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Speaker 1: Am I a Bad Mum Podcast? Hope holidays went well?
Speaker 3: School holidays? Aren't they a treat? Everyone's breathing that big
Speaker 3: sigh of relief as the kids skip off to school
Speaker 3: again for another term.
Speaker 2: Did they skip off to school though, or did they
Speaker 2: kind of like stumble their way there, going.
Speaker 1: I can't buy my other shoe.
Speaker 2: And I did the whole Make sure you've got all
Speaker 2: your stuff organized, make sure you know where both your
Speaker 2: shoes are, make sure you know your hats are.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I did the same thing. I was, like, I
Speaker 3: said to both of them as they were going to
Speaker 3: bed the night before school going back, At least you
Speaker 3: could do would be to get your school bag out
Speaker 3: of the cupboard that's been in there for two weeks
Speaker 3: and hope to God that there is no food, no
Speaker 3: old water bottles, no leftover sports gear that still smells.
Speaker 3: Because I usually go through on the last day and
Speaker 3: clear out the bag, and I did not those holidays.
Speaker 2: Allowing them to figure that out themselves. Oh morning off,
Speaker 2: Oh your old lunchbox is still in there with the
Speaker 2: moldy food from two weeks ago.
Speaker 3: Honestly, anything could have been in there. The least you
Speaker 3: could do the night before would be to get your
Speaker 3: bags out of the cupboard and check that your stuff
Speaker 3: is basically ready to go.
Speaker 2: Am I bad mum for not worrying about my kids.
Speaker 3: Just in general. Well, is the back end of holidays.
Speaker 2: There was an incident where they pulled me up and
Speaker 2: I was like, oh shit, yeah, I just was completely
Speaker 2: thinking about myself, which is such not a mum thing
Speaker 2: to do. But I'm going to start off this actually
Speaker 2: with just explaining something a little bit more serious that
Speaker 2: happened over the holidays, in that someone tried to break
Speaker 2: into our house. So we were away and we had
Speaker 2: a girl who was house sitting for us and feeding
Speaker 2: the pets and all the rest of.
Speaker 1: It, which was great.
Speaker 2: She sends me a message whilst we were away saying, hey,
Speaker 2: think my car got broken into last night. Any chance
Speaker 2: she could check your cameras. So I'm like, oh shit,
Speaker 2: I'm checking the cameras and I've gone back and I'm
Speaker 2: like there's literally nothing. Like I've gone back the whole
Speaker 2: night and I cannot find anything. She was like, it's
Speaker 2: definitely been broken into. I've called the police. I'm not
Speaker 2: gonna touch it. I'm just gonna wait and see, you know,
Speaker 2: make sure I don't put any fingerprints on it and
Speaker 2: all the rest of it. And I was like, this
Speaker 2: is really weird. Like I'm looking at the camera and
Speaker 2: there's literally nothing. You know why, right, Because it happened
Speaker 2: at seven point thirty that morning. I was not thinking
Speaker 2: someone's trying to break into the house with two cars
Speaker 2: in the driveway at seven point thirty in the morning,
Speaker 2: neighbors are out, bright sunshine on.
Speaker 3: Daylight, gord daylight.
Speaker 2: And the reason that I'm telling this story is because
Speaker 2: I want mums to be aware, because the police actually
Speaker 2: told us that it's a very common time for people
Speaker 2: to break in around that seven thirty eight am kind
Speaker 2: of time, and the reason being because mums are getting
Speaker 2: kids ready for school, and the amount of times you
Speaker 2: get into the car and you go, oh shit, I
Speaker 2: forgot the lunch box, and then you run in to
Speaker 2: get the lunch box, leave your car unlocked, possibly possibly
Speaker 2: leave your front door unlocked. That's when they're coming in
Speaker 2: and getting stuff.
Speaker 1: Yeah, right, yeah.
Speaker 2: And the other time that's really popular apparently now is
Speaker 2: four pm. Same thing that kind of get in between in.
Speaker 3: Between the in between rush of getting home, unpacking, grabbing.
Speaker 2: The sports stuff for the after school activities, that kind
Speaker 2: of thing. So this guy rage honestly didn't even try
Speaker 2: to look not dodgy, like full dodgy black tracksuit, hood up,
Speaker 2: wearing a glove so that he obviously couldn't leave any fingerprints.
Speaker 2: He's come down our driveway. He's been startled by a
Speaker 2: neighbor opening their garage door. He's hopped over the fence,
Speaker 2: he's gone into our back garden. You can see him
Speaker 2: Rache peering around because he can see the person in
Speaker 2: the house.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know he's peering.
