WEBVTT - Near-death experiences and free bleeding

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<v Speaker 1>Ad A lady ad A lady ad A lady ad,

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<v Speaker 1>Lady unfiltered. Oh hi there, I'm Hailey and I'm Lauren,

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<v Speaker 1>we'd lady unfiltered.

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<v Speaker 2>We're bessies. We're business partners with the creators of Adelaidy.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, I say hey, Lossy Media, and we do everything

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<v Speaker 1>together except bang, what a week?

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<v Speaker 2>What a week? How are you? I don't like it

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<v Speaker 2>when you ask me how we are, Like, how are you?

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<v Speaker 2>We know that is the worst question. So how's everything going?

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<v Speaker 2>How life going?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh? Shut up, I don't care. No, I don't care

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<v Speaker 1>what this is big for light. We've been you know, backstory.

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<v Speaker 1>We this morning we were at Nova. We're doing an

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<v Speaker 1>interview with Jodie and Hazy.

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<v Speaker 2>We're together. We spoke on the way there.

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<v Speaker 1>We spoke there at the radio station, and then we

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<v Speaker 1>got our cars, drove to your house and spoke the

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<v Speaker 1>whole way here.

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<v Speaker 3>Because we literally speak twenty four seven And when I

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<v Speaker 3>don't speak to you, I feel like there's something weird

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<v Speaker 3>going there, Like we're fighting, yes, even though it's been

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<v Speaker 3>like three hours. Like if you don't answer your phone

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<v Speaker 3>in my who could you possibly be on the phone to?

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<v Speaker 2>That's oh, I know you've got a husband. Wun. I

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<v Speaker 2>hang up on everybody if you're calling to go, I know,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm calling even no reason whatsoever. So anyway, so

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<v Speaker 2>i'd just like to hear breathe as a drive.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a shopping list today, and one of them

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<v Speaker 1>a bit nervous to talk about.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, sure.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to get a bad review from our mums

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<v Speaker 1>for this, but let's dive in.

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<v Speaker 3>Who gures all right, So we're gonna be talking about

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<v Speaker 3>escaping death today, and then we're going to be talking

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<v Speaker 3>about something that's just whack, and then we're going to

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<v Speaker 3>be talking about the sandwich generation whack thing.

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<v Speaker 1>We are sandwiching in the middle because hopefully it's you

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<v Speaker 1>can digest it, and then we'll move on quite fast.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, okay, and maybe our mums won't listen to the

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<v Speaker 3>middle of the podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, I'd like to know their thoughts on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Though it's pretty gross.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll get the text straight away. That's disgusting. Wow, it

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<v Speaker 3>is fanscusting.

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<v Speaker 2>But we'll get to that soon. Let's start with that

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<v Speaker 2>member of the week.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So you know how I'm slightly crazy, slightly adhd

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<v Speaker 3>and when I make it Minch, I do it quite quickly.

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<v Speaker 3>So about nine days ago I decided I think I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to sell my house. Story I was like, I've

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<v Speaker 3>had enough. I don't have a linen press, so I

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<v Speaker 3>can't bring a baby into my house without a linen press.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm going to pack up my house and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to sell it. And then the agent was like,

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<v Speaker 3>you're about to have a baby in you know, like

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<v Speaker 3>two months, Like are you okay with this? My yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I am. So anyway, Burger comes home, so we're selling

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<v Speaker 3>our house. He goes, what a great idea. So that's great.

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<v Speaker 3>So I cleaned everything, put everything in the shed. Within

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<v Speaker 3>seven days on the weekend, I had people through my house.

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<v Speaker 3>Within seven days, I had painters, cleaners, gardeners. The shed

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<v Speaker 3>is so full. I said to the real estate agent,

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<v Speaker 3>if anyone asked to look in the shed, don't let

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<v Speaker 3>them because they may die because things may fall on them.

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<v Speaker 2>As a few dead there, okay, and the bodies in there.

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<v Speaker 2>And then you see me in.

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<v Speaker 1>A video down the street going, oh my god, there's

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<v Speaker 1>people coming to see my house. And it doesn't surprise

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<v Speaker 1>me because when you put your mind to something, when

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<v Speaker 1>we give you a goal. You fricking get there, I know.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was also funny because you were like, you

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<v Speaker 3>and I have the same brain and we're crazy. Whereas

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<v Speaker 3>Jimmy brings you back to earth. Yeah, whereas berg and

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<v Speaker 3>I my partner, Berga and I are the same.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know we spoke about you the other day

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<v Speaker 1>because we're talking about this because I was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>need someone to level me out. But you guys are

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<v Speaker 1>both dopamine, Like that's how you act on everything.

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<v Speaker 2>But and it was the same as when you got

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<v Speaker 2>a dog.

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<v Speaker 1>We did all this research into like where we get

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<v Speaker 1>the dog from, and you know, you decided one morning,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to get a dog, So you drove out

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<v Speaker 1>to Port Agusta and picked a dog up from Macas.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>In the it was literally like a drug dealer. I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, well, here's two and a half grand cash.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me count that out and I will be gone.

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<v Speaker 2>I would be lost if I was with Burgo, because

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<v Speaker 2>we're the same. I just couldn't do it.

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<v Speaker 3>But do you know what also as well, on Saturday,

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<v Speaker 3>after we cleaned the house, and he kept cursing me

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<v Speaker 3>like he did because he's six five, He's cleaned every

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<v Speaker 3>single window with squidges.

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<v Speaker 2>Like we mopped the floor.

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<v Speaker 3>We had to move all the pop plants, but because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm pregnant, I can't do anything. So I'm like, you

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<v Speaker 3>need to move that over there? Can you move that

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<v Speaker 3>over there?

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<v Speaker 2>Move that?

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm just directing him and firing around and he's like, anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>we did it all. The floor was still wet. As

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<v Speaker 3>families are coming in like it was we literally fly

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<v Speaker 3>by the seat of.

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<v Speaker 2>Our pants and did you sell the house? No?

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<v Speaker 3>So no one put in an office. So then I've gone, well,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe we just won't sell.

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<v Speaker 2>It's too hard. I just left my body.

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<v Speaker 3>I was expecting someone to go, oh, buy it, and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, okay, so it was worth like washing the

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<v Speaker 3>floors and no one has.

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<v Speaker 1>No Now do you know what, though, you've just cleaned

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<v Speaker 1>your house out, you've decluded, You've forced yourself to do it,

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<v Speaker 1>and now it looks really nice.

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<v Speaker 2>And this is the sad part.

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<v Speaker 1>When everyone sells your house, it never looks or feels

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<v Speaker 1>better than the day that it goes up for sale.

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<v Speaker 1>Why why don't we look.

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<v Speaker 2>After it ourselves and make it look nice for us?

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<v Speaker 2>Why don't we have to do it for someone else?

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<v Speaker 3>We don't have time. But poor Sophia, She's like, can

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<v Speaker 3>I play with my Barbie dreamhouse mates in the shed?

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<v Speaker 3>You can't go in there? Can I play with my barbies? No,

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<v Speaker 3>they're in the shed. Like She's literally like, can I

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<v Speaker 3>play with the spoon from the kitchen.

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<v Speaker 2>Is in the shed? I was going to put her

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<v Speaker 2>in the shed? Okay, that's your men? You ready for

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<v Speaker 2>my men? Yes? Go all right, it actually involves you.

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<v Speaker 1>On a couple of weeks ago, we were at at

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<v Speaker 1>lady slumber party. It was the best night ever. Two

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<v Speaker 1>hundred and fifty women in a hotel dancing. The dance

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<v Speaker 1>hall was going off by about six ten, right in

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<v Speaker 1>the afternoon.

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<v Speaker 2>It was unbelievable. It was so fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, the funny thing is, you broke a rule that

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<v Speaker 1>I would have on a dance for.

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<v Speaker 2>There's one thing that you don't do want to dance for,

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<v Speaker 2>and you.

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<v Speaker 1>Did it, and you tried to do it multiple times

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<v Speaker 1>to did I really?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? What did I do? So we're dancing. I am

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<v Speaker 2>slut dropping like a prayer.

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<v Speaker 1>I am having so much fun. I am just dancing.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I'm out of festival. I'm so happy,

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<v Speaker 1>I've got all this like joy in me right and

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<v Speaker 1>you start to have a serious conversation with me on a.

