WEBVTT - Small steps for Hannah: Sue and Lloyd Clarke Pt.2

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<v Speaker 1>The public has had a long held fascination with detectives.

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<v Speaker 1>Detective sy a side of life the average person is

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<v Speaker 1>never exposed to. I spent thirty four years as a cop.

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<v Speaker 1>For twenty five of those years I was catching killers.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I did for a living. I was a

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<v Speaker 1>homicide detective. I'm no longer just interviewing bad guys. Instead,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm taking the public into the world in which I operated.

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<v Speaker 1>The guests I talk to each week have amazing stories

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<v Speaker 1>from all sides of the law. The interviews are raw

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<v Speaker 1>and honest, just like the people I talk to. Some

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<v Speaker 1>of the content and language might be confronting. That's because

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<v Speaker 1>no one who comes into contact with crime is left unchanged.

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<v Speaker 1>Join me now as I take you into this world.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Part two of Them, A Chat with

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<v Speaker 1>Sue and Lloyd Clark. They're the parents of Hannah Clark

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<v Speaker 1>and the grandparents of Aliyah six years old, Leyana four

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<v Speaker 1>years old, and Trey three years old, who are all

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<v Speaker 1>murdered in February twenty twenty in a crime that shocked

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<v Speaker 1>the nation when they were doused in petrol and set

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<v Speaker 1>a light in their vehicle by Roan Baxter. Hannah's husband

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<v Speaker 1>and the father of the children. Guys, welcome, Welcome back

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<v Speaker 1>Part two.

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<v Speaker 2>Ready to go.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep, I'm glad you guys are. It's pretty heavy subject

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<v Speaker 1>that we're talking about, and I apologize that, yeah, reliving it,

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<v Speaker 1>but no, it's it's not a problem. The things that

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to talk about in part two, I think

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<v Speaker 1>of vital importance and making sure if in any way

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<v Speaker 1>we can prevent this type of thing happening. We left

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<v Speaker 1>left part one. When you've been informed, you found out

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<v Speaker 1>that what had happened to Hannah and the children. Talk

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<v Speaker 1>us through the next forty eight hours.

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<v Speaker 2>We were numb.

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<v Speaker 3>I think after Hannah finally passed, she hung on till

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<v Speaker 3>a brother came back from the mines, had to ring

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<v Speaker 3>him and get him flowing back home, and we said

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<v Speaker 3>goodbye to our and then we were just numb. I

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<v Speaker 3>think in a bit of a days. It had been

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<v Speaker 3>one hell of a long day and we got home

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<v Speaker 3>and I know, for some reason we all decided, we

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<v Speaker 3>had Natt and Stacy with us, that we would go

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<v Speaker 3>down to the corner just to see what was there

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<v Speaker 3>the flowers. And as we were walking down, a storming

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<v Speaker 3>and we had a bit of a chuckle. That was

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<v Speaker 3>having to telling the kids to get to bed.

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<v Speaker 2>He left.

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<v Speaker 1>She's still controlling, he's still telling that.

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<v Speaker 3>They're still playing up at bedtime. And then the next morning,

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<v Speaker 3>I think, well, we didn't sleep, neither of us slept

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<v Speaker 3>at wink. I called you in to bed with Alia's

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<v Speaker 3>favorite little elephant. And next morning we got up, took

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<v Speaker 3>the dogs and went for walk through the bush't we?

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<v Speaker 2>And that same all that day so rain. That night,

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<v Speaker 2>a big storm came through. It was just a typical

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<v Speaker 2>February weather up here are humored, sticky, And the next

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<v Speaker 2>day there's just all these yellow butterflies everywhere, everywhere, just

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<v Speaker 2>butterflies everywhere. And that's why we've got the butterflies on

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<v Speaker 2>the emblem as well, Johannah's feet and the butterflies. So

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<v Speaker 2>I thought, well, you know, it's it's a bit of

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<v Speaker 2>a sign sort of thing.

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<v Speaker 3>It is.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, for those next I suppose the next couple

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<v Speaker 2>of months we were just numb. We didn't know what

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<v Speaker 2>to do, where to go. And then next thing we was.

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<v Speaker 3>Sort of we had these feet we didn't know what

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<v Speaker 3>to do with. And icee you when someone's going to die,

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<v Speaker 3>they give you a handprint on that person to keep well.

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<v Speaker 3>The only thing that was left of hand it was

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<v Speaker 3>the sales of a feet because she'd had joggers on

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<v Speaker 3>so they didn't get burnt. So we were given her footprints.

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<v Speaker 2>And I can't remember how long after the ac couple

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<v Speaker 2>current affair was wanted us to do an interview, and

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<v Speaker 2>they somehow I got ahold of Nat and that said

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<v Speaker 2>we'll go do this interview, you know, for a current

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<v Speaker 2>affair with Tracy and I just we didn't really want

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<v Speaker 2>to do it, so and I thought, really, so we're

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<v Speaker 2>getting I didn't want to. I refused it first, Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>and the police were still looking after us. The detectors,

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<v Speaker 2>they're like our personal bodyguards, and they were just with us. Now.

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<v Speaker 2>Next morning they just turned up, are okay, what can

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<v Speaker 2>we do? Can we get you anything? So they were

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<v Speaker 2>wonderful and we've now formed really good friendships with tom

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<v Speaker 2>O and Shan. We keep in touch all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>And they were driving us too for the interview. It

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<v Speaker 2>was set up in a private house somewhere they'd airbnb one.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're given the location and as I'm walking out,

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<v Speaker 2>I said, I just want to grab these I want

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<v Speaker 2>the nation to know that's all we've got left of Hannah.

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<v Speaker 2>Footprints prince. Yeah, and so we did the interview. I

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<v Speaker 2>showed the world her feet. You know, we come home

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<v Speaker 2>after that and I suppose to having a few drinks.

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<v Speaker 2>We're sitting around and we're while we're there, we're talking

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<v Speaker 2>to lew and Simon about you know that was friends,

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<v Speaker 2>about maybe starting a foundation, you know, maybe we should

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<v Speaker 2>do education. Let's look at all this. So then that's

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<v Speaker 2>when we started getting the idea deers around, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>sort of footprints. Well, we don't know what we're doing.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll just do small steps. Let's do small steps for

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<v Speaker 2>Hannah and make it a four for the four of them.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's how that sort of all came about, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>the foundation, the symbol, and then we put the yellow butterflies.

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<v Speaker 2>So we got the feet for Hannah, and the yellow

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<v Speaker 2>butterflies are the kids.

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<v Speaker 3>Three are supposed to be teal because teal was her

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<v Speaker 3>favorite color, and the pink because she was forbidden to

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<v Speaker 3>wear pink.

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<v Speaker 1>So symbolic, so symbolic, and I think it's that really

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<v Speaker 1>brings home that that's what you're left of Hannah the prince.

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<v Speaker 2>And then when you looked at too in age Hannah

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<v Speaker 2>Aliyah Leana Trey Holt, so that became our our I'm

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<v Speaker 2>saying that you had a wholt domestic violence. Well, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'd like to say it be Holt law, not Hannah's law,

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<v Speaker 2>because everyone knows Hannah, but we're forgetting the kids. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so we called the Holt law.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, isn't that It's got Well, I understand your thought

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<v Speaker 1>process there. So when you said you waited until Nathan

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<v Speaker 1>came down from the minds for Hannah to say goodbye,

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<v Speaker 1>did you get to speak to her after the event?

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<v Speaker 3>Was she they had a heavily sedated Yeah, we never got.