Speaker 2: Around, and then he still goes to try and unlock
Speaker 2: the back doors and the side laundry.
Speaker 3: Door, Yeah, whilst watching the person and outside.
Speaker 2: So my thing was like, I spent honestly days going
Speaker 2: what the fuck would have happened if that door was open? Yeah,
Speaker 2: one of the doors was unlocked. You could see him
Speaker 2: in the video opening.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my.
Speaker 2: God, oh my god, he's opening the door. Luckily safe
Speaker 2: was locked. But how many times do you have your
Speaker 2: back door unlocked while you're home? And that's exactly why
Speaker 2: they're coming.
Speaker 1: In at those times. Yeah, right, So public service safety.
Speaker 3: And announcement, Katie's on it.
Speaker 2: Lock your car if you have to pop back in,
Speaker 2: because if we've gotten something for school, lock your car,
Speaker 2: lock your front door, lock your back doors.
Speaker 1: It's sad that we have to do that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'm not like taking the safety message away
Speaker 3: from this, but I mean, if you're having that kind
Speaker 3: of day and your kids are still in the car,
Speaker 3: do you have to lock it then or just hope.
Speaker 2: That Honestly, he would have tried to take the car
Speaker 2: with the kids, He would have returned it really.
Speaker 3: Quickly at the moment, would be heavily returned quite quickly
Speaker 3: with the car.
Speaker 1: Take the car back, here's your keys. I thought this
Speaker 1: would be a great idea.
Speaker 3: I've changed your mind.
Speaker 1: I don't think I really want to do this.
Speaker 2: So the worrying about my kids thing is that this
Speaker 2: morning was the first morning that I was in the
Speaker 2: house by myself, and I found it a bit traumatic,
Speaker 2: the thinking about someone being right there in my backyard. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like it's just safe space. I could see him trying
Speaker 2: all of our doors like that.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: It's affected me quite a bit, like I've become a
Speaker 2: little bit paranoid, but like, I didn't want to hang
Speaker 2: washing out on my washing line for a good few
Speaker 2: days because that's you know where he was, That's where
Speaker 2: he jumped over the fence. Like it just I don't know,
Speaker 2: it just freaked me out a little bit. But I've
Speaker 2: been okay. But I realized that I've been okay because
Speaker 2: there's always been someone else in the house. This morning
Speaker 2: was the first time that I was going to be
Speaker 2: in the house by myself.
Speaker 3: Rach.
Speaker 2: Honestly, I went and had a shower and put the
Speaker 2: alarm on downstairs. Whilst I was in the shower, You're like,
Speaker 2: I just gonna I was watching the camera because we
Speaker 2: got all new cameras. People that alert you, Yeah, because
Speaker 2: that was the problem, Like we had those security cameras,
Speaker 2: but it didn't alert me.
Speaker 1: So I didn't think I needed to have a look back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: until she said that her car was broken into.
Speaker 2: And so now we've got all these new cameras. Honestly,
Speaker 2: just but I've put the shower on to get warm,
Speaker 2: I'm checking the driveway.
Speaker 1: It's just some neurotic But.
Speaker 2: It's funny because Day said to the girls as he
Speaker 2: was taking them to school, he said, oh, Mom's a
Speaker 2: bit nervous. They were like, why is she nervous? He said,
Speaker 2: she's a bit nervous because it's the first time she's
Speaker 2: been in the house by herself. They turned around today
Speaker 2: and they went.
Speaker 1: Well, she left us in the house by ourselves all
Speaker 1: last week.
Speaker 3: Were they all right? They've done well off the back
Speaker 3: of this.
Speaker 1: They were fine. They were surprisingly fine.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I definitely thought that there would be some kind of
Speaker 2: back to the days of I'm not staying home by
Speaker 2: myself and calling me what time are you coming home?
Speaker 1: That kind of thing.
Speaker 3: That's what I thought, at least one of them. I
Speaker 3: thought we'd have that much. I would have going. Actually,
Speaker 3: I'm going to think of it, probably not keen to
Speaker 3: stay by ourselves.
Speaker 2: I found it quite strange. I mean, it's good that
Speaker 2: they're not scared, but I kind of fully expected them
Speaker 2: to be. And I was having a chat to one
Speaker 2: of my neighbors about it, and she was like, yeah, well,
Speaker 2: probably because their brain isn't going to the places where
Speaker 2: your brain is in that he was right here. What
Speaker 2: would have happened if that door was unlocked, she was
Speaker 2: in the.
