1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,360 Speaker 1: Fast forward a be and Max confesses to my boyfriend 2 00:00:02,400 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: that he and Sarah had been hooking up behind our backs. 3 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:05,280 Speaker 2: I was shocked. 4 00:00:05,760 --> 00:00:11,320 Speaker 3: Sadly, I'm not pokies. 5 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:16,119 Speaker 1: I'm still trying to figure out my weekly introduction to 6 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 1: say hello to you guys, you know. 7 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:18,200 Speaker 2: How, like. 8 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:23,920 Speaker 1: You know how like people call I don't think I'm 9 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:26,800 Speaker 1: not there yet, but like, you know, why not manifest 10 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 1: that it becomes so big that I get to call 11 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: you a fun name, you know how, like Lucy and 12 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:33,199 Speaker 1: Nikki call them the punchs. 13 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 3: Like I want a call name, Blake. What's a cool name? 14 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:41,720 Speaker 2: We need to work? Call them audis the Audi Audi belly? 15 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 3: Yeah? 16 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,240 Speaker 2: Or it makes you sound like the belly butter Yeah, 17 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 2: which isn't it's not it? Yeah, I don't want to 18 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 2: be an autie. No call her daddy has daddy gang, 19 00:00:53,159 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 2: But I don't like the word. 20 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 3: I think gang. It's like, what's daddy gang? It's like 21 00:00:58,080 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 3: calling you guys like girls squad? Yeah, what's up? Daddy gang? Yeah? 22 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:04,960 Speaker 2: Not it. I was going to like to hear me 23 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 2: out hooligans for that's all right. 24 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,319 Speaker 1: We're gonna pass that handle that off to you guys. Please, 25 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:14,479 Speaker 1: what's new in my life. I have Jackie Alexander's Hens 26 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 1: this weekend, which is going to be clazy. If anyone's 27 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 1: ever seen Jackie and I on a night out together, 28 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 1: it's it's a scene. 29 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,759 Speaker 2: And can we like draw back the curtain a little bit. Yeah, 30 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 2: we're hoping to get a recording in some scheduling dramas. 31 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: So hopefully we can get to miss Jackie on for 32 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 1: an episode. 33 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:37,319 Speaker 3: It'll probably be the next week's episode. 34 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, you'll be able to put your timerround. 35 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:41,320 Speaker 1: And we can give you guys a rundown of what 36 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: actually happened. But we're going to be sitting there with 37 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:45,400 Speaker 1: a bottle of wine because I feel like I have 38 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 1: to bribe her to be like, I'm really sorry, you 39 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: need to come on my podcast. Here's a bottle of wine. 40 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: But then we'll be able to tell you everything that happened. 41 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 1: And I can't fucking wait. There's themed nights. I have 42 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 1: spent more money on than I would have my own birth. 43 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: They're trying to find good outfits for this event. But 44 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: it's gonna be great and I can't fucking wait. I 45 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: also have a crush. 46 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 2: Oh wow, Hello. 47 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:21,640 Speaker 1: Hello, No, Hello, that sounded like James Charles. Hello, you 48 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: know what I'm talking about? 49 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Cardi b Win, she's in court. 50 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 3: Hello, I didn't hear that. Hang on, I've got to 51 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:28,639 Speaker 3: play the James Charles one. 52 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 2: We're in Africa and I got a frozen brown elephant, 53 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:36,920 Speaker 2: which is Coca Cola. Hello, Coca Cola. Hello. 54 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:43,080 Speaker 1: Anyway, I don't really have much else to say yet, like, 55 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 1: nothing interesting to update you guys with yet. I just 56 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: happened to have a crush right now and that's really 57 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:47,839 Speaker 1: fun because I never have one. 58 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 2: Am I allowed to like ask questions? Okay? 59 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 3: Anyway, that's all. That's my update. 60 00:02:55,160 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: I just I have a crush and it's exciting and 61 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:00,640 Speaker 1: it's fun, and well it's not exciting because fucking things happening, 62 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:04,520 Speaker 1: but it just gives me something fun to think about. Anyway, 63 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:08,679 Speaker 1: we have some funny hymiots, which is why we've got 64 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 1: like on mic again. I am really for you guys 65 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 1: trying to solo record, but it's not fun, do you 66 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: know what I mean? 67 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:19,679 Speaker 2: Like, I know people like, oh, he doesn't even have 68 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:20,639 Speaker 2: a podcast. 69 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 3: And bear in mind, I don't know how many people 70 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:25,959 Speaker 3: have said that, and there's maybe like one or two 71 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,640 Speaker 3: and it like catches on my mind, Like my brain's 72 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 3: really fucking ticking quickly today. 73 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 2: I feel it. 74 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 3: But I'm like, they're like, oh, like is he she 75 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 3: doesn't even really have her own podcast because look, she's 76 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 3: never like on her own, But I feel like to 77 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:42,559 Speaker 3: produce the best and most interesting content. 78 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 2: For you guys, it's nice to have someone to bounce off. 79 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: So it's like, and I have like sitting in front 80 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: of me all the time, and it's like talking to 81 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: myself without him responding isn't as fun. 82 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 2: No, And we make eye contacts so many times. 83 00:03:54,720 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, come on, yeah, so I'm trying, but I'm like, 84 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: I wouldn't know if you guys mind if it's like 85 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 1: a But then it's like the podcast is basically I 86 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 1: is I and Blake. I need to get you on 87 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:11,160 Speaker 1: the cover back at this rate. Fuck Okay, there's where 88 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 1: the problem comes in because you go and wanted to 89 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: do something on her own and doesn't seem like she 90 00:04:15,320 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 1: can and. 91 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:19,920 Speaker 2: I absolutely can. I just think it's a reaction based 92 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,920 Speaker 2: show and it's conversational. Yeah, and you very much leader, 93 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:27,360 Speaker 2: But like how fun is it to react to yourself? Yeah? 94 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: And it's like people send him funny hear me out 95 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 1: funny stories. It's like, I don't want to be all 96 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 1: shocked on my own. I like having someone to be 97 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: shocked with. 98 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 3: Anyway. 99 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:36,800 Speaker 1: Blake has had this hear me out and he's texting 100 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:39,600 Speaker 1: me about it. I reckon two weeks ago and has 101 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 1: been holding onto it, and I said, don't tell me, 102 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:41,839 Speaker 1: don't tell me. 103 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 3: I want to hear it while. 104 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 2: I've been brewing. All right, hear me out. Yeah, I 105 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:53,119 Speaker 2: will never change a car tire. Ever, why would you? Well, 106 00:04:53,240 --> 00:04:57,479 Speaker 2: like we got taught it in school? Why didn't really? No, 107 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 2: in Pe, I got taught well kind of we had 108 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 2: to do like homework. I think I was an assignment 109 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 2: and like you and I what the fun? We had 110 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 2: to take photos of ourself doing it. So I just 111 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:10,560 Speaker 2: let my dad do it and like and like little 112 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 2: not out of the closet. Yet I was like, let's 113 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 2: swap and you take the photo and protect. 114 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:18,040 Speaker 3: You know, we didn't learn that. 115 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 1: So I couldn't change a tire if you asked me 116 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: to because I haven't learned. 