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<v Speaker 2>Dance floor and I'm like, I was, I can't hear what?

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<v Speaker 1>And you start telling me about this woman that we

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<v Speaker 1>know that almost died.

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<v Speaker 2>I needed to share it with you. Wait, I want

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<v Speaker 2>a dance floor. Right now, I'm dancing.

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<v Speaker 3>But if I don't tell you, then what am I

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<v Speaker 3>going to tell you?

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<v Speaker 1>You don't tell me on a dance floors, It's like

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<v Speaker 1>your brain was like, it's in my brain.

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<v Speaker 2>I have to tell her about that right now, Ian,

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<v Speaker 2>Right now, we're on a dance floor dancing.

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<v Speaker 3>When I find out something, I need to tell you

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<v Speaker 3>straight away. That's why I call you about dumb things,

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<v Speaker 3>because they come into my brain and if I don't

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<v Speaker 3>tell you, I feel like I've.

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<v Speaker 2>Lied to you.

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<v Speaker 1>So the funny thing is, if you picture this, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on one side of the dance floor, you're on the other,

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<v Speaker 1>and I can see your eyes and your eyebrows when

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<v Speaker 1>you get concerned, go like full eyebrow concern.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I could never have botox. No, you couldn't tell.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to see that face. But you come, you

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<v Speaker 1>start coming towards me, and I'm like, she's got her

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<v Speaker 1>sad eyes on. Oh God, what she gonna say? And

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<v Speaker 1>then you started telling them. I'm like, let's just hold

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<v Speaker 1>and tell me a second. But then you started again

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<v Speaker 1>because like the next song started, the backstroke boys are starting,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like, so anyway, she almost died.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, stop telling me this information. I went rude.

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<v Speaker 3>All the nut pushes on it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's our rain. My two rules on a dance floor.

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<v Speaker 1>One you don't tell your friend a morbid story while

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<v Speaker 1>you're on a dance floor.

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<v Speaker 2>You just don't do a serious conversation. Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>And two, you don't go on a dance floor, go

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<v Speaker 1>to the bathroom, do a number two, and then come

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<v Speaker 1>back to the dance floor, because that's gross too.

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<v Speaker 2>There's always been my rules.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you mean I didn't do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm was saying you do that. If you did that,

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<v Speaker 2>I would fight you from being my friend. What do

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<v Speaker 2>you mean you can't do a number two?

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<v Speaker 1>You can't be on a dance floor like at a

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<v Speaker 1>club and go to the toilet and do a number

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<v Speaker 1>two and then go back.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so crappy. What if you need to go to

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<v Speaker 2>the toilet, you go home. That's your cue to go home.

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<v Speaker 2>You you are out for what if it's seven o'clock

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<v Speaker 2>of the night. You work so cooked. He's saying, it's

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<v Speaker 2>okay to go to the club. I need to go.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to go, and then I come back.

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<v Speaker 3>Clubbing because I'm feeling three killers ladder.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, how are we? You have the weirdest rules.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'm not allowed to talk about death and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not allowed to take shit.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, we're about to talk about death. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>ready to talk about this? I've got an amazing things

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<v Speaker 1>so where you took your jacket off? Yeah, I'm getting

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<v Speaker 1>hot and sweaty.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm getting Oh my god, I'm getting so hot and sweaty.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, I want to talk about you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>movie Final Destination.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but I've never seen it, but I'll pretend.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you never seen no hat movies? Because I can't

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<v Speaker 2>talk in that. Oh god. Devin Sawyer, the guy in it,

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<v Speaker 2>his name's Devon. His name is Devon like the Fritz.

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<v Speaker 2>We were all obsessed with him back in the day.

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<v Speaker 2>But then you watch it as an adult and you're like, oh, yuh,

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<v Speaker 2>why was I tracted to that guy? Anyway?

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, Devon, if you're watching it's a bit offense, Devin.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, a few weeks ago it was Ann's ac Day,

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<v Speaker 1>and obviously people were sharing stories about their grandpas and

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<v Speaker 1>everything that they.

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<v Speaker 2>Went to war.

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<v Speaker 1>I found out something about my grandpa Bob, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh my god, I wish he was still

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<v Speaker 1>alive so I could talk to him about this. I

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<v Speaker 1>never knew this, and this is amazing. Do you really

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<v Speaker 1>want me to read something? I should I tell you

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<v Speaker 1>the story. I might tell you the story because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not very good at reading.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, just tell me. But it was documented. I will

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<v Speaker 2>just have proof.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So my grandpa Bob and his brother Hugh were in

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<v Speaker 1>the war, right, They went in the war together, and

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<v Speaker 1>they were in New Guinea and they went.

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<v Speaker 2>To separate little areas.

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<v Speaker 1>One day, in the middle of the jungle, my grandpa

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<v Speaker 1>and Hugh were on different trucks. They went past each

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<v Speaker 1>other and they said, oh, mate, maybe mate. Hughes like,

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<v Speaker 1>get in my truck, come with me. We're going over here.

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<v Speaker 1>And his commander was like, oh, all right, you can

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<v Speaker 1>go with him only because he's your brother. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>only way you can swap trucks. So Bob, my grandpa

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<v Speaker 1>got out of his truck, got into his brother, Hugh's truck,

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<v Speaker 1>and they went off to fight. The truck that my

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<v Speaker 1>grandpa was in about twenty minutes later was bombed by

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<v Speaker 1>an American plane and ninety two people died. My grandpa

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<v Speaker 1>was meant to die. He escaped death.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't that bizarre?

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<v Speaker 3>And how old was he when he actually died?

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<v Speaker 2>Eighty something?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so his brother that just that like serendipity, that

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<v Speaker 1>timing of seeing him and going oh, and the only

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<v Speaker 1>reason he could swap trucks is because they were related.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody else in that truck had to stay, but Bob

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<v Speaker 1>got out and got in with you, and he lived.

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<v Speaker 3>He wasn't meant to die.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't his time.

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<v Speaker 1>So the thing with Final Destination, though if you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>seen it, it's like nineties movie or whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 1>it's all about escaping death. So it basically starts off

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<v Speaker 1>with all these kids on a school camp and they

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<v Speaker 1>go on this plane and then they get off the plane.

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<v Speaker 1>Half of them get off the plane, and that plane

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<v Speaker 1>goes down, and they were meant to be on the plane.

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<v Speaker 1>So the whole concept is that fate is if you're

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<v Speaker 1>meant If that's your time. Your time is up.

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<v Speaker 2>You're meant to die. If you escape it, it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Going to catch up to you. Death is going to

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<v Speaker 1>chase you because you were meant to die that day.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I see it as in like, it wasn't your

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<v Speaker 3>time to die, so you're not going to die.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, So you can look at it it both ways.

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<v Speaker 1>So I actually look at it at your way as well,

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<v Speaker 1>going that's not my time. So I was never meant

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<v Speaker 1>to die that stage. I'm meant to die when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>ninety five and I'm in my bed surrounded by my

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<v Speaker 1>family like Titanic, like Titanic, yes, speaking of Okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>I've done some research because I love this year.

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<v Speaker 2>Like Roades.

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<v Speaker 3>She died at like ninety two in her bed. She

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<v Speaker 3>didn't die the Titanic. But that was a movie that

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<v Speaker 3>was yeah, but it was real. Yeah, it was a

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<v Speaker 3>Titanic went down Rose.

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<v Speaker 2>Rose was not a true story.

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<v Speaker 3>Leonardo dicapprou wasn't on Titanic. I get it.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is a true story.

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<v Speaker 1>A woman survived Titanic. So she survived the Titanic, but

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of months later died in a car accident.

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<v Speaker 2>So that is an.

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<v Speaker 1>Example of death going no, no, no, mate, you were

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<v Speaker 1>meant to die this day.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't that weird?

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<v Speaker 3>You would be so annoyed as a ghost like I

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<v Speaker 3>literally was in that water, that cold water, and now you.

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<v Speaker 2>Kill me in another really violent way. I would be

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<v Speaker 2>so pissed off because.

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<v Speaker 1>Seth McFarlane creator A family guy, Michael Jackson, and someone else,

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<v Speaker 1>Mark Wahlberg were meant to be on that plane that

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<v Speaker 1>went into on the nine to eleven. They were meant

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<v Speaker 1>to be on the plane, and they survived for various reasons.

