1 00:00:07,320 --> 00:00:07,880 Speaker 1: Hey chicks. 2 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:10,000 Speaker 2: I'm sal and I'm and this is two great chicks 3 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:12,920 Speaker 2: to show that shares life lessons and tips to help make. 4 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 3: You rich and Lie that's the one. 5 00:00:14,760 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 2: We're a little bit dusty on the tools chicks because 6 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 2: we are coming to live. We're from London as because 7 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 2: we've been traveling around Europe for the last three weeks. 8 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 2: And if you're wondering who this third mysterious voice is, 9 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 2: it is the wonderful Emily Broken. 10 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 1: Welcome to the shop. 11 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:35,199 Speaker 4: You've just been on a little holiday too, haven't you 12 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:36,680 Speaker 4: have done quite the holiday? 13 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: Where'd you go? Done? 14 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 2: So? 15 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:41,360 Speaker 1: I started off the summer with croat Shop, then I 16 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,479 Speaker 1: went to Greece, then I did Turkey and then I 17 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 1: did Spain. 18 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 3: Sounds so shit, Yeah, bor lazy. 19 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:52,480 Speaker 2: We've got Emily in the studio because we are at 20 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:56,880 Speaker 2: the London Spotify Studios London London Bay Bay get the 21 00:00:56,960 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 2: London look. 22 00:00:58,000 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 3: And you're a London local. 23 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: I am so yeah a little bit. 24 00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 3: Absolutely. If I was you, I would have an English 25 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:08,200 Speaker 3: accent already, like. 26 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 1: And I'm like hello love. 27 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 2: But in today's episode, we want to talk about how 28 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 2: to like grow into yourself in your twenties. 29 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:18,759 Speaker 1: I love yapping about that stuff. 30 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 2: We're all going to be like crying and best friends 31 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 2: by the end of the episode, maybe and talking in 32 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 2: English accents. 33 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:25,480 Speaker 3: I can't wait. 34 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 2: But before we get into it, we love to start 35 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 2: with a life lesson of the week, so it can 36 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 2: be big or small, silly or serious, whatever you like, 37 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 2: doesn't have to relate to the topic. Can just be 38 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 2: any life lesson you've picked up this week. 39 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 1: Okay. I feel like a lot of the time we 40 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 1: are always waiting for the next thing, and we're always 41 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 1: like living in the future and being like I want 42 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: this mulestone, this mules stone that we forget. This is 43 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:51,040 Speaker 1: my realization of the week that a lot of the 44 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:53,880 Speaker 1: time we are living in what we wance like hoped for, 45 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 1: prayed for or manifesto. Yes, like I'm traveling so much 46 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: right now and I'm like living the dream and I've 47 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: got like a great flat, great friends, and like just 48 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 1: like life's ten ten and I'm already thinking, oh my god, Sydney, Australia, 49 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: like what I mean to do when I get there, 50 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:10,079 Speaker 1: And it's like but I'm here, like be present, and yeah, 51 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: I was wanted so badly and I'm living in that 52 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: so it's like live in the present and yeah, you 53 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: can still obviously look to the future, but try and 54 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:18,320 Speaker 1: be more present. 55 00:02:18,440 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, I appreciate where you're at. I love that. 56 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:23,360 Speaker 2: I feel like my life lesson is kind of similar 57 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:27,079 Speaker 2: because we're three weeks into our four week holiday now 58 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 2: four weeks. I know it's only a short stint, but 59 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 2: you know how like you get to that point and 60 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:34,079 Speaker 2: you've been living out of your suitcase for three weeks, 61 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 2: You're sick of all the clothes that you brought. I'm like, 62 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 2: I miss like my barista at home, like we miss 63 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 2: our boyfriends, and you're kind of like, okay, Like I'm 64 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 2: kind of ready to go home. But then I was like, 65 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 2: but then you'll be home and that's it. Yeah, you're 66 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 2: just kind of like, fuck, I wish I just yeah, 67 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 2: And I was like sort of having that moment and 68 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,600 Speaker 2: then I was like, Okay, stop, that's completely fine. 69 00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 3: You can miss home. And it's been the best, it's 70 00:02:58,520 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 3: been an absolute dream. 71 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:04,359 Speaker 1: But it was just like that thirty second vegetables home 72 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:06,520 Speaker 1: coook meal. Yeah, I feel like. 73 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 4: As well, we're talking about this, and I was like, 74 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 4: how lucky are we to have something to be homesick for? 75 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:14,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I think that's like a really. 76 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 4: Good way to think about it, being like, yes it 77 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:18,119 Speaker 4: being homesick is good, like wanting to like have those 78 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 4: but like that's really lucky. 79 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 3: Like, yeah, what's your life lesson? 80 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 1: My life lesson? 81 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 4: This one's so not deep enough, but it is a 82 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 4: lesson in itself. So kind of on the travel train. 83 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 4: But we've done like Italy and we did Greece, and 84 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 4: so they were like very coastal towns and I don't 85 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 4: normally eat seafood like back home because it's like, I 86 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 4: don't know, you just. 87 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 3: It's not really a normal thing that you like. 88 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 4: The most seafood eat is like salmon brocolini and potatoes, 89 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 4: like that's it the air prior and that's. 90 00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 3: All you've got. 91 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 4: So anyway, we're there and I'm like I all the 92 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 4: seafood in the world. I was like, give me the flobstar. 