1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:13,321 Speaker 1: Apodjay production. We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians 2 00:00:13,361 --> 00:00:15,801 Speaker 1: of the land on which we gather today and pay 3 00:00:15,841 --> 00:00:19,041 Speaker 1: our respects to their elders past and present. We extend 4 00:00:19,041 --> 00:00:22,881 Speaker 1: that respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today. 5 00:00:25,081 --> 00:00:28,801 Speaker 1: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara. 6 00:00:28,961 --> 00:00:31,321 Speaker 1: This is a podcast where we learn, laugh, and level 7 00:00:31,401 --> 00:00:34,160 Speaker 1: up together. Let's go deep, let the emotions flow, and 8 00:00:34,281 --> 00:00:36,161 Speaker 1: find the lessons to grow and Glow. 9 00:00:36,521 --> 00:00:38,321 Speaker 2: Nothing is off the table with Grow and Glow, and 10 00:00:38,361 --> 00:00:46,401 Speaker 2: we're here to be your expander. Welcome back to Wacky Wednesday. 11 00:00:45,281 --> 00:00:49,161 Speaker 2: It's day for a nice little episode, probably be a 12 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:51,920 Speaker 2: shorter one, but nice pick me up. And I think 13 00:00:51,961 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 2: this was a suggestion in the forum. We're calling it 14 00:00:54,641 --> 00:00:57,401 Speaker 2: notes to our younger self, but it's almost like mine's 15 00:00:57,401 --> 00:00:59,201 Speaker 2: more advice that I would give to my younger self 16 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:00,481 Speaker 2: and yours is a beautiful letter. 17 00:01:00,761 --> 00:01:02,921 Speaker 1: And I think it's really cool that we both interpreted 18 00:01:02,961 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: it in our own way, like we had the time, 19 00:01:05,121 --> 00:01:06,721 Speaker 1: all of what we wanted the podcast episode to be, 20 00:01:06,761 --> 00:01:08,161 Speaker 1: and we both went in there and filled it out, 21 00:01:08,401 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: and we've kind of both put our own spin cool. 22 00:01:11,961 --> 00:01:13,761 Speaker 2: I think this task that you've done of writing a 23 00:01:13,801 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 2: letter to your younger self is a really beautiful task 24 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:19,721 Speaker 2: that everyone listening can do. And it's just like, I 25 00:01:19,761 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 2: don't know, it's like nurturing the little girl inside you, 26 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:24,961 Speaker 2: the woman inside you, Like it's just really nice. When 27 00:01:24,961 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 2: I read yours, I was like. 28 00:01:26,081 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 1: Oh, and reflecting back, like we're just so hard on ourselves, 29 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:32,881 Speaker 1: I know, like we really can be our own harshest critic. 30 00:01:33,081 --> 00:01:36,241 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, life is so much nice that you can 31 00:01:36,241 --> 00:01:39,001 Speaker 2: be nicer to yourself. And if you don't respect yourself 32 00:01:39,081 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 2: and love yourself and be kind to yourself, like, how 33 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 2: can you expect anyone else to Exactly? You have to 34 00:01:43,601 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 2: set the example and the standard of how you want 35 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 2: to be treated. And even just forgiving yourself. 36 00:01:47,961 --> 00:01:49,601 Speaker 1: I feel like this is something that so many people 37 00:01:49,681 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: struggle with, Like we're all not. 38 00:01:51,121 --> 00:01:52,801 Speaker 2: Perfect and we've all made mistakes. 39 00:01:53,521 --> 00:01:56,481 Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's every single person and only we can 40 00:01:56,521 --> 00:01:58,121 Speaker 1: make the choice to forgive ourselves. 41 00:01:58,201 --> 00:02:00,481 Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, So doing a letters a beautiful way to 42 00:02:00,481 --> 00:02:02,961 Speaker 2: actually get it out of paper. When you're writing this letter, 43 00:02:03,601 --> 00:02:05,641 Speaker 2: and you might not fully believe it yet, like it's 44 00:02:05,721 --> 00:02:08,361 Speaker 2: just the start. It's the start of being conscious, being aware, 45 00:02:08,401 --> 00:02:10,881 Speaker 2: and like just putting the things in place to practice 46 00:02:10,921 --> 00:02:13,721 Speaker 2: more self love and eventually like it will just feel 47 00:02:13,761 --> 00:02:15,841 Speaker 2: so natural. It's like when you learn a new skill, 48 00:02:15,881 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 2: you get a new job, or you're trying to break 49 00:02:18,001 --> 00:02:19,761 Speaker 2: an old habit or implement a new one, Like it 50 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:22,161 Speaker 2: takes time your body to get used to it, know 51 00:02:22,201 --> 00:02:24,361 Speaker 2: that it's safe though, that it's okay, and for it 52 00:02:24,401 --> 00:02:25,361 Speaker 2: to start feeling good. 53 00:02:25,281 --> 00:02:27,921 Speaker 1: Later on and even rather than visualizing yourself as you 54 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: are now, like when I wrote mine, I was visualizing 55 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:31,641 Speaker 1: me as a little girl, So it makes it feel 56 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:33,081 Speaker 1: like you're writing it to your daughter, like a little 57 00:02:33,081 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: girl you see at the playground and walk over to you. 58 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:36,481 Speaker 1: So it just makes you have more compassion when you're 59 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:37,240 Speaker 1: writing as well. 60 00:02:37,281 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 2: You'd be so kind to your own kids. And the 61 00:02:39,441 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 2: little girl was like crying the park, Like what would 62 00:02:41,441 --> 00:02:43,841 Speaker 2: you say to her? Exactly? Yeah, do you want to 63 00:02:43,841 --> 00:02:44,921 Speaker 2: go first and read your letter? 