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<v Speaker 1>One of them slept in. One of them, Michael Jackson

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<v Speaker 1>was probably having too many I don't know, pills, but

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't make the plane. So they were meant to

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<v Speaker 1>They were meant to die that day. So this leads

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<v Speaker 1>us to where we want to talk about escaping death.

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<v Speaker 1>You and I have escaped death twice.

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<v Speaker 3>We are literally hoo DEEDI when it comes to escaping death,

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<v Speaker 3>which now scares me because now I'm just imagining the

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<v Speaker 3>Grim Reaper going.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello, hello, I'm just he'd have jazz hands for us.

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<v Speaker 1>The Grim Reaper, I legit thought on both of those

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<v Speaker 1>occasions that we were going to die. Both of them

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<v Speaker 1>happened in Fiji. Okay, how do you remember the story?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you tell the first time? Because this happened the

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<v Speaker 1>first time we were there together.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is the first time.

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<v Speaker 3>We were supposed to be on a boat by midday, right,

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<v Speaker 3>and apparently you shouldn't be on a boat between two

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<v Speaker 3>and three and Fiji or something. But you and I

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<v Speaker 3>instead of hopping on this boat at twelve, we saw

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<v Speaker 3>people riding horses on the beach and we were in

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<v Speaker 3>Camilla's and went, oh gosh, let's go ride horses at

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<v Speaker 3>the beach and our Camilla's, which we did because we're like,

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<v Speaker 3>that'll be great. Shops the photo, Yes, yeah, droning us

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<v Speaker 3>on a beach. So then we got to this boat

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<v Speaker 3>at two.

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<v Speaker 2>O'clock too late, too late, and we missed the catamaran.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, so then we had to go on a smaller boat,

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<v Speaker 3>to which we took all these photos on the boat.

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<v Speaker 3>We uploaded them to the cloud that merely got so

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<v Speaker 3>merely got all these lovely photos of us having fun

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<v Speaker 3>at the boat. Then the boat took off and suddenly.

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<v Speaker 1>Could I just say, it wasn't just a boat, It

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<v Speaker 1>was like a dingy. It was a tiny little boat.

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<v Speaker 1>We were meant to be on a massive catamaran. So

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<v Speaker 1>this is a really small boat that had you, me,

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<v Speaker 1>a cameraman, are soundy eighty from Fiji, and our producer.

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<v Speaker 2>It was six of us.

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<v Speaker 3>There should have been one person on this boat, but

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<v Speaker 3>where they were six. We were literally like rowing out

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<v Speaker 3>into the ocean to Cloud nine.

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<v Speaker 2>We're on our way to Cloud nine, which.

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<v Speaker 3>Is like a party boat thing in the middle of nowhere,

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<v Speaker 3>and it is so cool. So we're out, we're on

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<v Speaker 3>our way, and then suddenly the cloud start coming and

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<v Speaker 3>they go dark, and the water starts going dark. And

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<v Speaker 3>then suddenly we're in this boat looking forward and instead

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<v Speaker 3>of seeing sky, we can only.

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<v Speaker 1>See water because the waves were like two story buildings,

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<v Speaker 1>that's how high they were.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, and it was engulfing our boat. And I never

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<v Speaker 3>forget our SOUNDI, who's not religious, did the sign of

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<v Speaker 3>the Cross.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I looked at.

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<v Speaker 3>Him and went, Okay, we're going to die.

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<v Speaker 2>And and we all did it, even the Fijian lady.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, she was screaming, say I'm a mother. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>want to die.

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<v Speaker 2>That was Onnie, I'm a mother.

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<v Speaker 3>And then the lady from that was the guy that

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<v Speaker 3>was driving the boat threw the life jackets at us

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<v Speaker 3>and said put these on when you hit the water.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And at that point you thought I wouldn't swim, which

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<v Speaker 1>is weird because I was very good at swimming. I

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<v Speaker 1>should have known with your giant paddles that you'd be great.

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<v Speaker 3>I was thinking, how am I going to save Hailey.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna have put Haley on my back because she

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<v Speaker 3>can't swim. And I was also thinking of our insurance policy,

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<v Speaker 3>like if we survive, did I tick boats?

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<v Speaker 2>We didn't have an insurance policy back then? No, we

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<v Speaker 2>really did, did we? Yeah? Always?

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<v Speaker 3>But I was worried that we were going to be

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<v Speaker 3>out of a lot of money, Like if we survived this.

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<v Speaker 1>I was thinking of just drowning and sharks. That's all

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<v Speaker 1>I was thinking here because at this point we won't.

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<v Speaker 2>See land right, also thinking of your kids, because I

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<v Speaker 2>was your only mom, I had anything. We had nothing

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<v Speaker 2>to live for, No, just the insurance policy, so I

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<v Speaker 2>had nothing. All our footage and everything was also on

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<v Speaker 2>this boat. So we went over. We've just been filming

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<v Speaker 2>for five days in Fiji. We were going to lose everything.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to lose a lot of money. That my

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<v Speaker 2>head was at Do you remember.

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<v Speaker 1>We went to the guy that was driving the boat,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to take us to land, and then he

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<v Speaker 1>said how much money have you got?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, he literally said, well, if I was to take

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<v Speaker 3>you to land, of course you ten dollars per person.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, mate, at this point, fucking charges

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<v Speaker 3>my money had to die.

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<v Speaker 2>And then what happened. Then he just goes, oh, land.

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<v Speaker 1>So after the water, the boat's doing this, the waves

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<v Speaker 1>are coming in, We're putting on our live jackets. We're

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<v Speaker 1>sobbing our eyes, and he goes, oh, I see an island,

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<v Speaker 1>and he took us to this island and.

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<v Speaker 2>We kissed the ground.

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<v Speaker 3>We were sobbing, and then we had coronas and pizzas

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<v Speaker 3>all afternoon because we survived on a deserted island.

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<v Speaker 2>And I called my husband.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, I die, and hear me thought

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<v Speaker 1>I had died. He thought I said Lauren died, and

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<v Speaker 1>so he started to go into shock. And then it

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<v Speaker 1>was only because I had a mouthful of pizzas that

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't die.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't articull.

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<v Speaker 3>It anyway, So we almost died. But then we had

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<v Speaker 3>a really lovely afternoon where we didn't have to work.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, But then we found out interesting story that there

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<v Speaker 1>was a cyclone and everyone from Cloud Night was evacuated.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they got helicoptered off.

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<v Speaker 3>But here we are in our dinghy and our door,

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<v Speaker 3>rowing off to an island, whereas all these people were

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<v Speaker 3>just like, I'm just gonna hop in our chopper and

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<v Speaker 3>fly off.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. So there's one near death incident here the next one. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Every year Lauren and I say we are never going

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<v Speaker 1>on a boat again, but every year we find ourselves

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<v Speaker 1>on a boat again.

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<v Speaker 2>Every year of clients, I want to go on a

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<v Speaker 2>boat with that.

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<v Speaker 1>Same Three years later, we find ourselves in Fiji again,

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<v Speaker 1>and we're filming and we.

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<v Speaker 2>Love Fiji, we love it so much.

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<v Speaker 1>We're on this island and we needed to get back

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<v Speaker 1>to denner Ow, the main island, to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>fly out the next day. So it's seven o'clock at

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<v Speaker 1>night and I already have a real fear of boats

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<v Speaker 1>because of what's happened in the past. So now it's blackness.

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<v Speaker 1>We have to travel for an hour and ten minutes

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<v Speaker 1>to get back to denner Our. So we're in this boat,

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<v Speaker 1>another smallish boat.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's like a nice boat.

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<v Speaker 2>A fire boat is slightly bigger than the dingy. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so we're on this boat.

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<v Speaker 1>It's fine while we can see the lights likely of

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<v Speaker 1>the island as we go out, and then all of

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<v Speaker 1>a sudden, oh god, this makes me feel sick.

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<v Speaker 2>I hate it this day so much. The boat started

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<v Speaker 2>doing that thing where it.

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<v Speaker 3>Goes because you started crying, and it flickers with us.

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<v Speaker 1>Starts crying, and I just got my men, our producer

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<v Speaker 1>ad him at the time, started screaming and screaming at the.

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<v Speaker 2>Screaming at the men who were driving the boat.

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<v Speaker 1>And at this point we were now vertical, so going over

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<v Speaker 1>the waves, and we said slow down, slow down.

