie made today? And then Dad goes home and
Speaker 3: reports to mom. She's like, all the men are talking
Speaker 3: about my sandwich, like it gives her that sense of purpose.
Speaker 3: It's just it was a different generation. But I just
Speaker 3: felt like I was kind of left out, which I
Speaker 3: don't know whether I'm being selfish, but I was like, hey,
Speaker 3: I'm a mom. I rocked up to my parents' house
Speaker 3: and Dad's like hi. I'm like hi, hey Dad, It's
Speaker 3: Mother's Day and I'm a mom, and he goes, oh,
Speaker 3: happy Mother's Day.
Speaker 2: Don't you think mother's Day is like a birthday?
Speaker 4: Is?
Speaker 1: You get really sensitive, So if you walk out and
Speaker 1: you haven't got like presence or someone doing something for you,
Speaker 1: you're like, why are you doing it?
Speaker 2: But then you don't want to say that.
Speaker 3: I feel like I am being extremely needy right now.
Speaker 3: And it might be the pregnancy.
Speaker 2: Horn you are needy, but I.
Speaker 3: Just like the one day I just expected to be
Speaker 3: like going to the shops and the carpets rolled out
Speaker 3: for me, like, yes, I'm a mother.
Speaker 2: Years I love just.
Speaker 3: The one day after we hold the families together we.
Speaker 2: Do what would you have liked? What would have been
Speaker 2: your perfect day?
Speaker 3: Like it's not that I didn't like a day that, but.
Speaker 2: If you could have a perfect day, what would it be.
Speaker 2: I think it would have.
Speaker 3: Just been some time with maybe Sofia and birds, just
Speaker 3: the three of us. Like, at not one point did
Speaker 3: someone say do you want a photo with Sophia? And
Speaker 3: I was like, I didn't get a photo with Sofia
Speaker 3: on Mother's Day.
Speaker 1: Because we have to ask for it, and I do
Speaker 1: always have to ask for a photo.
Speaker 2: But guess what I got.
Speaker 3: I made sure that Bergo got a photo with his
Speaker 3: mum and Sofia so they can remember Mother's Day.
Speaker 2: And then last night their job to give to take
Speaker 2: a photo.
Speaker 3: Last night, I'm lying in bed and I went, I
Speaker 3: didn't get a photo with I didn't get a photo
Speaker 3: with my child. I didn't. I didn't get it, Like
Speaker 3: no one said, hey, do you want to.
Speaker 2: Be a photo or I would have taken a photo
Speaker 2: of you.
Speaker 3: I know, and I know it's probably silly, but I
Speaker 3: just felt a little bit left out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, you know.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of women are feeling like that
Speaker 1: Mother's Day is just one of those days that you
Speaker 1: go a little bit of resentment comes out, Yes, but
Speaker 1: it's the.
Speaker 3: One day that we allow ourselves to feel the resentment.
Speaker 3: Every other day, I pick up the shoes, you clean up,
Speaker 3: you make dinner, you do everything, and you hold everyone
Speaker 3: emotionally together because I'm also I'm the only girl. There's
Speaker 3: three boys and me. So with any family engagement or whatever,
Speaker 3: it's like, we'll wait, We'll wait. I'm like, if we
Speaker 3: just continued to wait, Dad's birthday would pass and we
Speaker 3: wouldn't have actually done anything. Yeah, so it's generally me
Speaker 3: who goes all right, guys, Dad's birthdays in two weeks,
Speaker 3: what are we doing?
Speaker 2: We're gonna go out to lunch? What men? We get it? Yeah? Yeah.
Speaker 3: The men are just like, yeah, Lauren will do it.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, if I didn't do it.
Speaker 1: What's your theory again? With events? I know this is
Speaker 1: like sounds like I'm talking and changing the subject, but
Speaker 1: I'm not. When you've been hit by a bus, you're
Speaker 1: hit by a bus scenario.
Speaker 3: Oh, when you're running an event, it has to like
Speaker 3: if I was to get if I've run an event
Speaker 3: and then I'm not I was to be hit by
Speaker 3: a bus on the way to the event, the event
Speaker 3: can still run smoothly.
Speaker 2: Right me. So that's how partnership should work.
Speaker 1: So everything that you have in your head should also
Speaker 1: be in Burgo's head. So if something happened to you,
Speaker 1: everything would be okay, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: But it's not. But we are so lucky. Like I
Speaker 3: remember when Sophia was a baby, Mum was like, I
Speaker 3: can't believe you know, Burgo's changing nappies any bus and
Speaker 3: he does nap time and does everything. Yeah, he's like
Speaker 3: our dads didn't do that. And I know Jimmy's the same.
Speaker 3: My dad like was just like, oh, the baby's crying jewels.
Speaker 3: But that was that generation.
Speaker 1: So I'm very love generation now, thank god, because I
Speaker 1: would not have coached back then.
Speaker 2: I would have had so much resentment.
Speaker 1: Don't you think it's so if the dad doesn't like
Speaker 1: when a dad goes, oh, I'm babysitting the kids.
Speaker 2: Tonight, so my wife can go out. No, you're just
Speaker 2: being the dad. You're not babysitting anything that you're a dad.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they see that, and wouldnoy Burjo like if my
Speaker 3: parents go you babysitting or whatever? No, someone said to him. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: but back in the day, I think I was like that,
Speaker 3: our dads would have said that I'm babysitting tonight. Well
Speaker 3: what did the mom say?
Speaker 2: Yeah? But we're lucky. We are.
Speaker 1: And I don't take those two for granted because a
Speaker 1: lot of our friends are not like that. They will
Speaker 1: go out and they'll get a thousand calls from their
Speaker 1: partners going so what do I give?
Speaker 2: How much formula do you? What time do they go
Speaker 2: to bed? What do I? What do I need to do?
Speaker 2: Like they don't know anything.
Speaker 3: No, So we're in the reverse.
Speaker 2: We're lucky. Partners go out and we're.
Speaker 3: Like, what happens? Bjo's going to thailight with you? And
Speaker 3: I'm like, what am I going to do? I have
Speaker 3: to solo parent and I know what I'm going to do.
Speaker 3: I just moving with mum and it.
Speaker 2: All right.
Speaker 1: Well we have covered a lot of ground here Free
Speaker 1: Bleeding Morbid again. We always go to the escaping death
Speaker 1: topic and sandwich generation.
Speaker 3: And on that note, I feel like a Beanini where
Speaker 3: we go cheers, Yeah, speaking the sandwich.
Speaker 2: We love you guys, Thanks for listening, Love you guys.
Speaker 2: Well bye,