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<v Speaker 3>I spoke to her, but she didn't respond.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, So.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to move forward. I think a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>things that really touched me was the vigil the community.

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<v Speaker 1>The vigil there at the Parkland that a thousand people there.

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<v Speaker 1>You were shocked. Did you see it? Did you get

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<v Speaker 1>a sense of what was happening and involved in it?

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<v Speaker 3>It was just crazy. We got to knock at the

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<v Speaker 3>front door, and he's the mayor and his wife and

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<v Speaker 3>our local counselor and police commissioner and on our door.

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<v Speaker 3>We never spent time with people like that, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>we were normal people, and we let them into our

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<v Speaker 3>home home, a little house, and they said we would

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<v Speaker 3>like to do this. We feel the community needs it

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<v Speaker 3>and would like it. And we were overwhelmed that people

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<v Speaker 3>felt like that, like we'd always been nobody's you know,

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<v Speaker 3>and the thought that people wanted to support us was lovely.

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<v Speaker 2>The flowers were starting to and teddy bears and that

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<v Speaker 2>were starting to pile up on the corner. So the counselor,

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<v Speaker 2>Fiota cuming Ham had said, well, I think we will

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<v Speaker 2>move it down to Bill Hewett Park and people can

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<v Speaker 2>leave their gifts and thoughts there because it's just spilling

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<v Speaker 2>out everywhere. So that's when they said, well, if you'd like,

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<v Speaker 2>we'd like to organize a vigil, you know, and you

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<v Speaker 2>guys don't have to do I think we'll organize it

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<v Speaker 2>all and put the word out. But we were just

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<v Speaker 2>so touched. There was so many people I suppose we'd

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<v Speaker 2>lost touch with over the years because we went our

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<v Speaker 2>separate ways. And it was mainly the people that I

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<v Speaker 2>met from when I moved to Brisbane in nineteen eighty

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<v Speaker 2>to come down here and play football, and I think

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<v Speaker 2>we all formed a very strong bond back there then,

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<v Speaker 2>and they were forever friends, and they sort of friends

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<v Speaker 2>that you don't see for six months, twelve months, ten years,

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<v Speaker 2>but next time you see them, you can start that

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<v Speaker 2>conversation as if it was twenty years ago, sitting in

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<v Speaker 2>the pub having it a good old chat. We never

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<v Speaker 2>lost touch in that respect. So everyone just banned around

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<v Speaker 2>Hannah's friends. There were so many people that were there,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 3>That was We had old school friends turn up. They

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<v Speaker 3>were living on the other side of Brisbane. It was

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<v Speaker 3>just amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>And did that that help you guys process?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I was a nub to be honest. It

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<v Speaker 3>was lovely to see that and feel the support, But

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know in all honesty if it helped at

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<v Speaker 3>the time, I didn't not help.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I couldn't say whether yeah, it made me feel

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<v Speaker 2>stronger or that. But it was just lovely to see

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<v Speaker 2>and people came from to Womba, yes, came down. But

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<v Speaker 2>then again we started getting these stories. You know, we

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<v Speaker 2>didn't need to hear them at that time. Out they're

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<v Speaker 2>dramas their problem and I really love you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>still trying to process my own grief here. How can

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<v Speaker 2>I but we're lucky tom O and Shane were there.

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<v Speaker 2>They would see this and they'd sort of okay, we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to take you over here.

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<v Speaker 1>When there's a tragedy of the magnitude that what you

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<v Speaker 1>guys suffered Pannah and the children, people quite don't often

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<v Speaker 1>know how to deal with it and deal with what

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<v Speaker 1>to say. Like I I've had people that have had

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<v Speaker 1>situations not this similar to what you've gone through, and

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<v Speaker 1>people avoid them on the street, people that because they

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what to say. Oh, there's Lloyd and Sue.

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<v Speaker 1>What do we I'm just avoid.

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<v Speaker 2>We've had had that a lot. I've had people come

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<v Speaker 2>up to me three years later and say I've met

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<v Speaker 2>them somewhere. You said, oh yeah. I said, oh look,

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<v Speaker 2>I really wanted to call you, but I didn't know

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<v Speaker 2>what to say, so we had to say was hello, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I said, you know, I'm happy, you know, like if

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<v Speaker 2>I take your call or leave a message and I'll

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<v Speaker 2>call you back now when I can. So basically from

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<v Speaker 2>that day, I think I put my phone on silent

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<v Speaker 2>and I just look at down there and go, oh, yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll ring that person. I know they're okay, ring them

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know that number. Let it go. They left a

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<v Speaker 2>message I'd get back to them.

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<v Speaker 1>And quite often people in your situations, or one person particularly,

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<v Speaker 1>said that the best thing someone could say to me

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<v Speaker 1>was just not trying to make you feel better by

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<v Speaker 1>wise words, because there's no just thinking of you, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and give you a cuddle.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>One of the girls I worked with rang me the

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<v Speaker 3>next morning and all she said was f love. I've

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<v Speaker 3>got no words and it was just so true, and

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<v Speaker 3>I said I don't either.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but something as simple as that, it's profound in

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<v Speaker 1>the simplicity of it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>There was a park named Hannah's Place. The portion in

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<v Speaker 1>the park, yes, is that? Does that feel nice for

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<v Speaker 1>you to know that hasn't been forgotten?

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<v Speaker 3>We go up on the nineteenth feb every year and

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<v Speaker 3>we go up on Hannah's birthday and have a drink.

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<v Speaker 3>It's nice.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean the council just did that off the bat

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<v Speaker 2>and said, look, we're going to do this little bench

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<v Speaker 2>in the Bill Hue Park and little cover so people

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<v Speaker 2>can just come sit, talk, reflect whether they think about

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<v Speaker 2>Hannah orhere they think about someone else. And then they

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<v Speaker 2>put the sign up Hannah's Place, And then what happened,

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<v Speaker 2>just so people will know down the track you know

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<v Speaker 2>who hell it was. But I don't think a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people will forget her.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I'm sure that it won't be the case. So

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<v Speaker 1>small steps for Hannah. What's the aims and goals of

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<v Speaker 1>that group to.

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<v Speaker 3>Get course of control? Our Lord's standalone laws in every

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<v Speaker 3>state would be wonderful. And education and saving women Hannah

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to. She was in the process of applied to

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<v Speaker 3>the police force when she was killed, because she said,

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<v Speaker 3>I understand it. I can help women like myself. So

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<v Speaker 3>that's one of our goals. She's not here to do it.

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<v Speaker 3>So we want to save women. But education is our

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<v Speaker 3>big thing now.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's got to be the twofold And sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I get concerned when there's a crime domestic violence. We're

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<v Speaker 1>talking here and the attitude is, Okay, well, we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to make the laws tougher. We're going to do this,

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to do that. But it's got to be

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<v Speaker 1>a multi layered approach. I think to make a difference.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about coercive control. Because I talked about when

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<v Speaker 1>we met at that function. One of the things I

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<v Speaker 1>walked away inspired and I don't know if you are

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<v Speaker 1>steering the politicians or the attorney generals to me. But

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<v Speaker 1>I came back with there thinking one hundred percent this

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<v Speaker 1>has to be done. And I've gone on about coercive

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<v Speaker 1>controls in a lot of different podcasts of different forums

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<v Speaker 1>because it just makes sense to me. Now, for those

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<v Speaker 1>that don't know what coercive control what we're talking about here,

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<v Speaker 1>coercive control laws, I'll refer back to the police just

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<v Speaker 1>to explain it. We'll dumb it down. In my day

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<v Speaker 1>in the police, without coercive control, we get called to

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<v Speaker 1>a domestic and if you get called to too many domestics,

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<v Speaker 1>what's happened here? Well, nothing will. The neighbor's called, there's

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<v Speaker 1>a disturbance, invariably, and this is a bad old days.

