1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables, you have to go in with 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:06,960 Speaker 1: the mindset of that maybe he might not want me. 3 00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's that's okay. I think rejecting therapy is 4 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 2: a good thing, exactly. It's not. It's not an attack 5 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:16,080 Speaker 2: on you or there's nothing wrong with you. It's literally 6 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 2: that like wrong timing or just you don't click. It's 7 00:00:19,360 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 2: not an attack on anything. Like I think a lot 8 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:22,720 Speaker 2: of people think, like, what's wrong with me? Why doesn't 9 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 2: any boy love me or any girl love me. It's 10 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:26,840 Speaker 2: not an attack on you at all. It's just like 11 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 2: you don't connect in the same way exactly. 12 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 1: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka 13 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: the law Racks, and my partner like aka Mummy. Some 14 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:54,960 Speaker 1: of you might know Jake as Daddy, but Daddy not 15 00:00:55,000 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 1: many of us. So I was scrolling on Instagram, you 16 00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 1: know when you scroll past your following feed and it 17 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:07,959 Speaker 1: just is like kind of like a four you feed 18 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: now pretty much. I was on there and like, I'm 19 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:15,959 Speaker 1: assuming that it was an account run by dudes. Yeah, 20 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: and it was one of those ones where it's like 21 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: a little fucking like the little lad Bible up in 22 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 1: the corner and it's like study show when she makes 23 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: the first move, it's like eighty percent of couples where 24 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:30,399 Speaker 1: she makes the first move and in marriage or something 25 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 1: like that. 26 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 3: One of those bullshit And I was like, yeah, right, okay, 27 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 3: of of course. 28 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 1: Yeah. 29 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 2: I was like, whatever, let's just try and chick girls 30 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 2: in the message. 31 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:40,640 Speaker 1: I was like, this is account right, this is this 32 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:41,679 Speaker 1: accounts run by dudes. 33 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 3: Yeah. 34 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, they're just trying to give fucking people to message guys. 35 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 1: But it made us think. We thought we would give 36 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 1: you guys tips on how to text him first, randomly 37 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 1: out of the blue. So I'm gonna go first, go 38 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:04,560 Speaker 1: for it, hit him, Hit him with is your middle name? 39 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 1: And then insert a name right, any name, just after 40 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 1: you want to care what you choose Mitchell, and he's 41 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:12,959 Speaker 1: very likely going to say no, because how are you 42 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: supposed to guess his middle name? And then you can say, oh, 43 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: that's weird, I dreamt last night that it was. Oh, 44 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:19,919 Speaker 1: that's actually kind of good. 45 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 2: It's intricate. 46 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:21,600 Speaker 1: I don't mind. 47 00:02:21,639 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 2: That makes you think, And then that would start a 48 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 2: conversation about why you're dreaming about. 49 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: Exactly you're in there admitting that you're dreaming about him. 50 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:29,920 Speaker 2: I would take the bait if I got that one hundred, 51 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 2: I would take the bata instantly. No one's guessing my 52 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:34,959 Speaker 2: middle name either, I wouldn't even know. 53 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, good point. Also, no one's going to guess mine 54 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:41,120 Speaker 1: because it spelled roight. Yeah, my spelt wrong. But yeah, 55 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: so that one is. I think that would work. 56 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 2: I think that would work too. So how to text 57 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:46,240 Speaker 2: him first? Randomly? 58 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 1: Bold? But I think this would work? 59 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 2: Okay, straight up voice message, Oh, I fully agree with that, 60 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:56,359 Speaker 2: like nothing by just saying like I could not agree more. Yeah, 61 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:58,079 Speaker 2: what are you saying on the voice pasages though I 62 00:02:58,080 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 2: didn't get no, told me you didn't get that far. 63 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: I was going I say, like, you've got it. This 64 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: is all you do. You're supposed to be help with 65 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:03,119 Speaker 1: the girls. 66 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think people would think that's too bold. 67 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 2: So I've helped him out a little bit. I'm thinking 68 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:12,359 Speaker 2: that some funny mate, like, Hey, I'm actually I thought 69 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 2: you were cute when I go on a date. 70 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: Okay, you could do you know the start of all 71 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: the shows of like the Bachelor, like all those reality 72 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 1: TV shows, A lot of like the dating ones, and 73 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: how it's like they'll intro the girl getting out of 74 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 1: the vehicle and as she's walking up the red carpet 75 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:31,960 Speaker 1: into the house to first meet the bachelor, there's a 76 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 1: video of her soul, just her on her talking about 77 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: herself and who she is and stuff like that. So 78 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 1: you could just send him a voice message saying like 79 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: who you are, what you do and see if that works. 80 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 2: This is giving hinge actually thinking about it, hinge do that. 81 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 2: I didn't think about this. Maybe nah, just like a 82 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 2: cool voice message, just like to show your personality, like 83 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 2: maybe just but what about like, hey, I'm as special skill, 84 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 2: like went to the beach today, what do you get 85 00:03:57,880 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 2: up to? 86 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:02,520 Speaker 1: Or you could voice message and say is your middle name? 87 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: So see what they do. If you can think of 88 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: a good voice message, it could work. And here's the 89 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 1: thing is if you're if you're game enough or bold enough, 90 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 1: like you say to do that, I reckon you know 91 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 1: straight away whether or not it's going to be good 92 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:18,480 Speaker 1: if they send a voice message back. But if they don't, 93 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 1: you should Just. 94 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:21,280 Speaker 2: My thinking is it gets rid of all this like 95 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 2: bullshit text thing. You don't know what they're actually saying, 96 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:25,480 Speaker 2: when they have sarcasm, when they're actually funny, when they're smiling, 97 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:27,640 Speaker 2: Like you can hear someone's voice when they're enjoying talking 98 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 2: to you. That's what my thinking is, So it could work. 99 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 2: I love voice messages because. 