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Speaker 1: Good team. I hope you will self examination you, thinking

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Speaker 1: about you, reflecting on you, finding a little bit of awareness,

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Speaker 1: a little bit of accountability, bit of contemplation, not self loathing,

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Speaker 1: not kind of beating ourselves up, just trying to be

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Speaker 1: more aware of the me that you in the middle

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Speaker 1: of all of the non me and you stuff. Self

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Speaker 1: examination is a worthwhile, if not always comfortable, component of

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Speaker 1: the personal transformation journey. It's largely about self awareness and

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Speaker 1: the recognizing of habits, patterns, behaviors and choices which can

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Speaker 1: fit anywhere on the scale from toxic and destructive to

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Speaker 1: positive and life enhancing and potentially magical. This process is

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Speaker 1: not about self loathing or overthinking, as I said, but

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Speaker 1: rather it is a strategic, rational, and productive exercise, not

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Speaker 1: an emotional orderstructive one. It's something I practice daily and

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Speaker 1: have for a long time, and it's a great way

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Speaker 1: to step out of the moment and to find clarity

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Speaker 1: and perspective. So I've got what have I got here?

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Speaker 1: I've got about ten questions self examination, questions that I

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Speaker 1: use for me, that I've used in coaching with people,

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Speaker 1: and that I want to share with you today because

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Speaker 1: I think for some of you not for all of you,

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Speaker 1: depending on where you're at, what you're up to, but

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Speaker 1: for some of you these will provide a level of

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Speaker 1: clarity and awareness and perhaps a potential starting point for

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Speaker 1: this LITTLEX size. So remember self examination Question one is

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Speaker 1: what am I currently doing? Which is essentially a form

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Speaker 1: of self sabotage. Remember, we can't change the thing that

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Speaker 1: we don't see or acknowledge, And again not about beating

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Speaker 1: yourself up, just acknowledgment awareness. What's that thing? And so

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Speaker 1: the thing that you self sabage, it could be I

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Speaker 1: used to train well, eat well, sorry, train well, lift well,

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Speaker 1: sleep well. My lifestyle was awesome. But I self sabotage

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Speaker 1: with food, right, How else did I self sabotage? I

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Speaker 1: had a lot of potential and creativity that I didn't

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Speaker 1: use because I was too scared. I didn't want to

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Speaker 1: people to think less of me. I didn't want to

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Speaker 1: be rejected. I wanted to belong. So I'd conform and

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Speaker 1: and i'd kind of I'd play small. I'd play small.

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Speaker 1: And it took me a long time to get the

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Speaker 1: courage and to get the confidence to be able to

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Speaker 1: just lean into the fear, not overcome the fear. The

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Speaker 1: fear for me, the fear never goes away, it's the

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Speaker 1: volume goes down. And some things I'm not fearful of anymore,

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Speaker 1: but there'll always be some form of fear. So what

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Speaker 1: am I currently doing? What are you currently doing? Which

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Speaker 1: is essentially a form of self sabotag? Getting in your

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Speaker 1: own way? Number two, If ten out of ten is

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Speaker 1: you using all your potential? What's your current number? Where

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Speaker 1: are you at? And if you know that you've got

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Speaker 1: power and potential and possibilities in you that you are

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Speaker 1: not exploiting, that you are not tapping into, there's a

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Speaker 1: little rabbit hole you can go down today to think of.

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Speaker 1: What is that about? What is remember metacognition? Thinking about thinking,

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Speaker 1: think about think about why do I do that? Why

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Speaker 1: one do I self sabotage? And two? Why am I

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Speaker 1: not using my potential? What's the real reason? Not the bullshit?

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Speaker 1: Oh I'm pretty busy? Fuck all that. That's not true.

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Speaker 1: Yeah you might be busy, but that's not the reason.

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Speaker 1: What's the reason. What's the reason? Are you prepared to

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Speaker 1: If you're prepared to do all of that, then you're

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Speaker 1: a big chance of exploiting and using and benefiting from

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Speaker 1: more of what you have to work with. Number three

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Speaker 1: is do I invest more of my time and energy

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Speaker 1: in problems or solutions? How many people do you know?

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Speaker 1: And you might be one of them, But whenever you

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Speaker 1: meet that person or talk to that person, there's always

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Speaker 1: a thousand problems of rarely any solutions, and they're all

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Speaker 1: They live in the problem, They inhabit the problem, they focus,

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Speaker 1: they obsess, they self pity about the problem. I'm not

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Speaker 1: saying there are no problems. Of course there are problems.