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<v Speaker 2>But that made it worse because that means it was like.

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<v Speaker 1>A slow motion of going all the way almost backwards

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<v Speaker 1>over a wave.

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<v Speaker 3>And then oh he didn't have a boat license. Like

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<v Speaker 3>it literally was like me trying to drive a boat.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like they just did not give a effing.

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<v Speaker 3>They did not care about it at all. They were

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<v Speaker 3>just driving into the waves. The waves are hitting us,

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<v Speaker 3>and I took my.

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<v Speaker 1>Jumper off, so I was holding on tight and I

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<v Speaker 1>took my jumper off with one hand because I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>we're going in and this is going to weigh me down.

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<v Speaker 1>I just knew it was nighttime and this was what

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<v Speaker 1>I was done. And I actually came up with something

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<v Speaker 1>that day of what to think about when you're really scared.

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't think of my kids because that was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to see my kids again.

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<v Speaker 2>So I started thinking of a stapler.

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<v Speaker 1>And I've used this thing every time I'm on a

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<v Speaker 1>plane or if I'm nervous. It's something that has no

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<v Speaker 1>emotional attachment has it's not alive.

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<v Speaker 2>And you start thinking of something like.

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<v Speaker 1>An object like a stapler, where I started thinking of

0:19:12.160 --> 0:19:13.840
<v Speaker 1>the shape of it and how it works. And you

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<v Speaker 1>put the staples in just to distract my mind, and

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<v Speaker 1>it worked.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I'll think about this when I'm having my cesarean,

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<v Speaker 3>start thinking of a staple.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually, do get stapler. Oh gosh, that's a terrible idea.

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<v Speaker 2>I take it back.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you know what as well? You said the two

0:19:27.760 --> 0:19:29.960
<v Speaker 3>figi ones. We also died in a boat in Vietnam.

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<v Speaker 3>It was in Vietnam to Thailand. Remember, but we can

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<v Speaker 3>see land.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh when we're on the long boat. Yeah, we're on

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<v Speaker 2>a long boat. That's where I thought you were going.

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<v Speaker 3>But I was like, it's cool, Like if it sinks,

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<v Speaker 3>I can see lands and I can swim.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's not a scary when you see the land, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I think we Yeah, there's a lot of boats that

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<v Speaker 1>we almost died on.

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<v Speaker 3>And I've actually never told you I almost died on

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<v Speaker 3>the Popeye. Well, I've never talked you this. I was

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<v Speaker 3>having a high t on the pop Eye once it

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<v Speaker 3>was a half cut, so I was like so fun,

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<v Speaker 3>but like the engine started smoking and we had to

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<v Speaker 3>hop on the other pop Pie. So I literally was like,

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<v Speaker 3>how can I almost die? In Fiji and Thailand and

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<v Speaker 3>now so it's jumping in the torrens. I actually would

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<v Speaker 3>have died.

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<v Speaker 1>So death is trying to chase us, but only on boats.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, my god cruise though, that's different. That's a

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<v Speaker 2>big boat. All right, we have covered escaping death.

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<v Speaker 1>Now it's time to talk about the thing that is

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<v Speaker 1>gross and yucky.

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<v Speaker 2>But it is all over us on Instagram. It's chasing

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<v Speaker 2>on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 3>It's literally like the Grim Reaper. Okay, So I've started

0:20:42.520 --> 0:20:44.919
<v Speaker 3>spiraling and I started sending it to you, and then

0:20:44.960 --> 0:20:47.000
<v Speaker 3>I started sending it to Berjo, which I probably shouldn't

0:20:47.000 --> 0:20:48.640
<v Speaker 3>have sent it to Bergo because it's kind of gross.

0:20:49.240 --> 0:20:52.679
<v Speaker 3>This girl is following me all over Instagram talking about

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<v Speaker 3>free bleeding.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyone free bleeding? Oh my god, I can describe what

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<v Speaker 2>it is.

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<v Speaker 3>It's where I mean. Women, we get our periods, it's fine.

0:21:01.800 --> 0:21:05.800
<v Speaker 3>What happens we use tampons, pads, the period under these cups. Well, shit,

0:21:06.920 --> 0:21:10.800
<v Speaker 3>she uses nothing. She uses nothing, and apparently it's a

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<v Speaker 3>new trend that women are doing. It's not just her,

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<v Speaker 3>it's a movement, it's a full movement.

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<v Speaker 4>Free bleeding is when you are not using anything that

0:21:17.760 --> 0:21:20.639
<v Speaker 4>obstructs the flow of blood, and you're not sitting in

0:21:20.680 --> 0:21:23.760
<v Speaker 4>your blood for periods like hours at a time. Free

0:21:23.800 --> 0:21:28.160
<v Speaker 4>bleed you bleed directly onto a surface, and you're allowing

0:21:28.200 --> 0:21:32.600
<v Speaker 4>your blood to completely flow and release out of your body. Look,

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<v Speaker 4>I know that this isn't for everyone. No, everybody is

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<v Speaker 4>lifestyle and routine allows for it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not for everyone, she says in this grab, So

0:21:41.640 --> 0:21:44.320
<v Speaker 3>because you literally you're not allowed to use anything like

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<v Speaker 3>this girl doesn't even wear underwear.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but what's the why why?

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<v Speaker 3>It just believes that it's healthier for your body to

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<v Speaker 3>just flow out whenever it needs to flow out. So

0:21:56.560 --> 0:21:58.840
<v Speaker 3>this girl works from home and she just covers all

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<v Speaker 3>the surfaces in her head with rugs.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so I didn't tell you, but I have my

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<v Speaker 1>period right now and I'm free bleeding your cash.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, that is so proud.

0:22:09.520 --> 0:22:10.399
<v Speaker 2>I'm not even body.

0:22:10.720 --> 0:22:12.480
<v Speaker 3>And so when something is fed to me this is

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<v Speaker 3>the bad thing, I start spiraling and watching it and

0:22:16.680 --> 0:22:17.560
<v Speaker 3>now it's like everything.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, hey, are you a free bleeder.

0:22:19.119 --> 0:22:20.719
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, no, I'm not a free bleeder.

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<v Speaker 2>Stop giving me this. Sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I guess, back in the day, everyone free bled

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<v Speaker 1>because they didn't have things like tampons and period cups

0:22:30.000 --> 0:22:30.920
<v Speaker 1>and pats.

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<v Speaker 3>I remember my mom telling me, like, back in the day,

0:22:34.240 --> 0:22:35.720
<v Speaker 3>they used to like put it on like a little

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<v Speaker 3>metal hoister thing around their waist.

0:22:37.600 --> 0:22:39.000
<v Speaker 2>They do it up like a belt. And that's why

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<v Speaker 2>they call them a rag because they're like rags.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yes, and I never stay get full.

0:22:42.920 --> 0:22:44.680
<v Speaker 2>But this is why technology is so amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>I know. I once had a cleaner as a kid,

0:22:47.040 --> 0:22:50.520
<v Speaker 3>our family cleaner, a panty liner, went through the wash

0:22:50.680 --> 0:22:52.600
<v Speaker 3>and when I got home, it was sitting on my bed,

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<v Speaker 3>on my pillow, and she said, I didn't know where

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<v Speaker 3>to put your bow tigh.

0:22:56.560 --> 0:23:00.320
<v Speaker 1>So I put it, choose it, I put it on yours.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, that's.

0:23:07.920 --> 0:23:10.720
<v Speaker 3>She was like eighty and I'd never seen a boy

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<v Speaker 3>I ever want a bow seye.

0:23:14.600 --> 0:23:15.680
<v Speaker 2>It was the way I was like.

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<v Speaker 3>So, I'm going to take this and then I'm going

0:23:18.280 --> 0:23:21.280
<v Speaker 3>to put this in the bin because that's a bandy lainey.

0:23:21.760 --> 0:23:24.440
<v Speaker 2>But they're there for a reason.

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<v Speaker 1>I get people wanting to be grounded, you know those

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<v Speaker 1>you know you want to go out to the wilderness

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<v Speaker 1>and take your shoes off and feel your feet around yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>touching trees and getting all that stuff.

0:23:35.240 --> 0:23:37.480
<v Speaker 2>I get that. I get touching trees. I do. I

0:23:37.520 --> 0:23:39.199
<v Speaker 2>get you are so ground I don't know.

