1 00:00:02,040 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 1: Hi everyone. I hope you're really good, really good. I 2 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:08,240 Speaker 1: hope you're having a great time. I hope life's good. 3 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: I hope your body's good, your health's good, your relationship's good, 4 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: You're having some fun, You're learning a bit of stuff, 5 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: falling down, getting up, you know, surviving, thriving, good days, 6 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 1: bad days, peaks and troughs, bit of mayhem, bit of chaos, 7 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:24,119 Speaker 1: bit of joy. But I hope in the middle of 8 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:28,560 Speaker 1: all of those very normal human things you are doing good. 9 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: That's my wish for you. So today I want to 10 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 1: talk to you about this idea of a used by date. 11 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:38,839 Speaker 1: We know what to use by date is when we 12 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: talk about food and products and all that stuff, of 13 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 1: course we do. And the genesis for this conversation. This 14 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 1: morning I was at the cafe and a young dude 15 00:00:48,440 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 1: who's lovely dude. It's a bit of a surfer. Dude, 16 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 1: is a bit of a free spirit. He's twenty five. 17 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 1: He spent three years driving around Australia. Can you believe 18 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:02,120 Speaker 1: that three is driving around a st just hanging out. 19 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 1: He did a degree before that in I think commerce 20 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:08,440 Speaker 1: and anyway, he brought me my coffee this morning. We 21 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:12,400 Speaker 1: had a big chat and as is often the way, 22 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:16,120 Speaker 1: for whatever reason, maybe it's me, maybe it's them, maybe 23 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:19,480 Speaker 1: it's meant to be. But we got caught up in conversation. 24 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 1: Don't tell his boss that. And he was just telling 25 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 1: me about what he does and what he wants to do. 26 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:31,199 Speaker 1: And you know, the interesting thing was he he's twenty five, 27 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 1: so he's not eighteen or nineteen. But he's been working 28 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:37,960 Speaker 1: on and off the whole time. And so even when 29 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 1: he was studying, he was working, when he was traveling, 30 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 1: he was working. But for the most part working. But 31 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: he doesn't have absolute clarity about what he wants to do. 32 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: And I said, well, that's the world's biggest club, so 33 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: don't panic about that. Don't worry about that. You don't 34 00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: need to figure that. This is my thinking anyway. I 35 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: could be wrong, but I said to him, you know what, 36 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: you're going to be working for a long time, and 37 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:09,119 Speaker 1: you want to find something that, either in the now 38 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 1: or in the short to medium term, that you know 39 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:16,280 Speaker 1: that hopefully you love, if not, at the very least 40 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: you really like it. If not that, then hopefully it's 41 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 1: kind of tolerable and has moments of pleasure. But we're 42 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: talking about this idea of finding your thing and finding 43 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:34,480 Speaker 1: your job and finding your purpose and knowing essentially what 44 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 1: you're going to do for the next thirty or forty years. 45 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:40,240 Speaker 1: And I said to him, he knows what I do. 46 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 1: And I said, you know, I talked to people regularly, 47 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:44,359 Speaker 1: and this is true. I've had this my whole life, 48 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:48,359 Speaker 1: where I talk to people who are forty forty five, 49 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 1: fifty fifty five, and some of those people still don't 50 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:56,360 Speaker 1: know what they want to do in inverted commas with 51 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: their life, or they've been doing something for a very 52 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 1: long time time that they don't love, that doesn't fulfill them, 53 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 1: that doesn't give them joy, that doesn't you know, it 54 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: ticks a few boxes, but when you consider how much 55 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:14,079 Speaker 1: you work in the middle of that, you would think, well, 56 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:17,359 Speaker 1: if possible, you want to do something that ticks more 57 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:21,959 Speaker 1: than just the financial box. And he was a little 58 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 1: not worried, but thinking about, you know, the pressure to 59 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 1: find your thing. And I said, you know what, maybe 60 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:32,119 Speaker 1: maybe you're going to find your thing and that thing 61 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 1: is going to set you on fire. You're going to 62 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 1: fucking love it. It's going to tick all the boxes 63 00:03:36,760 --> 00:03:40,720 Speaker 1: you're going to it's going to be amazing, and then 