Speaker 1: This girl I know reached out to me and she
Speaker 1: was like, Hey, I'm dating this guy. I saw that
Speaker 1: you guys used to date or have gone on a
Speaker 1: few dates, and I just wanted to get the four
Speaker 1: one one on him, which is kind of rare because
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff hasn't really happened to me.
Speaker 2: But I'm so okay with it.
Speaker 1: Like if I've dated someone and to come to me
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, I'm dating this person, give me
Speaker 1: the give me the goss, I'm willing to give it.
Speaker 3: I don't know about that.
Speaker 2: Where's Your Head At?
Speaker 1: Is a podcast that talks all things. Hold on a sec,
Speaker 1: let's give this a refresh.
Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Anna.
Speaker 3: And I'm Matt, and we are now too newlywed not
Speaker 3: to each other. Just a female and male best friend
Speaker 3: here for the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Speaker 1: Times and exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.
Speaker 3: And whatever else we have the mental capacity to do with.
Speaker 2: Come get the lowdown.
Speaker 3: This is your male and female perspective.
Speaker 2: So mad, where's your head At? Hello?
Speaker 3: Good morning, Anna, how are you?
Speaker 2: I'm doing good. There's lots on the agenda today.
Speaker 1: There's lots of shows out at the moment, which I
Speaker 1: am excited about.
Speaker 3: Go on, then what are they? Are they? Ones like
Speaker 3: I like like Severance watching that?
Speaker 2: Don't know what that is? Right, I haven't heard of it.
Speaker 3: It's a thriller Apple TV good one.
Speaker 2: Obviously, Maths is now out the new Math season. Yes,
Speaker 2: very excited to watch that.
Speaker 1: And also we have Love Island All Stars which is
Speaker 1: out that UK the UK one. Yes, I wonder if
Speaker 1: there's going to be anyone from Australia on there this year.
Speaker 2: Have you heard anything?
Speaker 3: I haven't heard anything, honestly, I haven't thought about love
Speaker 3: Islian ages were where you were going to watch Love
Speaker 3: Island a couple of years ago and having and I
Speaker 3: last year, sorry, and we're going to watch a season.
Speaker 3: But she didn't really want to watch it with me.
Speaker 3: She was like, I can't watch it now because you
Speaker 3: were on it. Yeah, you're on. It's not the same
Speaker 3: for me anymore. And I was like, yeah, fair enough.
Speaker 3: Does Michael feel the same way? No, no, he just
Speaker 3: yeah he likes it, or he.
Speaker 2: Just no, he likes it. I think. Okay, I will
Speaker 2: say this.
Speaker 1: The thing about the Love Island All Stars and what
Speaker 1: makes it different is number one. You know, it's like
Speaker 1: the best of the best characters, so you're going to
Speaker 1: get some good entertainment, but also people are actually wanting
Speaker 1: to find their forever partner. I feel like, no, it's true,
Speaker 1: Like there's a thirty nine year old guy in there.
Speaker 1: He already has a kid, and he's like, I want
Speaker 1: to meet my wife, and they all of the guys,
Speaker 1: all of the girls, they're like older, so they're like
Speaker 1: they've done the whole young love Island thing. And to
Speaker 1: be honest, when I went into Loveland, I was like,
Speaker 1: lit'tening to my husband, and then I think I very
Speaker 1: quickly realized that the guys.
Speaker 3: In there weren't really I think I came well, I know,
Speaker 3: I came in with the same attitude, and I think
Speaker 3: that's why we went as far as we did. And
Speaker 3: I think producers know who's there for.
Speaker 2: The right romantic I know, it's like someone.
Speaker 3: Love us, please, someone love me for who I am. Well,
Speaker 3: luckily we didn't find anyone in there because now we're
Speaker 3: happily married. But I think that when you do it
Speaker 3: the first time around, Yeah, there's a lot of people
Speaker 3: that go in there and you can really see who
Speaker 3: they are real quickly.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think the difference between the original Love
Speaker 1: Island and this one is I feel like people could
Speaker 1: actually meet their husband or wife in there. So that's
Speaker 1: exciting to me as someone who's a newly weed, freshly married.
Speaker 1: Same with you, like it's exciting.
Speaker 2: You want to see people actually meet their soulmate. So
Speaker 2: we love love, We love love. Stay tuned, I'm going
Speaker 2: to be watching. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's hard to get mad on board, guys. Honestly, it's
Speaker 1: hard to get them on board with a reality show.
Speaker 3: I watched Maths last year, Tammy and I watched it.