0:23:39.359 --> 0:23:41.600
<v Speaker 1>My dad is a tree hugger, and so I've grown

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<v Speaker 1>up like going on bushwalks with dad and he would

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<v Speaker 1>be like, stop here and feel it.

0:23:45.960 --> 0:23:48.040
<v Speaker 2>Give it a feel, really feel it. Close your eyes.

0:23:48.040 --> 0:23:52.040
<v Speaker 1>I feel it, and then like like, yeah, I get

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<v Speaker 1>the whole hugging tree thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't mind that your dad flies through

0:23:55.640 --> 0:23:56.720
<v Speaker 2>this guy and hugs trees.

0:23:57.040 --> 0:23:58.680
<v Speaker 3>I love our family so much.

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<v Speaker 2>You should try touching is.

0:24:00.240 --> 0:24:01.919
<v Speaker 1>They're reaching out for you. That's why their branches are

0:24:01.920 --> 0:24:03.000
<v Speaker 1>reaching over you.

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<v Speaker 3>Really, Yeah, that's really nice.

0:24:04.960 --> 0:24:09.240
<v Speaker 1>There is such thing is it's gonna sound so great?

0:24:10.040 --> 0:24:12.199
<v Speaker 1>There is such thing as like watching a tree and

0:24:12.240 --> 0:24:13.720
<v Speaker 1>talking to it and then reaching out.

0:24:15.560 --> 0:24:17.800
<v Speaker 3>Isn't that like in Cinderella or something with the trees

0:24:17.800 --> 0:24:19.639
<v Speaker 3>a fantasia where the trees like running?

0:24:19.920 --> 0:24:22.040
<v Speaker 2>That's true. Anyway, that's a whole other thing. Hey, I

0:24:22.080 --> 0:24:24.520
<v Speaker 2>get that. I don't get the free bleeding.

0:24:24.359 --> 0:24:26.640
<v Speaker 3>Free bleeding. They use nothing. They just let it all

0:24:26.640 --> 0:24:31.080
<v Speaker 3>flow out and like energetically and spiritually, their world is better.

0:24:31.400 --> 0:24:35.600
<v Speaker 3>And I just can't escape this and I don't. Anyway,

0:24:35.640 --> 0:24:37.760
<v Speaker 3>we said we talk about it for ninety seconds, it's done.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I just wrap that up by saying, though I

0:24:41.000 --> 0:24:42.680
<v Speaker 1>was talking about this with one of my best friends

0:24:42.680 --> 0:24:43.240
<v Speaker 1>on the weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>Women get it so hard.

0:24:46.680 --> 0:24:49.359
<v Speaker 1>In that every month you get two weeks that are

0:24:49.920 --> 0:24:52.800
<v Speaker 1>good weeks. Two good weeks, yeah, because in those two

0:24:52.840 --> 0:24:55.600
<v Speaker 1>weeks you're not pre minstrel, so you're not going through

0:24:55.600 --> 0:24:58.040
<v Speaker 1>psycho throats in your head or sad or whatever, and

0:24:58.080 --> 0:25:00.399
<v Speaker 1>you don't have your period. The other two weeks it

0:25:00.440 --> 0:25:04.600
<v Speaker 1>is you're bleeding, or you're feeling emotional, really emotional and

0:25:04.720 --> 0:25:08.400
<v Speaker 1>irrational thoughts. We only are good for half of our life.

0:25:08.600 --> 0:25:10.600
<v Speaker 3>So literally half the year I'm terrible.

0:25:10.720 --> 0:25:14.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm an emotional rap six months of the year, we suffer, Yeah,

0:25:14.960 --> 0:25:16.040
<v Speaker 1>but we still push through.

0:25:16.760 --> 0:25:18.600
<v Speaker 2>Anyway, we won't talk about that ever again because that

0:25:18.600 --> 0:25:19.000
<v Speaker 2>was gross.

0:25:19.000 --> 0:25:21.119
<v Speaker 3>Now we'll never talk about free bleeding and hopefully jewels

0:25:21.160 --> 0:25:22.280
<v Speaker 3>and Rosa just skip that part.

0:25:22.440 --> 0:25:24.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that was discussed. That was foul.

0:25:27.640 --> 0:25:29.800
<v Speaker 3>Okay, Pearson, I've wanted to talk to you about the

0:25:30.000 --> 0:25:32.119
<v Speaker 3>sandwich generation for a while.

0:25:32.240 --> 0:25:34.280
<v Speaker 2>Now. What is the sandwich generation?

0:25:34.440 --> 0:25:37.080
<v Speaker 3>The sandwich generation, It's not just people who like sandwiches.

0:25:37.240 --> 0:25:37.960
<v Speaker 2>I love a sandwich.

0:25:38.000 --> 0:25:39.119
<v Speaker 3>I am in that generation.

0:25:39.640 --> 0:25:42.040
<v Speaker 2>P Paninis. Give me one right now.

0:25:42.080 --> 0:25:48.240
<v Speaker 3>I love a PAPEDI do you know what thinking about

0:25:48.240 --> 0:25:50.800
<v Speaker 3>a priciero Panini does that to me as well. So

0:25:50.840 --> 0:25:54.280
<v Speaker 3>the sandwich generation refers to middle aged adults, typically age

0:25:54.320 --> 0:25:59.000
<v Speaker 3>thirty to sixty, simultaneously supporting aging parents and their own

0:25:59.160 --> 0:26:00.000
<v Speaker 3>children as.

0:25:59.840 --> 0:26:03.560
<v Speaker 2>Well in the middle the beast sandwich. Yes, this is

0:26:03.560 --> 0:26:04.200
<v Speaker 2>where we're at.

0:26:04.280 --> 0:26:06.600
<v Speaker 3>So for me, I've got a four year old girl,

0:26:06.800 --> 0:26:09.680
<v Speaker 3>a baby on the way, and then my parents are

0:26:09.760 --> 0:26:14.560
<v Speaker 3>like mid to late seventies. So I've started worrying about

0:26:14.560 --> 0:26:17.159
<v Speaker 3>them and I can't stop, and I've text my numerous

0:26:17.200 --> 0:26:19.240
<v Speaker 3>times is checking in how are you?

0:26:19.320 --> 0:26:20.080
<v Speaker 2>Are you okay?

0:26:20.240 --> 0:26:23.000
<v Speaker 3>How's your knee, how's your heart, how's your test, to

0:26:23.040 --> 0:26:25.760
<v Speaker 3>the point where on Friday night Mum messaged me going,

0:26:26.000 --> 0:26:28.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm just going into a movie. I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 3>have my phone for two hours, just letting you know

0:26:31.160 --> 0:26:33.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm okay and I haven't died. And at that point

0:26:33.600 --> 0:26:37.400
<v Speaker 3>I've gone, oh, maybe it's a bit much what I'm doing.

0:26:37.560 --> 0:26:40.320
<v Speaker 1>So this is the hard thing because the people in

0:26:40.359 --> 0:26:43.480
<v Speaker 1>the Sandwich generation have got everything going on. We're still

0:26:43.480 --> 0:26:46.640
<v Speaker 1>working full time, We're still trying to pay our mortgage off,

0:26:47.560 --> 0:26:49.920
<v Speaker 1>and we're worrying. We're trying to raise children, but we're

0:26:49.920 --> 0:26:52.199
<v Speaker 1>also worrying about our parents. Does that mean that we

0:26:52.280 --> 0:26:54.240
<v Speaker 1>are in the hardest stage of our lives right now.

0:26:54.560 --> 0:26:57.639
<v Speaker 3>The hardest stage, like and you look around, no wonder

0:26:57.680 --> 0:27:00.560
<v Speaker 3>like divorces and things happening because we put our last,

0:27:00.800 --> 0:27:03.760
<v Speaker 3>We put our relationships last. Everything to do with us

0:27:04.200 --> 0:27:06.719
<v Speaker 3>is last. Long as Sofia is fed, like long as

0:27:06.760 --> 0:27:09.080
<v Speaker 3>your boys are fed, the house is fine, the dogs

0:27:09.080 --> 0:27:11.600
<v Speaker 3>are fine, our parents are fine. And then we just

0:27:11.680 --> 0:27:13.520
<v Speaker 3>like left like twitching on the outside.

0:27:13.600 --> 0:27:14.400
<v Speaker 2>Can I flip it?