64 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:48,761 Speaker 1: Well, now I'm going to probably get emotional anyway, High 65 00:02:48,841 --> 00:02:51,961 Speaker 1: little Kiara. I wrote this note to you because I 66 00:02:52,001 --> 00:02:55,240 Speaker 1: know how much you struggle with self worth, how anxious 67 00:02:55,281 --> 00:02:58,081 Speaker 1: you are and full of self doubt. I'm here to 68 00:02:58,121 --> 00:03:00,641 Speaker 1: tell you the confidence you see in others is also 69 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 1: inside of you. Don't be afraid to let others see 70 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 1: your sparkle shine, be discouraged or worried about not being 71 00:03:07,161 --> 00:03:10,321 Speaker 1: good enough in someone else's eyes, because no matter what 72 00:03:10,361 --> 00:03:13,001 Speaker 1: you do, someone will make up in their own minds 73 00:03:13,041 --> 00:03:16,081 Speaker 1: anyway what they think of you. But this isn't their 74 00:03:16,121 --> 00:03:18,881 Speaker 1: life to live. It's yours, And believe it or not, 75 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:21,361 Speaker 1: you are finally in a place where you are so 76 00:03:21,481 --> 00:03:25,441 Speaker 1: connected to yourself, so confident in yourself. So please don't 77 00:03:25,441 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 1: waste any more years feeling like you are not enough, because, 78 00:03:28,561 --> 00:03:29,921 Speaker 1: my darling, you're. 79 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 2: More than enough. 80 00:03:31,881 --> 00:03:34,321 Speaker 1: The love and approval you are hoping to get outside 81 00:03:34,321 --> 00:03:37,761 Speaker 1: of yourself is deep within you. When you're a little baby, 82 00:03:37,881 --> 00:03:41,401 Speaker 1: you love yourself unconditionally. When you were a toddler, you 83 00:03:41,481 --> 00:03:44,441 Speaker 1: were silly and goofy, and you love yourself no matter 84 00:03:44,481 --> 00:03:47,961 Speaker 1: what others thought. Other people's beliefs and opinions came in 85 00:03:48,121 --> 00:03:50,801 Speaker 1: and started to morph that pure mind of yours. All 86 00:03:50,841 --> 00:03:53,681 Speaker 1: you need to do is slow down, get more in 87 00:03:53,721 --> 00:03:57,361 Speaker 1: touch with yourself and move from your heart, listen to 88 00:03:57,361 --> 00:04:00,281 Speaker 1: your gut intuition, and love yourself so much that you 89 00:04:00,361 --> 00:04:03,401 Speaker 1: truly don't mind if others don't like you. As long 90 00:04:03,441 --> 00:04:06,001 Speaker 1: as you're moving in a way that may yourself proud. 91 00:04:06,281 --> 00:04:08,801 Speaker 1: They can think what they want to think. Crazy thing 92 00:04:08,921 --> 00:04:11,361 Speaker 1: is what anyone else thinks of you, and even what 93 00:04:11,361 --> 00:04:14,321 Speaker 1: you think of yourself is only a persona. We are 94 00:04:14,321 --> 00:04:16,601 Speaker 1: all just beings with ideas we've made up in our 95 00:04:16,641 --> 00:04:19,921 Speaker 1: own minds of who we are. You are going to 96 00:04:19,961 --> 00:04:22,721 Speaker 1: have one really hard year in twenty twenty two, one 97 00:04:22,761 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: of the hardest years of your life. You're going to 98 00:04:24,921 --> 00:04:27,361 Speaker 1: get to a point where you have no choice but 99 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: to do this work because you are going to feel 100 00:04:29,241 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: depressed and have regular panic attacks. Always trust life is 101 00:04:33,641 --> 00:04:36,001 Speaker 1: giving you what you need in the right moments, because 102 00:04:36,001 --> 00:04:39,441 Speaker 1: that's exactly what this test is. Even though it feels 103 00:04:39,521 --> 00:04:42,841 Speaker 1: really big, really tough, and like your whole world is 104 00:04:42,880 --> 00:04:47,921 Speaker 1: falling apart, remain grateful, grateful for your incredible husband. He 105 00:04:47,961 --> 00:04:50,041 Speaker 1: will help you through this chapter more than you can 106 00:04:50,081 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 1: ever imagine. Your beautiful kids will continue to help you 107 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:57,481 Speaker 1: smile on days where you didn't even think it was possible, 108 00:04:57,721 --> 00:05:00,041 Speaker 1: and your amazing friends will help you to put back 109 00:05:00,081 --> 00:05:05,441 Speaker 1: together the shattered pieces of your heart again. If slow 110 00:05:05,481 --> 00:05:09,161 Speaker 1: will completely transform your life, it will make you reevaluate everything. 111 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:12,681 Speaker 1: It will make you reassess everything and shift you to 112 00:05:12,761 --> 00:05:15,321 Speaker 1: a lifestyle that is so much more aligned with yourself. 