Speaker 1: Apod Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am
Speaker 1: I A Bad Mum Podcast? School's back. School is back,
Speaker 1: and so Gracie's first year of high school. So you
Speaker 1: had that whole, you know, feelings. I'm sure you'll talk
Speaker 1: about it in another episode. But off she goes, which
Speaker 1: is a whole new chapter high school. Whereas I had
Speaker 1: a moment of going, Wow, this is year eleven for us.
Speaker 1: This is their last full year because next year is
Speaker 1: pretty much a half a year or a bit longer.
Speaker 2: You've got all of like the formals and like it
Speaker 2: takes up, and then they've got their exams, so there's
Speaker 2: not a huge amount for them for next year. So
Speaker 2: you're under I would say you're under a like be
Speaker 2: just on a year to go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a big year because they've got tafe,
Speaker 1: they're doing a hospitality course, they've got semi formal. I've
Speaker 1: already paid the deposit for schoolies.
Speaker 2: Wow, what they're going to gold cost? Aren't they.
Speaker 1: Love at you?
Speaker 2: Tusk?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: God? Where are they staying?
Speaker 1: Surfers a regional deposits paid. Holly didn't want to go,
Speaker 1: Amelia did so I said, if we paid the deposit,
Speaker 1: you can sell that to someone if you get closer
Speaker 1: to it and you don't want to go, Please don't
Speaker 1: want to go. Am I about mum for being too efficient?
Speaker 2: Look, I can't say that I'm in this category. I
Speaker 2: don't think that I been in this so I don't
Speaker 2: even know where this is going.
Speaker 1: This is something that happened this morning. It really frustrated
Speaker 1: me because I feel like as mums, I know you're
Speaker 1: talking about not being very organized. And yes I did
Speaker 1: go and get the school books on the weekend before
Speaker 1: going back to school as opposed to November when they
Speaker 1: send the book list home. So I definitely am that person.
Speaker 1: But I do think there is an element of all
Speaker 1: mums and their organization skills. We've talked previously about feeling
Speaker 1: like the kids pas because we're organizing their lives all
Speaker 1: the time. And this was a great example this morning
Speaker 1: of things going to shit because I wasn't on top
Speaker 1: of it. Now. Jay had booked Amelia at a driving lesson,
Speaker 1: her first driving lesson.
Speaker 2: It's so exciting we're just talking about it. I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, mind won't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I am having a cruisy old morning. I've got
Speaker 1: loads done, washing's all done and put away emails are
Speaker 1: all done, like everything's done. However, I'm still home. I
Speaker 1: haven't had a shower yet. Amelia is in bed still.
Speaker 1: The doorbell rings and I was like, you is it
Speaker 1: the door? You're going to be an Amazon delivery of
Speaker 1: something that we've forgotten about. Get to the door. There's
Speaker 1: the guy for the driving lesson. I was like, oh shit,
Speaker 1: I just said this moment, I'm looking at him going, oh,
Speaker 1: that's right, a driving lesson, and he went yeah for Amelia.
Speaker 1: I went, oh, Amelia, okay, give you two secs. I've
Speaker 1: gone running in. I'm like super stressed from a chilled morning,
Speaker 1: very productive, got so much done, to all of a
Speaker 1: sudden feeling stressed. I've gone up. I went to the
Speaker 1: desk to go a driving lesson. She's like, what fast
Speaker 1: a sleep? And then it was just that moment of
Speaker 1: having no control over the slow speech she's going and
Speaker 1: knowing that I'm the only one now taking on the
Speaker 1: stress of the fact that this poor guy stood on
Speaker 1: the door step and we're taking ages. So I'm gone, okay.
Speaker 1: I took a different approach. I went, what can I
Speaker 1: do to help you? What do you need? And she's
Speaker 1: like wandered into the bathroom, no like urgency whatsoever, brushing it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, don't worry about your teeth, And then I
Speaker 1: have a moment of going, yeah, do worry about your
Speaker 1: teeth next to someone in the car of morning Breath.
Speaker 1: But she's just going so slowly and I'm so stressed,
Speaker 1: And in that moment, my first thing to do is
Speaker 1: how can I attack Jay for this situation which I
Speaker 1: would have been on top of had I organized it.
Speaker 1: So he's booked the driving lesson, yeah, probably told us
Speaker 1: all like a week or two weeks ago when he
Speaker 1: booked it, but then no reminder, no reminder. This is
Speaker 1: the thing Rache with me, Am I too efficient? Is
Speaker 1: this my problem? Because the first thing was this is
Speaker 1: your fault? Ba, why don't you tell anyone? And he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: of course it's my fault. I was like, yes, it
Speaker 1: is your fault. When I calm down, I was like,
Speaker 1: is this my fault? Because I don't work that way?
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm too efficient? Ah right, Because what I will
Speaker 1: do is I will book something in go straight in
Speaker 1: my calendar, and then I remind everyone. Even if there's
Speaker 1: a time where Jane is to pick the girls up
Speaker 1: from school and take them to an appointment or something
Speaker 1: going on. I'll even say that day, Hey, don't forget
Speaker 1: you're picking the girls up the save they've got this
Speaker 1: at blah blah time. The thing that's frustrated me isn't
Speaker 1: that he's done that that way, but it's that I
Speaker 1: don't do it that way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I get where you're coming from. My question would
Speaker 2: be that what happens if you did it the other
Speaker 2: way and wasn't efficient, how many more predicaments would you
Speaker 2: be in like this morning? So if you didn't do it,
Speaker 2: and then say, let's say you weren't overly efficient like
Speaker 2: that and you didn't add things into your calendar, how
Speaker 2: many more times would you come up against oh mate,
Speaker 2: standing out the door knock block for our own appointment?