Speaker 3: Finish it we got to like the second last week?
Speaker 2: Or are you gonna watch it this year?
Speaker 3: I can't see why not actually something that.
Speaker 2: We let's do, let's commit don't.
Speaker 3: Commit to anything because you know, life gets like I'll
Speaker 3: try to, but we're always behind. We don't watch it
Speaker 3: as it happens.
Speaker 2: I watch it as it happened.
Speaker 3: Well, when we came up to date, that's when we stopped.
Speaker 3: When we caught up.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe just be a bit more on top of it.
Speaker 3: And then once we caught up, we stopped. Yeah, we
Speaker 3: stopped watching it because we didn something got in the way.
Speaker 2: But it would be fun to talk to everyone about it.
Speaker 3: Well, what I shined is when we watch Maths, when
Speaker 3: we watch anything, it's actually something I want to say
Speaker 3: on the podcast before. It's quite a funny thing that
Speaker 3: we do to each other. So, say something's happening on
Speaker 3: the TV show we're watching all the movie, say good
Speaker 3: or bad, it's either way. Like it's like you know,
Speaker 3: someone's like declaring their love to someone, or someone saying
Speaker 3: I feel like you do this blah blah blah. We
Speaker 3: just stare at the other one, so like they know
Speaker 3: that what's happening on the TV, like we're directing it
Speaker 3: to them. So for instance, like if someone's like I
Speaker 3: can't think off the top of my head, they're like,
Speaker 3: I think that you're this and that, or just stare
Speaker 3: at the other one like mmmmm mmm, or like you know,
Speaker 3: it's like I love you so much. We'll just say
Speaker 3: like look at the other one and stare at each other.
Speaker 3: So that's like a little thing we do, and I
Speaker 3: feel like with Maths we do that a lot. So
Speaker 3: it's pretty funny.
Speaker 1: It is interesting because you do get to see and
Speaker 1: obviously I'm aware that when we think we're seeing two
Speaker 1: sides of Maths specifically, they're probably missing a few parts out,
Speaker 1: but it is interesting as a viewer when it comes
Speaker 1: to relationship dating shows to really get to see the
Speaker 1: psychology of, you know, one person's side versus the other,
Speaker 1: and why this person's reacting in this way versus why
Speaker 1: this person's reacting in this way, and then maybe someone's
Speaker 1: saying outlandish things and then you're like, well, they just
Speaker 1: want to be the next like Maths star. They want
Speaker 1: to be like the h person. Like that's how I
Speaker 1: think anyway, Well, I you.
Speaker 3: Know what I say. There's three different versions of a story.
Speaker 3: There's his hers and the truth, But when it comes
Speaker 3: to Maths, there's four. There's his Hers, the truth, and
Speaker 3: producers site. So there's four different sides. When it comes
Speaker 3: to me one thousand, Well, these newlyweds, they're married at
Speaker 3: first sight?
Speaker 2: Do you have some Mum can't tell for them that
Speaker 2: I commandments?
Speaker 3: Shall we say some commandments? I stumbled onto ten Commandments
Speaker 3: of marriage.
Speaker 1: I'm actually very excited to hear this. Matt would not
Speaker 1: tell me what these were. I'm like, give it to me,
Speaker 1: give me the ten Commandments marriage.
Speaker 3: Okay, so number one is speak softly and listen carefully.
Speaker 2: Yep.
Speaker 3: Good one. Number two. Be each other's biggest cheerleader.
Speaker 1: That is so big, it's so interesting. I think you
Speaker 1: can really tell when someone's not on your team, like
Speaker 1: not cheering for you.
Speaker 3: And I think you should always cheer for your.
Speaker 1: Partner absolutely, and you should always want them to win,
Speaker 1: and you should always be pushing them to their goals.
Speaker 1: I think one of my biggest motivators have been like,
Speaker 1: very like when I've had partners who are my biggest
Speaker 1: cheerleaders and who give me the confidence to go, I
Speaker 1: can start that business, I can do this well, confident
Speaker 1: enough to do that.
Speaker 3: If your partner's not in your corner, I feel like
Speaker 3: nobody's going to be maybe yeah, someone else. Really, she
Speaker 3: felt like, your partner should always be in your corner,
Speaker 3: stay committed through thick and thin yep. Always have each other's.
Speaker 2: Back yep, publicly as well.
Speaker 3: Publicly as well.
Speaker 1: Ever, we show that there could be any sort of
Speaker 1: like arguments or anything. If there's something that someone says
Speaker 1: that you don't like, pull them to the side and
Speaker 1: then discuss it and figure out how you know you
Speaker 1: can do better.