113 00:05:17,401 --> 00:05:19,161 Speaker 1: I can't read because my eyes. If you want to 114 00:05:20,641 --> 00:05:25,001 Speaker 1: time ps you eventually do, learn to tune in, listen 115 00:05:25,041 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 1: to your heart, your intuition, and start being the playful, kind, 116 00:05:28,361 --> 00:05:32,041 Speaker 1: beautifully spirited, fun you again, the you that has always 117 00:05:32,081 --> 00:05:34,481 Speaker 1: been there but has been shut off for far too long. 118 00:05:34,841 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: So don't wait. Believe me, trust me. 119 00:05:38,001 --> 00:05:38,961 Speaker 2: Trust you. 120 00:05:39,081 --> 00:05:42,041 Speaker 1: Life is too short to let any outside ideas or 121 00:05:42,121 --> 00:05:45,720 Speaker 1: noise stop you from living your best and most aligned life. 122 00:05:46,241 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 1: You are here on this earth, given this incredible opportunity 123 00:05:50,001 --> 00:05:53,041 Speaker 1: called life. Enjoy every day and be thankful to just 124 00:05:53,081 --> 00:05:55,681 Speaker 1: be here, because every extra minute you get of this 125 00:05:55,761 --> 00:05:57,801 Speaker 1: life is a complete blessing within itself. 126 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:03,841 Speaker 2: That's so beautiful, so nice, so nice, so nice for everyone, 127 00:06:03,961 --> 00:06:05,641 Speaker 2: Even though that s that's for you. I feel like 128 00:06:05,641 --> 00:06:08,481 Speaker 2: everyone listening they needed to hear that. Yeah, but all 129 00:06:08,521 --> 00:06:10,681 Speaker 2: the reminders in there, that's so beautiful. Even when you 130 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:12,121 Speaker 2: like you look back at yourself. 131 00:06:12,161 --> 00:06:15,161 Speaker 1: You know, when you start this journey, or even when 132 00:06:15,201 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 1: you were younger, you just wish you had somebody to 133 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:20,281 Speaker 1: like say those things to you, yes, to just be like, 134 00:06:20,361 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: don't wait. I feel like we all just like hold 135 00:06:22,521 --> 00:06:24,441 Speaker 1: on to all this resentment or hold back on the 136 00:06:24,481 --> 00:06:26,841 Speaker 1: way that we feel, or it's like built up energy 137 00:06:26,961 --> 00:06:29,841 Speaker 1: almost and like resistance. And as soon as you just 138 00:06:29,841 --> 00:06:32,761 Speaker 1: start to like, oh, just open yourself up, be your 139 00:06:32,761 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 1: true self, let yourself shine, like your life is just 140 00:06:35,801 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: so much better. 141 00:06:38,361 --> 00:06:41,081 Speaker 2: So interesting to you how it normally takes Like and 142 00:06:41,121 --> 00:06:43,721 Speaker 2: this is a belief that I've had to kind of 143 00:06:43,921 --> 00:06:46,281 Speaker 2: break the cycle. And it was through a conversation I 144 00:06:46,281 --> 00:06:48,721 Speaker 2: had with my old coach Taylor. But I felt like 145 00:06:48,841 --> 00:06:51,441 Speaker 2: a lot of my pivotal moments have been through when 146 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:55,001 Speaker 2: I've hit rock bottom and really hard times because the 147 00:06:55,081 --> 00:06:57,280 Speaker 2: universe kind of forces you to take a different path 148 00:06:57,320 --> 00:07:00,561 Speaker 2: and make big decisions. I'm going to him and saying, like, 149 00:07:00,721 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 2: you know, we're doing all this work and breaking all 150 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 2: these cycles so our kids have a better life. But like, 151 00:07:05,161 --> 00:07:07,481 Speaker 2: I'm really glad that I had that heard upbringing. I'm 152 00:07:07,481 --> 00:07:09,601 Speaker 2: really glad that all these tough things happen because it 153 00:07:09,881 --> 00:07:11,521 Speaker 2: shaped me to be who I am now. It's made 154 00:07:11,521 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 2: me so resilient and so strong and appreciate so much more. 155 00:07:15,521 --> 00:07:17,721 Speaker 2: How do I give my kids those lessons without them 156 00:07:17,761 --> 00:07:19,481 Speaker 2: having to go through the pain that I went through, 157 00:07:20,161 --> 00:07:22,121 Speaker 2: And he was just like, that's a limited belief that 158 00:07:22,161 --> 00:07:24,361 Speaker 2: you think that lessons have to come from pain. They 159 00:07:24,401 --> 00:07:26,801 Speaker 2: don't have to. But yeah, I think for us, like 160 00:07:26,841 --> 00:07:29,321 Speaker 2: a lot of it has come from those really hard times. 161 00:07:29,401 --> 00:07:32,081 Speaker 1: Well sometimes what happens too, I feel is like these 162 00:07:32,321 --> 00:07:34,561 Speaker 1: moments that we go through early in life, like they 163 00:07:34,681 --> 00:07:37,761 Speaker 1: shape us and you get stuck in your ways and 164 00:07:37,801 --> 00:07:41,241 Speaker 1: then life gives you these moments to just completely reassess. 165 00:07:41,321 --> 00:07:43,201 Speaker 1: But hopefully for our kids, because I don't go through 166 00:07:43,201 --> 00:07:46,161 Speaker 1: that hard shit, like, hopefully they can just be their 167 00:07:46,201 --> 00:07:49,241 Speaker 1: true self and feel connected to themselves the whole time, whereas, 168 00:07:49,601 --> 00:07:51,281 Speaker 1: like I know both of us have felt so out 169 00:07:51,281 --> 00:07:51,681 Speaker 1: of touch. 170 00:07:51,561 --> 00:07:54,721 Speaker 2: With ourselves throughout life. Yeah. Yeah, it's really exciting for 171 00:07:54,761 --> 00:07:57,761 Speaker 2: our kids just have a totally different experience. But it's 172 00:07:57,841 --> 00:08:00,201 Speaker 2: cool that we can share all of this and grow 173 00:08:00,241 --> 00:08:01,681 Speaker 2: and it has shaped us to be who we are 174 00:08:01,681 --> 00:08:04,561 Speaker 2: today definitely, And that's why now when the universe gives 175 00:08:04,601 --> 00:08:08,481 Speaker 2: me something really hard from experience, like my body, my mind, 176 00:08:08,601 --> 00:08:10,881 Speaker 2: my heart knows I will be okay and I'll come 177 00:08:10,921 --> 00:08:12,681 Speaker 2: out the other side. So that's when you have that 178 00:08:12,801 --> 00:08:15,281 Speaker 2: inner trust and knowing it helps you be grateful for 179 00:08:15,321 --> 00:08:17,921 Speaker 2: it rather than turn into a victim and hate the 180 00:08:17,921 --> 00:08:20,881 Speaker 2: world and think like, fuck, this isn't fair. It makes 181 00:08:20,921 --> 00:08:22,401 Speaker 2: you go caw. I don't know why this is happening 182 00:08:22,481 --> 00:08:23,881 Speaker 2: right now, but I know that I'll get to the 183 00:08:23,961 --> 00:08:25,681 Speaker 2: other side and I'll look back and be like, ah, 184 00:08:26,201 --> 00:08:28,481 Speaker 2: because I learned this, because I took this opportunity, because 185 00:08:28,481 --> 00:08:30,361 Speaker 2: I said no to that. I you know, whatever you 186 00:08:30,441 --> 00:08:31,881 Speaker 2: decided to do, it's a blessing. 