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Speaker 1: By with Kate Richie.

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Speaker 2: This is a sensitive one. A woman has tried to

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Speaker 2: ban her man from attending his ex wife's funeral.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's a bit harsh, I would have thought.

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Speaker 2: So the current wife never ever liked the ex wife

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Speaker 2: and they've been together for ten years, so they've been

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Speaker 2: married in a strong relationship for ten years, sol decade

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Speaker 2: of love. But still she said, no, I'm not going

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Speaker 2: to let you go.

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Speaker 1: Is that your phone?

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Speaker 2: It was Lisa saying, you're not going to your ex's funeral.

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Speaker 3: Well, the one thing that you could be confident about

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Speaker 3: is that he could go to the funeral and he's

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Speaker 3: not going to hook up with her.

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Speaker 2: You never know?

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Speaker 1: Is that what?

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Speaker 2: Stranger? Open casket?

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Speaker 1: Casket?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, quick.

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Speaker 3: One last time?

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Speaker 2: What is he doing about Darren?

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Speaker 1: I do love that leave it alone? Oh my god.

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Speaker 4: I do love these stories because basically it comes down

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Speaker 4: to control and.

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Speaker 2: Rules, it doesn't it. And this the thing was, she said,

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Speaker 2: this is the story. So they were friends in college.

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Speaker 2: This was the lady that sted and the husband. They

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Speaker 2: were friends in college. They decided to date, they got married,

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Speaker 2: then realized they were really just good friends, so they

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Speaker 2: decided to be friends again and went back to that.

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Speaker 2: So they were always that remained close, and I suppose

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Speaker 2: the current wife of a decade has always had an

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Speaker 2: issue with how close they were. Now the woman's dead,

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Speaker 2: wouldn't you grant your husband the chance just to say, hey,

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Speaker 2: thank you for a friend that was with me for

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Speaker 2: so long?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, final, farewell?

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Speaker 4: I mean, in actual fact, just make sure to go

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Speaker 4: to make sure she's what about one?

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Speaker 2: Do you know what's a tricky one? I think right

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Speaker 2: to make sure that you know, shut the casket and

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Speaker 2: watch a birth.

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Speaker 1: Thank god, she's a kind of saying do you go?

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Speaker 2: This is the one I struggle with, do you go

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Speaker 2: to an ex's parents funeral?

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Speaker 1: On the level?

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Speaker 2: Because can I just say, okay, you sound like you

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Speaker 2: want to.

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Speaker 4: It is because I've been thinking about this last night

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Speaker 4: when I saw the story. I think you need to

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Speaker 4: do what's best for you and how you like, how

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Speaker 4: you want to send people off in your life.

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Speaker 1: I think you can't kind of go, oh, I don't

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Speaker 1: want to go to the funeral of the person of

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Speaker 1: the because I'm.

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Speaker 4: Going to upset the other person. It's not about like,

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Speaker 4: let's life and row up.

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Speaker 2: Well said, do you want to go?

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Speaker 3: And your partner, support your partner, make your.

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Speaker 2: Decision for yourself.

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Speaker 4: I spoke to someone else about this and I said,

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Speaker 4: how ridiculous, How it's not even May May is good

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Speaker 4: with this stuff. And so I like, I was saying, Okay,

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Speaker 4: there's this story, right, this woman won't let someone go

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Speaker 4: to the funeral, And I was like, that's so ridiculous. First, firstly,

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Speaker 4: we don't know all of the story. All this woman

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Speaker 4: is is incredibly controlling and insecure. Okay, But then the

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Speaker 4: other side, don't May say it?

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Speaker 1: Can I watch Bluey Mum again?

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Speaker 4: No May said or that the other person said, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: but if the other person's dead, isn't your first will

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Speaker 4: always your first priority, and especially now that the other

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Speaker 4: person's dead, isn't your priority to keep your partner happy?

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you know the other thing too well, she

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Speaker 2: will when you go along to say someone's funeral. Like that,

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Speaker 2: if you were to go to a parent's of an ex,

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Speaker 2: for example, to their funeral, you're not going because of

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Speaker 2: the parent. You're going to support because of what you shared.

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Speaker 2: And I think anytime you have been with somebody for

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Speaker 2: x amount of time, if it's over a year, you've

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Speaker 2: shared a lot and I think that you should always

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Speaker 2: kind of be there for that person.

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Speaker 1: And also just I'm.

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Speaker 4: Big on like tying and eat bow around things and

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Speaker 4: going you know what that was that chapter of my life.

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Speaker 4: They deserve respect or send off my you know show

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Speaker 4: of I don't know the car?

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Speaker 1: Do you do?

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Speaker 3: You have you? But I have you stayed friends with

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Speaker 3: it too personal? See this is I don't think you

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Speaker 3: would be burn all the photos that's it relationships.

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Speaker 4: But no, I'm not that person. I don't stay friends.

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Speaker 4: I don't stay friends at all. I don't burn the photos.

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Speaker 4: I sit at home and cry.

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Speaker 1: Yes, would you go to an exus?

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Speaker 3: Would you go to an ex's funeral?

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Speaker 1: That absolutely?

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Speaker 4: I actually think I would with a smile. The father

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Speaker 4: of your of a child.

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Speaker 1: That's different regardless unless part decided it was best for

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Speaker 1: me not to go.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the thing is if they didn't want.

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Speaker 3: You to be respectful, Well, okay, let's go through some names.

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Speaker 3: Would you go to Chris Walker's funeral or would he

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Speaker 3: was married to carry that's it? Would you go to

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Speaker 3: would you go to Corbyn? Would you go to Corbyn Harris?

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Speaker 3: Would you go to his funeral?

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Speaker 1: If his mum and dad invited me. There you go.

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Speaker 2: See, so you'd wait for an invite, Well, I think

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Speaker 2: i'd be considerate.

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Speaker 4: That is what I am more than anything. There might

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Speaker 4: be a lot of things, but I'm not inconsiderate.

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Speaker 2: It's a really tricky one.

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Speaker 1: I wish I knew. You know what I'm going to

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Speaker 1: do tonight, Yeah, research with Kate Richie Nover