Speaker 3: Teamwork makes for dream work.
Speaker 2: Teamwork makes the dream work again.
Speaker 3: Having each other's back a good one. Say sorry and mean.
Speaker 2: It, yeah, big one.
Speaker 3: Big one. Yeah. I'm pretty big on just saying sorry
Speaker 3: and like meaning it. I say sorry a lot, So
Speaker 3: like I'm trying to say sorry when I mean it
Speaker 3: and just say it and like that's it. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: never have like a follow up for it. Sorry, but
Speaker 3: like just say sorry, and that's that's what I'm trying
Speaker 3: to work on that.
Speaker 2: I'm really good at telling Michael sorry.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm pretty sure I'm really good telling other relationships.
Speaker 2: I really like struggled.
Speaker 3: No, I feel like I feel like I said sorry
Speaker 3: a lot just to keep peace. Whereas now I'm like
Speaker 3: I'm going to say it when I mean it and
Speaker 3: like that's like it's heavier then it means it means more. Yeah,
Speaker 3: keep the spark alive. Love that, talk openly about money, yep,
Speaker 3: grow together, rise together, love it, and never fight over text,
Speaker 3: which brings us into today's episode, which brings us into
Speaker 3: fexting Anna.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's talk about it.
Speaker 3: So I just said fexting, Anna, which.
Speaker 2: She did say fexting, which.
Speaker 3: Is a new word for fighting over text.
Speaker 2: It is fexing. Do you fight over text, yes or.
Speaker 3: No, we have had conversations over text.
Speaker 1: I think everyone has any healthy, normal relationship. I think
Speaker 1: you have heated discussions or disagreements over text, like you
Speaker 1: can't be with each other twenty four to seven exactly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but as you said, one of the commandments of marriage
Speaker 1: just take together, is no fighting over text message.
Speaker 3: I personally feel like fighting over text message. I've done
Speaker 3: it a lot in past relationships. It doesn't go anywhere,
Speaker 3: like it doesn't. I feel like it just you argue
Speaker 3: over text. Stuff gets missed out. I'm not very articulate
Speaker 3: over messaging and over I'm first to say that like
Speaker 3: I've got bad spelling. Literacy wasn't my strong point, so
Speaker 3: typing doesn't get my point across what I'm trying to say.
Speaker 3: So I feel like it's stupid for me to do that.
Speaker 3: So I feel like it's better in person.
Speaker 1: I think it's also increasingly common for couples to fight
Speaker 1: over text message in this day and age, because we're
Speaker 1: in the digital age. But yeah, as you said, I
Speaker 1: think text messages are super hard because you can't hear
Speaker 1: tone in text messages. Often people when they're having a
Speaker 1: discussion or a heated argument or a disagreement. There's nonverbal
Speaker 1: cues that people can pick up context, and I guess
Speaker 1: that leads to misunderstanding, and then it can escalate arguments
Speaker 1: instead of helping it simmer down. So I guess fighting
Speaker 1: over text message, unless your communication is ten out of
Speaker 1: ten rare, can be quite detrimental essentially.
Speaker 3: Also, I know a lot for the trolls out there,
Speaker 3: people turn into keyboard warriors, and I feel like you
Speaker 3: could do that with your partner as well, Like if
Speaker 3: it's not if it's over text, it doesn't carry as
Speaker 3: much weight. You might feel and you might say stuff
Speaker 3: that you don't mean as much because it's like just
Speaker 3: over a screen, Like you could say something, oh fuck,
Speaker 3: didn't mean to send that or something like that, you
Speaker 3: know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Where I think it could get nastier via text, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like it could.
Speaker 3: Whereas if you're looking your partner dead in the eyes
Speaker 3: and you're sitting across from them or just talking to
Speaker 3: him in person, for like, you're way less likely to
Speaker 3: say you know more stuff like that happy snuffy is
Speaker 3: probably the right words stuff. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So one in four couples actually report to having frequent
Speaker 1: arguments over text message, So that's pretty high.
Speaker 2: I would say.
Speaker 3: Twenty five percent.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And this includes misunderstandings, disagreements, tension all through text message.
Speaker 1: So a lot of people are turning to text to
Speaker 1: have these arguments. And I think in some cases it
Speaker 1: can be that people don't necessarily feel confident enough to
Speaker 1: say what they want to say to someone's face. It's harder,
Speaker 1: Like you said, like the trolling thing. It's it's very
Speaker 1: easy to send a little text message or be a troll.
