WEBVTT - Lets tighten up this ship!

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<v Speaker 1>Appod Shape Production. Welcome back to you another episode about

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<v Speaker 1>my Bad Mum podcast. And we're on Instagram too. At

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<v Speaker 1>am I a bad Mum. We're trying to get the

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<v Speaker 1>Facebook back up.

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<v Speaker 2>And running uns.

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<v Speaker 3>On my to do list for today is update Facebook

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<v Speaker 3>and just activate life through Facebook again.

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<v Speaker 2>Technology is not our strong point. We've been very clear

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<v Speaker 2>on this. When we're in the zone.

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<v Speaker 1>We're pretty good at socials, but I feel like this

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<v Speaker 1>is for all moms. I feel like we need a

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<v Speaker 1>day to do life admin, to get shit done. Even

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<v Speaker 1>on the way into work today, right, I caught up

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<v Speaker 1>and I made an appointment.

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<v Speaker 2>For my dog to have a dental check.

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<v Speaker 1>It's that type of shit you just don't do. I

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<v Speaker 1>like the dog's breath stinks, she's obviously got some sort

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<v Speaker 1>of rotten we haven't cleaned the teeth in ten years.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, we neglecting this poor dog. We just spent

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<v Speaker 1>seven thousand dollars hats on an operation for the cat

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<v Speaker 1>so he didn't die, and we don't even really.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that cat. Imagine if that's it.

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<v Speaker 3>I just spent you know, two grand on that kid.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even really like that kid of mine.

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<v Speaker 4>Could you imagine that's not even my favorite.

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<v Speaker 1>A lie abad mum before being the one they hate.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I am that person.

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<v Speaker 3>There's always one person within the parenting dynamic that has.

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<v Speaker 2>To be the bad guy, hold that flag. It's annoying.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we've spoken about this before about not in every situation,

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<v Speaker 1>but often Dad's the fun one.

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<v Speaker 3>I find it a bit of a cop out sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>that dads get to continually be the role where kids

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<v Speaker 3>just love dad because Dad is the fun one and

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<v Speaker 3>dad's like us because dad's funny and.

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<v Speaker 1>The rules aren't normally as strict and little things like

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<v Speaker 1>Dad will be the one that goes well just get

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<v Speaker 1>Macius Bricky on the way to school. I'm like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>the strict one. They take the piss out of me, right,

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<v Speaker 1>soel I know I get the same thing through that,

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<v Speaker 1>But this particular situation is unrealistic and I'm being.

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<v Speaker 2>The realistic person. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So, as we know, my girls are obsessed with Billie

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<v Speaker 1>Eilish all concerts. To be honest, at the.

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<v Speaker 3>Moment, I was gonna say, I don't know, I was

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<v Speaker 3>thinking about this when we're talking. Is it just Billy

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<v Speaker 3>or is it just concerts? I know Billy is the

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<v Speaker 3>number one but like they seem to be fatting overgoing

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<v Speaker 3>to concerts. Yeah, so it could be anyone, but Billy is.

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<v Speaker 1>Billy's the idols favorite. Anything she does, any release, new merch,

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<v Speaker 1>we have to buy it, Like I have to reduce

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<v Speaker 1>access to their bank accounts so they don't or Amelia

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<v Speaker 1>in particular, so she doesn't just buy shit because money

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<v Speaker 1>burns a hole in her pocket.

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<v Speaker 2>She gets it, she spends it.

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<v Speaker 1>They woke up the other morning and she had announced

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<v Speaker 1>more concert dates. Now these aren't concert dates in Australia. Rage,

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<v Speaker 1>these are not Brisbane concert dates that they've announced.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like, oh my goodness, she's.

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<v Speaker 1>Coming back to Brisbane. We can get a ticket for

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<v Speaker 1>the show. No, No, these are in San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wonderful. Yeah, I mean that's around the corner.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we were looking at not long ago if I'm correct,

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<v Speaker 3>didn't get those missed down on those now.

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<v Speaker 1>The problem is, as we know with tickets, is that

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<v Speaker 1>when they go on sale, you have to be super

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<v Speaker 1>quick because they sell out for these big artists.

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<v Speaker 3>Also, San fran you've got a few more people to

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<v Speaker 3>go up against, not saying Britain and Sydney, Melbourne at

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<v Speaker 3>like any easier, but your numbers are outnumbered in America

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<v Speaker 3>even more.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, for anybody with a full time job to go,

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to go to San Francisco in six months

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<v Speaker 1>time is a stretch. You need real flight, accommodation, spending money.

