Speaker 1: Hi, Welcome to the Christy Cast live from the Compound.
Speaker 1: How are you loving the Ask Me Anything? Series? I,
Speaker 1: for one, am really enjoying it because maybe I'm a
Speaker 1: control freak, but I do not like my words being
Speaker 1: twisted in publications, and so for me to answer your
Speaker 1: questions directly is a real thrill because that's how human
Speaker 1: beings communicate.
Speaker 2: Am I right?
Speaker 1: You are locked and loaded on the Chrissy Cast for
Speaker 1: another episode of Ask Me Anything.
Speaker 2: You've asked me lots of questions.
Speaker 1: I've collated them all, I've printed them off because I'm
Speaker 1: a very old lady. I love my absom and Rachel
Speaker 1: is joining us once again to.
Speaker 2: Be the facilitator of the moderator.
Speaker 3: If you will, let's get juicy, Chrissy, get into the questions.
Speaker 3: All right, let's kick this off with a fun one.
Speaker 3: Linda Morris has a very deep question. Hand Oh no, yeah,
Speaker 3: Is it okay to let the dog lick the dishes
Speaker 3: before or when in the dishwasher? It seems environmentally friendly,
Speaker 3: but Judge, your family members think it's disgusting and needs
Speaker 3: just stop. Please provide a ruling, Judge, Chrissy.
Speaker 1: All right, I am all for this. I think it's excellent.
Speaker 1: I think it's excellent. However, to just make life easier
Speaker 1: for you and the dog, you must not tell other
Speaker 1: people that you're doing this. You don't need the opinions
Speaker 1: of your family. If you are happy with your decision,
Speaker 1: and I understand why you are. A the dog gets
Speaker 1: a little treat. I mean, what dog doesn't love a scrap. Secondly,
Speaker 1: it's better off in the dog's tummy than in the
Speaker 1: filter of the dishwasher. Is there anything more disgusting than
Speaker 1: that job? I can't stand it. It's slimy, it's weird.
Speaker 1: I can never get the thing back. It's just a nightmare.
Speaker 1: So you know, I've got Murphy at home, beautiful Murphy.
Speaker 1: And look, I have been known to just like, if
Speaker 1: I'm clearing out the fridge and there's some ham and
Speaker 1: it's just him and me at home, which is often,
Speaker 1: I'll just throw it on the floor.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he'll eat it.
Speaker 3: We're gonna look it up. That's fine.
Speaker 2: It's mopping, exactly.
Speaker 1: And I don't take it out to his bowl or anything.
Speaker 1: I'll just go there, you go, chicken skin, all of
Speaker 1: it on the floor. Because I clean the floors every day.
Speaker 3: Why do you think people are so offended by them
Speaker 3: licking the dishes before the dishes get washed, though.
Speaker 1: Well, I just think that's insane because the dishes are
Speaker 1: about to be properly hygienically cleaned. At if your dishwashers
Speaker 1: anying on mine sixty five degrees. So it's like, this
Speaker 1: is a win win situation. Go ahead and do it,
Speaker 1: and do it with bravery and conviction. The only thing
Speaker 1: is unless you want to also argue with people that
Speaker 1: don't agree with you, make sure you keep it on
Speaker 1: the down low. If you're happy with your decision and
Speaker 1: you can justify it and you don't mind a fight,
Speaker 1: everyone can see it.
Speaker 2: Who cares that? Who cares what people think? By the way, the.
Speaker 3: Judge of spoken Linda, Yeah, go forth, all right. Mim
Speaker 3: sal has said, Chrissy, if you could change anything in
Speaker 3: the whole wide world, what would it be?
Speaker 2: Hmmmm?
Speaker 1: It would be society's obsession with the size of women. Hmmmm.
Speaker 2: That would be the one thing I would change.
Speaker 3: I love that. Well, A terps would like to know
Speaker 3: what would your superpower be?
Speaker 1: M That's an interesting one because I think there are
Speaker 1: two types of people.
Speaker 2: One that there's one type.