Speaker 1: But as soon as you have to say to someone's face,
Speaker 1: do you have the balls to say, do you.
Speaker 2: Have the courage to go there with them? I don't know.
Speaker 3: I mean you probably should with your partner, but I guess.
Speaker 2: Should with your partner.
Speaker 1: But in some scenarios, people still don't feel comfortable saying
Speaker 1: things to their partner face to face. And if they
Speaker 1: can really like execute and you know, make up a
Speaker 1: really good message with the beginning, middle, and end and
Speaker 1: explain their point really well so they feel like they're
Speaker 1: being heard, it can be an easier solution than just
Speaker 1: having a conversation.
Speaker 3: I was literally just thinking that if you write down
Speaker 3: something and it's it goes like it's got the right
Speaker 3: language and you say and everything. I feel like I
Speaker 3: could understand why people would send that to their partner
Speaker 3: to just be like, hey, I feel this way when
Speaker 3: you did this this morning. Yah yeah, yeah yeah, and
Speaker 3: get their point across and then that's easier than like
Speaker 3: stewing on it all day and coming home or whatever.
Speaker 1: I see that, and like, people don't always aren't always
Speaker 1: comfortable with conflict. For me, I'm totally cool if someone
Speaker 1: comes to me and goes, I have a problem with
Speaker 1: you with this, Like I'm not going to cry about that.
Speaker 2: I'll be like, oh, I'm really sorry.
Speaker 1: If I hear what they've said and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that would suck, I'll be like I'm so sorry that
Speaker 1: you know I've offended you or whatever. Like I'm cool
Speaker 1: with conflicts, but some people aren't. Like some people could
Speaker 1: hear any level of criticism and burst out crying or
Speaker 1: just you know, it really stresses them out. And research
Speaker 1: suggests that fifty percent of couples actually feel that texting
Speaker 1: can increase stress or anxiety in a relationship. So again,
Speaker 1: back to your point, back to the commandments, we really
Speaker 1: want to avoid any sort of arguments over text. I mean,
Speaker 1: pick up the phone and call them if someone sends
Speaker 1: you a long message explaining their feelings, if it was me,
Speaker 1: if it was like a friend or a partner, I
Speaker 1: would immediately just pick up the phone and.
Speaker 2: Go, hey, I'm really sorry about this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree. I think that, like you keep the
Speaker 3: text messages to like not even like general chit chat.
Speaker 3: Really just keep them to stuff that need to be
Speaker 3: broken about. Yeah, you know what I mean. Like, for instance,
Speaker 3: I read another thing online somewhere and it was like
Speaker 3: keep text messages to shopping lists and something or something
Speaker 3: in else, like just keep it basic, the basics, and
Speaker 3: then like, you know, people live busy lives. I get it.
Speaker 3: Some people have office jobs. They can't like go out
Speaker 3: and take phone calls. But like save that chat maybe
Speaker 3: for the phone call when you get on your lunch
Speaker 3: break on smoke or something and then.
Speaker 2: Smoke, O what are we?
Speaker 3: Yeah? You know what I mean, Like some people's partners
Speaker 3: might be builders or something. You know.
Speaker 1: I know, I'm just save it. We don't call it
Speaker 1: smoke anymore. Smoking is out?
Speaker 3: So what do they call it recess? I haven't been
Speaker 3: on a job some years. What do they call it recess?
Speaker 2: I'm not on a job, but you like coffee.
Speaker 3: Break, coffee break, Yeah, take like, go and take a
Speaker 3: phone call, then like and then, And it actually might
Speaker 3: end up being better for you because you might not
Speaker 3: be sitting on your phone the whole day texting. You
Speaker 3: might get more productive from me at your desk or
Speaker 3: at the site and do that sort of stuff.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about tone.
Speaker 1: Okay, have you ever someone message you saying okay, oh you.
Speaker 3: Want to start a fight, say kay, they're fighting words.
Speaker 1: Doesn't need to be fighting words, though, your responses need
Speaker 1: to be fighting words.
Speaker 2: If someone's saying.
Speaker 1: Katie you, maybe you can be like, why are they
Speaker 1: saying kay to me? Obviously I pissed them off?
Speaker 3: What about a thumbs up emoji?
Speaker 1: Oh, it's a way to really boil my blood.
Speaker 3: All that sort of stuff grinds my years.