64 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: in five years, you're going to find something else. And 65 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 1: I said to him, you've got to think about the 66 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: fact that things in life other than milk and bread 67 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 1: have a used by date. And when I say to people, 68 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: you don't need to find your thing and then that's 69 00:03:57,160 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 1: you for the next forty years. Who said that, Like, 70 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: where does that idea come from? That you need to 71 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 1: find a career? And we know now that people turn 72 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 1: over careers a lot. It's very different to the old days, 73 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 1: but still there's a lot of thinking that I need 74 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: to find my ideal lifestyle. I need to find my 75 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 1: optimal relationship or training protocol or way of eating, or 76 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 1: I need to find my purpose and that is going 77 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 1: to be me for the next forty years. Guess what, one, 78 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:33,479 Speaker 1: Maybe you don't have a purpose. Maybe you have several purposes. 79 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: It's not just a single thing. I wouldn't say that 80 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:41,039 Speaker 1: I only have a purpose. And also, you know, you 81 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: think about where does my purpose come from? Like who 82 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:49,160 Speaker 1: decides that? Do I decide that? Is that some preordained etheroryal, mystical, magical, 83 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:53,360 Speaker 1: spiritual kind of thing that I need to go searching 84 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,359 Speaker 1: for in a fucking caftan and then discover it on 85 00:04:56,400 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 1: a mountain and then come back from the aforementioned man 86 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:05,240 Speaker 1: into my life and then execute the purpose, the divine 87 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: purpose that has been bestowed upon me. I don't send 88 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:10,840 Speaker 1: any evidence for that. Maybe you do. I don't seen 89 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 1: any evidence for that. Doesn't mean we can't have guidance 90 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 1: or an internal sat Nav or a spiritual experience or guidance, 91 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: just means I think more than likely you're going to 92 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 1: figure out what your own purpose is, and probably your 93 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 1: purpose is going to align with your values and your 94 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 1: goals and what you love to do and what you 95 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:31,920 Speaker 1: think is important and what you think matters. But back 96 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:34,920 Speaker 1: to this idea of we need to find our thing 97 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:39,279 Speaker 1: and that needs to be us, I completely disagree. And 98 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:43,839 Speaker 1: the reason I disagree is because this is my personal philosophy, 99 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 1: by the way, and just see if it resonates. If 100 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: it doesn't, of course, as always ignore me. But I remember, 101 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 1: you know a time when I started working in gyms, 102 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:54,280 Speaker 1: when I was a kid, when I was eighteen years old, 103 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:57,680 Speaker 1: I didn't really have much knowledge, much experience, much qualification. 104 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 1: It was different. It was a different time and different reality. 105 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 1: In nineteen eighty two, when I started working in gyms. 106 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 1: But for me, it was nirvana. It's like it was 107 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 1: fucking great. Like I was a fledgling bodybuilder. I was 108 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 1: obsessed with myself, and I was obsessed with training and 109 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: muscles and getting strong. And if I wasn't training, I 110 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: was talking about training. If I wasn't talking about it, 111 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: I was thinking about it. If I was thinking about 112 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:27,479 Speaker 1: I was planning for it. And I was talking to 113 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 1: other people and I was helping a few people. And 114 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:32,919 Speaker 1: then then I got to work in a gym. I'm like, 115 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:35,599 Speaker 1: this is ridiculous. I'm in the place that I want 116 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 1: to be most. I'm doing the shit that I love. 117 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: I'm talking about sets and reps and dumbbells and bar 118 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: bells and squats and drop sets and fucking progressive overload 119 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:48,280 Speaker 1: and all of these things that to me at that 120 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: time were magic. And I'm helping people train and I'm 121 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 1: talking to people about their goals and all of this shit. 122 00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: And honestly, at that point in time, even though I 123 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 1: was making a very modest wage for me, it was awesome. 