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Speaker 1: Apodjake Production. Welcome back to another episode Aboutmia Bad Mum podcast.

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Speaker 1: We're on Instagram as well at Am I A Bad Mum?

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Speaker 2: Helps us happy listening to our parenting fails. Am I

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Speaker 2: a Bad Mum? For resilience building? Now this is not

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Speaker 2: resilience within me being a mum, but I was really

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Speaker 2: proud of how I handled a certain situation when I

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Speaker 2: took my kids on a small weekend get away. Well

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Speaker 2: it wasn't small and it did only go for a weekend,

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Speaker 2: but it felt like a lifetime. But we went to Queenstown.

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Speaker 2: It was the girls and I and we had the

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Speaker 2: best time, Like we genuinely had such a great time,

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Speaker 2: and there was something on every single day Katie and

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Speaker 2: I had to maybe put myself out of the comfort

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Speaker 2: zone a little bit because we did things like one

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Speaker 2: of the days we did the loge. Is that what

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Speaker 2: I have done? This the looge? It's like a go kart, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and you go down the side of a hill.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I haven't been to Coeen Sound, but I've

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Speaker 1: done that in Singapore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so we're doing this down side of a cliff.

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Speaker 2: Basically it's super fun and super sat like the little

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Speaker 2: go karts. Yeah. Yeah. So in my head, this resilience

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Speaker 2: piece is more about my resilience as a parent because

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Speaker 2: I've got two totally different children when it comes to

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Speaker 2: new things that we're trying together, and there's just me

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Speaker 2: and so I can I just guess Witch childs there's Witch.

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Speaker 1: I'm guessing that Gracie is more like you and a

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Speaker 1: little bit reserve to probably a little bit more cautious

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Speaker 1: and I reckon. Elsie's going down there with their eyes

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Speaker 1: closed backwards.

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Speaker 2: One hundred percent right, And so we have to go

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Speaker 2: on one side of the track for your first ride,

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Speaker 2: and you have to go on this line, and then

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Speaker 2: this line is for everyone that comes up, and it

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Speaker 2: continually does it because you can buy it impacts of

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Speaker 2: like three, five, ten rides, however many you want to do,

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Speaker 2: so I had bought us five each, even for me.

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Speaker 2: I'm going, fuck, I don't want to go down this

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Speaker 2: hill on this go kart. What if I end up

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Speaker 2: over the side of the hill. How the girls gonna

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Speaker 2: get home? Anyway? We go up, we do this lineup.

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Speaker 2: Elsie's banging on, like, you know, carrying on. I'm like, mate,

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Speaker 2: just calm down. You've got to learn. It's like trying

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Speaker 2: to teach a nine year old. You've got to learn

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Speaker 2: to walk before you can run. We've never done this before.

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Speaker 2: We've got to learn how to stop this thing to

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Speaker 2: She's carrying on. Gracie's starting to like work herself into

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Speaker 2: might turn it down. You're gonna be fine now we

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Speaker 2: got through that that was fine. We get onto the track,

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Speaker 2: the lady's explaining it got to go left, gotta go

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Speaker 2: right now, stop now, start, YadA, yadda. Okay, good, you're

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Speaker 2: good to go. That little piece of me as a

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Speaker 2: mom that goes, oh fuck, I haven't thought this three

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, oh my god. Now you guess right.

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Speaker 2: There's el' bamm like just taking off and I'm going,

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Speaker 2: you're like in air dust the fuck. And then I've

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Speaker 2: got Gracie, who's patiently next to me, going oh, stay

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Speaker 2: with you, mum, And I'm thinking, yeah, I know why, babe,

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Speaker 2: It's totally fine. Let's just get to the bottom of

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm trying to talk her into it. I'm

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Speaker 2: also gradually nudging Ford and like more and more in

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Speaker 2: So in my head I'm going, stay calm, stay patient,

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Speaker 2: you're doing well, Gracie, come on, dull like I'm hurry up.

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Speaker 2: I'm dying inside, going I'm gonna absolutely where is that kid? Anyway,

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Speaker 2: let's fast forward. I don't know how long it takes

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Speaker 2: because Gracie really didn't cell in trying to go a

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Speaker 2: little bit faster. We get to the bottom. Now you

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Speaker 2: get off the gokut, you walk around. You've got to

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Speaker 2: get back on the gondola to get back up to

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Speaker 2: the top. Now where do you think? My first one

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Speaker 2: is I'm at the front of the line to get

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Speaker 2: on the next gondola by herself to a chair lift

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Speaker 2: to get up to the top. I'm looking at don't

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Speaker 2: you dare? Don't get on that. And then I've proceeded

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Speaker 2: to do as one good parent to another. I looked

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Speaker 2: at the lady running the chair lift and was like,

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Speaker 2: do not let her get on until I'm there, And

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Speaker 2: this lady was like what okay? And then I'm like, crazy,

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Speaker 2: hurry up. Anyway, So we get around there and I

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Speaker 2: looked at Elsie and she is white as a ghost,

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Speaker 2: and I said, babe, what's going on? What's up? What's wrong?

