1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: Apogae Production. Welcome back to another episode about My Bad 2 00:00:26,001 --> 00:00:28,761 Speaker 1: Mum podcasts. Fresh from the school holidays? 3 00:00:28,761 --> 00:00:30,161 Speaker 2: Do you feel fresh? I don't. 4 00:00:30,281 --> 00:00:33,561 Speaker 3: I don't feel fresh. I feel a little bit delirious. 5 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:37,921 Speaker 3: I feel like I've just been absolutely chasing my towel 6 00:00:38,001 --> 00:00:39,480 Speaker 3: for the whole of the holidays. 7 00:00:39,721 --> 00:00:42,561 Speaker 2: I don't think I'm going to catch up. I don't 8 00:00:42,561 --> 00:00:43,721 Speaker 2: think I'm going to get back. 9 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:46,401 Speaker 1: See, there's two things that happened this morning that I 10 00:00:46,480 --> 00:00:49,321 Speaker 1: thought is not a great way to start this term. 11 00:00:49,361 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: The first thing was that I did not get up 12 00:00:51,721 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 1: and exercise to get it off to a dart. And 13 00:00:55,561 --> 00:00:59,161 Speaker 1: the second thing is that I instead of washing my hair, 14 00:00:59,241 --> 00:01:02,321 Speaker 1: I just covered it in dry shampoo and scraped it back. 15 00:01:02,881 --> 00:01:05,281 Speaker 1: But for me, I'm like, that's the toothing. 16 00:01:05,721 --> 00:01:06,961 Speaker 2: Yeah, have not started. 17 00:01:07,481 --> 00:01:10,041 Speaker 3: Well, I'm all for that. But we were in Sydney 18 00:01:10,081 --> 00:01:12,681 Speaker 3: and then I had to fly back up from Sydney early. 19 00:01:12,761 --> 00:01:15,560 Speaker 3: On the early flight this morning, I was killing for 20 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 3: a can of dry shampoo. I just put mine in 21 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:23,401 Speaker 3: a slick back and this is all Ellen natural oil. 22 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:28,801 Speaker 2: I was just like, oh wow, this is this is slick. 23 00:01:29,121 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 2: I also didn't exercise, yeah okay. 24 00:01:31,401 --> 00:01:34,321 Speaker 1: And I also have got grays everywhere because I haven't 25 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 1: had my hair colored. 26 00:01:35,401 --> 00:01:39,441 Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, holidays were good to you, looked lovely, 27 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 3: you got a break in which was one hundred percent 28 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:45,401 Speaker 3: what you needed. And I will be sure to let 29 00:01:45,481 --> 00:01:47,241 Speaker 3: you know everything that happened in ours. 30 00:01:47,280 --> 00:02:01,921 Speaker 4: Okay, am I a bad mum for being super precious? 31 00:02:03,361 --> 00:02:07,401 Speaker 3: Yeah? The straight Katie, I had this moment where it 32 00:02:07,481 --> 00:02:09,681 Speaker 3: was just yesterday. It does come off the back of 33 00:02:10,481 --> 00:02:15,361 Speaker 3: two full weeks of kids, like solid kids, solo parenting, 34 00:02:16,121 --> 00:02:19,161 Speaker 3: and lots of things on and so the first week 35 00:02:19,201 --> 00:02:21,961 Speaker 3: we talked about was now so with a dance competition. 36 00:02:22,401 --> 00:02:26,761 Speaker 3: So we're at dance like Saturday, Sunday, Tuesday, and then. 37 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:27,560 Speaker 2: We're home Wednesday. 38 00:02:27,721 --> 00:02:30,161 Speaker 3: By the time you're home and you unpack, it's sort 39 00:02:30,161 --> 00:02:32,401 Speaker 3: of like chasing my towel fit all my clients in 40 00:02:32,441 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 3: on the next two days whilst trying to amuse children. 