93 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 4: I'm on holidays, and like the prawns and the trump 94 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 4: are the same thing, and the muscle. So before we came, 95 00:03:55,680 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 4: I was having like all these like hormonal breakouts and 96 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 4: went to a dermatologist fixed my skin. She was slaying. 97 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 4: Got here was ready to like live my seabreeze salty 98 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:12,000 Speaker 4: sunny skin fan, I'll wear a skin tint. Okay, So 99 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 4: apparently seafood gives you fucking pimple? 100 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: Does it? 101 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 3: Oh? My? 102 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 1: Got so I came clear skin, and then for like 103 00:04:20,600 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: five nights in. 104 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:23,679 Speaker 4: A row, I had like seafood, like a seafood pasta 105 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:25,480 Speaker 4: or like prawns or whatever it was. 106 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:29,240 Speaker 3: By the fifth day, I had so many pimples. And 107 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:30,600 Speaker 3: then I was like, what is going on? 108 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:33,600 Speaker 4: And then I looked it up, and seafood has like 109 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:37,839 Speaker 4: a high amount of iodine in it, and so when 110 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 4: you consume more than normal, more than you normally do, 111 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 4: it'll break you out. 112 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:46,640 Speaker 3: Seafood all the time. 113 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:51,279 Speaker 4: Then they're like, yeah, like it's going down now because 114 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 4: I haven't been eating seafood. But I also was like, 115 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:57,720 Speaker 4: I'm not gonna not eat what I want to on holidays. 116 00:04:58,080 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 3: It's just a little bit of a downfall. 117 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:07,360 Speaker 4: All Yeah, it's like, oh, okay, Pinchy's revenge. Don't like 118 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 4: seafood for every single meal if you don't want to 119 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:11,160 Speaker 4: get pimpies. 120 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 3: I am also not a dermatologist. 121 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:16,599 Speaker 4: No medical advice to your own research and bing bang bombs. 122 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 3: Could we get into the episode. Let's do it let's go. 123 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:26,320 Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of the chicks would recognize you, 124 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 2: especially from TikTok and all of your London adventures. And 125 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 2: you're telling your fabulous tales while you're cutting up fruit. 126 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:36,520 Speaker 3: So so sad, it's so. 127 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 1: Good like the fruit. 128 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 2: But for anybody who isn't aware, how long have you 129 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 2: lived in London before? 130 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 4: Now? 131 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 1: Two years as of a month's time. So yeah, Brisbane, 132 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:55,880 Speaker 1: Yes that's from born and bred from Brizzy. Then you 133 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: moved here two years ago. 134 00:05:57,160 --> 00:06:00,480 Speaker 2: So how do you feel that moving over sea in 135 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 2: your twenties has helped you grow into yourself and learn 136 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 2: more about yourself in your twenties? 137 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: Philly has helped in every way. Like, I genuinely think 138 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: I'm a completely different person to who I was when 139 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 1: I left, Like I am not really in contact with 140 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:16,520 Speaker 1: most people, to be honest, like that I was friends 141 00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 1: with Pride to leaving, and I think it's just because 142 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:20,800 Speaker 1: there's not much in common. But also I think just 143 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: like my values and myself as a person has changed 144 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,720 Speaker 1: so much because I think you learned or like, there's 145 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: just so many I think everyone should do even if 146 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,120 Speaker 1: you aren't, like you know, the bulls or whatever, like 147 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:32,279 Speaker 1: the money to move to another country, like another city, 148 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: just because I think, like you learn so much about yourself, 149 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: you have defend for yourself. And also I feel like 150 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 1: this is the one, like the biggest thing I advocate for. 151 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 1: When you move somewhere like another city or another country, 152 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:46,160 Speaker 1: you no one's holding you to a standard or an identity. 153 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:49,279 Speaker 1: So you can, like if you were once a bitch, 154 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: or you were once like really shy, or you're not 155 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 1: super extroverted, and then you move somewhere and no one's 156 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: holding you to that standard. You can walk into a 157 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: room or a party and like no one's thinking, oh, 158 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 1: she's a bit out of character tonight, bo do you 159 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:02,360 Speaker 1: want to be? And I feel like that's so cool 160 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: because it's like you discover and create whoever you want 161 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: to be, Like you, I want to be this person, 162 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 1: you become them? 163 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 2: So yeah the wheel, Yeah exactly, be whoever you want 164 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 2: to be. Literally, did you ever have like an aha 165 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:17,120 Speaker 2: moment where you were like, WHOA, I have changed so 166 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 2: much while you've been overseas? 167 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 1: Probably like a year into it, I'd say, because I 168 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 1: moved and I think I was very like immature and 169 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 1: then I just I don't know it was just just 170 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 1: naive about the world, and I just I was just different. 