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Speaker 1: Good team.

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Speaker 2: I hope you will self examination you, thinking about you,

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Speaker 2: reflecting on you, finding a little bit of awareness, a

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Speaker 2: little bit of accountability, bit of contemplation, not self loathing,

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Speaker 2: not kind of beating ourselves up, just trying to be

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Speaker 2: more aware of the me that you in the middle

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Speaker 2: of all of the non me and you stuff. Self

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Speaker 2: examination is a worthwhile, if not always comfortable, component of

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Speaker 2: the personal transformation journey. It's largely about self awareness and

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Speaker 2: the recognizing of habits, patterns, behaviors and choices which can

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Speaker 2: fit anywhere on the scale from toxic and destructive to

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Speaker 2: positive and life enhancing and potentially magical. This process is

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Speaker 2: not about self loathing or overthinking, as I said, but

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Speaker 2: rather it is a strategic, rational, and productive exercise, not

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Speaker 2: an emotional or just intructive one. It's something I practice

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Speaker 2: daily and have for a long time, and it's a

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Speaker 2: great way to step out of the moment and to

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Speaker 2: find clarity and perspective.

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Speaker 1: So I've got what have I got here?

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Speaker 2: I've got about ten questions self examination, questions that I

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Speaker 2: use for me, that I've used in coaching with people,

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Speaker 2: and that I want to share with you today because

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Speaker 2: I think for some.

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Speaker 1: Of you, not for all of you, depending on where

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Speaker 1: you're at, what you're.

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Speaker 2: Up to, but for some of you these will provide

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Speaker 2: a level of clarity and awareness and perhaps a potential

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Speaker 2: starting point for this little ex size. So remember self

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Speaker 2: examination Question one is what am I currently doing? Which

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Speaker 2: is essentially a form of self sabotage. Remember, we can't

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Speaker 2: change the thing that we don't see or acknowledge, And

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Speaker 2: again not about beating yourself up, just acknowledgment awareness.

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Speaker 1: What's that thing?

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Speaker 2: And so the thing that your self sabage it could

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Speaker 2: be I used to train well, eat well, sorry, train well,

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Speaker 2: self sabotage with food, right, How else did I sell sabotage?

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Speaker 2: I had a lot of potential and creativity that I

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Speaker 2: didn't use because I was too scared. I didn't want

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Speaker 2: to be embarrassed. I didn't want to fail. I didn't

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Speaker 2: want people to think less of me. I didn't want

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Speaker 2: to be rejected. I wanted to belong. So I'd conform

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Speaker 2: and and i'd kind of I'd play small. I'd play small.

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Speaker 2: And it took me a long time to get the

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Speaker 2: courage and to get the confidence to be able to

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Speaker 2: just lean into the fear, not overcome the fear. The

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Speaker 2: fear for me, the fear never goes away, it's the

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Speaker 2: volume goes down. And some things I'm not fearful of anymore,

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Speaker 2: but there'll always be some form of fear. So what

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Speaker 2: am I currently doing? What are you currently doing? Which

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Speaker 2: is essentially a form of self sabotag? Getting in your

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Speaker 2: own way? Number two, if ten out of ten is

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Speaker 2: you using all your potential?

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Speaker 1: What's your current number? Where are you at?

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Speaker 2: And if you know that you've got power and potential

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Speaker 2: and possibilities in you that you are not exploiting, that

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Speaker 2: you are not tapping into, there's a little rabbit hole

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Speaker 2: you can go down today to think of what is

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Speaker 2: that about? What is remember metacognition? Thinking about thinking, think

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Speaker 2: about think about why do I do that? Why one

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Speaker 2: do I self sabotage? And two why am I not

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Speaker 1: What's the real reason?

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Speaker 2: Not the bullshit, Oh I'm pretty busy?

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Speaker 1: Fuck all that. That's not true.

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Speaker 2: Yeah you might be busy, but that's not the reason.

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Speaker 2: What's the reason. What's the reason? Are you prepared to

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Speaker 2: If you're prepared to do all of that, then you're

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Speaker 2: more of what you have to work with. Number three

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Speaker 2: is do I invest more of my time and energy

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Speaker 2: in problems or solutions? How many people do you know?

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Speaker 2: And you might be one of them, But whenever you

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Speaker 2: meet that person or talk to that person, there's always

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Speaker 2: a thousand problems of rarely any solutions, and they're all.

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Speaker 2: They live in the problem. They inhabit the problem, they focus,

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Speaker 2: saying there are no problems. Of course there are problems.

