1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Gooday, gang, I hope you're bloody great. There's going to 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:06,039 Speaker 1: be blunt and direct, and if you're feeling a bit precious, 3 00:00:06,120 --> 00:00:10,080 Speaker 1: today might not be the day for you. Having said that, 4 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 1: it might be exactly the day that you need. Now 5 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: here's what I think some, not all, some not all 6 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:23,080 Speaker 1: of you need to hear a message from me. And 7 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: the message goes as follows, stop fucking waiting. Stop waiting 8 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:34,919 Speaker 1: for the magic, stop waiting for the opportunity, stop waiting 9 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:39,880 Speaker 1: for the right time, stop waiting for an invitation, stop 10 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: waiting to feel confident, stop waiting to feel good enough. 11 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:53,240 Speaker 1: Just stop waiting. Stop waiting. At two conversations with people 12 00:00:53,479 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: today who need to change stuff, one in person the conversation, 13 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:01,880 Speaker 1: one on the phone the conversation, both of those people 14 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: know that there are things that they really need to 15 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:08,319 Speaker 1: be doing, not want necessarily, but need to be doing, 16 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:09,920 Speaker 1: Like there are a shit going on in their life 17 00:01:09,959 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: that can't be more specific than that. But let me 18 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: tell you that they are fucking waiting and to their 19 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: own detriment on some level, like many other people, waiting 20 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 1: for some kind of better time than today, Like so 21 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: many people that I talk to, it feels like whatever 22 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:36,200 Speaker 1: day that I talk to them on. No, it doesn't 23 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 1: matter which day, any day of the week, any week 24 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 1: of the year, any fucking year of the decade. But 25 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: no matter what day I talk to them, it's never 26 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 1: the day. It's always soon. It's tomorrow, it's next week, 27 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: it's next month, it's when the kids are not on holidays, 28 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: it's when the ankle's better. It's when. But it's not now. 29 00:01:54,960 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: It's never now. I don't think that we should be reckless, 30 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: but I think that for many people this whole fucking 31 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: it's not the right time. It's not the right moment. 32 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 1: I need to get my metaphoric ducks in a row. 33 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: I think it's bullshit. I honestly think it's bullshit. I 34 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: think we need to be strategic, and I think timing is, 35 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 1: at times, no pun intended, an issue. But I think 36 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:37,519 Speaker 1: for more people, timing is an excuse. Now, I'm not instructing. 37 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:40,360 Speaker 1: I'm not instructing on any level. I'm not suggesting that 38 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: you be reckless, that you don't think, but I am 39 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: suggesting that if you have been in the waiting for 40 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: the right time, brigade or group, for let's say a 41 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:57,240 Speaker 1: year or more, then I might suggest to you that, 42 00:02:57,360 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: depending on what the thing is that we're talking, it 43 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: might not be a timing thing. It might be a 44 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 1: you thing. Sometimes on this journey of personal development and 45 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 1: growth and improvement, we need to own things. We need 46 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: to be self aware. I said to one of the 47 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 1: two people today who happen to be a dude, doesn't matter. 48 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:25,000 Speaker 1: I don't know why I told you that they're both dudes, 49 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: but I just said to him, honestly, this is coming 50 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: from a good place. I feel like you're fucking kidding yourself. 51 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:39,280 Speaker 1: I feel like you are calling your excuses reasons, and 52 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 1: I don't think they're reasons. I think they're self created, 53 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 1: perhaps unconsciously, but they are self created avoidance strategies. And 54 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: I fear that if you don't make a decision, and 55 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:56,520 Speaker 1: you don't start today, or you don't start soon, that 56 00:03:56,680 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 1: there will be a dire fucking consequence that you can't undo, 57 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:05,280 Speaker 1: or it will be much much, much harder to address 58 00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: than it currently is. Here's the thing about change, especially 59 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 1: when we're talking about personal change, we're talking about habits 60 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:20,279 Speaker 1: and behaviors and outcomes on planet US. Here's the thing. 