171 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:32,240 Speaker 1: Like I don't think I liked who I was, and 172 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: I probably wasn't the best person. I think I just 173 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: project a lot, do you know what I'm saying? Like 174 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 1: I'm a gossip and like at work and like I 175 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: make I try and not gossip now, just like so 176 00:07:41,400 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 1: many like small things and just like I think I 177 00:07:44,080 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 1: was very, very extroverted and now I'm like I'd still 178 00:07:46,520 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 1: so extroverted, but I've learned that I can also be 179 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 1: reserved and like sit back sometimes and like I just 180 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:54,160 Speaker 1: like every which way I've changed. 181 00:07:54,320 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, where it's like I don't think we give ourselves 182 00:07:57,520 --> 00:08:00,120 Speaker 4: like the credit enough to see the positive changes that 183 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,320 Speaker 4: we make in ourselves. Like when you are being like, oh, 184 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 4: do you know what, Like maybe five years ago, when 185 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 4: I was like young, I probably would have behaved like 186 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 4: this way in this situation. And like when you can 187 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 4: sit there and be like, do you know what? Not 188 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:14,040 Speaker 4: everything needs like the full tank of that I have 189 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 4: to give. 190 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 1: It's just like yeah, because I think it's like all 191 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: those things where you're not being held to a standard 192 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 1: or expectations by someone. This may not be moving over seas, 193 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:22,800 Speaker 1: but I did a lot of like self work and 194 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 1: like self reflection of the past four years and like yeah, 195 00:08:25,880 --> 00:08:27,680 Speaker 1: because like four years ago, I hated myself and I 196 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 1: would project that I was so insecure, and then I 197 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 1: think even just moving overseas as well, Like I did 198 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:35,319 Speaker 1: so much reflecting being like writing down like manifesting and 199 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 1: affirming to myself I am this person, I am wise, 200 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 1: I am friendly, I am outgoing, Like people want to 201 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 1: be around me because I have blah blah blah. Do 202 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? 203 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 3: Like, yeah, yeah, I think it sounds grange. 204 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 1: I think just that there's so many benefits. Everyone should 205 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:53,000 Speaker 1: be riverseas also another country because you can create your 206 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: own identity. 207 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, what were some of the other practices you did 208 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,160 Speaker 4: for like self reflection. 209 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:00,840 Speaker 1: Just like a lot of journaling to be honest. And 210 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: then also just like asking myself questions that you would 211 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:05,240 Speaker 1: ask someone else, because I think a lot of the 212 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 1: time you might go on a date or you might 213 00:09:07,200 --> 00:09:08,920 Speaker 1: be with a friend and you always ask like oh 214 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: I love deep charts, like I hate service level conversation, 215 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:14,240 Speaker 1: and so like I've even got like like questions on 216 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: my phone. I was asking like my best friend I 217 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:17,240 Speaker 1: went for a walk there this morning, and it's just 218 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:19,440 Speaker 1: like questions that you'd ask someone else, ask yourself and 219 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 1: like think about the reasons, and like they can be 220 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 1: fun things. It can be like it doesn't have to 221 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: be some deep shit where you put on meditation, can 222 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:25,960 Speaker 1: you like depress it or fuck? 223 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 2: Oh? 224 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 1: Like you could just be like in your room and 225 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:31,680 Speaker 1: then like list like right questions like what's something that 226 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 1: you love to be complimented on? And then what's something 227 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 1: that you don't get complimented on like internally that you 228 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:38,280 Speaker 1: would like to and then maybe that's something that you 229 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:39,959 Speaker 1: need to bring out more or like you know what 230 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 1: I mean. Like but if shadow, well, yeah, that kind 231 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:42,760 Speaker 1: of thing do you want? 232 00:09:42,800 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 4: My favorite question is the one that's like what's your 233 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:50,920 Speaker 4: favorite compliment you've ever received? Like it just makes people 234 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 4: really happy to then like say that about themselves. 235 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, and I find that it's like the cutest one ever. 236 00:09:56,160 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 1: Agreed. 237 00:09:56,880 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 3: Do you have any advice? 238 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:00,199 Speaker 4: Because you mentioned before that you don't really speak to, 239 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:02,439 Speaker 4: you know, the people that you knew back home or 240 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 4: high school, which I think is like a very relatable thing. 241 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:06,120 Speaker 3: I think people outgrow. 242 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: I'm friendly, but I say I'm like like there was 243 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:10,920 Speaker 1: no falling out in it. But it's just like yeah, 244 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:12,840 Speaker 1: you just like it's. 245 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:13,880 Speaker 3: Like a parallel growth. 246 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 4: But how did you go about making new friends as 247 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 4: an adult in a new country, Because. 