WEBVTT - Open The Door Quieter Please

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<v Speaker 1>Apogee production.

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<v Speaker 2>Of this episode of We Will Always Have? How are

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<v Speaker 2>you going to cope with producing a podcast?

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I did one episode. You were on the

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<v Speaker 1>phone to meet or on the voice messages Christine, you

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<v Speaker 1>need to do this, this, this, and they said, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I need somewhere to do.

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<v Speaker 2>This is season six of We Will Always Have with

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<v Speaker 2>me Christian Hull and the gorgeous Christy Hern. We're in

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<v Speaker 2>Balley doing a spiritual retreat and also on a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of a sojorn two weeks we go away. We've

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<v Speaker 2>done a variety of incredible activities and we really hope

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<v Speaker 2>that we can impart some sort of wisdom or guidance

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<v Speaker 2>in this season. So please enjoy.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got my affairs, do a little room tour for

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<v Speaker 1>christ Yawn. What's he got in his room?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, feel free to go through my belongings. She swans

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<v Speaker 2>in here like a fucking herd of elephants, slamming the door,

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<v Speaker 2>thumping around. Then unplugs all of my things. I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>going to plug on the things in. Couldn't plug it

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<v Speaker 2>in your own rope?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, then I couldn't have easy access to it if

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<v Speaker 1>someone rang, you know, one of the boys is need

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<v Speaker 1>my mummy bear support God.

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<v Speaker 2>Heaven forbid, you give me your full attention. She's leaning

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<v Speaker 2>over my bed and then wafting in. What do you

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<v Speaker 2>think of my diffuser?

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<v Speaker 1>Going very very nice? I really like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know why I bought that?

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<v Speaker 1>Has it got the white noise thing attacked?

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<v Speaker 2>It was because I bought it for the cruise.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it does look familiar. I think I even talked

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<v Speaker 1>about this and the fan.

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<v Speaker 2>The fan then blows that was from the Ultimate World

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<v Speaker 2>Cruise as well.

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<v Speaker 1>It is a little bit concerning that. You've also got

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<v Speaker 1>a tooth pick beside that side the table, just in

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<v Speaker 1>case you've got any food lodge that you can feel overnight.

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<v Speaker 2>While it's I think it's my sensory issues. I've got

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<v Speaker 2>something in my teeth. I can't sleep.

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<v Speaker 1>And then up here you've got your oils, You've got your.

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<v Speaker 2>What is that it's a multi Actually bring it over?

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<v Speaker 2>Can you bring the iron supplements over to your iron?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you want an iron supplement?

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<v Speaker 1>No, thank you, You've got a.

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<v Speaker 2>Lot of iron, do you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure what my iron readings are.

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<v Speaker 2>Happily drink ants but won't have an iron supplement.

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<v Speaker 1>Make that make sense.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so what are you sitting on It's very low

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<v Speaker 2>to the ground. So we're in my hotel room here

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<v Speaker 2>at what's the name of the.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going we'll say it with a relaxed mouth. HEYOI

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't be more. I'm trying to relax my mouth. Hoyip

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<v Speaker 1>going spell it out. I want to say Hanoi, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's no, it's not hannoy, but it ends with annoy.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I hoi, No, that's what you say. We Oh no,

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<v Speaker 2>well done? Oh no, we got there. We got there,

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<v Speaker 2>and we're doing a seven day retreat and so today

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<v Speaker 2>is officially day one. So it starts today at two pm.

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone arrives five.

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<v Speaker 1>I think, isn't it a welcome thing? Then your inten

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<v Speaker 1>two pm is when people will start arriving. Then we've

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<v Speaker 1>got our intention and ceremony at five. I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>ask you a few questions going into this.

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<v Speaker 2>She's checking her teeth, asks Christina that you brought from Australia.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, but now I'm oh fuck, I think there's

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<v Speaker 1>something you hear.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a sign, Chris, No, just fingering. Go run your

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<v Speaker 2>finger under the tap.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, I'm just gonna let it go. I just you

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<v Speaker 1>know it is, you know what.

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<v Speaker 2>We're here to let go. We're here to let go

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<v Speaker 2>of things.

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<v Speaker 1>If any at all, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Talk to me, Jesus, Okay, I want to ask you, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>go zen zen out? Are you okay?

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<v Speaker 1>I get really freaked out when these things in my food.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't like it. I find it really unsettling

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<v Speaker 1>and it just puts me off. Now I've got my

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<v Speaker 1>long fingernails in fishing out whatever it was.

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<v Speaker 2>She's now scraping.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay, I think it's I think it's just off

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<v Speaker 1>the tea bowl.

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<v Speaker 2>You and me when I see a spider.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, I'm a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you want to have a break?

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<v Speaker 1>No, let's go, and I'm ready and go.

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<v Speaker 2>This is going to be really interesting to see how

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<v Speaker 2>you're like at the start of this retreat and at

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<v Speaker 2>the end. I can't wait because I might buy some

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<v Speaker 2>bugs and put them in your tea and if you're like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>whatever will be will be, and then you drink them all.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to ask you, what are your expectations going

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<v Speaker 2>into this?

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's what they're going to ask us this afternoon.

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<v Speaker 1>So apparently what happens this afternoon, we're in a circle

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<v Speaker 1>and we each have to individually introduce ourselves. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>then share with everyone know what we've come for, as in,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you want to get out of it?

