WEBVTT - Mojo Monday - How to Keep Going When Your Mind Tells You to Stop

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<v Speaker 1>Hi everyone, Carly Taylor here for this week's Mojo Monday.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm going to start today with a bit of

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<v Speaker 1>self disclosure about something that happened to me the other morning,

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<v Speaker 1>and I haven't actually told anybody about this, so you

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<v Speaker 1>are the first to know. So I was doing a

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<v Speaker 1>CrossFit workout and it was a really, really tough workout.

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<v Speaker 1>It was very high cardio, and I'd woken up tired anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>so my energy was low. I had actually considered not going,

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<v Speaker 1>but I went because I knew I would feel great afterwards.

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<v Speaker 1>But it felt even It felt even tougher than usual,

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, because I was tired, and in the

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<v Speaker 1>middle of the workout, I started feeling really stressed. So

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<v Speaker 1>my adrenaline was pumping and my heart was pounding, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was breathing really heavily, And while I was jumping

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<v Speaker 1>over a barbell doing barbel facing burpies, I felt like

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<v Speaker 1>it was actually at the beginning of a minor panic attack,

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<v Speaker 1>which is something I've experienced a couple of times before,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's really not a common thing. And then my

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<v Speaker 1>mind piped up telling me that everyone else in the

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<v Speaker 1>gym was bitter and stronger and younger and more capable

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<v Speaker 1>than me, and honestly, I actually felt like bursting into tears.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't know if anyone listening has experienced this

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<v Speaker 1>in an exercise context, but doing high intensity strain training

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<v Speaker 1>can bring on a stress response because you are putting

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<v Speaker 1>your body under stress. It's you know, the adrenaline is high,

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<v Speaker 1>and your heart rate is up, and your sweating and

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<v Speaker 1>your breathing is fast, and it's actually a good kind

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<v Speaker 1>of situation. That is, or an analogy, that's what can

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<v Speaker 1>happen when you have a panic attack. So I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I would tell you how I responded to it. So

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<v Speaker 1>of course my immediate response was, oh my god, what

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<v Speaker 1>is happening. I don't want this. I need it to stop.

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<v Speaker 1>This is embarrassing. I need to keep going. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I caught myself because I knew through all the work

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<v Speaker 1>that I've done that if I put my attention on

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<v Speaker 1>these sensations I was feeling, or the self defeating thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>that were racing through my mind, I would have a

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<v Speaker 1>panic attack and I would burst into tears. I knew

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<v Speaker 1>that putting my energy, my focus, my attention on trying

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<v Speaker 1>to stop feeling like this would be counterproductive because I

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<v Speaker 1>know that where our attention goes, the energy flows. So

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<v Speaker 1>instead of trying to control or suppress these thoughts and sensations,

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<v Speaker 1>I intentionally shifted my focus. I started to think about

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<v Speaker 1>the purpose of being there. I reminded myself of the

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<v Speaker 1>positive benefits this discomfort has on my health and my

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<v Speaker 1>mental health and the aging process, which are all reasons

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<v Speaker 1>why I work out in the first place. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>about the meaning behind the tough workout, it's my why.

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<v Speaker 1>And as I did that, I wasn't focused on the

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<v Speaker 1>anxious feelings anymore, and they began to dissipate. I was

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<v Speaker 1>able to go back into the workout and I finished it.

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<v Speaker 1>And the truth is I was one of the oldest

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<v Speaker 1>and the slowest in the room that dwelling on that

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<v Speaker 1>thought wasn't helpful to my purpose for being there. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's the takeaway. We will all feel anxious or panicked

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<v Speaker 1>at some point this year. Some will feel it more

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<v Speaker 1>than others, but it's inevitable because it's part of being human.

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<v Speaker 1>We will all feel that racing heart, the clammy hands,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe the stomach pain. We will all have unhelpful, self

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<v Speaker 1>defeating thoughts that if we allow them to can stop

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<v Speaker 1>us from being present with our kids and loved ones,

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<v Speaker 1>stop us from being consistent with our habits, stop us

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<v Speaker 1>from experiencing life and doing the very thing that will

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<v Speaker 1>help us to adapt and grow. And this all takes training.

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<v Speaker 1>It takes training to develop this skill of attention. And

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<v Speaker 1>by using our attention and connecting with our purpose means

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<v Speaker 1>that we can stay engaged in life even when it's tough.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is how we don't miss out on the

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<v Speaker 1>things that are important to us. And each challenge is

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<v Speaker 1>an opportunity for growth rather than a threat to avoid.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's about developing the capacity and the mindset to

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<v Speaker 1>acknowledge and make room for the discomfort while taking purposeful action.

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<v Speaker 1>So with all the goal setting and intentions that we've

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<v Speaker 1>made for twenty twenty five, we need to expect these obstacles,

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<v Speaker 1>Expect the hurdles, especially the hurdles that are in our

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<v Speaker 1>head head. So when they show up, here's some questions

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<v Speaker 1>that you can ask yourself that could be helpful. What

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<v Speaker 1>can I control in this situation? And here's a hint.

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<v Speaker 1>You cannot control your automatic emotions and thoughts. They come

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<v Speaker 1>and they go in their own good time. But trying

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<v Speaker 1>to control them is counterproductive and often makes things worse.

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<v Speaker 1>Next question is what needs to be done right now?

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<v Speaker 1>What do I need to do that's aligned with my purpose,

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<v Speaker 1>with what's truly important to me despite these emotions showing up?

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<v Speaker 1>Another question, how can I stay committed to what matters

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<v Speaker 1>most here? And what are the opportunities for growth that

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<v Speaker 1>this challenge may offer. We have to train ourselves and

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<v Speaker 1>develop the capacity to keep going when things get tough.

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<v Speaker 1>And what happened to me the other day? It seems

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<v Speaker 1>like such a small, kind of insignificant moment during a workout,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was an opportunity for me to practice this

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<v Speaker 1>skill of attention. And these opportunities they show up in

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<v Speaker 1>everyday lives. They are the baby steps or the opportunity

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<v Speaker 1>to take baby steps of training your mindset and that

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<v Speaker 1>muscle of attentional control and control what you can control,

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<v Speaker 1>keep your attention on what matters and keep moving forward.

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<v Speaker 1>And Marisa Shona Marita reminds us accept your feelings, know

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<v Speaker 1>your purpose, and do what needs to be done. And

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<v Speaker 1>this sounds really simple, but often simple doesn't mean it's

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<v Speaker 1>not hard to do. And this is a hard thing

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<v Speaker 1>to do, but with practice. This is how we can

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<v Speaker 1>live well. This is how we can live a rich

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<v Speaker 1>and full life. It's how we get stronger, not just physically,

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<v Speaker 1>but mentally and emotionally. So find those small moments and

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<v Speaker 1>use them to train your attention and therefore training that

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<v Speaker 1>inner resilience. So great week everyone, and I will catch

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<v Speaker 1>you next week. See yup.