248 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 1: That's struggle, Like I won't even lie. That's the one 249 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 1: thing I'm so like about moving home is like finding 250 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:28,720 Speaker 1: when I moved to Sydney, like my people again because 251 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:42,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, that's fine, thanks, awkward, no, But I 252 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:45,200 Speaker 1: would say, it just takes time, to be honest, and 253 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:47,760 Speaker 1: I think when I first, honestly probably took me a 254 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: year to find people that are like stuck stuck with 255 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 1: Like I think I've only got one friend that I 256 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:53,839 Speaker 1: met when I first moved here and was doing my 257 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: waging job, like Cheeto, and I'm still like good friends 258 00:10:56,360 --> 00:10:58,600 Speaker 1: with her now love her. But everyone else for the 259 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:00,600 Speaker 1: first year like would come and go, and like I 260 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:03,560 Speaker 1: would never say, I'd have moments where felt lonely, but 261 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 1: like you, there's always gonna be someone you can go 262 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 1: and do something with, especially when you first move like 263 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:10,680 Speaker 1: but I think I just found it was very service 264 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 1: level or it was like when I was drinking, I'd 265 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:15,320 Speaker 1: just go and drink, or like they're just not people 266 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:16,920 Speaker 1: you click with, but you're hanging out with them for 267 00:11:17,000 --> 00:11:19,480 Speaker 1: convenience or to have someone to do something with. And 268 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 1: I think that's what the biggest struggle was. But then eventually, 269 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 1: I think when you I don't know, become comfortable with 270 00:11:26,280 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 1: yourself and you're just I would say, you're not looking 271 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:30,719 Speaker 1: for it as well. That sounds really crazy. Do you 272 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 1: know when you're like looking for a relationship or like 273 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: looking for something, that's when it doesn't come. I think 274 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: it's the same for friendships because I find like all 275 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:41,400 Speaker 1: of the friends that are my life now, I wasn't 276 00:11:41,440 --> 00:11:44,520 Speaker 1: looking for that friendship, Like it just randomly happened or 277 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: like them in an event or like through a friend 278 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:48,320 Speaker 1: of a friend, or like it was very organic and 279 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 1: I didn't have to chase it. And like, I know, 280 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 1: there's like apps and stuff and like Facebook groups like 281 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:55,079 Speaker 1: girls in London and like all that stuff, and I 282 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:56,760 Speaker 1: think that's great initially when you move in and I 283 00:11:56,760 --> 00:11:58,920 Speaker 1: wouldn't like shit on that. Like, I think that's cool 284 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 1: and you probably can make good friend through it. Yeah, 285 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:02,959 Speaker 1: I feel like it just takes time and you've just 286 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:05,120 Speaker 1: also got to be comfortable on your own And I 287 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 1: think that's the cool thing as well. Now I'm so 288 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:08,959 Speaker 1: happy to go and go to like a restaurant on 289 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 1: my own or like go to a movie on my own, 290 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:12,440 Speaker 1: and I think that's also a profit. 291 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:15,520 Speaker 4: That's when like friendships will blossom though, because I think 292 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:17,320 Speaker 4: you have to get to that point that you're good 293 00:12:17,360 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 4: being on your own and that like agree, especially the 294 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:21,960 Speaker 4: first year that you move somewhere as well, there's going 295 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:24,320 Speaker 4: to be exactly what you just said, like that reflection 296 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:26,760 Speaker 4: and that like self work that you have to do 297 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:27,680 Speaker 4: before you can make friends. 298 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 3: Otherwise that's why it's like so in and out. 299 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 1: But I think it's so good because it's like if 300 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:33,920 Speaker 1: I didn't have the time where I'd spend alone or 301 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 1: like even just like genuinely focusing myself, Like I think 302 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 1: that's what I did for all of last year. I 303 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 1: would say, like last year, I didn't date at all, 304 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 1: I didn't like had very like small like friendship group, 305 00:12:45,960 --> 00:12:48,080 Speaker 1: and then I just kind of focused on myself for 306 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 1: a whole year, like in terms of like my health 307 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:53,080 Speaker 1: and then like socials and just like liking myself and 308 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:55,800 Speaker 1: liking my own company. And I think, yeah, I think 309 00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 1: everyone like if you're moving to another place, like it's 310 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:00,800 Speaker 1: okay to go through a periodhere. You don't have a 311 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: massive like friendship group or circles. 312 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 4: And like, but I think it's like the best time 313 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:07,360 Speaker 4: ever hanging out with yourself. 314 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:09,120 Speaker 1: Well you learned to like your own popanie, because I 315 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:09,920 Speaker 1: don't think enough people do. 316 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 3: Oh my god, No, what about dating? What was dating? 317 00:13:14,880 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 2: Moving? 318 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:18,520 Speaker 1: To be fair, this year, the dating mate has got 319 00:13:18,559 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 1: a lot better. I've been in a couple of dates recently. 320 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: But last year it was shit, Like I think I 321 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 1: moved to London and I fucking idiot. Get this. I 322 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:30,520 Speaker 1: used to like seen in Braslings before I moved. That's 323 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:32,520 Speaker 1: how I saved art. We just worked two jobs, like 324 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:35,719 Speaker 1: fifty hours whatever. And when I was at Brasnis, I 325 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:37,240 Speaker 1: was like, I'm going to get all this laundry because 326 00:13:37,280 --> 00:13:38,960 Speaker 1: I'm going to be dating and having so much sex. 327 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 1: When I moved to London, I went a whole year celibate, 328 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 1: Like a whole fucking year. Yeah last year I had 329 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:47,920 Speaker 1: actually know I had sex months, but that was from 330 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:51,959 Speaker 1: this is so TIMI from like November till August, nothing 331 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:55,000 Speaker 1: like nothing like she said self work. 332 00:13:55,120 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, when you said self reflection, you're like self reflection 333 00:14:00,760 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 4: it because you just weren't meeting anything like. 334 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 1: You connected with my type as well. Yeah, so like 335 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: I would say, I'm not labeled now, so I I 336 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:13,200 Speaker 1: do whatever. But I think for I was only open 337 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:15,000 Speaker 1: to dating women at one point, hence