Speaker 1: Hello. My name's torri Archbold, and I'm delighted to be
Speaker 1: here on the Powerful Stories podcast because I've got something
Speaker 1: really exciting to share with you today. I claimed my
Speaker 1: power in the most extraordinary way last weekend when I
Speaker 1: launched the first episode for twenty twenty five of this
Speaker 1: podcast series. I had been so used to relying on
Speaker 1: the efforts of production teams and producers to create the
Speaker 1: podcast for me that I was so overwhelmed with all
Speaker 1: of the approval processes that I pressed pause on actually
Speaker 1: producing this podcast for a good ten months. Now I'm
Speaker 1: back because I claimed my power on my own terms,
Speaker 1: and I actually have started recording this podcast on voice
Speaker 1: memo on my iPhone, which I then upload to riverside.
Speaker 1: I use the power of AI to become the world's
Speaker 1: best producer of my podcast, yes, in my own voice,
Speaker 1: and I could not be more happy with the results,
Speaker 1: because you have all DMed me to say, I can't
Speaker 1: believe you did it. Maybe I can do this myself,
Speaker 1: And the answer is, you absolutely can do this yourself.
Speaker 1: Because the way I was running my podcast before was
Speaker 1: really overwhelming, because I was building a global business with
Speaker 1: impact and I felt bogged down in the admintas that
Speaker 1: everyone wanted me to be doing. And so by doing
Speaker 1: this and sharing this very clear framework with you, I've
Speaker 1: claimed my power and I hope that you can claim yours,
Speaker 1: because everyone deserves to have a voice in this world.
Speaker 1: So I'm recording this episode right here, right now on
Speaker 1: my morning walk as I did last week, because my
Speaker 1: daily goal is to kit ten to twenty thousand steps.
Speaker 1: My health is really important to me because I'm navigating, creating,
Speaker 1: and building this global business in three very different countries. Australia,
Speaker 1: Sydney's my hometown. Hi to everyone listening from Australia readd
Speaker 1: which is now my second home. My husband is based
Speaker 1: over there in Saudi Arabia, and Los Angeles, where I'm
Speaker 1: going to be spending so much time here in the
Speaker 1: United States again this year, as we create opportunities for
Speaker 1: the women in our community to engage by the power
Speaker 1: of human connection and of course the connections in my
Speaker 1: Little Black Book, to help them really become impact makers
Speaker 1: in their own rights. Now, I promised myself this year
Speaker 1: that I would show up in a way that was
Speaker 1: really authentic, real and aligned with my purpose. And I
Speaker 1: do believe that by claiming my power and producing the
Speaker 1: podcast in this way that I'm living in my authentic
Speaker 1: truth and aligned to that purpose. So if you feel
Speaker 1: that you can do the same, all you need to
Speaker 1: do is hit record on the voice memo and voila,
Speaker 1: you will be in the same position as I am
Speaker 1: right here. You definitely don't need fancy equipment to create
Speaker 1: an impact or a huge production to All you need
Speaker 1: to do is to show up and share your voice. Now,
Speaker 1: I'd like to share a little bit about the power
Speaker 1: of community, how I build a global network, how I
Speaker 1: stay connected with people, and how I create a brand
Speaker 1: narrative not only for my own business, but for the
Speaker 1: women in our community that commit to our programs, our events,
Speaker 1: our retreats, and private mentoring. It's really important to stay
Speaker 1: connected with other people through the power of community, because
Speaker 1: when life gets busy, it's who you surround yourself with
Speaker 1: that will allow you to elevate your life and business
Speaker 1: to the next level. So let's talk about how I've
Speaker 1: just become a fifo wife. Gosh, I didn't even know
Speaker 1: what that was until I googled it six weeks ago.
Speaker 1: A fifo is someone who flies in and flies out.
Speaker 1: Now it's been six weeks since my husband relocated to
Speaker 1: Read and I spent six weeks with him with no network,
Speaker 1: in a new country, in a new culture, really understanding
Speaker 1: the power of what I wanted to create when I
Speaker 1: was spending time in Read. Now, for those of you
Speaker 1: that don't know, Read is one of the most dynamic
Speaker 1: cities in the world at the moment. It's a part
Speaker 1: of Saudi Arabia. It has seven million people, and they
Speaker 1: literally have handpicked the best of the best in terms
Speaker 1: of leadership to drive a whole lot of change which
Speaker 1: they're hoping to amplify in twenty thirty, which is called
Speaker 1: the Kingdom's Vision. So the focus is very much on innovation, retail,
Speaker 1: take and business. And let me tell you, the minds
Speaker 1: of the people that I've come across since I've been
Speaker 1: in Read are nothing short of extraordinary. Their knowledge, their impact,
Speaker 1: they're willing to pay forward that to create the magic
Speaker 1: that the world so deserves at this point in time,
Speaker 1: is honestly extraordinary. But here's the catch. I had to
Speaker 1: actually understand if I could call this place home, what
Speaker 1: was my place in this new com unity, what was
Speaker 1: the culture? How was I actually going to fit in?