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<v Speaker 1>It's well, you'd look to the woman, and the woman

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<v Speaker 1>say no, I'm fine, even though you can tell that

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<v Speaker 1>she's scared. But the husband's standing right there. We improved

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<v Speaker 1>policing to domestic type of assaults or of family violence

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<v Speaker 1>to the point where okay, we've got the power of

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<v Speaker 1>the aviva. We'll take our that break, not a family

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<v Speaker 1>violence order or whatever the thing that Hannah took out

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<v Speaker 1>that helps to a degree, but it doesn't circumvent it.

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<v Speaker 1>And police we look at things very black and white.

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<v Speaker 1>If there's no assault, like if I'm talking to I

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<v Speaker 1>turn up at your place, there's Lloyd and Sue. I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't been assaulted, but he's done this, done that. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not really legislation for it. Cowersive control is making

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<v Speaker 1>it a law, a law that can be acted upon

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<v Speaker 1>about the behavior and control of a person in an

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<v Speaker 1>intimate relationship. I think it's a no brainer now. It

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<v Speaker 1>was passed in parliament here in Queensland on sixth of March,

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<v Speaker 1>and in New South Wales it's been flagged in parliament there.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's a great step. And would you guys

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<v Speaker 1>agree that powers like that could have made a difference

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<v Speaker 1>in Hannah's situation?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh definitely. Well, for once she would have realized it

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<v Speaker 3>was actually a crime more domestic violence being committed against her. Ye,

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<v Speaker 3>so I think she may have looked at things differently,

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<v Speaker 3>probably acted earlier quicker.

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<v Speaker 2>Like we were saying, with the A v O, d

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<v Speaker 2>v as whatever you want to call them. You know

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<v Speaker 2>they're just a bit of paper. How does that stop

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<v Speaker 2>someone from Okay, you're it says Oh, you're not allowed

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<v Speaker 2>to go within a kilometer.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you're talking in this idiot.

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<v Speaker 2>That means nothing to him.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he's not going to worry about that.

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<v Speaker 2>So you know, this is where I think we spoke

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<v Speaker 2>earlier the other day about it, you know, monitoring. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we've got to go down that path. Definitely, nationally a

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<v Speaker 2>register everyone who does a dvo or whatever, they need

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<v Speaker 2>to be registered, so nationally they know that they've had

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<v Speaker 2>a dvo or put a dvo on them. Then also

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<v Speaker 2>they need to do a program a perpetrate.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I don't want to forget these points, because they're

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<v Speaker 1>all very valid points I want to break breakdown.

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<v Speaker 2>Won't that make it a bit easier to follow them,

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<v Speaker 2>to know where they're at if they are getting too close?

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<v Speaker 2>Especially in Hannah's case, we would have known that he

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<v Speaker 2>was hiding beside the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's get on our soapbox here and hopefully people are

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<v Speaker 1>listening to the podcast. Like an ankle bracelet, how would

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<v Speaker 1>that make a difference. I just in this day and

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<v Speaker 1>age of technology the way it is, I, for the

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<v Speaker 1>life of me don't understand why that's not implemented asap,

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<v Speaker 1>And it.

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<v Speaker 2>Could be something out there. But it could be like

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<v Speaker 2>an app.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we could do it during COVID, couldn't We could

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<v Speaker 1>track everyone the movements during COVID, and that was everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>Why can't we have a Okay, there's a domestic violent situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone gets an ankle bracelet put onto them, because that's

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<v Speaker 1>the person that's rowan. In the case case of Hannah,

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<v Speaker 1>if he comes within five kilometers or make it ten kilometers,

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<v Speaker 1>alarms go off, police are notified. Hannah's no theifire, and

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<v Speaker 1>all of a sudden she can live her life in

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<v Speaker 1>peace knowing that she's safe in that he's not close by. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>people say, but they could cut the ankle bracelet off

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<v Speaker 1>the moment that's cut off the alarm game and has notified.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's all these protocols in place. To me, it

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<v Speaker 1>just seems like a no brainer. And what are the

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<v Speaker 1>arguments not invasion of privacy or this or that. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't see it. They've only got the ankle bracelet on

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<v Speaker 1>them because they're repeat offenders or they've been more and

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<v Speaker 1>they've done it again and it could circumven it. Can

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<v Speaker 1>anyone in this room find the problem at all?

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely not, you know, I actually seem like a

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<v Speaker 2>little spike or a.

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<v Speaker 1>Shock like the barking dot.

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<v Speaker 2>Why not you know, if they come within that class,

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<v Speaker 2>they get a bit of a shock. Hang on your

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<v Speaker 2>step back now, No, but.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it would save lives.

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<v Speaker 1>One hundred percent would save lives. And like, why can't

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<v Speaker 1>we talk about we're going to get tough, We're going

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<v Speaker 1>to do this, We're going to do that. I understand

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<v Speaker 1>that tighten up the bail laws, make it so people

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<v Speaker 1>don't get a chance. But in the conversations we had

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<v Speaker 1>the other day, it was about everyone deserves a chance. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll give them one chance. But if they fail on

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<v Speaker 1>that chance, here's your bracelet, idiot, and you come within

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<v Speaker 1>five kilometers of the person that's at risk, you're going

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<v Speaker 1>to jail.

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<v Speaker 3>Yep.

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<v Speaker 2>I like that. And it's a register, yeah, national register.

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<v Speaker 1>On the register thing. And I often have this conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with sex offenders and that different type of situation. But

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<v Speaker 1>let's do it for domestic violence register. People say it's

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<v Speaker 1>an invasion of privacy. Okay, why don't we have it

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<v Speaker 1>like this? So I've never been charged with domestic violence,

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<v Speaker 1>you haven't been charged with domestic violence. I'm happy to

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<v Speaker 1>go on the register. If I happen to be out

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<v Speaker 1>dating someone or meeting someone, can I check whether you're

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<v Speaker 1>on the register? Yeah, you can check. Here's my name.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm on the register. So it's the idiots that have

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<v Speaker 1>got these charges won't be on the register. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>not the invasion of anyone. We flip it a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a voluntary it's voluntary. So I'm happy to go

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<v Speaker 1>on the register because I haven't got a charge. So

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<v Speaker 1>if anyone wants to check me out, Gary jubiln blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah, No is why can't we do that?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>To me, that seems like a simple solution and we

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<v Speaker 1>circumvent all this. It's an invasion of privacy and everyone's

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<v Speaker 1>got to forget that. I volunteer to go on the

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<v Speaker 1>register so anyone can contact me little things like that. Now, Education, again,

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<v Speaker 1>I keep repeating this because I've seen it too many

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<v Speaker 1>times over my career that if something's going wrong with

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<v Speaker 1>a crime, we're going to get tough on this and

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to you know, we're mandatory sentence, We're going

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<v Speaker 1>to do this. We need to educate people about domestic violence,

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<v Speaker 1>about coercive control. We need to call people out on

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<v Speaker 1>them and it needs to start at a young young

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<v Speaker 1>age all the way through. What's your thoughts on that.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we're now well small steps, I should say. We've

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<v Speaker 2>got two brilliant people who are tackling it on two

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<v Speaker 2>different aspects. One's the whole program Dave Kramer, who used

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<v Speaker 2>to train with Hannah. He's now a behavioral specialist scientist,

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<v Speaker 2>and he's doing one for the children, so high school

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<v Speaker 2>aged children. At the moment, we're still and it's taken

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<v Speaker 2>a while because we want to get it right. Because

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<v Speaker 2>we're talking children here and they're in our future. We

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<v Speaker 2>want them to behave properly in relationships. They need to

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<v Speaker 2>learn how to behave properly and break up properly. So

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<v Speaker 2>days is just get ready to do another pilot and

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<v Speaker 2>put it out there.

