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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: I'm quietly in support of this. So there's a wedding

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Speaker 2: that's taking place, and this woman has come out and said,

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Speaker 2: my cousin who's organizing the wedding, has sent letters to

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Speaker 2: those who are not invited to the wedding letting them

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Speaker 2: know they're not invited to the wedding. What what is it?

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Speaker 3: What are we talking about?

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Speaker 2: What is suggested that it's a semi remote wedding because

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Speaker 2: it's a five hour drive, so it's a bit out

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Speaker 2: of town, so you're going to have to stay at

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Speaker 2: the motel and make a nye of it. But they've

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Speaker 2: come out and said that because of the cost of

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Speaker 2: the wedding, per head equals per amount of dollars of course,

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Speaker 2: and therefore we've had to keep the wedding small and

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Speaker 2: we're then our budget so we can still celebrate the day.

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Speaker 4: Do you still put all the details of the wedding

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Speaker 4: three o'clock ceremony, make sure you're there early.

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Speaker 2: The gift registered.

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Speaker 4: But just this is the details of the wedding, but

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Speaker 4: just wanted to make sure and you'd have to put

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Speaker 4: it in bold letters.

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Speaker 3: You are not invited well, yeah, that's that's why you

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Speaker 3: shouldn't put the details fits because if they don't read

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Speaker 3: it properly and they scan it, it looks like an

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Speaker 3: invitation and they rock up.

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Speaker 4: On the day.

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Speaker 2: I've gone on to say that some people have described

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Speaker 2: this as very tacky and will only cause upset to

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Speaker 2: those not invited. But you know, there were people I

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Speaker 2: would have liked to have had to my wedding. Actually

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Speaker 2: I didn't have to the wedding, and I probably could

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Speaker 2: have dropped a note to them because I think they

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Speaker 2: would have expected to be there. Yeah, but how do

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Speaker 2: you give a true reason to somebody for why they're

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Speaker 2: not invited.

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Speaker 3: Well, you don't know.

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Speaker 2: What you say is something behind them.

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Speaker 3: I'd just say the idea of adults, regardless of the event,

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Speaker 3: whether it's a wedding or a kid's birthday or a dinner,

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Speaker 3: grow up everyone, if you're not invited, just corracked it. No,

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Speaker 3: it actually really irritates me because I know there's so

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Speaker 3: much gossip and back and forth and I didn't go,

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Speaker 3: and I'm not invited, and she said, and I went here,

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Speaker 3: and all this rubbish. If you're not invited, it's okay.

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Speaker 2: You wish you wish.

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Speaker 4: No, it's actually not your opportunity to tell us now

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Speaker 4: that your next one that we may not.

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Speaker 3: Be invited early married again except to me because I

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Speaker 3: am the true love.

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Speaker 1: Of my life.

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Speaker 4: This you are come along the.

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Speaker 2: Way, but was not invited. There was a guy. There

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Speaker 2: was a girl furious that she wasn't invited to my wedding.

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Speaker 2: And she's a friend. But here's the great thing. A

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Speaker 2: month earlier she got married and didn't invite me out

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Speaker 2: of spot. She had a small, one small wedding, and

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Speaker 2: then and then I had a larger wedding. And she said, well,

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Speaker 2: the numbers were so big, I thought I would have

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Speaker 2: been included in that one hundred and fifty. And I said,

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Speaker 2: what makes me so angry?

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Speaker 4: That's quite sad. If you're if you're having a conversation

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Speaker 4: with someone going, I thought I would have been in

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Speaker 4: you one hundred and fifty. There's you've got a few problems, And.

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Speaker 3: How do I say, I'm not like, I really hope

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Speaker 3: you have a nice day. I understand that I'm not there.

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Speaker 3: I'll be thinking of you have a great time to

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Speaker 3: move on. It's all to do with low self esteem.

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Speaker 2: He's how do I say to her, I would have

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Speaker 2: liked to invite you, but I didn't want to have

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Speaker 2: your husband because he's a loser.

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Speaker 4: Oh gosh, and also because you hooked up with her.

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Speaker 4: Let's Beck in Marrionville.

