WEBVTT - Safety has gone out of the window!

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<v Speaker 1>Apodjake Production. Welcome back to another episode Aboutmia Bad Mum podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Helps us happy listening to our parenting fails. Am I

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<v Speaker 2>a Bad Mum? For resilience building? Now this is not

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<v Speaker 2>resilience within me being a mum, but I was really

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<v Speaker 2>proud of how I handled a certain situation when I

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<v Speaker 2>took my kids on a small weekend get away. Well

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<v Speaker 2>it wasn't small and it did only go for a weekend,

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<v Speaker 2>but it felt like a lifetime. But we went to Queenstown.

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<v Speaker 2>It was the girls and I and we had the

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<v Speaker 2>best time, Like we genuinely had such a great time,

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<v Speaker 2>and there was something on every single day Katie and

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<v Speaker 2>I had to maybe put myself out of the comfort

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<v Speaker 2>zone a little bit because we did things like one

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<v Speaker 2>of the days we did the loge. Is that what

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<v Speaker 2>I have done? This the looge? It's like a go kart, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and you go down the side of a hill.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I haven't been to Coeen Sound, but I've

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<v Speaker 1>done that in Singapore.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so we're doing this down side of a cliff.

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<v Speaker 2>Basically it's super fun and super sat like the little

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<v Speaker 2>go karts. Yeah. Yeah. So in my head, this resilience

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<v Speaker 2>piece is more about my resilience as a parent because

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<v Speaker 2>I've got two totally different children when it comes to

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<v Speaker 2>new things that we're trying together, and there's just me

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<v Speaker 2>and so I can I just guess Witch childs there's Witch.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm guessing that Gracie is more like you and a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit reserve to probably a little bit more cautious

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<v Speaker 1>and I reckon. Elsie's going down there with their eyes

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<v Speaker 1>closed backwards.

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<v Speaker 2>One hundred percent right, And so we have to go

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<v Speaker 2>on one side of the track for your first ride,

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<v Speaker 2>and you have to go on this line, and then

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<v Speaker 2>this line is for everyone that comes up, and it

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<v Speaker 2>continually does it because you can buy it impacts of

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<v Speaker 2>like three, five, ten rides, however many you want to do,

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<v Speaker 2>so I had bought us five each, even for me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going, fuck, I don't want to go down this

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<v Speaker 2>hill on this go kart. What if I end up

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<v Speaker 2>over the side of the hill. How the girls gonna

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<v Speaker 2>get home? Anyway? We go up, we do this lineup.

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<v Speaker 2>Elsie's banging on, like, you know, carrying on. I'm like, mate,

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<v Speaker 2>just calm down. You've got to learn. It's like trying

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<v Speaker 2>to teach a nine year old. You've got to learn

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<v Speaker 2>to walk before you can run. We've never done this before.

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<v Speaker 2>We've got to learn how to stop this thing to

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<v Speaker 2>be able to get to the bottom of this hill.

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<v Speaker 2>She's carrying on. Gracie's starting to like work herself into

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<v Speaker 2>a tears, going, oh my god, oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 2>might turn it down. You're gonna be fine now we

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<v Speaker 2>got through that that was fine. We get onto the track,

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<v Speaker 2>the lady's explaining it got to go left, gotta go

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<v Speaker 2>right now, stop now, start, YadA, yadda. Okay, good, you're

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<v Speaker 2>good to go. That little piece of me as a

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<v Speaker 2>mom that goes, oh fuck, I haven't thought this three

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, oh my god. Now you guess right.

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<v Speaker 2>There's El's bamm like just taking off and I'm going,

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<v Speaker 2>you're like in air dust the fuck. And then I've

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<v Speaker 2>got Gracie, who's patiently next to me, going oh, stay

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<v Speaker 2>with you, mum, And I'm thinking, yeah, I know why, babe,

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<v Speaker 2>It's totally fine. Let's just get to the bottom of

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<v Speaker 2>this one and then we'll work out how it works.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I'm trying to talk her into it. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>also gradually nudging Ford and like more and more in

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<v Speaker 2>front because she's so slow. And at this point, Katie,

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<v Speaker 2>I can't see my other fucking second born anywhere because

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<v Speaker 2>she's gone. She's just ripped in letless and just taking

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<v Speaker 2>her hands off the brakes basically and flying down the hill.

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<v Speaker 2>So in my head I'm going, stay calm, stay patient,

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<v Speaker 2>you're doing well, Gracie, come on, dull like I'm hurry up.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm dying inside, going I'm gonna absolutely where is that kid? Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>let's fast forward. I don't know how long it takes

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<v Speaker 2>us to get to the bottom. Let's just say forty

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<v Speaker 2>five seconds to a minute, or maybe longer. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>because Gracie really didn't cell in trying to go a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit faster. We get to the bottom. Now you

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<v Speaker 2>get off the gokut, you walk around. You've got to

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<v Speaker 2>get back on the gondola to get back up to

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<v Speaker 2>the top. Now where do you think? My first one

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<v Speaker 2>is I'm at the front of the line to get

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<v Speaker 2>on the next gondola by herself to a chair lift

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<v Speaker 2>to get up to the top. I'm looking at don't

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<v Speaker 2>you dare? Don't get on that. And then I've proceeded

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<v Speaker 2>to do as one good parent to another. I looked

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<v Speaker 2>at the lady running the chair lift and was like,

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<v Speaker 2>do not let her get on until I'm there, And

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<v Speaker 2>this lady was like what okay? And then I'm like, crazy,

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<v Speaker 2>hurry up. Anyway, So we get around there and I

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<v Speaker 2>looked at Elsie and she is white as a ghost,

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<v Speaker 2>and I said, babe, what's going on? What's up? What's wrong?