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<v Speaker 1>So he's going under the schools in the school.

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<v Speaker 2>Something Manfield up here in Queensland. He's the owner. Mansiell's

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<v Speaker 2>got them lined up to do the next pilot and

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<v Speaker 2>then we should be right to just start rolling it out.

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<v Speaker 2>However he can know how often he can. He's got

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<v Speaker 2>the work to do. But with both programs, we don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to franchise it. We don't want to just go

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<v Speaker 2>out there push bush bush. We want it delivered properly

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<v Speaker 2>and quietly. The other one is Michael.

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<v Speaker 1>So people if it's hold.

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<v Speaker 3>And days working with the university and professors getting their

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<v Speaker 3>inputs on how to speak to the children, and also

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<v Speaker 3>talking to the children about what they're seene on social

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<v Speaker 3>media and how to understand that and how a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of it's not right, and how to do with their

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<v Speaker 3>feelings and how if a lot of boys get upset

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<v Speaker 3>and they lash out. Dave talks about how to deal

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<v Speaker 3>with those feelings, and Dave's, you know, a fit young fellow,

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<v Speaker 3>and he explains or talks about it's okay to cry,

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<v Speaker 3>and Dave may get tears while he was talking because

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<v Speaker 3>he loved Tanna and the children. They were good friends.

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<v Speaker 3>And when the kids see him get emotional, they see

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<v Speaker 3>it's okay, it's okay for a man to be He's a.

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<v Speaker 1>Person they can look up to ye and also show.

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<v Speaker 3>Emotion exactly, So he's really hitting it as not accusing

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<v Speaker 3>all teenage boys as being potential perpetrators, but just how

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<v Speaker 3>to deal with your emotions and what you see on

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<v Speaker 3>social media and just coping with teenage life as such,

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<v Speaker 3>and respect for relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>So and dealing with your emotions is an important part. Lloyd,

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<v Speaker 1>I look at you, you can look at me you.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we've shared ground. When you were young, like

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't know how to deal with your emotions. You

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<v Speaker 1>got you're either cranky or you were happy. Yes, that

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<v Speaker 1>was and because that was the role models that were shown.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right, there was. Well my era too, there was

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<v Speaker 2>no mentors. I didn't have a mentor, like, oh a

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<v Speaker 2>few people did, but who needs a mentor? And then

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<v Speaker 2>if you did something, you know, you're stuffed up at work,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you started showing an emotion. I hardened up, mate,

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<v Speaker 2>have a cup of concrete, Come on, move on. And

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's sort of maybe made me a bit

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<v Speaker 2>of a tough old bugger and realized that, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>there's more to life, you know. Okay, we've had a

0:22:46.080 --> 0:22:50.280
<v Speaker 2>terrible tragedy or the worst tragedy ever, but I need

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<v Speaker 2>to move on, you know, I need to never get

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<v Speaker 2>over it. Don't get me wrong, never there. But we

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<v Speaker 2>had to just get up and keep going. And I

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<v Speaker 2>think we said earlier, we just helped each other and

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<v Speaker 2>we spoke we talked, and this is what I think.

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<v Speaker 2>It's conversation. We need to have conversations. So we haven't

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<v Speaker 2>going to have conversations with children in schools about behaving

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<v Speaker 2>properly and about there but their emotions and showing them

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<v Speaker 2>and or not showing them all that sort.

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<v Speaker 1>Of stuff, and it's not it's not building a soft society.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the problem we've got just discussions. If blakes

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<v Speaker 1>break up like a rel relationship, and I won't use

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<v Speaker 1>realm because I think he's an outlier in that. It's

0:23:32.320 --> 0:23:35.840
<v Speaker 1>women sit down and do brief, go through the nitty

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<v Speaker 1>gritty of it or whatever. If Lloyd and I are

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<v Speaker 1>sitting there and broke up, Oh that's so good mate,

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<v Speaker 1>What what are you drinking? It's almost that discissive type thing.

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<v Speaker 2>And this week and the tips, Yeah, don't have.

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<v Speaker 1>The hard subjects. That's just bas and that's what we

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<v Speaker 1>shy away from it. And I think that's where you

0:23:55.960 --> 0:23:58.760
<v Speaker 1>get these people caught up in this just spiraling circle

0:23:58.760 --> 0:24:01.920
<v Speaker 1>of obsession or what ever. Then they haven't got the release,

0:24:02.000 --> 0:24:04.000
<v Speaker 1>they don't know how to talk talk through it. So

0:24:05.240 --> 0:24:10.000
<v Speaker 1>education at the school, So Dave's full name Dave Kramer,

0:24:10.440 --> 0:24:14.280
<v Speaker 1>and the whole program. So if people want to see what's.

0:24:14.119 --> 0:24:16.960
<v Speaker 2>Going on, just get onto our website and we've got

0:24:17.000 --> 0:24:20.040
<v Speaker 2>a section there for education, and yeah, they can just

0:24:20.280 --> 0:24:22.800
<v Speaker 2>send us an email and yeah, we'll try and fit

0:24:22.840 --> 0:24:23.160
<v Speaker 2>them in.

0:24:24.040 --> 0:24:28.040
<v Speaker 1>I do think it is a way to approach it. Wait, wait,

0:24:28.160 --> 0:24:30.679
<v Speaker 1>definitely a way to approach it. You've got to re educate.

0:24:31.160 --> 0:24:34.800
<v Speaker 1>I on the podcast series Breaking Badness, I went into

0:24:35.480 --> 0:24:39.760
<v Speaker 1>a prison covering speaking to inmates in a maximum security prison,

0:24:40.560 --> 0:24:42.960
<v Speaker 1>and there was something that was discussed with me when

0:24:43.119 --> 0:24:44.800
<v Speaker 1>I actually got to sit down and speak to some

0:24:44.960 --> 0:24:47.800
<v Speaker 1>of the inmates and you know, what are you're in

0:24:47.800 --> 0:24:50.120
<v Speaker 1>here for? And somewhere in there for horrendous crimes? Blah

0:24:50.160 --> 0:24:53.640
<v Speaker 1>blah blah, And then the topic of domestic violence came up,

0:24:53.720 --> 0:24:57.119
<v Speaker 1>and they said the problem that what happens if someone

0:24:57.640 --> 0:25:01.439
<v Speaker 1>is being charged with domestic violence, breach the AVA or whatever,

0:25:01.600 --> 0:25:04.800
<v Speaker 1>end up in prison. They're in there, they're in there

0:25:04.800 --> 0:25:08.960
<v Speaker 1>with angry men, and they're angry, and then they serve

0:25:09.000 --> 0:25:10.919
<v Speaker 1>their time for breaching the a v O. And then

0:25:10.920 --> 0:25:13.119
<v Speaker 1>they get out and they're just been pacing up and

0:25:13.160 --> 0:25:16.639
<v Speaker 1>down their cell going that, bitch, why won't you report me?