0:27:14.680 --> 0:27:17.600
<v Speaker 1>Because I think we're also at the luckiest stage because

0:27:17.680 --> 0:27:20.600
<v Speaker 1>right now we still have our parents. Our parents are

0:27:20.600 --> 0:27:23.800
<v Speaker 1>still alive. Our kids need us, they want us. We're

0:27:23.800 --> 0:27:25.960
<v Speaker 1>at home with our kids. We've got all the chaos happening.

0:27:26.640 --> 0:27:29.440
<v Speaker 1>One day in the next ten years, the next generation,

0:27:30.359 --> 0:27:34.320
<v Speaker 1>we will lose our parents. And then to me, that's

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:35.280
<v Speaker 1>the worst time.

0:27:35.440 --> 0:27:37.439
<v Speaker 3>That is the worst time. And that is why I'm lucky.

0:27:37.760 --> 0:27:41.040
<v Speaker 3>That's why I'm worrying. Mum is seventy three. Dad is

0:27:41.200 --> 0:27:42.360
<v Speaker 3>seventy nine this year.

0:27:42.359 --> 0:27:44.760
<v Speaker 1>But your dad has the brain of a fifty year old.

0:27:44.760 --> 0:27:47.160
<v Speaker 1>He is, so I just love his brain so much.

0:27:47.400 --> 0:27:50.040
<v Speaker 3>He's a party animal. He could drink anyone under the table.

0:27:50.040 --> 0:27:51.639
<v Speaker 3>He just wants to hang out with young people, go

0:27:51.640 --> 0:27:55.280
<v Speaker 3>to the crows, travel and eat Pugierto sandwiches. Like he

0:27:55.359 --> 0:27:58.840
<v Speaker 3>just lives his life. But I'm constantly worried because also,

0:27:59.160 --> 0:28:01.159
<v Speaker 3>and I know you find that whenever you call your parents.

0:28:01.600 --> 0:28:03.639
<v Speaker 3>What are you doing today, Oh, I'm just going to

0:28:03.760 --> 0:28:06.560
<v Speaker 3>have a scant on my heart. I'm just going to

0:28:06.720 --> 0:28:10.200
<v Speaker 3>check my eyes, going to the padat. I think I'm deaf,

0:28:10.280 --> 0:28:13.000
<v Speaker 3>so I'm going to the hearing specialist. Like if they

0:28:13.000 --> 0:28:15.160
<v Speaker 3>didn't see their doctors every day. It's like, what would

0:28:15.160 --> 0:28:16.040
<v Speaker 3>they do in their days.

0:28:17.040 --> 0:28:19.359
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know, but I think they want to feel

0:28:19.400 --> 0:28:21.560
<v Speaker 1>it like they're feeling it like our parents do have

0:28:21.600 --> 0:28:23.719
<v Speaker 1>other things, Like your dad goes and does his like

0:28:24.320 --> 0:28:26.440
<v Speaker 1>doesn't he have his mandate where he goes and does pool?

0:28:26.680 --> 0:28:29.800
<v Speaker 3>He goes shirt and he walks around like mitcham shopping

0:28:29.800 --> 0:28:31.600
<v Speaker 3>center with his little bag that looks like a gun,

0:28:31.640 --> 0:28:32.960
<v Speaker 3>but it's his snooker.

0:28:32.680 --> 0:28:35.800
<v Speaker 2>Queue also probably has a gun.

0:28:35.960 --> 0:28:38.720
<v Speaker 3>It's a gun and snooker que. No, but it's just

0:28:38.800 --> 0:28:40.360
<v Speaker 3>this this worrying.

0:28:40.600 --> 0:28:46.200
<v Speaker 2>Of Yeah, I just I see it with you. It's funny.

0:28:46.480 --> 0:28:48.720
<v Speaker 1>And my mum and dad have said they see it

0:28:48.760 --> 0:28:52.640
<v Speaker 1>with you. You fuss over your dad so much. It's

0:28:52.680 --> 0:28:56.240
<v Speaker 1>beautiful to see you. You are, like, Dad, what do

0:28:56.280 --> 0:28:57.680
<v Speaker 1>you need? Can I get you more of this? Do

0:28:57.680 --> 0:28:58.400
<v Speaker 1>you need help doing this?

0:28:58.480 --> 0:29:00.160
<v Speaker 2>Dad? What do you need? You really do look after

0:29:00.240 --> 0:29:01.360
<v Speaker 2>him like he's a four year old.

0:29:01.440 --> 0:29:03.680
<v Speaker 3>At the detriment of my mom. Because my mom is

0:29:03.760 --> 0:29:06.040
<v Speaker 3>mentally fine, yeah, like she'll tell.

0:29:05.880 --> 0:29:06.440
<v Speaker 2>Me what's what.

0:29:06.760 --> 0:29:11.040
<v Speaker 3>Whereas Dad, I feel like mentally is slowing down. Whereas

0:29:11.200 --> 0:29:13.200
<v Speaker 3>Dad physically if I said to him, I need you

0:29:13.240 --> 0:29:15.640
<v Speaker 3>to come here and do twelve hours of gardening, he

0:29:15.640 --> 0:29:17.640
<v Speaker 3>would do it. He wouldn't even come inside for lunch.

0:29:17.680 --> 0:29:21.000
<v Speaker 3>He would do everything, whereas Mom's not physically fit like that,

0:29:21.360 --> 0:29:24.320
<v Speaker 3>but she's more mentally fit. So a couple of weeks

0:29:24.320 --> 0:29:27.640
<v Speaker 3>ago was Mother's Day and this got me thinking as well,

0:29:28.040 --> 0:29:31.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't know about you, but my whole day was

0:29:31.160 --> 0:29:34.440
<v Speaker 3>spent making sure my mother in law and my mom

0:29:34.560 --> 0:29:35.040
<v Speaker 3>were okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I just saw this on Instagram and it's the first

0:29:37.520 --> 0:29:40.680
<v Speaker 1>time someone had said it out loud that Mother's Day

0:29:41.040 --> 0:29:43.800
<v Speaker 1>in our generation, so the Sandwich generation.

0:29:43.680 --> 0:29:45.760
<v Speaker 2>Should be about us.

0:29:45.800 --> 0:29:49.120
<v Speaker 1>I feel guilty saying that because our moms, like they've

0:29:49.120 --> 0:29:51.800
<v Speaker 1>already had their time as being celebrated as mums, now

0:29:51.800 --> 0:29:54.000
<v Speaker 1>their grandma's. It should be we're in the thick of it,

0:29:54.000 --> 0:29:56.480
<v Speaker 1>we're in the trenches. We should be the ones that

0:29:56.480 --> 0:29:58.080
<v Speaker 1>it should be all about us. But then we feel

0:29:58.120 --> 0:30:00.800
<v Speaker 1>selfish saying can we have a little bit more about us?

0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:03.920
<v Speaker 3>And it wasn't, and I felt guilty. So we went

0:30:03.960 --> 0:30:07.600
<v Speaker 3>out for breakfast with Burgo's family when saw his parents again,

0:30:08.040 --> 0:30:10.200
<v Speaker 3>then it was to my family to have champagne with

0:30:10.280 --> 0:30:12.920
<v Speaker 3>mum and then dinner with my family. Like it it

0:30:13.000 --> 0:30:15.400
<v Speaker 3>was the best day and it was so lovely and

0:30:15.440 --> 0:30:17.600
<v Speaker 3>I love hanging out with everyone. But I got home

0:30:17.640 --> 0:30:20.240
<v Speaker 3>and I said to Berg, I didn't do anything for

0:30:20.280 --> 0:30:23.200
<v Speaker 3>me today, like you gave me flowers. I got a quick,

0:30:23.200 --> 0:30:26.000
<v Speaker 3>little half hour sleep in and it was a beautiful morning.

0:30:26.560 --> 0:30:29.200
<v Speaker 3>But I didn't do anything for me. I was too

0:30:29.240 --> 0:30:32.680
<v Speaker 3>busy worrying about the older women in my life, like

0:30:32.720 --> 0:30:34.720
<v Speaker 3>even my auntie, who's not my mum. I was like,

0:30:34.760 --> 0:30:37.680
<v Speaker 3>happy Mother's Day, and here's champagne for you, and.