why I leveled 338 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:16,960 Speaker 1: myself lesbian for the motherfuckers that are in my comments, 339 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:18,640 Speaker 1: and I ever like, you were never a lesbian. It's like, well, 340 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:20,080 Speaker 1: at one point in time, I would look at a 341 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:23,320 Speaker 1: man and be like disgusting. Yeah, like, yes, I was 342 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 1: a lesbian, like sorry, but I had no interest in men. 343 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 1: That's what a lesbian is. So that's what I was 344 00:14:29,720 --> 00:14:32,040 Speaker 1: when I first moved to London. And I think my 345 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:35,000 Speaker 1: type i've realized is very like I think I like 346 00:14:35,040 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 1: a chilled like linen set wearing long beachy hair. I 347 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:41,600 Speaker 1: heard it was a good gay scene, and I think 348 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:43,920 Speaker 1: it is a good gay sing for gay men because 349 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:46,160 Speaker 1: I have a lot of gay male friends and they 350 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 1: think the gay scene is great, and I think it 351 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 1: is for them, But I think for lesbian women or 352 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 1: like you know, like LGBT women, it's not the best scene. 353 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 1: I just think my luck last year was just not it. 354 00:14:57,240 --> 00:14:59,800 Speaker 1: But then I think as well, I also wasn't that 355 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:01,040 Speaker 1: far on it, Like I think I was for the 356 00:15:01,080 --> 00:15:04,760 Speaker 1: first two months from September October November December, so like 357 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:07,240 Speaker 1: a year and a half ago I was, and then 358 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 1: January to December I was just kind of like fuck things, 359 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:12,640 Speaker 1: like no, But then this year we've just been dabbling. 360 00:15:12,680 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 1: I went on a few dates at the start of 361 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:16,000 Speaker 1: the year with men. Actually, we'll say, if you're straight, 362 00:15:16,040 --> 00:15:18,040 Speaker 1: you probably will like the dating scene here because when 363 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: I went on the dates with the men, that was 364 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:21,920 Speaker 1: so much easier, like it was easier to find fit men. 365 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 1: I feel like they just straight to it, like they 366 00:15:25,680 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 1: ask you out straight. 367 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:28,920 Speaker 3: Away, like Australian men. 368 00:15:29,040 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's actually yeah, okay. The dating scene is 369 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 1: good for like, you know, people who are relations but 370 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:38,920 Speaker 1: then the dates they just bit like dead. You know 371 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:40,360 Speaker 1: when you go on a date and you're like, did 372 00:15:40,400 --> 00:15:43,520 Speaker 1: I have fun? Because I'm fun? But yeah that was 373 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,000 Speaker 1: every date I was like and every date I went on, 374 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:48,520 Speaker 1: not to big myself up, but I'm gonna they were 375 00:15:48,520 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 1: all like, oh wow, like you're so much fun, like 376 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:51,640 Speaker 1: that was such a great dad When you see me, 377 00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:54,280 Speaker 1: I was like, really, like what the fuck You're. 378 00:15:55,920 --> 00:15:56,680 Speaker 3: Having a good time? 379 00:15:56,800 --> 00:15:58,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was well they were because they were like 380 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: laughing my jokes and yeah, all that was, you know, 381 00:16:00,800 --> 00:16:03,320 Speaker 1: in fine form. But I was just like, this is 382 00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 1: a one man show. Here was like we needed a 383 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: two way street. 384 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, he's just a mat and green. 385 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:14,960 Speaker 4: You haven't put a deposit down before they can take 386 00:16:15,000 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 4: you on a day. 387 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 3: What's been like the best day you've ever been. 388 00:16:17,960 --> 00:16:19,000 Speaker 1: On in London? 389 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 4: Like Slim Pickens, why he said that was so sad, 390 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:28,600 Speaker 4: Slim Pickens, This is probably this one I went on 391 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:29,480 Speaker 4: with this guy. 392 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 1: Actually he looked like the Wish version of Jacob, Like 393 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:36,040 Speaker 1: he was fit, like. 394 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 3: Even he's going to be better than a lot more. 395 00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:44,520 Speaker 1: Version of that was that. 396 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 2: He was. 397 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:48,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, he was very very good looking. 398 00:16:48,840 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 4: This guy. 399 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 3: Was he really tall? 400 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:52,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, he was like he was probably like the fittest 401 00:16:52,960 --> 00:16:55,320 Speaker 1: guy like I've ever got with, Like he was fucking 402 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:58,400 Speaker 1: hot hot. But yeah, I don't know, I think that's 403 00:16:58,440 --> 00:17:00,520 Speaker 1: just really good like sexual chemistry there. And he was 404 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:03,640 Speaker 1: like very gentleman, which I liked. Yeah, yeah, nice. 405 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 4: So you mentioned you've been on a bit of a 406 00:17:05,359 --> 00:17:08,520 Speaker 4: journey you're now unlabeled. What was that like because that 407 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:11,760 Speaker 4: was like February right like earlier this year. That you 408 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 4: kind of opened yourself up a little bit, right, But 409 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 4: that was like that would have been a lot to 410 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:19,920 Speaker 4: go through, like in your head. 411 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 1: That was It was honestly such a head fuck because 412 00:17:22,480 --> 00:17:24,840 Speaker 1: I think up until like I think it was July 413 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:28,040 Speaker 1: August when I slept with security Gun i ha a 414 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:31,120 Speaker 1: gay club love that he. Until I slept with him, 415 00:17:31,119 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: I genuinely didn't I didn't have interests like yeah, it's 416 00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 1: like no, like just wouldn't do it for me. And 417 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:38,879 Speaker 1: then once I sat with him, I was a bit 418 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 1: like in my head, oh okay, like I was kind 419 00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:42,679 Speaker 1: of just a bit more open to it then obviously 420 00:17:42,680 --> 00:17:43,639 Speaker 1: I was in my head, I was like trying to 421 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:46,200 Speaker 1: close those like you know when you're gay, when you're 422 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:48,200 Speaker 1: figuring out you're gay and you're trying to squash those thoughts. 