124 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:06,159 Speaker 1: It was amazing, and I loved it. And where I 125 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: was where I was meant to be. That's where I 126 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 1: was meant to be. At that point in time, and 127 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:13,440 Speaker 1: I didn't know, you know, I didn't know the benefits 128 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 1: that were going to come with that, and I would 129 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 1: in the middle of working in that space, and essentially 130 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 1: my job was to teach people, to train or to 131 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: write people programs, and to encourage them, support them, sell 132 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:31,560 Speaker 1: a few memberships, sell the odds, staminated reception, remember staminated. 133 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 1: Those were the days. Sweep the squash courts, pull a 134 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:36,560 Speaker 1: few pubes out of spa. That's right, I said it. 135 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: Put the pool cover on tape, the pool cover off 136 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: waxum chlora, and and all the fundamentals of working in 137 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: a kind of a big ish commercial gym back in 138 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: the day. But in the middle of that, I was 139 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:50,360 Speaker 1: also I was learning how to make decisions. I was 140 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 1: learning eventually, by the time I was twenty one or two, 141 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:54,840 Speaker 1: I was managing gyms. So then I was learning a 142 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 1: little bit around management and leadership. I was learning about 143 00:07:58,040 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 1: solving problems. I was learning about different bodies and different 144 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 1: personalities and different experiences and different versions of reality. I 145 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 1: wouldn't have articulated it then like I can now, because 146 00:08:10,360 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: I didn't totally understand what I was learning, and it 147 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:18,559 Speaker 1: was bloody brilliant. It was for me the best job. 148 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 1: It was the best job, and it grounded me, and 149 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:25,520 Speaker 1: it gave me a foundation to understand a little bit 150 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 1: about business, a little bit about the dynamics of relationships 151 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:32,560 Speaker 1: and personalities. It gave me a chance to observe people 152 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:37,679 Speaker 1: doing stuff to change their body, thinking, habits, behaviors. It 153 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:41,560 Speaker 1: opened the door on physiology and psychology. I couldn't I 154 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: couldn't really tell you what was happening on a physiological 155 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:48,440 Speaker 1: level from a scientific point of view at that I 156 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:51,840 Speaker 1: could have kind of, but really it was more experiential. 157 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:54,480 Speaker 1: I didn't have an exercise science degree at that stage, 158 00:08:54,520 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 1: and I didn't have the knowledge and understanding that I 159 00:08:57,880 --> 00:09:00,280 Speaker 1: now do. But you know, I was a puppy, I 160 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:02,680 Speaker 1: was a learning I was a baby. I had my 161 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 1: training wheels on and it was amazing. And then I 162 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:10,600 Speaker 1: got to a point where, you know, that was good, 163 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 1: but it didn't blow my socks off. And at about 164 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:16,319 Speaker 1: that time I started to train a few people one 165 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 1: on one and I started this thing called personal training. 166 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 1: And then wow, this is different. Now this person's a project, 167 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 1: and now I'm not just working with the body, but 168 00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: I'm working with the human who lives inside the body, 169 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 1: and I need to understand what drives them and motivates them, 170 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 1: and why they give up every three weeks, and why 171 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:37,120 Speaker 1: they've started this whole process thirty two times, and what 172 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:39,200 Speaker 1: are their goals and what are their needs? And what's 173 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 1: their version of this? And how do I inspire and 174 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: motivate and encourage them And what is the role of 175 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:47,800 Speaker 1: motivation and what's the role of me. Am I the 176 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: solution or am I a resource? And all this interesting shit. 177 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:54,040 Speaker 1: And then, as you know, I went on to most 178 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:55,600 Speaker 1: of you know, I went on and I opened up 179 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:59,360 Speaker 1: a studio and all that stuff, and I had great times. 180 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: But I got to the point where Jim instructing it 181 00:10:01,840 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 1: was like, eh ah, it was amazing, and then it 182 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: was good, and then it was okay, and then it 183 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: was like, ah, this is kind of not blowing my 184 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:12,800 Speaker 1: socks off anymore. And that's not good or bad. And 185 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:17,079 Speaker 1: it's not that Jim instruction that writing programs and putting 186 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:20,360 Speaker 1: away dumbells and grooving around the gym talking shit in 187 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 1: my fucking tracksuit. It's not that that was bad. It's 188 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 1: just that I had kind of evolved, I kind of 189 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 1: learned a fair bit and I was ready for new stuff. 