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Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables, What made you realize you were

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Speaker 1: better off alone?

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Speaker 2: Planning my schedule just to avoid him?

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Speaker 3: Cool, that's heavy. That's when you know you should just

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Speaker 3: that's heavy.

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Speaker 4: Holy shit.

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Speaker 5: I couldn't imagine coming to like, I couldn't imagine my

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Speaker 5: conscious brain realizing what I'm doing and then being like,

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Speaker 5: oh my god, I hate this fucking person.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and men they are oblivious too, so I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: catch on it at all.

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Speaker 2: No, he'd just be thinking, like, you know, freak time.

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Speaker 2: He be thinking like, oh, you're busy, busy, that's hot. Yeah, relatable.

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Speaker 1: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig, Okay,

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Speaker 1: Daddy Winner and my Loser in Crime Audio plus KKA Mummy.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 5: I wasn't going to start with that, but we played

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Speaker 5: a little thing called Paddle yesterday.

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Speaker 2: A little bit of jungle pad or a little jungle.

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Speaker 5: Paddle here in Bali, and we booked him for about

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Speaker 5: four pm and I wore sunscreen on my face, thinking

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Speaker 5: I'll just put it on my face. It's a combination

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Speaker 5: of moisturizer, sunscreen, you know, win win, and sweat, and

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Speaker 5: you know, yeah, it.

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Speaker 2: Is what it is.

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Speaker 5: Sweat, sweat, And then I thought I wouldn't want put

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Speaker 5: any sunscreen anywhere else because last time I played jungle Paddle,

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Speaker 5: every single court was under cover.

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Speaker 1: And we get there and the only court that's not

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Speaker 1: on the cover is the court that we're on. I know,

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Speaker 1: my apologies, bit there's no way of me knowing no,

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Speaker 1: And so I actually that afternoon sun is not as harsh.

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Speaker 2: No, I didn't get burned.

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Speaker 1: The conditions were hot, and to Jake's credit, he beat me.

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Speaker 1: We actually went so we're playing a seven and it

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Speaker 1: ended up being eleven nine.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, we've started off.

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Speaker 5: With both of our girlfriends were there, Ben and Cassie,

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Speaker 5: and we started off practicing and then it was Beth

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Speaker 5: and myself Team Jeffany against what was your team name

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Speaker 5: in the end Coddy against Team Coddy, Cassie and Oughty,

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Speaker 5: and we did first. We did three games, obviously first

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Speaker 5: to win two games.

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Speaker 1: Games weren't a true testament of our skill ability.

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Speaker 5: Team Coddy, to their credit credit, they won the first game.

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Speaker 5: Pretty sure it was eleven nine or something. You guys

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Speaker 5: won the first game, and so then Beth and I

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Speaker 5: came back, we got the second game. We won the

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Speaker 5: second game, and then again we won the third game, and.

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Speaker 2: So we went fuck it.

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Speaker 5: We played some singles boys versus boys, girls verse girls,

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Speaker 5: and so we were going to play first to seven

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Speaker 5: you got a win by two, and Oddie and I

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Speaker 5: kept on going like back and forth, back and both.

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Speaker 2: We had to play up to eleven and I barely won.

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Speaker 1: I was winning, yeah, I was winning six to three

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Speaker 1: or something, and I'm there to get one point and

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Speaker 2: And it takes it out of you.

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Speaker 1: I was so tired. Yeah, but I guess I started

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Speaker 1: with that because still eating me up a little bit.

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Speaker 2: You had to be the one to let everyone know

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Speaker 2: you're lost. You couldn't let me just say, oh do

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Speaker 2: you fucking love? That's right?

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Speaker 4: I need to assert my dominance.

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Speaker 1: But last week, Adi, I hope everyone remembers this as well.

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Speaker 2: If you haven't listened to last week's episode, go have

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Speaker 2: a listen. Good episode.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, by the way, if you didn't listen last week,

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Speaker 1: we're in Bali recording in a new studio.

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Speaker 2: There you go.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we have a better update last week, but we

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Speaker 5: were I'm pretty sure I actually I apologies it was

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Speaker 5: actually a Patroon episode, maybe maybe not.

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Speaker 2: Five dollars a month extra episode every week book Club.

