WEBVTT - Best of 2024 - Producer Zoe's Rules For A First Date 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:03.880 Quick every day. 0:00:04.200 --> 0:00:18.439 Adelaides's ut, it is so time for a let's go girls, Yeah, 0:00:18.520 --> 0:00:18.920 let's go. 0:00:19.160 --> 0:00:20.880 Let's talk about dating, shall we? 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:21.239 Yeah? 0:00:21.280 --> 0:00:26.280 Girls, more specifically dating and who pays m Okay, So 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:30.000 you're this is your sweet spot because you're single, hazy 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:32.680 and I've been married for seventy five years between. 0:00:32.440 --> 0:00:38.640 Us thousands of kids. 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:41.720 But you are actively dating at the moment. So what 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:42.600 are the rules made? 0:00:43.240 --> 0:00:43.680 What's it go? 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:44.040 Now? 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:47.080 There are so many rules in dating now, it's actually ridiculous. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:50.199 But I told this story to Produce a flack and 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:53.640 he was like, no, that's outrageous. So we thought we'd 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:54.400 bring it to chic chat. 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:54.760 Okay. 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:57.040 So I was talking to a guy online who I 0:00:57.080 --> 0:01:00.280 did know personally a few years ago. Reconnected online and 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:01.840 he asked me on a day. I said, that'd be 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:04.679 lovely that night it was a Friday. We were going 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:06.800 out for drinks that night in the morning. He owns 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:08.120 a cafe and he sent me a message being like, 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:09.520 why don't you come down to the cafe and say hello? 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:11.000 I thought that was so nice, and so I went 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:13.880 down there and he's as I walked in, he said, gooday, 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:14.240 how are you going? 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:14.720 Bow bye? 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:15.720 And he went, do you want food? 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:16.200 Coffee? 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:17.680 Do you want anything? I went, oh, actually I love 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:19.959 it coffee. He went sweet, turned the f poss machine 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:21.880 around and charged me six bucks for a coffee. Ooh 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:27.640 what he didn't flight getting way too much enjoying. 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:31.480 That's the best thing is that they're actually usually worth 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:32.039 five bucks. 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:35.479 Yeah, yeah, it was expensive as so not even a discount. 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:38.319 But asked me coming, He invited you to. 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:40.600 And very casually said why are you here? You know 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:42.399 you want some food coffee? What if I said yes 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:44.880 to food? It would have been a thirty dollars exercise 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:47.119 and for bitch. So I actually canceled the day. 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:48.200 So old did you? 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:48.840 I did? 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:52.120 I had a headache all of a sudden because I thought, 0:01:52.200 --> 0:01:53.840 I'm not sure that that's my vibe. 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:56.440 Okay, so this is my question. 0:01:56.520 --> 0:01:59.840 So traditionally the male plate pays when you go out 0:01:59.880 --> 0:02:00.400 the dinner. 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:03.240 Is that still the go now? Because I feel like. 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:06.520 Women are a bit more empowered, and you know, I 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:08.320 make my own money, I can pay for my own dem. 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:10.839 In my experience, when I go on a first date 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:13.040 with a bloke, they're usually pretty keen to pay, which 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:16.080 is nice, but from second date you're either swapping like 0:02:16.160 --> 0:02:17.359 taking turns or splitting. 0:02:17.560 --> 0:02:18.840 Well, okay, and I would. 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:20.359 Insist on that. I wouldn't let someone just keep paying 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:21.640 for me the first time. 0:02:21.720 --> 0:02:24.480 Yes, because I feel a bit like with online dating 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:28.160 as well, like bloke spailler, only I've just met you. 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:29.960 I don't even know if I like you. Let alone, 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:30.919 I want to pay for your meal. 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:32.440 That's that's what pay first. 0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:35.160 Yeah, every like, I know that's old school. 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:36.239 I was. 