Speaker 1: Good team.
Speaker 2: I hope you will self examination you, thinking about you,
Speaker 2: reflecting on you, finding a little bit of awareness, a
Speaker 2: little bit of accountability, bit of contemplation, not self loathing,
Speaker 2: not kind of beating ourselves up, just trying to be
Speaker 2: more aware of the me that you in the middle
Speaker 2: of all of the non me and you stuff. Self
Speaker 2: examination is a worthwhile, if not always comfortable, component of
Speaker 2: the personal transformation journey. It's largely about self awareness and
Speaker 2: the recognizing of habits, patterns, behaviors and choices which can
Speaker 2: fit anywhere on the scale from toxic and destructive to
Speaker 2: positive and life enhancing and potentially magical. This process is
Speaker 2: not about self loathing or overthinking, as I said, but
Speaker 2: rather it is a strategic, rational, and productive exercise, not
Speaker 2: an emotional or just intructive one. It's something I practice
Speaker 2: daily and have for a long time, and it's a
Speaker 2: great way to step out of the moment and to
Speaker 2: find clarity and perspective.
Speaker 1: So I've got what have I got here?
Speaker 2: I've got about ten questions self examination, questions that I
Speaker 2: use for me, that I've used in coaching with people,
Speaker 2: and that I want to share with you today because
Speaker 2: I think for some.
Speaker 1: Of you, not for all of you, depending on where
Speaker 1: you're at, what you're.
Speaker 2: Up to, but for some of you these will provide
Speaker 2: a level of clarity and awareness and perhaps a potential
Speaker 2: starting point for this little ex size. So remember self
Speaker 2: examination Question one is what am I currently doing? Which
Speaker 2: is essentially a form of self sabotage. Remember, we can't
Speaker 2: change the thing that we don't see or acknowledge, And
Speaker 2: again not about beating yourself up, just acknowledgment awareness.
Speaker 1: What's that thing?
Speaker 2: And so the thing that your self sabage it could
Speaker 2: be I used to train well, eat well, sorry, train well,
Speaker 2: lift well, sleep well. My lifestyle was awesome. But I
Speaker 2: self sabotage with food, right, How else did I sell sabotage?
Speaker 2: I had a lot of potential and creativity that I
Speaker 2: didn't use because I was too scared. I didn't want
Speaker 2: to be embarrassed. I didn't want to fail. I didn't
Speaker 2: want people to think less of me. I didn't want
Speaker 2: to be rejected. I wanted to belong. So I'd conform
Speaker 2: and and i'd kind of I'd play small. I'd play small.
Speaker 2: And it took me a long time to get the
Speaker 2: courage and to get the confidence to be able to
Speaker 2: just lean into the fear, not overcome the fear. The
Speaker 2: fear for me, the fear never goes away, it's the
Speaker 2: volume goes down. And some things I'm not fearful of anymore,
Speaker 2: but there'll always be some form of fear. So what
Speaker 2: am I currently doing? What are you currently doing? Which
Speaker 2: is essentially a form of self sabotag? Getting in your
Speaker 2: own way? Number two, if ten out of ten is
Speaker 2: you using all your potential?
Speaker 1: What's your current number? Where are you at?
Speaker 2: And if you know that you've got power and potential
Speaker 2: and possibilities in you that you are not exploiting, that
Speaker 2: you are not tapping into, there's a little rabbit hole
Speaker 2: you can go down today to think of what is
Speaker 2: that about? What is remember metacognition? Thinking about thinking, think
Speaker 2: about think about why do I do that? Why one
Speaker 2: do I self sabotage? And two why am I not
Speaker 2: using my potential?
Speaker 1: What's the real reason?
Speaker 2: Not the bullshit, Oh I'm pretty busy?
Speaker 1: Fuck all that. That's not true.
Speaker 2: Yeah you might be busy, but that's not the reason.
Speaker 2: What's the reason. What's the reason? Are you prepared to
Speaker 2: fail to fall down, to look silly, to get embarrassed,
Speaker 2: to fuck up, to get up, fuck up, get up.
Speaker 2: If you're prepared to do all of that, then you're
Speaker 2: a big chance of exploiting and using and benefit from
Speaker 2: more of what you have to work with. Number three
Speaker 2: is do I invest more of my time and energy
Speaker 2: in problems or solutions? How many people do you know?
Speaker 2: And you might be one of them, But whenever you
Speaker 2: meet that person or talk to that person, there's always
Speaker 2: a thousand problems of rarely any solutions, and they're all.
Speaker 2: They live in the problem. They inhabit the problem, they focus,
Speaker 2: they obsess, they self pity about the problem. I'm not
Speaker 2: saying there are no problems. Of course there are problems.
Speaker 2: I have problems. Everyone has problems. Everyone has challenges and
Speaker 2: issues and good days and bad days and catastrophes and
Speaker 2: breakthroughs and breakdowns.
Speaker 1: That's the human experience.
Speaker 2: We're not pretending that life's awesome when it isn't. Sometimes
Speaker 2: it's dog shit and sometimes it's bloody rainbows and puppies
Speaker 2: and unicorns.
Speaker 1: And everything in between.
Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, we still need
Speaker 2: to You and I still need to navigate the messiness
Speaker 2: of our own life. So we acknowledge the problem, We
Speaker 2: speak it out, we identify it, and then we immerse
Speaker 2: ourself in the fixing, in the problem, solving, in the solution.