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Speaker 2: I have problems. Everyone has problems. Everyone has challenges and

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Speaker 2: issues and good days and bad days and catastrophes and

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Speaker 1: That's the human experience.

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Speaker 2: We're not pretending that life's awesome when it isn't. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: And everything in between.

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Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, we still need

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Speaker 2: to You and I still need to navigate the messiness

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Speaker 2: of our own life. So we acknowledge the problem, We

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Speaker 2: speak it out, we identify it, and then we immerse

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Speaker 2: Self examination. Question number four, What am I currently avoiding, delaying,

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Speaker 1: This is where the rubber hits the road.

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Speaker 2: These questions are hard, These questions are not comfortable, These

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Speaker 2: are not fun. And maybe you're ready for these questions

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Speaker 2: and maybe you're not. And remember again, not so. I

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Speaker 2: say this a lot, but it's just true. This is

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Speaker 2: not about beating you up. This is not about you

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Speaker 2: beating yourself up. It is not about self loathing. It's

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Speaker 2: just about recognizing what are the habits and behaviors and

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Speaker 1: Number five. We spoke about fear before. This is a

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Speaker 1: little bit of a repeat.

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Speaker 2: But that's all right. What fear is currently getting in

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Speaker 2: my way? What's the fear that you need to address?

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Speaker 2: What's the main fear that stops you from opening the

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Speaker 1: For me?

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Speaker 2: There have been many fears, but I think for me,

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Speaker 2: because I was simultaneously felt like an impostor. I had

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I had a big ego, but

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Speaker 2: I definitely had ego because I didn't think I was great.

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Speaker 2: So I don't feel like I had a big ego.

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Speaker 2: I actually thought I was shit. I had self doubt,

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Speaker 2: I think for me for a long time, my fear

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Speaker 2: While I still don't think I'm a genius and I

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Speaker 2: don't think I'm the fucking high watermark for high performance

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Speaker 2: is what is my most limiting belief? They kind of

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Speaker 2: tie in number seven. This can be a confronting question.

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Speaker 2: Am I proud of the way I live my life?

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Speaker 2: So is the way that I typically do life, The

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Speaker 2: the things that I say the things that I purport

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Speaker 2: are my values and beliefs aligned with how I actually live.

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Speaker 2: Is my day to day behavior a reflection of who

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Speaker 2: I want to be and who I say I am

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Speaker 2: and how I want to be? Because when the way

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Speaker 2: beliefs and purpose, then I'm living in alignment number eight.

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Speaker 2: What is my body telling me? It's a no brainer.

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Speaker 2: We've all got one. You've got one, I've got one.

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Speaker 2: You can't get a new one. I can't get a

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Speaker 2: new one. That's your only bloody addition, your best look

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Speaker 2: after it. It's always talking to you. It's telling you something.

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Speaker 2: It's smart, it's a genius. It knows, and it's trying

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Speaker 2: to tell you. And subconsciously, deep down it's prodding you.

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Speaker 1: And you know.

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Speaker 2: And there are some of you listening to this, And no,

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Speaker 2: I'm not a prophet, and I don't have any incredible insight,

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Speaker 2: but I just know this statistically, there are people listening

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Speaker 2: to this right now who are putting their metaphoric fingers.

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Speaker 2: And some of you, hopefully you won't, but some of

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Speaker 2: you may very well, wait till shit goes horribly wrong

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Speaker 2: I know that is because it happens all the time.

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Speaker 2: It happens all the time all around the world. And

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Speaker 2: I have trained and worked with and coached and counseled

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Speaker 2: thousands of people who have waited until stuff fell apart,

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Speaker 2: until the catastrophe. Don't wait for a catastrophe. Don't wait

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Speaker 2: for stuff to break. Question nine? Question nine is this

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Speaker 2: what are my results telling me? Your results are your feedback,

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Speaker 2: your bank balance balance is telling you something. Your relationships

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Speaker 2: results at work, the way that you study your academic results.

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Speaker 2: Like your life is a source of feedback, your world

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Speaker 1: Always telling you something. Pay attention.

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Speaker 2: Last one for the moment is what's one uncontrollable What's

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Speaker 2: one thing that isn't in your control that you waste

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Speaker 2: That could be the weather, that could be other people,

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Speaker 2: that could be that could be dickheads on social media.

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Speaker 2: It could be a million things. What's that thing that

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Speaker 2: you need to let go of, stop wasting energy on so.

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Speaker 1: That you can do better, think better, and create better.

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Speaker 1: There we go, self examination. Enjoyed a team Cinemarah