187 00:08:32,201 --> 00:08:35,641 Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely, I'm excited to hear yours. 188 00:08:35,761 --> 00:08:38,121 Speaker 2: Yes, I wrote a few different ones down, so I'll 189 00:08:38,161 --> 00:08:41,841 Speaker 2: just read them out as I wrote them down. This 190 00:08:41,881 --> 00:08:45,441 Speaker 2: is like more advice that I would give Tyler growing up, 191 00:08:45,561 --> 00:08:48,321 Speaker 2: or i'd just give my younger self. You're exactly where 192 00:08:48,321 --> 00:08:51,001 Speaker 2: you're meant to be. There is no wrong path. The 193 00:08:51,041 --> 00:08:53,441 Speaker 2: path you chose felt right at the time, and even 194 00:08:53,481 --> 00:08:55,721 Speaker 2: if it didn't feel right, you chose it because it 195 00:08:55,841 --> 00:08:58,281 Speaker 2: had a higher purpose to expand and teach you something 196 00:08:58,601 --> 00:09:01,041 Speaker 2: that you needed to learn for your next evolution of you. 197 00:09:01,521 --> 00:09:03,561 Speaker 2: And I love that because you know how sometimes like 198 00:09:03,601 --> 00:09:05,481 Speaker 2: when people go, oh, you know the right decision, you 199 00:09:05,521 --> 00:09:08,881 Speaker 2: know what to do, like really go in Sometimes I'm 200 00:09:08,921 --> 00:09:12,401 Speaker 2: like I actually don't, and I feel lost. But you 201 00:09:12,441 --> 00:09:15,881 Speaker 2: still have to make a decision and just know whatever 202 00:09:15,881 --> 00:09:17,801 Speaker 2: decision you do make, even if you're not sure if 203 00:09:17,801 --> 00:09:20,401 Speaker 2: it's the right one, it is the right one, yeah, 204 00:09:20,561 --> 00:09:22,961 Speaker 2: because at that time that's what you chose. So even 205 00:09:22,961 --> 00:09:24,921 Speaker 2: if you weren't sure, there's one that you leant more 206 00:09:24,921 --> 00:09:27,161 Speaker 2: into and you took a chance with, and that leads 207 00:09:27,161 --> 00:09:29,001 Speaker 2: you to where you meant to be. So you just 208 00:09:29,041 --> 00:09:32,721 Speaker 2: have to know and trust my next one. There'll always 209 00:09:32,801 --> 00:09:36,241 Speaker 2: be someone prettier, richer, more popular, and smarter than you, 210 00:09:36,441 --> 00:09:38,681 Speaker 2: But it does not take away from the light that 211 00:09:38,761 --> 00:09:41,681 Speaker 2: you bring to this world. It doesn't make you ugly. 212 00:09:41,721 --> 00:09:44,641 Speaker 2: It doesn't make you less worthy or not as important either. 213 00:09:45,121 --> 00:09:47,281 Speaker 2: Comparing and trying to keep up with others will leave 214 00:09:47,321 --> 00:09:50,121 Speaker 2: you always feeling like you're not enough and dead inside. 215 00:09:50,241 --> 00:09:52,841 Speaker 2: Please don't waste your precious time on this. I just 216 00:09:52,881 --> 00:09:55,601 Speaker 2: feel like growing up, and I think it's even harder 217 00:09:56,281 --> 00:09:58,481 Speaker 2: in this day and age with young teenagers growing up 218 00:09:58,481 --> 00:10:00,361 Speaker 2: with social media is they always are going to see 219 00:10:00,361 --> 00:10:02,961 Speaker 2: everyone's highlight reel and there's always going to be someone 220 00:10:02,961 --> 00:10:05,001 Speaker 2: better than them, and it leaves you feeling not enough. 221 00:10:05,041 --> 00:10:07,321 Speaker 2: If you keep looking at everyone's highlight reels, not remembering 222 00:10:07,401 --> 00:10:10,001 Speaker 2: they too go through struggles, and they too have self 223 00:10:10,001 --> 00:10:12,801 Speaker 2: worth issues, and they doubt themselves and they go through 224 00:10:12,801 --> 00:10:15,841 Speaker 2: hard moments. You're always going to never feel enough. Yeah. 225 00:10:15,961 --> 00:10:19,041 Speaker 2: I love that. Yeah, it's why the outside noise can 226 00:10:19,081 --> 00:10:22,321 Speaker 2: get so noisy, and that's why it's so important to 227 00:10:22,321 --> 00:10:24,761 Speaker 2: pull yourself off social media if you're feeling like this, 228 00:10:25,201 --> 00:10:26,721 Speaker 2: and why I feel like we're going to be so 229 00:10:26,761 --> 00:10:30,521 Speaker 2: protective of our kids having social media and spending time scrolling, 230 00:10:30,561 --> 00:10:33,081 Speaker 2: because they're just taking all that noise and their little 231 00:10:33,081 --> 00:10:36,201 Speaker 2: mind starts to compare every little thing. It's dangerous. 232 00:10:36,361 --> 00:10:37,841 Speaker 1: Paris is a thief of joy. 233 00:10:37,801 --> 00:10:39,721 Speaker 2: It really is. I saw that there was I think 234 00:10:39,721 --> 00:10:41,801 Speaker 2: we spoke about LEVI. There was a petition going around 235 00:10:41,881 --> 00:10:44,881 Speaker 2: for it to not be legal for kids under sixteen 236 00:10:44,921 --> 00:10:48,001 Speaker 2: to be on social media apps. And I think that's 237 00:10:48,041 --> 00:10:51,081 Speaker 2: such a good idea. That's a great idea, but I 238 00:10:51,121 --> 00:10:53,601 Speaker 2: don't think it will happen. I just remember growing up 239 00:10:53,601 --> 00:10:56,361 Speaker 2: thinking that everyone's always better than me and I can't 240 00:10:56,401 --> 00:10:58,161 Speaker 2: compete with it. So it almost like give up on 241 00:10:58,201 --> 00:11:00,281 Speaker 2: myself and give up and say no to certain situations 242 00:11:00,361 --> 00:11:02,321 Speaker 2: or opportunities because I was just never going to be enough, 243 00:11:02,641 --> 00:11:06,441 Speaker 2: but these other girls are. Yeah, definitely, And it's like 244 00:11:06,481 --> 00:11:09,961 Speaker 2: whatever you look for you'll find as well. Yeah, okay, 245 00:11:10,001 --> 00:11:12,241 Speaker 2: this one my next one. Try to be aware of 246 00:11:12,241 --> 00:11:14,281 Speaker 2: what you feel attached to. I want you to try 247 00:11:14,281 --> 00:11:19,761 Speaker 2: to detach from people, situations, expectations, homes, jobs, and opportunities. 