41 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:38,801 Speaker 3: I think I like described it as someone asked me 42 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:40,201 Speaker 3: what I was doing. I said, I feel like I'm 43 00:02:40,201 --> 00:02:42,921 Speaker 3: on the amazing race of school holidays. I'm just chasing 44 00:02:42,921 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 3: my children. I think I sent it to you saying 45 00:02:45,121 --> 00:02:47,681 Speaker 3: I'm just chasing my kids trying to amuse them. Twenty 46 00:02:47,721 --> 00:02:49,121 Speaker 3: four hours a day, seven days a week. 47 00:02:49,561 --> 00:02:51,681 Speaker 1: And that's the thing with school holidays, especially when you 48 00:02:51,761 --> 00:02:56,161 Speaker 1: work for yourself, yeah, is that you are still working, 49 00:02:56,561 --> 00:02:57,841 Speaker 1: but you're also. 50 00:02:58,601 --> 00:03:00,881 Speaker 3: And then you trying and all too because I beat 51 00:03:00,881 --> 00:03:03,921 Speaker 3: myself up a lot, like pick up my phone and 52 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:07,201 Speaker 3: it will be to either life. Read this morning, for instance, 53 00:03:07,561 --> 00:03:11,601 Speaker 3: you know podcast notes, I was going through podcasting notes 54 00:03:11,641 --> 00:03:13,161 Speaker 3: to them. It looks like I'm just sitting on my 55 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 3: phone and Elsie in the aircraft so just. 56 00:03:16,321 --> 00:03:17,561 Speaker 2: Looks at me and goes, mom, can you get off 57 00:03:17,561 --> 00:03:18,601 Speaker 2: your phone? Can you talk to me? 58 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 3: And I was like, and I said to it, I'm 59 00:03:20,441 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 3: just refreshing over notes that I was reading last night. 60 00:03:22,881 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 3: She goes, yeah, you're doing it all night last night. 61 00:03:25,001 --> 00:03:26,921 Speaker 1: Yeah. I had the exact same thing where I was 62 00:03:26,921 --> 00:03:29,921 Speaker 1: trying to read an email and he's like, Mom, you're 63 00:03:29,921 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: not even listening to me. Mom, Mom, Mom, you're not 64 00:03:32,041 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 1: even listening to me too, busy scrolling Instagram on your phone. 65 00:03:34,561 --> 00:03:36,521 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not scrolling Instagram. I just need 66 00:03:36,561 --> 00:03:37,761 Speaker 1: to give back to this email. 67 00:03:37,881 --> 00:03:40,081 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I think that's what because you know, when 68 00:03:40,121 --> 00:03:44,281 Speaker 3: you are in that rarity moment scrolling Instagram, they're sure 69 00:03:44,321 --> 00:03:46,721 Speaker 3: to see it and then you go. 70 00:03:46,641 --> 00:03:48,721 Speaker 2: Oh, I'm not really just sitting here doing this. 71 00:03:48,841 --> 00:03:52,281 Speaker 3: But the precious part came from when you're on holidays, 72 00:03:52,321 --> 00:03:55,401 Speaker 3: Like in your mind you're like, oh, I'm on holidays. 73 00:03:55,561 --> 00:03:56,961 Speaker 2: Like we went to the. 74 00:03:56,921 --> 00:04:01,361 Speaker 3: NRL Grand Final okay, which was a brilliant weekend for 75 00:04:01,601 --> 00:04:05,401 Speaker 3: every Brisbane person ever. Because we won, we came with 76 00:04:05,441 --> 00:04:09,841 Speaker 3: two more premierships for the NRL. Now, so every trophy 77 00:04:09,841 --> 00:04:12,561 Speaker 3: that you can think of, I think Brisbane's got in 78 00:04:12,601 --> 00:04:15,881 Speaker 3: Australia right now. Yeah. But the precious part just comes 79 00:04:15,881 --> 00:04:20,281 Speaker 3: from like three nights in a hotel room. One hotel room, 80 00:04:20,481 --> 00:04:23,801 Speaker 3: we had a double bed and a roll away. And 81 00:04:23,841 --> 00:04:26,481 Speaker 3: the roll away was because I had a meltdown at 82 00:04:26,521 --> 00:04:29,481 Speaker 3: the counter because she was like, we just gave you 83 00:04:29,721 --> 00:04:33,681 Speaker 3: a large king bed and I looked and I was like, sorry, 84 00:04:33,801 --> 00:04:36,241 Speaker 3: I've got two children, I said, but