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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome back to Bounce Forward with me.

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Speaker 2: Tip Paul, I'd like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of

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Speaker 2: the land on which I'm recording this podcast. There were

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Speaker 2: undering people of the Gula nation. I pay my respects

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Speaker 2: to elders past and present. Adrian contacted me with a

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Speaker 2: great question. Hey, Tif, I'd love to know your thoughts

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Speaker 2: on the power of positive language while you're on your

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Speaker 2: fitness journey. I know there's a lot of personal trainers

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Speaker 2: that do have the yelly approach, but what have you

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Speaker 2: found with your clients and encouraging words. Ah, this is

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Speaker 2: such a great question because I've always got the best

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Speaker 2: out of my members through encouraging them and not yelling,

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Speaker 2: and quietly motivating them and educating them around why they're

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Speaker 2: doing stuff and what the benefits are, and then they

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Speaker 2: motivate themselves because they're like, Wow, this is really going

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Speaker 2: to do X, Y and Z for me, and it's

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Speaker 2: going to help X, Y and Z, so then they

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Speaker 2: do it. So I think education is really really important,

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Speaker 2: but using positive language in fitness, it really impacts your clients' attitudes, motivations,

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Speaker 2: and their overall performance. Right, And I find that it

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Speaker 2: can be transformative to their success and there's a lot

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Speaker 2: of benefits, so you know, it enhances motivation. Just those

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Speaker 2: encouraging words are so important because it's going to bring

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Speaker 2: your members or your clients' enthusiasm and their eagerness to

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Speaker 2: push through challenges and work out harder. When you are

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Speaker 2: encouraging them with affirmations and motivational speech, they're more likely

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Speaker 2: to stay committed and enthusiastic rather than just being yelled

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Speaker 2: or put down. I'm a big believer in building self

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Speaker 2: esteem and confidence. Empowerment is my game, and I think

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Speaker 2: that using affirming and supportive words that make people feel

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Speaker 2: good about their abilities and progress boost their self esteem,

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Speaker 2: making them feel capable and confident in their skills and

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Speaker 2: their body, which is essential for their personal growth inside

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Speaker 2: and outside of the gym or the session or the

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Speaker 2: online workout. Like I'm all about empowerment, you also want

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Speaker 2: to have a really good client trainer relationship or member

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Speaker 2: online trainer relationship that is fueled by trust and comfort.

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Speaker 2: I think, and I think positive communication fosters that supportive

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Speaker 2: relationship between the two of.

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Speaker 1: You, and it can be bonded that last.

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Speaker 2: Some of my members have trained with me for over

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Speaker 2: eight nine years, Like it is the foundation, and if

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Speaker 2: you want long term clients members business, then you need

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Speaker 2: to work.

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Speaker 1: On your language.

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Speaker 2: Plus, I'm a big believer that people come to work

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Speaker 2: out because they want to relieve stress and anxiety. Right,

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Speaker 2: So if you're yelling at them, how is that stress release?

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Speaker 2: You know? I really think that you need to have

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Speaker 2: a bit of a relaxing environment and you know, you

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Speaker 2: don't have to yell. Some of my coaches over my

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Speaker 2: time when I was you know, doing athletic more athletic stuff,

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Speaker 2: they've just whispered in my ear and it's been the

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Speaker 2: biggest push. So I think that having a welcoming environment

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Speaker 2: it can reduce anxiety related to performance or self image

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Speaker 2: and encourage them to actually enjoy the workout. I think

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Speaker 2: there is a world where you can enjoy working out,

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Speaker 2: and I really do believe that, So I think it's important.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: A big reason I am so supportive of positive language

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Speaker 2: is that it promotes a growth mindset, because this is

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Speaker 2: something I'm trying to teach my son at the moment,

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Speaker 2: because he's got a very fixed mindset and he's very

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Speaker 2: negative about himself at school at the moment. So focusing

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Speaker 2: on progress, focusing on what members are doing well and

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Speaker 2: how they can improve rather than their shortcomings or you

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Speaker 2: know you're not doing that good enough. That promotes a

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Speaker 2: growth mindset. So that perspective helps members to see challenges

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Speaker 2: as opportunities to grow rather than obstacles. So, oh, I'm

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Speaker 2: not going to do a sled push, it's too heavy,

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Speaker 2: I can't do that, blah blah blah. But when when

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Speaker 2: you are really encouraging them and using positive language, they'll

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Speaker 2: see it as a challenge and an opportunity to grow.