248 00:11:20,161 --> 00:11:22,841 Speaker 2: If something doesn't work out, please trust it. When one 249 00:11:22,881 --> 00:11:25,401 Speaker 2: door closes, another three will open up that are way 250 00:11:25,401 --> 00:11:28,401 Speaker 2: more aligned. When you close, there's something you create space for, 251 00:11:28,481 --> 00:11:32,121 Speaker 2: even more light, beauty, and connection. When you detach from everything, 252 00:11:32,441 --> 00:11:36,761 Speaker 2: you attract everything. When you don't need anything, you gain everything. 253 00:11:37,721 --> 00:11:40,361 Speaker 1: I love that goes for so many different areas of life, 254 00:11:40,401 --> 00:11:43,721 Speaker 1: feel like friendships, businesses, naturally everything. 255 00:11:43,881 --> 00:11:46,201 Speaker 2: I just think it's been such a big change that 256 00:11:46,201 --> 00:11:48,401 Speaker 2: I made years ago because I just used to be 257 00:11:48,481 --> 00:11:51,881 Speaker 2: so attached to so much, even like home. Steve wants 258 00:11:51,881 --> 00:11:53,881 Speaker 2: like a forever home and I moved around a lot 259 00:11:53,881 --> 00:11:56,201 Speaker 2: as the kids. I've never been attached to having one home, 260 00:11:57,161 --> 00:11:59,801 Speaker 2: And I get why people are it's special and sentimental, 261 00:11:59,881 --> 00:12:01,801 Speaker 2: but like for me, I love moving around. It's like 262 00:12:01,921 --> 00:12:04,641 Speaker 2: fresh energy in your environment. It inspires me again and 263 00:12:04,681 --> 00:12:07,281 Speaker 2: it's like an adventure. Yeah, and I love it and 264 00:12:07,321 --> 00:12:09,281 Speaker 2: You just never know when something could be taken away. 265 00:12:09,361 --> 00:12:11,681 Speaker 2: So if you don't have an attachment to it, it's 266 00:12:11,681 --> 00:12:13,681 Speaker 2: not as hurtful, it's not as disappointing. You don't put 267 00:12:13,681 --> 00:12:17,881 Speaker 2: yourself through as much pain. So whish I learned that earlier. 268 00:12:19,481 --> 00:12:21,801 Speaker 2: When you feel like you're breaking down, you are actually 269 00:12:21,881 --> 00:12:25,241 Speaker 2: breaking free and breaking through from what's not serving you. 270 00:12:25,641 --> 00:12:28,401 Speaker 2: This is really amazing, So embrace these moments because you're 271 00:12:28,401 --> 00:12:31,361 Speaker 2: about to enter a whole new, exciting chapter. I love 272 00:12:31,401 --> 00:12:35,121 Speaker 2: that breaking down is like so heavy and hard, But 273 00:12:35,161 --> 00:12:38,521 Speaker 2: if you change the language like breaking free from what's 274 00:12:38,561 --> 00:12:42,121 Speaker 2: not serving you or breaking through something that makes it 275 00:12:42,201 --> 00:12:44,041 Speaker 2: like a high vibration, you need to go through that 276 00:12:44,081 --> 00:12:47,041 Speaker 2: to come out the other side. Yeah, breakdown means a 277 00:12:47,041 --> 00:12:50,361 Speaker 2: breakthrough and break free. This one we've all heard before, 278 00:12:50,441 --> 00:12:52,801 Speaker 2: but I would still tell it to my younger self 279 00:12:53,361 --> 00:12:56,041 Speaker 2: earlier on Tatala. Some people are in your life for 280 00:12:56,081 --> 00:12:58,961 Speaker 2: a lesson, some are there for a season or a reason, 281 00:12:59,081 --> 00:13:01,361 Speaker 2: and then some are there for a lifetime. But the 282 00:13:01,361 --> 00:13:03,441 Speaker 2: more that you stay connected to yourself, the more you 283 00:13:03,481 --> 00:13:06,281 Speaker 2: can feel into who's here for each of those And no, 284 00:13:06,441 --> 00:13:09,961 Speaker 2: they are all perfect and they all serve a purpose. Yeah, 285 00:13:10,041 --> 00:13:12,961 Speaker 2: that's beautiful. And it's so hard when you go through 286 00:13:13,441 --> 00:13:17,561 Speaker 2: relationship breakdowns or friendship breakdowns or anything in your life. 287 00:13:17,601 --> 00:13:21,001 Speaker 2: Like even there's been certain work friends and I'm like, oh, 288 00:13:21,241 --> 00:13:23,841 Speaker 2: those work friends weren't my real friends. They were work friends, 289 00:13:24,201 --> 00:13:26,721 Speaker 2: but I thought we'd be friends outside of work. But 290 00:13:26,841 --> 00:13:28,641 Speaker 2: they were there for a purpose and for a reason 291 00:13:28,641 --> 00:13:30,561 Speaker 2: and for a season, and that was beautiful and perfect. 292 00:13:30,881 --> 00:13:33,161 Speaker 2: It served them me having a job they could work at, 293 00:13:33,521 --> 00:13:35,561 Speaker 2: and it served me having this incredible staff member that 294 00:13:35,601 --> 00:13:38,441 Speaker 2: helped my business. But outside of that, it was no more. 295 00:13:39,201 --> 00:13:40,761 Speaker 2: And that was a hard pill for me to swallow. 296 00:13:41,161 --> 00:13:43,281 Speaker 2: But I was like, they served their purpose and they 297 00:13:43,281 --> 00:13:44,801 Speaker 2: were there for the reason and the season that. 298 00:13:44,801 --> 00:13:45,921 Speaker 1: Was fun for all they were there. 299 00:13:46,161 --> 00:13:49,601 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's beautiful. And then there's some friendships that I've 300 00:13:49,601 --> 00:13:51,521 Speaker 2: had literally since I was like fifteen, and they're still 301 00:13:51,521 --> 00:13:54,361 Speaker 2: stronger than ever. Yeah, Like most of my really close 302 00:13:54,401 --> 00:13:57,281 Speaker 2: friends I've had since teenage years, and I feel like 303 00:13:57,321 --> 00:13:58,601 Speaker 2: they just locked in and solid. 