423 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 1: It was literally like that in reverse, and I was 424 00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:52,720 Speaker 1: like I was like, yeah, I was like that would 425 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 1: have been really hard for like, no, you're gay, this is. 426 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:01,280 Speaker 3: Literally no if I have rooms, okay. 427 00:18:01,640 --> 00:18:03,439 Speaker 1: And I think it was harder as well because it's 428 00:18:03,480 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 1: like I'd made my identity on TikTok as being a 429 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:09,639 Speaker 1: gay Australian in London. Like that was like my like label, 430 00:18:09,840 --> 00:18:12,720 Speaker 1: like my identity, and I think I struggled with that 431 00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:15,040 Speaker 1: because I was like, fuck, Like I had moments in 432 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:16,280 Speaker 1: my head like end of last year, I was like, 433 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:17,879 Speaker 1: am I just if I ever meet a guy, it's 434 00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:19,560 Speaker 1: gonna have to be like, no, I'm not interested even 435 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 1: if I am, because I don't want people to then 436 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:24,080 Speaker 1: think that I was ever lying. And then I was like, 437 00:18:24,280 --> 00:18:26,040 Speaker 1: went over Christmas and I was talking to my mom 438 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:27,639 Speaker 1: about kind of a bit of a breakdown at a 439 00:18:27,640 --> 00:18:30,720 Speaker 1: menty B and I was like, I think I am 440 00:18:30,760 --> 00:18:32,920 Speaker 1: interested in possibly dating a man again, Like I think 441 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:35,159 Speaker 1: I'm very much ratio and it still is more so 442 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:37,159 Speaker 1: for women. Yeah, I think long long term, I do 443 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 1: see myself with a girl, but I mean never say never, 444 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:42,480 Speaker 1: but I do think for the right guy, I could 445 00:18:42,560 --> 00:18:45,720 Speaker 1: have interest and feelings. And also like I am sexually 446 00:18:45,720 --> 00:18:49,840 Speaker 1: attracted to some men plympic ins, but some men. And 447 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:53,160 Speaker 1: then I was like, Okay, maybe I don't ever speak 448 00:18:53,160 --> 00:18:55,919 Speaker 1: about it online until I end up dating a man, 449 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 1: if that ever happens, and if it doesn't, like whatever. 450 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:00,200 Speaker 1: But then I was also like no, because I don't 451 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:03,040 Speaker 1: want to ride myself off by like if maybe a 452 00:19:03,040 --> 00:19:04,440 Speaker 1: friend of a friend thought I'd be a good match 453 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:04,920 Speaker 1: to their friend. 454 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:06,879 Speaker 3: They would never set me up because I can't just 455 00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:07,840 Speaker 3: like not be who you are. 456 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:10,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I was like, fuck it, So I made 457 00:19:10,800 --> 00:19:13,040 Speaker 1: a video on it, and then I've got a lot 458 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:15,000 Speaker 1: of nice gms to be fair people being like that's 459 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:17,200 Speaker 1: really helped me, Like I feel the same or blah blah. 460 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:18,920 Speaker 1: I'm in the same situation. Got a lot of shit 461 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 1: as well for it. 462 00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 4: Like, I think it's actually really brave that you were 463 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:27,679 Speaker 4: you know, you did come out, which sounds yeah, you 464 00:19:27,760 --> 00:19:31,159 Speaker 4: would though, because like that is really nerve wracking. Like 465 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:34,280 Speaker 4: you said, you built, you know, a brand identity surrounding 466 00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:34,840 Speaker 4: one thing. 467 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:37,480 Speaker 3: But I really. 468 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:40,080 Speaker 4: Think it's so cool when people change their mind and 469 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 4: learn and grow and like evolutionize their own lives, because 470 00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:46,040 Speaker 4: otherwise it's exactly the same, yeah and boring. 471 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:48,919 Speaker 1: Agreed, And I just yeah, I think I just think 472 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: if you don't need a label, like if you want 473 00:19:51,119 --> 00:19:52,800 Speaker 1: to put a label on it, sure, But then I 474 00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:55,600 Speaker 1: have like two friends as well who would say they say, 475 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:58,800 Speaker 1: technically I'm a lesbian, but also like, and this probably 476 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:01,360 Speaker 1: isn't helping the whole represent Like that's bad because you're 477 00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:03,600 Speaker 1: saying like you give men the opportunity to think that 478 00:20:03,640 --> 00:20:05,679 Speaker 1: they can turn a lesbian. It's like, well, if a 479 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,440 Speaker 1: man internal lesbian, maybe they weren't ever a lesbian or 480 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:11,119 Speaker 1: maybe they were at some point, but like that shit happens, 481 00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:13,479 Speaker 1: Like that's life. Like fucking no, I don't know. I 482 00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:16,000 Speaker 1: just think I don't think it's pressure on labels. 483 00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:20,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not like like you're one hundred percent lesbian, 484 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,440 Speaker 4: and like people try to math it out a little 485 00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:24,560 Speaker 4: bit and I'm like, and also just how you feel. 486 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:29,119 Speaker 2: No one person can turn someone like you have to 487 00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:33,720 Speaker 2: willingly and have those emotions. Yeah, to explore that path yourself, 488 00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:37,120 Speaker 2: Like it takes two people or whatever the relationship. 489 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:38,040 Speaker 3: Is for that to happen. 490 00:20:38,119 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 4: And like that's why it's a spectrum. Like sexuality is 491 00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:42,120 Speaker 4: such a spectrum. 492 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:43,360 Speaker 3: It's so fluid. 493 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,919 Speaker 4: Do you have any tips for anyone listening who is, 494 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:50,440 Speaker 4: you know, questioning, are a little bit confused with their sexuality. 495 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:53,879 Speaker 1: Don't put pressure on it. I think also like just 496 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 1: go on experiment to be honest, and also don't feel 497 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: pressure to put a label on it. Like if you 498 00:20:57,680 --> 00:20:59,600 Speaker 1: just want to go unlabeled, say that, Like I think 499 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:02,760 Speaker 1: I could probably say I'm bye. But that's I don't 500 00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:04,639 Speaker 1: know why it just doesn't I do. I don't like that. 501 00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:08,159 Speaker 4: I don't know why I hate the label of it 502 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:10,440 Speaker 4: because I just think as well, like I was saying, 503 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:13,800 Speaker 4: people like mathematic hit don't be the ratio? 