117 00:05:21,400 --> 00:05:24,359 Speaker 2: How to do it. But like everyone is expected to know. 118 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 2: I think that is day no. 119 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 3: I can say. 120 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:29,720 Speaker 1: I don't even reckon the boys schools in my area, 121 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:31,400 Speaker 1: I would have learned how to change a tire. 122 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 2: Well, that's validating. I came from the country, so I'm like, 123 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:36,599 Speaker 2: maybe that's I know for sure the girls schools didn't. 124 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 2: But no. It was absolutely like insinuated that everyone should 125 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:42,160 Speaker 2: know how to change the car tire and if you're 126 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 2: in that situation, you can fix it. 127 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:44,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. 128 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:47,359 Speaker 1: But I would hope that whoever I end up dating, 129 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 1: if we break down on the side of. 130 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:50,479 Speaker 3: The road, knows how to change the tire. 131 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. 132 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: And if they said no, we have to call it 133 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 1: toe guy, I'll be like, dude, really, I've just dried. 134 00:05:57,640 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 2: Up, shameful for you. 135 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 3: For you, Why didn't you learn it in school? 136 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 2: Yeah? No, it just never sat right with me. I 137 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:09,159 Speaker 2: didn't even care. Do you think it makes a difference 138 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:14,239 Speaker 2: that you're gay? Yeah, I think I can get it. 139 00:06:14,360 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 2: I'm like, I think I can get away with it 140 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 2: a bit more. Yeah then the average Joe, the straight. 141 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:21,840 Speaker 1: I want to know if straight men feel similarly about like, 142 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 1: fuck that I'm not changing attire. 143 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, and if you do, I'll validate you till the 144 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 2: couch come home. 145 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:28,359 Speaker 1: That's what I think I want to know, because I 146 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 1: think there could be variables female and a gay guy. Yeah, 147 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 1: we don't want to fucking touch that shit. Like all 148 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:39,480 Speaker 1: the girls were putting the snow chains. Sorry, that was 149 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:41,680 Speaker 1: a really big generalization. I just know that Blake doesn't 150 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: want to touch you. When we were going up the 151 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 1: mountain in New Zealand and we had to get snow chains, 152 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 1: the girls are taking the snow chains on that we 153 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:53,359 Speaker 1: didn't put them on because we couldn't do it ourselves. 154 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 1: When we had to come back down the mountain, there 155 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:56,480 Speaker 1: was no one there, so we had to take them off. 156 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:58,840 Speaker 3: You best believe I stood watch. 157 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 2: I just stood watch. I'll make sure no one comes. 158 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:06,200 Speaker 1: Tessa, Riley and Chrissy all lesbians, very much well on 159 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: their hands and knees changing those snow chains. I was 160 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 1: standing back with my gloves on, making sure that everything 161 00:07:12,200 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: was going smoothly. 162 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, like, move forward a little bit, moved back a 163 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:15,680 Speaker 3: little bit. 164 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, you don't need three got four girls to 165 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: take snow chain off. 166 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 2: Too many cooks in, too many cooks in the kitchen. 167 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 3: I will stand back. 168 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: But like I had no desire, no instinct, and none 169 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 1: of them asked me to do it. 170 00:07:26,080 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 3: They were all just like, we'll do it. 171 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, they just knew. My thing is, I'm surprised 172 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 2: Chrissy got down in there. I think. My thing is, 173 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 2: I just find it dangerous to expect me to change 174 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 2: a car. 175 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 3: Tire and then start driving on it with. 176 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 2: Other drivers around. I'm like, okay, could put my life 177 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 2: at risk, but God knows who I'm on the road with, Like, 178 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 2: I can't be expected to let my tire run loose 179 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 2: on the road. 180 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 3: I'm being completely honest with you. 181 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever successfully filled my tire with air. 182 00:07:55,880 --> 00:07:59,720 Speaker 1: I only learned, like I reckon four months ago because 183 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 1: I had, like, I had a signal on my car 184 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: that said, like, your tire, one of the back tire 185 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:08,800 Speaker 1: is flat, and I left it for nine months. I'm 186 00:08:08,840 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 1: not joking you, because when I think, oh it's got 187 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:12,720 Speaker 1: a little bit the air pressures off, I think it's 188 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:14,600 Speaker 1: not flat. There's just a little bit less error there, 189 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 1: like all as well. And then some man like banged 190 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: on my door while I was parked around with like 191 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 1: your back tire is like really flat, girl, Like you 192 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: need to fix that, and. 193 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 2: I'm like that's what. 194 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, So I booked in to get a change, and 195 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 1: then I was like, I really shouldn't be driving around 196 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:30,120 Speaker 1: on this anymore, even though I have been doing so. 197 00:08:31,600 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 3: I FaceTime my mom. 198 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:34,360 Speaker 1: I was in like a white track suit set and 199 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, it was raining and I filled up. 200 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 3: With air, but then the signal never went off. 201 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:42,080 Speaker 1: So I'm like, I don't even think I did that right, 202 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: and I've done it twice now and then the signal 203 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: just stays on. 204 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:47,320 Speaker 3: So I'm like, I think I'm just not doing it correctly. 205 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 3: But I don't need to. I just need to find 206 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 3: a boyfriend. 207 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:53,959 Speaker 2: Literally, I get to do this all and on to 208 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:56,520 Speaker 2: my next point. I hope you relate to this, otherwise 209 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 2: I would just sound dumb. Yeah, you know, I don't. 210 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 2: I'm nervous. You know the water that you like clean 211 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 2: your windows with in your car, the front water. Mine's 212 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 2: been out for a long time. 213 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:13,679 Speaker 1: Yeah, I wouldn't fill it out myself. My dad fills 214 00:09:13,679 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 1: it up for me. But it's like it will be 215 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: out for a while, but then it's like if the 216 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: windowscreen gets really dirty, I'll be like, Dad, don't need. 217 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 2: Mine's so dirty right now, Like of a morning I'm driving, 218 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't really. 219 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:26,080 Speaker 1: Know, right, Like my dad wants me to learn like 220 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: he's like, come and watch me do this. I have 221 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:31,120 Speaker 1: watched him do it. Did I retain any of that information? 222 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 2: No? No, And then I'm scared, here comes today. I 223 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,200 Speaker 2: need to do it, and I put water in the 224 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 2: oil path or something I. 225 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:43,040 Speaker 1: Feel like from recollection it's actually quite visually obviously, yeah 226 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:43,560 Speaker 1: I don't. 227 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 3: But I'm like, what do I just put pump a couple. 228 00:09:48,320 --> 00:09:48,840 Speaker 2: That bad boy? 229 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 3: Like? 230 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:50,160 Speaker 2: I don't have that shit. 231 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:54,400 Speaker 1: This is why I like, yeah, I maybe do need 232 00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 1: a man in my life. I can do a lot 233 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:57,560 Speaker 1: of things on my own, and I have been doing so, 234 00:09:57,679 --> 00:10:00,079 Speaker 1: and I'm very blessed and lucky that my dad will 235 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:03,120 Speaker 1: help me. But I'm like, I would like to have 236 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 1: a boyfriend that I can just be like, hey mate, 237 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:08,800 Speaker 1: it's empty, fill it up, please. 