Speaker 3: House and he was carrying something, wasn't he he was
Speaker 3: carrying a weapon or something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think he was carrying a knife. You can
Speaker 1: see it happened.
Speaker 2: How traumatic for the girl that was housted in for
Speaker 2: us if he had gone in whilst she was there.
Speaker 3: And nothing sort of deterred him either. I mean, not
Speaker 3: that your dog is very deterrent, but the noise that
Speaker 3: a dog can make can sometimes deter the fact that
Speaker 3: they'll either stay or go. Kind of thing.
Speaker 1: Our dog you can see in the camera. Oh dog
Speaker 1: is chased.
Speaker 2: It's running around after him, barking, like play with me.
Speaker 2: I'm so glad he didn't, like because because she's a
Speaker 2: tiny dog, you could have.
Speaker 3: Just That's what I was, like, I'm about to get
Speaker 3: wild if he touches her. But when do you think
Speaker 3: it's going to be enough time for you to feel
Speaker 3: comfortable again and safe enough in your own home, Like
Speaker 3: is it time that sort of holds that key to
Speaker 3: feeling comfortable again and not sort of on edge as
Speaker 3: much that you're checking a camera whilst showering.
Speaker 2: Like it's because I was blow drying my hair. Age
Speaker 2: kept thinking I've got the hair drawer and I can't
Speaker 2: hear if someone's coming up into the room, like I
Speaker 2: just kept thinking that. I think it's just because we
Speaker 2: get a bit complacent. I think, as we should feel
Speaker 2: safe in our own homes, we feel safe, and then
Speaker 2: when something like this happens, it's like WHOA like this
Speaker 2: can happen kind of thing. Absolutely, It's funny because I
Speaker 2: got a bit emotional last week and I was like,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 1: I'm going to record a video.
Speaker 2: I'm going to say what I need to say, and
Speaker 2: I don't want to get into a whole you know,
Speaker 2: this is not about politics or the government or who's
Speaker 2: in power or whatever, but it is about who's in
Speaker 2: charge of what happens to these people. Because technically he
Speaker 2: didn't steal anything. He didn't get into the house because
Speaker 2: we had the doors locked, but he had every intention
Speaker 2: of going in. And it's not just about what he steals.
Speaker 2: It's about you as people and how traumatic that is
Speaker 2: and what your mind then does afterwards in terms of
Speaker 2: not feeling safe, feeling a bit violated, someone's been in
Speaker 2: his space, like all that kind of stuff. And so
Speaker 2: I did this video which I was going to post
Speaker 2: on Instagram. It was twelve minutes long. So I mean,
Speaker 2: I'm no Instagram expert. But you know, I even know
Speaker 2: that twelve minutes probably a bit much and rage. Honestly,
Speaker 2: it's probably just therapy in itself.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: I did this video. I got really emotional and I
Speaker 1: was like, I can't hang my watching out.
Speaker 2: I'm scared to go into back guard, like I don't
Speaker 2: want the doors. I locked on my home and did
Speaker 2: this whole video, and then I got Holly to watch
Speaker 2: it because I wanted her to edit it. And she's
Speaker 2: good at that stuff because she's fifteen and I know nothing,
Speaker 2: and so I wait, can you just like edit this
Speaker 2: in cap cup, make it a bit shorter. And then
Speaker 2: she got to the end of it and no one,
Speaker 2: what did you think? And she went Honestly, I went, yeah,
Speaker 2: she went, I would watch that video on Instagram and
Speaker 2: I'd go, oh, poor you in your privileged house, crying
Speaker 2: about someone being in your garden. I was like, okay,
Speaker 2: I won't post it then, and just an FYI, I
Speaker 2: really am quite sad about someone being in my garden,
Speaker 2: my garden.
Speaker 3: I love the way that she thinks. When we spoke
Speaker 3: about it and I said to you, you said, what
Speaker 3: do you think I should do? Should I post it?
Speaker 3: And I was like, I think you should get a
Speaker 3: cup of tea. I think you should sit and watch
Speaker 3: the twelve minutes and tell me whether you want to
Speaker 3: post it, because that is probably just a bit of therapy,
Speaker 3: you know, like some people are in journals. You took
Speaker 3: a video and it's probably good for you to get
Speaker 3: it out. Yep. So just sit in a moment of reflection,
Speaker 3: have a cup of tea.
Speaker 1: And just let this one slide.
Speaker 3: To let it slide. Polly has gone in with an
Speaker 3: absolute brutal mind,