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Speaker 2: Bes Beck's given us a call.

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Speaker 4: You're all for the anti invite?

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Speaker 2: Beck?

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Speaker 4: You're into this?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm into it. I think it's completely scandalous, but

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Speaker 1: it's completely necessary at times.

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Speaker 2: Especially Yeah, yeah, Beck, So you would actually do you

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Speaker 2: think right to somebody explaining why they're not inviting.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you said, yeah, especially if you start to save

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Speaker 1: the gate of months ago and then well you know

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Speaker 1: things have changed or you know you've lost their friendship,

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Speaker 1: and so you need you need to send the anti invite.

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Speaker 2: So I'd like the idea of sending a don't save

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Speaker 2: the date.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not bad on the fifteenth, it's all yours. Actually,

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Speaker 4: it's given me ideas as well. I'm a couple of

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Speaker 4: years away from my fiftieth. Oh, Tommy, I might send

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Speaker 4: you an anti invite for get.

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Speaker 2: In early cancel, Tommy, great news, and a couple of

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Speaker 2: years you won't be invited to my fiftieth. I don't

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Speaker 2: want you there.

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Speaker 4: October sixteen, twenty twenty six. Just don't put maybe book

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Speaker 4: something in that weekend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, look you are and park? Hello, log hello, Loki.

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Speaker 1: Hey, here you going.

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Speaker 2: You're getting engay? You're getting engaged next month?

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I am.

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Speaker 3: Wow have you proposed or is this just the party?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: So it's coming up. No one knows. So yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: coming right around the corner.

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Speaker 2: Oh, this is so excited. So you've got the ring?

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Speaker 2: Have you look?

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Speaker 1: It's I've just pretty much got to pick it up

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Speaker 1: and designed. It's all good to go.

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Speaker 2: And how long have you been with the person of

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Speaker 2: your dreams?

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Speaker 1: Eight years?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Wow? Taking your time? How to think about it?

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Speaker 2: So what's their name?

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Speaker 3: I don't say the name because.

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Speaker 4: Justin engagement party, louc or you're just focused on the wedding.

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Speaker 1: Being Italian, you have to do an engagement party.

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Speaker 3: Unfortunately, this is the thing you can't avoid for inviting

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Speaker 3: you know, hundreds of people.

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Speaker 4: If you thought about this, you've thought about this. How

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Speaker 4: many an Italian family friends? How many do you think

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Speaker 4: you'll have at the wedding? Look around about.

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Speaker 1: See, this is the thing. I want to keep it

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Speaker 1: as well as possible. But is it possible?

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Speaker 3: You actually can you can, and don't worry about upsetting

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Speaker 3: your mother. Let her have a party in the backyard

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Speaker 3: another time.

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Speaker 2: Luke, can you just tell Kate? Can you give us

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Speaker 2: a bit of an idea about how you're going.

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Speaker 1: To do it?

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Speaker 2: Kate? He's just around about, like are you in a

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Speaker 2: do you want it to a park or is it

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Speaker 2: a restaurant or is there.

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Speaker 1: A special spot or to do it overseas you know,

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Speaker 1: somewhere around Europe. But yeah, it's just how expensive his

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Speaker 1: life these days, you know what I mean, it's just

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Speaker 1: so expensive.

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Speaker 2: Well, you can get the sex back if you take

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Speaker 2: the ring of Can you send me an anti invite?

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Speaker 2: I'd love to see the invites? And you're going for you, Lukes,

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Speaker 2: He's going to see it for you, buddy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, are you having a dessert buffet?

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Speaker 2: Whip will be there all right?

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, not not not not for him.

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Speaker 2: Unfortunately, have you got any single friends? Kate will be there?

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Speaker 1: Uh yeah, one or two, one or two.

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Speaker 3: And a ten?

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Speaker 1: Nice Italian boys always.

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Speaker 2: Thank you line them up, Lookie, thank you for the call, buddy.

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Speaker 3: What are you thinking about the Italian boys after the news?

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Speaker 2: Let the guys sleeping in the past you'll have a

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Speaker 2: crack after the news in whippers Kate. Ritchie is an

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