100 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:35,479 Speaker 1: It's one more thing you know about the person. It's 101 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 1: like you can figure out, you know, stuff for via text. Yes, yeah, 102 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: but one thing I love is like you figure out 103 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: what their voice sounds like. 104 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 2: Well, my best tip for people going on a first 105 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:48,600 Speaker 2: date is you should FaceTime them beforehand once. I think 106 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 2: face times bold nah, just because you get their vibe, sona, 107 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 2: what they sound like before the dates. You know what 108 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 2: you're in for. 109 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:58,279 Speaker 1: And it's sort of like alleviates. 110 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:00,480 Speaker 2: Any nerves first date nerves and you what you're getting 111 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 2: a little bit and just helps the situation. Let's use 112 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 2: technology to advantage man fair what if you like true 113 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 2: imagine like you got yourself a catfish in your face time, 114 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:12,240 Speaker 2: like oh shit, and then you're like, well, I'm looking 115 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:13,039 Speaker 2: on the date anymore. 116 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 1: How do you think of a way to get out 117 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: of it? I mean, I've used your tactic once before, 118 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 1: back when I was single, like ages and ages ago. 119 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:24,159 Speaker 1: I remember I had like organized fully organized a date. Yeah, 120 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:29,559 Speaker 1: and then I think you said you were like Coler, Yeah, Coller, 121 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 1: find out what she's like. And I was like, fuck, 122 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:35,800 Speaker 1: I guess, but so I called her and I just 123 00:05:35,839 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 1: got fucked vibes. It's got fucked up vibes. Like I 124 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 1: was like thinking, I'm not driving all that way for 125 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:49,280 Speaker 1: that beautiful girl. I'm sure. I'm sure she's a beautiful girl. 126 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: Maybe it's not good, but I didn't give her the 127 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt because what if she was nervous? 128 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, we let her head wind. 129 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: And I'll tell you what. I canceled that date and 130 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 1: I didn't go on it. Maybe this is tough. 131 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 2: Maybe Okay. 132 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 1: My next one text him randomly, so how to text him? First? Randomly? 133 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 1: Say to him, my friend bet me that I didn't 134 00:06:12,440 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: have the guts to message the cutest guy. I follow right, 135 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: and then followed up instantly with thanks for existing, because 136 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,600 Speaker 1: in my opinion, it looks like I won. Oh that's good. 137 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 2: Did you think about yourself? Yeah, that's smooth, that's smooth. 138 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:29,599 Speaker 2: We do find out that any girls listening, if you 139 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 2: want a damn a dude, it doesn't matter what you say. Yeah, 140 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:35,600 Speaker 2: if he thinks you're pretty, he's gonna recipitate. What's going on? 141 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: I mean to be fair, it goes both ways. Like 142 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: if you're a dude that has shit chat, yeah, but 143 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: the girl looks at your you're thinking like oh yeah, 144 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:47,720 Speaker 1: like yeah, yeah yeah, like you know, it doesn't matter 145 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:51,039 Speaker 1: fucking like that, it doesn't matter what you say. And 146 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:52,479 Speaker 1: it goes the same way like if you message your 147 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 1: going and he's like, oh yeah, I've been waiting for this, 148 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 1: Like you could say anything and you could be like 149 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: you'd be like, I don't know. I fought fucking all 150 00:06:58,440 --> 00:06:58,919 Speaker 1: the time. 151 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:05,799 Speaker 2: How to text him? First? Randomly, I reckon, this is great, Okay, okay, 152 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 2: why are you so handsome? It's a question and you're 153 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 2: saying he's handsome. I really like that because it's not 154 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 2: just the statement, so we can reply and be like 155 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 2: oh yeah just Cabins naturally is like oh I can't 156 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 2: help it. My mom and dad gave it to me. 157 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 2: I really really, And then I was like. 158 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: Why you know what I'd say, I'd be like, how 159 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: about you? Like, i'd so you send the message. I 160 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:30,880 Speaker 1: would say, look, why are you so handsome? Wit? Don't 161 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 1: say I look better in person? Fuck? She won't re bine, 162 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: I reckon, you should say, I'll tell you but first 163 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:39,840 Speaker 1: you have to tell me why you're so pretty? 164 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, don't say I look even better in person, I 165 00:07:44,400 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 2: look in my bedroom lighting. 166 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: Oie or you know, you know what you should say? 167 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: You could this could be funny, is so she says, 168 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:55,240 Speaker 1: you say to a guy, why are you so handsome? 169 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 1: And then and then you could just be like if 170 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: you're basing this off my instagram just with lighting, that's 171 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: kind of like to be like, oh, I'm a catfish. 172 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 2: But then she's want to know true because you see, 173 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 2: it's kind of works. 174 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 1: It is a good one. 175 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, that is a good one. 176 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 1: That's we're giving guys responses to say that to fuck Okay, 177 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:16,560 Speaker 1: this one's intricate. Okay, I'm here for it. Okay, how 178 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 1: to text him? First? Randomly? Stick around? So stick around 179 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 1: with this, okay, send him a photo of something that 180 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 1: you are planning on wearing on a night out, instantly 181 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:33,120 Speaker 1: followed up with should I wear this? Question mark, and 182 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 1: then immediately again followed up with sorry, wrong person. And 183 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:39,400 Speaker 1: that's all you say, Like, you don't say that's so embarrassing, 184 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:41,960 Speaker 1: just say sorry, wrong person. And then one more message. 185 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: While I'm here, I may as well get your opinion too. 186 00:08:49,160 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 2: I don't know really, like it would work if I 187 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:56,600 Speaker 2: thought she was pretty, But like that's bold, that's real bold. 188 00:08:57,000 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 1: Not as bold as sending a voice message. No, like 189 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: you got this. 190 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 2: You got this like dress and something put on the 191 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 2: bed and you're like, what do you think? 192 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 1: No, No, you're in it. You're wearing the outfit you say. 193 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: It's as if you're trying to send a your friend. 194 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:11,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, But then the second message was the second one 195 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 2: saying what do you think? So, yeah, you're wearing You 196 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:17,439 Speaker 2: send the first this photo, yeah, and then you send 197 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:18,960 Speaker 2: another message saying what do you think? 