0:25:17.119 --> 0:25:20.199
<v Speaker 1>So they're getting they're getting out angry, and it's not

0:25:20.400 --> 0:25:22.960
<v Speaker 1>you know it, we know it's stupid, but this is

0:25:22.960 --> 0:25:25.399
<v Speaker 1>the logic going in their mind. And someone said and

0:25:25.400 --> 0:25:27.560
<v Speaker 1>there was just is obviously spent a lot of time

0:25:27.600 --> 0:25:30.439
<v Speaker 1>in prison this, but there needs to be something to

0:25:30.520 --> 0:25:33.920
<v Speaker 1>help them in there to work to navigate away away

0:25:33.960 --> 0:25:36.920
<v Speaker 1>from this. Otherwise you're just put in men that were

0:25:36.960 --> 0:25:39.119
<v Speaker 1>angry to start with. That's why they're in here, and

0:25:39.160 --> 0:25:41.400
<v Speaker 1>then they're in here and they're getting out angrier, and

0:25:41.440 --> 0:25:45.120
<v Speaker 1>no one's an intervention program for that type of thing.

0:25:45.520 --> 0:25:49.600
<v Speaker 1>So but all these things that there's so many different

0:25:49.640 --> 0:25:53.320
<v Speaker 1>layers to it, isn't it exactly? And falling back on

0:25:53.359 --> 0:25:56.080
<v Speaker 1>the politician side of it and the police side of it,

0:25:56.119 --> 0:25:59.640
<v Speaker 1>where bail is being given, there's some warning signs there

0:25:59.680 --> 0:26:02.639
<v Speaker 1>and I think someone mentioned that there was someone that

0:26:02.720 --> 0:26:07.000
<v Speaker 1>was bailed after they killed their ex's pet to me

0:26:07.840 --> 0:26:13.040
<v Speaker 1>and again not a psychologist, but that's warning, warning and

0:26:13.040 --> 0:26:16.160
<v Speaker 1>how they get bail from there. So there's a lot

0:26:16.160 --> 0:26:20.040
<v Speaker 1>of things that need to be done to make a difference.

0:26:20.920 --> 0:26:24.240
<v Speaker 1>Are you guys confident like you've been given a platform

0:26:24.280 --> 0:26:27.760
<v Speaker 1>and it's a platform that you certainly didn't want And

0:26:28.040 --> 0:26:31.960
<v Speaker 1>I sense an easier life for you would be stepping away.

0:26:32.520 --> 0:26:35.320
<v Speaker 1>Do you think we are getting better at dealing with

0:26:35.480 --> 0:26:36.960
<v Speaker 1>domestic and family violence?

0:26:38.320 --> 0:26:42.639
<v Speaker 2>It's hard. I think we're getting more aware. Everyone's getting

0:26:42.640 --> 0:26:45.280
<v Speaker 2>more aware. The conversations are great at the moment because

0:26:45.320 --> 0:26:48.919
<v Speaker 2>we're seeing people talking about it and it's not just

0:26:49.240 --> 0:26:52.040
<v Speaker 2>you know, the cause of control, but it's all domestic

0:26:52.080 --> 0:26:55.760
<v Speaker 2>and family violence. So now the federal government's getting involved.

0:26:55.760 --> 0:26:59.960
<v Speaker 2>Finally taken four years from nearly four years from Hannah,

0:27:00.080 --> 0:27:02.919
<v Speaker 2>until the federal governments turned around said we need a

0:27:03.040 --> 0:27:07.120
<v Speaker 2>national inquiry, we need a national input. So let's get

0:27:07.160 --> 0:27:09.600
<v Speaker 2>all the states together, and that's what we've been pushing

0:27:09.600 --> 0:27:11.920
<v Speaker 2>for is get all the states to bloody turn around

0:27:11.960 --> 0:27:14.000
<v Speaker 2>and do something. It'd be great if there was just

0:27:14.080 --> 0:27:19.080
<v Speaker 2>one law that suited every state and territory, but unfortunately

0:27:19.080 --> 0:27:21.080
<v Speaker 2>that's never going to happen. So we've got to make

0:27:21.119 --> 0:27:24.200
<v Speaker 2>sure that these other states and territories actually do something,

0:27:24.359 --> 0:27:29.000
<v Speaker 2>just not be Queensland, New South Wales and hopefully South Australia.

0:27:29.119 --> 0:27:32.359
<v Speaker 2>Well there's already some laws in Tasmania, but they probably

0:27:32.359 --> 0:27:35.200
<v Speaker 2>need to be bolstered up a bit. But we're seeing

0:27:35.200 --> 0:27:38.000
<v Speaker 2>a shift in policing with her some really good stories

0:27:38.760 --> 0:27:39.119
<v Speaker 2>come out.

0:27:39.440 --> 0:27:42.239
<v Speaker 1>Tell us that because people think I bash it up

0:27:42.280 --> 0:27:46.119
<v Speaker 1>on the police sometimes that I love good stories about policing.

0:27:46.119 --> 0:27:48.800
<v Speaker 3>We did tell that Christy Oh, a friend of ours

0:27:48.920 --> 0:27:51.840
<v Speaker 3>up the coast, who twenty years ago had been in

0:27:51.840 --> 0:27:57.439
<v Speaker 3>a domestic violence relationship which was quite physical, and she's since,

0:27:57.800 --> 0:28:02.040
<v Speaker 3>as often happens, has a fellow and she's in the

0:28:02.040 --> 0:28:08.119
<v Speaker 3>same situation now. But New Year's Eve the police were called.

0:28:08.160 --> 0:28:10.359
<v Speaker 3>He got out of carving knife and rang the police

0:28:10.400 --> 0:28:12.479
<v Speaker 3>and said that she was trying to attack him, and

0:28:12.520 --> 0:28:15.600
<v Speaker 3>they clearly saw through it for what it was. But

0:28:15.680 --> 0:28:19.560
<v Speaker 3>the police did advise that one should leave the house.

0:28:20.160 --> 0:28:23.359
<v Speaker 3>No one did, but the police helped get him to

0:28:23.359 --> 0:28:27.760
<v Speaker 3>an AA meeting, They got him to a psychologist, and

0:28:27.800 --> 0:28:30.520
<v Speaker 3>they really kept checking in and doing wellfall checks and

0:28:31.000 --> 0:28:33.520
<v Speaker 3>she said the change in twenty years to how the

0:28:33.560 --> 0:28:36.119
<v Speaker 3>police reacted was amazing.

0:28:36.720 --> 0:28:39.160
<v Speaker 1>Okay, well, that's credit to the police. I do think

0:28:39.200 --> 0:28:42.320
<v Speaker 1>that I do think they've become aware of the situation

0:28:42.760 --> 0:28:43.120
<v Speaker 1>they have.

0:28:43.120 --> 0:28:48.240
<v Speaker 2>And we've sent it here in Queensland, especially when you

0:28:48.280 --> 0:28:51.720
<v Speaker 2>know we also with the Foundation, we give grants out

0:28:52.000 --> 0:28:54.800
<v Speaker 2>so that before we actually sort of got involved, well,

0:28:55.600 --> 0:28:57.560
<v Speaker 2>we didn't think we'd be able to do the education

0:28:57.600 --> 0:28:59.040
<v Speaker 2>because she just didn't know how to set that up.

0:28:59.320 --> 0:29:01.960
<v Speaker 2>So you had all this money piling up. People were

0:29:02.000 --> 0:29:05.640
<v Speaker 2>just donating to us, you know, to help. We thought, well, okay,

0:29:06.040 --> 0:29:08.680
<v Speaker 2>we've got this money, and we spoke to our patron,

0:29:08.840 --> 0:29:11.120
<v Speaker 2>Nina Shremmon, and she said, all you need to do

0:29:11.200 --> 0:29:13.520
<v Speaker 2>is just sit on it, put in the bank, maybe

0:29:13.520 --> 0:29:14.800
<v Speaker 2>start giving grants out.