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, there's sixteen of us doing this. You've met

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<v Speaker 2>some of them.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, and they're lovely.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and so there are a lot arriving with the

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<v Speaker 2>bulk of arriving this afternoon, and and for us, this

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<v Speaker 2>is sort of Amanda reached out and was like, would

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<v Speaker 2>you be interested in coming and doing this retreat?

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<v Speaker 1>Amanda I spent some time with yesterday at the pool.

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<v Speaker 1>She is lovely, She's my kind of person. I felt

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<v Speaker 1>straight at ease with her. I thought, oh, this is

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<v Speaker 1>going to be awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because she runs these Cord Revival retreats. She does

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<v Speaker 2>something Byron Well, she'd be doing this for a while.

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<v Speaker 1>She has a wait list for those people wanting to

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<v Speaker 1>get readings for three to six months.

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<v Speaker 2>Because she's a clevoyance, she's a medium. Yeah, and she's

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<v Speaker 2>going to give us a reading, which I am. I

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<v Speaker 2>cannot wait.

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<v Speaker 1>I was sitting at the pool yesterday and I said

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<v Speaker 1>to her, I said, so, just so you're aware, I

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<v Speaker 1>won't be receiving anything about my impending death if there

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<v Speaker 1>is any, and I don't want to know if I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to get ill, I don't want to know where.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, a lot of the ones that I've seen are like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to be telling you.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever had a reading before? Have you?

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<v Speaker 2>There's never any certainty with them. It's not like they're

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<v Speaker 2>like Christine, you'll fall down a hole on the twelfth

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<v Speaker 2>of October twenty thirty two. Like, it's not like that.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm a bit pleased about that. Anyway. She rest

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<v Speaker 1>my mind at ease and said, oh no, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>there's none of that. So I'm really looking forward to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you thought about what you're here for?

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm not gonna lie a little concerned. If we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to be going around the room and sharing what

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<v Speaker 2>we're here for, we better have a good reason. I've

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<v Speaker 2>met a couple of the people doing this. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>they're here for just a myriad of reasons. Obviously I

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<v Speaker 2>would love to be able to talk to them, but

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<v Speaker 2>I think a lot of the reasons that are quite personal,

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<v Speaker 2>and we're just here to do a podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm happy for you to talk to me about our experience.

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<v Speaker 2>There's such a beautiful women, and you know they've come

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<v Speaker 2>here for a reason and a purpose. That isn't you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to complain about ants in our coffee.

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<v Speaker 1>I do apologize if I've offended anybody, and I hope

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<v Speaker 1>not to be canceled because of my little fear of

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<v Speaker 1>answer and.

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<v Speaker 2>All action going into this is more to document and

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<v Speaker 2>to entertain. I don't have any intentions or expectations going

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<v Speaker 2>into this week.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Has it not been tweaked though your interest? Like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I could actually get more out of this one.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm king on a spiritual level from zero to ten?

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<v Speaker 2>Where do you sit?

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<v Speaker 1>How spiritual I am? I reckon? I'm about a seven eight.

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<v Speaker 2>Pointing out things knowing it's a sign. Yeah, yeah, I see,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not I'm not religious. I don't believe like I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not at all spiritual. I love crystals because they're

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<v Speaker 2>shiny rocks. I like the idea of tao because I

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<v Speaker 2>believe if you're doing it personally to yourself, it elicits

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<v Speaker 2>your thoughts, feelings and emotions out of you that you

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<v Speaker 2>couldn't do yourself, If that makes sense?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you use the cards? Like all the cards are

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<v Speaker 2>telling me? And your brain is regurgitating an answer that

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<v Speaker 2>your body wants to say.

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<v Speaker 1>Does that make sense? Could chat GPT not do the

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<v Speaker 1>same thing?

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, because that's chatchpe tea. If you're in

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<v Speaker 2>a cult, the only way out of it is when

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<v Speaker 2>you realize you're in a cult. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, people can tell you you're.

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<v Speaker 2>In one, but yeah, you actually you don't see it.

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<v Speaker 2>And then on you your brain will work things out.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll ask questions that's weird, or you start questioning, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And so that's what I think Taro does. You start

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<v Speaker 2>questioning yourself. All the cards are saying this. Maybe they'

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<v Speaker 2>mean this or this.

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<v Speaker 1>There's just a card with a picture on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, correct, And so what it's doing is it's trying

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<v Speaker 2>to elicit a well, it is alictiting response out of you,

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<v Speaker 2>like the three cards will play a reading. Because we

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<v Speaker 2>went to a restaurant last night and they give you

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<v Speaker 2>a Taro reading and then the food chooses you Merlin's

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<v Speaker 2>it's amazing you're reading. Right. You could interpret it a

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<v Speaker 2>million different ways, but at the time, right, that's what

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<v Speaker 2>you wanted to hear.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh don't know about that. I mean, you look at

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<v Speaker 1>those cards and you know me and you've straight away

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<v Speaker 1>picked up Oh Christine, this is this is because yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was blinding.

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<v Speaker 2>Look, I think I've been told I have the gift.

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<v Speaker 1>Well three times now and I've not yet seen it.

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<v Speaker 2>I told you the reading, I gave you that reading

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<v Speaker 2>at Merlin.

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<v Speaker 1>Could that not be scripted? Could you not just learn

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<v Speaker 1>that from the card itself? Like, oh, so a tower

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<v Speaker 1>means well.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's what a tower means. A tower has a meaning.