198 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: Yeah? Do you still think you're messaging the friends? Because 199 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 1: that's too consecutive. He'll probably think she seems dumb because 200 00:09:23,880 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: she didn't pick up on the fact that, like you're 201 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:29,960 Speaker 1: trying to say that we think you're a man, don't 202 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 1: try and go out here that we're looking into details 203 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: of things. 204 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:33,559 Speaker 2: I'm saying no to that one. 205 00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 1: Really, I don't reckon that One's that good? 206 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 2: Too bold, too bold? Right, that's like the classic like 207 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 2: you'd used to go on snapchat send someone to like 208 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:42,600 Speaker 2: a picture of Oh sorry, wrong person. Now I'm here, 209 00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 2: like what are you up to this weekend? 210 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: That's the same concept. 211 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:52,079 Speaker 2: Okay, how to text him? First randomly you go name 212 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 2: so Jake, and then capitals Jake, and then capital's exclamation 213 00:09:57,080 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 2: markets make Jake, and then just sorry, I had to 214 00:09:58,880 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 2: get your attention. 215 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 1: That's actually a good first message. Yeah, I think that 216 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: would work. I think it would do. And then do 217 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:07,560 Speaker 1: you but do you say that? And do you wait 218 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 1: for like say, say someone's messaging me, and do you 219 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: wait for me to reply and then say, oh sorry? 220 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 2: I was thinking all three of them in one go, 221 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:17,920 Speaker 2: So like j j Jake, Capital's xmation XM sorry, I 222 00:10:17,920 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 2: just had to get your attention, and then you wait 223 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:21,840 Speaker 2: for a reply, yeah, and then see what he does. Okay, 224 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 2: that work, I would I think it would work both 225 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 2: ways too, because you could do Jake, Jake, Jake, all 226 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:29,440 Speaker 2: the different messages one's caps and then like explanation marks and. 227 00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 1: Then you wait for them to be like what that's 228 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 1: a dud? 229 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 2: Why is this chicking? 230 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: What? Yeah? And if you here's the things, you know 231 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: he's got good answer. If he goes, ah, don't yell 232 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 1: at me, you're like sorry, how to get your attention? 233 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,679 Speaker 1: Like you know you're that's already. That's good Actually that's 234 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 1: good chat. Like, all you're doing with the first message 235 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:50,720 Speaker 1: is finding out if they have a fucking sense of humor, right, 236 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:53,440 Speaker 1: if they've got a soul? Yeah, exactly, if they have 237 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 1: a brain. Literally, Okay, I got one more? 238 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 2: So do why? 239 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: How to text him first? Random? Now? I'm pretty confident 240 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: this will work on me, But let me know what 241 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:09,079 Speaker 1: you think. It's time to stop fucking around and just 242 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: to ask me on a date already? I like that. 243 00:11:11,559 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, very bold, but I like it. But I also 244 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:17,280 Speaker 2: we both like not betting around the bush. 245 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:20,199 Speaker 1: True, we're both the type that's like, don't fucking message 246 00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:21,719 Speaker 1: me for like a month and then want to go 247 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:22,120 Speaker 1: on a date. 248 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 2: You might as well find out and not waste each 249 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:27,480 Speaker 2: other's time straight up with the first message. Times important? 250 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:29,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, also because I don't know, I just 251 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:33,480 Speaker 1: don't not a fan of texting neither my last one. 252 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:35,080 Speaker 1: How to text him first? Randomly? 253 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 2: Send a funny TikTok like that everyone finds funny, Yeah, 254 00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:40,520 Speaker 2: and then go So I just wanted to skip a 255 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 2: few steps. 256 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 1: Oh I like that one, and you guys are sending 257 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:47,480 Speaker 1: each other fucking TikTok's and reels already. 258 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 2: Hopefully he gets it. You got it, So I'm thinking 259 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 2: everyone would get it. 260 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 1: What's that supposed to mean? 261 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 2: I actually wasn't meanted. 262 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:03,559 Speaker 1: Oh no, that's good. I like that. 263 00:12:03,760 --> 00:12:04,600 Speaker 2: I like that one. 264 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 1: Ah shit, Okay, well that's ammunition if I've ever seen it, 265 00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 1: I said, like, and again, I want to reiterate the 266 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:17,280 Speaker 1: fact that it's like, think about if you've got a 267 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 1: message from a guy that you wanted to message you, 268 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 1: no matter what he says, unless he's saying like send nudes, Like, 269 00:12:22,920 --> 00:12:26,199 Speaker 1: no matter what he says, you're gonna reply if you 270 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 1: think he's attractive, If you think's attractive, and so like, 271 00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:30,880 Speaker 1: you just have to go into all these thinking with yourself. 272 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: Like also just like you have to go in with 273 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 1: the mindset of that maybe he might not want me. 274 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:41,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's that's okay. I think rejection therapy is 275 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:41,839 Speaker 2: a good thing. 276 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: Exactly. 277 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:44,920 Speaker 2: It's not. It's not an attack on you or there's 278 00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 2: nothing wrong with you. It's literally that like wrong timing 279 00:12:48,160 --> 00:12:50,559 Speaker 2: or just you don't click. Yeah, it's not an attack 280 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:52,439 Speaker 2: on anything. Like I think a lot of people think, like, 281 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:54,360 Speaker 2: what's wrong with me? Why doesn't any boy love me 282 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:56,600 Speaker 2: or any girl love me? It's not an attack on 283 00:12:56,640 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 2: you at all. It's just like you don't connect in 284 00:12:58,400 --> 00:12:59,720 Speaker 2: the same way exactly. 285 00:13:00,360 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 3: Okay, guys, it's dilemmas. 286 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:11,560 Speaker 1: If you want to submit a dilemma in the description 287 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: of this episode or in our the Lincoln, our Instagram buyer, 288 00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 1: you'll find it. Submit it's all anonymous. Okay, quick rundown 289 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 1: lads was seeing someone for five months, still hadn't asked 290 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:28,080 Speaker 1: me to be his girlfriend, even though he kept telling me. 291 00:13:28,440 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 1: Soon in quotations, came to the fifth month, felt like 292 00:13:33,080 --> 00:13:36,240 Speaker 1: things were a little off, hadn't slept together for over 293 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:40,959 Speaker 1: a week, like odd, how to chat? Asked if everything 294 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:46,480 Speaker 1: is okay? He responded with yes. I wanted this, so yes, 295 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:49,480 Speaker 1: I want this one hundred percent. I was gonna ask 296 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:53,600 Speaker 1: you to be my girlfriend in Bali in two weeks. Also, 297 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: when we get back, would you move into my place? Shit? 298 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 1: Days later, I seen Hinge on his phone, asked him 299 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 1: the next day, full denied it, said that's not what 300 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 1: you saw, and I don't have time to talk to people. 