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:38.360 Yeah, I was always wanted to pay. But then I 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.840 see we have another trip where trick where no one 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:43.960 would pay, and we'd organize doing a runner. I'm just kidding. 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:44.960 I did not do that. 0:02:46.600 --> 0:02:52.600 Just looking chose such. It was of such disappointment because 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:54.440 I've never done a runner from a restaurant. 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:54.560 I know. 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:57.160 It's not I'm not putting a line. 0:02:57.760 --> 0:03:00.000 I don't think some of you polly done a runner. 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:03.919 Perhaps, Okay, so you sort of alternate after the first date, 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:06.720 so I don't think so bloke pays first and then it's. 0:03:06.560 --> 0:03:08.520 A really nice gesture, but then after that week and split. 0:03:08.840 --> 0:03:10.600 Yeah, or have. 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:12.400 You been in a situation where you've gone, oh you 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:14.320 know what, I'll pay and they've gone yeah, cool. 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:20.119 Yep, that's all times confusing for us Fellas sometimes yeah. 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:22.120 Yeah, maybe so literal. I don't actually want to pay 0:03:22.120 --> 0:03:22.680 you just pay for me. 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:25.000 Oh my gosh. You should be able to read and 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:26.959 my mind and know exactly what I'm doing before I 0:03:27.000 --> 0:03:29.040 even do it, before I even think it. Good luck 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:31.240 Fellas thirteen twenty four teen. Can we do this? 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:31.560 Yes? 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:35.880 Please? In terms of dating etiquette, poor dating form, what 0:03:36.120 --> 0:03:37.400 are the does that do? 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:38.360 Not the red flags? 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:40.800 Can I kick you off as well? If you're on 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:44.280 a date with someone and they're rude to the waiters 0:03:45.520 --> 0:03:48.680 in any situation, even if they absolutely have every right 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:50.440 to be rude, yeah, you just wouldn't do it. 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:53.280 How to how to ruin a date? 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:57.400 I mean, god, just in life. Don't be rude to waiters? 0:03:57.680 --> 0:03:58.360 Why would you? 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:02.760 That's the biggest red flag all time. And once again 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:05.600 I can't stress there's enough people who will do a runner. 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:09.640 Don't do a runner from a restaurant. 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:12.920 What else is a red flag for me? And not 0:04:12.960 --> 0:04:14.960 that people are going to food courts for a first date, 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:17.120 I assume or do they? 0:04:17.240 --> 0:04:17.680 I don't know. 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:18.800 I haven't yet. 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:21.920 People in food courts who think I'm going to eat 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:25.279 my fast food, whatever it may be my sushi and 0:04:25.480 --> 0:04:28.240 leave my stuff here for someone else to pick up. 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:32.159 I'm so big on that with my kids. Pick it 0:04:32.520 --> 0:04:35.040 you made that mess, pick it up, stick abfter yourself. 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:35.680 Yeah, that's good. 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:37.680 Don't wait for someone to have to come and clean up. 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:48.360 Yeah, not for not a toddler. Welldlour ten. 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:52.200 Let's go through a dating etiquette, poor dating for what 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:54.520 should the younger people be looking out for these days, 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:56.919 because it'll be very very confusing for the gens edits? 0:04:57.120 --> 0:05:01.640 Yes, shy, good morning, How are you good? Thank you 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:02.560 your thoughts? 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:03.760 My thoughts? 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:07.360 Well, in terms of the paying things, it's quite nice. 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:09.800 If you go house and half, Yeah it isn't it 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:10.279 is nice? 0:05:10.520 --> 0:05:10.719 Yeah? 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:14.240 And you had a shocking date, Oh my goodness. 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:14.440 Yes. 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:16.440 So I was living with my parents at the time. 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:19.400 So I got picked up by a gentleman who buried 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:23.520 his father's car, picked me up, then proceeded to get 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:26.520 very drunk over dinner, which to the point that I 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:28.880 had to actually drive their car back home. 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:34.599 And I'd tell you howd the rest of the day go? 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:34.840 There? 