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Speaker 2: And she goes, mo, my crash. It was pretty bad. Oh.

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Speaker 2: I was like, you crashed. I said that we're trying

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Speaker 2: four rip in go for gold. She said, well, I

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Speaker 2: only slammed into the side of to the side of

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Speaker 2: she would have got a fair whack like, but she

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Speaker 2: was fine. She wasn't injured. I mean, she might have

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Speaker 2: had a bit of whiplash, but she were nothing that anyway.

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Speaker 2: So the next one, I said, okay. I was trying

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Speaker 2: let's do the next one together. And you can have

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Speaker 2: two directions. One's got this one way, which is a

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Speaker 2: lot more like quicker and sharper. The other way is

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Speaker 2: like a little less. And I said, why don't we

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Speaker 2: or something like that, because there's cameras all down the

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Speaker 2: track anyway. So we did that. That was fine, built

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Speaker 2: up her confidence. Round three, mate, she was fucking flogging

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Speaker 2: it down that hill. I was like, I don't know

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Speaker 2: or whether this is for them. And I was just like,

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Speaker 2: oh my god. I looked at Gracie and I was like,

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Speaker 2: your sister, I can't how did you feel one? Two

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Speaker 1: Did you wish you'd just gone for the three?

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Speaker 2: I was in then, because then the other part of

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Speaker 2: Elsie that's let loose from get go is that there's

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Speaker 2: a part of me in that where I'm like looking

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Speaker 2: like Grace, come on, girl, you're holding me up. I

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Speaker 2: want to have a good go at this and all

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Speaker 2: these people are passing us and it's really hurting my

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Speaker 2: pride right now. And I could be winning and I'm not.

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Speaker 1: So that's the competitiveness coming out. And yeah, the mom

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Speaker 1: who likes to win, the mum's racist sports kind of yes.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so this is like, this was a resilience building

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Speaker 2: trip for all three of us. Now carry forward to

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Speaker 2: one of the other days. Really quickly. I hired bikes

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Speaker 2: in Arrowtown and you go for a cycler and now

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Speaker 2: the bike riding it sort of said that it was

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Speaker 2: I don't know about fourteen kilometers and I thought fourteen

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Speaker 1: Sounds pretty wholesome.

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Speaker 2: Now this track was wholesome, all right. We got back.

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Speaker 2: We were filthy. There were moments in the track, Katie,

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Speaker 2: where I legitimately had two little girls that I thought

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Speaker 2: were obviously much older than they are, and they're complaining,

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Speaker 2: we can't do this, like this is so hard, and

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Speaker 2: I just looked at them. I said, just stay with me.

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Speaker 2: I said, this is going to make you stronger and

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Speaker 2: stronger each pedal that you take. Just think about one

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Speaker 2: pedal at a time. That's all we can think about.

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Speaker 2: We're going to get there, think about whatever's at the end,

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Speaker 2: that I'll buy you an ice cream at the end,

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Speaker 2: what heck, whatever it is. Yeah, I tried everything, but

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Speaker 2: at the same time, you know what got us over

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Speaker 2: the line was they didn't give up. I kept telling

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Speaker 2: them how bloody awesome they were because they were because

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Speaker 2: I was hurting so bad, and I was having these

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Speaker 2: mother moments where I was like, right, this must have

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Speaker 2: been the biggest brain fight you've ever had as a mother,

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Speaker 2: because like we ended up nearly clocking thirty kilometers thirty Katie,

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Speaker 2: I did not read the fourteen kilometers there.

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Speaker 1: Oh, all right, okay.

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Speaker 2: But you know this part of being a personal trainer

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Speaker 2: and this whole like resilience and don't give up and

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Speaker 2: we can do this. That was still sitting in my

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Speaker 2: brain going, no, we can make it to the bungee

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Speaker 2: jump and then we've got to ride all the way.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't have fun having these active holidays. You're like, Oh,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna be really active on this holiday. We're really

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Speaker 1: going to do you know the last holday I had

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Speaker 1: we got quad bikes in Bali. Not only did we

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Speaker 1: get quad bikes in Bali, you have to go through

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Speaker 1: the river.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, They're like, go all right, free do what go?

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Speaker 2: You have to go like full thrott all through the water.

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Speaker 1: I was like, I just closed my eyes.

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Speaker 2: Mate, I would have been closing my mouth so that

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Speaker 2: the river water wasn't in my mouth. Now I'm talking

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Speaker 2: about resilience building.

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Speaker 1: Now, at least you were in New Zealand where the

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Speaker 1: safety standards are the same as they are here. Because

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Speaker 1: I feel like I don't do any of that active

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Speaker 1: shit at home. Yeah, here where I know the safety

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Speaker 1: is right. But yeah, I will do quad bikes in

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Speaker 1: Bali and the zip line in Banawatu, where my helmet

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Speaker 1: was so big it was sideways and I was belly

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Speaker 1: in a harness.

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Speaker 2: Okay, if we go, and then you just let the

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Speaker 2: girls go ziplining as yeah, they my kids go. Barely

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Speaker 2: got harness on home, broken foot,