301 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 1: I said, okay, sorry, I'm just in my head, you know, 302 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:17,880 Speaker 1: anxiety and stuff. Castle the fuck moved on from that 303 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: two days later, had a huge gut feeling, so I 304 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 1: downloaded Hinge, made a fake profile, found him straight away, 305 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 1: matched and sent a message. He replied a couple of 306 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:38,520 Speaker 1: hours later. So seeing him the next day, pulled him, 307 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 1: was like, hey, you know you said you're not on 308 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:45,960 Speaker 1: the apps. Well you are because you matched with one 309 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 1: of my girlfriends. He said, oh really, then said, please 310 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:53,560 Speaker 1: look at my phone. I've got nothing on here. I said, 311 00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:56,360 Speaker 1: I don't need you to justify anything, and I don't 312 00:14:56,400 --> 00:15:00,040 Speaker 1: want to see your phone. He went on, and I 313 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: I said, I have evidence of your chat. He then said, 314 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:06,480 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I was feeling a bit on edge. 315 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:09,800 Speaker 1: I feel like you're always upset with me and my 316 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: ex was like that, but she would hurt and throw 317 00:15:13,720 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 1: things at me. I said, I'd like to think I'm 318 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:21,320 Speaker 1: nothing like your ex. He said absolutely not. I said, yeah, well, 319 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 1: well that's your issue and me getting annoyed. We're all 320 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 1: valid reasons. I said, how am I supposed to trust 321 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:30,480 Speaker 1: you again? He goes, the balls in your court, you 322 00:15:30,560 --> 00:15:35,240 Speaker 1: can decide lol. I said, I'm getting my stuff and going. 323 00:15:35,520 --> 00:15:38,040 Speaker 1: He goes, I really hope this isn't the last time 324 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 1: I see you. Well, what that's crazy? 325 00:15:43,520 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 2: Hey, Well, what's her dilemma. Is there more there's basically like, 326 00:15:49,120 --> 00:15:51,520 Speaker 2: that's what's happened to her, that's what's happened. And I 327 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:54,040 Speaker 2: sent you a photo of what he exit her. 328 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, I'm here. This is him 329 00:15:57,120 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 1: to her. Yeah, I'm here. If you need to talk. 330 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:02,960 Speaker 1: I just thought I would give you some space. Apologies again, 331 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 1: I never meant to upset you. 332 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:08,400 Speaker 2: Okay, so leave it on that, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. 333 00:16:08,600 --> 00:16:09,840 Speaker 1: We want to give our advice first. 334 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. Basically, normally in dilemmas, it's maybe like what do 335 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:16,080 Speaker 2: I do, and it's hard to decipher what to do. 336 00:16:16,640 --> 00:16:18,920 Speaker 2: It's very clear what to do here. But I thought 337 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:23,200 Speaker 2: it was a great indication of how to catch someone 338 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 2: out when they're not treating you very well. 339 00:16:25,200 --> 00:16:30,560 Speaker 1: I like the way she called him yeah, yeah, Well 340 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:32,360 Speaker 1: she had a good feeling and it worked. 341 00:16:32,560 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, trust your gut, and she used her 342 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:40,120 Speaker 2: girlypop investigative skills, which every girl has. But I also 343 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:42,560 Speaker 2: hated the fucking the fact that we also found out 344 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 2: how much he was guest lighting her, like that, just the. 345 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 1: What you saw and then like you made me feel 346 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 1: like my ex bringing up an x yeah, so yeah, 347 00:16:50,640 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 1: comparing her to your ex so tracked crazy. 348 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:57,960 Speaker 2: So this dilemma is obviously very very clear what to do. 349 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 2: But I think it was like a good one to 350 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 2: hear because you also need to like catch yourself sometimes 351 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 2: out when you've got like a you're in a bad situation, 352 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:10,320 Speaker 2: and like put him in his place. Yeah, so we 353 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:11,440 Speaker 2: have a text message. 354 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:13,760 Speaker 1: What she said. Read it? Yeah, what she sent him 355 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:16,400 Speaker 1: is long, but I think she had a good response. 356 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:19,680 Speaker 2: Okay, I won't say his name, no, but his name 357 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:21,399 Speaker 2: is the classic name of a guy who would do. 358 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:26,600 Speaker 1: This facts bro. So after that message he sent her, yeah, 359 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:30,359 Speaker 1: she said, honestly insert name. I really don't know what 360 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:32,920 Speaker 1: to say to you. Apart from the fact you told 361 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:36,320 Speaker 1: me to trust you, and so I did. I feel 362 00:17:36,320 --> 00:17:40,399 Speaker 1: this has been absolute poor effort and respect on your behalf. 363 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:43,639 Speaker 1: I thought, out of all people, you weren't like that 364 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:46,639 Speaker 1: because of what happened to you, But I guess that 365 00:17:46,720 --> 00:17:49,760 Speaker 1: doesn't matter. If you've been cheated slash lied to in 366 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:53,159 Speaker 1: the past. You say you hate how people go behind 367 00:17:53,200 --> 00:17:57,920 Speaker 1: each other's backs, cheat, lie, whatever, and you are literally 368 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 1: the exact same person trying to hide it from me. 369 00:18:02,119 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 1: Maybe you can finally realize why people do it as 370 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:07,200 Speaker 1: you couldn't seem to be honest and tried to hide 371 00:18:07,200 --> 00:18:10,680 Speaker 1: it from me. I really thought you were something special 372 00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:12,919 Speaker 1: and you made me so happy. Believe it or not. 373 00:18:13,280 --> 00:18:16,720 Speaker 1: If you never meant to upset me in quotes, you 374 00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:20,040 Speaker 1: would have never done it. Actions speak louder than words 375 00:18:20,440 --> 00:18:22,719 Speaker 1: in certain name. Again, I wish you nothing but the 376 00:18:22,720 --> 00:18:26,640 Speaker 1: best and hope you find what you are really looking for. Oh, 377 00:18:26,960 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 1: I don't wish him the best. I can't like her response. Bro, sure, yeah, 378 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:34,720 Speaker 1: puts him in his place, but still nice. Yeah, No, 379 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:37,840 Speaker 1: that's a good response because he's really questioning like who 380 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:42,399 Speaker 1: he is as a person. Let's wait, let's shadow the 381 00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:44,080 Speaker 1: male ego. Yeah, fucking know. 382 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:48,159 Speaker 2: I thought it was a great dilemma just to like 383 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:50,959 Speaker 2: on these podcasts, we live in our own little bubble 384 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:54,720 Speaker 2: of like nice people, yes, and we sometimes struggle to 385 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:57,119 Speaker 2: a This is like a good indication of the dating 386 00:18:57,160 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 2: world out there, and like some people. 387 00:18:59,520 --> 00:19:00,960 Speaker 1: Don't treat you as humans. 388 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:04,000 Speaker 2: No, And it's good to catch people out like this 389 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:04,960 Speaker 2: and put him in their place. 