you can see 85 00:04:36,481 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 3: as I put on the booking notes and when I 86 00:04:39,201 --> 00:04:44,401 Speaker 3: put the booking through for three people, and she was like, oh, look, 87 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:46,601 Speaker 3: I'm really sorry. That's just what we offer and we 88 00:04:46,641 --> 00:04:47,801 Speaker 3: don't have a roll away. 89 00:04:48,121 --> 00:04:52,241 Speaker 1: I don't know whether us in Australia are really different 90 00:04:52,361 --> 00:04:58,601 Speaker 1: with how we sleep. It always baffles me when hotels 91 00:04:58,681 --> 00:05:02,601 Speaker 1: say with existing bedding, and then you walk up there's 92 00:05:02,721 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 1: one bed and I'm like, what about we said in 93 00:05:05,281 --> 00:05:08,921 Speaker 1: pan and it was the tiny Yeah, there was room 94 00:05:09,001 --> 00:05:13,081 Speaker 1: in Tokyo tiny room and there were two adults, two kids, 95 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:14,041 Speaker 1: one bed. 96 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:16,841 Speaker 2: But I'd said it was a room big enough. 97 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:18,401 Speaker 1: Can we have rollaway bed? 98 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:19,121 Speaker 2: Whatever it is? 99 00:05:19,601 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 1: Two adults and two kids, and they thought you were 100 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:21,761 Speaker 1: just going. 101 00:05:21,681 --> 00:05:24,121 Speaker 2: To sleep in one bed. I didn't get it, mind you. 102 00:05:24,161 --> 00:05:27,001 Speaker 3: We also flew down on Saturday night, so I did 103 00:05:27,001 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 3: that to try and avoid the masses of people, which 104 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:33,761 Speaker 3: it was still fully booked in, really busy even Saturday night, 105 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:36,241 Speaker 3: so it was already late. We'd come off a lunch 106 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:38,961 Speaker 3: that we'd been at the Sanford Harvest, gone to Sydney, 107 00:05:39,121 --> 00:05:40,921 Speaker 3: got to Sydney and she's telling me I'm going to 108 00:05:41,001 --> 00:05:43,121 Speaker 3: sleep in a double bed with my two kids who 109 00:05:43,121 --> 00:05:44,320 Speaker 3: are the same size as me. 110 00:05:45,281 --> 00:05:46,841 Speaker 2: And I stood there and I'm looking. 111 00:05:46,641 --> 00:05:48,081 Speaker 3: At her, and I thought there was no point throwing 112 00:05:48,081 --> 00:05:52,441 Speaker 3: attention right now, I'm feeling so emotional. But I looked 113 00:05:52,481 --> 00:05:54,601 Speaker 3: at her and I went, yeah, I can see that. 114 00:05:54,681 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 3: But I did put on the book in the rollaway. 115 00:05:56,201 --> 00:05:59,241 Speaker 3: Oh I'm just so sorry, man, there's no rollaway yep, okay, 116 00:05:59,681 --> 00:06:01,361 Speaker 3: and because I was in my head going, there's no 117 00:06:01,401 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 3: point making a fuss because they've got none left. 118 00:06:04,481 --> 00:06:05,201 Speaker 2: What are you going to do? 119 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:07,041 Speaker 3: And she goes, oh, would you like to wait down 120 00:06:07,041 --> 00:06:08,481 Speaker 3: here to see what we could do, or would you 121 00:06:08,481 --> 00:06:09,161 Speaker 3: like to go to the room. 122 00:06:09,401 --> 00:06:11,241 Speaker 2: I looked at her and I was like, well, it's 123 00:06:11,281 --> 00:06:14,601 Speaker 2: clearly like nine point thirty, so I best go up 124 00:06:14,641 --> 00:06:16,561 Speaker 2: to the room. I said. We'll just make good with 125 00:06:16,601 --> 00:06:17,280 Speaker 2: what we've got. 126 00:06:17,521 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 3: I said, but I would like