304 00:13:58,761 --> 00:14:00,321 Speaker 1: Wasn't it you that sent me that thing the other day? 305 00:14:00,401 --> 00:14:03,801 Speaker 1: Like once you reach seventy years of friendship, seven years, 306 00:14:03,921 --> 00:14:06,281 Speaker 1: seven years of friendship, it's like pretty. 307 00:14:06,121 --> 00:14:09,921 Speaker 2: Locked in, locked in? Yeah, Yeah, that's really cool. I know, interesting, hay. 308 00:14:10,041 --> 00:14:11,761 Speaker 2: So it's just a real that I sent here because 309 00:14:11,761 --> 00:14:13,321 Speaker 2: I think we're past our seven years now too. 310 00:14:13,881 --> 00:14:15,521 Speaker 1: I think we've probably got like our seven year annivers 311 00:14:16,121 --> 00:14:18,881 Speaker 1: maybe front of ursery cute. 312 00:14:19,841 --> 00:14:22,241 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that's so cute. So this's real. Was 313 00:14:22,321 --> 00:14:25,161 Speaker 2: just yeah, like, if your friendships get past seven years 314 00:14:25,201 --> 00:14:27,481 Speaker 2: their lifetime friends. Yeah, And I was like, that's. 315 00:14:27,361 --> 00:14:29,361 Speaker 1: Really cool, and I feel like when you reflect and 316 00:14:29,401 --> 00:14:30,841 Speaker 1: think about that, it's pretty dang. 317 00:14:31,201 --> 00:14:33,761 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's pretty spot on, isn't it. But then again, 318 00:14:33,881 --> 00:14:35,601 Speaker 2: like some friends might come into your life and then 319 00:14:35,601 --> 00:14:37,361 Speaker 2: you might have a season where you're not that close. 320 00:14:37,521 --> 00:14:40,361 Speaker 2: So yeah, every friendship has different seasons. Yeah, I really 321 00:14:40,361 --> 00:14:42,601 Speaker 2: love that. Yeah, it helps take the pain away if 322 00:14:42,601 --> 00:14:44,801 Speaker 2: things don't work out. Definitely don't like. No, I can 323 00:14:44,841 --> 00:14:47,081 Speaker 2: appreciate and I'm so grateful for that season, for the 324 00:14:47,081 --> 00:14:49,121 Speaker 2: purpose and things they taught me and the fun that 325 00:14:49,161 --> 00:14:51,361 Speaker 2: we did have. Yeah. Yeah, And I know there's a 326 00:14:51,361 --> 00:14:53,601 Speaker 2: lot of women struggling because I get dms about it 327 00:14:53,641 --> 00:14:56,481 Speaker 2: all the time. My life has been very public on 328 00:14:56,521 --> 00:14:59,041 Speaker 2: social media, so people have seen when I'm not as 329 00:14:59,081 --> 00:15:01,081 Speaker 2: close to someone, and everyone makes up their own narrative 330 00:15:01,161 --> 00:15:03,121 Speaker 2: but in true honesty, a lot of it just has 331 00:15:03,161 --> 00:15:07,521 Speaker 2: dwindled apart. Yeah, and it's hard, It really is hard. 332 00:15:07,601 --> 00:15:09,361 Speaker 2: So I think it's nice to just go back to 333 00:15:09,481 --> 00:15:12,161 Speaker 2: the gratitude of what the friendship was. I know a 334 00:15:12,161 --> 00:15:13,641 Speaker 2: lot of women are struggling with this because I get 335 00:15:13,641 --> 00:15:15,081 Speaker 2: a lot of Dan's been like, how do you cope, 336 00:15:15,121 --> 00:15:16,841 Speaker 2: you know, with your friendship breaking down with this person? 337 00:15:16,921 --> 00:15:18,841 Speaker 2: Or like, you know, you guys seen so close and 338 00:15:18,841 --> 00:15:20,161 Speaker 2: do you just not see each other? And we're like, 339 00:15:20,241 --> 00:15:22,601 Speaker 2: I'm having that struggles with my friendships, and I always 340 00:15:22,681 --> 00:15:25,001 Speaker 2: go back to that. I'm like, well, you know, sometimes 341 00:15:25,001 --> 00:15:27,121 Speaker 2: you're close to people and sometimes you're not. Yeah, and 342 00:15:27,121 --> 00:15:29,161 Speaker 2: that's just the way life is. Yeah, but I have 343 00:15:29,201 --> 00:15:31,841 Speaker 2: gratitude for all of it. This one's really helped me 344 00:15:32,561 --> 00:15:35,121 Speaker 2: repair my relationship with my mum over the years, which 345 00:15:35,121 --> 00:15:37,441 Speaker 2: if you have not listened to that episode, oh my god, 346 00:15:37,521 --> 00:15:39,721 Speaker 2: listen to it. Please go and listen to it. It 347 00:15:39,761 --> 00:15:42,721 Speaker 2: was incredible. She spoke so open and so vulnerable, and 348 00:15:42,721 --> 00:15:44,881 Speaker 2: at the start she said our relationship was not always 349 00:15:44,921 --> 00:15:48,241 Speaker 2: this strong, which is very true. But this really helped 350 00:15:48,241 --> 00:15:52,321 Speaker 2: me with my healing of forgiveness and understanding and compassion 351 00:15:52,481 --> 00:15:55,881 Speaker 2: for how my mum was through the abuse of my 352 00:15:55,921 --> 00:15:58,801 Speaker 2: stepfather and just the hard times we went through him. 353 00:15:59,281 --> 00:16:01,721 Speaker 2: And the advice is your parents did the best that 354 00:16:01,761 --> 00:16:04,201 Speaker 2: they could with what they knew at the time, and 355 00:16:04,241 --> 00:16:06,921 Speaker 2: every generation and does better than the last. And please 356 00:16:07,001 --> 00:16:09,401 Speaker 2: know that any moments that didn't feel loving, it doesn't 357 00:16:09,441 --> 00:16:11,801 Speaker 2: mean that you were not deserving of love in that moment. 358 00:16:12,121 --> 00:16:14,241 Speaker 2: I love that, and I do. I look back at 359 00:16:14,241 --> 00:16:16,561 Speaker 2: my mom and I'm like, I don't know how she 360 00:16:16,641 --> 00:16:20,401 Speaker 2: got through those years with three children, feeling so alone, 361 00:16:20,801 --> 00:16:24,161 Speaker 2: so unsupported. I can't even imagine going through that. Like 362 00:16:24,201 --> 00:16:27,641 Speaker 2: I've never been in a quote unquote bad relationship neither. 