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Speaker 1: Early Odi used the word facetious, and sure I was right.

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Speaker 1: The context in which Otti used the word facetious was

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I think facetious means overly confident.

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Speaker 1: And I did say to him, I said, is that facetious?

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Speaker 2: I was like, is that the right word?

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Speaker 1: And so then when I was editing, he came across it,

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Speaker 1: So I wrote down, I said, he said facetious means

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Speaker 1: overly confident. What facetious really means is treating a serious

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Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like there could be a

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Speaker 2: So it means sarcastic.

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Speaker 5: And so the reason I've heard that I find facetious

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Speaker 5: The time you used it was correct, but so on

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Speaker 4: The reason I knew the word was from school, and

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Speaker 4: You were busy reading comic books bomb.

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Speaker 2: So basically, I just wanted to bring up that only

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Speaker 1: Wrong, and he was confident that it meant that facetious

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Speaker 2: Sorry, He's what I was going to get up. So

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Speaker 5: But I and the reason I kind of knew what

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Speaker 1: don't be facetious, and I was being sarcastic and I

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Speaker 2: I don't know what it means.

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Speaker 1: Okay, interesting, So I need to either pull out some

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Speaker 1: big words in today's episode or some automati pir Whenever

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Speaker 2: Well, use a word in this episode if you can remember.

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Speaker 5: And by the end of the episode, if I haven't

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Speaker 2: You did say?

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Speaker 2: Interesting? Okay? That word of the week.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but ig question, let's get straight into the juicy stuff.

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Speaker 2: Let's kick things off this week. The question was what

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Speaker 2: made you realize you were better off alone?

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Speaker 1: And this one is good in two senses because one,

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Speaker 2: Because the funny ones were making me laugh.

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Speaker 4: Maybe better off alone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this might spark something. So I have a really

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Speaker 1: good worst one. Okay, what made you realize that you're

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Speaker 2: Men? Period? Ah, facts fact truth, that is very true.

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Speaker 1: What made you realize you were better off alone when

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Speaker 1: you used my toothbrush? Oh?

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Speaker 5: I think one time Beth used mind and I did

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Speaker 1: She she didn't give a shit. So because we have

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Speaker 2: Like, what are you doing? You got to switch the head.

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Speaker 1: You have one toothbrush, and every time we brush your

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Speaker 5: No, now that we live together, so we both. But

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Speaker 5: And one time she's kind of nice not to have

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Speaker 2: I was mad. I was like, no, we don't use

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Speaker 2: that's a reason to be better off alone. It depends.

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Speaker 1: No, No, I feel she didn't do it on purpose or

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Speaker 1: she didn't think I'm gonna yeah. Yeah. If you just

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Speaker 1: walk in and you're like, oh, what are you doing

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Speaker 1: and they're using your toothbrush, like, oh, yeah, we kissed,

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Speaker 2: I think it's different because I know my teeth get chat.

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Speaker 1: It's like some cheesels or something, and like, I don't

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Speaker 2: She's been int some fish and stuff. I hate that.

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Speaker 2: I just still for some reason things sharing toothbrush it's gross.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why. Yeah, I would like to say

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Speaker 2: Tea, like what was weird about it? Yeah, like you

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Speaker 2: The way I take this is most men act like children.

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Speaker 5: I was thinking, like Beth, you'd be a milk like

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Speaker 5: But at the same time, I was thinking, you know,

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Speaker 2: But at the same time it was weird.

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Speaker 1: But I said, I don't have It's terrible analogy, but

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Speaker 1: But you know what, sure thing anyone's ever said, I

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Speaker 5: And then some dog dog walker bitch replies and best

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Speaker 5: twice a week. And Beth was like, that's fine, but

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, like or if you don't want to put

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Speaker 2: Get don't get one y. I think it's funny.

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Speaker 1: A lot of people do look at dogs, I would

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Speaker 1: very differently, Yeah, like what is entailed to actually being

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Speaker 2: Like it's a lot.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I've had people tell me which I don't

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Speaker 2: When you have a.

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Speaker 1: Kid, I can't remember what the exact term was, but

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Speaker 1: will you let it sleep in your bed with you?