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:36.360 Had How do you go? 0:05:36.760 --> 0:05:39.919 Because I screened my calls after that? 0:05:40.279 --> 0:05:43.839 Yeah, and so Shanning, how old was he when he 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:45.880 borrowed daddy's car to take you for a date. 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:52.039 Early twenty oh No, eighteen would have been accepted. 0:05:52.240 --> 0:05:55.120 Yeah, or freshman your peek plates and yeah, yeah, it's 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:56.039 so true. 0:05:56.560 --> 0:06:00.200 One of my first dates I remember. It was like 0:06:00.279 --> 0:06:03.760 high school, so year eleven, year twelve, and my boyfriend 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:06.000 at the time, his parents picked me up and dropped 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:08.680 us at the restaurant, which was one of those revolving restaurants. 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:12.520 That's not nice situation. 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:19.800 Would you have some sexy like fish and chips? Thank 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:21.279 you for the dating advice everybody. 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:23.159 But then he dropped me home and we had our 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:25.000 first kiss while his dad waited in the car. 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:31.920 Maybe that's a job. 0:06:32.160 --> 0:06:36.160 That was a joke. That's a job, job, a terrible job. 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:40.679 Ask me that syenee full of humorous serum and shove 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:44.279 it into my bum cheek and press play again. 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:46.640 Really big on bumb injections. 0:06:46.800 --> 0:06:49.520 Yeah, we'll settle the arm. Yeah, I'm braver in the 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:51.680 bum then the because the arm you get bruised afterwards. 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:52.520 Yeah, that's so true. 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:53.200 Bottom. 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:56.840 Yeah, seems to be put up with it better than 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:57.160 my arm. 0:06:57.200 --> 0:06:57.560 I don't know. 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:01.080 That's fine anyway, he kick things off. Did you you 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:02.159 would want me to kick off. 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:04.840 Well, sure, sure, I mean, you're in fine form this morning. 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:07.920 So the other day when I got back from Sydney 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:10.040 and my wife said to me, have you have you 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:13.680 seen the cat bowl? And I said, I never knew 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:20.040 he did? My god, do you know how much I 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:20.840 dislike my cat? 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:22.200 She is actually bowling? 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:27.720 I'll go. 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:31.400 What would be the difference between a poorly dressed man 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:34.880 on a tricycle and a well dressed man on a bicycle? 0:07:35.240 --> 0:07:36.640 What is the difference at tire? 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:42.480 It's a good little word like that. 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:43.400 That's really really good. 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:45.920 Alright, well, dad, joke flavor about things this morning. 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:48.360 I never thought we'd say this, but Zoey bring it home. 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:50.760 Here we go. There's a grand final, all right. 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:53.640 What's the difference between an oral thermometer and a rectal thermometer? 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:55.679 The taste tastely? 0:07:56.320 --> 0:08:01.880 Whoa, oh my fairy gosh. You can say that and 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:02.320 get away. 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:06.040 My goodness, it is so long. You're so young and 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:07.040 innocent that you've. 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:07.560 Said that joke. 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:11.520 She knows not what she's saying. She's so young and innocent. 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:21.880 Yes, if you said that, get care, get careds. 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:20.360 Feel it's not that daddy. 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:27.320 I don't really get it. To be honest, it is. 0:08:27.640 --> 0:08:30.320 It's so fun. It's just a fun game. We do 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:33.240 it every week. How fun spun jokes. He looks like 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:36.439 you're having fun and not having fun. We're praying? Then, 0:08:38.120 --> 0:08:41.160 what you're doing? Are you praying? Song? 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:41.320 Song? 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:41.560 Song? 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:41.800 Song? 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:43.920 God's kind of focus is what I'm trying to do, 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:48.120 and just block out the external noise that is Andrews. 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:49.920 A lot of noise. 0:08:49.960 --> 0:08:50.640 Good luck, Jos. 