Speaker 1: I reckon, and I think, like, I think that's why
Speaker 1: tone is so important. So about seventy percent of conflicts
Speaker 1: arise over texts that are attributed to tone misinterpretation. So,
Speaker 1: as you said, tone is super important. And there are
Speaker 1: things that we can say that we know is going.
Speaker 3: To rile up our partner, Oh you know, yeah, wasn't
Speaker 3: our producer Blake was saying if his partner puts a
Speaker 3: full stop at the end of something, he's like, that's
Speaker 3: that's like fighting. I agree, Like I said, if you
Speaker 3: put a random full stop at the end of something,
Speaker 3: you're saying.
Speaker 1: That's I wouldn't pick up a full start really, but
Speaker 1: like a k or a shawl or you know, just
Speaker 1: like there's really like bo right righter. I've never had
Speaker 1: a ride over before, had no, but I mean, I
Speaker 1: can imagine how frustrating.
Speaker 3: Or a mate ah by your partner.
Speaker 2: What do I call you?
Speaker 1: What do we call each other when we're arguing, When
Speaker 1: we're just talking, we'll be like not borrow, but it's
Speaker 1: like dude.
Speaker 2: We call each other dude. Yeah, Like Matt will be like.
Speaker 1: Oh, dude, blah blah blah, and I'll be like, yeah, dude,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. And sometimes like if Michael's annoying me,
Speaker 1: I'll be like dude and he'll be like, don't call me.
Speaker 3: Yeah no, I've said Tammy called me mate before, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm not your fucking mate. Like I mean,
Speaker 3: I am, but I'm not mate.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like Michael hates me called dude, but I'm like
Speaker 1: me and Matt call each other, dude, and he's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: but you guys call each other that, Like normally it's
Speaker 1: not like in a in a.
Speaker 3: Disagree So when you're arguing in text, which we really
Speaker 3: where's your head at? We disagree with? We highly recommend against.
Speaker 2: We've all been there. But like, it's obviously not.
Speaker 3: Idea if you can try avoid it, I definitely recommend
Speaker 3: it to pick up a phone, but slow responsors, vague replies,
Speaker 3: or not replying at all can trigger feelings of neglect
Speaker 3: or disrespect. In fact, thirty one percent of people report
Speaker 3: feeling upset or ignored when their partner doesn't respond to
Speaker 3: text quick enough.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not ideal.
Speaker 3: That's for those anxious attachment style people.
Speaker 1: Well yeah, and like, the thing is if you're having
Speaker 1: a text message conversation with someone and then all of
Speaker 1: a sudden they just stop replying, and you're like riled
Speaker 1: up in the.
Speaker 2: Midst of it all, you're like, where did they go?
Speaker 3: Come back?
Speaker 1: And the thing is is they can be like I
Speaker 1: was in a meeting, I was busy, my life doesn't
Speaker 1: revolve around tech, and you can't say anything because you're like,
Speaker 1: that's that's true.
Speaker 3: But politely. They should probably say, hey, I'm going into
Speaker 3: a meeting.
Speaker 1: I would say that, but then you're like, are you
Speaker 1: really or are you just pissed off with me? You know,
Speaker 1: like it never it can never end.
Speaker 3: Yeah, right.
Speaker 1: Interestingly, a study found that forty two percent of participants
Speaker 1: admitted that they analyzed their partner's texts, which often led
Speaker 1: to conflict. So, like you said, going mia slow replies
Speaker 1: your partners like why are they taking ages to reply?
Speaker 2: Like why? What's more important than me?
Speaker 3: Yeah? And have you ever received a really long message
Speaker 3: from someone, like a guy?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I mean as a guy personally, you don't really send Yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe my people I hang around and
Speaker 3: myself my mates where I would say we're not there
Speaker 3: like that. I wouldn't send a long essay over text.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So I remember I was actually dating this specific guy
Speaker 1: MM and from day dot he was sending me long
Speaker 1: messages to the point where it was like I was
Speaker 1: interested in him at the start, but I was like, geez,
Speaker 1: like he is like really going to town on these messages.
Speaker 3: I've been out of the texting game for a while,
Speaker 3: and now I tell you, do you reply to every
Speaker 3: little bit of those messages.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm not a like long page textter. So if
Speaker 1: someone's sending me like a long essay, I'm sending them
Speaker 1: a quarter back Like I'm not.
Speaker 2: I'm not trying to equalize the messages.
Speaker 3: Do you remember you'd have to try and match their
Speaker 3: messages or like try and match the flow, or you
Speaker 3: try and like I said, reply to everything in the message.
