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Speaker 1: With Kate podcast Our Singles Party is on the horizon.

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Speaker 1: So it's got me thinking about relationships and the amount

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Speaker 1: of people who were reaching out, maybe hoping that they're single,

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Speaker 1: and it could be that they have finally paid attention.

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Speaker 2: To the red flags within the relationship.

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Speaker 3: Can we please talk about the reaction that we got yesterday?

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Speaker 2: It's gone? Can I say it's gone?

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Speaker 4: The word.

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Speaker 1: Sitting in the office and watching the people. I mean,

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Speaker 1: not that I'm kind of judging all part of the

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Speaker 1: decision making process, but it was really fun because I'm

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Speaker 1: not on these dating apps, so I.

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Speaker 2: Got to kind of like like, what do you do

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Speaker 2: on them? Like your squall or I actually have? I

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Speaker 2: actually have never ever? Did you guys get me?

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Speaker 3: I was getting messages yesterday from single people going how

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Speaker 3: do I get involved? I'm gonna I'm throwing this out there.

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Speaker 3: There was there was a mum from the primary school.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there was she that she used to getting ye

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Speaker 2: single mind She's got a friend as well who is single.

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Speaker 5: There's a lot of people that are excited around for this.

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Speaker 3: I didn't think it was going to take off like

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Speaker 3: it did.

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Speaker 5: But according to Kate, it's gone. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Do you want me to get to some of these

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Speaker 1: red flags? I mean, I know we don't have long,

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Speaker 1: but I just want to. I want to say that.

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Speaker 1: And this is talking from a woman's point of view

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Speaker 2: It could work vice versa.

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Speaker 1: So I'm not like, you know, whatever, whatever, But sometimes

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Speaker 1: the red flags can show up within a relationship when

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Speaker 1: you're with somebody who might have incredibly low self esteem

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Speaker 1: and that is awful for them, but in turn, it

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Speaker 1: having to deal with it and not address your own needs.

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Speaker 1: So when some says to you a lot, maybe you're

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Speaker 1: too good for me, you're too good for me. So

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Speaker 1: what that does is that there's an imbalance of power,

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Speaker 1: and then they you have to spend a lot of

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Speaker 1: your time reassuring them.

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Speaker 2: I'd never say that, but I'm what, you're too good

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Speaker 2: for me to.

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Speaker 5: Any I'm too good for you.

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Speaker 1: I'm too good for you, and you're lucky that you

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Speaker 1: get to spend this amount of time with me. I

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Speaker 1: don't care what people think. Is another one, but I

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Speaker 1: think that's across the board. You know, when people are

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Speaker 1: overly confident.

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Speaker 5: I don't care.

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Speaker 2: People who say they don't care what people think quite

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Speaker 5: It's up there with what's wrong. It's just the truth.

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Speaker 5: I just said the truth.

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Speaker 1: Well, you funny you should say that, because there is

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Speaker 1: I'm just being honest. I'm just being honest, which means, well,

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Speaker 1: it means I'm allowed to say whatever I want. I

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Speaker 1: don't have to be responsible for what I'm saying because

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Speaker 1: I'm doing you a favor by just being honest.

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Speaker 3: Guys, it's exactly the same as starting a sentence I'm

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Speaker 3: not racist, but yes.

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Speaker 2: Or what about I'm sorry, but I love the old apology.

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Speaker 2: I'm really really sorry.

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Speaker 1: But if you weren't such a I wouldn't have to

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Speaker 5: And then often it finishes with Kate, do you know

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Speaker 5: what I'm Do you know what I mean? Do you

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Speaker 5: understand what I'm saying?

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Speaker 1: I want you now to agree with me about what

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Speaker 1: I've just said about.

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Speaker 5: You part of the conversation.

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Speaker 1: There's a few others. I was joking. It's not a

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Speaker 1: big deal. You're too sensitive. I'm not perfect.

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Speaker 2: Basically, I think they're all just a cover for excusing

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Speaker 2: a bit of bad way.

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Speaker 5: I do a lot of the I'm not perfect, do you. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: And that's why we talk about the theory of back

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Speaker 5: the eighty eighty percent is good enough. It's never going

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Speaker 5: to be one hundred. Don't expect one hundred, but take

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Speaker 5: eighty every time, back the eighty. Lisa's at sixty sixty.

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Speaker 1: What a lucky lady. Lisa actually reached out to me

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Speaker 1: yesterday about the signals.

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Speaker 5: But I don't know what you're talking about. Let's serve on.

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Speaker 5: We found the Queen of the ball. It fits in

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Speaker 5: with her with Kate Ridgie podcast.

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Speaker 2: I love these studies are done on the workplace, this

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Speaker 1: There's always these things. Oh, you've got to watch out

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Speaker 1: for this in the workplace. Well, apparently there's a there's

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Speaker 1: a term. And give us a call if you want

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Speaker 1: to dub somebody in in your workplace who was a

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Speaker 1: bit like this, a busy.