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Speaker 2: And let's see if you can just push five meters,

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Speaker 2: Let's get ten meters next time. Like you know, you

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Speaker 2: I think. And then overall, I think it really is

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Speaker 2: more resilient from my training, Like it's not something that

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Speaker 2: so positive reinforcement can help that. And I'm just thinking

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Speaker 2: about my son now when I'm talking to you, because

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Speaker 2: you know, like I was talking about, it improves overall

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Speaker 2: you always want that and it cultivates that positive training

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Speaker 2: environment and it's just so important. My dad taught me

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Speaker 2: very young. I started training as an instructor at the

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Speaker 2: age of twelve, and I was an assistant instructor at

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Speaker 2: the age of twelve, and by the age of like sixteen,

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Speaker 2: I was taking classes on my own. And he always

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Speaker 2: taught me praise, feedback, praise. That's the way you need

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Speaker 2: to approach it for anything you're doing. Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: your kicks are so awesome, but how about you drive

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Speaker 2: through the knee a little bit more. You'll get more

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Speaker 2: extension on that kick. But I love the height of

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Speaker 2: the kick. It it is fantastic. Like praise, feedback, praise. Always

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Speaker 2: always being aware of the tone, your body language, your

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Speaker 2: facial expressions that convey positivity, not negativity. So I'm always

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Speaker 2: very trying to be open with my body language when

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Speaker 2: I'm giving some feedback. But the growth mindset is really important.

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Speaker 2: And a psychologist, Carol Dweck, she developed the growth mindset

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Speaker 2: beliefs and I just can't recommend that enough. I'm doing

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Speaker 2: this with my son and we've got little He does

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Speaker 2: it at school as well. The school promotes a growth mindset,

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Speaker 2: and it's just really important going forward that you embrace

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Speaker 2: challenges and persist and see effort as a path to mastery.

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Speaker 1: I think that's really really important. So I guess I've.

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Speaker 2: Been very lucky in that my dad was a professional coach.

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Speaker 2: He coached at I think four Olympics, and he coached

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Speaker 2: Lauren Burns to our first Olympic gold medal in the

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Speaker 2: sport of taekwondo at the two and Sydney Games.

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Speaker 1: And that was the first.

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Speaker 2: just such a magic moment. And he's a professional coach, right,

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Speaker 2: So everything is about mindset and enhancing overall well being.

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Speaker 2: So I learned from him resilience. I really did that.

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Speaker 2: You face challenges and you recover from setbacks because they

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Speaker 2: don't you don't view them as failure or a direct

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Speaker 2: reflection of your ability. It's just a setback, and you

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Speaker 2: can take on these challenges because you're continually learning, which

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Speaker 2: is a martial artist philosophy, that you are a black

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Speaker 2: belt for life. That you go through the belt levels white, yellow, blue, red, black,

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Speaker 2: then you become black belt first and second, and third,

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Speaker 2: just never stop learning.

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Speaker 1: But you're black belt, right You've been black belt forever.

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Speaker 2: So it's part of that mindset, the black belt mindset,

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Speaker 2: my dad would call it. That was imbued in me

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Speaker 2: that you always learn through challenge, you always learn through setbacks,

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Speaker 2: you're always looking for feedback, you always take on that feedback,

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Speaker 2: and it was a great mindset, the black belt mindset.

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Speaker 2: And seeing that effort as a path of mastery, effort

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Speaker 2: not as fruitless but rather as essential for growth and

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Speaker 2: mastering new skills was just the most important thing for me.

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Speaker 2: Mastering self talk is also something that's really important and challenging.

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Speaker 2: I understand that because you have to accept imperfections. You

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Speaker 2: can't be perfectionistic and think I've got to be perfect,

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Speaker 2: because that is just you're just setting yourself up for disappointment.

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Speaker 2: So hiding from your weaknesses means you'll never overcome them.

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Speaker 2: Acknowledge your weakness. That is a good thing. And then,

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Speaker 2: as I said, view challenges as opportunities. Each challenge is

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Speaker 2: an opportunity for growth, so that's good. And then I

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Speaker 2: think you have to replace the word failing with learning.

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Speaker 2: That's what I always do because especially now I'm a

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Speaker 2: pt right, I talk to you on this podcast as

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Speaker 2: a personal trainer, but in my real life, like outside

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Speaker 2: of this podcast, I run a business and it is

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Speaker 2: full of fails daily. I'd have to say, but I

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Speaker 2: would not have survived in business nearly a decade now

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Speaker 2: if I saw them as failures. I'd have to say,

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Speaker 2: I see each time as a learning opportunity. You know,

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Speaker 2: I'll learn from it next time. I'll learn from it

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Speaker 2: next time, and that has just been pivotal to my success.

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Speaker 2: And then I think, self talk, You've got to stop

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Speaker 2: seeking approval. Focus on improving and learning, not seeking approval

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Speaker 2: from others. Don't compare yourself to other people. And I

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Speaker 2: think in all of this positive language and self talk

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Speaker 2: and everything, you've got to value the process over the

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Speaker 2: end result. We have a saying in taekwondo that black

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Speaker 1: But it's really true. It's absolutely true.

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Speaker 2: The outcome naturally follows, but you've got to really have

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Speaker 2: that hard work and time and you know, increase your

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Speaker 2: growth mindset comes in. Thanks so much for listening to

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