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Speaker 1: My wife and I had a great chat. There's a

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Speaker 1: really really good podcast and we love these two. I

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Speaker 1: mean Cameron Daddo and Alison bray Dado. We love those two.

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Speaker 1: They have a great podcast on the Neighbor Entertainment podcast

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Speaker 1: which is called Separate Bathrooms, and it's parenting and all

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Speaker 1: this kind of stuff. And it's not very often I

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Speaker 1: get to sit down with my wife and talk about

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Speaker 1: this stuff unless it's just between us two.

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Speaker 2: Quite often you learn by having these conversations on a

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Speaker 2: podcast telling you you learn about you, you learn about

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Speaker 2: your wife, you learn about yourselves as a couple.

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Speaker 3: Whip I did.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a really good point because I was actually

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Speaker 1: I was really impressed with my wife and she.

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Speaker 3: I think she's a better parent than I am.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, that's what you learn.

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Speaker 3: So that's what I learned.

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Speaker 1: There was another I want to talk about this because

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Speaker 1: I'm really shattered as a p's like I'm announcing it.

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Speaker 2: Go ahead with your big announcement, man, does you tap

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Speaker 2: your coffee cup?

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Speaker 1: So I'm just shattered as a parent that I'm not

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Speaker 1: going to be able to go through that stage in

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Speaker 1: life where my son friends call me mister Fitzgerald.

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Speaker 2: Or you want that title. I want that.

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Speaker 4: Title, So why not?

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Speaker 1: Because I don't think kids do it anymore, Sarah.

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Speaker 5: But isn't it just then up to the parent, like,

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Speaker 5: do you tell your kids they're at the right age

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Speaker 5: to be doing it going to friends houses? Did they

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Speaker 5: address other parents by that time? No?

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Speaker 1: We we fully teach our kids manners and etiquette, as

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Speaker 1: you please and thank you and looking people in the

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Speaker 1: I if they're talking to you. But I've never taught

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Speaker 1: my kids that with your friends you have to call

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Speaker 1: them mister Smith or missus Brown or whatever.

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Speaker 4: So do you hear them calling.

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Speaker 2: No, they don't.

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Speaker 3: They don't do it.

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Speaker 2: It's a funny one, isn't it, Because you know you'd

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Speaker 2: also hear when you used to do it as a kid,

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Speaker 2: you'd say hi, mister Fitzgerald, and they go, don't call

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Speaker 2: me that. That's my dad. Yeah, that's my old man.

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Speaker 2: You don't call me that. But we kind of had

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Speaker 2: the general rule growing up that if someone hadn't invited

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Speaker 2: you to say call me Steve, then it was mister Smith.

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Speaker 2: So if in doubt you went with mister and missus

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Speaker 2: that was sort of the rule we had. So nine

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Speaker 2: times out of ten you'd be going hi, missus McGilvray.

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Speaker 4: Yes, how do you think that sort of died off

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Speaker 5: Because you don't call a home phone because it was

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Speaker 5: always the home missus Whitley is Michael home.

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Speaker 4: Don't do that now.

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Speaker 5: It's just you talk to the kids, so you probably

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Speaker 5: don't think to address adults.

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Speaker 2: You'd also say there's been a there's been a blend

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Speaker 2: or a merging or a tighter link between parent and kid.

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Speaker 2: Was always a clear divide, and I think now it's

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Speaker 2: closer than every before. It's why it makes it more

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Speaker 2: crucial for the parent to make sure their parenting role

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Speaker 2: still exists for the kids, but the kids are closer

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Speaker 2: and probably share more than they did in traditional times.

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Speaker 1: Wells, I agree things have changed now and I would

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Speaker 1: love to hear from any kids out there that if

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Speaker 1: you do, you call your friends mum.

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Speaker 3: And dad, mister and missus.

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Speaker 5: Mmm.

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Speaker 1: I want to know if there's any kids out there

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Speaker 1: that actually do it, because I don't think there are anymore.

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Speaker 1: I mean it's even with you know, like BJ's ne

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Speaker 1: me nieces and nephews. Ye don't call her auntie Belinda.

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Speaker 1: They just call her what They just call her Beja.

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Speaker 4: We don't do the uncle auntie.

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Speaker 5: Don't only when they're little to try and get them

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Speaker 4: But outside of that, sometimes yes.

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Speaker 1: Something growing mum and Dad's best friends. We used to

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Speaker 1: call them annie and uncle and that weren't my auntie

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Speaker 4: No.

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Speaker 3: I still call them Uncle Dennis and Auntie.

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Speaker 2: Jen, just as a term to bring them closer.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just a term of Indian. And I suppose,

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Speaker 5: Our kids have started referring to us as Sarah and James,

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Speaker 5: so they'll just say, Sarah, come here, we need something

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Speaker 2: Do you know why? That happens when kids? The kids

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Speaker 2: get sick of their mum and dad not answering or

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Speaker 2: listening to the term mum and dad. That's when the

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Speaker 2: main name comes into play, Sarah.

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Speaker 5: When they go to school and tell a story about

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Speaker 5: you that you don't have to teach her to have heard,

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Speaker 5: they say Sarah.

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Speaker 1: That's the tipping point for me. If I hear a

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Speaker 1: kid call their parents by their first name, I'm like, no,

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Speaker 1: there's no respect there.

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Speaker 2: Even though you would do it now, like, how weird?

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Speaker 2: Is it going to be the day? And I when

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Speaker 2: I ring Dad, I go John, what's going on? How

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Speaker 2: weird is it going to be? The day? Ted calls

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Speaker 2: me and he says, Michael.