390 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:07,159 Speaker 1: I think I always find it funny as well, like 391 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:10,879 Speaker 1: he was obviously very scanned to get cheated on it. 392 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 1: Sounds like he's been cheated on in the past, poor guy, 393 00:19:12,840 --> 00:19:15,560 Speaker 1: fuck it. But and so he talks about that a 394 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:17,080 Speaker 1: lot is in like you know, she's probably says like 395 00:19:17,080 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 1: trust is a huge thing for me, Like yeah, like 396 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:22,959 Speaker 1: I have trusted serves and stuff. So I wonder like 397 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:25,919 Speaker 1: when he says those things if he genuinely believes it. 398 00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:28,720 Speaker 1: And then when he's on the apps, like he doesn't 399 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:30,439 Speaker 1: feel a thing about it, Like is he just like 400 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:32,439 Speaker 1: fucked in the head or do you reckon? He like 401 00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:34,320 Speaker 1: really knows what he's doing, Like is he is he 402 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 1: manipulating you with the whole I've been cheated on, I 403 00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:39,159 Speaker 1: need trust in my relationship type thing, and then just 404 00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:39,880 Speaker 1: goes and does it. 405 00:19:39,960 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 2: Like what do you think guys? Well, most guys, do 406 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 2: you reckon? They know what girls want to hear and 407 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:50,520 Speaker 2: say it they do obviously, well yeah, some do, and 408 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:52,280 Speaker 2: then they don't act on it, like actions do speak 409 00:19:52,320 --> 00:19:53,879 Speaker 2: later than words. But like, do you reckon? Like do 410 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:55,920 Speaker 2: you know how all these people, all these guys don't 411 00:19:55,920 --> 00:19:57,680 Speaker 2: take girls on dates, don't open the door from them, 412 00:19:57,720 --> 00:19:59,680 Speaker 2: do you reckon? They know all these things, but they constantly 413 00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 2: choose just not to dorm and like he's consciously chose 414 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 2: to tell her what she wants to hear, obviously, and 415 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:08,719 Speaker 2: in the background he's not doing it. I don't think 416 00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:10,240 Speaker 2: that's what dudes do. That is what must be what 417 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:10,600 Speaker 2: they do. 418 00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:13,760 Speaker 1: I mean it has to be because anyone who knows 419 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:16,239 Speaker 1: how to talk is smart enough to know that what 420 00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:20,160 Speaker 1: they're doing is wrong. Yeah, Like you can't genuinely like 421 00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:23,320 Speaker 1: they must be. Yeah, they must just be fucking super 422 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 1: narcissistic and super selfish. I think they are super selfish. 423 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:29,919 Speaker 1: It comes down to like being mature. Yeah, and like 424 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:31,080 Speaker 1: some never grow out of it. 425 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 2: Man, but some people don't like realize the impact of 426 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,600 Speaker 2: their actions on other people's lives and emotions. Like this 427 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:38,560 Speaker 2: chick's obviously starting to fall heead of a heel. So 428 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:40,040 Speaker 2: this guy, oh yeah, and he's. 429 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:41,760 Speaker 1: Just like, oh yeah, I doesn't know, chick, I get 430 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:47,359 Speaker 1: to have sex with Itah. My sister watches a show, 431 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:52,120 Speaker 1: proper reality TV show, like these guys fucking are real 432 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:56,480 Speaker 1: human beings. Yeah, off camera they are like this really, 433 00:20:56,560 --> 00:21:01,960 Speaker 1: it's called vander Pump Rules. Oh my god, it's the 434 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:04,840 Speaker 1: hardest thing to watch in this fucking whole planet. Bro, 435 00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:07,440 Speaker 1: you just forget people like that. E. I don't even 436 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:09,040 Speaker 1: want to begin to explain to you what it's like, 437 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:11,840 Speaker 1: but I just want everyone out there, if you know 438 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:15,520 Speaker 1: what Vonderpunt Rules is, or if you if you have 439 00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:17,399 Speaker 1: time and feel like watching Vonda Punt Rules, just go 440 00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:20,960 Speaker 1: watch an episode. You're not gonna believe what you see. Really, 441 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:23,679 Speaker 1: I reckon you. Just go fuck it watch, just sit 442 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 1: through an episode, and you're gonna be like, holy fuck, 443 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:27,680 Speaker 1: I can't believe these people exist. Yeah. Well, that's the 444 00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 1: same thing with this guy. I can't believe people like 445 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:29,879 Speaker 1: that exist. 446 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:30,800 Speaker 3: Ah. 447 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:32,600 Speaker 1: God, I feel terrible for this girl. I think she 448 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 1: did a really good thing. Like she doesn't need our help. No, No, 449 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:36,399 Speaker 1: she's be ture enough to leave straight away. Didn't let 450 00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 1: him gas lighter. I think this gave him the benefit 451 00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:40,240 Speaker 1: of the doubt. This is a good dilemma to highlight 452 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:41,680 Speaker 1: how to act in this situation. 453 00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, because this situation would happen more than yeah, more 454 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:48,040 Speaker 3: than a handful of times in the world. It'd be reliable, 455 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:55,480 Speaker 3: So be like our dilemma, sender. Yeah, yeah, just fucking 456 00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:59,240 Speaker 3: shatter is eager make him believe he is what he 457 00:21:59,240 --> 00:21:59,800 Speaker 3: doesn't want to be. 458 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,800 Speaker 2: All right, Jake often on the potty. We got to 459 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:15,119 Speaker 2: think about topics and ideas for the pod that are relatable. Yes, 460 00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:17,359 Speaker 2: And sometimes I scratch my head. I'm like, funck, what 461 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:19,560 Speaker 2: do these people want to hear? What is relatable? 462 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:21,080 Speaker 1: And I was thinking to myself the other day, I 463 00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:22,919 Speaker 1: was just like, I'm always tired, an't I was. 464 00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 2: Thinking about ideas. I'm like, I'm always tired. In the 465 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,560 Speaker 2: after afternoon, I'm like, what's I. 466 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:28,439 Speaker 1: Was thinking, like, what's relatable? 467 00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:30,240 Speaker 2: What do people want to hear? I'm like, but why 468 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:31,560 Speaker 2: are we always so tired? 469 00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:32,399 Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay? 470 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:34,520 Speaker 2: And everyone always tells you like, oh, you're doing your 471 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:36,359 Speaker 2: phone too much, Like all we parents are. 472 00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:38,360 Speaker 1: Like that can't be it, that can't be. That can't 473 00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:40,600 Speaker 1: be the only thing that makes you. Yeah, like you're 474 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:41,440 Speaker 1: going your phone too much. 475 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:45,439 Speaker 2: So I've got why are we so tired? And it's 476 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 2: a very new study and it made a lot of 477 00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:51,239 Speaker 2: sense to me. So this is in reference to the 478 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:55,240 Speaker 2: Paris Brain Institute Johnny Harris video. If you want more details, 479 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:58,440 Speaker 2: I like that Paris Brain Institute sounds smart. Yeah yeah yeah, 480 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:01,680 Speaker 2: start off starts some fact. But I actually really like 481 00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:05,040 Speaker 2: these conversations because they're very smart and boring videos. But 482 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 2: they're dumb down, like we dumb them down to a 483 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,760 Speaker 2: conversation yeah, anyone else would have with their friends. So 484 00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:11,640 Speaker 2: I think the information is way easy to digest coming 485 00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:12,280 Speaker 2: from us, and. 486 00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 1: Like you're never going to fucking go look up at 487 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:18,720 Speaker 1: ted talk or something and then talk about it. 488 00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:24,120 Speaker 2: So I feel like the older we get, the afternoon slumps, 489 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:27,440 Speaker 2: get like way more tired and tired, and they start 490 00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 2: to hit. 491 00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:28,480 Speaker 1: Us way harder. 