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<v Speaker 2>You draw the card, it's significant to your life. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>this is getting I think this might be a bit

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<v Speaker 2>boring for people, but I'm not a spiritual person.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say you are. If you're picking up tarot cards,

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<v Speaker 1>you are looking for it. You've got questions that you

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<v Speaker 1>aren't answered, that you can't find anything.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't be bothered talking to anyone else, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't like human connection. So it's like I can talk

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<v Speaker 2>to cards and the cards can tell me what I

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<v Speaker 2>want to hear. That's why I love them.

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<v Speaker 1>Very interesting, That makes sense.

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<v Speaker 2>What are your thoughts about this?

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<v Speaker 1>Personally? I am now really thinking, having had a good

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<v Speaker 1>conversation with all the ladies in the pool yesterday, I

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<v Speaker 1>think I would really like to come away from here

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<v Speaker 1>knowing that, and I know you're going to get oh,

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<v Speaker 1>not a fraud, but the imposter syndrome. I'd actually like

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<v Speaker 1>to leave here. I wouldn't say dun and dusted no more,

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<v Speaker 1>having that thought, feeling emotion walking away, feeling confident, looking

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<v Speaker 1>forward to what the future has with still social my

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<v Speaker 1>new business for women over forty, which is all about connection,

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<v Speaker 1>finding friendship over forty when you're a woman that you

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<v Speaker 1>possibly don't have now with life moved on. I really

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<v Speaker 1>want that cemented in saying, yes, you're on the right placause.

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<v Speaker 2>You're the precipice of a big life change where you

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<v Speaker 2>want to retire from.

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<v Speaker 1>A job that you've held for which I love, which

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<v Speaker 1>I absolutely love, and I find being of service, you

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<v Speaker 1>know it is. It's a big thing for me. But

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<v Speaker 1>I think my higher calling is helping women.

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<v Speaker 2>It's still the same. I mean, you're just moving from

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<v Speaker 2>one field of being of service over here for this

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<v Speaker 2>group to a much more.

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<v Speaker 1>Niche sort of photus definitely, but.

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<v Speaker 2>It requires you leaving the security of work and trying

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<v Speaker 2>something new. At five identifying his forty nine absolutely, thank

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<v Speaker 2>you for that, and so I think this week will

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<v Speaker 2>be really good for you, especially because the people doing

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<v Speaker 2>this retreat are your people.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh they're definitely my people.

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<v Speaker 2>And people that you talk to, and you're now meeting

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<v Speaker 2>these people.

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<v Speaker 1>And having so many direct messages into my inbox about

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<v Speaker 1>women's lives and where they're at. God, there's so many

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<v Speaker 1>sad stories out there of people who have just completely

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<v Speaker 1>lost their way and have no friendship, very little contact

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<v Speaker 1>with maybe yeah really, like I'm serious, I'll show you

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<v Speaker 1>some of the messages I'm getting, Like even Max, because

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<v Speaker 1>Max has been really my right hand man. He's been

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<v Speaker 1>helping everything. He's a psychologist and that's your eldest son,

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<v Speaker 1>and he's like, Mum, you're really making a difference here.

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<v Speaker 1>These women are going to just be so better.

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<v Speaker 2>And why do you feel like an impostor?

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<v Speaker 1>Then? I don't have a lot of confidence in my abilities.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think i'm a bit of a fluke.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you say abilities, Well.

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<v Speaker 1>See no, I've got no abilities. I'm a good mother.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very, very very very stand on the hill for that.

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<v Speaker 2>You will come to a retreat to escape, but hold

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<v Speaker 2>onto your phone and that every week you second respond.

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<v Speaker 1>To inful boys. I know I'm really good at that.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't finish high school. I had parents that were

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<v Speaker 1>really hard workers, a mother that really tried very hard

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<v Speaker 1>to give us everything. So you know, I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>think I'm mad.

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<v Speaker 2>So that makes you not worthy.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I don't think I'm not worthy, but I don't

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<v Speaker 1>accept compliments. I'll always hope to compliment others before myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll always make people comfortable before myself. You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>put people to the forefront and I keep myself in

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<v Speaker 1>the back. But I think now I'm like, move out

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<v Speaker 1>of the way, because oh.

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<v Speaker 2>My god, I'm here now. When we cross the road,

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<v Speaker 2>she doesn't look. She just waves her hand stop, stop

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<v Speaker 2>for me, stop for me, and walks out into the

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<v Speaker 2>middle of the busiest street in Bali. I was really

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<v Speaker 2>proud of you, feel I was really proud and terrified

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<v Speaker 2>because then you just grabbed my hand and pulled me

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<v Speaker 2>into the chaos. But I think that's like the switch

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<v Speaker 2>in you is that you do just need to stick

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<v Speaker 2>your hand out, start waving and tell people to stop

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<v Speaker 2>them coming through it. Yes, I'm being seen, you can

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<v Speaker 2>see me. I'm not invisible. You're not gonna run me over.

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<v Speaker 2>What a metaphor, you know, the imposter syndrome is you

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<v Speaker 2>standing up the corner going, oh, well, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if I should I cross. I don't want to get

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<v Speaker 2>in anyone. It's way you go through it, that's you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like it. You don't want to impede on anyone.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to take anyone's space.