Speaker 1: So how I started doing. This was pretty simple with
Speaker 1: my husband. We decided that using the framework that I've
Speaker 1: used for the past twenty five years, which is called
Speaker 1: the Coffee Date framework. The Coffee day framework goes like
Speaker 1: this is how I created and built my first business,
Speaker 1: which attracted the world's top performing brands, celebrities and influence
Speaker 1: as an extraordinary team of twenty two. It's also the
Speaker 1: same framework that I used to create and build Powerful
Speaker 1: Steps in twenty nineteen. Every single week I commit to
Speaker 1: three coffee dates. One was someone I know, one was
Speaker 1: someone I want to partner with, and one with someone
Speaker 1: completely outside of my comfort zone. Now, because I didn't
Speaker 1: know anyone in realit except for my husband, he became
Speaker 1: my coffee date every single day for someone that I know,
Speaker 1: And what we would do is we would book an
Speaker 1: uber to different parts of the city, or it would
Speaker 1: stay in hotels and from parts of the city and
Speaker 1: we would just walk and talk, lean in, learn grow
Speaker 1: absurd experience. It was an absolute game changer because by
Speaker 1: the time I was sitting a couple of weeks later,
Speaker 1: surrounded by men in a compound. Now, for those of
Speaker 1: you that don't understand what a compound is, it's actually
Speaker 1: got a totally different vibe. It's a secure, tight knit
Speaker 1: community filled with expats from all over the world. It's
Speaker 1: also a great way to get a sense of the
Speaker 1: community while you're adjusting to a new place. So I
Speaker 1: am one of around twelve men sitting around having a drink,
Speaker 1: and let me tell you, it wasn't an actual alcoholic drink.
Speaker 1: It was a tea drink because alcohol is banned in
Speaker 1: Saudi Arabia. And that's actually been a good thing for
Speaker 1: me and my husband because our mindset has never been
Speaker 1: clearer now because we've been coffee dating and really understanding
Speaker 1: the power of what it was that we can contribute
Speaker 1: to this new, vibrant city. By the time I sat there,
Speaker 1: I knew exactly what my passion and purpose was, but
Speaker 1: I just didn't know how to share it because I
Speaker 1: had no one to invite on a coffee date to
Speaker 1: partner with. But as the universe has conspired with me
Speaker 1: many times across all of my career, I seem to
Speaker 1: be placed in situations where I've either met someone before
Speaker 1: I know someone, or there's a unique synchronicity where we
Speaker 1: can create magic together. So out of those men in
Speaker 1: that circle of Drinks. You would not believe this. When
Speaker 1: I was in my twins, before I came back to
Speaker 1: Australia and started Torstar. When I was twenty four, I
Speaker 1: did a stint at MTV London. Who was sitting next
Speaker 1: to me on my right in this Hello Andrew, the
Speaker 1: PR manager for MTV at the time. We could not
Speaker 1: believe it. We had not seen each other in decades,
Speaker 1: and of course he said to me, Torri, how can
Speaker 1: I help with you? How can I partner with you?
Speaker 1: You can become a voice for women and change. Hey
Speaker 1: head a a major PR company. I've been in the
Speaker 1: region long time. How can I help you? Bingo? Second
Speaker 1: coffee date, third coffee date for me is always someone
Speaker 1: outside of my comfort zone. Now, this is where you
Speaker 1: really reach for the stars. It's meeting people that you
Speaker 1: don't know and just surrendering to the process and really
Speaker 1: challenging yourself to align with what's meant for you. Because
Speaker 1: I truly believe what's meant for us comes for us
Speaker 1: at the right time. So because I was showing up
Speaker 1: on Instagram stories every day, it was really interesting. I
Speaker 1: started receiving these messages from people all around the world.
Speaker 1: Toy you should get to meet my friend. Hey, I
Speaker 1: know you love coffee dating, meet this person. Hey, so
Speaker 1: and So's in town? Would you like to connect with them?
Speaker 1: Was an absolute yes to all of those requests. So
Speaker 1: here I am understanding all the different little communities because
Speaker 1: I'd committed to someone I know in a coffee date
Speaker 1: and I doubled out with them with my husband every
Speaker 1: single day. I'd met Andrew, who obviously was someone that
Speaker 1: I wanted to partner with, and I knew that with
Speaker 1: his agency, I could create a little bit of impact.
Speaker 1: But thirdly, I also knew the places to coffee date, which,
Speaker 1: by the way, if you go to my website powerful
Speaker 1: dush steps dot com, I actually least all the different
Speaker 1: places I love coffee dating in read to buy, New York,
Speaker 1: Los Angeles, and Sydney, Australia. So when I was getting
Speaker 1: these direct messages like hey, you want to coffee date here?
Speaker 1: How you want to coffee date there? Actually felt like
Speaker 1: a local. I felt like I claimed my power, but
Speaker 1: most importantly, I felt like I had something to offer.