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Speaker 5: Bragger, the office bragger.

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Speaker 2: No you mean no, No, you're confused.

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Speaker 1: You you think I'm saying a busy bragger meaning somebody

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Speaker 1: is so busy bragging what like about their new girlfriend?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: No, you need to listen, this is not what I'm

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Speaker 1: talking about busy bragging is like, I am so busy,

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Speaker 1: I am so I am How.

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Speaker 2: Is you humble?

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Speaker 5: Similar to humble?

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Speaker 2: I don't think it is humble at all.

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Speaker 1: It's almost I'm going to use the word Marta like

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Speaker 1: I even think you have a busy bragger.

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Speaker 2: It's not always in the workplace. It could be at home.

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Speaker 2: It's the person that does the most. I'm not your

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Speaker 1: How is your day well, and I just had five

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Speaker 1: minutes to myself, Well, then maybe I can't.

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Speaker 2: Do it all.

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Speaker 5: I think we're all guilty of this.

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Speaker 3: But towards the end of the year, you.

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Speaker 5: Know, when you've got a lot of things.

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Speaker 3: On leading up to the end of the year, and

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Speaker 3: that I do that at the end of the year,

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Speaker 1: But I think that's also just a part of conversation.

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Speaker 1: Come the end of the year. It becomes part of

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Speaker 1: the dialogue, like how you're going, well, you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: just so glad that Christmas is around the corner. From

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Speaker 1: the holiday, it's people brag about being so busy early

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Speaker 1: once I've done this, once I've done that. And I

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Speaker 1: think people do it because they think that it makes

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Speaker 1: the study suggests that in actual fact, it does the opposite.

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Speaker 1: It's like, well, if you can't can't figure and cope

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Speaker 2: Brag about it. Under you are.

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Speaker 3: Can we go to Jason you had a busy brag?

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Speaker 4: Or at work Jason nor Thing guys. Yeah, we work

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Speaker 4: in a direct marketing company and a guy would He

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Speaker 4: was a good salesperson that he used to let everyone

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Speaker 4: for being so busy. He was even on a good

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Speaker 4: Saturday night where he peak up he did let us

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Speaker 5: I leave those crew, so yeah.

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Speaker 4: Bos got thick of it and letting go. I've got

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Speaker 5: You're a pain and the bomb. Thanks, Jase.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that people talk about this kind of

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Speaker 2: They have this like they want.

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Speaker 1: To connect, but they have a lack of communication skills,

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Speaker 1: so they go to the really obvious, like, yes, I'm

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Speaker 2: Yes, the weather's good or bad, and I'm tired. Do

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean?

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Speaker 5: I believe already.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my goodness, Christmas will be here in Taylor.

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Speaker 5: What's your story?

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Speaker 4: Hi? Guys, how are you going good? I just going

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Speaker 4: through it. I just think it's really funny when.

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Speaker 5: People say that they're busy.

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Speaker 4: I'm a nursed in accident emergency.

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Speaker 2: Taylor, You're like, try to have a day where I'm working.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, mates, one of us is busy. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: that's all right.

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Speaker 3: You've dislocated your elbow, mates, stuff complaining.

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Speaker 5: I am so flat out.

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Speaker 3: I've had so many patients today.

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Speaker 2: I think it's like when people who don't have children

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Speaker 5: I'm tired, So Taylor, thank you for your call. You

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Speaker 5: would be our busy bragger.

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Speaker 2: I'm not the busy bragger because I'm not an easy back. Now,

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Speaker 2: I'm not a busy bragger.

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Speaker 1: I knew we'd get to this part of the conversation

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Speaker 1: because I don't because you know what, I'm quite private.

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Speaker 2: I don't like come in and tell you all the things.

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Speaker 5: That I'm before what you do in that way in

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Speaker 5: attempt just try and build interest, because you won't share

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Speaker 5: what you're actually doing. But I've got you'll be It'll

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Speaker 5: be a promo meeting and it'll land and Katele grab

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Speaker 5: her bags and go it's important. I must run.

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Speaker 2: No, I don't do that.

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Speaker 5: And then you see her and she doesn't even look

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Speaker 1: Because you have such a sad little life, you're wondering

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Speaker 5: We need to sort this out as a team. So

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Speaker 5: let's have a meeting after the show. But I can't

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Speaker 5: make it, and with a with Kate WHICHI podcast, I

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Speaker 5: bit more relaxing now because my wife has just got

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Speaker 5: home from a three day health retree. A lot sort

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Speaker 5: sort of you said Hawaiian. Yeah, I did say this

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Speaker 5: Boys and suns Out. You're can always play it here

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Speaker 5: at Nova. It's a great time to go away to

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Speaker 5: a health sheet, just sort of during school holidays and

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Speaker 5: stuff like that. So timing is everything. But she had

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Speaker 5: barbe was so chilled at home because she went for

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Speaker 5: bushwalks and stuff. She had me a video of a

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Speaker 5: trapdoor spider. That's cool.