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<v Speaker 2>And now it's a switch. You stick your hand out

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<v Speaker 2>your way, tell people to just drive around me, like

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<v Speaker 2>you don't just stop, just drive around me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm happy to make space for you, but don't make

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<v Speaker 1>me at the back of the line.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, right, because you only made that TikTok really recently

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<v Speaker 2>of being like, oh I don't feel worthy, which fucking I.

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<v Speaker 1>Hate I hate it.

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<v Speaker 2>I shouldn't hate it because imposter syndrome is like a

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<v Speaker 2>mental challenge, right, It's not something or I can just

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<v Speaker 2>be like, well, just love you.

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<v Speaker 1>Do.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, like just smile and you won't have to bregon.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't understand imposter syndrome.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, you and we've talked about this before, you and

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<v Speaker 1>I have we Yeah, because you've never had impossible.

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<v Speaker 2>That's probably because I've got narcissism.

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<v Speaker 1>No, but you're very confident. Yes, you get out there

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<v Speaker 1>and you do everything and everything you give everything a go.

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<v Speaker 1>You're happy to do things on your own, You're happy

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<v Speaker 1>to be by yourself. Yes, you love people, but you

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<v Speaker 1>love your time away. I think that's incredible.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and so it's very freeing. And that's why I

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<v Speaker 2>get annoyed when you sit in your car and you say, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not worthy, and I'm like, fact, don't shut down.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you've just had this incredible start to Still Social. Ye,

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<v Speaker 2>incredible after that, and you know, you had a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of buying from a lot of people. They're keen. You

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<v Speaker 2>know you're going to be doing retreats similar to this.

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<v Speaker 2>The concepts of similar love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I am frothing for it. We have over at this

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<v Speaker 1>stage and we are now early March. We have over

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred and twenty women over forty registered for our

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<v Speaker 1>cruise in October.

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<v Speaker 2>So for those that don't know, just give us a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of a bio of what still Social is.

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<v Speaker 1>So basically, all Still Social is is for women over

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<v Speaker 1>forty that are looking for friendships, looking for connections, wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to find their confidence again, wanting to get away from

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<v Speaker 1>their life of maybe nine to five working, go home

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<v Speaker 1>and wash, eat, repeat, you know, once more out of

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<v Speaker 1>their lives, want to have themselves, like I just said

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<v Speaker 1>at the forefront, trying new things, seeing new things, being

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<v Speaker 1>with people that are like minded, that are just wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to live their best lives.

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<v Speaker 2>For me, I don't understand that world at all. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I understand I speak my audiences twenty five to fifty

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<v Speaker 2>four year old women. This is where I think you've

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<v Speaker 2>got this gold card because you are a twenty five

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<v Speaker 2>to fifty five year old woman. You understand them, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what they're going through. Whereas I died, I'm just like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just going to react to random videos and go

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<v Speaker 2>to Bali and swim in a pool and get scared

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<v Speaker 2>of fly. I can connect with an audience where they

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<v Speaker 2>watch it's an escape, yeah, but yours is such I think,

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<v Speaker 2>a deeper understanding and holding their hand and saying I

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<v Speaker 2>say you, I get you, let's do this together. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I just think that's it's really powerful. It's

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<v Speaker 2>really powerful. What are some examples. I just see it like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>busy woman, she's doing a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, but she's a busy woman. But if you

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<v Speaker 1>sat her down in a new seat, are you living

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<v Speaker 1>your best life? Are you where you thought you were?

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<v Speaker 1>Going to be thirty years ago. I can tell you

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<v Speaker 1>right now half of them would say absolutely not. Really,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm absolutely not. I'm dissatisfied with the job that i have,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm too scared to leave because I'm an older

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<v Speaker 1>woman who's going to employ me. Fuck, my kids are

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<v Speaker 1>now growing up left home. Yeah, you know, I'm waiting

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<v Speaker 1>for the phone to ring, just to see if they

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<v Speaker 1>want to come and have a coffee with me. I've

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<v Speaker 1>got no But this is the messages I'm getting. I've

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<v Speaker 1>been home with the kids all their lives. Now they're

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<v Speaker 1>off doing their own thing. I just don't know where

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<v Speaker 1>I fit anymore. I don't know what I want, how

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<v Speaker 1>I want things.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's sort of like you've been a mum and

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<v Speaker 2>then suddenly you've created four independent children, for example, and

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<v Speaker 2>they're off doing their own things.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's what you want?

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<v Speaker 2>Shit, what am I going to do? Where do I

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<v Speaker 2>sit in the world now?

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<v Speaker 1>And your confidence level drops? So you know, are you

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<v Speaker 1>wearing the right the clothes that you want to wear

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<v Speaker 1>for the right you? So then you know, clothes has

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<v Speaker 1>a lot to do with women's confidence because it is

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<v Speaker 1>just something that they can do to lift themselves. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people would say, oh, do you need

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<v Speaker 1>a dress to lift you up in your spirits? That actually

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<v Speaker 1>would be done all internally, you know your fabi else

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<v Speaker 1>as you are.

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<v Speaker 2>What what's the power of good shirt?

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<v Speaker 1>Unbelievable?

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<v Speaker 2>It is, but it really is. When I find a

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<v Speaker 2>shirt that fits out gorgeous, I'm like, fucking hell, i

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<v Speaker 2>want to take some nerds with myself and then I'm

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<v Speaker 2>wanting to do all that like it kiss.