504 00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:16,120 Speaker 1: Do you like more? 505 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:17,760 Speaker 3: And I'm like, I just like who I like. 506 00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:19,440 Speaker 4: I want to give them a smooch. I want to 507 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 4: give them a smooch, Like that's the vibe here. Yeah, yeah, 508 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:26,199 Speaker 4: And I'm like there's men who I find attractive and 509 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 4: men who I find repulsive and vice versa, like just 510 00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:30,040 Speaker 4: what it is. 511 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:35,400 Speaker 1: I'd also add, though, don't feel pressure to like make 512 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,480 Speaker 1: it a big thing, Like I think there's so much 513 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 1: pressure and I felt like when I was younger, like fuck, 514 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:41,560 Speaker 1: if I come out, it's going to be this big 515 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:42,920 Speaker 1: thing and I got to make a big deal or 516 00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:45,080 Speaker 1: even if I don't want to. But you can, like 517 00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:47,760 Speaker 1: if you are like by like asexual whatever it is, 518 00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 1: like non binary, you can just like be I don't 519 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,359 Speaker 1: have to tell you one by one casually combo, just 520 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: drop it. If you don't make it a big deal, 521 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:55,159 Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be if you want to make 522 00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:56,880 Speaker 1: it a big deal, like go on, go off, as 523 00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 1: you should, but if you don't want to, like, that's 524 00:21:58,600 --> 00:21:59,040 Speaker 1: so fine. 525 00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:02,359 Speaker 2: Switching gears here a little. Okay, so you're moving back 526 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 2: to Australia. What influenced that decision? Was that always the plan? 527 00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:09,240 Speaker 1: No, it was not always the plan. So I was 528 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:11,520 Speaker 1: gonna do a year, wasn't I was gonna do one 529 00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:12,919 Speaker 1: year when I first meew too, because I was like, oh, 530 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:14,639 Speaker 1: this is actually awful, and I was going to do 531 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 1: yacht work. But then social media took off and I 532 00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:18,960 Speaker 1: was like, oh, okay, it's not that bad. And then 533 00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:22,160 Speaker 1: I probably, like when I sat with the manager, was like, okay, 534 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:23,560 Speaker 1: I can do three years because that's how long I 535 00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:25,720 Speaker 1: can stay with the visa. I'm on, like I can extend. 536 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 1: So I've done two years. That's my visa up, but 537 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:29,720 Speaker 1: I can pay to extend it. But yeah, then I 538 00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,399 Speaker 1: was like, okay, I'll stay three years because I'm like 539 00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:33,080 Speaker 1: earning like a nice amount of money and like I'm 540 00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:35,600 Speaker 1: trying to progress and like do lex something with a 541 00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:38,439 Speaker 1: career and like that kind of thing. And then I 542 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:42,480 Speaker 1: went back home in December over Christmas for six weeks, 543 00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:44,679 Speaker 1: and I kept extending. I seemed to change my flights 544 00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:47,439 Speaker 1: twice and I was like, I missed the sun, I 545 00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:51,240 Speaker 1: miss home, I miss feeling safe. And then I got 546 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,560 Speaker 1: back to London. My friend asked me one day we're 547 00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:55,280 Speaker 1: at coffee and she goes, you actually want to stay 548 00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:57,199 Speaker 1: because you keep telling me on to do listens to 549 00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:59,040 Speaker 1: extend your visa and you've put it off for months now, 550 00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:01,480 Speaker 1: And I was like, actually, don't eat, like I deeped it. 551 00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:03,040 Speaker 1: And I think I needed someone to ask me that 552 00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:05,679 Speaker 1: to realize I don't love London that much. Like I 553 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 1: love my life here. I do love my life. I 554 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 1: love my friends, I love my hairdresser. I love like. 555 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:18,959 Speaker 2: The culture, history, the food, my hairdress. 556 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:22,480 Speaker 1: I like my like my day to day, like my job. 557 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,159 Speaker 1: But like I just like my life here. But I 558 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:30,360 Speaker 1: don't like London, like I don't actually like the city itself, 559 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:32,080 Speaker 1: like I just like my life. And so I was 560 00:23:32,119 --> 00:23:35,080 Speaker 1: like when I told everyone there, like you're an idiot, 561 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:36,920 Speaker 1: Like why are you going home? With like what you're 562 00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:39,280 Speaker 1: doing now? Like you living it good? Like why would 563 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,399 Speaker 1: you not stay? And it's like slip, do what I 564 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:41,840 Speaker 1: want to do. 565 00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:46,119 Speaker 4: What's like the most overrated thing about London? We'll do 566 00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,240 Speaker 4: overrated and underrated, overrated. 567 00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:54,320 Speaker 1: I feel like I think unless you're like on a 568 00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:58,640 Speaker 1: really good wage and you are living in a really 569 00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,359 Speaker 1: nice area, it's not that great like to visit. Sure, 570 00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: Like I feel like I've visited for a week. You 571 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,080 Speaker 1: guys might not mind it, but I what do I 572 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,480 Speaker 1: like about it? I like her closest the rest of 573 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:10,639 Speaker 1: yourop but like that's not even London, Like that's just 574 00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:12,879 Speaker 1: because I can travel somewhere else, but I would. 575 00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:14,840 Speaker 3: Like I can get away. 576 00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:17,600 Speaker 1: But I will say, like I do respect the city 577 00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:19,680 Speaker 1: because it's given me so much, and like it's helped 578 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,359 Speaker 1: me so much, and like, without it be fucked. But 579 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:26,399 Speaker 1: then was it underrated? Yeah, oh, I'll say they have 580 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:28,879 Speaker 1: really good cafes. That's but I don't even know if 581 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:29,520 Speaker 1: that's underrated. 