363 00:16:27,921 --> 00:16:30,681 Speaker 2: I've only been treated so lovely by the relationships I've 364 00:16:30,681 --> 00:16:32,841 Speaker 2: been And I can't imagine what she went through. She 365 00:16:32,921 --> 00:16:35,241 Speaker 2: literally did the best that she could. And she looks 366 00:16:35,281 --> 00:16:37,081 Speaker 2: back on her mum and she tells me stories of 367 00:16:37,121 --> 00:16:39,761 Speaker 2: things that happened to her and I'm like, whoa, but 368 00:16:39,761 --> 00:16:42,121 Speaker 2: it's even worse. Yeah, and her mom did the best 369 00:16:42,121 --> 00:16:42,641 Speaker 2: that she could. 370 00:16:42,761 --> 00:16:42,961 Speaker 1: Yeah. 371 00:16:43,001 --> 00:16:45,601 Speaker 2: And then you go back generations through war and through everything, 372 00:16:45,761 --> 00:16:49,801 Speaker 2: like it was horrific back then. So every generation gets 373 00:16:49,801 --> 00:16:52,201 Speaker 2: better and better. But just like if you're holding anger 374 00:16:52,281 --> 00:16:55,321 Speaker 2: resentment and judgment towards your parents, Like I know it's 375 00:16:55,361 --> 00:16:57,201 Speaker 2: so hard, but you just have to understand they did 376 00:16:57,201 --> 00:16:59,001 Speaker 2: the best they can, even my stepdad. 377 00:16:58,601 --> 00:17:01,481 Speaker 1: And you don't have to forgive, but even just for 378 00:17:01,521 --> 00:17:05,360 Speaker 1: your own pc yind just to have some understand and 379 00:17:05,401 --> 00:17:07,041 Speaker 1: some compassion and be like okay. 380 00:17:07,001 --> 00:17:08,840 Speaker 2: Just release it, yeah, just to let it go and 381 00:17:09,041 --> 00:17:12,080 Speaker 2: hold on sense breath works really help with that as well. 382 00:17:12,120 --> 00:17:14,640 Speaker 2: But like even my stepdad, like I would never have 383 00:17:14,640 --> 00:17:17,681 Speaker 2: a relationship with him, no ever, but I can still 384 00:17:17,721 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 2: look at that man, not face to face, don't ever 385 00:17:20,001 --> 00:17:21,801 Speaker 2: see him, but I can still reflect back and go, 386 00:17:22,241 --> 00:17:24,441 Speaker 2: I don't know what happened in your childhood, but something's 387 00:17:24,481 --> 00:17:26,561 Speaker 2: happened to make you the way that you are. You 388 00:17:26,600 --> 00:17:29,080 Speaker 2: would not be treating children like this. You would not 389 00:17:29,080 --> 00:17:30,761 Speaker 2: be treating your wife like this. You will not be 390 00:17:30,761 --> 00:17:34,121 Speaker 2: treating yourself, your body, your health. Like everything he did 391 00:17:34,241 --> 00:17:38,440 Speaker 2: was just it felt so disrespectful. But who knows what 392 00:17:38,481 --> 00:17:40,241 Speaker 2: he went through to be like that. That's a lot 393 00:17:40,281 --> 00:17:43,240 Speaker 2: of pain. There is so much trauma and pain in 394 00:17:43,281 --> 00:17:44,961 Speaker 2: that man for him to be showing up like that, 395 00:17:45,080 --> 00:17:47,640 Speaker 2: Like I honestly have compassion for him. I don't choose 396 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:48,321 Speaker 2: to be around it. 397 00:17:48,761 --> 00:17:48,961 Speaker 1: Yeah. 398 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:52,400 Speaker 2: I don't wish upon anyone what happened to us, but 399 00:17:52,441 --> 00:17:54,521 Speaker 2: I definitely in my heart still have compassion for like 400 00:17:54,561 --> 00:17:57,481 Speaker 2: whatever the fuck he went through. Definitely. Yeah, that's just 401 00:17:57,521 --> 00:18:00,240 Speaker 2: a nice way to live, isn't it this that I 402 00:18:00,241 --> 00:18:02,440 Speaker 2: saw on Instagram the other day? There are people that 403 00:18:02,481 --> 00:18:07,721 Speaker 2: will never support you because it's you. Then there's people 404 00:18:07,761 --> 00:18:12,041 Speaker 2: that will always support you because it's you. You just 405 00:18:12,080 --> 00:18:15,401 Speaker 2: got to find your people. Don't settle? So true, isn't it? 406 00:18:16,041 --> 00:18:17,561 Speaker 2: Some people that just will never support you, they just 407 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:19,761 Speaker 2: decided they don't like you. Yeah. And then there's people 408 00:18:19,761 --> 00:18:23,401 Speaker 2: that just like you're always there social media. Do you see, 409 00:18:23,481 --> 00:18:26,161 Speaker 2: like regular the same women pop up in your inbox 410 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:29,241 Speaker 2: and they're just always supporting. I know, you scroll back 411 00:18:29,281 --> 00:18:33,321 Speaker 2: and it's like twenty sixteen, twenty twelve, I'm like, wow, 412 00:18:33,441 --> 00:18:36,081 Speaker 2: you it's always shown up for me, even if it's 413 00:18:36,120 --> 00:18:37,680 Speaker 2: just to swipe up with a love heart or like 414 00:18:38,001 --> 00:18:41,880 Speaker 2: thinking of you or hope you're well, or like great lawns. 415 00:18:41,561 --> 00:18:45,080 Speaker 1: Always there with good vibes and just just cheering you on. 416 00:18:45,241 --> 00:18:47,561 Speaker 2: And they always will just because they just see you 417 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:50,080 Speaker 2: who you are. And there's people that just always fucking 418 00:18:50,120 --> 00:18:50,400 Speaker 2: hate you. 419 00:18:50,521 --> 00:18:52,321 Speaker 1: Yeah, no matter what you do, no matter what you do, 420 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: you've already made up the mind about you anyway. 421 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:55,881 Speaker 2: It's like, what's that saying? You could be the juicest, 422 00:18:56,001 --> 00:18:57,721 Speaker 2: ripest peach in the world, will it be someone that 423 00:18:57,721 --> 00:18:59,680 Speaker 2: doesn't like peaches? So it doesn't matter what kind of 424 00:18:59,681 --> 00:19:03,961 Speaker 2: peach you are, you can god who doesn't like peaches? 