Speaker 1: So the power of community really is about not going
Speaker 1: in all guns blazing and saying this is who I
Speaker 1: am and this is what I want. It's about really
Speaker 1: settling into the energy of where you want to be,
Speaker 1: what you want to create, and what you want to track.
Speaker 1: This is the magic of life. This is how you
Speaker 1: become an attractor rather than a hustler. Now, once you've
Speaker 1: actually had those coffee dates, the power of connection, the
Speaker 1: power of community, the power of building a global network, which,
Speaker 1: by the way, you can actually download in my Powerful
Speaker 1: Steps app via my website. A video series on how
Speaker 1: I network. It's called how to Network Like a Pro.
Speaker 1: It's a masterclass. It's awesome. Watch the videos and we'll
Speaker 1: give you this framework as well. But for the purpose
Speaker 1: of this podcast, I'm going to talk to you about
Speaker 1: how I stay connected. Once I've connected with someone, it's
Speaker 1: really important I manage my time effectively. It's pretty simple, right,
Speaker 1: because it's not easy to juggle everything. So you've connected
Speaker 1: with people, but you want to keep the connection, but
Speaker 1: also you want to know who's in and who's out.
Speaker 1: Let's be brutally honest here and now that I'm a
Speaker 1: FIFO wife, that's right, a fly and fly out wife.
Speaker 1: It's not easy to juggle everything. So here's how I've
Speaker 1: learned to manage my time and my energy effectively as
Speaker 1: I navigate life within three countries. Number One, I prioritize
Speaker 1: my energy because my health absolutely comes first. So every
Speaker 1: day I'm sticking to my tenenty to twenty thousand steps
Speaker 1: a day. If you want to reach out and have
Speaker 1: a coffee date with me, if you see me on
Speaker 1: it Instagram stories and we're an energetic match, I'm going
Speaker 1: to say yes. Just remember this. When you prioritize your energy,
Speaker 1: it clears your head, it gives you energy, and it
Speaker 1: helps you stay focused. So my energy is everything. I
Speaker 1: would not be who I am if I didn't create
Speaker 1: boundaries around it. Number two meaningful connections. This is how
Speaker 1: I manage my time effectively. I'm currently back in Sydney, Australia,
Speaker 1: about to fly to la and five days and honestly,
Speaker 1: I have not seen anyone. I literally said to the universe,
Speaker 1: allow people to reach out to me, and if the
Speaker 1: connection feels like it's something that we can do together,
Speaker 1: which is an energetic match, I'm going to say it yes.
Speaker 1: But apart from that, I'm not going to reach out.
Speaker 1: Twenty one because I'm here to spend time with my daughter.
Speaker 1: I'm here to be in my home. I haven't been
Speaker 1: here for a while, I want to just soak couple
Speaker 1: of that energy. And most importantly, I was only here
Speaker 1: for eight to ten days, so it meant that I
Speaker 1: had to really my time and prioritize who I wanted
Speaker 1: to see, which means I will only connect with people
Speaker 1: who inspire me, challenge me, and hold me accountable. So
Speaker 1: if I'm in a country and I'm unavailable, it's because
Speaker 1: those things don't feel like an energetic match for me.
Speaker 1: But if something that lights me up with a request,
Speaker 1: I'm always gonna say yes. But when you're building a business,
Speaker 1: you really need to prioritize your energy and you need
Speaker 1: to make sure that you have meaningful connections. The third
Speaker 1: thing is this, I always embrace flexibility, so no matter
Speaker 1: where I am in the world, I do not jump
Speaker 1: back my diary. I have room to move because life
Speaker 1: in any country is unpredictable. But I've learned to be
Speaker 1: adaptable and go with the flow because things don't always
Speaker 1: go as planned. Flexibility is always key. Now a lot
Speaker 1: of people then say to me, we'll tory, what do
Speaker 1: you say on these coffee dates? Again? Jump across to
Speaker 1: the powerful steps app because I will be showing up
Speaker 1: randomly at this point in time, just because of my
Speaker 1: schedule for live coffee dates. Now, if you want to
Speaker 1: actually tap into when I'm available, you simply sign up
Speaker 1: to the app and you'll see the events schedule when
Speaker 1: you can actually have time with me in a community
Speaker 1: setting to actually learn, grow and claim your power as well.
Speaker 1: So I hope that today's podcast has been insightful. I've
Speaker 1: clearly claimed my power in new and exciting ways. I've
Speaker 1: cut rid of all of the fat in my business.
Speaker 1: I've allowed my time to settle into a new way
Speaker 1: of living, a new way of stepping up and sharing
Speaker 1: with people the knowledge that I know, because it's very important.
Speaker 1: If you have wisdom, you share it. And most importantly,
Speaker 1: I'm just excited about once ahead, and that's a number
Speaker 1: reason why I'm here on this podcast with you today.
Speaker 1: I hope that this has helped you, truly do hope
Speaker 1: that I get to see at one of my upcoming events, retreats,
Speaker 1: or programs. Much love, Tory,