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<v Speaker 1>You so much you feel your goods. Yeah, there is

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<v Speaker 1>a saying. I think it's like look good, feel good,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's what you want. And so is that not

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<v Speaker 1>the same? It's saying it is the same, isn't it?

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<v Speaker 1>And I've had a lot of women come into my

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<v Speaker 1>DMS telling me that there've been a care for either

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<v Speaker 1>older parents or a husband or a child that has disabilities,

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<v Speaker 1>and now things have shifted, things have changed, and they

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<v Speaker 1>just don't know what to now do with themselves. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying if I can get on a plane

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<v Speaker 1>with me and life's going to change.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not what's still Socially, it's bringing together.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's about connection. It's about we also have a platform,

0:18:25.521 --> 0:18:28.281
<v Speaker 1>Circle Platform, which is a private group that we have.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm doing podcasts with really nice, fun educated a podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's only on the Circle. It's only on Circle.

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<v Speaker 1>So now doing what I'm doing a podcast, a visual podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I know who's producing that. So Emma is you've got someone? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because I knew you'd be.

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<v Speaker 2>God, I was like, sorry, how are you going to

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<v Speaker 2>cope with producing a podcast?

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I did one episode. You were on the

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<v Speaker 1>phone to me christ or on the voice message it's Christine,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to do this, this, this, And they said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm okay, I need somebody to do that for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, and that's not to say that these women don't

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<v Speaker 1>have supportive partners. They potentially do have, but it's just different.

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<v Speaker 1>Friendship is so much different than your.

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<v Speaker 2>I've learned. I'm not lumping all men in here, but

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of men are just why differently.

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<v Speaker 1>Look conversations with Ricardo, for he doesn't get it. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't say with.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of my female I've only pretty much only

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<v Speaker 2>have female friends. Yes, I have very few friends, which

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<v Speaker 2>people say is a red flag, but I'd put it

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<v Speaker 2>down to the autism and the inability to connect with

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<v Speaker 2>other humans.

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<v Speaker 1>When you say you don't have a lot of friends,

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<v Speaker 1>you would have a connection, you have a support network.

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<v Speaker 1>So if something was to goad my Cara basically beautiful treaty,

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<v Speaker 1>she's got you. She knows exactly how to suggest. There

0:19:54.721 --> 0:19:57.041
<v Speaker 1>your support people, they're your core people, right.

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<v Speaker 2>But then I'm not that for her. I'm not a

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<v Speaker 2>good friend or I'm not that for her in the

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<v Speaker 2>ways that she maybe needs, like emotionally and mentally financially,

0:20:09.880 --> 0:20:12.321
<v Speaker 2>I can be She's like, I don't want your money

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<v Speaker 2>as a gift. That's not very thoughtful. I'm like, I

0:20:14.681 --> 0:20:16.600
<v Speaker 2>want to fucking kill for that, you know, like one

0:20:16.681 --> 0:20:17.601
<v Speaker 2>hundred dollars in a car.

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<v Speaker 1>So your love language is one of gifts.

0:20:20.321 --> 0:20:21.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh I don't have a love language.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I would say that it's a love language.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, yeah, because she's not a gift, but it's emotionless.

0:20:27.080 --> 0:20:29.400
<v Speaker 2>It's a can't be fucked going and buying something.

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<v Speaker 1>But you're not going to give you money to your

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<v Speaker 1>next door neighbor just because they passed you. Well no, no,

0:20:36.041 --> 0:20:39.761
<v Speaker 1>you're invested in treaty. But friends find.

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<v Speaker 2>Twenty five years come on, like, I still got it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think she listens, hope not. I still we'll

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<v Speaker 2>take her out for dinner. I think I've only recently

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<v Speaker 2>and she's allergic to everything under the sun, or she's

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<v Speaker 2>got you know, like Celiac, Yeah that's jen wheat dairy intolerances.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'll be like, oh, yeah, this cheese and bread

0:20:58.481 --> 0:21:00.521
<v Speaker 2>number looks good and she's like, I can't eat that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, oh fuck, I should know this as a

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<v Speaker 2>friend of yours for twenty five years. This is why

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<v Speaker 2>I say something that is just useless. She's gotten to

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<v Speaker 2>the point where she knows one. Don't invite me to

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<v Speaker 2>places because I'll always say no, like she knows me.

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<v Speaker 2>So she's making all of those not sacrifices, but all

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<v Speaker 2>of those exceptions because I'm terrible.

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<v Speaker 1>But she still loves you unconditionally. I mean, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>like she goes well, I only like you do this

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<v Speaker 1>if you give me cash.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how I am as a person. I'm just not

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<v Speaker 2>perceptive enough to learn something's going wrong. I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>well give them cash and go all that help?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, would you like to be different? Would you

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<v Speaker 1>like to be tuned in? I would?

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<v Speaker 2>I know I can't. I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not afraid you've accepted that, and I look at

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<v Speaker 1>my brothers and especially my dad. We're all the same,

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<v Speaker 1>and I go, fuck poor mum, like I'm the most

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<v Speaker 1>emotionally available child for mum.

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<v Speaker 2>Really, so I'm trying to make an effort.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course you do.

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<v Speaker 2>I notice the same tropes all the family get together.

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<v Speaker 2>All the men are sitting down, all the women are

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<v Speaker 2>serving the food.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's just all the women are doing the washing out,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>Although dad's pretty good. Mum cooks, Dad does washing up.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm sure she had to get.