425 00:19:04,681 --> 00:19:08,001 Speaker 2: But it's so true, so true. Yeah, I thought that 426 00:19:08,041 --> 00:19:10,201 Speaker 2: was a really good one one. So they're just some 427 00:19:10,521 --> 00:19:13,081 Speaker 2: little bite sized chunks that you guys can hopefully take 428 00:19:13,120 --> 00:19:15,601 Speaker 2: away write them down maybe, or maybe it's just one 429 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:17,600 Speaker 2: of them's landed and going ah. Like say, if you 430 00:19:17,640 --> 00:19:19,961 Speaker 2: are shruggling with your friendship to be like, Okay, that's 431 00:19:20,001 --> 00:19:22,400 Speaker 2: really sad that that friendship fell apart, but wow we 432 00:19:22,441 --> 00:19:24,600 Speaker 2: had some really good times together. Yeah, they really helped 433 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:26,521 Speaker 2: me through a dark time. They might not be here now, 434 00:19:26,561 --> 00:19:28,240 Speaker 2: but like I wouldn't been able to get through that 435 00:19:28,281 --> 00:19:30,721 Speaker 2: time without them, And that was a really beautiful task. 436 00:19:30,880 --> 00:19:33,080 Speaker 1: I pushed you guys and urge you to go write 437 00:19:33,120 --> 00:19:35,400 Speaker 1: yourself a letter or write down little things when they 438 00:19:35,441 --> 00:19:36,721 Speaker 1: pop up in your mind that you would want to 439 00:19:36,761 --> 00:19:38,721 Speaker 1: say to your younger self when you're having a low day, 440 00:19:38,761 --> 00:19:41,480 Speaker 1: reflect on them, back at them and be like, yeah, no, 441 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:43,680 Speaker 1: this is really nice, Like I deserve that love, I 442 00:19:43,721 --> 00:19:47,400 Speaker 1: deserve this, and yeah, it was a really beautiful, like 443 00:19:47,521 --> 00:19:49,400 Speaker 1: touching thing to do. I cried when I was writing it, 444 00:19:49,481 --> 00:19:51,401 Speaker 1: and they cried again, and it's all those beautiful little 445 00:19:51,441 --> 00:19:54,921 Speaker 1: releases and it's happy tears. I just feel so grateful. 446 00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:57,801 Speaker 2: And sometimes those tears are uncried tears that you didn't 447 00:19:57,801 --> 00:19:59,441 Speaker 2: get to cry when you were younger, Like let them 448 00:19:59,481 --> 00:20:02,160 Speaker 2: come up now. And it might feel uncomfortable writing a 449 00:20:02,201 --> 00:20:04,720 Speaker 2: letter like that, but that's okay, like lean into it, 450 00:20:05,120 --> 00:20:07,880 Speaker 2: running from everything that's uncomfortable. This society, I feel like, 451 00:20:08,801 --> 00:20:12,200 Speaker 2: wants everything to be easy, fast, accessible. It's even like 452 00:20:12,481 --> 00:20:14,401 Speaker 2: eats and everything's everything is. 453 00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:17,001 Speaker 1: Easy, fast and accessible, even trying to like go to 454 00:20:17,120 --> 00:20:18,880 Speaker 1: appointments and stuff, like a lot of them. Now you 455 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:21,360 Speaker 1: can do comfortable your home, like everything's been made so 456 00:20:21,481 --> 00:20:23,601 Speaker 1: much more comfortable, I feel like, which is. 457 00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:27,121 Speaker 2: Great in some sense, but like other things, like it's 458 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:30,200 Speaker 2: okay to feel uncomfortable. That's how you grow, absolutely, how 459 00:20:30,201 --> 00:20:32,561 Speaker 2: you get to know the deeper layers of yourself. And 460 00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:33,161 Speaker 2: we need to. 461 00:20:33,441 --> 00:20:34,281 Speaker 1: Get more comfortable. 462 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:38,481 Speaker 2: Yeah, situations, Yeah, one hundred percent what I see the 463 00:20:38,521 --> 00:20:42,241 Speaker 2: other day. It was like, hard decisions today make tomorrow easier. 464 00:20:42,721 --> 00:20:46,241 Speaker 2: Easy decisions today make it tomorrow tomorrow harder. And isn't 465 00:20:46,241 --> 00:20:48,761 Speaker 2: that true? So true? It's like with your food, for example, 466 00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:51,601 Speaker 2: if you didn't put in the work to prep your 467 00:20:51,801 --> 00:20:53,920 Speaker 2: lunch or whatever, Yeah, it's easier today, but then you 468 00:20:53,961 --> 00:20:56,441 Speaker 2: feel like shit tomorrow. Getting takeaway was if you put 469 00:20:56,441 --> 00:20:58,200 Speaker 2: the hard effort in and like prep your food and 470 00:20:58,201 --> 00:21:00,561 Speaker 2: cook it up and put it in your containers, it's 471 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:01,361 Speaker 2: easier tomorrow. 472 00:21:01,521 --> 00:21:02,721 Speaker 1: Definitely, so true. 473 00:21:02,801 --> 00:21:05,041 Speaker 2: Right, Uh huh freaking love that saying it out loud. 474 00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:08,400 Speaker 2: Oh my son, Yeah, oh, thanks for joining us. 475 00:21:09,001 --> 00:21:09,441 Speaker 1: Don't forget. 476 00:21:09,441 --> 00:21:11,720 Speaker 2: On Friday, we upload like a little mini episode and 477 00:21:11,761 --> 00:21:13,840 Speaker 2: basically it's a highlight from a previous one. 478 00:21:13,921 --> 00:21:15,680 Speaker 1: I've got so many now, so you never know what 479 00:21:15,721 --> 00:21:16,281 Speaker 1: you're going to get. 480 00:21:16,360 --> 00:21:18,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, if you've only got like five teren minutes. The 481 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:21,041 Speaker 2: Friday ones are nice, little bite sized reminders and little 482 00:21:21,041 --> 00:21:22,161 Speaker 2: pep talks and pick me up. 483 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:23,960 Speaker 1: So they're actually going really well. Yeah, you guys are 484 00:21:24,001 --> 00:21:25,760 Speaker 1: loving and when we look at the stats, we were surprised. 485 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:29,000 Speaker 2: The little Friday it's just good. If you've only got 486 00:21:29,001 --> 00:21:32,001 Speaker 2: a couple of minutes. Yeah, thanks for joining us. 487 00:21:32,360 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: We'll see ye next time. Bye.