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Speaker 2: My kid? Yeah? Like when it's a baby. No, I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I said, Apparently a lot of people let it

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Speaker 1: think that's the same. I'd have a nap on the lounge,

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Speaker 1: I'd have an app with it on the bed, but

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Speaker 1: I want someone else conscious when it's still there. I

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Speaker 2: Is that? I mean?

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Speaker 1: I have no experience, but I'm pretty sure you're not

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Speaker 2: Who knows? Apparently some people do. Who knows?

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Speaker 1: Who knows? Oh, it's a good one going off what

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Speaker 1: you just said. What made you realize you were better

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Speaker 1: off alone the way he treated his dog. Ah, I

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Speaker 2: Yeah. You actually you see a guy's true colors or

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Speaker 1: And I do like to say girls stereotypically do treat

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Speaker 2: That's how he will treat you as well.

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Speaker 1: Hey, agree, a lot of I think a lot of

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Speaker 2: Oh and then they buy the dog that's cool, not

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Speaker 1: Area, Like people need like a fucking shitsu or like

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Speaker 2: What was Tilly Jack an mini fox? Yeah, she was

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Speaker 1: But then they'll go get like a Australian shepherd and

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Speaker 5: Well, like people will get crazy ass dogs. People will

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Speaker 5: get hunting dogs. Yeah, and there'll just be a house

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Speaker 5: its like, bro, they need to fucking live outside.

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Speaker 5: I do feel bad for a lot, like dogs that

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Speaker 2: Do you do that? But that's something you don't do. No.

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Speaker 1: I always close it, but Beth is not scared to

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Speaker 2: And then I'm like clo and you think I've I've

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Speaker 5: Our villa doesn't have a door in the bathroom, and

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Speaker 2: I noticed that. Do you have a toilet downstairs?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you what anyone who thinks their relationship is

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Speaker 1: like ten out of ten The perfect test is to

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Speaker 1: and because your shit probably two to three times more

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Speaker 1: We got a villa with two bedrooms and two bathrooms.

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Speaker 1: Best decision. Yeah, I haven't think Cassie enjoys it more

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Speaker 1: I have my own. Next time, Beth, and I'm one

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Speaker 1: hundred sexy, I was.

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Speaker 5: I was kind of thinking, if anything, I want to

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Speaker 2: But the King bed has been amazing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, have you been using the You have one of

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Speaker 1: those round pillows, no putting it in between you two.

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Speaker 2: That's the best thing ever. Man, I've got two of you, maybe,

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Speaker 2: but four of my four.

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Speaker 1: Baw More importantly is you need to fucking tis because

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Speaker 1: especially think about this, what if you both get barley belly?

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Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, what.

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Speaker 5: If you're gonna have just squat in the shower if

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Speaker 1: The thing about girls and Cassie as well, is it's

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Speaker 2: Oh really said this?

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Speaker 1: One was like no, no, She's just like she's like,

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Speaker 1: I went this morning before you woke up.

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Speaker 4: I was like, she's like I had to go already.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, this is my day to day life,

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Speaker 1: Like I don't know, why do you think this is amazing?

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Speaker 2: It is funny.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I made I'll easily do two a day. Oh

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Speaker 1: yeah to a day. I was here, I'm doing. I

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Speaker 1: stories go.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 5: It's funny sometimes lately, ever since we started doing confession sessions,

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Speaker 5: just in case I get a story out of.

445
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Speaker 4: Yeah for the pot.

446
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Speaker 2: It hasn't happened yet. I went and got a massage

447
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Speaker 2: last night. Yeah, lucky. I was relaxed. Nothing happened. Being

448
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Speaker 2: relaxed is worse.

449
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Speaker 1: There's a few farts when she was robbing in my palmer.

450
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Speaker 1: Actually I didn't far, but like I had, Oh, it's

451
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Speaker 1: the cheeks.

452
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Speaker 5: I was thinking about. What's the worst things doing to

453
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Speaker 5: get in a massage? Probably the hiccups?

454
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that or fighting. Fighting is worse, more embarrassing.

455
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Speaker 1: Yeah, he has to just make it worse for yourself,

456
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Speaker 1: but not for the person giving it all. Right, Okay,

457
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Speaker 1: what made you realize you're better off alone? I can

458
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Speaker 1: make myself come every single time?