238 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 2: Thank you. We can't do it all. We can't, and 239 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 2: I do so much. 240 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:15,679 Speaker 3: I go past her every night. 241 00:10:15,840 --> 00:10:18,840 Speaker 2: This is sparked of really random memory, but I remember 242 00:10:18,880 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 2: actually Christina posted a TikTok one especially it's one of 243 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:26,320 Speaker 2: my favorite video. She praanked her girlfriend Leash, pretending she 244 00:10:26,360 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 2: put olive. 245 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:30,080 Speaker 1: Oil olive oil into the oil in the car, and 246 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:33,440 Speaker 1: the funny thing was she's actually got these olive oil 247 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:35,719 Speaker 1: bottles with her so she could FaceTime her partner. She 248 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:38,320 Speaker 1: committed her the actual olive oil was empty, like just 249 00:10:38,360 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 1: in their house. I asked her about all of this 250 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 1: because when I was sharing a room with her in 251 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:44,680 Speaker 1: New Zealand, I spent our recond three hours going through 252 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 1: the playlist where she pranks her girlfriend. 253 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:48,079 Speaker 2: It's my favorite, it's my. 254 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:49,680 Speaker 3: Favorite thing ever. It's actually really funny. 255 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 2: You should look at it. 256 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:54,960 Speaker 1: And she's got garlic and chili olive oil with her too, 257 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:56,839 Speaker 1: and was like, oh, this one run out, so I 258 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: put a little bit of this one in there too, 259 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 1: like and lish she's like the way she's such a 260 00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:05,599 Speaker 1: good actress with it, like it's not break. 261 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 2: At all, and like she keeps the laughs quiet. 262 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, she barely even laughs. And then lee She's like, 263 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 1: do not fucking drive that car. You've ruined it. You've 264 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: ruined it. It goes up for like four minutes. It's 265 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:18,080 Speaker 1: really funny, So I think you should watch it. 266 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 2: You're hear me out though, oh my, hear me out. 267 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 1: It's a bit of a it's running off what I 268 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 1: heard someone say on a podcast recently. I don't remember 269 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 1: what podcast it was, Anyway, This girl was on this 270 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 1: podcast and she said all men should be born into 271 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:35,840 Speaker 1: prison and have to prove themselves out. 272 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 2: Damn thoughts, I like that you're a man. Yeah, but 273 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 2: he'll prove himself out, oh within minutes. All the moms 274 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:46,319 Speaker 2: love me. Yeah. 275 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: I think it's a bit hectic to have then a 276 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:52,960 Speaker 1: child like obviously, this is where imagining, yes the case, okay, 277 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:56,559 Speaker 1: guys to be born into prison, in order to have 278 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: to prove yourself out, you would have to like grow 279 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:00,439 Speaker 1: up a little bit, meaning your first couple of years 280 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:02,480 Speaker 1: of life or however long would be in prison. 281 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:04,760 Speaker 3: I don't think that that is reasonable. 282 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: I think that at the age of like thirteen, they 283 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:13,360 Speaker 1: get put into prison and they then have to do 284 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:17,000 Speaker 1: a couple vigorous tests in order to either you stay 285 00:12:17,120 --> 00:12:18,560 Speaker 1: for the day and you do a bit of testing 286 00:12:18,559 --> 00:12:22,000 Speaker 1: and you get to leave, or you're in there then yeah. 287 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:24,840 Speaker 2: My only like what I will poke holes in here 288 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 2: is yeah, they're then raised around solely other men, Like 289 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 2: we have shitty men in our lives. 290 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 3: Now, that's what I'm saying. They're not raised around men. 291 00:12:34,840 --> 00:12:36,960 Speaker 1: They're raised outside of I'm saying they should be raised 292 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 1: outside of prison, and then when they hit like yo, 293 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:41,760 Speaker 1: they go to do some testing to decide whether they're 294 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: gone to be a problem, very rigorous AI testing. I 295 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:47,559 Speaker 1: don't know what kind of tests you do to figure 296 00:12:47,559 --> 00:12:50,200 Speaker 1: out the AI testing, you know what I mean, Like 297 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:52,280 Speaker 1: something that figures out like how their brain actually works 298 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:54,040 Speaker 1: and whether they're going to be a problem when they're older. 299 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:55,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, like I. 300 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:58,520 Speaker 1: Would say eighteen, but some teenage just funck shit up. 301 00:12:58,559 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 3: So I'm like, they need to be a bit younger. 302 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:01,440 Speaker 2: And my kids are getting scarier. 303 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 1: It's getting way scarier. I'm like, you should see photos. 304 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:09,840 Speaker 1: Someone was a Legre's sister. She's not scary, this doesn't 305 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 1: but she has a boyfriend in the year above her 306 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:14,640 Speaker 1: and she's in your six and no boyfriends in year seven, 307 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:16,839 Speaker 1: and I'm like wow, Like she would be the talk 308 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:18,760 Speaker 1: at the fucking town, like the coolest chick out, like 309 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: dating a boy in the year above. 310 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 2: At that age, I. 311 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:24,720 Speaker 1: Was wearing purple, fucking skin tight skinny jeans that had 312 00:13:24,760 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 1: to shine on them and a yellow long sleeved top 313 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:29,120 Speaker 1: with a rose vest on. 314 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:30,840 Speaker 2: I remember it specifically in your seven. 315 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:34,400 Speaker 3: At that age, I'm like, the people the way that 316 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:35,280 Speaker 3: they're growing up. 317 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:39,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, makeup. They all look like eighteen year old. No 318 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:39,840 Speaker 2: they do. 319 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:43,960 Speaker 1: It's confusing for me, it's quite scary. I was lich, 320 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 1: I was like the biggest dork if you looked even 321 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:47,560 Speaker 1: if you look at my photos when I'm fucking like 322 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:52,520 Speaker 1: fifteen and I'm I'm like, ew, yeah, these girls, like 323 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:54,200 Speaker 1: the fifteen year olds I see on TikTok, I'm like, 324 00:13:54,320 --> 00:13:56,000 Speaker 1: you look my age and you're hot. 325 00:13:56,480 --> 00:13:59,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, not the boys. I mean the girls are hot 326 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 2: and mine is like your beautiful girl. Yeah. I just 327 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:06,199 Speaker 2: think they're also so privileged with social media, like they 328 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:07,840 Speaker 2: watched our older siblings or just. 329 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:10,119 Speaker 3: They see what looks good already because they. 330 00:14:09,880 --> 00:14:12,800 Speaker 2: Have so much more access. Like what were we going 331 00:14:12,840 --> 00:14:15,320 Speaker 2: off what we liked on the latest TV show? 332 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: Or like the and like they really dressed like Miley 333 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 1: Sarah's up like freak, like the shit that they wear 334 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: back in the day, do you know what I mean? 335 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:23,160 Speaker 2: Like that's what we would base it. 336 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 1: Off, like Hannah Montana, fucking I Carli God. 337 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 2: I love those shows. 338 00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:33,280 Speaker 1: Take me back so when I could watch Victorious and 339 00:14:33,360 --> 00:14:38,280 Speaker 1: I Cali and Anamantanna all day. Okay, guys, so we 340 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 1: have actually an exciting little thing this week. 341 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:43,400 Speaker 3: Last time we did dilemmas. 