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<v Speaker 1>I would suggest eighty percent of Australian households. The men

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<v Speaker 1>will be out of the barbecue. They'll be out there chatting,

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<v Speaker 1>turning the sausages, discussing how many times to turn a steak,

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<v Speaker 1>and the women are in there looking everything else, cooking

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<v Speaker 1>everything else.

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<v Speaker 2>And cleaning it up. It's just something that I noticed,

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<v Speaker 2>but then we accept that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like sometimes to your point.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the whole still social thing, all these women who

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<v Speaker 2>have gone through all of this, and then you know

0:22:38.561 --> 0:22:40.921
<v Speaker 2>they can all get together and that's the male and

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<v Speaker 2>the female dynamic that doesn't exist with female a female

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<v Speaker 2>because they've all got that similar shared trauma of raising

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<v Speaker 2>a family.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's difficult. And I think when you're in like

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<v Speaker 1>the trenches raising a family and you're out the other side,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it would be nice just to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to connect with people that are wanting to reconnect again

0:23:00.481 --> 0:23:03.680
<v Speaker 1>and she stories and know that you're no trauma dumping.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't like trauma dump because I think everybody's

0:23:06.160 --> 0:23:08.721
<v Speaker 1>had trauma in their lives to degree. Yeah you can,

0:23:09.201 --> 0:23:12.240
<v Speaker 1>but it's more of empowering, lifting up, making sure that

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<v Speaker 1>they're seen.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe not trauma dumping, but sharing your story, which is

0:23:16.600 --> 0:23:18.801
<v Speaker 2>that's truma dumping, really, isn't it. It can be a lot,

0:23:18.961 --> 0:23:20.761
<v Speaker 2>but I think it also can be I think there's

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<v Speaker 2>a very fine line you have the sort of empathy

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<v Speaker 2>for people when you start to get to know them.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. See, I think with me, I'm really really wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to hear your story. I'm really wanting to engage and

0:23:32.441 --> 0:23:35.240
<v Speaker 1>hear you and listen to that what's happened. But I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to then sit in it.

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<v Speaker 2>No you can't. But that's a lot, that's a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want them sitting in it because like that's

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<v Speaker 1>something that they've had happened, they've learned from it. What

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<v Speaker 1>are they going to do now?

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<v Speaker 2>So pretend I'm a you know, forty plus woman. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I go to still social. What am I doing?

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<v Speaker 1>So you're coming You're connecting with other women?

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<v Speaker 2>But no, no, yes, but like I go online? Yet

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<v Speaker 2>what am I greeted with a form to fill out?

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<v Speaker 1>Or no? So you'll just come through and you'll click

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<v Speaker 1>on a link which Max is set up because I

0:24:02.201 --> 0:24:04.480
<v Speaker 1>have no other idea, and then you're coming to this

0:24:04.521 --> 0:24:07.400
<v Speaker 1>great space and it's got little different rooms. We've got

0:24:07.481 --> 0:24:10.680
<v Speaker 1>a welcome lounge where you can go in and introduce yourselves.

0:24:10.761 --> 0:24:13.321
<v Speaker 1>We've got like a chat it is. We do a

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<v Speaker 1>weekly live where I go on and we chat about

0:24:15.721 --> 0:24:17.681
<v Speaker 1>what's happened in our week, and we give each other

0:24:17.721 --> 0:24:22.201
<v Speaker 1>little challenges. And we've got one Rob's who's absolutely obsessed

0:24:22.201 --> 0:24:25.241
<v Speaker 1>with Eurovision And so we watched Delta Good Rooms video

0:24:25.321 --> 0:24:27.640
<v Speaker 1>the other day. We all talked about it and how

0:24:27.640 --> 0:24:32.080
<v Speaker 1>do you think it just it's live on the platform.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so good. I getdy zoom zoom, it's seem

0:24:39.360 --> 0:24:42.881
<v Speaker 1>and we have the best time. We've learned that one

0:24:42.880 --> 0:24:45.480
<v Speaker 1>of our ladies lives in a tiny home, so we

0:24:45.561 --> 0:24:48.561
<v Speaker 1>talked about the compost toilet, and I said that you

0:24:48.801 --> 0:24:50.481
<v Speaker 1>were investigating research.

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<v Speaker 2>I tually love a compost toilet.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, not my idea of have you used one? Of

0:24:55.241 --> 0:24:57.920
<v Speaker 1>course I haven't? Will I ever? No, I won't.

0:24:58.160 --> 0:25:01.201
<v Speaker 2>I was at the same boat. Just try to try

0:25:01.321 --> 0:25:01.880
<v Speaker 2>new things.

0:25:02.160 --> 0:25:05.000
<v Speaker 1>You We've got another lady who runs a youth home

0:25:05.041 --> 0:25:10.360
<v Speaker 1>homelessness program out in western Sydney. Like really interesting with shit. Yeah,

0:25:10.400 --> 0:25:11.481
<v Speaker 1>so I'm really excited.

0:25:11.840 --> 0:25:15.480
<v Speaker 2>And so you have these weekly meetings and catch ups chats,

0:25:15.681 --> 0:25:19.001
<v Speaker 2>and then you're organizing potential strips away.

0:25:19.080 --> 0:25:21.761
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, and that's something I'm really thinking that's going to

0:25:21.840 --> 0:25:24.360
<v Speaker 1>be one of our main things that we do, is

0:25:24.441 --> 0:25:26.921
<v Speaker 1>just girls to get together and we just go away,

0:25:27.001 --> 0:25:31.120
<v Speaker 1>be cruising a weekend in mudgie. It's just needed.