492 00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:32,760 Speaker 2: So it actually starts with the things we do throughout 493 00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,800 Speaker 2: the day, which makes a lot of sense. And on 494 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:38,399 Speaker 2: this potty we love to reference like primitive state and 495 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:42,240 Speaker 2: back in the caveman times, so let's start there. So 496 00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:45,680 Speaker 2: everything from the world has changed so much from caveman 497 00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:49,440 Speaker 2: times until now, but you know it stayed the same 498 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:54,600 Speaker 2: our brain, Yeah, boy, have stayed relatively the exact same 499 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:57,440 Speaker 2: from caveman to now. Yeah, but think about how much 500 00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:00,920 Speaker 2: the world's changed. So let's explo playing what I mean 501 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:04,320 Speaker 2: a little bit. So inside the brain, the prefrontal cortex 502 00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:07,000 Speaker 2: is the part of the brain used for decision making. 503 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:11,199 Speaker 2: So a caveman, for example, his day would consist of 504 00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:14,440 Speaker 2: waking up deciding where he not wants to have some berries, 505 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:17,440 Speaker 2: awesome meat, and then he would go pick his axe 506 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:19,639 Speaker 2: or his spear and go hunt. And that would be 507 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:23,720 Speaker 2: about the decision making as much as he does. Oh shit, okay, yeah, 508 00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,840 Speaker 2: that's all he got, fair good. He wouldn't have many 509 00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:26,840 Speaker 2: decisions to make at all. 510 00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:28,960 Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, that makes sense. Yeah, like fuck all. 511 00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:32,320 Speaker 2: Okay, And so his prefrontal cortex isn't pinging at all. 512 00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:33,639 Speaker 2: This is he's very relaxed. 513 00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:34,240 Speaker 1: He's been nice. 514 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:35,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, his brain's just chilling. 515 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:39,160 Speaker 1: Does anxiety exist, Yeah, So let's. 516 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:42,920 Speaker 2: Transport to like the nineteen hundreds, right, yeah, there's let's 517 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:45,280 Speaker 2: go into a day of like a normal factory worker. 518 00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:45,560 Speaker 1: Yep. 519 00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,760 Speaker 2: He'd wake up, he choose between bread and fruit. He'd 520 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:50,480 Speaker 2: go to work and work at a factory, do a 521 00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:54,120 Speaker 2: monotonous task, and same old thing like painting, the same thing. 522 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 2: Wouldn't be making too many decisions. He'd come home and 523 00:24:57,000 --> 00:25:00,560 Speaker 2: he wouldn't take work back to his family, make a 524 00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 2: couple of decisions. His prefrontal cortex would be pinging here 525 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:04,920 Speaker 2: and there. But at the end of the day, he's 526 00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:07,359 Speaker 2: pretty fine. Yeah, a little bit tire, a little bit stressed, 527 00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:11,280 Speaker 2: but yeah, eagle labor easy to recover, right, yep. But 528 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,400 Speaker 2: Let's take that cave man's brain, which is still our brain, 529 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:17,920 Speaker 2: and put him in twenty twenty four. Right, So our day, 530 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,000 Speaker 2: we wake up, go on our phone, check you liked 531 00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 2: our thing? Snapchat? See who's texted me back. Then we'll 532 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,160 Speaker 2: go buy something one line, and then we'll go pick food. 533 00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:27,080 Speaker 2: Which food we want to get? We want pories? Do 534 00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:29,679 Speaker 2: we want cereal? Do we want fucking avocado toast? Do 535 00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 2: we want post egg? 536 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:33,440 Speaker 1: Checking bank account? 537 00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,320 Speaker 2: Literally, there's so many decisions to be made, So by 538 00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:38,359 Speaker 2: nine o'clock in the morning, we've already made like one 539 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:41,440 Speaker 2: hundred decisions, which are complex, important decisions. 540 00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:41,800 Speaker 1: Yep. 541 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:46,479 Speaker 2: So our prefrontal cortex is going absolutely wild. And they 542 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:49,600 Speaker 2: estimate we make up to thirty five thousand decisions a day, 543 00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:53,879 Speaker 2: and two thousand of them decisions are about food alone. 544 00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:58,560 Speaker 2: What Yeah, which is crazy? I love food, Yeah exactly, 545 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:02,320 Speaker 2: There's so many choices. Now, whoa food alone? 546 00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:04,840 Speaker 1: But like, why are we so tired? 547 00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,080 Speaker 2: That's what we all want to know, And like we're 548 00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:09,400 Speaker 2: not obviously getting chased by bears or anything like these 549 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:11,760 Speaker 2: cave men are, But it's a different type of tiredness. 550 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 2: It's like a mental fatigue. So here's the answer. It's 551 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:18,000 Speaker 2: a complex problem, but a very simple solution that I 552 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:18,880 Speaker 2: know you're gonna love. 553 00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:20,919 Speaker 1: Ah. 554 00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:24,399 Speaker 2: So, when we make decisions, there's these electrical signals, like 555 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:28,359 Speaker 2: a pulse, traveling along these wires called neurons in our brain. 556 00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:30,880 Speaker 2: It's like a little spiderweb going on in there. There's 557 00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:33,280 Speaker 2: like one hundred billion of them making a giant network. 558 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,400 Speaker 2: But in order to send these chemicals to each other, 559 00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:40,399 Speaker 2: you need a very important chemical called glutamate. It's a 560 00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 2: neurotransmitter that helps everyone talk to each other. But after 561 00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:47,280 Speaker 2: you make these decisions, do you know what happens to 562 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:52,880 Speaker 2: the glutamate? It no, the opposite. Actually, the glutamate stays 563 00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:57,600 Speaker 2: around and clogs all these systems, making decision making getting 564 00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,720 Speaker 2: a lot harder and makes you feel this time fatigue 565 00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:04,280 Speaker 2: in your brain. Oh so you obviously you feel tired. 566 00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,320 Speaker 2: So how do you beat this afternoon slump? 