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<v Speaker 2>This is in addition to tickets.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, my girls seemed to think that they are going

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<v Speaker 1>to San Francisco in six months time and they want

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<v Speaker 1>to buy the tickets for the concert this week. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>The problem is is that I'm so wild before. It's

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<v Speaker 1>that fine line between being realistic going that's absolutely not

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<v Speaker 1>going to happen yea, and crushing their dreams and being

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<v Speaker 1>the bad one. This morning I was texting Holly and

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<v Speaker 1>I was getting messages.

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<v Speaker 2>You're getting sprayed, like.

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<v Speaker 1>What the hell have we been saving our money for?

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<v Speaker 1>You said that we can go for our dreams. Blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah blah. I've been saving up. I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to go to London. You said, no, it's school holidays.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a flight with no stopovers. And I sent a

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<v Speaker 1>text back and I started off nice and I said, Darling,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be a Debbie Downer, but there

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<v Speaker 1>is no way we can all go to San Francisco

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<v Speaker 1>in six months time. It's over six thousand dollars in flights,

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<v Speaker 1>around fifteen hundred in accommodation. Because you can't just go

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<v Speaker 1>to San Francisco for two days travel spending money tickets

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<v Speaker 1>unless we win lotto. We are not going, and you

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<v Speaker 1>two aren't going by yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're not coming.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care. I'm buying them. This is what we've

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<v Speaker 1>been saving for. It's not six thousand dollars. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>go there by ourselves. All of this stuff is coming

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<v Speaker 1>back at me because I am the bad one. I

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<v Speaker 1>just want It's a hard no. I ended up going.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a hard no. Yeah, I'm not going to say

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<v Speaker 1>it's just go by yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>I know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if this is a twin thing, Rachel,

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<v Speaker 1>whether this is just siblings. Do you ever have moments

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<v Speaker 1>where your girls are both on side because they both

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<v Speaker 1>want something, Yeah, yeah, and they both attack you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they come at you, yeah yeah, and then you

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<v Speaker 3>just give them that spray of like, mate, there's two

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<v Speaker 3>of you and want to meet, Like, this is unfair.

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<v Speaker 3>If we're in a fight right now, this is unfair.

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<v Speaker 3>This is a disadvantage, This is a disadvantage and I've

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<v Speaker 3>still gonn to whoop the.

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<v Speaker 2>Asses and it's elder abuse. It's abuse, it's abuse.

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<v Speaker 3>I one hundred percent I'm with you, like I was

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<v Speaker 3>saying to you though, Like as this started to Unford,

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<v Speaker 3>I would always like, apart from the fact that you're

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<v Speaker 3>their parents, you're the one that is going to be

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<v Speaker 3>footing their costs for the flights because there's no way

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<v Speaker 3>they can. It's unrealistic of them to think that they're

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<v Speaker 3>going to a be able to pay for all of

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<v Speaker 3>this on their own back. Like if you want me

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<v Speaker 3>to do some quick maths, how much do they earn

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<v Speaker 3>a week? Like at Macas. I mean, Holly doesn't even

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<v Speaker 3>like working, so she doesn't really go to maccas too often.

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<v Speaker 3>Amelia doesn't mind a bit of cash coming in. They like,

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<v Speaker 3>this is the unrealistic part of it. You know, when

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<v Speaker 3>you're eighteen, go for God, spend your money however you want,

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<v Speaker 3>travel whenever you want. But until then, what's going to

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<v Speaker 3>happen is your passport looks like this, your date of

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<v Speaker 3>birth is on there, and unless you've got my approval

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<v Speaker 3>to say that you're flying internationally. I think in her

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<v Speaker 3>head she's just like we're just popping over down to

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<v Speaker 3>Sydney for an hour. The no, no, you're not Sam

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<v Speaker 3>Fran and camping out in San Fran waiting for your

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<v Speaker 3>tickets like going to be the same as sleeping at

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<v Speaker 3>Boondle in my car, Like it's just not the same.

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<v Speaker 1>And they haven't even thrown in the exchange rate for America.

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<v Speaker 2>Everything's everything, everything right now is double. It's so funny.

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<v Speaker 3>I love the way that their brains work, and I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to be the person also like you, that

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<v Speaker 3>goes squash your dreams.

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<v Speaker 2>Dreams have to be achievable. Number one.

