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Speaker 2: Helps us happy listening to our parenting fails. Am I
Speaker 2: a Bad Mum? For resilience building? Now this is not
Speaker 2: resilience within me being a mum, but I was really
Speaker 2: proud of how I handled a certain situation when I
Speaker 2: took my kids on a small weekend get away. Well
Speaker 2: it wasn't small and it did only go for a weekend,
Speaker 2: but it felt like a lifetime. But we went to Queenstown.
Speaker 2: It was the girls and I and we had the
Speaker 2: best time, Like we genuinely had such a great time,
Speaker 2: and there was something on every single day Katie and
Speaker 2: I had to maybe put myself out of the comfort
Speaker 2: zone a little bit because we did things like one
Speaker 2: of the days we did the loge. Is that what
Speaker 2: I have done? This the looge? It's like a go kart, Yeah,
Speaker 2: and you go down the side of a hill.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I haven't been to Coeen Sound, but I've
Speaker 1: done that in Singapore.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we're doing this down side of a cliff.
Speaker 2: Basically it's super fun and super sat like the little
Speaker 2: go karts. Yeah. Yeah. So in my head, this resilience
Speaker 2: piece is more about my resilience as a parent because
Speaker 2: I've got two totally different children when it comes to
Speaker 2: new things that we're trying together, and there's just me
Speaker 2: and so I can I just guess Witch childs there's Witch.
Speaker 1: I'm guessing that Gracie is more like you and a
Speaker 1: little bit reserve to probably a little bit more cautious
Speaker 1: and I reckon. Elsie's going down there with their eyes
Speaker 1: closed backwards.
Speaker 2: One hundred percent right, And so we have to go
Speaker 2: on one side of the track for your first ride,
Speaker 2: and you have to go on this line, and then
Speaker 2: this line is for everyone that comes up, and it
Speaker 2: continually does it because you can buy it impacts of
Speaker 2: like three, five, ten rides, however many you want to do,
Speaker 2: so I had bought us five each, even for me.
Speaker 2: I'm going, fuck, I don't want to go down this
Speaker 2: hill on this go kart. What if I end up
Speaker 2: over the side of the hill. How the girls gonna
Speaker 2: get home? Anyway? We go up, we do this lineup.
Speaker 2: Elsie's banging on, like, you know, carrying on. I'm like, mate,
Speaker 2: just calm down. You've got to learn. It's like trying
Speaker 2: to teach a nine year old. You've got to learn
Speaker 2: to walk before you can run. We've never done this before.
Speaker 2: We've got to learn how to stop this thing to
Speaker 2: be able to get to the bottom of this hill.
Speaker 2: She's carrying on. Gracie's starting to like work herself into
Speaker 2: a tears, going, oh my god, oh my god, I
Speaker 2: might turn it down. You're gonna be fine now we
Speaker 2: got through that that was fine. We get onto the track,
Speaker 2: the lady's explaining it got to go left, gotta go
Speaker 2: right now, stop now, start, YadA, yadda. Okay, good, you're
Speaker 2: good to go. That little piece of me as a
Speaker 2: mom that goes, oh fuck, I haven't thought this three
Speaker 2: Oh my god, oh my god. Now you guess right.
Speaker 2: There's El's bamm like just taking off and I'm going,
Speaker 2: you're like in air dust the fuck. And then I've
Speaker 2: got Gracie, who's patiently next to me, going oh, stay
Speaker 2: with you, mum, And I'm thinking, yeah, I know why, babe,
Speaker 2: It's totally fine. Let's just get to the bottom of
Speaker 2: this one and then we'll work out how it works.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm trying to talk her into it. I'm
Speaker 2: also gradually nudging Ford and like more and more in
Speaker 2: front because she's so slow. And at this point, Katie,
Speaker 2: I can't see my other fucking second born anywhere because
Speaker 2: she's gone. She's just ripped in letless and just taking
Speaker 2: her hands off the brakes basically and flying down the hill.
Speaker 2: So in my head I'm going, stay calm, stay patient,
Speaker 2: you're doing well, Gracie, come on, dull like I'm hurry up.
Speaker 2: I'm dying inside, going I'm gonna absolutely where is that kid? Anyway,
Speaker 2: let's fast forward. I don't know how long it takes
Speaker 2: us to get to the bottom. Let's just say forty
Speaker 2: five seconds to a minute, or maybe longer. I don't know,
Speaker 2: because Gracie really didn't cell in trying to go a
Speaker 2: little bit faster. We get to the bottom. Now you
Speaker 2: get off the gokut, you walk around. You've got to
Speaker 2: get back on the gondola to get back up to
Speaker 2: the top. Now where do you think? My first one
Speaker 2: is I'm at the front of the line to get
Speaker 2: on the next gondola by herself to a chair lift
Speaker 2: to get up to the top. I'm looking at don't
Speaker 2: you dare? Don't get on that. And then I've proceeded
Speaker 2: to do as one good parent to another. I looked
Speaker 2: at the lady running the chair lift and was like,
Speaker 2: do not let her get on until I'm there, And
Speaker 2: this lady was like what okay? And then I'm like, crazy,
Speaker 2: hurry up. Anyway, So we get around there and I
Speaker 2: looked at Elsie and she is white as a ghost,
Speaker 2: and I said, babe, what's going on? What's up? What's wrong?
Speaker 2: And she goes, mo, my crash. It was pretty bad. Oh.