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:52.320 All right, this is how it works. 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:56.280 We've got nova songs that have been orchestralized, throwbacks and heats, 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:57.839 and we have to try and guess what they are. 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:00.679 We've got two players this morning. 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:03.280 A couple of listeners on Team Jody is Phil from 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:05.880 angele Vale, who got through first and chose you chose me? 0:09:06.000 --> 0:09:06.200 Phil? 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:09.800 I believe in you. 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:11.000 Oh thank you Phil. 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:13.480 Okay, First of all, I just like to say, Phil, 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:15.880 I feel I thought I thought it was a guy. 0:09:15.920 --> 0:09:21.360 That's why I called you filthy. Sorry, Phil, Well, yeah, 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:22.160 you hate me already. 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:28.599 After after and after producers we came in and so 0:09:28.800 --> 0:09:31.680 Phil is a woman, So you still call feel filthy? 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:32.360 Sorry about that. 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:32.640 Phil. 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:35.400 You know what's like now you're really going for joy. 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:41.160 Women can be filthy too, and then teammates he is 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:46.240 Vicky from behind morning Hello. Playing for a Wallace Cinema 0:09:46.320 --> 0:09:52.560 family pass. It is a tense battle. I'm okay, fine, 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:53.160 I want say anything. 0:09:53.240 --> 0:10:11.160 So number one the faces a. 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:19.839 Last Friday Night Katie Berry. 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:28.719 Yeah, I'm giving it. It's pretty good, is it? 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:29.800 Tek Friday Night? 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:32.560 That's a good thing. 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:36.600 I just opened on a space where you're giving petty victories. 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:39.319 Did you not say last Friday Night? Yes, that's exactly 0:10:39.360 --> 0:10:40.080 what the song is called. 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:48.480 Okay, it's a really strong start as well done. 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:49.640 Let's keep that momentum going. 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:50.440 So number two. 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:09.600 It's tricky. Johnny Hazy went first. 0:11:13.440 --> 0:11:14.080 What's your guess? 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:16.760 You're not loud? 0:11:16.960 --> 0:11:17.120 No? 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:18.920 No? 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:20.600 Is it? Is it? 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:22.040 Bar songs? She boozy? 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:26.959 She's no. 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:34.319 There's a party that was pretty good. 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:39.520 See I was gonna say tipsy, but you wouldn't have 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:43.120 accepted that. You would have accepted joycept But that's get 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:45.200 the title. Hey, I'm going to say this now as well. 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:46.120 Do you want to go try and go for a 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:46.640 clean sweep? 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:47.160 Yeah? 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:49.280 No, thanks, come on, let's finished on a half one. 0:11:49.440 --> 0:11:51.960 What do you mean fun? This is this is what 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:52.200 you do? 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:52.480 All right? 0:11:52.520 --> 0:12:15.920 It is fun you're right, all right, Yeah, this is 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:16.280 the b. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:21.400 I still can't get it. 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:27.000 We're going to sing this in the whole thing break I. 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:28.720 Can't resist it no more. 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:30.400 You've already said the name of the song. 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:33.719 Oh so it's Jody, It's break free bye. 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:39.160 Maybe go on, am I on you. It's break free 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:40.040 about Ariana? Yeah? 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.400 Well yeah, yeah yeah. 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:45.080 Now you know how it feels? 0:12:47.320 --> 0:12:48.120 Is that what it feels like? 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:48.440 Oh? 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:51.520 I don't know what's worse? That you're a really bad 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:53.160 winner or an even worse. 0:12:54.000 --> 0:13:00.160 He congratulates to see you, Phil, good work. Feel here 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:04.800 all I feel. I'm so sorry Vicky. 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:08.839 Vicky, I'm proud of Oh there go. 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:09.520 That's nice you. 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:11.120 I love it when people pitying me. 