459
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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah. Hey. Hey,

460
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Speaker 2: no one knows your own body better than.

461
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Speaker 1: H Here's the thing, though, so she can make herself

462
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Speaker 1: come every single time, but she can also make him

463
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Speaker 1: come every single time.

464
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Speaker 2: So he's got power in both ways. Yeah, damn, damn.

465
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Speaker 5: What made you realize that you are better off alone? Oh,

466
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Speaker 5: this one's actually deep. I would rather be on my

467
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Speaker 5: own than be with someone who makes me feel lonely.

468
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Speaker 3: Oh that is deep. So when you're with him you

469
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Speaker 3: feel alone? Yeah, you just feel like fuck, he's not

470
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Speaker 3: of an air.

471
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Speaker 2: Very disignored. Yeah.

472
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Speaker 1: I feel like there would be a lot of distant

473
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Speaker 1: men who like well, it comes back to like men

474
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Speaker 1: and bad listeners that don't engage in conversations, that don't

475
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Speaker 1: ask any questions about their partner.

476
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Speaker 2: The list goes on and on. That is a bit sad.

477
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Speaker 1: What made you realize you were better off alone? When

478
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Speaker 1: I realized I wore the pants in the relationship and

479
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Speaker 1: felt like his mum, I was going to say, if

480
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Speaker 1: there was no mum part I kind of thought wearing

481
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Speaker 1: the pants, I feel like Beth wears appearance. Okay, we

482
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Speaker 1: argue who wears the pants in mind? Really?

483
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Speaker 2: Yeah, my rebuttal with I take your pants off? You

484
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Speaker 2: should one time when you're about.

485
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Speaker 1: To obviously you know, get into it. Yeah, you're still clothed.

486
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Speaker 5: You take her pants off, right, and then pull a

487
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Speaker 5: Cassian as you pull a Cassian and you leave, and

488
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Speaker 5: you go, who's wearing the pants now?

489
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Speaker 2: And then you walk away? She would be perplexed. Day No,

490
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Speaker 2: I feel like Beth wears the pants.

491
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Speaker 1: But ah, there's times where I can tell she doesn't

492
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Speaker 1: want to.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, you know what I mean. I'm gonna want

494
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Speaker 2: to be baby. I'm going to pause right here. I

495
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Speaker 2: just did it and you didn't realize that was my word.

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Speaker 4: Of the week.

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Speaker 2: Plex I told you to use it.

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Speaker 1: I said use it more than like multiple times, and

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Speaker 1: by the end, tell me because if you were way

500
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Speaker 1: too happy if I didn't want to once you to

501
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Speaker 1: realize I got away, but you didn't even blink. I

502
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Speaker 1: thought of it was like perplex'd ah, but what does

503
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Speaker 1: that say about you?

504
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Speaker 2: I put you on a high enough pedestal to think

505
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Speaker 2: you would use that. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: My immediate thought when you said to use like a

507
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Speaker 1: big word, my vocavery, I was like, I don't have any.

508
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Speaker 5: Clearly because if you just trying to pronounce it vocabulary,

509
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Speaker 5: okay you uh yeah, go what made you realize you're

510
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Speaker 5: better off alone?

511
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Speaker 2: My skin got clearer?

512
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Speaker 1: Oh?

513
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Speaker 2: Had one like that? Way?

514
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Speaker 4: Was it?

515
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Speaker 2: Imagine you have shitty skin while dating a man.

516
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Speaker 1: And you break the cortisol my when my acne breakout

517
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Speaker 1: stopped after we broke out.

518
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Speaker 2: That's in broken up. Yeah, that is insane. Oh yeah,

519
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Speaker 2: you wouldn't want to date a man ever again.

520
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Speaker 5: Though to be fair, you would be like, oh, it

521
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Speaker 5: must just be men in general, but it would just be.

522
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like when you eat bad food and you

523
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Speaker 1: get a pimple. Is that the right analogy?

524
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Speaker 5: No, it's like when you get about a hangover from

525
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Speaker 5: one drink.

526
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're like, I'm not touching that ever again.

527
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And it takes you to.

528
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Speaker 2: Be fair blessing in disguise.

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Speaker 3: We learned the other week, like you realize when do

530
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Speaker 3: you realize, like something is better than men?