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Speaker 1: I have problems. Everyone has problems. Everyone has challenges and

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Speaker 1: issues and good days and bad days and catastrophes and

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Speaker 1: breakthroughs and breakdowns. That's the human experience. We're not pretending

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Speaker 1: that life's awesome when it isn't. Sometimes it's dog shit

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Speaker 1: everything in between. But at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: navigate the messiness of our own life. So we acknowledge

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Speaker 1: the problem, We speak it out, we identify it, and

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Speaker 1: then we immerse ourself in the fixing, in the problem,

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Speaker 1: solving in the solution. Self examination. Question number four, What

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Speaker 1: am I currently avoiding, delaying, or denying? This is where

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Speaker 1: the rubber hits the road. These questions are hard, These

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Speaker 1: questions are not comfortable, These are not fun. And maybe

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Speaker 1: you're ready for these questions, and maybe you're not. And

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Speaker 1: remember again, not so. I say this a lot, but

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Speaker 1: it's just true. This is not about beating you up.

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Speaker 1: This is not about you beating yourself up. It is

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Speaker 1: not about self loathing. It's just about recognizing what are

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Speaker 1: the habits and behaviors and words and ideas and stories

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Speaker 1: or that I hold on to or that I repeat,

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Speaker 1: which are actually holding me back. Number five. We spoke

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Speaker 1: about fear before. This is a little bit of a repeat,

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Speaker 1: But that's all right. What fear is currently getting in

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Speaker 1: my way? What's the fear that you need to address?

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Speaker 1: What's the main fear that stops you from opening the

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Speaker 1: door on all that you can do be create? What's

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Speaker 1: that fear? For me? There have been many fears but

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Speaker 1: I think for me, because I was simultaneously felt like

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Speaker 1: an impostor. I had I don't know if I had

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Speaker 1: didn't think I was great, So I didn't feel like

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Speaker 1: I had a big ego. I actually thought I was shit.

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Speaker 1: I had self doubt, I had an underwhelming opinion of

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Speaker 1: long time, my fear is that I just didn't want

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Speaker 1: I thought I was. While I still don't think I'm

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Speaker 1: a genius and I don't think I'm the fucking high

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Speaker 1: watermark for high performance or success, I kind of understand

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Speaker 1: now that a lot of that self talk and a

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Speaker 1: lot of those stories for me were just fear that

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Speaker 1: really really got in my way. Number six ties in

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Speaker 1: with that Number six is what is my most limiting belief?

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Speaker 1: They kind of tie in number seven. This can be

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Speaker 1: a confronting question. Am I proud of the way I

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Speaker 1: live my life? So is the way that I typically

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Speaker 1: do life, The way that I treat people, the way

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Speaker 1: I purport to value, are my values and beliefs aligned

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Speaker 1: with how I actually live? Is my day to day

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Speaker 1: Because when the way that I live is a reflection

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Speaker 1: in alignment number eight. What is my body telling me?

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Speaker 1: It's a no brainer. We've all got one. You've got one,

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Speaker 1: I've got one. You can't get a new one. I

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Speaker 1: can't get a new one. That's your only bloody addition,

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Speaker 1: your best look after it. It's always talking to you.

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Speaker 1: It's telling you something. It's smart, it's a genius. It knows,

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Speaker 1: and it's trying to tell you. And subconsciously, deep down

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Speaker 1: it's prodding you. And you know, And there are some

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Speaker 1: of you listening to this, And no, I'm not a prophet,

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Speaker 1: and I don't have any incredible insight, but I just

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Speaker 1: know this statistically, there are people listening to this right

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Speaker 1: now who are putting their metaphoric fingers in their ears.

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Speaker 1: And some of you, hopefully you won't, but some of

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Speaker 1: You may very well wait till shit goes horribly wrong

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Speaker 1: before you pay attention to your body. And the reason

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Speaker 1: I know that is because it happens all the time.

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Speaker 1: It happens all the time all around the world. And

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Speaker 1: I have trained and worked with and coached and counseled

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Speaker 1: thousands of people who have waited until stuff fell apart,

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Speaker 1: until the catastrophe. Don't wait for a catastrophe. Don't wait

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Speaker 1: for stuff to break. Question nine? Question nine is this

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Speaker 1: what are my results telling me? Your results are your feedback,

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Speaker 1: your data that kind of gives you insight into what's

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Speaker 1: working and what's not, what's efficient and what's not. So

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Speaker 1: just like your body is always telling you something, so

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Speaker 1: your bank balance balance is telling you something. Your relationships

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Speaker 1: results at work, the way that you study your academic results.

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Speaker 1: Like your life is a source of feedback, your world

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Speaker 1: is all always telling you something. Pay attention. Last one

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Speaker 1: for the moment is what's one uncontrollable What's one thing

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Speaker 1: that isn't in your control that you waste energy on.

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Speaker 1: I'll say it again, what's one thing that you have

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Speaker 1: no control over that you consistently waste energy on. That

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Speaker 1: could be the weather, that could be other people, that

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Speaker 1: could be that could be dickheads on social media. It

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Speaker 1: could be a million things. What's that thing that you

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Speaker 1: need to let go of, stop wasting energy on so

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Speaker 1: that you can do better, think better, and create better.

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Speaker 1: There we go self examination. Enjoyed a team Cinemarrah