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:15.079 On top of that as well, you both on the 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:17.440 stand my list to score some tickets of Coldplane Sidney 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:19.480 Flats Commodation. So good luck to you both. Thank you 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:20.600 for playing. 0:13:21.360 --> 0:13:23.800 And that means it's no longer double. It brings us 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:25.360 to thirteen twenty. 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:27.080 Four, and you know what, that doesn't sit well with me. 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:34.000 In twenty seventeen, Cassie Sainsbury was arrested with almost six 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:37.280 kilos of cocaine stuffed into headphone boxes. 0:13:37.400 --> 0:13:41.160 Cassie Sainsbury is right now inside a Colombian courtroom where 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:42.640 she could learn her face. 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:44.560 Just twenty two years old. 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.480 Cocaine Cassie will spend the next three years in prison 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:48.520 in Colombia. 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:51.880 The Australian drug smuggler is finally out, having spent three 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:53.400 years in a Colombian prison. 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:56.960 Since returning to Adelaide, she's appeared on says Australia. 0:13:57.160 --> 0:14:00.320 I feel proud of myself in the sand so say 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:02.959 seeing everything that I didn't want to ABC again and. 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:06.560 Now releasing a tell all memoir, Cocaine Cassie, sending the 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:11.960 record straight. Please welcome Cassie sains Free. Good morning, Cassie, 0:14:12.600 --> 0:14:15.080 good morning, good morning. I know you've been doing the 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:17.040 media around this morning, so thank you so much for 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:17.440 your time. 0:14:17.480 --> 0:14:19.240 We really really appreciate it. 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:21.680 I mean, we had a lovely chat yesterday and I 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:24.520 walked away from it just thinking what a lovely girl, 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:28.120 like a very very sweet human being who's been through 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:31.840 a lot. I would really like for you to tell 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:34.480 people how this all unfolded. In the sense that you 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:37.960 trusted a woman that you said groomed you called Wendy, 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:40.240 and she betrayed your trust. 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:41.360 Just tell people what happened. 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:50.680 It was a relationship that unfolded where I basically made 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:53.520 myself vulnerable to her because she knew that I was 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:56.200 hiding in the closet and I wasn't ready to admit 0:14:56.240 --> 0:15:00.120 to my sexuality or anything like that, and so she 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:04.880 basically used that to take advantage of me, and I 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:08.160 just wanted to constantly please her and be there for her, 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:10.120 which led me down this road. 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.080 Tell us about that night where you were arrested in 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:18.720 the Bogata International Airport and just the absolute horror that went. 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:20.800 Through your veins when you realized what was unfolding. 0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:25.960 Yep, we've lost. 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:29.560 Her there, cat, Oh we've lost her. 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:32.840 Oh shame, It's okay. So but you caught up with 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:34.480 Cassie yesterday. Well see, we'll do our best to get 0:15:34.480 --> 0:15:36.840 it back on the line. Yeah, I'm just trying the 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:41.840 whole situation and also the reputation in this particular job. Yeah, 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:43.720 it's one of the worst in the world, is it not. 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:44.960 Well, it's horrific. 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:47.360 And she says that the very first night that she 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:50.720 was in there, she was abused and attacked, and that 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:54.800 happened fairly regularly over her three years in the prison 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:58.960 as well, so it's just a horrific place and experience 0:15:59.000 --> 0:15:59.400 for her. 0:15:59.240 --> 0:15:59.640 To go through. 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:02.160 I always think as well, that first night, if it's 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.240 a first night or two, where you go from living 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:08.160 a normal life yep into a jail cell, and how 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:11.880 much of that adjustment that would be. Yeah, for anyone 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:15.120 in any situation, no matter what has happened, that's something 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:17.320 I think that you could never describe unless you've been 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:18.320 in the situation like that. 