531
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Speaker 2: Like when I tried with it?

532
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I gotta say you remember I can only.

533
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Speaker 5: Pineapple juice and what you can only want? No, I

534
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Speaker 5: couldn't drink. You want a real bad hangover? Once a

535
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Speaker 5: pineapple vogkas from like voga pineapple and I think it

536
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Speaker 5: was like a vogas sunrise as well, you know, I

537
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Speaker 5: remember that is sugar and we go and.

538
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Speaker 2: That was the worst hangover we've ever had in our lives.

539
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Speaker 5: And I can only now think about drinking pineapple juice

540
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Speaker 5: and be like, yeah, that would be good.

541
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Speaker 2: Did you have what was that thing?

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Speaker 1: I'd never tried it, and I wanted to try because I

543
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Speaker 1: didn't drink when I was like a young adult. And

544
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Speaker 1: they're like six bucks and they come on like a

545
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Speaker 1: leader thing.

546
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Speaker 2: Fat lamb, fat lambs. You know we had them.

547
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Speaker 4: You had it as well.

548
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Speaker 2: Remember that that contributed to the hangover. Fat lambs are gross.

549
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Speaker 2: Describe a fat lamb to anyone who's in Australia. Okay.

550
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Speaker 5: Fat lambs are at about eight dollars and they have

551
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Speaker 5: about eight standard drinks in them, and it's like a

552
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Speaker 5: leader and it just tastes kind of like like a

553
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Speaker 5: mixture of soft drink insider, and you drink them before

554
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Speaker 5: you go out, because.

555
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Speaker 2: Yeah, easy.

556
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Speaker 1: What most people did when we were like sixteen eighteen

557
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Speaker 1: was by one of them because you were sorted. And

558
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Speaker 1: I never had my drinking phase when I was that age.

559
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Speaker 1: So when we were traveling out the eas coast of Australia,

560
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Speaker 1: I was like, I've never had a fat Lamb before

561
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Speaker 1: I saw them.

562
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Speaker 2: We got two weeks and I was like, I want

563
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Speaker 2: to give it a go. We got two each.

564
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Speaker 1: We drank two fat Lambs at a campsite and then

565
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Speaker 1: we went out in airly beats.

566
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Speaker 2: That's so embarrassing because we were trying to save money.

567
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Speaker 2: Well that was wild.

568
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Speaker 4: Yeah, we were, Yeah, that was why.

569
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Speaker 2: We bought them.

570
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Speaker 1: Wow, that's hilarious. Okay, what made you realize you were

571
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Speaker 1: better off alone? Planning my schedule just to avoid.

572
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Speaker 3: Himse that's heavy. That's when you know you should just

573
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Speaker 3: that's heavy.

574
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Speaker 4: Holy shit.

575
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Speaker 5: I couldn't imagine coming to like, I couldn't imagine my

576
00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:13,479
Speaker 5: conscious brain realizing what I'm doing. And then being like,

577
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Speaker 5: oh my god, I hate this fucking person. Yeah, and

578
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 5: men they're oblivious too, so they wouldn't catch on at all. No,

579
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 5: he'd just be thinking, like, you know, free time. He'd

580
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:28,159
Speaker 5: be thinking like, oh, you're busy, busy, that's hot. Yeah,

581
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 5: what made you realize you're better off alone?

582
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 2: When he walked like a clown? Gave me the yck.

583
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,639
Speaker 1: Like feet out. I've been trying to ride my Bucky

584
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:38,439
Speaker 1: like that a little bit. I've seen like Indonesians do.

585
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Speaker 4: It's kind of cool.

586
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:39,680
Speaker 2: Yeah.

587
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:44,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, I've been trying to go kind of like legs straight,

588
00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:47,960
Speaker 5: slightly bent, and I kind of like reaching for the handlebars.

589
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 1: And feel like I'm on like a Holly.

590
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 2: I like the really leaning into the.

591
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Speaker 1: I like to let their cross breathe a little bit.

592
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:57,640
Speaker 1: Gets hot in Indonesia.

593
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Speaker 2: This is my last one. What made you realized you

594
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 2: were better off a loan? I found out he was

595
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 2: gluten intolerant. Damn, pick that one for you, sir.