342 00:14:43,560 --> 00:14:45,760 Speaker 1: There was a dilemma with a girl and she was 343 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:47,360 Speaker 1: working at a footy club and there was a guy 344 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:49,280 Speaker 1: she really liked. She didn't know if he felt the 345 00:14:49,320 --> 00:14:52,880 Speaker 1: same or if it was just friendliness. And I think 346 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 1: I said to like, like one of his stories or 347 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:57,400 Speaker 1: interact that way and see if you like ask questions 348 00:14:57,520 --> 00:15:00,720 Speaker 1: or something like that. I said, update, let me know 349 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: how you go. She's actually written us a continuation to 350 00:15:03,960 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 1: let us know how it all went. This is so fun. 351 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 1: This is the first time anyone's given us an update. 352 00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:09,280 Speaker 1: I love this shit. 353 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:12,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, people, please keep doing this. Thank you, even if 354 00:15:12,120 --> 00:15:13,200 Speaker 2: it turns into a new problem. 355 00:15:13,280 --> 00:15:16,800 Speaker 3: Send us more problems the better girl. Okay, so this 356 00:15:16,840 --> 00:15:18,160 Speaker 3: is a follow up help me out. 357 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:20,400 Speaker 1: I wrote him for the first one about my crush 358 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 1: at the football club and have updates and need advice. Also, 359 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 1: I've decided to give him a name, as it's always 360 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:28,920 Speaker 1: more fun like that, so let's call him Luke. So 361 00:15:29,080 --> 00:15:31,320 Speaker 1: it was presentation night on Saturday night, and it was 362 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: my first time seeing Luke since the season ended. 363 00:15:33,920 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 2: I was very excited. 364 00:15:35,400 --> 00:15:37,400 Speaker 1: Since I last wrote in, I had decided to back 365 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 1: away a little bit just because I think I was 366 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:41,680 Speaker 1: scared of getting hurt. And then footy ended, so I 367 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:44,359 Speaker 1: went from seeing Luke twice a week, sometimes three. 368 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 2: To not at all. 369 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:48,480 Speaker 1: Anyway, I get to presentation night and he's complimenting me heaps. 370 00:15:48,760 --> 00:15:54,600 Speaker 1: Ah always compliments me and everything. It's clearly very flirty, 371 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:55,920 Speaker 1: and honestly was so much fun. 372 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:57,200 Speaker 3: Dude, this boy likes you. 373 00:15:57,720 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 2: He likes you. 374 00:15:58,480 --> 00:15:59,640 Speaker 3: Oh no, like's giving me. 375 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:05,080 Speaker 1: Eyes About midway through the night, Luke, Luke asks wait 376 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:06,640 Speaker 1: about medwe through the night, Luke asked you to go 377 00:16:06,640 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 1: on the balcony with him, away from. 378 00:16:07,920 --> 00:16:09,720 Speaker 3: Everyone, and when I went, he kissed me. 379 00:16:10,760 --> 00:16:12,920 Speaker 1: I was so excited and happy and felt like I'd 380 00:16:12,960 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 1: achieved my mission. The rest of the night was full 381 00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 1: of quick kisses, compliments, and so much fun. 382 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:18,560 Speaker 2: Dude. 383 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:20,760 Speaker 3: I have one of those nights the other night, and. 384 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 2: It's actually so much fun. I love. 385 00:16:23,680 --> 00:16:25,520 Speaker 3: I love when it's just like great, like you just 386 00:16:25,560 --> 00:16:26,760 Speaker 3: have like a buddy for the night. 387 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 2: You know what I mean, A hobby for the night. 388 00:16:29,080 --> 00:16:32,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, a hobby, said a buddy. But that's okay. 389 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: I woke up the next morning after stumbling home from 390 00:16:34,920 --> 00:16:37,680 Speaker 1: kick ons at four am. You're only going once, right, girl, 391 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:40,880 Speaker 1: I feel that I'm waking up feeling like it isn't real. 392 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:43,600 Speaker 1: Here's my issue. I woke up and forgot about the 393 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 1: number of embarrassing texts I sent him on Snapchat. Girl, 394 00:16:48,040 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 1: I'm a drunk text I feel your fucking pain. Usually 395 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:53,120 Speaker 1: it tends to happen with someone that I haven't seen, though, 396 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 1: Like I'm usually not luckily enough one that like will 397 00:16:56,400 --> 00:16:57,960 Speaker 1: follow up with someone I've just been with. 398 00:16:58,120 --> 00:16:58,840 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 399 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 1: It'll be someone I like want to be around and 400 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 1: they're not where I am. 401 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:07,520 Speaker 2: Mine's always someone from the past. It's just like nothing 402 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:09,760 Speaker 2: against someone like we just don't need to catch up. 403 00:17:09,760 --> 00:17:11,920 Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, I haven't heard from you for three years, 404 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:13,240 Speaker 2: what's news? 405 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:14,639 Speaker 3: I know you hate Snapchat? 406 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:18,120 Speaker 2: I love. Everyone just knows I fucking hate and they apologize. 407 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:23,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, it's okay. And honestly, after this night, I 408 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 1: think I'm forever scarred. Let's just say the cool girl 409 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:27,639 Speaker 1: who cares attitude. 410 00:17:27,119 --> 00:17:29,240 Speaker 3: It was gone. I was being needy and annoying. 411 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 1: I don't even remember sending the messages, and honestly, it's 412 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:33,920 Speaker 1: so embarrassing I'm not even going to write them out. 413 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:36,560 Speaker 1: I wonder if she can see them, because you know, 414 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 1: how Snapchat deletes messages. But now is it like a 415 00:17:38,520 --> 00:17:41,000 Speaker 1: twenty four hour thing where they stay unless you want 416 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 1: them to? 417 00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:43,080 Speaker 2: Deley true, I think you can change that. 418 00:17:43,320 --> 00:17:45,119 Speaker 1: You would almost prefer that they were gone, Like you 419 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:46,679 Speaker 1: know that they were there and you know that they 420 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:48,639 Speaker 1: were said, but you're like, I don't quite remember what 421 00:17:48,720 --> 00:17:49,639 Speaker 1: was said, So it's fine. 422 00:17:49,760 --> 00:17:52,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's it also stays there so you 423 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:54,919 Speaker 2: can like read it once. It's like, oh, yeah, I 424 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:55,359 Speaker 2: sent that. 425 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:58,480 Speaker 3: See drunk text on Snapchat's probably a good shot because 426 00:17:58,480 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 3: it goes away. 427 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:01,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, but I sort of have woken up and like 428 00:18:01,400 --> 00:18:02,080 Speaker 2: write at once. 429 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:05,080 Speaker 1: Oh, when you're like kind of awake, you're like should 430 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:06,959 Speaker 1: I wake up just yet? And then you check your 431 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 1: phone you're really hungover, and then you read like all 432 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:11,199 Speaker 1: these I hate. There's nothing worse than me checking my 433 00:18:11,240 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 1: phone after a big night and then I'm like I 434 00:18:14,119 --> 00:18:16,040 Speaker 1: just put the phone down and I'm like, no, I'm 435 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:17,960 Speaker 1: gonna sleep. Broke up on more else. I can't face 436 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:21,199 Speaker 1: that just yet. We briefly chatted the next day and 437 00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:23,200 Speaker 1: he left me on open. I've talked to my friends 438 00:18:23,240 --> 00:18:25,639 Speaker 1: about it, and they're split. On one hand, we had 439 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:27,920 Speaker 1: a great night Saturday, night. Maybe that's all it needed 440 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:30,399 Speaker 1: to be. On the other hand, he did leave me 441 00:18:30,440 --> 00:18:34,240 Speaker 1: unopen unless he's also a snapchat hater. I'm also confused 442 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 1: because I think I like him, but clearly he isn't 443 00:18:36,359 --> 00:18:38,919 Speaker 1: interested in the same way. That's not true, that is 444 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:41,920 Speaker 1: not clear, but in person it was a different vibe. 445 00:18:42,040 --> 00:18:44,159 Speaker 1: Some friends think maybe he's just not a textar, but 446 00:18:44,200 --> 00:18:46,119 Speaker 1: I'm a believer in that men of simple creatures and 447 00:18:46,119 --> 00:18:48,639 Speaker 1: if he wanted to text me he would. At presentation, 448 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:52,160 Speaker 1: I didn't initiate everything. Every compliment was him. He leaned 449 00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 1: him first to all of it. So I don't know 450 00:18:54,040 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 1: where to go from him. Also, I won't see him 451 00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:58,679 Speaker 1: again until next year when foot he starts fuck, so I'm. 452 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:01,119 Speaker 3: A bit unsure on what to do. Sorry for rambling. 453 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:01,440 Speaker 3: Love you. 454 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:03,680 Speaker 1: Also, baby blue looks amazing on you, and I wanted 455 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 1: to pass. 456 00:19:04,040 --> 00:19:06,679 Speaker 2: The compliment on that's so nice, and he did not 457 00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 2: read that. 458 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:07,639 Speaker 3: That's so sweet. 459 00:19:07,720 --> 00:19:10,240 Speaker 1: Everyone's yeah, I don't know why, but I always thought 460 00:19:10,280 --> 00:19:12,400 Speaker 1: green was more my color. But everyone I've been wearing 461 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:13,760 Speaker 1: a lot of blue recently, and everyone's like, blue is 462 00:19:13,800 --> 00:19:14,200 Speaker 1: your colored? 