Speaker 1: I anyway with this guy, he was sending me such
Speaker 1: long text messages. And years later, like I think I
Speaker 1: was with Michael at the time, this girl I know
Speaker 1: reached out to me and she was like, hey, I'm
Speaker 1: dating this guy. I saw that you guys used to
Speaker 1: date or have gone on a few dates, and I
Speaker 1: just wanted to get the four world one on him,
Speaker 1: which is kind of rare because that kind of stuff
Speaker 1: hasn't really happened to me. But I'm so okay with it.
Speaker 1: Like if I've dated someone and to come to me
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, I'm dating this person, give me
Speaker 1: the give me the goss I'm I'm willing to give it.
Speaker 3: I don't know about that.
Speaker 2: But you know, I feel anyway.
Speaker 1: And it was so hilarious because I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's a super nice guy just wasn't for me but
Speaker 1: enjoy fun. And she goes, yeah, he just he seems
Speaker 1: really sweet. He sends me super long messages. And then
Speaker 1: I was like, is this a time where I tell
Speaker 1: her that he sent me really? Is that a nick
Speaker 1: for you that he sent her really long know that.
Speaker 3: He sent long messages?
Speaker 2: In general, it was just more annoying.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: You know, I had places to be, people to see,
Speaker 1: and I didn't want to spend You know, sometimes you
Speaker 1: just want to say, hey, my day's good at the podcast,
Speaker 1: what are you up to? Yeah, I don't want to
Speaker 1: reply to how his mum, dad, and cousins going and.
Speaker 2: Where he's going through his Christmas break. You know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying.
Speaker 3: I have one for you.
Speaker 2: Sure go for it.
Speaker 3: And this is my relationship tip. Take it away if
Speaker 3: you have to.
Speaker 2: Draft, take it away for yourself.
Speaker 3: Take it away for yourself listening at home. This is
Speaker 3: my tip. If you have to draft the message in
Speaker 3: notes and then copy and paste it to the conversation,
Speaker 3: I really like them. You reckon. I was going to
Speaker 3: say the other thing. If it's in an argument, or
Speaker 3: if it's like or if you have to do that,
Speaker 3: I think that's a red flag.
Speaker 1: I think that's a more serious argument, like you're arguing
Speaker 1: about something serious.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you really need to think about it.
Speaker 3: I think you should be arguing over text. So I
Speaker 3: think if you're doing that and then copy and pasting
Speaker 3: it like, that's a red flag to me.
Speaker 2: I will play Devil's advocate for a second.
Speaker 3: Interesting.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about like a past relationship where things were
Speaker 1: ending because of something happening and this person was blowing
Speaker 1: up my phone NonStop and I just didn't want to
Speaker 1: talk to them.
Speaker 3: But that's what I mean. If you're doing it in notes,
Speaker 3: your relationship is not going well, that's what I'm trying.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm not saying it's going on.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm trying to say. So if you're taking
Speaker 3: because I.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you just don't want to talk to people, is
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, but you're.
Speaker 3: Still talking to them, you're just drafting it in the notes. First,
Speaker 3: it means it's really intense. You're trying to get you
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: Like you're trying to get all your ducks in a row.
Speaker 3: Ye don't miss anything. So that's just my personal opinion
Speaker 3: on messaging over arguing over text. I don't think you
Speaker 3: should do it at all, but if you're then taking
Speaker 3: it to the next level and doing it like that, jeez,
Speaker 3: there's a lot going on there.
Speaker 2: I've just noticed that I've said shorty twice.
Speaker 3: Now be fighting words.
Speaker 1: Don't say kay and sure okay, sure BRB catch you bye, Okay, Matt.
Speaker 1: That's all we have time for today. We want to
Speaker 1: hear from you, guys. What's your thoughts on foxting fexting?
Speaker 1: If you have any stories for us of fixting, arguments
Speaker 1: or scenarios that you've had with people, send us a
Speaker 1: voice note.
Speaker 2: We would love to hear from you.
Speaker 3: Or maybe you're in a relationship where you are foxting
Speaker 3: and you take away from this that it's not good
Speaker 3: and you change it up and you stop arguing over
Speaker 3: text and you guys go, well, let us know that.
Speaker 3: Let's have some positive ones for once not having all
Speaker 3: the grim messages.
Speaker 2: Give me a few nigs, give me a few negs
Speaker 2: in there. Maybe one post people like.
Speaker 3: To hear all the next, don't it's interest, it's interesting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's definitely okay, Mat, BRB catcher Okay, bye, oye
Speaker 3: Shout