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Speaker 3: Oh am, I you wall you would Dad?

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Speaker 2: I'm your dad and I will always be Dad. I'm not. Actually,

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Speaker 2: if he's down at the pub and he rings Mick,

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Speaker 2: I'm coming at me.

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Speaker 4: But then why do you do it to John?

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Speaker 2: Great question? I don't know. Just as you get older, Yes,

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Speaker 2: actually you do. I do call him John, and I

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Speaker 2: call mom Steeney Christine.

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Speaker 1: I have never called my father by his first name.

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Speaker 1: It's always been Dad. How are you Dad?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? No, he speig John to me.

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Speaker 3: Me is on the line from Hunter's Hill. How old

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Speaker 3: are you?

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Speaker 2: Maya?

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Speaker 6: I'm fistine busy?

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Speaker 3: Okay? And what are your thoughts on it? What are

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Speaker 3: your parents told you?

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Speaker 1: And what do you what do you address your friend's parents?

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Speaker 6: So anytime, anytime I go to my friends, as I

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Speaker 6: always say miss high missus or high missus for example.

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Speaker 6: My mom's always said that. And unless you're told, as

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Speaker 6: you said a show, don't call me out to my

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Speaker 6: dad's name, that's my mom's name, etc. Yeah, that's how

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Speaker 6: That's what I've been taught. Okay, I un thankfully what

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Speaker 6: you're saying fitty about like how some kids don't do

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, said mum, being a kindergarten teacher. She's so

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Speaker 2: hard and fast on this, but she says, nicknames don't

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Speaker 2: transfer through generations, so I'm made of mine, all right.

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Speaker 3: So because he is asking me, am I going to

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Speaker 3: be fit?

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Speaker 2: Am I going to be fitsy?

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Speaker 3: And I said probably?

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Dad was a whippy. But then he's got a

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Speaker 2: mate who got sacked from like three jobs whippy and

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Speaker 2: he was called mister why slack? So we still know

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Speaker 2: this guy's slacker. So the mate was called slacker.

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Speaker 3: So will his kids be known as slacker?

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Speaker 2: No more than he doesn't want my kids. It shouldn't

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Speaker 2: be me calling him slacker like a maid of mine,

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Speaker 2: the dazzler he calls me. He calls me horseballs, right, who.

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Speaker 3: Will get that be handed down?

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Speaker 2: His kid who's seven years old? When I see him,

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Speaker 2: he goes hell a hospitals. Oh, Mum says that is

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Speaker 2: a no. Like, she says, that is a disgrace.

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Speaker 3: Where'd that come from?

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Speaker 2: We're really hard to say. A big fan of the GGS.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Lucretz has given us a call from Campbelltown. What

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Speaker 1: do you still call your friend's parents, Lucretzia.

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Speaker 7: Mister Scott. I'm sixty years old and he is ninety

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Speaker 7: four years old, and I still call him mister Scott.

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Speaker 2: That's that generation. He wasn't a teacher at all.

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Speaker 7: No, In fact, he was a very high engineer with contest,

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Speaker 7: and I think at those times it was a sign

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Speaker 7: of respect.

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Speaker 2: I agree, and I'm fifty.

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Speaker 7: We still have people that we call aunties that were

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Speaker 7: not related to us either. They were a good friend

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Speaker 7: of my parents.

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Speaker 2: It's funny, isn't it, Because then will you find talk

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Speaker 2: about a term of respect to call somebody by their

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Speaker 2: correct title or their more formal title. But then you

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Speaker 2: have moments like when we have politicians in and just

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Speaker 2: or you prime minister? Where's that level of respect?

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Speaker 3: Is the respect they call the prime minister? Prime minister?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 5: When I worked at PGA, you would never say a

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Speaker 5: first name.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what happened?

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Speaker 4: Whereas we do that? I Scotty, your sir.

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Speaker 2: When I got told off? Was that time when we

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Speaker 2: interviewed Julia Gillard in the UK. Now, to add a

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Speaker 2: little bit of further detail, we've been at a very

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Speaker 2: long lunch. When the interview came through at the last minute,

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Speaker 2: we raced. We raced fat Ar Race to meet Julia

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Speaker 2: her jewels in the interview. He rang and he said

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Speaker 2: that is not how you refer to the Prime Minister.

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Speaker 2: Big John wasn't happy about that. He was all over it. Mate,

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Speaker 2: he's on your horsball.

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Speaker 3: I think it's being phased out.

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Speaker 1: I think through a generation of gen generation, mister and

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Speaker 1: Missus is gone. I think Arnie and Uncle is starting

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Speaker 1: to die out as well. You'd like to be mister Fitzger.

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Speaker 1: The other thing is, well, whenever I see an elderly man,

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Speaker 1: I call him sir, and you know what, you know what,

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Speaker 1: that doesn't always work. I get elderly men that get

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Speaker 1: upset by that. Don't call me sir. They don't like it.

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Speaker 1: They don't like it. I'm not a sur we we

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Speaker 1: just got a teacher sir and the other contentious run

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Speaker 1: and Tommy Williams texts me he loves this all the time.

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Speaker 1: But I call older women love. You don't A lot

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Speaker 1: of them that don't like that.

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Speaker 4: You don't say it to older women. Fits yeah, give

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Speaker 4: it to.

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Speaker 3: Everyone in the office.

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Speaker 2: Remember when you Remember when you called Lachlan Murdock's son,

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Speaker 2: good on your son. There's only one man that calls

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Speaker 2: him some one of the most powerful men in the world.

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Speaker 2: But you go ahead.

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Speaker 4: It fits and