0:29:14.600 --> 0:29:16.520
<v Speaker 1>To workwhile projects.

0:29:16.560 --> 0:29:19.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, people that foundations that can't get the grands have

0:29:20.000 --> 0:29:22.120
<v Speaker 2>missed out on grants. So we just put a call

0:29:22.160 --> 0:29:24.960
<v Speaker 2>out and our goal is and we're going to reach

0:29:25.040 --> 0:29:27.920
<v Speaker 2>that quite comfortably. We'd like to give a million dollars

0:29:27.920 --> 0:29:30.480
<v Speaker 2>out with them five years, and that's coming around pretty

0:29:30.520 --> 0:29:33.400
<v Speaker 2>quick and we'll definitely have it before the five years,

0:29:33.480 --> 0:29:37.320
<v Speaker 2>so we and just give out whatever. And one of

0:29:37.320 --> 0:29:41.040
<v Speaker 2>them was to set of women and co here a

0:29:41.040 --> 0:29:44.640
<v Speaker 2>little foundation. They have counselors and what they did they

0:29:44.680 --> 0:29:47.000
<v Speaker 2>were putting them out with the police to go out

0:29:47.040 --> 0:29:50.080
<v Speaker 2>and help in the domestic violence in the Logan area.

0:29:51.360 --> 0:29:54.239
<v Speaker 2>And they the funding to run out, so they're going

0:29:54.240 --> 0:29:55.640
<v Speaker 2>to shut it down. I read this in the paper

0:29:55.680 --> 0:29:59.560
<v Speaker 2>and then so did the our our shairman on the board,

0:29:59.680 --> 0:30:01.520
<v Speaker 2>and we sort of both had the same idea at

0:30:01.400 --> 0:30:04.320
<v Speaker 2>the same time. Well, let's do something about it. Let's

0:30:04.320 --> 0:30:06.160
<v Speaker 2>get in touch, let's maybe give them some money. We

0:30:06.200 --> 0:30:09.760
<v Speaker 2>can't give them do it forever, but maybe pay for

0:30:09.800 --> 0:30:12.240
<v Speaker 2>six months and then see what happens.

0:30:12.320 --> 0:30:14.920
<v Speaker 1>And so that was having a counselor go out with

0:30:14.960 --> 0:30:16.320
<v Speaker 1>the police to attend.

0:30:15.920 --> 0:30:19.560
<v Speaker 2>A semestic or people who wouldn't didn't want to come

0:30:19.560 --> 0:30:22.200
<v Speaker 2>in because they've actually had problems with the police to

0:30:22.280 --> 0:30:25.680
<v Speaker 2>start with. They hated going to the police. Distrust, yeah, distrust,

0:30:25.760 --> 0:30:27.640
<v Speaker 2>you know that sort of thing. So they would go, look,

0:30:28.080 --> 0:30:30.200
<v Speaker 2>I'll go down and see them have a couple or

0:30:30.280 --> 0:30:33.200
<v Speaker 2>ring them in and I'll actually sit there with you

0:30:33.440 --> 0:30:37.000
<v Speaker 2>through the interview, so you're comfortable, right, and then I'll

0:30:37.000 --> 0:30:37.760
<v Speaker 2>take you back home.

0:30:38.120 --> 0:30:40.520
<v Speaker 1>Just a little thinks like that make a big So

0:30:41.240 --> 0:30:41.680
<v Speaker 1>we did that.

0:30:42.120 --> 0:30:45.600
<v Speaker 3>They also were helping the police with how to phrase

0:30:45.680 --> 0:30:48.800
<v Speaker 3>the questions. Now they were saying, like, how about you

0:30:48.880 --> 0:30:51.760
<v Speaker 3>asked this way, and that helped the police a lot

0:30:51.840 --> 0:30:54.560
<v Speaker 3>because they understood better and they were getting better answer.

0:30:55.000 --> 0:30:55.320
<v Speaker 2>I think.

0:30:55.560 --> 0:30:58.280
<v Speaker 1>And the police want to do it. They set out

0:30:58.320 --> 0:31:00.680
<v Speaker 1>to do a bad job. And I know, you speak

0:31:00.720 --> 0:31:02.680
<v Speaker 1>to any police officer and they all put the hand

0:31:02.760 --> 0:31:05.040
<v Speaker 1>up to how intimidating it was the first time you

0:31:05.080 --> 0:31:07.960
<v Speaker 1>got called to a domestic because invariably you were younger

0:31:07.960 --> 0:31:10.200
<v Speaker 1>than the person you were going there to tell how

0:31:10.240 --> 0:31:12.160
<v Speaker 1>to behave and you walk in there and go, I

0:31:12.160 --> 0:31:12.920
<v Speaker 1>don't know what to do.

0:31:13.960 --> 0:31:16.720
<v Speaker 3>That's right. So if you've got a young constable, but

0:31:16.800 --> 0:31:20.320
<v Speaker 3>that and you've got someone who's experienced helping you and

0:31:20.360 --> 0:31:22.960
<v Speaker 3>advising you on what to say and what to look for,

0:31:23.480 --> 0:31:24.600
<v Speaker 3>makes a huge difference.

0:31:25.120 --> 0:31:28.959
<v Speaker 1>Well, it's again so many different things to look at,

0:31:29.040 --> 0:31:29.240
<v Speaker 1>isn't it.

0:31:29.240 --> 0:31:32.280
<v Speaker 3>Well, the police here are actually trialing that in three

0:31:32.360 --> 0:31:35.440
<v Speaker 3>of our worst domestic violence areas at the moment, having

0:31:35.480 --> 0:31:36.760
<v Speaker 3>co responders go out.

0:31:36.880 --> 0:31:39.320
<v Speaker 2>And when we went down there too, oh they wonder,

0:31:39.400 --> 0:31:40.720
<v Speaker 2>thank us and that, you know, and do the whole

0:31:40.880 --> 0:31:44.600
<v Speaker 2>novelty check thing and hand that over. Had a bit

0:31:44.600 --> 0:31:46.240
<v Speaker 2>of a morning tea down there and talking to one

0:31:46.240 --> 0:31:49.640
<v Speaker 2>of the senior police there, he said, mate, you don't

0:31:49.680 --> 0:31:52.720
<v Speaker 2>believe the difference in policing, he said, once before before

0:31:52.760 --> 0:31:56.400
<v Speaker 2>we actually had these guys on as coresponders. You know,

0:31:57.080 --> 0:31:59.479
<v Speaker 2>we'd put a call out there's a domestic dispirit at

0:31:59.480 --> 0:32:03.080
<v Speaker 2>such a star everyone's going, oh, hang on, there's also

0:32:03.080 --> 0:32:05.160
<v Speaker 2>a car crash. We'll go to the car crash, the

0:32:06.120 --> 0:32:08.520
<v Speaker 2>car crash, and then all of a sudden, you know,

0:32:08.840 --> 0:32:11.400
<v Speaker 2>they realize that they are helping and they're doing really

0:32:11.440 --> 0:32:13.880
<v Speaker 2>good for the community. They will get into the bottom

0:32:13.920 --> 0:32:16.000
<v Speaker 2>of everything. He said, No one wants to go to

0:32:16.440 --> 0:32:18.360
<v Speaker 2>car crash anymore. They will want to go to the

0:32:18.520 --> 0:32:22.280
<v Speaker 2>DV situation. How good is that? That's that's great.