190 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: And so for me, Jim instructing it kind of reached 191 00:10:33,640 --> 00:10:37,520 Speaker 1: that threshold where I'm like, this doesn't excite me. Now, 192 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: I don't love this anymore. And that's not good or bad. 193 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: That is part of the natural evolution of you or me. 194 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 1: Now not everybody is like me, of course, and some 195 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 1: people will do a job and they'll kind of get 196 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: the same level of fulfillment for forty years, and that 197 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: ain't bad of course. In fact, that's kind of amazing. 198 00:10:57,640 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: If you can do something that every day you show 199 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: up and do a version of the same thing and 200 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:04,959 Speaker 1: it gives you joy forever. Well, I'm a bit jealous, 201 00:11:05,240 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 1: but that's not me. I need I need kind of 202 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:12,120 Speaker 1: I need variety, I need progression, I need new things. 203 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:15,480 Speaker 1: And I started this then called personal training, and that 204 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 1: was amazing. I'm like, this is incredible, and I'm going 205 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: deep with people and I'm kind of project managing their 206 00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 1: life from this getting in shape point of view, obviously 207 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:30,400 Speaker 1: not their career and all that. But having said that, pause, 208 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 1: what's funny is when you're in that personal training role 209 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:37,080 Speaker 1: and then people you build a relationship, you develop rapport, 210 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 1: you build loyalty with clients. They trust you, they like you, 211 00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 1: they respect you, they listen to you. All of a sudden, 212 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 1: I'm like, this person's talking to me about everything. I'm 213 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:53,440 Speaker 1: not just teaching them how to do squats and how 214 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 1: to lower their body fat. It's like, well, now we're 215 00:11:56,440 --> 00:12:00,680 Speaker 1: talking about We're talking about bigger, broader stuff, talking about life, 216 00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:03,480 Speaker 1: talking about feelings and emotions and relationships. Then all of 217 00:12:03,480 --> 00:12:07,320 Speaker 1: a sudden, I progressed from from really being all about 218 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:10,680 Speaker 1: physiology and bodies to all now I'm really interacting on 219 00:12:10,720 --> 00:12:14,720 Speaker 1: a higher level. And again I got excited because it 220 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:17,920 Speaker 1: was new. It was an evolution, it was a development, right, 221 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:21,960 Speaker 1: And then then you get like, well that this is good, 222 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:24,679 Speaker 1: but what else? And you know then what else was Well, 223 00:12:24,679 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 1: maybe i'll employ it personal too, And because I'm really busy, 224 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 1: I'll employ someone. And I ended up employing young Maddie, 225 00:12:31,240 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 1: my first trainer, Rip love you, Maddie. And you know, 226 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 1: we got to the point where he was busy and 227 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:41,439 Speaker 1: I was busy, and I'm like, wow, shit, maybe we 228 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:43,840 Speaker 1: needs And then all of a sudden, this thing evolved 229 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 1: and now I'm fucking I'm a business man. I'm like, 230 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 1: how did I become a businessman, so me just being 231 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:53,000 Speaker 1: the solo personal trainer at kind of that evolved and 232 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:55,520 Speaker 1: that reached its use by date. I did it for 233 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 1: quite I did it for years, and then I went 234 00:12:57,480 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: all right, I'm going to have somebody who can do 235 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 1: the sessions that I I can't fit in, work with 236 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 1: the people that I can't fit in. And he did great, 237 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 1: and I did great, and then we've got someone else. 238 00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:08,040 Speaker 1: And then all of a sudden it's like, oh boom, 239 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 1: I've got a team of personal trainers and I've got 240 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 1: this facility. How does this even work? And so that evolved, 241 00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:17,880 Speaker 1: and I won't bore you, but that eventuated into a 242 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 1: twenty five year journey which was constantly changing, and the 243 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 1: business was constantly evolving and adapting, and I was constantly 244 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:27,640 Speaker 1: learning and fucking up and getting up and good days 245 00:13:27,679 --> 00:13:33,439 Speaker 1: and bad days. But there were periods along the way, constantly, 246 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 1: and not just in my work but in my life 247 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 1: more broadly, where I realized I'm done doing this or 248 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 1: I'm done doing this this way. In terms of this, 249 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:48,440 Speaker 1: I've reached my used by date. And it's not that 250 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:51,680 