Speaker 2: Self examination. Question number four, What am I currently avoiding, delaying,
Speaker 2: or denying?
Speaker 1: This is where the rubber hits the road.
Speaker 2: These questions are hard, These questions are not comfortable, These
Speaker 2: are not fun. And maybe you're ready for these questions
Speaker 2: and maybe you're not. And remember again, not so. I
Speaker 2: say this a lot, but it's just true. This is
Speaker 2: not about beating you up. This is not about you
Speaker 2: beating yourself up. It is not about self loathing. It's
Speaker 2: just about recognizing what are the habits and behaviors and
Speaker 2: words and ideas and stories that I create, that I do,
Speaker 2: or that I believe, or that I hold on to
Speaker 2: or that I repeat, which are actually holding me back.
Speaker 1: Number five. We spoke about fear before. This is a
Speaker 1: little bit of a repeat.
Speaker 2: But that's all right. What fear is currently getting in
Speaker 2: my way? What's the fear that you need to address?
Speaker 2: What's the main fear that stops you from opening the
Speaker 2: door on all that you can do be create? What's
Speaker 2: that fear?
Speaker 1: For me?
Speaker 2: There have been many fears, but I think for me,
Speaker 2: because I was simultaneously felt like an impostor. I had
Speaker 2: I don't know if I had a big ego, but
Speaker 2: I definitely had ego because I didn't think I was great.
Speaker 2: So I don't feel like I had a big ego.
Speaker 2: I actually thought I was shit. I had self doubt,
Speaker 2: I had an underwhelming opinion of my own ability, and
Speaker 2: I think for me for a long time, my fear
Speaker 2: is that I just didn't want to be exposed for
Speaker 2: the fraud and the idiot that I thought I was.
Speaker 2: While I still don't think I'm a genius and I
Speaker 2: don't think I'm the fucking high watermark for high performance
Speaker 2: or success, I kind of understand now that a lot
Speaker 2: of that self talk and a lot of those stories
Speaker 2: for me were just fear that really really got in
Speaker 2: my way. Number six ties in with that Number six
Speaker 2: is what is my most limiting belief? They kind of
Speaker 2: tie in number seven. This can be a confronting question.
Speaker 2: Am I proud of the way I live my life?
Speaker 2: So is the way that I typically do life, The
Speaker 2: way that I treat people, the way that I treat myself,
Speaker 2: the way that I manage my body and my health,
Speaker 2: the things that I say the things that I purport
Speaker 2: to be or the things that I purport to value,
Speaker 2: are my values and beliefs aligned with how I actually live.
Speaker 2: Is my day to day behavior a reflection of who
Speaker 2: I want to be and who I say I am
Speaker 2: and how I want to be? Because when the way
Speaker 2: that I live is a reflection of my values and
Speaker 2: beliefs and purpose, then I'm living in alignment number eight.
Speaker 2: What is my body telling me? It's a no brainer.
Speaker 2: We've all got one. You've got one, I've got one.
Speaker 2: You can't get a new one. I can't get a
Speaker 2: new one. That's your only bloody addition, your best look
Speaker 2: after it. It's always talking to you. It's telling you something.
Speaker 2: It's smart, it's a genius. It knows, and it's trying
Speaker 2: to tell you. And subconsciously, deep down it's prodding you.
Speaker 1: And you know.
Speaker 2: And there are some of you listening to this, And no,
Speaker 2: I'm not a prophet, and I don't have any incredible insight,
Speaker 2: but I just know this statistically, there are people listening
Speaker 2: to this right now who are putting their metaphoric fingers.
Speaker 1: In their ears.
Speaker 2: And some of you, hopefully you won't, but some of
Speaker 2: you may very well, wait till shit goes horribly wrong
Speaker 2: before you pay attention to your body. And the reason
Speaker 2: I know that is because it happens all the time.
Speaker 2: It happens all the time all around the world. And
Speaker 2: I have trained and worked with and coached and counseled
Speaker 2: thousands of people who have waited until stuff fell apart,
Speaker 2: until the catastrophe. Don't wait for a catastrophe. Don't wait
Speaker 2: for stuff to break. Question nine? Question nine is this
Speaker 2: what are my results telling me? Your results are your feedback,
Speaker 2: your data that kind of gives you insight into what's
Speaker 2: working and what's not, what's efficient and what's not. So
Speaker 2: just like your body is always telling you something, so
Speaker 2: your bank balance balance is telling you something. Your relationships
Speaker 2: are telling you something. The way that you work your
Speaker 2: results at work, the way that you study your academic results.
Speaker 2: Like your life is a source of feedback, your world
Speaker 2: is all.
Speaker 1: Always telling you something. Pay attention.
Speaker 2: Last one for the moment is what's one uncontrollable What's
Speaker 2: one thing that isn't in your control that you waste
Speaker 2: energy on. I'll say it again, what's one thing that
Speaker 2: you have no control over that you consistently waste energy?
Speaker 1: On.
Speaker 2: That could be the weather, that could be other people,
Speaker 2: that could be that could be dickheads on social media.
Speaker 2: It could be a million things. What's that thing that
Speaker 2: you need to let go of, stop wasting energy on so.
Speaker 1: That you can do better, think better, and create better.
Speaker 1: There we go, self examination. Enjoyed a team Cinemarah