1 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 1: Hi everyone, Carly Taylor here for this week's Mojo Monday. 2 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: So I'm going to start today with a bit of 3 00:00:15,400 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: self disclosure about something that happened to me the other morning, 4 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:22,720 Speaker 1: and I haven't actually told anybody about this, so you 5 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 1: are the first to know. So I was doing a 6 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: CrossFit workout and it was a really, really tough workout. 7 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: It was very high cardio, and I'd woken up tired anyway, 8 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:37,840 Speaker 1: so my energy was low. I had actually considered not going, 9 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 1: but I went because I knew I would feel great afterwards. 10 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 1: But it felt even It felt even tougher than usual, 11 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 1: I would say, because I was tired, and in the 12 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 1: middle of the workout, I started feeling really stressed. So 13 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: my adrenaline was pumping and my heart was pounding, and 14 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: I was breathing really heavily, And while I was jumping 15 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: over a barbell doing barbel facing burpies, I felt like 16 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:06,679 Speaker 1: it was actually at the beginning of a minor panic attack, 17 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 1: which is something I've experienced a couple of times before, 18 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: but it's really not a common thing. And then my 19 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:17,039 Speaker 1: mind piped up telling me that everyone else in the 20 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: gym was bitter and stronger and younger and more capable 21 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:24,720 Speaker 1: than me, and honestly, I actually felt like bursting into tears. 22 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: And I don't know if anyone listening has experienced this 23 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: in an exercise context, but doing high intensity strain training 24 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:39,639 Speaker 1: can bring on a stress response because you are putting 25 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:43,399 Speaker 1: your body under stress. It's you know, the adrenaline is high, 26 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: and your heart rate is up, and your sweating and 27 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: your breathing is fast, and it's actually a good kind 28 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: of situation. That is, or an analogy, that's what can 29 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:59,120 Speaker 1: happen when you have a panic attack. So I thought 30 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 1: I would tell you how I responded to it. So 31 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: of course my immediate response was, oh my god, what 32 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: is happening. I don't want this. I need it to stop. 33 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 1: This is embarrassing. I need to keep going. And then 34 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: I caught myself because I knew through all the work 35 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: that I've done that if I put my attention on 36 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: these sensations I was feeling, or the self defeating thoughts 37 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:26,560 Speaker 1: that were racing through my mind, I would have a 38 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 1: panic attack and I would burst into tears. I knew 39 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: that putting my energy, my focus, my attention on trying 40 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: to stop feeling like this would be counterproductive because I 41 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:43,920 Speaker 1: know that where our attention goes, the energy flows. So 42 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:48,959 Speaker 1: instead of trying to control or suppress these thoughts and sensations, 43 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:54,640 Speaker 1: I intentionally shifted my focus. I started to think about 44 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:58,640 Speaker 1: the purpose of being there. I reminded myself of the 45 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: positive benefits this discomfort has on my health and my 46 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 1: mental health and the aging process, which are all reasons 47 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:09,800 Speaker 1: why I work out in the first place. I thought 48 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 1: about the meaning behind the tough workout, it's my why. 49 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 1: And as I did that, I wasn't focused on the 50 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 1: anxious feelings anymore, and they began to dissipate. I was 51 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: able to go back into the workout and I finished it. 52 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 1: And the truth is I was one of the oldest 53 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 1: and the slowest in the room that dwelling on that 54 00:03:29,720 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 1: thought wasn't helpful to my purpose for being there. And 55 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 1: that's the takeaway. We will all feel anxious or panicked 56 00:03:37,160 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: at some point this year. Some will feel it more 57 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 1: than others, but it's inevitable because it's part of being human. 58 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: We will all feel that racing heart, the clammy hands, 59 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:54,000 Speaker 1: maybe the stomach pain. We will all have unhelpful, self 60 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: defeating thoughts that if we allow them to can stop 61 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: us from being present with our kids and loved ones, 62 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 1: stop us from being consistent with our habits, stop us 63 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 1: from experiencing life and doing the very thing that will 64 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 1: help us to adapt and grow. And this all takes training. 65 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: It takes training to develop this skill of attention. And 66 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: by using our attention and connecting with our purpose means 67 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 1: that we can stay engaged in life even when it's tough. 68 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:30,359 Speaker 1: And this is how we don't miss out on the 69 00:04:30,400 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 1: things that are important to us. And each challenge is 70 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 1: an opportunity for growth rather than a threat to avoid. 71 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 1: And it's about developing the capacity and the mindset to 72 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: acknowledge and make room for the discomfort while taking purposeful action. 73 00:04:48,600 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 1: So with all the goal setting and intentions that we've 74 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 1: made for twenty twenty five, we need to expect these obstacles, 75 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: Expect the hurdles, especially the hurdles that are in our 76 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 1: head head. So when they show up, here's some questions 77 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 1: that you can ask yourself that could be helpful. What 78 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:11,279 Speaker 1: can I control in this situation? And here's a hint. 79 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 1: You cannot control your automatic emotions and thoughts. They come 80 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:18,960 Speaker 1: and they go in their own good time. But trying 81 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 1: to control them is counterproductive and often makes things worse. 82 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:27,039 Speaker 1: Next question is what needs to be done right now? 83 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 1: What do I need to do that's aligned with my purpose, 84 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 1: with what's truly important to me despite these emotions showing up? 85 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: Another question, how can I stay committed to what matters 86 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: most here? And what are the opportunities for growth that 87 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:46,920 Speaker 1: this challenge may offer. We have to train ourselves and 88 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 1: develop the capacity to keep going when things get tough. 89 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: And what happened to me the other day? It seems 90 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 1: like such a small, kind of insignificant moment during a workout, 91 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 1: but it was an opportunity for me to practice this 92 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:05,839 Speaker 1: skill of attention. And these opportunities they show up in 93 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 1: everyday lives. They are the baby steps or the opportunity 94 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 1: to take baby steps of training your mindset and that 95 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:18,320 Speaker 1: muscle of attentional control and control what you can control, 96 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:21,599 Speaker 1: keep your attention on what matters and keep moving forward. 97 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:27,359 Speaker 1: And Marisa Shona Marita reminds us accept your feelings, know 98 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 1: your purpose, and do what needs to be done. And 99 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 1: this sounds really simple, but often simple doesn't mean it's 100 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 1: not hard to do. And this is a hard thing 101 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: to do, but with practice. This is how we can 102 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:44,160 Speaker 1: live well. This is how we can live a rich 103 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 1: and full life. It's how we get stronger, not just physically, 104 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:53,440 Speaker 1: but mentally and emotionally. So find those small moments and 105 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 1: use them to train your attention and therefore training that 106 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:02,279 Speaker 1: inner resilience. So great week everyone, and I will catch 107 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 1: you next week. See yup.