Speaker 2: I was like, you crashed. I said that we're trying
Speaker 2: to tell you take the first one with a little
Speaker 2: less speed, understand how it works, and then the next
Speaker 2: four rip in go for gold. She said, well, I
Speaker 2: only slammed into the side of to the side of
Speaker 2: the like to the barrier and spun and stopped, so
Speaker 2: she would have got a fair whack like, but she
Speaker 2: was fine. She wasn't injured. I mean, she might have
Speaker 2: had a bit of whiplash, but she were nothing that anyway.
Speaker 2: So the next one, I said, okay. I was trying
Speaker 2: to be like the cool mom, trying to be like, okay,
Speaker 2: let's do the next one together. And you can have
Speaker 2: two directions. One's got this one way, which is a
Speaker 2: lot more like quicker and sharper. The other way is
Speaker 2: like a little less. And I said, why don't we
Speaker 2: try and go past the camera and do a little
Speaker 2: less and see if we can get a photo together
Speaker 2: or something like that, because there's cameras all down the
Speaker 2: track anyway. So we did that. That was fine, built
Speaker 2: up her confidence. Round three, mate, she was fucking flogging
Speaker 2: it down that hill. I was like, I don't know
Speaker 2: if the resilience building is for me as a parent
Speaker 2: or whether this is for them. And I was just like,
Speaker 2: oh my god. I looked at Gracie and I was like,
Speaker 2: your sister, I can't how did you feel one? Two
Speaker 2: were three in?
Speaker 1: Did you wish you'd just gone for the three?
Speaker 2: I was in then, because then the other part of
Speaker 2: Elsie that's let loose from get go is that there's
Speaker 2: a part of me in that where I'm like looking
Speaker 2: like Grace, come on, girl, you're holding me up. I
Speaker 2: want to have a good go at this and all
Speaker 2: these people are passing us and it's really hurting my
Speaker 2: pride right now. And I could be winning and I'm not.
Speaker 1: So that's the competitiveness coming out. And yeah, the mom
Speaker 1: who likes to win, the mum's racist sports kind of yes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so this is like, this was a resilience building
Speaker 2: trip for all three of us. Now carry forward to
Speaker 2: one of the other days. Really quickly. I hired bikes
Speaker 2: in Arrowtown and you go for a cycler and now
Speaker 2: the bike riding it sort of said that it was
Speaker 2: I don't know about fourteen kilometers and I thought fourteen
Speaker 2: k's on a pushy is not bad.
Speaker 1: Sounds pretty wholesome.
Speaker 2: Now this track was wholesome, all right. We got back.
Speaker 2: We were filthy. There were moments in the track, Katie,
Speaker 2: where I legitimately had two little girls that I thought
Speaker 2: were obviously much older than they are, and they're complaining,
Speaker 2: we can't do this, like this is so hard, and
Speaker 2: I just looked at them. I said, just stay with me.
Speaker 2: I said, this is going to make you stronger and
Speaker 2: stronger each pedal that you take. Just think about one
Speaker 2: pedal at a time. That's all we can think about.
Speaker 2: We're going to get there, think about whatever's at the end,
Speaker 2: that I'll buy you an ice cream at the end,
Speaker 2: what heck, whatever it is. Yeah, I tried everything, but
Speaker 2: at the same time, you know what got us over
Speaker 2: the line was they didn't give up. I kept telling
Speaker 2: them how bloody awesome they were because they were because
Speaker 2: I was hurting so bad, and I was having these
Speaker 2: mother moments where I was like, right, this must have
Speaker 2: been the biggest brain fight you've ever had as a mother,
Speaker 2: because like we ended up nearly clocking thirty kilometers thirty Katie,
Speaker 2: I did not read the fourteen kilometers there.
Speaker 1: Oh, all right, okay.
Speaker 2: But you know this part of being a personal trainer
Speaker 2: and this whole like resilience and don't give up and
Speaker 2: we can do this. That was still sitting in my
Speaker 2: brain going, no, we can make it to the bungee
Speaker 2: jump and then we've got to ride all the way.
Speaker 1: I wasn't have fun having these active holidays. You're like, Oh,
Speaker 1: we're gonna be really active on this holiday. We're really
Speaker 1: going to do you know the last holday I had
Speaker 1: we got quad bikes in Bali. Not only did we
Speaker 1: get quad bikes in Bali, you have to go through
Speaker 1: the river.
Speaker 2: Yeah, They're like, go all right, free do what go?
Speaker 2: You have to go like full thrott all through the water.
Speaker 1: I was like, I just closed my eyes.
Speaker 2: Mate, I would have been closing my mouth so that
Speaker 2: the river water wasn't in my mouth. Now I'm talking
Speaker 2: about resilience building.
Speaker 1: Now, at least you were in New Zealand where the
Speaker 1: safety standards are the same as they are here. Because
Speaker 1: I feel like I don't do any of that active
Speaker 1: shit at home. Yeah, here where I know the safety
Speaker 1: is right. But yeah, I will do quad bikes in
Speaker 1: Bali and the zip line in Banawatu, where my helmet
Speaker 1: was so big it was sideways and I was belly
Speaker 1: in a harness.
Speaker 2: Okay, if we go, and then you just let the
Speaker 2: girls go ziplining as yeah, they my kids go. Barely
Speaker 2: got harness on home, broken foot,