567 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:07,919 Speaker 1: Nap? 568 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:12,720 Speaker 2: I love it, you've answered it and nap. And I've 569 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:16,200 Speaker 2: always been against naps just because you're told. Everyone's told 570 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:19,040 Speaker 2: like grind, grind, grind, sleeps for the sleep when you're dad. 571 00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:20,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, la la la la lah. 572 00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:23,920 Speaker 2: But there's actually a lot of science behind afternoon siestas. 573 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:27,600 Speaker 1: I'll tell you what, mate, Yes the guy, Yeah, yes, 574 00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:28,160 Speaker 1: the guy. 575 00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:31,160 Speaker 2: So anyone out there who can have an afternoon nap, 576 00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:33,840 Speaker 2: This resets the glutenan stores and they go back and 577 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:36,000 Speaker 2: you can come up fresher. But a lot of people 578 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:36,720 Speaker 2: can't nap. 579 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:37,480 Speaker 1: No. True. 580 00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:41,720 Speaker 2: So the simple solution is to limit your decision making 581 00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:45,920 Speaker 2: throughout the day. Oh okay, So it's as simple as 582 00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:48,800 Speaker 2: this is. A lot of successful people will actually do it. 583 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,159 Speaker 2: Meal prep throughout the week, yep. Don't have to have 584 00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:53,440 Speaker 2: any decisions about food, no yeah, oh yeah, true, there's 585 00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:58,080 Speaker 2: already decisions gone, two thousand gone. Pick your outfits on 586 00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:00,560 Speaker 2: the Sunday. And that's why you see all like the 587 00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,200 Speaker 2: Jeff Bezos, everyone wears the same clothes. 588 00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,040 Speaker 1: You know what's crazy is I've been thinking, like, hey, 589 00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,800 Speaker 1: we're lucky, and we've been getting sent lots of stuff. Yeah, 590 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 1: and so I chucked out lots of stuff and then 591 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:14,439 Speaker 1: I've refilled my wardrobe via getting sent stuff, which is 592 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:17,760 Speaker 1: like fucking awesome. I love it. But honestly, with so 593 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,880 Speaker 1: many options, I have so many options, and I want 594 00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:23,359 Speaker 1: to I just want to buy like five of the 595 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:26,440 Speaker 1: same T shirt, five of the same jumpers, five of 596 00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:28,280 Speaker 1: the same pants and wear the same thing every day. 597 00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:30,960 Speaker 2: It sounds like it must be nice, but that's so relatable. 598 00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:33,040 Speaker 2: Everyone has so many outfixed the pick and we're wasting 599 00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:36,120 Speaker 2: out energy on all these like on mundane things. Yeah, 600 00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:40,880 Speaker 2: which made so much sense to me. So finally, obviously, 601 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:43,600 Speaker 2: obviously you need really good sleep. And there's a couple 602 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,560 Speaker 2: of points they thought were very interesting. Most people know, 603 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:49,320 Speaker 2: but I'll say them anyway. So you need good sleep 604 00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:51,480 Speaker 2: obviously to clear all the toxins to build up throughout 605 00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:53,719 Speaker 2: the day, and most people before they go to bed 606 00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:58,239 Speaker 2: jump on Netflix, where they make more decisions. I can 607 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:00,600 Speaker 2: never pick a TV show, but then all so we 608 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:04,360 Speaker 2: mistake the TV screen as sun, which blocks our melatonin, 609 00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:08,360 Speaker 2: which is responsible from shifting our brains from wakefulness to sleep. 610 00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:13,120 Speaker 1: Yep. So it's very good to read, but overall, I. 611 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:14,880 Speaker 2: Feel like most people always say, like, you go on 612 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:18,120 Speaker 2: your phone too much, blah blah blah blah, But realistically 613 00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:20,239 Speaker 2: I feel like it's a much bigger problem with this 614 00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:25,280 Speaker 2: evolutional mismatch from our brain not developing and everything around 615 00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:28,440 Speaker 2: us developing so much that we can't keep up and 616 00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:31,200 Speaker 2: it causes this fatigue. And for me, I thought that 617 00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 2: was really relatable because I've shifted my day to day 618 00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:37,080 Speaker 2: life from being outside and maintaining gardens. They're spending a 619 00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:40,280 Speaker 2: lot of time in front of a computer and making 620 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,480 Speaker 2: it a lot of decisions with my mind. I feel 621 00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,120 Speaker 2: like everyone's job is getting paid to make decisions, and 622 00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:47,800 Speaker 2: they take all those decisions home with them and it's 623 00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:48,680 Speaker 2: hard to turn off. 624 00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:52,320 Speaker 1: Fuck bro, good point. When as you were saying that, 625 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:55,640 Speaker 1: I was thinking, like, you know what, like when we're 626 00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,240 Speaker 1: sitting there editing, or if someone's at work and they 627 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,080 Speaker 1: send a lot of emails or they just do in 628 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:01,960 Speaker 1: their job and stuff like like if you if you 629 00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:05,680 Speaker 1: priced building jobs, or if you fucking most secretariat at 630 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:08,160 Speaker 1: law firm, like those jobs are mental. Now, Yeah, like 631 00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:10,880 Speaker 1: thinking like in our instance, like I can straight away 632 00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,120 Speaker 1: think of all the decisions I'm making while editing. Yeah, 633 00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:14,720 Speaker 1: that won't be good in this that way, I'm going 634 00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:16,200 Speaker 1: to take that. I need to rearrange this. 635 00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 2: And while we're doing that relatable our phones buzzing and 636 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,520 Speaker 2: people wanting us to make decisions about other things going on. 637 00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:23,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, sign this contract? Do you want to do this 638 00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 1: video for this company? Which is whatever? Is lucky but 639 00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:27,720 Speaker 1: you know, and then yeah, you think about. 640 00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:30,840 Speaker 2: Like yo, and I'm way more like it sounds like 641 00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:33,120 Speaker 2: I don't know, maybe it sounds like we're preaching to 642 00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:35,640 Speaker 2: the choir, but like I'm way more tired doing this 643 00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,120 Speaker 2: with a mental strain than being like a gardener. 644 00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:41,320 Speaker 1: You know what's wild is I've I agree, but I've 645 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:44,480 Speaker 1: never wanted to voice it. Yeah, neither I feel I 646 00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 1: feel because I feel like I shouldn't. I feel like 647 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:50,640 Speaker 1: I shouldn't be like like I for some reason, I'm 648 00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 1: also way more tired doing what we're doing when I 649 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:54,360 Speaker 1: was relatable before. 650 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 2: The people in corporate job is making all these decisions. 651 00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:58,000 Speaker 2: They're in an office all day and then they come 652 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:00,680 Speaker 2: home to tradey husband and he's like, fuck them, Like 653 00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:04,600 Speaker 2: what pros some buttons all dough? Yes, but literally it 654 00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:06,960 Speaker 2: is it's this new mental fatigue, which I think is 655 00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:09,640 Speaker 2: a lot more fatiguing than the physical demands that jobs 656 00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:11,200 Speaker 2: used to be. And as soon as they come home 657 00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 2: they can turn off. They don't have to think about 658 00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:14,520 Speaker 2: fucking the wood they're going to cut tomorrow. 