61 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:26,359 Speaker 1: It's uncomfortable nearly always at the start at the very least, 62 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 1: it's inconvenient. It's often not practical, it's often disruptive. It 63 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: often disrupts our plans, or our patterns, or our current comfortable, familiar, 64 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 1: easy operating system. We don't need to wait, but we 65 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:48,360 Speaker 1: want to wait, and we find a way to justify 66 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 1: the waiting, and we get really defensive when people go, 67 00:04:52,240 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 1: are you sure you need to wait? Because when things 68 00:04:56,880 --> 00:05:01,480 Speaker 1: happen in our life, when dramas happen, when catastrophes happen, 69 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 1: when bad things happen, that we just need to deal with. 70 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: Timing is never an issue because we don't have the 71 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:13,719 Speaker 1: luxury of time. You have the heart attack, you just 72 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 1: have to deal with it today. You break your leg, 73 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:19,839 Speaker 1: you just have to deal with it. Today, your partner 74 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: walks out on you. You just have to deal with 75 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:29,200 Speaker 1: it today. And there's no chance of not dealing with 76 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 1: it on that day because it's out of our control. 77 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 1: We can put our head in the sand, of course, 78 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: but that only makes it worse. Imagine if that thing 79 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:43,640 Speaker 1: that you've been putting off, you said today is today 80 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:47,039 Speaker 1: the day that you are listening to these words this podcast. 81 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:53,680 Speaker 1: Even though even though some of you right now are 82 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:58,599 Speaker 1: quickly creating a list of reasons as to why today 83 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 1: is not the day. What if you fucking did it anyway? 84 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: What if you just what if you saw this as 85 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:12,080 Speaker 1: an opportunity, not a problem. What if you went this 86 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 1: interruption from Harps, this fucking poking and prodding, this challenging 87 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:20,600 Speaker 1: of me. What if you said, this is not something 88 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: to avoid again, this is not something to put on 89 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: a shelf again. What if you went, not fuck it. 90 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:32,839 Speaker 1: This is an opportunity. This is an opportunity. Yes it's hard, 91 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: but it's an opportunity. I don't know if I've mentioned 92 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: this on the show, but last week I was demonstrating 93 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 1: something in the gym. I did something. Anyway, The problem, 94 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:49,280 Speaker 1: the bottom line was I injured myself reasonably badly. I 95 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: fucked my shoulder. I ended up in hospital. I don't 96 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:56,919 Speaker 1: think I've told this story, but anyway, X rays the 97 00:06:56,960 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: whole shooting match didn't break anything but some significant sholder 98 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:06,279 Speaker 1: soft tissue injury. Blah blah blah, doesn't matter. It's okay, 99 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:11,760 Speaker 1: I'll get better. Told not to do any strength training 100 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: for six weeks upper body strength training. As you can imagine, 101 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:22,400 Speaker 1: that went down well on Planet me, the somewhat obsessive 102 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 1: weight trainer. My immediate response was, fuck him, I'm training. 103 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: My other immediate response was, woe is me? Life's not fair? 104 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: Why does this happen to me? I've da da da 105 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: da all the self pity and the bullshit. But when 106 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:42,880 Speaker 1: I got over the emotional stuff, the anger and the 107 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:47,560 Speaker 1: self pity and the bullshit, kind of after I'd gotten 108 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: home from hospital, which was a six hour visit, and 109 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 1: it was eleven o'clock at night, and I could have 110 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: eaten a dead rat. I was so fucking hungry. But anyway, 111 00:07:56,440 --> 00:08:00,120 Speaker 1: I started to think about, Okay, I have this thing. 112 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 1: I can't wake up tomorrow and this injury is gone. 113 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 1: And so this happened. What is tonight? What is today? 114 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: Today is Sunday. So this happened about nine days ago. 115 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 1: I think it was a Thursday. So I started to 116 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: think about how I could make this problem an opportunity. 117 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:24,120 Speaker 1: And one of the things that I don't do enough of, 118 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 1: and one of the things that I've avoided is stretching. 