0:25:31.321 --> 0:25:32.880
<v Speaker 2>How many are on these zoom calls.

0:25:33.281 --> 0:25:35.441
<v Speaker 1>We've got about five of us at the moment. We're

0:25:35.481 --> 0:25:37.561
<v Speaker 1>only just started. Like this is this is.

0:25:37.521 --> 0:25:40.240
<v Speaker 2>Not something kind of intimate, but you'll always you'll have

0:25:40.281 --> 0:25:42.561
<v Speaker 2>a lot of members and not everyone will be available

0:25:42.600 --> 0:25:45.720
<v Speaker 2>to chat at all times. I think this is great.

0:25:46.201 --> 0:25:48.961
<v Speaker 1>I'm excited by it. I think that there's a real need.

0:25:49.120 --> 0:25:52.160
<v Speaker 2>And I think coming away and experiencing, you know, this

0:25:52.281 --> 0:25:54.281
<v Speaker 2>revival retreat for a week is also going to be

0:25:54.321 --> 0:25:57.801
<v Speaker 2>eye opening because you're talking to women in exactly the

0:25:57.840 --> 0:26:01.480
<v Speaker 2>same position. You're also experiencing what it could be like.

0:26:01.561 --> 0:26:04.481
<v Speaker 2>I don't think you'd be great at hosting a wellness retreat,

0:26:05.360 --> 0:26:08.200
<v Speaker 2>but you know, you're talking to Amanda and saying.

0:26:07.961 --> 0:26:11.120
<v Speaker 1>Hey, definitely, And Amanda's actually agreed to come on my

0:26:11.281 --> 0:26:13.561
<v Speaker 1>private podcast, so I'm going to chat to her.

0:26:13.801 --> 0:26:16.121
<v Speaker 2>That's great. Yeah, you also don't want to be like, oh, Amanda,

0:26:16.160 --> 0:26:19.241
<v Speaker 2>I'm just going to control see control va your entire career.

0:26:19.400 --> 0:26:21.401
<v Speaker 2>Oh god no, but she seems like a lovely person

0:26:21.400 --> 0:26:25.161
<v Speaker 2>but also so different. Sheffer looks at you and goes,

0:26:25.961 --> 0:26:28.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm giving her a reading now. I don't think she

0:26:28.400 --> 0:26:29.601
<v Speaker 2>needs all the help she can get.

0:26:30.080 --> 0:26:33.160
<v Speaker 1>No idea. Things that I know, things that I absolutely

0:26:33.201 --> 0:26:36.480
<v Speaker 1>know for a fact is women are out there not

0:26:36.600 --> 0:26:39.120
<v Speaker 1>living their best lives. And I refuse to have that

0:26:39.201 --> 0:26:39.640
<v Speaker 1>night happen.

0:26:39.761 --> 0:26:41.921
<v Speaker 2>And I think that's what you're going to gain from

0:26:41.961 --> 0:26:43.960
<v Speaker 2>this retreat. I mean, again, I don't know how to

0:26:44.041 --> 0:26:47.961
<v Speaker 2>cure it imposter syndrome, butfully.

0:26:46.840 --> 0:26:50.041
<v Speaker 1>I think that the more I see that people need this,

0:26:50.360 --> 0:26:52.960
<v Speaker 1>need this, I think that will then just start to

0:26:53.080 --> 0:26:55.801
<v Speaker 1>fall away. I really believe that, and the white ants

0:26:55.840 --> 0:26:58.241
<v Speaker 1>won't get into my head and start going and saying

0:26:58.241 --> 0:26:59.041
<v Speaker 1>stupid things.

0:26:59.521 --> 0:27:02.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, say that again, the white ant. You're

0:27:02.681 --> 0:27:06.041
<v Speaker 2>drinking them. It's the sign when you drinking that maybe

0:27:06.041 --> 0:27:08.640
<v Speaker 2>it's going to get worse or potentially you're going to

0:27:08.640 --> 0:27:10.760
<v Speaker 2>shit them out and you're cleansing your body of all

0:27:10.801 --> 0:27:13.881
<v Speaker 2>the ants or the little white ants. That's really good.

0:27:13.921 --> 0:27:18.241
<v Speaker 2>I'm glad. I'm really thrilled because I didn't know going

0:27:18.281 --> 0:27:19.841
<v Speaker 2>into this. I was like, this would be great. We're

0:27:19.840 --> 0:27:22.600
<v Speaker 2>going to be doing yoga every morning, or we're going

0:27:22.640 --> 0:27:24.721
<v Speaker 2>to be a bit fun. It's like who does this?

0:27:24.880 --> 0:27:26.360
<v Speaker 2>In my mind, I was like, who does this type

0:27:26.360 --> 0:27:29.161
<v Speaker 2>of retreat? Art's probably going to be just a bunch

0:27:29.201 --> 0:27:32.080
<v Speaker 2>of people that just I don't know, influencers on a holiday.

0:27:32.521 --> 0:27:36.881
<v Speaker 2>Couldn't be more wrong. I'm young this one here. Also,

0:27:37.521 --> 0:27:40.801
<v Speaker 2>I gathered going into this the only male stop at

0:27:40.840 --> 0:27:41.321
<v Speaker 2>this stage.