Speaker 1: Of person that goes for like flying, you know, those
Speaker 1: sorts of physical things, and then there are other ones
Speaker 1: that and I've never understood this. They want to read
Speaker 1: people's minds. They want to be invisible and you know,
Speaker 1: be in rooms where you know secrets are being told.
Speaker 1: I've got no interest in that. Does that make me
Speaker 1: like self centered?
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't care what if people get up to on
Speaker 1: their own. I really don't care, So I don't want
Speaker 1: to see it.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't want to sneak around. I don't want to
Speaker 1: know what people think of me because I don't care.
Speaker 1: Fair I really don't care. That's another thing. I met
Speaker 1: somebody recently that was so concerned with what other people thought,
Speaker 1: and I just can't understand it.
Speaker 2: What is the point? Who cares what people think of you?
Speaker 2: Who cares? It's a one way ticket to misery because
Speaker 2: who cares? It's their opinion. You can't change it, and
Speaker 2: if it's not true, what does it.
Speaker 1: Matter what they think. I've just never cared what people
Speaker 1: think of me. Never Chrissy A Penny.
Speaker 3: Jean McGinnis wants to know, has there been a time
Speaker 3: that you should have trusted your gut? But didn't.
Speaker 1: No, I've always trusted my gut, although this year I've
Speaker 1: learnt to delay, to delay the decision that comes from
Speaker 1: my gut. So I think previously i've been a my
Speaker 1: gut feel is this, bang, there's the decision. This year
Speaker 1: I've learnt to always listen to my gut, which is
Speaker 1: one hundred percent what I've always done, but I've let
Speaker 1: the decision linger a bit, so I've gone, Okay, my
Speaker 1: gut feel is this, instead of taking action on it
Speaker 1: that day, I've walked on it and really interrogated whether
Speaker 1: or not that is right, and sometimes it changes.
Speaker 3: Some would say, you've digested it.
Speaker 1: Correct in the gut, correct, let's keep it with that.
Speaker 1: Some would say I've shattered out the other end. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I've learned that, and I do recommend that because the
Speaker 1: gut the main decision. The main decision hasn't changed, but
Speaker 1: action gets just a bit more refined in terms of
Speaker 1: the next step. So how things work is problem is
Speaker 1: for me, problem is thrown at me. What is the problem,
Speaker 1: Digest the problem? What is my gut feel on what
Speaker 1: the answer to this problem is? Right, there's the answer,
Speaker 1: next step action and that normally happens within twenty four hours.
Speaker 1: Now the problem arrives. My gut feel is this, Let's
Speaker 1: just wait a minute and think about it for a
Speaker 1: few days. Tuesday, is that still your gut feel?
Speaker 2: Yes? Wednesday is that still your gut feel?
Speaker 1: Yes? But what are you going to do about it?
Speaker 1: How are you going to table this with other people?
Speaker 1: Because most problems involve other people, that's true, Yeah, And
Speaker 1: to get the right outcome that is like fair and
Speaker 1: kind for everybody. Depending on the complexities of the initial problem,
Speaker 1: the first kind of course of action is rarely the
Speaker 1: right one, so, particularly when you're talking about other people's
Speaker 1: emotions and how your decisions affect other people. So I
Speaker 1: just let it marinate for a bit, marinate, marinate, marinate,
Speaker 1: and then eventually I come to a conclusion where it's
Speaker 1: not the ideal outcome for me, but I can live
Speaker 1: with it. It's eighty percent there, And I feel like
Speaker 1: the same situation applies to the person that it involves.
Speaker 1: Might not be the ideal outcome for them, but it's
Speaker 1: eighty percent there.
Speaker 3: So you can go with your gut without shitting on anyone,
Speaker 3: correct amen.
Speaker 1: Including yourself. Sometimes your gut reaction shits on yourself, and
Speaker 1: then you blindly go into something and go that's what
Speaker 1: I want, that's what I want, and then that just
Speaker 1: causes more problems because it's unkind.
Speaker 3: And then you have buine new under exactly exactly what
Speaker 3: a mess?
Speaker 2: What a Massiss protector.
Speaker 3: Kay Wilson eleven oh five has said, what's the scariest
Speaker 3: decision you've had to make? But in hindsight was the
Speaker 3: best success.