119 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: And so I said to myself, self, why don't you 120 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: use this time to improve your shit flexibility in your 121 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:43,320 Speaker 1: sixty year old raggedy ass fucking high tensile body, your 122 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 1: violin string fucking body, your ceramic tile body that is 123 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:52,079 Speaker 1: quite strong but also quite brittle. Why don't you make 124 00:08:52,200 --> 00:08:56,840 Speaker 1: that body more flexible? Why don't you use this time 125 00:08:56,960 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 1: where you're not using your shoulder and your upper body 126 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 1: so much. By the way I talked to him, down 127 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:06,560 Speaker 1: to four weeks, You're welcome. What don't use is to 128 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 1: improve your flexibility. So from the next day until today, 129 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 1: I've done it. Today, every day I've done thirty minutes 130 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 1: of stretching, which and me doing it every day for 131 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:20,080 Speaker 1: nine days, and me doing thirty minutes a day. And yep, 132 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 1: I'm a little bit frustrated, if I'm being honest, because 133 00:09:22,400 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 1: of my shoulder, but not nearly as frustrated as I 134 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:28,080 Speaker 1: could be or would have been in the past. And 135 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: also I'm using this time out still training my lower body, 136 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 1: still training core a little bit, not training my upper body. 137 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 1: That's okay, I'll recover, I'll get back there. But what 138 00:09:37,880 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 1: I'm doing is I'm using this time away from strength 139 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:46,560 Speaker 1: training my upper body to increase my overall flexibility. In fact, 140 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:49,760 Speaker 1: today I did forty five minutes. I looked up at 141 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:52,680 Speaker 1: my phone and I was at thirty eight minutes and 142 00:09:52,720 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: I went, fuck, I'm going to do it to forty 143 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 1: five minutes, and I stretched forty five minutes. So we 144 00:09:56,559 --> 00:10:00,199 Speaker 1: turn the problem if we want, even if in the 145 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 1: middle of the problem, even in the middle of the adversity, 146 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: we can find some kind of light in the darkness 147 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 1: if we look for it. So this problem of not 148 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: being able to do one thing has opened a door 149 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:14,080 Speaker 1: for me to do another thing, which I'm now doing 150 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:19,319 Speaker 1: and I feel better. I feel looser, I feel more flexible, obviously, 151 00:10:19,960 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 1: and the stretching for me is something that I'm going 152 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:27,440 Speaker 1: to maintain moving forward. The challenge for us is to 153 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 1: get out of this inner dialogue of circular conversation for years, 154 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 1: if not decades, of rationalizing why now is not the time. 155 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 1: It's not a good situation for me, it's not a 156 00:10:47,200 --> 00:10:49,800 Speaker 1: good time for mehaps you don't understand. And of course 157 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:52,960 Speaker 1: there will be times where literally it isn't and I 158 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:57,960 Speaker 1: get that, But let's differentiate between when there is a real, genuine, 159 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 1: authentic problem or reason. Right, Let's put that to one 160 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: side as five percent of the time, and that's cool. Now, 161 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:10,839 Speaker 1: let's focus on the ninety five percent of the time. 162 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:13,600 Speaker 1: Where you and I know that we're just not starting 163 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:15,839 Speaker 1: because we just don't want to. We don't want to. 164 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 1: We're going to start soon. And then we look up, 165 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:21,400 Speaker 1: and as I've said many times before, we look up 166 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:27,360 Speaker 1: and it's now December twenty twenty four, it's now July 167 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:30,440 Speaker 1: twenty twenty five. At six months later, it's twelve months later, 168 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:32,319 Speaker 1: and we're still having the same inn and dialogue. We're 169 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:35,680 Speaker 1: still not doing the things that we should do. And 170 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:40,200 Speaker 1: what's interesting is when we lean into this where we go, fuck, 171 00:11:40,280 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 1: don't procrastinate. I was listening to Andrew Schuberman, neuro scientist extraordinari. 172 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:49,319 Speaker 1: I was talking to him. I'll talk to him. I'm 173 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:51,079 Speaker 1: trying to get him on the podcast, but fucking a 174 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: long shot. But anyway, but I was listening to him 175 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:57,840 Speaker 1: talk about what happens in our brain when we actually 176 00:11:57,920 --> 00:11:59,719 Speaker 1: just do things that we don't want to do, when 177 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 1: we we go fuck it. And this is an example 178 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 1: where we go, yeah, I know I could do it today, 179 00:12:05,520 --> 00:12:08,079 Speaker 1: but I don't have to do it today. I can 180 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: start tomorrow. And the I don't have to do it today, 181 00:12:10,240 --> 00:12:13,600 Speaker 1: I can start tomorrow becomes a default setting sometimes forever. 182 00:12:13,679 --> 00:12:15,559 Speaker 1: But when we go, fuck it, I could do it today, 183 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to necessarily. I don't feel like it's 184 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:21,680 Speaker 1: not going to be comfortable, quick, easy, painless. It might 185 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 1: be hard, it might not be sexy, it might not 186 00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: be super enjoyable in the moment, but nonetheless, I'm starting. 