Speaker 1: doing this particular thing is bad, it's just that this 251 00:13:51,760 --> 00:13:55,000 Speaker 1: doesn't excite me. This doesn't light my fire, this doesn't 252 00:13:55,080 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 1: challenge me, this doesn't fulfill me the way that it did. 253 00:13:58,720 --> 00:14:03,080 Speaker 1: And so as I have things needed to evolve around me. 254 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 1: I needed to do things differently. And again, like I said, 255 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:09,520 Speaker 1: some people don't have that need that I have to 256 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: be kind of doing things. And I don't mean things 257 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:16,160 Speaker 1: have got to change every week. But I remember training 258 00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:18,679 Speaker 1: people and I had, you know, I had this place 259 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 1: on the Pean Highway in Brighton, which is in Melbourne. 260 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 1: I had this ten thousand square foot facility. It was 261 00:14:23,720 --> 00:14:26,000 Speaker 1: fucking beautiful. We had the best part of a million 262 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: dollars worth of equipment. I mean, it was amazing. It 263 00:14:29,560 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 1: was an amazing facility and I was super proud of that. 264 00:14:32,320 --> 00:14:35,880 Speaker 1: And we had a great team, and I employed over 265 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:38,920 Speaker 1: twenty five years, I had four centers, and I employed 266 00:14:38,960 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: about five hundred trainers or they worked under my banner 267 00:14:42,440 --> 00:14:46,760 Speaker 1: as consultants, but about five hundred personal trainers were the 268 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:49,920 Speaker 1: Harpers brand, which was nice. And I learned a lot, 269 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:51,640 Speaker 1: and I grew a lot, and I fucked up and 270 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:54,000 Speaker 1: I made mistakes and I did dumb things and I 271 00:14:54,040 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 1: did great things. But then one day, you know, I 272 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:02,760 Speaker 1: realized I don' this, I don't hate it, and it's okay, 273 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 1: you know, it's all right, But you start to realize. 274 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 1: I started to realize, you know what I like doing 275 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 1: more than just like helping people get lean or change 276 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 1: their body composition. I really like speaking because I've done 277 00:15:14,400 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 1: a few talks to a few groups. And I went, 278 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:20,640 Speaker 1: maybe maybe that, And I got to the point where 279 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:23,840 Speaker 1: I was in my own gym with people around me 280 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:29,560 Speaker 1: who are great, great energy, you know, super smart, and 281 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:33,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't love being here. I don't love this. 282 00:15:33,840 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 1: And that's not bad. That's just that happens. Now. When 283 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:40,880 Speaker 1: something like that happens, you go, wow, I'm in my 284 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:43,280 Speaker 1: own business. I'm making pretty good money. Things are good. 285 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:45,520 Speaker 1: We've got lots of trainers, lots of clients, the business 286 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:48,480 Speaker 1: is working. But in the middle of this, it's not 287 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:51,480 Speaker 1: blowing my socks off. It's not blowing my socks off. 288 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:55,080 Speaker 1: And I kind of got to I got to a 289 00:15:55,240 --> 00:16:00,160 Speaker 1: used by date with being on the gym floor, and 290 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:02,040 Speaker 1: so I toughed it out for a bit and I went, 291 00:16:02,080 --> 00:16:03,640 Speaker 1: what else do I want to do? And I went, 292 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:05,800 Speaker 1: I really enjoy And I'd started to do a bit 293 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: of speaking, and I did, and every time I'd get 294 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:10,120 Speaker 1: in front of an audience and do some stuff. And 295 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 1: by the way, I wasn't very good. I wasn't very 296 00:16:12,360 --> 00:16:14,320 Speaker 1: good at all. I was kind of shit, to be honest. 297 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 1: But there were moments in my fifty minutes of presenting. 298 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 1: There were probably five minutes that were okay and a 299 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:25,480 Speaker 1: couple of minutes that were fucking golden, forty two minutes 300 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:28,800 Speaker 1: of well, three minutes of ouck, you need to improve. 301 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 1: But there was like a little light at the end 302 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 1: of the tunnel, and I got to the point where 303 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:38,360 Speaker 1: I realized that me and the fitness industry in that 304 00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 1: capacity were almost done, and that evolved. I had to 305 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: use by date with that I had. I had a 306 00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:47,520 Speaker 1: use by date with the way that I trained. I 307 00:16:47,600 --> 00:16:51,200 Speaker 1: used to train like a fucking crazy person, constant heavy weights, 308 00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 1: and all I did was heavy this and heavy that, 309 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:56,120 Speaker 1: and all I wanted was I just want to be 310 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 1: fucking massive and ripped. And we won't go into the psychology, 311 00:17:00,040 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 1: theology or a emotion of that, because that's another podcast. 