Speaker 1: I think when I left my life in Melbourne and
Speaker 1: moved to Queensland to start a whole new career in radio,
Speaker 1: that was pretty scary, but you know, obviously was the
Speaker 1: right move because my whole life has been so fun
Speaker 1: and interesting and magical and joyous because of that. You know,
Speaker 1: I think having a baby is an extraordinary leap of
Speaker 1: faith because nobody knows what they're doing the first time
Speaker 1: at all, and you know, that's been a magical adventure
Speaker 1: for me. Being a mother has been just so fun
Speaker 1: and interesting a lot, though, a lot because I'm also
Speaker 1: a very responsible person. It's funny when you go through
Speaker 1: your reports, you know as a kid, when you're old
Speaker 1: like me, because I'm fifteen hours going.
Speaker 3: Through reports from when you were a kid or your kids.
Speaker 1: Know when you go through your reports when you were
Speaker 1: a kid and you know you've you're halfway through your life,
Speaker 1: you can see absolutely who you always were and the
Speaker 1: words you know that always come up for me. Of
Speaker 1: course in reports, are you know, easily distracted? Could do
Speaker 1: better if she concentrated, has to understand that school is
Speaker 1: not just for fun, beg to differ by the way.
Speaker 1: And also she is a very responsible child, very responsible girl.
Speaker 1: And I think that you know, that really is my
Speaker 1: character and it has shaped particularly how I am as
Speaker 1: a mother, because I do feel so responsible for those kids,
Speaker 1: and I feel response it's able for giving them a
Speaker 1: really nice time, and I feel responsible for giving them
Speaker 1: the experience in a safe way of what life can
Speaker 1: be when they're out on their own and grown ups.
Speaker 1: I like to give them a little showbag of that
Speaker 1: at home. So I treat my house like a microcosm
Speaker 1: of real life, almost like the Big Brother House, I guess,
Speaker 1: and I don't make even though my natural kind of
Speaker 1: instinct is to try and make everything perfect, I've really
Speaker 1: tried over the last four or five years to not
Speaker 1: do that because I feel like that gives them, that's
Speaker 1: giving them a disservice. It means that they'll get out
Speaker 1: there in the real world and be like, oh, hang on,
Speaker 1: I've never had to deal with somebody that leaves shitty
Speaker 1: skid marks in the toilet, or I've never had to
Speaker 1: negotiate my way out of someone finding my secret snacks
Speaker 1: dash and stealing it. Or I've never had to deal
Speaker 1: with working with somebody who is sad sometimes, or I've
Speaker 1: never had to navigate myself when I'm sad and what
Speaker 1: does that look like in the real world. So at
Speaker 1: my place, if I'm having a bad day, I don't
Speaker 1: pretend I'm not. I'm really honest, because they have to
Speaker 1: see that life is not always amazing, and that is amazing.
Speaker 1: That is amazing about life is that it isn't always amazing,
Speaker 1: and that you have to work out ways to deal
Speaker 1: with yourself and with other people that are up and
Speaker 1: down and that have feelings and might be tired or
Speaker 1: might not be getting what they want in their environment
Speaker 1: and how that looks. So I really enjoy that part
Speaker 1: of parenting as well as you know, the showing of
Speaker 1: kindness and safety and support and acceptance of whoever you are.
Speaker 1: I think that's also important for them to experience. But
Speaker 1: if I want to burst out crying, I do. Whereas
Speaker 1: I think a lot of mothers, you know, in my
Speaker 1: mother's generation, kind of made a big show of being
Speaker 1: above approach, of being perfect. And I feel like my role,
Speaker 1: as the grown up with fifty years experience of what
Speaker 1: this wild ride is, I feel like my responsibility to
Speaker 1: them is to show them that there are good days
Speaker 1: and there are bad days, and they are all okay.
