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Speaker 1: But no matter when I talk to them today, this day,

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Speaker 1: And of course I'm being facetious but all this is

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Speaker 1: we call that reactive health management, not proactive. So if

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Speaker 1: There's just honesty. There's just self awareness. You can't go

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Speaker 1: do better things with it. And everything that you've done

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Speaker 1: up until this moment in time, as you listen to this,

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Speaker 1: that some obviously we can't change past behaviors, but in

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Speaker 1: For me, it's always been about It's always been about

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Speaker 1: me say, it's mostly been about learning how to love

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Speaker 1: nourish it. I am eating food that will make my

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Speaker 1: body work better. So conscious eating might look something like,

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Speaker 1: I will not eat in secret. I used to do

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Speaker 1: I don't like actually sharing it with you, but it's true,

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Speaker 1: and so I can beat myself up, which I'm not.

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Speaker 1: I can just say I did some really dumb shit

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Speaker 1: I'm just owning it. I continuing on this conscious eating conversation,

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Speaker 1: that I find hilarious is grown ups, adult humans posting

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Speaker 1: if you don't think that that's what most people are doing,

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Speaker 1: you don't really know what's going on. Because we all

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Speaker 1: know what a fucking healthy meal looks like. We don't

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Speaker 1: it's the problem with this is when we constantly need

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Speaker 1: right thing. Now, we just create a new addiction. Look

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Speaker 1: at me, syndrome. Look at me. Look how good I am.

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Speaker 1: Look how well I'm eeting. Look how lean I'm getting.

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Speaker 1: Look at what I'm doing, Look at my behavior. Look

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Speaker 1: that's your insecurity. Trust me when I tell you that. Firstly,

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Speaker 1: you cool. You know that's incidental. Great, but don't go

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Speaker 1: searching for that. Don't go seeking validation and approval all

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Speaker 1: not you're actually really on the path, really changing. Here's

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Speaker 1: another one, conscious eating. I will not continue the stop

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Speaker 1: then eat well. I will not binge and then eat

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Speaker 1: The reason that my first book was all about this

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Speaker 1: for me to help other people to change their body fitter, stronger, leaner, lighter, healthier,

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Speaker 1: And so too with food, getting our food right, getting

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Speaker 1: with high quality nutrition. I will not stuff it with food.

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Speaker 1: I will be mindful that my body is where I live,

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Speaker 1: body audit for you. Number one, does it work optimally

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Speaker 1: and it's not healthy, then maybe it's time for you

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Speaker 1: And your food and your relationship with food, and your protocol,

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Speaker 1: your operating system with food moving forward. Consider that as

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Speaker 1: experiences optimal health. And I know you want your version

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Speaker 1: of optimal health. See you next time.