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Speaker 2: It was the yogurt and like sugar free. No alcohol, no.

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Speaker 5: Sugar yeah, no phones either.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no husbands, no children.

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Speaker 5: Stretching, a lot of stretch, yeah, a lot of stretching.

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Speaker 5: She did this thing, did you, Quong?

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Speaker 2: The course's the thing in the in the mornings where.

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Speaker 5: You come Kwong? Oh touchy?

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Speaker 2: No, not touchy, it's not touchy. It's quo is it.

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Speaker 5: Thy bo with Billy blanks? Quangdong?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Quong it's something like that.

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Speaker 5: Does she do?

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Speaker 2: It's called something else. It's really good.

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Speaker 1: But you need to go and have a look to

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, any ice baths or yeah, she did

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Speaker 2: Saw that were being fed well, two minute noodle action.

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Speaker 5: What's interesting. She came back and she said what was good?

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Speaker 5: Before she arrived, they booked her in for a massage

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Speaker 5: and she had what was called the low har massage.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I was actually Hawaiian.

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Speaker 1: I have had a Hawaiian massage before from a man.

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Speaker 5: Seriously, was it full on? Did he a bosoms?

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Speaker 2: But he did.

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Speaker 5: Touch your bottom?

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Speaker 2: What did you do? He got very close to touching

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Speaker 5: Did you ask for that? You did you hook up

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Speaker 5: with him during the massage. That's extreme that you're telling

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Speaker 5: story from Kate Richie because that so the Lisa said,

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Speaker 5: I don't know much about a Hawaiian massage or a

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Speaker 5: Loha massage.

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Speaker 3: And she's also in a very similar marriage a low barman.

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Speaker 5: That was that was not great? Double, Lisa said, Is

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Speaker 5: it sort of like a reiki type massage where your

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Speaker 5: And she said, well, it is energy based. So what

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Speaker 5: I do is I rub different parts of your body

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Speaker 5: negative energy is. And then I released.

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Speaker 2: The negative energy is at home. I think they sing.

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Speaker 2: I think at mine they sang. On top of other things.

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Speaker 2: They sing.

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Speaker 3: They do not relaxing music or is it?

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Speaker 5: What are they seeing? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I just was lying against this.

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Speaker 5: Turn all the lights on. Really yeah, she found it

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Speaker 2: But what happened was can you tell us about the gland?

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Speaker 5: Continued to massage the glands.

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Speaker 2: Which ones, because you have a few in your body.

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Speaker 5: I think they're sort of groin under the arm. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: What's wrong?

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Speaker 5: So as she is massaging Lisa, she starts yelling out

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Speaker 5: negative energy that is being released has come from those

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Speaker 5: Was it your joke? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Was it?

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Speaker 5: So? The three dates that were written down for the

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Speaker 5: most traumatic was July. It was like July twenty sixteen,

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Speaker 5: in twenty twenty three there was her mum got sick

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Speaker 5: you're right. September twenty thirteen when we got married, Tom

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Speaker 5: and I was that we were there. That was pretty traumatic.

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Speaker 5: Every I was very traumatized. So she had to work

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Speaker 5: the negative energy from that time period out of my

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Speaker 5: wife's clans, her hands, to the glands, and out of

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Speaker 5: good time. I thought the wedding was a celebration, would be.

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Speaker 2: A stressful time though, I mean it shouldn't have been.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I think I organized most of it, or

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Speaker 2: She just had to sort of plan all the wedding press.

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Speaker 2: Did you have seventy five people in your wedding party?

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Speaker 5: Twelve? But I thought everything went to plan. I thought

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Speaker 2: Great time, but she ended up married to.

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Speaker 5: And the next thing you know, she's got all this

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Speaker 5: terrible energy in one of her lower lower loins and

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Speaker 5: in her glen and you've got no energy.

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Speaker 3: So that's the sort of feel like I need a

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Speaker 3: massage after that break.

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Speaker 5: I can do. I can do you how many how

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Speaker 5: many bad dates you've had? It was terrible? Anyway, she

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Speaker 5: wants to invite me along to the next one.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I think I don't think you should take partners

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Speaker 1: to retreats anyone not do you never ever take a

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Speaker 1: partner to a relaxing health retreat?

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Speaker 5: This time friend told me, you know what's exciting about

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Speaker 5: this story? This time Tomorrow on the show, Kate's going

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Speaker 5: to tell us the truth about what happened during her

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Speaker 5: Aloha massage.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to have to remember. I think I've locked

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Speaker 1: it out. It was so traumatic I've had I had

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Speaker 1: to keep going back.

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Speaker 2: And have my glands massage. Year with WHI with.

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