Speaker 2: Oh my god?
Speaker 1: Like oh would everybody else step up and be responsible
Speaker 1: for saying once you've got this at this time and
Speaker 1: everyone else just putting it in their own calendar?
Speaker 2: Well, this is the thing that I'm like just balancing
Speaker 2: now as well with Gracie going off to high school, right,
Speaker 2: I operate like you. I go, okay, well, if that's
Speaker 2: locked in now, I'm quite efficient when it comes to that.
Speaker 2: Now I've got a child going off to high school.
Speaker 2: I've got another like good friend of mine whose daughter's
Speaker 2: going there as well, and she's like, well, let's share
Speaker 2: the car pulling. I'm like, great idea. She has then
Speaker 2: generated a calendar for the four of us, so her daughter, Gracie, myself,
Speaker 2: and her I couldn't even work out how to open
Speaker 2: the calendar. I couldn't even find the far I couldn't
Speaker 2: find what she was telling me to do. I was
Speaker 2: on GBT. I'm going what I deleted two calendarscidentally because
Speaker 2: I was obviously special and could do that part. But
Speaker 2: this is like another level of efficient, and I sort
Speaker 2: of looked at that and went, oh, wow, I really
Speaker 2: am letting the team down because I'm only this efficient
Speaker 2: where she's like managing calendars between when the kids are
Speaker 2: at dad's and then at hers, and then now she's
Speaker 2: had another calendar with this mum that's obviously got no
Speaker 2: idea what she's doing, but at the same time, she's
Speaker 2: like that quick and that efficient. I had a look
Speaker 2: at that and was like, wow, I've got to step
Speaker 2: up my game, But at the same time had that
Speaker 2: little part of me going, well, no, Gracie needs to
Speaker 2: step up a little bit to be able to understand
Speaker 2: how to read a calendar, but also then be accountable
Speaker 2: to a calendar a little bit more, because my girls
Speaker 2: are like, what this year ten and twelve. They're not
Speaker 2: efficient to a calendar. They don't look to a calendar,
Speaker 2: that don't refer back to a calendar. They just refer
Speaker 2: back to mum.
Speaker 1: Maybe you and Gracie could go on some sort of
Speaker 1: to learn calendar together.
Speaker 2: The day that this happened, I was so stressed. I
Speaker 2: was like, my whole life shut down, Katie. I had
Speaker 2: deleted all my calendars, so every calendar entry and my phone.
Speaker 1: I'm not just by trying to open up this new one.
Speaker 2: Just by trying to find the new one I deleted.
Speaker 2: I thought, oh, look I'm going to be efficient. I'm
Speaker 2: going to delete all these Look at these these are
Speaker 2: all double ups. No they're not, dickhead, don't delete them.
Speaker 2: Because then when I went back, everything including birthdays for
Speaker 2: the next like however, like all the birthdays everything, and
Speaker 2: do you know what I did? I froze. It was
Speaker 2: like my whole life had ended right there. Why because
Speaker 2: my calendar's gone. I don't know what I'm doing in
Speaker 2: two days. Like I literally didn't know what I was
Speaker 2: doing in two days. I was like, oh, I can't
Speaker 2: do anything.
Speaker 1: I look at my calendar and I go, why have
Speaker 1: I got so many calendars? I need to get rid
Speaker 1: of some of these calendars. But I'm not going to now.
Speaker 1: I don't because obviously we're probably putting stuff into all
Speaker 1: the different calendars and not knowing where it's going.
Speaker 2: This was me. I was like, what home and work?
Speaker 2: And then one that just says calendar, and then another.
Speaker 2: I thought, surely I can just clear some of those out.
Speaker 2: This is with my eye cloud, this is with my Gmail,
Speaker 2: this is surely they're all just double ups.
Speaker 1: No they're not.
Speaker 2: They just take out your whole calendar.
Speaker 1: Start with so many calendars. Why don't we just have
Speaker 1: one calendar? Oh sure, I don't put in because right
Speaker 1: now that's like the calendar.
Speaker 2: It's the color coding, so color codes, so that the
Speaker 2: red calendar for me from my efficient friend, the calendar
Speaker 2: for the four of us, so that's usually to do
Speaker 2: with school drop off or pick up and the roster
Speaker 2: that comes with that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because when I look at my calendars, where's calendar?
Speaker 1: But I look at my calendar. Go to calendar, then
Speaker 1: the middle like some of them beige, some purple, some screen,
Speaker 1: some yellow.
Speaker 2: Color code your life. Basically, it's color coding your calendars.
Speaker 2: So purple might be work, blue might be personal, red
Speaker 2: might be school drop off. Yeah Australian any, don't delete any.
Speaker 2: And I'm telling you, even chat GBT couldn't get me
Speaker 2: out of this pickle. I had to get Breed to
Speaker 2: come over and get me out of pickle. She calls.
Speaker 2: She's so smart and younger and knows everything about what's
Speaker 2: going on. So she sat there and was like, now
Speaker 2: do this, now do this. Go to here and you
Speaker 2: can restore all thessakes, particularly sot all back, and now
Speaker 2: you've got a million calendars again. Yeah, I'm just gonna
Speaker 2: stay with the mess. Just stay in the mess of
Speaker 2: my calendars. Because when I couldn't see the forecast for
Speaker 2: the next week, I was like, oh, I'm going to
Speaker 2: stop living.
Speaker 1: I'll just go to bed.