312 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:05,080 Speaker 1: But I trained a certain way and I loved it, 313 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:07,639 Speaker 1: and I love being kind of big, and you know, 314 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:10,280 Speaker 1: I love being like one hundred kilos with fucking muscles 315 00:17:10,280 --> 00:17:14,159 Speaker 1: everywhere and all that shit. And I didn't always manage that, 316 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:16,880 Speaker 1: but that was and then I got to the point 317 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:19,520 Speaker 1: where I went, eh, I don't love this. I don't 318 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:21,320 Speaker 1: love the way that I look, I don't love the 319 00:17:21,320 --> 00:17:23,359 Speaker 1: way that I feel. I don't love this kind of 320 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:26,400 Speaker 1: So even my training, I reached it. And it wasn't 321 00:17:26,400 --> 00:17:28,840 Speaker 1: even because of injuries, but I just reached it. Used 322 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:32,360 Speaker 1: by day with that, I started to do different things 323 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:35,880 Speaker 1: and I went, oh, fuck, this is fun. I really 324 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:40,639 Speaker 1: enjoy doing something that isn't just big, barbaric neanderthal fucking 325 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:43,680 Speaker 1: waits me in the gym, just doing the you know, 326 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:47,400 Speaker 1: groundhog Day. And I think that, you know, we can 327 00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:52,720 Speaker 1: get into our a psychological and a behavioral pattern that 328 00:17:52,960 --> 00:17:58,800 Speaker 1: is it's okay, it's okay. Sometimes it's not even that. 329 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's black. And I don't think we necessarily need 330 00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:07,440 Speaker 1: to keep reinventing ourselves on a weekly basis. We don't, 331 00:18:08,200 --> 00:18:10,680 Speaker 1: but I think we need to acknowledge that some things 332 00:18:10,720 --> 00:18:14,159 Speaker 1: in our life just have are used by date relationships. 333 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:16,920 Speaker 1: For example, now I'm not talking about a marriage, I'm 334 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:19,200 Speaker 1: not talking about jump. Oh, you're having a bad day 335 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:21,159 Speaker 1: jump out of the marriage. And I'm not talking about that, 336 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 1: but I'm just talking about you know, when you have 337 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:26,680 Speaker 1: a person in your life's a friend or a colleague 338 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:28,520 Speaker 1: or someone that you hang out with a fair bit 339 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:32,119 Speaker 1: and there's a connection and there's whatever, and you have 340 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 1: all had this where that relationship gets to a point where, ah, 341 00:18:36,400 --> 00:18:39,200 Speaker 1: it's not the same, it's not the same. Could you 342 00:18:39,240 --> 00:18:41,399 Speaker 1: could be them, could be a bit of both. Doesn't 343 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:45,000 Speaker 1: have to be bad or confrontational or toxic, it doesn't 344 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:47,480 Speaker 1: need to be that. But it's like, ah, I feel 345 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 1: like this relationship, or this version of this relationship, it's 346 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:56,080 Speaker 1: kind of almost done. It's like there's a used by date. 347 00:18:56,119 --> 00:18:58,640 Speaker 1: And I think sometimes whether it's a relationship, or whether 348 00:18:58,680 --> 00:19:01,240 Speaker 1: it's a job, or whther it's a way of eating, 349 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:03,960 Speaker 1: or whether it's a way, whether or not it's a lifestyle, 350 00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:08,240 Speaker 1: like I think we need to recognize when things aren't 351 00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:12,640 Speaker 1: and I use this term broadly, when things aren't working, 352 00:19:13,280 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 1: when things aren't working for you. And this is where 353 00:19:16,560 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 1: we open the door on paying attention to not only 354 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:23,439 Speaker 1: what our body is saying and our emotions are saying, 355 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:27,679 Speaker 1: and ow that that internal sat nav, that wisdom, that 356 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:32,000 Speaker 1: inner wisdom, and it's really it's really easy to ignore 357 00:19:32,040 --> 00:19:34,600 Speaker 1: that in the busyness and the mayhem and the continuity 358 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:39,960 Speaker 1: and the groundhog danus, the momentum of our life. You 359 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 1: look up and you go, fuck, I've been doing something 360 00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 1: I don't really enjoy a lot for four years now 361 00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 1: and it's really not working on a range of levels 362 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:50,399 Speaker 1: for me. Maybe I need to hit the pause button. 363 00:19:51,119 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 1: It's really easy to do that. But this is where, 364 00:19:54,280 --> 00:19:56,800 Speaker 1: as I said, we start to open the door on 365 00:19:56,880 --> 00:20:00,440 Speaker 1: this idea of paying attention to all us. I said, 366 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,639 Speaker 1: the physical, mental, emotional, but also what's my life telling me? 367 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:06,480 Speaker 1: What are my outcomes? What are my relationships telling me? 368 00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:10,760 Speaker 1: What are my results telling me? With whatever, with my training, 369 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 1: with my money, with my energy, And to be able 370 00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:18,080 Speaker 1: to say, all right, well, what do I want the 371 00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:20,320 Speaker 1: next five years of my life to look like? Is 372 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:25,240 Speaker 1: what I'm doing now? Is it working? And if it's working, right, 373 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:29,720 Speaker 1: carry on business as usual. If it's not working, do 374 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:31,639 Speaker 1: I