0:27:41.321 --> 0:27:44.201
<v Speaker 1>I think you are unless we have a late check

0:27:44.201 --> 0:27:44.840
<v Speaker 1>in tomorrow.

0:27:45.400 --> 0:27:47.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and so for me, I don't I have really

0:27:48.201 --> 0:27:49.801
<v Speaker 2>no idea what to expect.

0:27:50.441 --> 0:27:52.601
<v Speaker 1>But how are you going to go this afternoon? Though?

0:27:52.681 --> 0:27:55.080
<v Speaker 1>When we're staying in ceremony, I'm just going to be honest,

0:27:55.160 --> 0:27:58.080
<v Speaker 1>it's my point in lying. Hi, I'm Christian Hull.

0:27:58.400 --> 0:28:01.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm here for a podcast. A man invited me.

0:28:01.561 --> 0:28:02.520
<v Speaker 1>I have no idea.

0:28:02.880 --> 0:28:04.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm excited to learn at the end of the week.

0:28:05.160 --> 0:28:08.641
<v Speaker 1>So oh, I can't wait to have this conversation at

0:28:08.640 --> 0:28:11.361
<v Speaker 1>the end of the week and listen back to what

0:28:11.400 --> 0:28:13.761
<v Speaker 1>we said our intentions, because what I.

0:28:13.721 --> 0:28:17.720
<v Speaker 2>Want to do tonight and at the end of every

0:28:17.961 --> 0:28:20.960
<v Speaker 2>night that we're on this retreat is ask ourselves a

0:28:21.001 --> 0:28:24.840
<v Speaker 2>bunch of questions we discussed the day, and then you'll

0:28:24.880 --> 0:28:27.521
<v Speaker 2>be able to understand and hear maybe if there is

0:28:27.561 --> 0:28:28.721
<v Speaker 2>a journey or a process.

0:28:28.921 --> 0:28:35.801
<v Speaker 1>I agree, I think that's a top idea.

0:28:37.321 --> 0:28:42.321
<v Speaker 2>Okay, here we are at Christine's front door, so I'm

0:28:42.321 --> 0:28:44.841
<v Speaker 2>going to open the door. How Christine opens the door.

0:28:51.961 --> 0:28:53.441
<v Speaker 2>That's how Christine doesn't.

0:28:53.681 --> 0:28:54.361
<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right?

0:28:55.121 --> 0:29:00.881
<v Speaker 2>And then oh, this is what would have been. That's

0:29:00.921 --> 0:29:01.801
<v Speaker 2>exactly what I heard.

0:29:02.521 --> 0:29:04.480
<v Speaker 1>Well it wasn't that, because that hasn't kept rolling off.

0:29:04.481 --> 0:29:07.081
<v Speaker 1>All right? Now close it up, now, you do you?

0:29:07.161 --> 0:29:09.881
<v Speaker 2>How do you use this how Christine closes the door?

0:29:20.961 --> 0:29:24.841
<v Speaker 2>Because that looks okay? And I'm like, I just want

0:29:24.841 --> 0:29:26.161
<v Speaker 2>to have okay, all.

0:29:26.121 --> 0:29:32.401
<v Speaker 1>Right, you do yours? Now? Oh? Bullshit, and we're open

0:29:33.081 --> 0:29:42.401
<v Speaker 1>now to close the door, bring the handle down, all right,

0:29:42.401 --> 0:29:44.240
<v Speaker 1>go on, let me have a game now, Christine.

0:29:45.521 --> 0:29:47.241
<v Speaker 2>Here we go. Christine's now going to open it all.

0:29:47.241 --> 0:29:54.921
<v Speaker 1>Quietly going going around the world. I did what you said.

0:29:55.121 --> 0:30:00.281
<v Speaker 1>You said to go right round, right round three times so.

0:30:00.361 --> 0:30:04.961
<v Speaker 2>We can all hear Christine after now close the door.

0:30:09.401 --> 0:30:10.960
<v Speaker 1>Hang on, hang on, I've got it and I've got

0:30:11.081 --> 0:30:16.081
<v Speaker 1>to give Okay, here we go. Here we go. So

0:30:16.241 --> 0:30:18.641
<v Speaker 1>you just can't take the key out from that point. Okay,

0:30:18.721 --> 0:30:25.201
<v Speaker 1>here we go. Hmm. That wasn't bad, was it, Christine?

0:30:25.241 --> 0:30:28.841
<v Speaker 2>That was yep? Okay, you can all understand my point.

0:30:31.041 --> 0:30:34.200
<v Speaker 1>On the next We will always have the next thing

0:30:34.281 --> 0:30:34.641
<v Speaker 1>I need.

0:30:34.561 --> 0:30:36.321
<v Speaker 2>To the next thing I need to bring up with you.

0:30:36.441 --> 0:30:41.561
<v Speaker 2>Was so fucking funny, So we'll miss Christine puts her

0:30:41.641 --> 0:30:45.200
<v Speaker 2>phone down and picks it up five times a minute.

0:30:46.281 --> 0:30:47.601
<v Speaker 1>On the ba phone.

0:30:50.441 --> 0:30:56.281
<v Speaker 2>Love this suction cup, and so it's like if we

0:30:56.401 --> 0:30:58.681
<v Speaker 2>totally put it down, fine, but then you go, I

0:30:58.761 --> 0:30:59.361
<v Speaker 2>need to pick it up.