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<v Speaker 3>Dreams have to be somewhat of a stepping stone of

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<v Speaker 3>understanding realistic components to it. Because this one needs realistic

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<v Speaker 3>components to it. I am this age. I need this

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<v Speaker 3>person to trouble with me or their approval like this

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<v Speaker 3>shit like that that's in this.

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<v Speaker 2>So as much as you feel really.

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<v Speaker 3>Bad right now, like I get it, I get it,

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<v Speaker 3>but I think you're doing the right thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'd stick with it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>The other thing is, you know, another concert will come

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<v Speaker 3>to town and they'll be so excited about that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's more realistic to get them to buy a lotto ticket.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and then and.

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<v Speaker 3>Think about how good to say you bought a ticket

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<v Speaker 3>to Billie Eilish in San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 2>But how the hell are you going to get there?

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<v Speaker 2>Because like, let's think about this.

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<v Speaker 1>But also they're planning out how long they've got until November?

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<v Speaker 1>We got six months? Well, no, you can't leave flights

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<v Speaker 1>till the last minute. They give me so much more experence.

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<v Speaker 3>I know that's right because they think they're going to Sydney.

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<v Speaker 3>San Franz is not Sydney. Girlfriend. Also, I got a

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<v Speaker 3>bit of backlash the other day, and it was similar

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<v Speaker 3>to this right where I've told you before. I make

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<v Speaker 3>Gracie iron her uniform and she goes, why do you

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<v Speaker 3>have to be this? Because she was tired, she was angry,

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<v Speaker 3>she was aggressive. Why can't you just iron my And

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<v Speaker 3>I looked at her and I was like, because.

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<v Speaker 2>This is real life, this is real life. Do your

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<v Speaker 2>own to walk away from that, KD. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>what a shit mom.

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<v Speaker 3>But the other day and another argument off the back

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<v Speaker 3>of that, because she was so angry about ironing her stuff, she.

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<v Speaker 2>Got angry at me about I just want you to

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<v Speaker 2>be my friend.

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<v Speaker 1>Ah.

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<v Speaker 3>I looked at her, I said, I know, I said,

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<v Speaker 3>and I really want to be just your friend. I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, but I haven't been given that role in

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<v Speaker 3>this lifetime. I'm your mother, so then therefore I need

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<v Speaker 3>to be your mother. And I hope at the end

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<v Speaker 3>of it week can have an amazing friendship because you'll

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<v Speaker 3>be a wonderful human being. I said, but right now,

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<v Speaker 3>if I don't be true to this part of being

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<v Speaker 3>your mother, it's not going to work. Yep, you won't

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<v Speaker 3>want to be friends with me because you'll question why

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't be a mother to you when you were

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<v Speaker 3>this age.

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<v Speaker 2>But that will come later, yeah forty Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, that'll come later. But I got that,

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<v Speaker 3>why are we worry you have to be so strict?

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<v Speaker 3>I was confused, Katie, You're in the same ball with this.

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<v Speaker 3>The girls just want you.

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<v Speaker 1>To yeah, and they don't want the discipline. However, I

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<v Speaker 1>have also noticed that if there are no boundaries, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not comfortable for them either.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So Holly had a moment of saying to me, there

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<v Speaker 1>was this party they were invited to and she didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to go, and Amelia really did want to go,

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<v Speaker 1>and Holly didn't want to go, and Holly turned around

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<v Speaker 1>to me and said, why are you even letting us

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<v Speaker 1>go anywhere there's alcohol?

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<v Speaker 2>Blah blah blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no parents like reeled off. All this stuff about

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<v Speaker 1>why I shouldn't This is just purely.

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<v Speaker 2>Because she didn't want to go. You need it.

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<v Speaker 1>I shouldn't be allowing her to go because it's inappropriate

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm a bad parent for letting her go. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, interesting, Okay, let's tighten up this ship,

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<v Speaker 1>shall we.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's get a little bit stricter.

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<v Speaker 1>Yesterday, Holly, can you put the dishwasher on?

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<v Speaker 2>Don't know how? Excuse me. Okay, let's have a.

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<v Speaker 1>Think about how we're going to be treating you from

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<v Speaker 1>now on where you want to be treated like an

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<v Speaker 1>adult and you want.

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<v Speaker 3>To be yeah, like now when you want to be

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<v Speaker 3>going to Billie Eilish in San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 2>But you can't dishwasher. I think it's a hard I

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<v Speaker 2>think that in the show is I know, mhm