596
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Speaker 5: I gotta say I think I definitely am because when

597
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 5: I was at home doing that low for MAP, I've

598
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 5: been eating whatever I want here obviously, when I was

599
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Speaker 5: doing low FORMAP at home. The fact that it was

600
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 5: being like I was helping me out and I was

601
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 5: doing like one shit a day, barely having to wipe.

602
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Speaker 1: I was like, wow, the amount of times we can

603
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Speaker 1: bring shit back to talking about ship?

604
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Speaker 2: Well, you think it's relatable. Everyone everyone does it once

605
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Speaker 2: a day at least. And the good thing about being

606
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Speaker 2: here is you have time to be on the toilet.

607
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Speaker 2: It's great.

608
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 5: Okay, I think I have like three more. What made

609
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 5: you realize you're better off alone? All the married men

610
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:54,400
Speaker 5: in my dms?

611
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Speaker 2: Are you going to take the bait?

612
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Speaker 1: That's crazy?

613
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Speaker 2: Oh no, I get that. Sorry, I get that wrong.

614
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Speaker 2: Would you think of men you're going to take the bait? Yeah?

615
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 2: I don't know. So that means like, oh, do you

616
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 2: think it was a scamming thing?

617
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Speaker 4: No?

618
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 2: No, no, I just don't worry. Ah. I don't know,

619
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Speaker 2: but I get it. I get it.

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Speaker 4: Guy.

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Speaker 5: What made you realize you but that you're better off alone?

622
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 5: I can wear heels now?

623
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Speaker 2: He was a short king. Give Beth wear heels with you.

624
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 5: I have to wear my dogs, have to wear my dogs.

625
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Speaker 1: I'm the high end of five eleven. She's five nine.

626
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 1: She thinks she's five ten, five nine. Okay, idiot, what

627
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 1: made you realize that you're better off alone.

628
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 2: When I saw what his dad looked like.

629
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Speaker 4: Oh, you don't know.

630
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:47,399
Speaker 2: You don't know which gene he got.

631
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 4: It's a mixture of both.

632
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:53,399
Speaker 1: My therapist put me on a man band.

633
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 4: Oh can I do that?

634
00:27:55,960 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 2: I mean, hey, a therapist prescribes no more men. I

635
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:02,119
Speaker 2: feel like that's legal.

636
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:07,360
Speaker 1: I feel like that's getting too personal. But it's out

637
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 1: like a full prescription that says no more man. Imagine

638
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 1: that no more willies for you. Okay, baddies, it is

639
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:24,679
Speaker 1: time for the next segment, which is Field versus Field.

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Speaker 1: I've been loving this week three, we got ghosting versus communication.

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Speaker 1: All right, regular apps, mid chat.

642
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Speaker 2: Poof did they die? Get busy? Who knows? On Field?

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00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 2: Not a match, but you seem cool. Adults using their

644
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Speaker 2: words love to see that.

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Speaker 1: Fields built for honest, open connections, one person, multiple people, whatever.

646
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 2: Find your friends, just moved, recovering from a friend breakup.

647
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Speaker 5: Field can confirm that it's possible to find friends in adulthood.

648
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Speaker 1: Filter your search by desire and find the people who

649
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 1: want real platonic love. Download Field and match with people

650
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 1: who actually reply. Link is in the description badd is

651
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 1: If you want to sign up to field.

652
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Speaker 2: It's at the.

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Speaker 1: Top one.

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Speaker 2: Baddies time for dilemmas.

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Speaker 1: Actually, there was some fucking juicy ones. I'm not gonna lie,

656
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 1: but we're gotta help this bati out.

657
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, how could they submit a dilemma if they

658
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 2: want to joke?

659
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 1: Ah?

660
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Speaker 2: Sorry? How could I forget?

661
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 5: It's either in the Lincoln the description of this episode,

662
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 5: or it is in the link of the description in

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Speaker 5: our bio and you scroll down, click on dilemmas, you

664
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Speaker 5: submit a dilemma. It's all anonymous, even though we ask

665
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Speaker 5: if it wants to be anonymous or not, it's all

666
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 5: anonymous regardless. We'll just be nice, Okay, Hi, Ja Canotti.