Speaker 1: Does that make sense? But the overwhelming desire, I think,
Speaker 1: particularly for women who are generally people pleasers, the default
Speaker 1: is I'm fine. I'm fine. You know, I'm not tired,
Speaker 1: I'm not emotional. I haven't had a shit day that
Speaker 1: this person hasn't let me down. It's fine that you
Speaker 1: know everyone's avoiding unpacking the dishwasher because they know that
Speaker 1: I'll do it. I'm fine with that. I'm not fine
Speaker 1: with any of it, and I make sure that they know.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: Well, before we let you go, Chrissy, we need three
Speaker 3: of your favorite tips for a good day. This is
Speaker 3: Christy Lee by the Sea asking this one.
Speaker 1: Christy Lee by the Sea, Well, look at you showing
Speaker 1: off with your location.
Speaker 2: Three things you need for a good day one. Hmmm. Well,
Speaker 2: all I can do is tell you what I.
Speaker 1: Do, because the best thing you'll ever do is take
Speaker 1: some time out to get to know yourself and ask
Speaker 1: yourself what you actually like and what you actually do.
Speaker 1: And let me tell you that is different for every
Speaker 1: single human being. For me, what makes me happy is
Speaker 1: time alone at some stage. And I'm not talking the
Speaker 1: drive into work or the drive home, just half an
Speaker 1: hour completely by myself.
Speaker 3: What do you do when you're alone?
Speaker 1: Well, I often multitask, so that's often the walking mm hmm.
Speaker 1: If I can walk somewhere, that gives me an endorphin
Speaker 1: rush like you wouldn't believe because I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: really looking after myself and also I find that. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'll probably get deeper into my whole walking thing, my
Speaker 1: obsession in another episode. But what makes me happy in
Speaker 1: a day is some time alone planning to cook slash cooking.
Speaker 1: So it's enough for me to just plan, Like at
Speaker 1: the moment, I'm putting together the steps to make a
Speaker 1: krembroulet for the first time. That involves a little bit
Speaker 1: of googling, finding the best recipe, finding the shit recipes,
Speaker 1: doing a deep dive on what is pure cream and
Speaker 1: where do I get it? All of that stuff, So
Speaker 1: that is a thrill for me, a little bit of research.
Speaker 1: So if I can cook or plan to cook, have
Speaker 1: some time alone and get a reasonable sleep, and specifically
Speaker 1: not be rushing to bed. If I cannot rush to bed,
Speaker 1: that's a good day for me. And keep in mind,
Speaker 1: in between all of that, I work and organize the
Speaker 1: house and make sure my kids are good physically and mentally,
Speaker 1: and anybody that has children understands that the mental side
Speaker 1: of things really takes a lot of love and energy.
Speaker 1: It reminds me sometimes. You know that old film Cocoon
Speaker 1: for Your Time, So it's set in a retirement villain
Speaker 1: k and they find the residents find a magic pool.
Speaker 2: Oh you like magic things. I do love magic things.
Speaker 3: All right, magic pool, magic door.
Speaker 2: Magic pool.
Speaker 1: And they get in the pool that it makes him
Speaker 1: young again. So they get addicted to this pool, of course,
Speaker 1: as we all do. And there's this one scene where Hugh,
Speaker 1: one of the old dudes since long since dead, he
Speaker 1: pulls his eye open and a beam of comes out
Speaker 1: of it. And I've always remembered that scene because sometimes
Speaker 1: I feel like that.
Speaker 2: Is what I do every day is.
Speaker 1: Just like beams of energy going out to people. And
Speaker 1: that is not a complaint. That brings me a lot
Speaker 1: of joy. But at some point every day you need.
Speaker 2: To top that up.
Speaker 1: You need to top that up so that next time
Speaker 1: you open up your eyes is still a beam there
Speaker 1: and it's not just like.
Speaker 3: You know, static noise.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 3: Oh, thank you very much for sharing those three tips, Chrissy.
Speaker 3: We have hundreds more questions that we are gonna get through.
Speaker 2: I can't what.
Speaker 1: And that's it for another round of the very special
Speaker 1: series of Ask Me Anything that your questions. I'm just
Speaker 1: answering them here on the Chrissy Cast live from the Compound.
Speaker 1: Now I need to rest and I'll be back with
Speaker 1: it more answer as soon as I possibly can.