582 00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:35,280 Speaker 4: Doubt five musical It was really funny. 583 00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:38,800 Speaker 2: But I actually do think that the cafe culture is underrated, right, 584 00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 2: because so many people were saying, like, oh, the coffee 585 00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:44,879 Speaker 2: is so shit in Europe and also in London, and 586 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:48,000 Speaker 2: I was like, fuck, because I need cafe to survive. 587 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:50,600 Speaker 2: And since we've got here, I'm like, this is the 588 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:52,119 Speaker 2: best coffee we've had the whole trip. 589 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:56,480 Speaker 1: It's not bad, it's good too, Agreed. I think yeah, 590 00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:58,199 Speaker 1: I could say the food and the drinks. 591 00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:01,600 Speaker 4: I think we're also spoiled because like Australia is so 592 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:06,000 Speaker 4: amazing and we are so we have such incredible you know, 593 00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 4: food and people and you know, if you'l say of 594 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:12,159 Speaker 4: cultures and such, like, it's a lot safer than a 595 00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:15,439 Speaker 4: lot of other places that like, we are probably spoiled 596 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:17,800 Speaker 4: for choice. Like we're talking this morning about like if 597 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:19,359 Speaker 4: we would ever move to another city, and I was 598 00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:21,119 Speaker 4: like when I was younger, probably, but now I'm just 599 00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 4: like I do course. 600 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:28,240 Speaker 3: Literally. 601 00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:32,040 Speaker 4: We've also had a really serious question. That's how I 602 00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:36,640 Speaker 4: wanted to ask. Do you want to say no, it's 603 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:40,000 Speaker 4: really serious. It's definitely not really serious when you say that. 604 00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 3: Trigger warning every okay, serious question. 605 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:48,440 Speaker 2: What is your top five ranking of the most satisfying 606 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:49,520 Speaker 2: fruits to cut? 607 00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:54,720 Speaker 1: Oh? I like that question serious. I'd say pineapple and 608 00:25:54,960 --> 00:26:01,160 Speaker 1: one really I think it's like, you know, no, when 609 00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:05,520 Speaker 1: you carve it right like it's nice. Yeah, yeah, when 610 00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:10,200 Speaker 1: it's just right over, I'd say so pineapple. Then I'd 611 00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 1: say rock melon next. I think like kind of cving 612 00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:17,320 Speaker 1: that it's really satisfying. Scoop in the goop. 613 00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:20,119 Speaker 4: Out Scoop in theopos, and. 614 00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:25,360 Speaker 1: Then probably watermelon, you know, classic but a bit boring, just. 615 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:30,320 Speaker 4: Kind of melon gets everywhere, the juice everywhere. 616 00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:34,920 Speaker 1: It's just a bit boring. It's just like same action. 617 00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 1: And then I don't really one of the fruit, like 618 00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:39,840 Speaker 1: banana that's fun to peel, but like that's not cut that, 619 00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:42,879 Speaker 1: it's just opening it. And then what are the fruits 620 00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:44,800 Speaker 1: are there? To be honest that I eat? No, I 621 00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:45,880 Speaker 1: do a lot of veggies. 622 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:51,000 Speaker 2: Well, I'm really glad that we got that sorted and confirmed, 623 00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:53,160 Speaker 2: and then we're gonna get toss in just like another 624 00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:56,000 Speaker 2: question that's not as important, but what's your biggest life 625 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:56,960 Speaker 2: lessons so far? 626 00:26:57,480 --> 00:27:00,960 Speaker 1: I would say this is cringe, but it's true. I 627 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:05,240 Speaker 1: feel like you can do so so cringe anything you 628 00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:07,760 Speaker 1: put your mind to, and the any person telling you 629 00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:10,200 Speaker 1: knows yourself. Like if you want to do something, you 630 00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,760 Speaker 1: so can, Like don't live to the expectations for the people. 631 00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:14,560 Speaker 1: Like if you don't want to go to UNI, don't 632 00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,119 Speaker 1: fucking go to Unie. Like if you want to go travel, 633 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,400 Speaker 1: go travel, Like if there's a will, there's a way, 634 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,400 Speaker 1: Like yes, there might be limitations, there might be set 635 00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:24,280 Speaker 1: backs and people telling you no or yourself telling you no. 636 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:28,879 Speaker 1: But like anything you I liked wholehearted. Do this anything 637 00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,760 Speaker 1: you really really want life you can get if you yes, 638 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:33,600 Speaker 1: it might for some take a year for someone, might 639 00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:36,119 Speaker 1: take ten if you have kids, or like whatever your 640 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,560 Speaker 1: circumstances are. But I think if there's a will, there's 641 00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:40,800 Speaker 1: a way, And like the only person telling yourself no 642 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:43,280 Speaker 1: is you so yeah, I don't know. 643 00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:43,919 Speaker 3: I love that. 644 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,480 Speaker 2: I feel like that's been the theme of the entire episode, 645 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:50,439 Speaker 2: which is beautiful. Perhaps a nice little bo on the 646 00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:53,320 Speaker 2: episode that thank you so much for coming in. 647 00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:55,120 Speaker 3: It has been an absolute pleasure. 648 00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:56,439 Speaker 1: Thanks for having me. 649 00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:58,760 Speaker 2: For any of the chicks who don't follow you already, 650 00:27:58,800 --> 00:27:59,600 Speaker 2: where can they find you? 651 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:06,560 Speaker 1: That's really rude. First of all, a right, what are 652 00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:11,919 Speaker 1: you doing? Just on TikTok Instagram, just Emily Brogan Emily 653 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:13,720 Speaker 1: Brogan from brisbegan. 654 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,639 Speaker 2: Well rap, Thanks guys, thank you so much for coming in, 655 00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:22,320 Speaker 2: and thanks to your chicks for having us in your 656 00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:25,119 Speaker 2: ear holes. We love to be here. And thank you 657 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:29,600 Speaker 2: to Spotify London Baby by Happiness, and also to m 658 00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,920 Speaker 2: I k Made for making today's episode happened by check 659 00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:33,960 Speaker 2: byeos