463 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 2: Girl, Baby blue girl, thank you, thank you. 464 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:20,399 Speaker 1: I don't think leaving someone on open is like a 465 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:23,680 Speaker 1: huge problem some people. You know how there's I think 466 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:25,760 Speaker 1: there's two types of conversations. There's either the ones that 467 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:28,679 Speaker 1: just constantly continue on and you never really finish the convo, 468 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:29,479 Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? 469 00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:31,480 Speaker 3: There's never any hello or goodbye or good night. 470 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:33,560 Speaker 1: It's just like I'll go to sleep now and I'll 471 00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: respond to that in the morning. All those people that 472 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:38,400 Speaker 1: have those chats that kind of start up and end 473 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 1: every do you know what I mean, that need to 474 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:42,720 Speaker 1: be helloed and goodbye? 475 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:45,160 Speaker 3: I would say, don't just leave it there. He left 476 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:45,640 Speaker 3: you on open. 477 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:48,719 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's kind of annoying, but like that happens 478 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:50,479 Speaker 1: sometimes I leave people on open. But then if they 479 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:52,480 Speaker 1: text you the next day, I'll respond. You know what 480 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just like done with that conversation for now. 481 00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 1: I would definitely message him again and just see the 482 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:03,159 Speaker 1: on that conversation because he's kissed you, he's lent in, 483 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:04,000 Speaker 1: he's initiated it. 484 00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:04,240 Speaker 3: Great. 485 00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:05,639 Speaker 1: He was at his footy night. He could have had 486 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:07,760 Speaker 1: a night with all the boys. No, he wanted to 487 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:09,680 Speaker 1: have a night with you. And I feel like people don't. 488 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:14,480 Speaker 3: Boys are fucked though, Like it's like there's those things 489 00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:16,880 Speaker 3: where it's like, oh, they'll be like, we'll be lying 490 00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:18,399 Speaker 3: in bed and they'll give me four head kisses and 491 00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:20,560 Speaker 3: then they just like, won't ever text me ever again. 492 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:23,280 Speaker 3: I'm like, I actually don't really know, but I would say, 493 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:26,640 Speaker 3: don't leave it here. You need to at least try 494 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:29,240 Speaker 3: and initiare another conversation. See how it goes from there. 495 00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:31,560 Speaker 3: If he's replying, if he's asking questions. 496 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:34,120 Speaker 1: I do not think there's any shame in a girl 497 00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: saying would you want to get a drink? No, Sometimes 498 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:38,879 Speaker 1: the boy might not know you're interested, might not know 499 00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:42,359 Speaker 1: you want to. Like I have asked boys out many 500 00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 1: a times, I have no fucking shame in it. I 501 00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:47,760 Speaker 1: think it's attractive and confident and like sometimes they might 502 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:49,120 Speaker 1: not think that I would want to go, so they're 503 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:51,679 Speaker 1: not gonna ask me, you know what I mean. So 504 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:54,480 Speaker 1: I think just text him again, see if it flows. 505 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:56,920 Speaker 1: See if he's asking you questions to continue the conversation, 506 00:20:57,400 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 1: and if you want to get a drink with the boy, 507 00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:00,840 Speaker 1: fucking ask him. And if he says, oh, well, you're 508 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:03,040 Speaker 1: back to what you started, you know what I mean. 509 00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:04,880 Speaker 1: At this point, you've got nothing to lose because you're 510 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:08,040 Speaker 1: contemplating even not messaging him again. So so what if 511 00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:10,440 Speaker 1: one more conversation ends in being left on open. It's 512 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:11,720 Speaker 1: like boohoo, doesn't matter. 513 00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:13,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I get it stings a little bit it 514 00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,240 Speaker 2: does be left on rad. But I think he needed 515 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:18,200 Speaker 2: more from him than he needed from you in that moment, 516 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:21,040 Speaker 2: because you were anxious, you were worried about what you said. 517 00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:23,399 Speaker 2: He might even be sweating it. He just had a 518 00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:25,120 Speaker 2: great night with you, and he's like, what's the issue? 519 00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:28,359 Speaker 2: Probably hungover as well, Probably hung over. Yeah, just message 520 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:32,119 Speaker 2: him again, please and send another update follow up? 521 00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 3: Thank Hi? Is I and Blake A. 522 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:42,080 Speaker 1: Been loving the podcast recently and I've been wanting to 523 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:43,520 Speaker 1: submit this to eleven for a while but it was 524 00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 1: too nervying. Thank you for overcoming the nerves. So basically, 525 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:49,879 Speaker 1: a few months ago, my two best friends, let's call 526 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 1: them Bella and Sarah, met these two guys, my now 527 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:55,240 Speaker 1: boyfriend and Max. 528 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:55,639 Speaker 2: His best friend. 529 00:21:55,840 --> 00:21:58,959 Speaker 1: Okay, Bella and Max hit it off right away, and 530 00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:01,480 Speaker 1: so did my now boyfriend and me. So there's three 531 00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:03,800 Speaker 1: girls in the picture, her and two of her best friends, 532 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:07,560 Speaker 1: then this chick's boyfriend and the best friend Max. 533 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:10,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, we'd hang out all the time. 534 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 1: Vibe was great, and we've all bonded over our first 535 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:16,200 Speaker 1: relationships together, which brought Bella and me even closer as friends. 536 00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:17,639 Speaker 2: It was like the perfect little squad. 537 00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:20,959 Speaker 1: Everything seemed great for a while, but then Sarah and 538 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:23,760 Speaker 1: Max started hanging out without the rest of us. 539 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:26,480 Speaker 3: I thought Bella and Max hit it off. 540 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:29,800 Speaker 2: They absolutely did. They did read it. 541 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:32,000 Speaker 1: At first, we didn't think much of it. We just 542 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,560 Speaker 1: figured they're becoming closer. But Bella and I couldn't help 543 00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:36,439 Speaker 1: but notice the late night text and how they'd go 544 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:40,920 Speaker 1: out without us. Bruh, Max is dodgy, go find someone 545 00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,320 Speaker 1: outside of the friendship group mate. We didn't want to 546 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 1: jump to conclusions, especially with how close we all were, 547 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:47,399 Speaker 1: but we trusted the girl code because there was no 548 00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 1: way anything bad could happen. 549 00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:50,840 Speaker 3: Right fast forward. 550 00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:52,480 Speaker 1: A bit and Max confesses to my boyfriend that he 551 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:54,439 Speaker 1: and Sarah had been hooking up behind our backs. 552 00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 3: I was shocked, sadly, I'm not. 553 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,199 Speaker 1: We in front of them immediately, and they swore up 554 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:04,600 Speaker 1: and down it wouldn't happen again. We tried to move 555 00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:07,119 Speaker 1: past it for the sake of our group, especially protect Bella. 556 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:10,359 Speaker 1: Our first mistake looking back, we should have just ended 557 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:14,040 Speaker 1: things then. So my understanding is a Bella and maxa 558 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:15,240 Speaker 1: in a relationship. 559 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:17,040 Speaker 2: That's what I think as well. 560 00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:20,000 Speaker 1: But this is that's there's no fucking way I'm letting 561 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:23,240 Speaker 1: my boyfriend hang out with Sarah alone and go out alone. 562 00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:26,640 Speaker 2: And late night text. Yeah, where's call me crazy? But no, 563 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:30,199 Speaker 2: I'm like, when is Bella throwing hands yet? Right? 564 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 3: Good night, Sarah? All right. 