0:32:22.400 --> 0:32:24.960
<v Speaker 1>That's great. And like I think policing, if you can

0:32:25.000 --> 0:32:28.880
<v Speaker 1>prevent crime, it's you want to prevent crime. It makes

0:32:28.880 --> 0:32:31.040
<v Speaker 1>everyone's world a better place if you can, if you

0:32:31.080 --> 0:32:31.680
<v Speaker 1>can prevent it.

0:32:31.720 --> 0:32:33.800
<v Speaker 2>So we'll go back to that education in this. We've

0:32:33.800 --> 0:32:37.480
<v Speaker 2>got to educate the perpetrator most definitely.

0:32:37.600 --> 0:32:42.160
<v Speaker 1>We've talked about programs coming in legislation, different things that

0:32:42.280 --> 0:32:45.400
<v Speaker 1>you can done. I know in the conversation you guys

0:32:45.520 --> 0:32:49.400
<v Speaker 1>we had had the other day, we're talking about people. Friends.

0:32:49.880 --> 0:32:52.200
<v Speaker 1>You me have got to call out other people before

0:32:52.200 --> 0:32:54.960
<v Speaker 1>we see it going bad and not take that sort

0:32:54.960 --> 0:32:57.040
<v Speaker 1>of it's a little bit awkward. I don't want to

0:32:57.040 --> 0:33:00.600
<v Speaker 1>buy into this. So if we see things happening as

0:33:00.640 --> 0:33:04.520
<v Speaker 1>a friend, as a friend, associate or whatever, you've got

0:33:04.520 --> 0:33:06.480
<v Speaker 1>to speak up. Would you guys agree on that.

0:33:06.800 --> 0:33:09.680
<v Speaker 3>Very much, so very much so even just to hear

0:33:09.880 --> 0:33:13.360
<v Speaker 3>your friends said, your derogatory remark about a woman, you know,

0:33:14.040 --> 0:33:15.880
<v Speaker 3>so mate, we don't do that anymore.

0:33:16.400 --> 0:33:19.480
<v Speaker 2>Not cool. And I think that's our other program too,

0:33:19.720 --> 0:33:23.800
<v Speaker 2>is called Hannah's Story. So that's for more the adult

0:33:23.920 --> 0:33:28.040
<v Speaker 2>corporate sort of thing football or clubs, you know, And

0:33:28.120 --> 0:33:32.440
<v Speaker 2>that's been that started rolling out late last year and

0:33:32.840 --> 0:33:35.840
<v Speaker 2>Michael j has done all the framework for it. So

0:33:36.040 --> 0:33:42.360
<v Speaker 2>Michael's an educated talker speaker, and he has done this

0:33:42.480 --> 0:33:47.480
<v Speaker 2>on the podcast Hannah's Story. So it's gender based. Of course,

0:33:47.480 --> 0:33:50.720
<v Speaker 2>it's Hannah's Story and there's that so many red flags

0:33:50.760 --> 0:33:55.600
<v Speaker 2>there and it's quite hard hitting, very to the bone.

0:33:57.440 --> 0:34:00.800
<v Speaker 2>But it has got some great reviews. He delivers it

0:34:00.840 --> 0:34:03.560
<v Speaker 2>as a male to talking about a male doing the

0:34:03.600 --> 0:34:06.000
<v Speaker 2>wrong thing. And I think, you know, it's a good

0:34:06.000 --> 0:34:08.880
<v Speaker 2>program because it shows you the red flags, it shows

0:34:08.880 --> 0:34:11.799
<v Speaker 2>you what to look for and actually, yeah, speak about it.

0:34:12.239 --> 0:34:15.359
<v Speaker 3>Gives it a true life story. Yes, that's the fart

0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:16.960
<v Speaker 3>of Hannah and the kids. And also he has some

0:34:17.000 --> 0:34:19.520
<v Speaker 3>of the clips from the police cams when they were

0:34:19.520 --> 0:34:22.160
<v Speaker 3>dealing with so people can see.

0:34:22.239 --> 0:34:25.239
<v Speaker 1>So and so you may made the point you know

0:34:25.440 --> 0:34:28.800
<v Speaker 1>if people sitting around and they say something derogatory or whatever,

0:34:28.840 --> 0:34:31.439
<v Speaker 1>and Lloyd, you would have seen that you sit and

0:34:31.640 --> 0:34:32.040
<v Speaker 1>they're not.

0:34:32.000 --> 0:34:35.240
<v Speaker 2>As part of it. Yeah, as a football playing football,

0:34:35.680 --> 0:34:36.920
<v Speaker 2>we all made those comments and.

0:34:37.160 --> 0:34:39.360
<v Speaker 1>I could imagine that bitch of a wife wants me

0:34:39.400 --> 0:34:42.040
<v Speaker 1>to go home. Yeah, something like that. We don't have

0:34:42.080 --> 0:34:44.160
<v Speaker 1>to get too precious, but we've got to. Yeah, the

0:34:44.200 --> 0:34:46.279
<v Speaker 1>world has changed and we've got to go. If this

0:34:46.400 --> 0:34:49.760
<v Speaker 1>blake is, if it's not said in total jest or nothing,

0:34:50.160 --> 0:34:51.719
<v Speaker 1>they've got to be called on it. You shouldn't be

0:34:51.760 --> 0:34:54.280
<v Speaker 1>speaking about your wife like that's a bit of respect.

0:34:54.400 --> 0:34:55.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, exactly.

0:34:55.239 --> 0:34:58.640
<v Speaker 1>And it's not that hard, is It Really just takes

0:34:58.680 --> 0:35:00.719
<v Speaker 1>a bit of ticker just to stand up sometimes and

0:35:01.239 --> 0:35:05.480
<v Speaker 1>not just sort of shy away from it. Hey, guys,

0:35:05.760 --> 0:35:08.160
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0:35:08.200 --> 0:35:10.360
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0:35:10.400 --> 0:35:13.680
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0:35:13.760 --> 0:35:17.360
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0:35:20.080 --> 0:35:23.160
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<v Speaker 1>Listen early and ad free on Crime x Plus on

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<v Speaker 1>Apple Podcasts Today Your life, Guys, you wouldn't have expected

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<v Speaker 1>your life to be where it is now. You talked

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<v Speaker 1>at the Starter part one about you have to continue

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<v Speaker 1>on because you've got family. What other option have you got?

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<v Speaker 1>Look at looking back, what they think life's all about

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<v Speaker 1>for you to now? Is it a day to day

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<v Speaker 1>struggle or you've got purpose or you've got the memories.

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<v Speaker 3>Day to day struggles still, really it is to hope

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<v Speaker 3>with and then other days you feel you're on top

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<v Speaker 3>of it and you've got some goals, and then back

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<v Speaker 3>to square one.