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:20.880 Yeah, we're definitely having troubles getting Cassie back on the line, 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:23.240 but I will tell you that she served nearly three 0:16:23.320 --> 0:16:26.520 years and then had to spend another two years on parole, 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:29.640 so she couldn't even come home then. And that's when 0:16:29.680 --> 0:16:32.120 she met her now wife, who she met in a 0:16:32.200 --> 0:16:34.320 nightclub and they got married over there, and she came 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:37.520 back to Australia and was like, this needs to be 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:40.240 a beautiful, fairy tale homecoming. But it definitely wasn't because 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:43.560 she speaks of the absolute shame of having to walk 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:46.000 down the street and just not wanting anyone to know 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:47.840 who she was or her story. 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:51.200 Yeah, so I think everyone in most situations, myself included. 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:53.520 As soon as you hear a situation like that, you 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:56.360 automatically go into particular coin and you're like, well, why this, 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.800 why it happened, Why you do this? Yeah, everyone's got 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:01.800 their reasons. Yeah, and particular with something like this, whether 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:05.280 it is smuggling and things like that. Yeah, it's a 0:17:05.320 --> 0:17:08.679 really it's an interesting space because you just don't know 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:10.800 what's going on in people's lives to have to go 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:14.320 down that point or in a situation where you've essentially 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:15.199 maybe been tricked. 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:17.679 But also the way she spoke hazy, like she couldn't 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:20.280 have hated her, like that nothing anyone else could say 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:22.560 to her would could be worse than what she was 0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:24.920 saying inside her own head, Like she spent three years 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:27.760 just absolutely beating herself up, saying how did I, how 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:29.520 did I arrive here? And how can I be a 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:32.119 better person? So I didn't know how she found herself 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:32.800 in that situation. 0:17:33.119 --> 0:17:35.480 There you go, our brief chat. 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:38.400 It's a really good one, really about forty five seconds. 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:40.880 Joe, I don't want to be that guy that gets 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:44.399 jealous or gets severe cases of fomo and that is 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:47.159 fear of missing out. Yes, but I've got it, and 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:50.480 I've got it real bad. Do you know my biggest 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:53.960 fear is missing out on being a sickness poster child. 0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:57.560 Oh no, it's congratulations to you because you are. You're 0:17:57.800 --> 0:18:00.680 You're the shingles pin up lady. You're the post a child. 0:18:00.840 --> 0:18:02.639 I mean, no one saw it coming, but here we are. 0:18:02.720 --> 0:18:04.800 As a feel like a celebrity. Like you walk down 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:05.680 the street down one's like. 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:07.200 Oh my god, how are you shingles? 0:18:07.359 --> 0:18:08.120 Shingles lady? 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:10.280 Yeah, I love shingles chat too, And you're. 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:13.040 Signing autographs and get some babies and yeah, you know, 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:14.760 hosting conferences and all sorts of things. 0:18:14.760 --> 0:18:16.720 And I'm just signing off those autographs with all the 0:18:16.720 --> 0:18:17.479 shingle ladies. 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:23.840 Shingle ladies. Do you know what though? So I got 0:18:23.880 --> 0:18:26.080 to work because you know how I feel like and 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:28.439 we both say this that we should be on equal terms, 0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:31.439 do you know what I mean? So if you're a 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:34.720 health poster child, why can't I be a health posted child? 0:18:35.480 --> 0:18:37.520 Have you have you chosen an ailment? 0:18:37.760 --> 0:18:41.040 Maybe I have? Maybe the ailment has chosen me. Oh 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:42.520 maybe it's a beautiful collaboration. 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:45.440 Sometimes the universe just decides your fate. 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:49.040 Well, I'm pretty sure you didn't choose shingles. No, shingles 0:18:49.280 --> 0:18:51.160 banded together and said who should we go for? Who's 0:18:51.200 --> 0:18:52.560 going to be the best post a child for us? 0:18:52.640 --> 0:18:52.920 Yeah? 0:18:52.960 --> 0:18:56.760