for you to be 127 00:06:19,681 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 3: able to come up with some form of a solution, 128 00:06:22,081 --> 00:06:24,401 Speaker 3: I said, because I can tell you and you can 129 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,121 Speaker 3: see we're all the same size. I don't know how 130 00:06:27,161 --> 00:06:29,041 Speaker 3: I'm going to do this for three nights, I said, 131 00:06:29,081 --> 00:06:31,361 Speaker 3: And you're telling me you've got no extra rooms to 132 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:33,281 Speaker 3: even get an interconnecting room. 133 00:06:33,241 --> 00:06:35,001 Speaker 2: Because you're fully booked. I said. 134 00:06:35,041 --> 00:06:37,801 Speaker 3: I can't get my money back. I said, because I'm 135 00:06:37,841 --> 00:06:40,841 Speaker 3: here and it's tonight, and there is nowhere else in 136 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 3: Sydney that I'm going to possibly find available, because eighty 137 00:06:45,161 --> 00:06:46,921 Speaker 3: thousand Queensland is here. 138 00:06:47,281 --> 00:06:48,521 Speaker 2: And she was like, I'm just so sorry. 139 00:06:48,561 --> 00:06:50,801 Speaker 3: I'll see if I can try and get a mattress 140 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:51,841 Speaker 3: or something for you. 141 00:06:51,921 --> 00:06:53,241 Speaker 2: Mattress. 142 00:06:54,561 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 3: I just went into like this really not a sulky, 143 00:06:57,001 --> 00:06:59,241 Speaker 3: but I was just like, I can't do anything about 144 00:06:59,241 --> 00:07:00,960 Speaker 3: it right now, Like I was trying to get myself 145 00:07:01,001 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 3: out of the negative mindset of like I wanted to 146 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:06,161 Speaker 3: lose my shit, and then I was like, but it's 147 00:07:06,161 --> 00:07:08,161 Speaker 3: not going to serve me any purpose, and then they're 148 00:07:08,161 --> 00:07:10,401 Speaker 3: going to hate on me for three nights and probably 149 00:07:10,441 --> 00:07:11,601 Speaker 3: spit in our breakfast. 150 00:07:11,641 --> 00:07:15,161 Speaker 1: In your head, you're probably also thinking the amount of 151 00:07:15,201 --> 00:07:17,001 Speaker 1: sleep we're going to get, we may as well sleep 152 00:07:17,041 --> 00:07:18,081 Speaker 1: down here on the floor. 153 00:07:19,241 --> 00:07:22,361 Speaker 3: And also when I got to the room, I was 154 00:07:22,401 --> 00:07:25,361 Speaker 3: still trying to stay really composed, but like the kids 155 00:07:25,441 --> 00:07:29,841 Speaker 3: also like, okay, they're kids, Like it's like nine thirty. 156 00:07:29,921 --> 00:07:32,081 Speaker 3: They've had a massive day as much as I have, 157 00:07:32,601 --> 00:07:36,801 Speaker 3: and they're just edging on killing each other. As we're 158 00:07:36,841 --> 00:07:38,881 Speaker 3: getting to a room at nine point thirty, in my 159 00:07:38,961 --> 00:07:41,681 Speaker 3: head going I've got no solution. I don't want to 160 00:07:41,681 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 3: get angry at them because I get that they're feeling 161 00:07:43,761 --> 00:07:46,121 Speaker 3: that way because I'm feeling like that way and I 162 00:07:46,161 --> 00:07:47,201 Speaker 3: can't do anything about it. 163 00:07:47,241 --> 00:07:48,361 Speaker 2: I've got one to fight with. 164 00:07:48,801 --> 00:07:52,441 Speaker 3: Then you've got three suitcases, one large double bed, and 165 00:07:52,481 --> 00:07:54,521 Speaker 3: a chair. In the corner of the room, and in 166 00:07:54,561 --> 00:07:57,041 Speaker 3: my head, I was like, no one fucking sleeps on that. 167 00:07:57,281 --> 00:07:58,841 Speaker 2: There's not even a third towel. 