565 00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 1: A few months later, Bella overhears Sarah talking to another 566 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:37,160 Speaker 1: friend and she lets it sleep that she and Max 567 00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:40,359 Speaker 1: are still seeing each other secretly, even though Bella was 568 00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:42,880 Speaker 1: still with Max. Okay, so Max is just so Bella 569 00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:43,680 Speaker 1: and Max out together? 570 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,879 Speaker 2: Bella girl, wake up her knees leger. 571 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:51,879 Speaker 1: Naturally, the truth came crashing down. It was a complete mess, 572 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,240 Speaker 1: and we haven't spoken to Sarah since. Bella and I 573 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:57,320 Speaker 1: are still close. Good Here's the thing that's bothering me though, 574 00:23:57,560 --> 00:23:59,720 Speaker 1: Max and my boyfriend are still best friends, and I 575 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,320 Speaker 1: can't get over what he did Tobella. Some people have 576 00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:04,080 Speaker 1: told me to just forgive him and let it go, 577 00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:06,200 Speaker 1: after all, it's been a while, and I just don't 578 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:08,600 Speaker 1: know if I can. It's an awkward situation for my 579 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:11,080 Speaker 1: boyfriend too, because he feels torn between me and his 580 00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,800 Speaker 1: best friend. Sometimes I feel like I'm forcing him to 581 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,760 Speaker 1: pick sides. But I just can't be around Max. After 582 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:18,439 Speaker 1: everything that's happened, It's getting harder to avoid, and I 583 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 1: feel bad for my boyfriend. Some say it's time to 584 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,399 Speaker 1: move on, but other people think I shouldn't have to. 585 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:24,520 Speaker 3: What should I do? 586 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:26,919 Speaker 1: It's like, no matter what I decide, someone's gonna be hurt. 587 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:29,520 Speaker 1: Someone is gonna be hurt. But I think getting in 588 00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:33,639 Speaker 1: between boyfriendships is not wise, Like you need to just 589 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:36,560 Speaker 1: let your boyfriend be friends with Max. Boys just stupid, 590 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,760 Speaker 1: Like do you know what I mean? You can't get 591 00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:42,280 Speaker 1: in between that. I'd say, maybe try and avoid being 592 00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:44,240 Speaker 1: around Max if you can, But if it's like a 593 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:46,240 Speaker 1: group setting, you're just gonna have to maybe be there 594 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,040 Speaker 1: and kind of just not really give Max much time 595 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:49,119 Speaker 1: of day, you. 596 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:51,040 Speaker 3: Know what I mean? I do agree. I've had it 597 00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:51,879 Speaker 3: happen to me before. 598 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 1: It is brutal when my friend is all like hanging 599 00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:58,919 Speaker 1: out in a group setting with my ex because of 600 00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:02,959 Speaker 1: another guy, and like they're in photos together and I'm like, dude, 601 00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:05,280 Speaker 1: he fucking cheated on me, Like why are you hanging 602 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 1: out with him. I think time heals all wounds, so 603 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:12,040 Speaker 1: eventually she will move on and find something. 604 00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:14,680 Speaker 3: Like not be so upset about it. 605 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:16,639 Speaker 1: I just think, move on with your life, hang out 606 00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 1: with your boyfriend, and try and give Max as little 607 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: time of day as you can. And I wouldn't say 608 00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:23,240 Speaker 1: you necessarily need to forgive him and be friends with him, 609 00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:24,639 Speaker 1: but you can be in a vicinity with. 610 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:25,920 Speaker 3: Him, you know what I mean. 611 00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:29,120 Speaker 2: I don't exactly have the answer, because I do agree, 612 00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:31,639 Speaker 2: like it's hard to get in between two guy best 613 00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:32,600 Speaker 2: friends because. 614 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,600 Speaker 1: Your boyfriend you're gonna have issues. I think if you're 615 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:35,880 Speaker 1: gonna be like pick one. 616 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:39,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's just like disappointingly. I just don't think 617 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:43,560 Speaker 2: manner is open to like interrogating things and talking things through. 618 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:45,600 Speaker 2: So that's why we're walking with an attitude of oh, 619 00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:47,120 Speaker 2: I just don't even get between us, Like. 620 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 1: The boyfriend probably hasn't Like no, he has never even 621 00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:50,560 Speaker 1: asked him why he did it, do you know what 622 00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:54,240 Speaker 1: I mean? Boys don't even dig into yeah. So I 623 00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:58,000 Speaker 1: just feel like your boyfriend would know how you feel 624 00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,800 Speaker 1: about Max. Great, hopefully you're not around each other in 625 00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:03,120 Speaker 1: two close quarters like he's not inviting Max over when 626 00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:04,880 Speaker 1: you're there. But I think if you're in group settings, 627 00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:08,199 Speaker 1: you kind of just need it avoid just keep the 628 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:10,880 Speaker 1: peace with Bella by like not being best friends with him. 629 00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:12,080 Speaker 1: I think if you forgive him and all of a 630 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 1: sudden you're really friendly with him, yet it's can I hurt. 631 00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:16,760 Speaker 2: I think the only other thing I'll add is you're 632 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 2: not wrong. And I understand like the feeling of being 633 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:22,440 Speaker 2: around him and a feeling so wrong literally only because 634 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:25,320 Speaker 2: I've got slight experience with this. Don't view it as 635 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:27,640 Speaker 2: I simply don't like him because he screwed it over 636 00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:30,000 Speaker 2: my friends. Because when I've experienced with guys like that, 637 00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:32,000 Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't want you in my group. And 638 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:33,720 Speaker 2: then you meet a girl friend of mine because you're 639 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,080 Speaker 2: going to do the exact same to her. So I 640 00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:39,199 Speaker 2: think it's fine to feel that towards him. Simply. 641 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:43,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I just think try and keep friendship distance, but 642 00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,000 Speaker 1: like you can be around him for the sake of 643 00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:46,560 Speaker 1: your boyfriend. 644 00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 2: I think, just hang in there, girl, Hazy. 645 00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:52,320 Speaker 1: I love your style, your energy, and your aura keep shining, girl. 646 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,239 Speaker 3: Thank I love it. I love the sound of all 647 00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:56,600 Speaker 3: of these. 648 00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,280 Speaker 1: They make me feel so good. I'm just a girl 649 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 1: from the suburb. SAME's this who earlier this year was 650 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:04,120 Speaker 1: seeing someone in the public eye. 651 00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:06,600 Speaker 2: Oh who who. 652 00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:09,400 Speaker 1: I really cared about him and loved being with him, 653 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:11,640 Speaker 1: and when it was just the two of us at 654 00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:13,760 Speaker 1: his place, eating ice cream in the bartub and dancing 655 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:15,800 Speaker 1: in his bedroom, sounds really cute. 656 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:17,480 Speaker 3: But I feel like he's gonna end up being an arsle. 657 00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:21,320 Speaker 1: After a few months of being completely exclusive, I'll call 658 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:24,119 Speaker 1: him Will. He suddenly had to go to America one 659 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 1: day and he told me he couldn't be exclusive anymore. Yeah, 660 00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:29,439 Speaker 1: asked how I felt if he kissed someone else I 661 00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:33,520 Speaker 1: knew he meant slept with Yeah, he probably did. And 662 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:35,199 Speaker 1: then I said, he has every right to do that, 663 00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:38,000 Speaker 1: and I have every right to leave, and if he 664 00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 1: did that, I would leave. 