667
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Speaker 5: I've been a listener for a couple of years now,

668
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 5: and I love the podcast. I am in urgent need

669
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 5: of advice, Okay. I am a twenty two year old

670
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 5: female in a three and a half year relation ship

671
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:03,400
Speaker 5: with a twenty two year old male, and essentially, I

672
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 5: don't know if this relationship is the one for me

673
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 5: right now. I am so stuck because I genuinely do

674
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 5: love this man so much. In mid July, we sat

675
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 5: down to chat and he brought up a bunch of

676
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 5: things He didn't like about our relationship, basically suggesting if

677
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 5: these things didn't change, then we would break up. Long

678
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 5: story short, the dynamic was off. He felt like I

679
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 5: was judgy and.

680
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 1: Not so very supportive of his decisions, and gave me

681
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:33,440
Speaker 1: fair examples which I did agree with, eg. Pulling a

682
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 1: face when he said he was going to go mid

683
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 1: week drinking with his mates.

684
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Speaker 2: For context.

685
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Speaker 5: He would previously just do whatever I suggested and has

686
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:44,479
Speaker 5: never brought up concerns within the whole three years. We

687
00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:49,360
Speaker 5: resolved this by writing down our non negotiables within our relationship,

688
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 5: since obviously they have changed a lot since we were eighteen.

689
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 5: We were both really happy with this outcome, and I

690
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 5: do have to say it feels like a new relationship.

691
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 5: Since this, I have been on and off very anxious

692
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 5: about if he is going to end it with me.

693
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 5: I spiral over little things and often jump to the

694
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 5: conclusion that he's going to break up with me or

695
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:15,280
Speaker 5: we just aren't meant for each other. I feel that

696
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 5: these thoughts are unreasonable and just because of the change

697
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 5: of dynamic, maybe because I am in less control question mark.

698
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Speaker 5: But there are other things that make me feel like

699
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 5: I am underappreciated I constantly have to follow up with

700
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 5: him to organize if we will have dinner at my place.

701
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 5: Uses the excuse that he's tired, which he usually is

702
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 5: for not engaging in conversation or not coming over always

703
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 5: gives me logical solutions if I am being emotional. I

704
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 5: have talked to him about all these things, but I

705
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 5: think he takes it as criticism and I just don't

706
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 5: know how to bring it up now, obviously because I

707
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 5: am now very anxious. Please help me understand if I'm

708
00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 5: being all in my head and how to bring these

709
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 5: up in a way that will resonate with an introverted

710
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:02,959
Speaker 5: man who needs is alone time. I am the exact opposite,

711
00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 5: especially the logical solutions thing.

712
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 1: I'm begging you. Love you both, and thank you. Oh

713
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 1: this is very very actually, but I thought I was

714
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 1: going to be giving advice.

715
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 2: I thought she was going to be like, how do

716
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 2: I break up this man? But she wants to stay.

717
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 1: That would have been waysier so initially. So the foundations

718
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:27,959
Speaker 1: of a relationship to me are two things. One is trust,

719
00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 1: which they still have.

720
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 2: Yeah.

721
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:33,880
Speaker 1: The other thing is love, and love is shown in

722
00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 1: quite a lot of ways, and you're still saying it

723
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 1: to each other. But I feel like this relationship has

724
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 1: lost the unspoken love and she doesn't feel it when

725
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 1: it's like not said, And whenever there's any type of

726
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 1: controversy or arguments or even when nothing's there, she goes

727
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 1: to fight or flight, which is fair because she's lost

728
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 1: the underlying love feeling they give someone reassurance in a relationship.

729
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 2: It's hard, Okay, I mean I got.

730
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,160
Speaker 5: Like a couple of things, so it heaps the breakdown

731
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 5: here going writing down all the things that you don't

732
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 5: like in your relationship.

733
00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 1: I mean, hey, I guess it's communication.

734
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 2: I would love to see that list.

735
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, because if the if, like if the main thing

736
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:18,560
Speaker 1: on his list is that he doesn't like the faces

737
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 1: you pull because he the decisions he makes like and

738
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:24,720
Speaker 1: that decision, the main one that she put.

739
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:26,840
Speaker 5: In that decision being the fact that she doesn't really

740
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 5: like it. If he goes midweek drinking with his mates, Yeah,

741
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 5: I also would probably if every week birth went midweek drinking,

742
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 5: if I saw it like affecting her life, I would

743
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 5: also be like, why are you doing this?