0:30:38.280 --> 0:30:40.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and also if you're going out for lunch, it's

0:30:40.360 --> 0:30:43.840
<v Speaker 1>generally us organizing calling around, which I did to try

0:30:43.880 --> 0:30:45.960
<v Speaker 1>and find out different places, and my husband helped as well.

0:30:45.960 --> 0:30:46.880
<v Speaker 2>He's brilliant.

0:30:47.080 --> 0:30:51.120
<v Speaker 1>But on our day it was like, well, come over

0:30:51.120 --> 0:30:52.400
<v Speaker 1>to our house to have a roast because it was

0:30:52.440 --> 0:30:54.480
<v Speaker 1>so expensive to go out, and who cooked the roast?

0:30:54.520 --> 0:30:55.560
<v Speaker 2>I cooked the roast, yea.

0:30:55.640 --> 0:30:57.680
<v Speaker 1>And Mum did the veggies, and then we came over

0:30:57.720 --> 0:31:00.360
<v Speaker 1>and Mom made of havelover. And the thing is, though,

0:31:00.840 --> 0:31:04.760
<v Speaker 1>I think our generation of men help heaps more like

0:31:04.800 --> 0:31:08.280
<v Speaker 1>they do. They're amazing, Ginny and Burgo, our partners are incredible,

0:31:08.680 --> 0:31:11.320
<v Speaker 1>our dads and we love you so much, Dad, But

0:31:11.360 --> 0:31:12.560
<v Speaker 1>I think in your.

0:31:12.440 --> 0:31:14.360
<v Speaker 2>Generation it's Father's Day every day.

0:31:14.560 --> 0:31:18.520
<v Speaker 1>My Mum cooks for Dad every day, and everything that

0:31:18.560 --> 0:31:19.680
<v Speaker 1>he wants she makes.

0:31:20.240 --> 0:31:22.680
<v Speaker 2>He never cooks. It's not a thing that he ever does. Ever.

0:31:22.840 --> 0:31:25.120
<v Speaker 3>Dad wouldn't know where the kitchen or the laundry is. Yeah,

0:31:25.440 --> 0:31:28.120
<v Speaker 3>he's an old school Italian in that sense, not like

0:31:28.640 --> 0:31:32.040
<v Speaker 3>that's where women belong or anything. Nothing bad, He's just oblivious.

0:31:32.080 --> 0:31:34.800
<v Speaker 3>And now after forty years, when he goes, oh, can

0:31:34.840 --> 0:31:35.560
<v Speaker 3>you make me toast?

0:31:35.640 --> 0:31:38.440
<v Speaker 2>Julie, so I want to be made toast? Make me toast.

0:31:38.920 --> 0:31:40.800
<v Speaker 3>He would never make her toast, so she goes, oh,

0:31:40.840 --> 0:31:42.400
<v Speaker 3>can't you make your own toast? He goes, oh, but

0:31:42.800 --> 0:31:45.040
<v Speaker 3>your toast tastes better, this is true, and then she

0:31:45.120 --> 0:31:48.960
<v Speaker 3>goes okay, and you know that and enables the toast making.

0:31:49.080 --> 0:31:55.040
<v Speaker 1>But maybe women like that We yearn to be needed.

0:31:55.280 --> 0:31:58.360
<v Speaker 3>Yes, because when we were kids we needed like for me,

0:31:58.640 --> 0:32:01.000
<v Speaker 3>we needed mum all the time. And now we've left

0:32:01.600 --> 0:32:03.800
<v Speaker 3>dad needing Mum gives her that sense of purpose. I

0:32:03.800 --> 0:32:06.360
<v Speaker 3>guess it's like when he goes to his snooker days

0:32:06.400 --> 0:32:08.560
<v Speaker 3>with his friends and mom makes him his lunch of

0:32:08.600 --> 0:32:13.800
<v Speaker 3>all his paninisarfish sandwich. You've seen the garfish like his

0:32:13.960 --> 0:32:15.920
<v Speaker 3>Panini's like literally, if you dropped it on your toel

0:32:15.960 --> 0:32:18.600
<v Speaker 3>and break it, and then all the men go, oh,

0:32:18.600 --> 0:32:21.200
<v Speaker 3>what's Julie made today? And then Dad goes home and

0:32:21.200 --> 0:32:23.120
<v Speaker 3>reports to mom. She's like, all the men are talking

0:32:23.120 --> 0:32:27.440
<v Speaker 3>about my sandwich, like it gives her that sense of purpose.

0:32:29.000 --> 0:32:31.600
<v Speaker 3>It's just it was a different generation. But I just

0:32:32.280 --> 0:32:34.160
<v Speaker 3>felt like I was kind of left out, which I

0:32:34.200 --> 0:32:37.360
<v Speaker 3>don't know whether I'm being selfish, but I was like, hey,

0:32:37.400 --> 0:32:39.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm a mom. I rocked up to my parents' house

0:32:39.320 --> 0:32:43.320
<v Speaker 3>and Dad's like hi. I'm like hi, hey Dad, It's

0:32:43.320 --> 0:32:45.360
<v Speaker 3>Mother's Day and I'm a mom, and he goes, oh,

0:32:45.440 --> 0:32:46.320
<v Speaker 3>happy Mother's Day.

0:32:47.320 --> 0:32:50.440
<v Speaker 2>Don't you think mother's Day is like a birthday?

0:32:50.640 --> 0:32:50.720
<v Speaker 4>Is?

0:32:50.760 --> 0:32:53.920
<v Speaker 1>You get really sensitive, So if you walk out and

0:32:53.960 --> 0:32:57.560
<v Speaker 1>you haven't got like presence or someone doing something for you,

0:32:57.560 --> 0:32:58.680
<v Speaker 1>you're like, why are you doing it?

0:32:58.680 --> 0:32:59.840
<v Speaker 2>But then you don't want to say that.

0:33:00.480 --> 0:33:02.520
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I am being extremely needy right now.

0:33:02.560 --> 0:33:03.960
<v Speaker 3>And it might be the pregnancy.

0:33:03.560 --> 0:33:07.760
<v Speaker 2>Horn you are needy, but I.

0:33:07.800 --> 0:33:10.360
<v Speaker 3>Just like the one day I just expected to be

0:33:10.480 --> 0:33:13.120
<v Speaker 3>like going to the shops and the carpets rolled out

0:33:13.120 --> 0:33:14.280
<v Speaker 3>for me, like, yes, I'm a mother.

0:33:14.480 --> 0:33:16.120
<v Speaker 2>Years I love just.

0:33:16.080 --> 0:33:20.400
<v Speaker 3>The one day after we hold the families together we.

0:33:20.240 --> 0:33:22.360
<v Speaker 2>Do what would you have liked? What would have been

0:33:22.400 --> 0:33:23.160
<v Speaker 2>your perfect day?

0:33:24.240 --> 0:33:27.120
<v Speaker 3>Like it's not that I didn't like a day that, but.

0:33:27.040 --> 0:33:29.120
<v Speaker 2>If you could have a perfect day, what would it be.

0:33:30.240 --> 0:33:31.000
<v Speaker 2>I think it would have.

0:33:31.040 --> 0:33:34.080
<v Speaker 3>Just been some time with maybe Sofia and birds, just

0:33:34.120 --> 0:33:37.040
<v Speaker 3>the three of us. Like, at not one point did

0:33:37.080 --> 0:33:40.200
<v Speaker 3>someone say do you want a photo with Sophia? And

0:33:40.240 --> 0:33:42.200
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I didn't get a photo with Sofia

0:33:42.280 --> 0:33:43.200
<v Speaker 3>on Mother's Day.

0:33:43.480 --> 0:33:46.000
<v Speaker 1>Because we have to ask for it, and I do

0:33:46.120 --> 0:33:47.440
<v Speaker 1>always have to ask for a photo.

0:33:47.600 --> 0:33:48.680
<v Speaker 2>But guess what I got.

0:33:48.720 --> 0:33:50.680
<v Speaker 3>I made sure that Bergo got a photo with his

0:33:50.800 --> 0:33:53.800
<v Speaker 3>mum and Sofia so they can remember Mother's Day.

0:33:54.480 --> 0:33:56.680
<v Speaker 2>And then last night their job to give to take

0:33:56.680 --> 0:33:57.080
<v Speaker 2>a photo.