need to change it totally? Do I need to 375 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:34,480 Speaker 1: change it a bit? Maybe seventy percent of it's working, 376 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:37,280 Speaker 1: but thirty percents not. What's the thirty? What can you 377 00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 1: do about the thirty? I never got to the point 378 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:43,119 Speaker 1: where exercise didn't work for me, but it was just 379 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:46,080 Speaker 1: the way that I exercised. I used to be a 380 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:49,760 Speaker 1: chronic people pleaser. I still love people, and I still 381 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:53,040 Speaker 1: want to serve people and help people. But I will 382 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:56,200 Speaker 1: also tell someone to fuck off if they're being a prick, 383 00:20:56,840 --> 00:21:00,080 Speaker 1: and that's okay. And I might literally tell them to 384 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 1: fuck off or metaphorically, and that's okay because I'm not 385 00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:07,920 Speaker 1: an emotional doormat and you're not an emotional doormat. It's 386 00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:12,800 Speaker 1: okay to be strong, compassionate, loving kind and say fuck 387 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:17,080 Speaker 1: off when it's appropriate. And you may not literally say 388 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,639 Speaker 1: fuck off, but your version of that or this is 389 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:23,160 Speaker 1: not okay. This is not okay. And to be able 390 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:28,119 Speaker 1: to step back and to step back metaphorically and maybe 391 00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:33,399 Speaker 1: even practically sometimes from the mayhem, from the busyness, and 392 00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 1: say what's going on in my head and my heart? 393 00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:41,359 Speaker 1: And does this career? Does this does this thing serve me? 394 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:46,879 Speaker 1: Or am I just? Am I just treading water? You know, 395 00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:54,439 Speaker 1: it's not that something is necessarily bad, but it just 396 00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:58,120 Speaker 1: might be four out of ten for you, Like if 397 00:21:58,119 --> 00:21:59,960 Speaker 1: you're doing something that's by the way, and if you 398 00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,400 Speaker 1: doing and you realize you're in a whatever, a job, 399 00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:07,199 Speaker 1: a career, I don't know, a habit, a behavior, or 400 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 1: an operating system that doesn't work for you. You don't need 401 00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:16,119 Speaker 1: to change it tomorrow, but maybe you need to think about, well, 402 00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:20,199 Speaker 1: if this isn't really working, what might work. There was 403 00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:23,520 Speaker 1: a time when I was super duper social. And it's 404 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:26,760 Speaker 1: not that I'm anti social now, but I realized that 405 00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:29,560 Speaker 1: I used to do a lot of stuff just because 406 00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:33,920 Speaker 1: I wanted people to like me. I would I would 407 00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:35,960 Speaker 1: go to social things I actually didn't want to go 408 00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:39,359 Speaker 1: to because I didn't, you know, I wanted to belong 409 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:41,000 Speaker 1: and I didn't want to piss people laugh, and I 410 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:44,119 Speaker 1: didn't want to be rejected. And maybe this is a 411 00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:48,080 Speaker 1: maturity thing, but you know, like I don't want to 412 00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:51,440 Speaker 1: go me personally. I completely understand people who want to 413 00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:54,080 Speaker 1: be environments where it's in environments where it's fucking going 414 00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:56,840 Speaker 1: off like a frog in a sock and there's booze 415 00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:59,480 Speaker 1: and there's partying and there's dancing, and it's high energy 416 00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:02,080 Speaker 1: and it's fu and chaos. I get. I do not 417 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:05,239 Speaker 1: on any level think that's bad. What I think is 418 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:08,239 Speaker 1: that's not for me. And it was almost in I 419 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:11,080 Speaker 1: reckon like a week where I went, I'm not doing 420 00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:13,840 Speaker 1: that anymore, and people will go, what's you know? Why 421 00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:15,720 Speaker 1: don't we're going? Do you want to? And I ended 422 00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:18,680 Speaker 1: up saying I think you're great. I just don't want 423 00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 1: to do that. People go, we're going bowling. Do you 424 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:23,440 Speaker 1: want to come? I go no, and they're like what, 425 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:26,320 Speaker 1: I go no? I go your ace, But I hate 426 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:30,080 Speaker 1: fucking bowling. So you go bowling, and maybe you and 427 00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:34,880 Speaker 1: I catch up for a coffee another time. And it's okay. 428 00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:39,439 Speaker 1: It's okay not to do everything that everyone wants you 429 00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 1: to do. It's okay not to stay in a toxic relationship. 430 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:47,439 Speaker 1: I know that is a complicated thing, but you know, 431 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,560 Speaker 1: any relationship, it could be somebody at work where you 432 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:53,119 Speaker 1: really need to change the dynamics of that. Maybe not 433 00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:56,119 Speaker 1: get out of it completely, maybe you can't, but maybe 434 00:23:56,160 --> 00:24:00,280 Speaker 1: you need to change the way that that relationship operates. 