665 00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:40,760 Speaker 3: Slay girl. 666 00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:43,040 Speaker 1: He even asked if I would essentially wait around for 667 00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:45,560 Speaker 1: him to cheat on me, but I ended things right there, Yeah, 668 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:48,600 Speaker 1: because it's like, oh, well, you're just gonna come tell 669 00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:50,520 Speaker 1: me one day that hey, I've cheated on you, and 670 00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:51,480 Speaker 1: you know I'm going to end it. 671 00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:54,000 Speaker 2: So basically therefore, he's not going to tell you, and 672 00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:55,360 Speaker 2: he'll keep me around until then. 673 00:27:55,640 --> 00:28:00,640 Speaker 1: Like I know, he'll just like basically with me until 674 00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:01,760 Speaker 1: I've cheated on you. 675 00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,440 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? No, so good job girl. 676 00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,199 Speaker 1: Two days later, he's hanging out with an influencer at 677 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 1: a major event. Four days later, he's in America with 678 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:13,160 Speaker 1: an of influencer at sex parties. Why when you break 679 00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 1: up with him do they turn into some fucking sex addicted. 680 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:18,520 Speaker 2: Whole They're like, I'm not going to peck her. 681 00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:22,159 Speaker 1: I'm gonna fuck her, and I'm gonna do it everywhere. Yeah, 682 00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:25,560 Speaker 1: and all of them at the same time met I 683 00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:29,040 Speaker 1: was pretty heartbroken. Fair enough, Just a couple of weeks ago, 684 00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,680 Speaker 1: I met someone incredible who I really like. He laughs 685 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,480 Speaker 1: at my silly stories. We connect over music, fashion, art, 686 00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:38,440 Speaker 1: and family. Unfortunately, he's also in the public eye just 687 00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:41,080 Speaker 1: for a visual representation. This man has a hundred times 688 00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:44,240 Speaker 1: more followers than me. Who cares, girl, you'll sew the catch. 689 00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:47,280 Speaker 1: He's gone overseas for three weeks, and although we've just met, 690 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:49,520 Speaker 1: he's booked for us dinner for when he gets back. 691 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:50,280 Speaker 3: I'm not naive. 692 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:52,240 Speaker 1: I know he's going to be sleeping around overseas because 693 00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 1: we only just met and he's attractive and somewhat famous. 694 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:57,600 Speaker 2: You know what I would never even assume. 695 00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 3: Though maybe I'm a lover girl. 696 00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:02,440 Speaker 1: But I'm like, sometimes if you like someone, you don't 697 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,080 Speaker 1: want to do that other stuff, you know what I mean. 698 00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 2: I think outside of the scene as well, And it's 699 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:10,000 Speaker 2: not because I'm a part of it. I just work bts. 700 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,040 Speaker 2: I think there's a lot of assumptions of how social 701 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:13,680 Speaker 2: people are. 702 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,400 Speaker 3: Going to happen more when people aren't in the public eye. 703 00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:18,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, like nobody's I think there's a lot more of 704 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,800 Speaker 2: a risk with people with profile like yea if they 705 00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,560 Speaker 2: are to do those things. But also like the insinuation 706 00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 2: that like everyone's extra added and always like these parties. 707 00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:31,920 Speaker 2: It's not exactly like that. So I wouldn't stress. But 708 00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:34,240 Speaker 2: I understand the trauma of like the. 709 00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:35,880 Speaker 1: People that I know that aren't in the public eye 710 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:40,080 Speaker 1: sleep like they get like it happened, they get around more, 711 00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,120 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I don't think that 712 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,800 Speaker 1: that's an assumption you should make in three weeks, Like 713 00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:47,640 Speaker 1: if he likes you, I don't even think you have to. 714 00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 2: I wouldn't worry about that. 715 00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:50,680 Speaker 1: Like I go to Europe for like four months, I 716 00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:53,280 Speaker 1: don't sleep with anyone. Every time I've gone to America, 717 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,160 Speaker 1: I don't see with anyone, do you know what I mean? Like, 718 00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:57,640 Speaker 1: I'm there to be with my girls, but I am 719 00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:01,600 Speaker 1: a female, so we'll see. It brought up old feelings 720 00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 1: of not being enough and I truly want to end 721 00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,440 Speaker 1: things to save myself and feeling worthless again. I'm asking 722 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:08,200 Speaker 1: you this because you're self aware and grounded. 723 00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:10,840 Speaker 2: You're probably the worst person that's ever said that. 724 00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:13,240 Speaker 1: Should I let this go and be happy with myself 725 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,520 Speaker 1: until I find someone more low key? Or is it 726 00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,240 Speaker 1: worse worth pushing past my anxiety and trouble from the past. 727 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:22,240 Speaker 1: Your past is not your future. Just because that guy 728 00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:23,840 Speaker 1: did it does not mean this guy is going to 729 00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:26,280 Speaker 1: be the same. If you like this man, absolutely wait 730 00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:28,680 Speaker 1: until you see him when he gets back. If the 731 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:30,640 Speaker 1: feelings are still there, great, do you know what I mean? 732 00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,040 Speaker 1: Just go off how you're feeling. Don't end something because 733 00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,040 Speaker 1: of the fear that something might happen, Like, there's no 734 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:38,640 Speaker 1: point ever stopping doing something because of the fear of 735 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:41,520 Speaker 1: what might happen. You'd rather have loved and lost than 736 00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:43,680 Speaker 1: never have loved at all. And I honestly feel like, 737 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:45,920 Speaker 1: if you like this guy, like, three weeks is no 738 00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,640 Speaker 1: fucking time he's already booked dinner, seeing when he gets 739 00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,840 Speaker 1: back and seeing how you're feeling. Man, duh, come on, girl, 740 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:52,840 Speaker 1: don't sell yourself for. 741 00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:54,800 Speaker 2: All. 742 00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:57,920 Speaker 1: Right, here's the situation. I have a Stage five clinger 743 00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,960 Speaker 1: of a mother in law. Mother in law is a 744 00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:04,520 Speaker 1: fucking tricky business. I want her son to move States 745 00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:06,959 Speaker 1: with me. For context, I'm twenty one and I've been 746 00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:08,840 Speaker 1: with my boyfriend for three and a half years now. 747 00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,120 Speaker 1: We live in a small country town and both still 748 00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,360 Speaker 1: live at home. I'm planning on moving States next year, 749 00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:15,520 Speaker 1: and I would like him to move with me. I've 750 00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:17,720 Speaker 1: mentioned the idea of moving to him a few times 751 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,720 Speaker 1: and never really get a solid response. With his parents 752 00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:23,560 Speaker 1: finding out that I'm moving, I now hear comments like 753 00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:27,240 Speaker 1: you're leaving me, you're stealing him, You're never gonna come home. 754 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:32,720 Speaker 1: Typical helicopter parent bullshit. I agree, like, there comes a 755 00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 1: point where your parents have to let the fucking kids 756 00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:37,000 Speaker 1: fly the nest. 757 00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:37,840 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 758 00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:41,120 Speaker 1: Is that the saying yeah, I think it's kind of wrong. 759 00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,200 Speaker 1: I really hate getting saying wrong anyway, don't. 760 00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:48,160 Speaker 2: I'm actually going to Google in real time because it's 761 00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:52,320 Speaker 2: annoying me. Yeah, leave the fly the coop. 762 00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:55,440 Speaker 3: What is flying the nest mean forre young person to 763 00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:56,160 Speaker 3: leave their home? 764 00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:58,240 Speaker 2: I was right, what Coop is? 765 00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:00,840 Speaker 3: It's both. It's like it's two saying. 