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<v Speaker 2>It's yeah, yeah, I don't know. Every year since I

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<v Speaker 2>think I feel top more tired. I just starting to

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<v Speaker 2>lose a bit of that zest, that energy I suppose,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, just sort of get out there and keep

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<v Speaker 2>knocking on doors, trying to talk to politicians, do and

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<v Speaker 2>report interviews, and that just find it harder this year.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, Maybe it's just that third fourth year

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<v Speaker 2>coming around. Maybe just need a really good break. But

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<v Speaker 2>we had a good break over Christmas, so and I

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<v Speaker 2>was ready to thinking, well, OK, this year, we've got

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<v Speaker 2>a few things lined up, but we want to sort

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<v Speaker 2>of just step back this year a bit, just let

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<v Speaker 2>the education, let the boys concentrate on that and help

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<v Speaker 2>out wherever we can there. It's sort of it's been

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<v Speaker 2>an emotional ride again, you know, sort of yeah, knock

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<v Speaker 2>us about a bit, but you know, we've sort of

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<v Speaker 2>got to keep just moving on and I think we'll

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<v Speaker 2>just take it slowly this year. And we're actually going

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<v Speaker 2>down to New South Wales to do a presentation to

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<v Speaker 2>the New South Wales Police. They've asked us starting yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and we were so grateful to be honored to be

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<v Speaker 2>asked to go down there and talk to them.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's such a great idea by a New

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<v Speaker 1>South Wales Police to get you involved, because I know

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<v Speaker 1>if police sit there that can be a bit cynical.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys come down there and tell your story and

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<v Speaker 1>that and there won't be a person in the room

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<v Speaker 1>that's not sort of switch switched onto it. So that's good.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to make sure you look after yourselves guys too,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I've seen people through my years in homicide that

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<v Speaker 1>they're on that campaign. You've got to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>look after yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what I'm going to take a bit of

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<v Speaker 2>time this year and just.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, and I think even that that function before

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<v Speaker 1>the COVID lockdown, you guys said to me, and I

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<v Speaker 1>still still remember it, that you're just tired. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing so many things and you've been pulled from

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<v Speaker 1>pillar to post. I say to you, and I pulled

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<v Speaker 1>you into the podcast. I'm saying, take it easy. What

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<v Speaker 1>a hypocrite I am. But the work that you're doing

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<v Speaker 1>is worthwhile. You are you are, you are definitely making

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<v Speaker 1>a difference, and you've inspired me just sitting down talking

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<v Speaker 1>to you, because I think a couple of things that

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<v Speaker 1>we stumble across or you're thought of, it's just so obvious,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't it, like with the coercive control? Well, how does

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<v Speaker 1>it take us hundreds of years to work out we

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<v Speaker 1>needed this, like say, blatantly obvious ankle bracelets. Let's push that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to champion that everywhere I go. Let's just

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<v Speaker 1>keep going ankle bracelet, ankle bracelet. I think that's the register.

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<v Speaker 1>We can get around that privacy stuff by just doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be the first one the register. I'll register do

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<v Speaker 1>it that way, and then education and.

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<v Speaker 2>I do believe that there has been a bit of

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<v Speaker 2>a shift between interstate police. They've done our information share

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<v Speaker 2>now yeah, yeah, is correct.

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<v Speaker 1>Policing is always evolveding they're trying to improve. No one's

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<v Speaker 1>going to policing policing too stuff up, so everyone's trying

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<v Speaker 1>to make it better in policing. And yeah, there's no

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<v Speaker 1>one if you've seen with the police that you've come across,

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<v Speaker 1>attending crimes like that. No one wants to attend crimes

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<v Speaker 1>like that and the impacts on them, So everyone wants

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<v Speaker 1>to do a better job. I think we're understanding domestic

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<v Speaker 1>violence on the national level. As you said, the federal

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<v Speaker 1>government have got him. One of the impressive people I

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<v Speaker 1>had on the podcast. She was a police officer, but

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<v Speaker 1>she was also a victim of that coercive control and

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<v Speaker 1>domestic violence and all that, and it was really interesting

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<v Speaker 1>the insight. And she's thinking, I'm a police officer, how

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<v Speaker 1>can I be a victim because and I think a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people think that way, and then really dawned

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<v Speaker 1>on it, Well, I am a victim.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm one of.

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<v Speaker 1>These people that I go to help. And she's got

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<v Speaker 1>an interesting insight into policing and what can be done

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<v Speaker 1>on the domestic violence. So we've all these people working.

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<v Speaker 1>You sound like you're getting a good team around around yourselves.

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<v Speaker 2>We are well And I mean, like I said, we

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<v Speaker 2>just decided to have a conversation managed to get governments

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<v Speaker 2>and people to work together. Here in Queensland. We've managed

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<v Speaker 2>to get because we called a bit of a round

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<v Speaker 2>table or we wanted to learn more about courus of control.

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<v Speaker 2>We formed a little meeting thing once a month where

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<v Speaker 2>we held cours of controlled dinners and did separate things.

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<v Speaker 2>So other foundations they did some networking. We started collaborating.

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<v Speaker 2>I started. We managed to get the foundations working together

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<v Speaker 2>where we find here in Queensland and they tend to

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<v Speaker 2>fight against each other because they want the money, they

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<v Speaker 2>want the thing, And I just think, how why we've

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<v Speaker 2>all got the same purpose. We just got that common goal.

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<v Speaker 2>Can't we worked together?

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<v Speaker 1>I think the beauty of you two and you flagger

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<v Speaker 1>it as if it's a negative ice sad, there's a positive.

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<v Speaker 1>You gone, we're just average people and you cut through

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<v Speaker 1>the bullshit and go it's not that complicated. So you

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<v Speaker 1>don't ever think things. You just well, why don't we

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<v Speaker 1>do that? And I think that's what resonates with and I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think what woman said to me too, from one of

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<v Speaker 2>the foundations. I got up and said something one day.

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<v Speaker 2>She said, geez, I love you lord. You just don't

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<v Speaker 2>beat around the bush. You just say as it is

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<v Speaker 2>and then sit down. I said, Well, I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to drag on and do a thousand words. I just

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<v Speaker 2>want to get my point across. And I'm just a

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<v Speaker 2>simple person. So that's how I just want. I think

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<v Speaker 2>life should be simple. Why should it be complicated? Well,

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<v Speaker 2>we over complicate things.

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<v Speaker 1>Too much, I agree, And that's the beauty of what

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are, what you guys are doing. So I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to firstly thank you for coming on the

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<v Speaker 1>podcast and sharing your story because I know, no, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not easy. But when I say people like you inspire me,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that because what you've overcome and how you've

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<v Speaker 1>tried to steer your life in a positive direction, full

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<v Speaker 1>credit to you, and the fact that you've stayed together.

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<v Speaker 1>You must go through some tough times, and yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>can see the support I saw at the moment I

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<v Speaker 1>sat down beside you for that lunch, that you had

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<v Speaker 1>each other's backs, and it's beautiful to see.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think we always have them, have we talk.

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<v Speaker 2>We talk, yeah, most of the talk.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't say that, don't be disrespectful. Yeah, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks guys for coming on. And let's stay in touch

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<v Speaker 1>and let's if I can push anything from the media

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<v Speaker 1>connections or whatever, let me know and vice versa.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's stay in touchy.

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<v Speaker 1>Good, Okay, see your Lloyd s Sir Hi Gary. I

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<v Speaker 1>was a little bit worried about doing this podcast with

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<v Speaker 1>Lloyd and Sue. It's such a heavy, heavy topic. They

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<v Speaker 1>inspire me how do you overcome a tragedy like that?

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<v Speaker 1>They are inspirational people. You can still see the pain

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<v Speaker 1>it'ched on their faces and the emotion that they carry,

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<v Speaker 1>which is understandables losing their daughter and their three grandchildren.

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<v Speaker 1>But what inspires me most is the work that they're

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<v Speaker 1>doing to try and make sure this type of thing

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't happen. They are instrumental in campaigning for coercive control,

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<v Speaker 1>which is such a powerful legislation that I think will

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<v Speaker 1>make a big difference in the domestic violence space. Really

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<v Speaker 1>impressive people, just good people, as they call themselves, average people.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they're a little bit above average. They're inspirational

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<v Speaker 1>and just a tragedy that's happened, and that happens too

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<v Speaker 1>often in this country. A domestic and family violence