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<v Speaker 2>And she goes, mo, my crash. It was pretty bad. Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, you crashed. I said that we're trying

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<v Speaker 2>to tell you take the first one with a little

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<v Speaker 2>less speed, understand how it works, and then the next

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<v Speaker 2>four rip in go for gold. She said, well, I

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<v Speaker 2>only slammed into the side of to the side of

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<v Speaker 2>the like to the barrier and spun and stopped, so

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<v Speaker 2>she would have got a fair whack like, but she

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<v Speaker 2>was fine. She wasn't injured. I mean, she might have

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<v Speaker 2>had a bit of whiplash, but she were nothing that anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>So the next one, I said, okay. I was trying

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<v Speaker 2>to be like the cool mom, trying to be like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>let's do the next one together. And you can have

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<v Speaker 2>two directions. One's got this one way, which is a

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<v Speaker 2>lot more like quicker and sharper. The other way is

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<v Speaker 2>like a little less. And I said, why don't we

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<v Speaker 2>try and go past the camera and do a little

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<v Speaker 2>less and see if we can get a photo together

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<v Speaker 2>or something like that, because there's cameras all down the

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<v Speaker 2>track anyway. So we did that. That was fine, built

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<v Speaker 2>up her confidence. Round three, mate, she was fucking flogging

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<v Speaker 2>it down that hill. I was like, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if the resilience building is for me as a parent

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<v Speaker 2>or whether this is for them. And I was just like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god. I looked at Gracie and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>your sister, I can't how did you feel one? Two

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<v Speaker 2>were three in?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you wish you'd just gone for the three?

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<v Speaker 2>I was in then, because then the other part of

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<v Speaker 2>Elsie that's let loose from get go is that there's

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<v Speaker 2>a part of me in that where I'm like looking

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<v Speaker 2>like Grace, come on, girl, you're holding me up. I

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<v Speaker 2>want to have a good go at this and all

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<v Speaker 2>these people are passing us and it's really hurting my

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<v Speaker 2>pride right now. And I could be winning and I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's the competitiveness coming out. And yeah, the mom

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<v Speaker 1>who likes to win, the mum's racist sports kind of yes.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so this is like, this was a resilience building

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<v Speaker 2>trip for all three of us. Now carry forward to

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<v Speaker 2>one of the other days. Really quickly. I hired bikes

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<v Speaker 2>in Arrowtown and you go for a cycler and now

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<v Speaker 2>the bike riding it sort of said that it was

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know about fourteen kilometers and I thought fourteen

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<v Speaker 2>k's on a pushy is not bad.

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<v Speaker 1>Sounds pretty wholesome.

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<v Speaker 2>Now this track was wholesome, all right. We got back.

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<v Speaker 2>We were filthy. There were moments in the track, Katie,

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<v Speaker 2>where I legitimately had two little girls that I thought

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<v Speaker 2>were obviously much older than they are, and they're complaining,

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<v Speaker 2>we can't do this, like this is so hard, and

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<v Speaker 2>I just looked at them. I said, just stay with me.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, this is going to make you stronger and

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<v Speaker 2>stronger each pedal that you take. Just think about one

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<v Speaker 2>pedal at a time. That's all we can think about.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to get there, think about whatever's at the end,

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<v Speaker 2>that I'll buy you an ice cream at the end,

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<v Speaker 2>what heck, whatever it is. Yeah, I tried everything, but

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<v Speaker 2>at the same time, you know what got us over

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<v Speaker 2>the line was they didn't give up. I kept telling

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<v Speaker 2>them how bloody awesome they were because they were because

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<v Speaker 2>I was hurting so bad, and I was having these

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<v Speaker 2>mother moments where I was like, right, this must have

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<v Speaker 2>been the biggest brain fight you've ever had as a mother,

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<v Speaker 2>because like we ended up nearly clocking thirty kilometers thirty Katie,

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<v Speaker 2>I did not read the fourteen kilometers there.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, all right, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know this part of being a personal trainer

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<v Speaker 2>and this whole like resilience and don't give up and

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<v Speaker 2>we can do this. That was still sitting in my

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<v Speaker 2>brain going, no, we can make it to the bungee

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<v Speaker 2>jump and then we've got to ride all the way.

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't have fun having these active holidays. You're like, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna be really active on this holiday. We're really

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<v Speaker 1>going to do you know the last holday I had

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<v Speaker 1>we got quad bikes in Bali. Not only did we

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<v Speaker 1>get quad bikes in Bali, you have to go through

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<v Speaker 1>the river.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, They're like, go all right, free do what go?

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<v Speaker 2>You have to go like full thrott all through the water.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I just closed my eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>Mate, I would have been closing my mouth so that

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<v Speaker 2>the river water wasn't in my mouth. Now I'm talking

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<v Speaker 2>about resilience building.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, at least you were in New Zealand where the

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<v Speaker 1>safety standards are the same as they are here. Because

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I don't do any of that active

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<v Speaker 1>shit at home. Yeah, here where I know the safety

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<v Speaker 1>is right. But yeah, I will do quad bikes in

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<v Speaker 1>Bali and the zip line in Banawatu, where my helmet

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<v Speaker 1>was so big it was sideways and I was belly

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<v Speaker 1>in a harness.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, if we go, and then you just let the

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<v Speaker 2>girls go ziplining as yeah, they my kids go. Barely

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<v Speaker 2>got harness on home, broken foot,