659 00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:17,760 Speaker 1: Do that? Fuck bro, Okay, this is good. This is 660 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 1: something to think about. Yeah, something about So if you're 661 00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:21,960 Speaker 1: it's just more steps that you can take. So it's like, 662 00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,480 Speaker 1: if you're constantly tired, you know, instead of going to 663 00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:26,760 Speaker 1: a doctor, you can start to think about, like, oh, well, 664 00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:28,800 Speaker 1: how many decision decisions am I making in a day? 665 00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:30,960 Speaker 1: Like I'm making a fuck time. If you're one of 666 00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:32,440 Speaker 1: those people that likes to be of different meal every 667 00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:36,240 Speaker 1: single meal, that sucks because that's a lot of decisions. 668 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:38,880 Speaker 1: You might be making four thousand decisions on food. 669 00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:40,400 Speaker 2: And it's sort of like it made me think, like 670 00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:42,320 Speaker 2: cutting out all the decisions I have in my life 671 00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:45,440 Speaker 2: which aren't important, like I easily do food, would I 672 00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:48,440 Speaker 2: address like the things I just scroll on TikTok and 673 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,200 Speaker 2: make decisions even when I go on Safari or something, 674 00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 2: I'm looking for things and making decisions which websites the best, 675 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:55,840 Speaker 2: like things like that. It's so simple. And the study 676 00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:58,480 Speaker 2: actually went into the effects of caffeine how that impacts 677 00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,720 Speaker 2: your tiredness, but I left that out because. 678 00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,479 Speaker 1: Well, I like caffeine a lot, like I like coffee 679 00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:07,280 Speaker 1: a lot. One thing I've learned about caffeine is that 680 00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:11,160 Speaker 1: it doesn't actually make you. It doesn't give you energy, 681 00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:15,600 Speaker 1: it blocks tiredness. Yeah, that's exactly what the study said. Shit, yeah, 682 00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:17,680 Speaker 1: you know what's funny is I mean I could drink 683 00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:21,400 Speaker 1: a coffee before bed and for asleep. I'm pretty certain 684 00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:22,880 Speaker 1: I have some sort of ADHD. 685 00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:24,800 Speaker 2: And he also goes into like you fall asleep being 686 00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:25,440 Speaker 2: not really sleeping. 687 00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:28,600 Speaker 1: Yes, because that's why, Like I've always thought like I 688 00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:30,480 Speaker 1: could have caffeine up until whenever I want, But I 689 00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:33,560 Speaker 1: don't have any caffeine until like at two pm. I'll 690 00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,600 Speaker 1: drink a coffee. No more caffeine after that, because I 691 00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:38,880 Speaker 1: do know that. Yeah, I can fall asleep, but is 692 00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:42,280 Speaker 1: my brain really sleeping? Yeah, your body's not actually resetting. 693 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:43,440 Speaker 1: That's so interesting, man. 694 00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:47,200 Speaker 2: I thought it was very just decisions and relatable. 695 00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:48,600 Speaker 1: It was a very new study. 696 00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:52,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's new information and it also it's I 697 00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:54,280 Speaker 2: think that it's relatable for us. Like people think I 698 00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:56,120 Speaker 2: can't complain about my job because that's fucking I'm in 699 00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:56,719 Speaker 2: an office all day. 700 00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:58,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like I'm sitting down all day. I do 701 00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:00,960 Speaker 1: a chill job. But it's this new mental fatigue that 702 00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:04,520 Speaker 1: people don't even know that exists. Yeah, yeah, that interesting. Interesting. 703 00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:05,880 Speaker 1: I want to know how they figure out what a 704 00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:09,400 Speaker 1: fucking glued to mean? Is what do you do to 705 00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:10,120 Speaker 1: figure it out out? 706 00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:14,640 Speaker 2: But interesting, that's one of our this is a new 707 00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:15,600 Speaker 2: thing we come to with. 708 00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:18,160 Speaker 1: I think we've done I think we've done stuff like 709 00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:20,800 Speaker 1: this before where we call it relatables university. Yeah, we've 710 00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:23,320 Speaker 1: done something before, were like, let's still a relatable university segment. 711 00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:27,160 Speaker 2: Who was an under relatible university? 712 00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:31,160 Speaker 1: Thirty thousand dollars give it to us the intro textbook. Yeah, 713 00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,320 Speaker 1: how to piss man off? Yeah, one hundred and nine 714 00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:35,440 Speaker 1: things to say, just shatter the male ego. 715 00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,240 Speaker 2: This is how we end the university. 716 00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:40,000 Speaker 1: This is how we ended the podcast last episode, how 717 00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,640 Speaker 1: we're going to end it every episode. This one is quote, 718 00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:47,280 Speaker 1: you're like the male Amy Schumer. I don't know what 719 00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:49,560 Speaker 1: that is. I mean, I don't mind if we don't know. 720 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:53,120 Speaker 1: He says a little blur up here. I'm not sure 721 00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:58,080 Speaker 1: what exactly Amy Schumer did to elicit such omnipresent rage, 722 00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:01,520 Speaker 1: but the male psyche he is to be allergic to 723 00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:04,560 Speaker 1: the very mention of her. I found this one to 724 00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:08,000 Speaker 1: be nearly successful one hundred percent of the time. When 725 00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:10,879 Speaker 1: he asks you why you said this, say, oh, it's 726 00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:13,720 Speaker 1: just like, I don't know. Something about your energy reminds 727 00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,080 Speaker 1: me of her. Okay, be helpful if we knew who 728 00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:17,560 Speaker 1: she was. Yeah, I mean I know who she is 729 00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:22,080 Speaker 1: and I am not gonna lie. Pisses me off, So 730 00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:23,880 Speaker 1: this would be a good one on me, like the 731 00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:26,440 Speaker 1: male Amy Schumer be like, because when I think of 732 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:29,480 Speaker 1: Amy Schumer, like she's probably super talented, right, but I'm 733 00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,640 Speaker 1: always like, why the fuck is she famous? This one 734 00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:34,560 Speaker 1: goes over my head. Yeah, maybe you'll get the next one. 735 00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:38,440 Speaker 2: Everybody, thank you for listening. You know what to do? 736 00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,839 Speaker 1: Facebook group? Five star? Oh yeah, five star Facebook group. 737 00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:42,400 Speaker 1: Do everything. 738 00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:44,680 Speaker 2: Patreon. We got an extra episode every week, which is 739 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:46,839 Speaker 2: an hour long. There's probably some more stuff you can 740 00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,440 Speaker 2: do just support us, but we love that. 741 00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:58,600 Speaker 1: Lovely bye.