168 00:07:59,041 --> 00:08:02,041 Speaker 1: This actually might be a culture thing, Like I do 169 00:08:02,161 --> 00:08:08,001 Speaker 1: think maybe that there are some cultures or countries where 170 00:08:08,001 --> 00:08:11,081 Speaker 1: they do all just sleep in one bed. Because when 171 00:08:11,121 --> 00:08:14,121 Speaker 1: you just said about sleeping in a chair upright, I've 172 00:08:14,121 --> 00:08:21,241 Speaker 1: got a family member whose wife is Vietnamese. Yeah, and 173 00:08:21,681 --> 00:08:25,761 Speaker 1: family came over from Vietnam when they had a baby 174 00:08:26,281 --> 00:08:29,801 Speaker 1: and stayed for like a year and stayed for a year. 175 00:08:29,921 --> 00:08:31,561 Speaker 2: Age they have a spare. 176 00:08:31,241 --> 00:08:35,921 Speaker 1: Bedroom, but the parents, the Vietnamese parents stayed for a 177 00:08:36,041 --> 00:08:40,081 Speaker 1: year and slept in the lounge room with the TV 178 00:08:40,241 --> 00:08:45,041 Speaker 1: on in a chair upright, Like people sleep like that 179 00:08:45,201 --> 00:08:47,361 Speaker 1: for a Yeah, we don't know anyone that sleeps like that. 180 00:08:47,441 --> 00:08:48,961 Speaker 2: I don't know anyone that sleeps like that. 181 00:08:49,081 --> 00:08:53,161 Speaker 3: But also like I was trying, like three bags, no space, 182 00:08:53,481 --> 00:08:56,161 Speaker 3: three of us forgetting that my kids are now like 183 00:08:56,321 --> 00:08:59,721 Speaker 3: really mini humans, so it's not a lot of space 184 00:08:59,761 --> 00:09:02,441 Speaker 3: and three nights, it's still a fairly long time in 185 00:09:02,521 --> 00:09:05,601 Speaker 3: one room with one bathroom and three of us and 186 00:09:05,641 --> 00:09:07,001 Speaker 3: then one bed on top of that. 187 00:09:07,161 --> 00:09:11,161 Speaker 1: I also like they're preteen preteen girls sharing a butt. 188 00:09:11,281 --> 00:09:14,441 Speaker 2: I know what it's like sharing a bathroom. Ten we shared. 189 00:09:14,641 --> 00:09:16,161 Speaker 2: One of them will go to the bathroom and I'm like, 190 00:09:16,201 --> 00:09:18,161 Speaker 2: if you're doing another, just close the door. 191 00:09:18,841 --> 00:09:21,121 Speaker 3: Like I love you and you're on my offspring, but 192 00:09:21,201 --> 00:09:24,481 Speaker 3: I just close the door. I don't care to join 193 00:09:24,561 --> 00:09:28,281 Speaker 3: you in that. And then fast forward to the last night. 194 00:09:28,801 --> 00:09:29,681 Speaker 2: We're in the bed. 195 00:09:29,961 --> 00:09:32,921 Speaker 3: Elsie and Gracie and I have had a very chill 196 00:09:33,121 --> 00:09:36,441 Speaker 3: afternoon because we were all exhausted from the night before, 197 00:09:36,521 --> 00:09:39,441 Speaker 3: late night game, all the rest. So we're just watching 198 00:09:39,601 --> 00:09:43,721 Speaker 3: lat movies, had room service, and then Elsie wants to 199 00:09:43,921 --> 00:09:47,481 Speaker 3: just lie on top of me, and I have this 200 00:09:47,561 --> 00:09:50,081 Speaker 3: moment where I'm like, just bask. 201 00:09:49,921 --> 00:09:52,681 Speaker 2: In the moment. They won't want to do this belong, 202 00:09:53,281 --> 00:09:53,441 Speaker 2: you know. 203 00:09:53,441 --> 00:09:55,161 Speaker 3: I think that's half of my brain. And then the 204 00:09:55,201 --> 00:09:57,081 Speaker 3: other half is I'm at night three. 205 00:09:57,361 --> 00:09:58,801 Speaker 2: I've been in this room so. 206 00:10:00,281 --> 00:10:03,441 Speaker 3: With the two of you just at me, and I 207 00:10:03,721 --> 00:10:06,841 Speaker 3: just am being super pressed and I just need some space. 208 00:10:07,201 --> 00:10:10,761 Speaker 2: I just need some time. I just need something to disconnect. 209 00:10:10,761 --> 00:10:12,841 Speaker 2: I just turned around. I was like, I'm touching me. 210 00:10:13,401 --> 00:10:15,921 Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, last night, right I got to the point 211 00:10:16,001 --> 00:10:19,721 Speaker 1: where I yelled at the dog. She's such a lovely dog, 212 00:10:19,881 --> 00:10:22,761 Speaker 1: like so much love to give, too much love to give. 213 00:10:22,921 --> 00:10:23,201 Speaker 3: She was. 214 00:10:23,681 --> 00:10:25,361 Speaker 2: I was like, get the fuck of me. 215 00:10:27,361 --> 00:10:30,441 Speaker 3: That's exactly how I felt, and that's exactly how I 216 00:10:30,481 --> 00:10:31,321 Speaker 3: wanted to yell.