766 00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:04,720 Speaker 2: Oh, Cooper's like restrictive situation. Yeah, Cooper's like, deep. 767 00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:07,760 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 768 00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:09,920 Speaker 1: Like, I'm planning on going to New York next year. 769 00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:12,680 Speaker 1: My Dad's like, holy fucking shit, what am I gonna do? 770 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:15,600 Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to come visit you. But he's like, 771 00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:17,640 Speaker 1: if that's what you want to do, that's what you 772 00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,120 Speaker 1: want to do. The problem is when you're moving for 773 00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:22,400 Speaker 1: a relationship, I think makes it slightly different than your 774 00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:24,520 Speaker 1: parents are, like do you actually want to go or 775 00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:25,560 Speaker 1: do they just. 776 00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,840 Speaker 2: Want to go? I think that's maybe And I know 777 00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,080 Speaker 2: it's not her parent, but I think it is a parent. 778 00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:33,080 Speaker 2: Like I've moved away from my parents several times. Yeah, 779 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,320 Speaker 2: and it's like there have been times where they've disagreed, 780 00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,560 Speaker 2: they've had concerns, but like, as a parent, it is 781 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,200 Speaker 2: your responsibility as well to like keep that in. 782 00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:41,440 Speaker 3: And let your kid grow. 783 00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, and if he wants to move, then 784 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:46,320 Speaker 1: they should she should shut up. 785 00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, And it feels a little evil saying it in 786 00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:49,280 Speaker 2: front of like the girl friend. 787 00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:51,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're never gonna come home, You're leaving me, You're 788 00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:52,280 Speaker 3: stealing him? 789 00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:53,920 Speaker 2: Is fucking that's bad. 790 00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:56,720 Speaker 1: I'm at this point now, I'm looking at rentals and 791 00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:58,600 Speaker 1: packing up my life to move somewhere new. Part of 792 00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 1: me wants to pull the ice here for you card, 793 00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:03,560 Speaker 1: but I don't want to come across his toxic I 794 00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:06,600 Speaker 1: think that's wise. I stayed in the same town we 795 00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,320 Speaker 1: went to school in for him, whilst all my friends 796 00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:11,640 Speaker 1: have now moved away. Even if he does want to 797 00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:13,240 Speaker 1: move with me, I'm afraid his mother will throw a 798 00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:16,080 Speaker 1: tantrum leading him to change his mind. How do I 799 00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,360 Speaker 1: approach this with him without it sounding like I'm completely 800 00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:19,560 Speaker 1: bagging his mom out? 801 00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:21,480 Speaker 2: He already knows I'm not the biggest fan. 802 00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:24,520 Speaker 1: I think you need to approach it without mentioning her 803 00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,920 Speaker 1: to her at all, Like do you want to move 804 00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:28,240 Speaker 1: with me? 805 00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:29,160 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 806 00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:31,080 Speaker 1: Like you need to find out if this boy wants 807 00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:33,320 Speaker 1: to move country, wants to move states with you, because 808 00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:35,920 Speaker 1: I feel like moving for someone and then not wanting 809 00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:38,240 Speaker 1: to be there can lead to resentment and issues in 810 00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:40,800 Speaker 1: a relationship. So I feel like step one is finding 811 00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,840 Speaker 1: out whether he wants to move with you, or whether 812 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:46,479 Speaker 1: he's like happy with where he is, and then if 813 00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:49,360 Speaker 1: he absolutely is all for a team on board, and 814 00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:51,800 Speaker 1: then the mom causes issues, then I feel like you 815 00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:53,760 Speaker 1: can say to him, please don't let your mom change 816 00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,480 Speaker 1: your mind, like this is something you wanted to do, 817 00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:56,680 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? 818 00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:58,480 Speaker 3: But I wouldn't bring the mom up. 819 00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:01,920 Speaker 2: Even posting way if you can't even get the answer 820 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,360 Speaker 2: out of him, Like what would you want if there 821 00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:09,560 Speaker 2: was no voices outside? Yeah, like no one telling you something, like. 822 00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:11,600 Speaker 1: Even if I wasn't moving away, would you want to 823 00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:13,399 Speaker 1: move away from home? Like is it something that you're 824 00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:16,040 Speaker 1: wanting to do at all? Or are you like happy 825 00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:17,120 Speaker 1: living where you live right now? 826 00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:17,839 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 827 00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:20,759 Speaker 1: I feel like the mum needs to be a later 828 00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:23,320 Speaker 1: problem once you figure out one hundred percent what he 829 00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,200 Speaker 1: wants to do, because you've said that you haven't really 830 00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:26,759 Speaker 1: gotten a straight out of him yet. 831 00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:29,799 Speaker 2: That's step one, and I think like at twenty one, 832 00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:32,160 Speaker 2: you're actually allowed to ask the questions, like you know, 833 00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:34,800 Speaker 2: I'm just mapping out what my future and some people aren't. 834 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,759 Speaker 1: Honestly, I know some people aren't ready to move away 835 00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:38,880 Speaker 1: from their parents, at twenty. 836 00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:41,000 Speaker 2: One, especially small towns, Like I think that could be 837 00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,400 Speaker 2: another put Like I have friends that still live at 838 00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:45,319 Speaker 2: home and they're twenty five and they're not even ready 839 00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,000 Speaker 2: to live out of home, let alone move to a 840 00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:47,560 Speaker 2: different state. 841 00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:50,000 Speaker 1: So I feel like that step one is figuring out 842 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:53,960 Speaker 1: really where his head is at, and then you can 843 00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:55,719 Speaker 1: deal with the mom's secondary and then I think you 844 00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,480 Speaker 1: can start bagging the mom out if she tries to 845 00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:58,080 Speaker 1: change his mind. 846 00:34:58,120 --> 00:34:59,919 Speaker 3: Once you know that his mind is like set on something, 847 00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:01,719 Speaker 3: you know, don't bager out. 848 00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:02,239 Speaker 2: Just be like. 849 00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:05,719 Speaker 1: The mum will see him again, you know what I mean, 850 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,840 Speaker 1: you can't marry your son. I hate fucking parents like that. 851 00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,319 Speaker 2: No, And it's just like I understand the fear as them, 852 00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:15,439 Speaker 2: I'm sure, but it's like it just makes a relationship better. 853 00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:17,880 Speaker 2: Me and my mom we are so close. Women are 854 00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:18,960 Speaker 2: not living together. 855 00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:21,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're just like yeah, and it's like it's 856 00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:24,080 Speaker 1: not across the country, it's different states. 857 00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 3: You can visit each other all the time. Like I 858 00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:29,040 Speaker 3: just think, Yeah, honestly, your first. 859 00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:32,640 Speaker 1: Step is figuring out what he wants without any outside pressures, 860 00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:35,879 Speaker 1: and then hopefully the mum will just fall in suit, 861 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:37,719 Speaker 1: like you know, if he really wants to go, then great. 862 00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,279 Speaker 2: He'll probably have that discussion with his mum on his own. Yeah. 863 00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:42,439 Speaker 3: Anyway, that's all for today. 864 00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:44,160 Speaker 1: But we have so fucking many and we're gonna do 865 00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:49,080 Speaker 1: more Part twos, hopefully after Jackie, and then we're gonna. 866 00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:52,759 Speaker 2: Get Riley on again. Yeah, and we may We are 867 00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:55,560 Speaker 2: working over time to make this Jackie interview happen. We 868 00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:58,560 Speaker 2: might come with our tail between our legs next episode. 869 00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:02,480 Speaker 2: Please give us right, little old Riley, but we will 870 00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:04,840 Speaker 2: say we are working very hard with it. Guys, But 871 00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:05,520 Speaker 2: I love you 872 00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:09,560 Speaker 3: And see you bye.