435 00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:03,159 Speaker 1: You know. With the podcast for example, somebody said to 436 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,520 Speaker 1: me the other day, how many podcasts are you going 437 00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 1: to do? I don't know. I might do five more, 438 00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,680 Speaker 1: and then I go, ah, I'm done. I don't think 439 00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:14,479 Speaker 1: that's going to be the case. But I can promise 440 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:18,119 Speaker 1: you irrespective of how much money I make through sponsorship, 441 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 1: which you know it's varies drastically. But if I was 442 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:26,080 Speaker 1: making a bunch of money but I didn't enjoy it, 443 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:29,399 Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it. Right now. I love podcasting. I 444 00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:32,320 Speaker 1: love doing what I'm doing now, sharing, teaching, I love 445 00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:36,920 Speaker 1: I love hopefully encouraging and supporting you in who you 446 00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,879 Speaker 1: are becoming, what you want to do, be, create change. 447 00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:42,840 Speaker 1: I love all that. I love talking to fucking fascinating people, 448 00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:47,160 Speaker 1: and I don't think that's going to wear off anytime soon. 449 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:50,920 Speaker 1: But if in a year I go, yeah, I'm done, 450 00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:53,639 Speaker 1: then I won't do any more podcasts. I'll go find 451 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:58,560 Speaker 1: something else, you know, And that's okay. So this idea 452 00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:02,840 Speaker 1: that you know, we need to find our thing, we 453 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:05,280 Speaker 1: need to find our thing, and we need to stay 454 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:08,560 Speaker 1: with that thing. And you know the truth is that 455 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,720 Speaker 1: maybe the thing that you love and right now you 456 00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:12,840 Speaker 1: may still love it, you may love it more in 457 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,600 Speaker 1: ten years, or you might in six months ago. It 458 00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:19,679 Speaker 1: doesn't float my boat. And just because someone else thinks 459 00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:23,880 Speaker 1: you should be doing that, or you feel guilty or 460 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:27,520 Speaker 1: obligated to do that, that doesn't mean you've got to 461 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,400 Speaker 1: do it Now. I'm not talking about shirking responsibilities as 462 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:32,840 Speaker 1: a parent or anything like that. I'm just talking about 463 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:36,160 Speaker 1: this personal journey that we go on. So my advice 464 00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:38,199 Speaker 1: to you, if you're still listening and if you are 465 00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:43,560 Speaker 1: hucking well done, is to think about, am I doing 466 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 1: this thing? Whatever the thing is, whatever the component of 467 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,560 Speaker 1: your life is. Am I doing this thing because this 468 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:50,240 Speaker 1: is the thing that I should be doing. This is 469 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:53,960 Speaker 1: the thing that works and not just works on one level, 470 00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:58,320 Speaker 1: but works on a multitude of levels. You know, Am 471 00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,119 Speaker 1: I doing the thing that floats boat? Am I growing? 472 00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:04,840 Speaker 1: Am I learning? Am I evolving? Am I recognizing the 473 00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:08,359 Speaker 1: used by date of this thing? And I? Am I 474 00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:13,439 Speaker 1: living consciously? Or am I just treading water? Am I 475 00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:17,840 Speaker 1: just doing mediocre and not using my talent, not using 476 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:21,160 Speaker 1: my potential? Can I do more? What is the more 477 00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:22,879 Speaker 1: that I can do? What is the more that I 478 00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 1: should do? What is the more that I want to 479 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,879 Speaker 1: do that alignes with my values? What's the more that 480 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:30,480 Speaker 1: I want to do that's going to make me the 481 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:34,160 Speaker 1: best version of me? Am I excited? Do I want 482 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:37,960 Speaker 1: to get excited? Do I want to tread water? Or 483 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 1: do I want to grow and learn and evolve. Do 484 00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,960 Speaker 1: I want to lean into the mayhem and the madness 485 00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:45,679 Speaker 1: and the mess so that I can build resilience and 486 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:50,040 Speaker 1: knowledge and understanding and competence and skill, so that I 487 00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:54,800 Speaker 1: have not necessarily a constantly comfortable life, but a fucking exciting, 488 00:26:54,920 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 1: challenging life. So I encourage you to think about the 489 00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:04,920 Speaker 1: used by date of everything in your life and whether 490 00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:06,960 Speaker 1: or not it might be time to open a new door. 491 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,240 Speaker 1: Ah My, go and eat some chicken. See you next time.