0:33:57.160 --> 0:33:59.160
<v Speaker 3>Last night, I'm lying in bed and I went, I

0:33:59.160 --> 0:34:01.400
<v Speaker 3>didn't get a photo with I didn't get a photo

0:34:01.400 --> 0:34:03.440
<v Speaker 3>with my child. I didn't. I didn't get it, Like

0:34:03.480 --> 0:34:05.400
<v Speaker 3>no one said, hey, do you want to.

0:34:05.400 --> 0:34:07.680
<v Speaker 2>Be a photo or I would have taken a photo

0:34:07.680 --> 0:34:07.840
<v Speaker 2>of you.

0:34:08.000 --> 0:34:10.560
<v Speaker 3>I know, and I know it's probably silly, but I

0:34:10.600 --> 0:34:12.239
<v Speaker 3>just felt a little bit left out.

0:34:13.040 --> 0:34:14.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I know, you know.

0:34:14.719 --> 0:34:17.000
<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of women are feeling like that

0:34:17.040 --> 0:34:18.680
<v Speaker 1>Mother's Day is just one of those days that you

0:34:18.760 --> 0:34:22.120
<v Speaker 1>go a little bit of resentment comes out, Yes, but

0:34:22.160 --> 0:34:22.520
<v Speaker 1>it's the.

0:34:22.440 --> 0:34:24.800
<v Speaker 3>One day that we allow ourselves to feel the resentment.

0:34:24.880 --> 0:34:27.600
<v Speaker 3>Every other day, I pick up the shoes, you clean up,

0:34:27.680 --> 0:34:30.120
<v Speaker 3>you make dinner, you do everything, and you hold everyone

0:34:30.160 --> 0:34:33.759
<v Speaker 3>emotionally together because I'm also I'm the only girl. There's

0:34:33.800 --> 0:34:37.680
<v Speaker 3>three boys and me. So with any family engagement or whatever,

0:34:38.400 --> 0:34:40.160
<v Speaker 3>it's like, we'll wait, We'll wait. I'm like, if we

0:34:40.320 --> 0:34:43.520
<v Speaker 3>just continued to wait, Dad's birthday would pass and we

0:34:43.560 --> 0:34:46.400
<v Speaker 3>wouldn't have actually done anything. Yeah, so it's generally me

0:34:46.400 --> 0:34:48.720
<v Speaker 3>who goes all right, guys, Dad's birthdays in two weeks,

0:34:48.719 --> 0:34:49.480
<v Speaker 3>what are we doing?

0:34:49.800 --> 0:34:53.200
<v Speaker 2>We're gonna go out to lunch? What men? We get it? Yeah? Yeah.

0:34:53.320 --> 0:34:57.319
<v Speaker 3>The men are just like, yeah, Lauren will do it.

0:34:57.400 --> 0:35:01.399
<v Speaker 3>So I'm like, if I didn't do it.

0:35:00.120 --> 0:35:04.000
<v Speaker 1>What's your theory again? With events? I know this is

0:35:04.040 --> 0:35:05.840
<v Speaker 1>like sounds like I'm talking and changing the subject, but

0:35:05.840 --> 0:35:09.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm not. When you've been hit by a bus, you're

0:35:09.120 --> 0:35:10.960
<v Speaker 1>hit by a bus scenario.

0:35:11.080 --> 0:35:13.719
<v Speaker 3>Oh, when you're running an event, it has to like

0:35:13.760 --> 0:35:15.560
<v Speaker 3>if I was to get if I've run an event

0:35:16.640 --> 0:35:18.600
<v Speaker 3>and then I'm not I was to be hit by

0:35:18.600 --> 0:35:19.959
<v Speaker 3>a bus on the way to the event, the event

0:35:19.960 --> 0:35:21.320
<v Speaker 3>can still run smoothly.

0:35:21.000 --> 0:35:23.279
<v Speaker 2>Right me. So that's how partnership should work.

0:35:23.520 --> 0:35:27.200
<v Speaker 1>So everything that you have in your head should also

0:35:27.280 --> 0:35:30.279
<v Speaker 1>be in Burgo's head. So if something happened to you,

0:35:30.560 --> 0:35:33.319
<v Speaker 1>everything would be okay, do you know what I mean?

0:35:33.560 --> 0:35:36.360
<v Speaker 3>But it's not. But we are so lucky. Like I

0:35:36.400 --> 0:35:39.440
<v Speaker 3>remember when Sophia was a baby, Mum was like, I

0:35:39.480 --> 0:35:42.279
<v Speaker 3>can't believe you know, Burgo's changing nappies any bus and

0:35:42.360 --> 0:35:44.640
<v Speaker 3>he does nap time and does everything. Yeah, he's like

0:35:44.880 --> 0:35:47.320
<v Speaker 3>our dads didn't do that. And I know Jimmy's the same.

0:35:47.840 --> 0:35:51.600
<v Speaker 3>My dad like was just like, oh, the baby's crying jewels.

0:35:51.680 --> 0:35:52.840
<v Speaker 3>But that was that generation.

0:35:53.040 --> 0:35:56.120
<v Speaker 1>So I'm very love generation now, thank god, because I

0:35:56.160 --> 0:35:57.600
<v Speaker 1>would not have coached back then.

0:35:58.040 --> 0:35:59.680
<v Speaker 2>I would have had so much resentment.

0:36:00.440 --> 0:36:02.920
<v Speaker 1>Don't you think it's so if the dad doesn't like

0:36:02.960 --> 0:36:05.640
<v Speaker 1>when a dad goes, oh, I'm babysitting the kids.

0:36:05.400 --> 0:36:07.480
<v Speaker 2>Tonight, so my wife can go out. No, you're just

0:36:07.520 --> 0:36:10.359
<v Speaker 2>being the dad. You're not babysitting anything that you're a dad.

0:36:10.440 --> 0:36:12.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they see that, and wouldnoy Burjo like if my

0:36:12.640 --> 0:36:17.080
<v Speaker 3>parents go you babysitting or whatever? No, someone said to him. Yeah, yeah,

0:36:17.120 --> 0:36:19.600
<v Speaker 3>but back in the day, I think I was like that,

0:36:19.680 --> 0:36:21.680
<v Speaker 3>our dads would have said that I'm babysitting tonight. Well

0:36:21.680 --> 0:36:22.560
<v Speaker 3>what did the mom say?

0:36:23.160 --> 0:36:24.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? But we're lucky. We are.

0:36:25.120 --> 0:36:26.759
<v Speaker 1>And I don't take those two for granted because a

0:36:26.760 --> 0:36:28.520
<v Speaker 1>lot of our friends are not like that. They will

0:36:28.520 --> 0:36:30.080
<v Speaker 1>go out and they'll get a thousand calls from their

0:36:30.080 --> 0:36:31.680
<v Speaker 1>partners going so what do I give?

0:36:31.719 --> 0:36:33.319
<v Speaker 2>How much formula do you? What time do they go

0:36:33.360 --> 0:36:35.120
<v Speaker 2>to bed? What do I? What do I need to do?

0:36:35.200 --> 0:36:36.280
<v Speaker 2>Like they don't know anything.

0:36:36.320 --> 0:36:37.480
<v Speaker 3>No, So we're in the reverse.

0:36:37.680 --> 0:36:39.640
<v Speaker 2>We're lucky. Partners go out and we're.

0:36:39.440 --> 0:36:44.160
<v Speaker 3>Like, what happens? Bjo's going to thailight with you? And

0:36:44.200 --> 0:36:46.000
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, what am I going to do? I have

0:36:46.040 --> 0:36:47.719
<v Speaker 3>to solo parent and I know what I'm going to do.

0:36:47.719 --> 0:36:48.640
<v Speaker 3>I just moving with mum and it.

0:36:52.080 --> 0:36:52.480
<v Speaker 2>All right.

0:36:52.560 --> 0:36:54.359
<v Speaker 1>Well we have covered a lot of ground here Free

0:36:54.400 --> 0:36:58.040
<v Speaker 1>Bleeding Morbid again. We always go to the escaping death

0:36:58.200 --> 0:37:00.800
<v Speaker 1>topic and sandwich generation.

0:37:00.760 --> 0:37:02.919
<v Speaker 3>And on that note, I feel like a Beanini where

0:37:03.160 --> 0:37:06.800
<v Speaker 3>we go cheers, Yeah, speaking the sandwich.

0:37:07.360 --> 0:37:09.319
<v Speaker 2>We love you guys, Thanks for listening, Love you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Well bye,