187 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: When we do that, there's a thing in our brain 188 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:33,280 Speaker 1: called the anterior mid singulate cortext say that ten times 189 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:38,200 Speaker 1: fast the anterior mid singulate cortex, and that changes. That 190 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:43,080 Speaker 1: builds stronger neural pathways and neural connections, and according to 191 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:47,920 Speaker 1: some research, some late, some recent research, that part of 192 00:12:47,960 --> 00:12:52,160 Speaker 1: the brain actually grows. It hypertrophies, it gets bigger like 193 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: a bicep does when we do bicep curls. It's fucking incredible. 194 00:12:56,360 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 1: And so when we decide that, look, today is the day, 195 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 1: or or when we decide that we're going to do 196 00:13:02,120 --> 00:13:04,440 Speaker 1: the thing that we could put off. We could put 197 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: it off, we could rationalize it, and people would go, 198 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:11,000 Speaker 1: well that makes sense, I totally understand. But nonetheless we 199 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:15,520 Speaker 1: decide to not put it off. We decide that today 200 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 1: is the day. We create some momentum, and every day 201 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,439 Speaker 1: we just get up and we just keep doing despite 202 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:25,080 Speaker 1: the fact that it might not be fun, quick, easy, 203 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:27,840 Speaker 1: or painless today, or convenient today. We might not be 204 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:30,520 Speaker 1: motivated today, we might not have a cheer squad today, 205 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 1: we might not be getting great results at the moment. 206 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 1: But nonetheless, we're going to keep stepping up and not 207 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:39,160 Speaker 1: giving up. We're going to step up when most would 208 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:44,040 Speaker 1: give up. We're going to look for solutions not problems. Yes, 209 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:46,480 Speaker 1: we're going to be practical and realistic, and yes we're 210 00:13:46,480 --> 00:13:48,600 Speaker 1: going to have good and bad days because we're human, 211 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:52,800 Speaker 1: but we're not going to keep giving up. We're going 212 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:58,439 Speaker 1: to stop fucking waiting. So many people that listen to 213 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:01,840 Speaker 1: this show, that listen to pod, that come to my 214 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:05,839 Speaker 1: workshops that and I mean this in a loving way. 215 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 1: If I was all about popularity, I would just tell 216 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 1: you that you're all fucking amazing all the time. But 217 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:13,120 Speaker 1: you know that you're not all amazing. You know that 218 00:14:13,160 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 1: you're not doing great stuff every day most of you, 219 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 1: and you know that there are things that you need 220 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 1: to hear but don't want to hear. And if I 221 00:14:24,960 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: was one of many of the coaches, mentors, personal development 222 00:14:29,560 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 1: people on Instagram, I would be saying all this fucking 223 00:14:33,880 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 1: hyperbolic bullshit self help fluff, this fairy floss kind of motivation, 224 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:45,560 Speaker 1: but it's just not valuable for you, and it's just 225 00:14:45,720 --> 00:14:49,520 Speaker 1: not real for me. Some of you don't need to 226 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 1: hear this because you're on the path, you're on the journey, 227 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 1: and you're doing great and truly for me to you, 228 00:14:54,600 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 1: fucking well done, you, super proud of you. But there 229 00:14:58,160 --> 00:15:01,720 Speaker 1: are some of you that are your own problem and 230 00:15:01,800 --> 00:15:04,600 Speaker 1: you know it. And if me saying this bothers you, 231 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 1: that's okay. But of all the problems you've ever had 232 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:10,440 Speaker 1: in your life, you were there for all of them. 233 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:14,800 Speaker 1: You were there for all of them. That doesn't mean 234 00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:18,160 Speaker 1: you were always the cause, but there's a fair chance 235 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:20,920 Speaker 1: that you're a common denominator with some of the fucking 236 00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:24,680 Speaker 1: shit that's going on in your life. I'm not interested 237 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 1: in making you feel good for three minutes with rubbing 238 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:32,120 Speaker 1: your back and pumping up your emotional tires. I'm genuinely 239 00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 1: interested in helping people to help themselves. And I'm interested 240 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:41,360 Speaker 1: in what you're capable of changing in the next three, six, 241 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:44,240 Speaker 1: twelve months, the things that are on your to do list. 242 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 1: I'm interested in your plan, I'm interested in your resilience. 243 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:51,360 Speaker 1: I'm interested in the work that you can do. I'm 244 00:15:51,400 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 1: interested in what you will do today because you've listened 245 00:15:55,200 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: to this. See you next time.