744
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 1: And there's not quite enough information to give a proper

745
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 1: answer to this, But so he breaks every scenario down

746
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 1: when she's emotional with logic, which makes sense, but to

747
00:33:56,840 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 1: me it sounded controlling. Yeah, and so she always worse,

748
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 1: so she and I can't give her a proper answer. No, no,

749
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 1: And she also in there was saying like, I'm now

750
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:09,720
Speaker 1: quite anxious, and she's questioning whether or not it's because

751
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 1: she feels maybe she has lost control, like he used

752
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 1: to just go along with everything that she said. He

753
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:16,840
Speaker 1: was a yes man, and now he's not a yes.

754
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 5: Man, so she might be it could be a valid

755
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:24,239
Speaker 5: question that her saying like, am I anxious because I

756
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 5: have lost control?

757
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,360
Speaker 2: And here's the thing right now, it's unfortunate.

758
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 1: This is not keeping in mind the fact that you're

759
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 1: worried about bringing stuff up now because he's going to

760
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:38,400
Speaker 1: break it down logically and what's the word, what's it

761
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: called when you kind of don't care about the feelings

762
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:44,600
Speaker 1: of the person that's bringing something up. Undermine, Yeah, he

763
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,240
Speaker 1: undermines your feelings by breaking it down logically and making

764
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 1: you feel stupid, which is insane. But I think everything

765
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:57,399
Speaker 1: that's like said to us, right, I don't think it's

766
00:34:57,440 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 1: crazy to confide in.

767
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 2: Some wa one this way for advice, but also.

768
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 5: Like confide in him, and it's a really hard thing

769
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:12,359
Speaker 5: to do because you're gonna be scared to get shut down.

770
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 5: But it's like if you stand on business and you

771
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:18,719
Speaker 5: confide in him and then he's like, well, let's break

772
00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:21,040
Speaker 5: this down logically, you can say no, no, no, let's

773
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,359
Speaker 5: not break it down logically, because every time you do that,

774
00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 5: you do it to undermine my feelings.

775
00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:29,880
Speaker 1: And then it's like then you can go. You be like,

776
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: I feel like you don't care about my feelings, Like.

777
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 5: I'm telling you how I feel every time you break

778
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 5: it down logically and make me feel like an idiot,

779
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:36,319
Speaker 5: Like that's not nice.

780
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 1: I completely agree, because emotions aren't logical either. No, Like

781
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 1: I think there's juxtaposition between is that the next her

782
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:54,440
Speaker 1: emotions and his coping mechanisms because there's two contradicting actions,

783
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 1: and his solution to your emotions don't work. No, Like

784
00:35:58,360 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 1: you can't see if I come to you crying like

785
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:01,840
Speaker 1: way crying, I'm like, I just feel sad.

786
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:02,360
Speaker 4: Well, like you.

787
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 2: Shouldn't feel sad. The sun's out, yeah, and.

788
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: You have you have a good job, BALLEI. Yeah, yeah,

789
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:08,840
Speaker 1: like you're really had to feel sad. Yeah, I'd be

790
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 1: like dude, I'm fucking crying. Man, let me cry and

791
00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 1: discomfort me, give me a hug, don't tell me I'm irrational.

792
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: I'd be like, fuck off. I feel like he's he's

793
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:20,600
Speaker 1: got this. He's figured out a way in a sense

794
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 1: to get you to stop crying, yeah, or just to

795
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:27,320
Speaker 1: get you to yeah yeah, or stop stop being emotional,

796
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 1: which isn't fair on you by anybody.

797
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 2: It's done, is made you try and bury them. You're anxious,

798
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 2: and it.

799
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 1: Makes you anxious. So I don't think it's fair by

800
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 1: any means, And there's not enough information there, but to

801
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: give him the benefit of the doubt, he might do it,

802
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 1: be doing it not on purpose unconsciously, he might just

803
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:43,680
Speaker 1: be doing it.

804
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:43,920
Speaker 4: Yeah.

805
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 1: He thinks that's how he can help because he fixes

806
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 1: the problem right there as it is, which is what

807
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:52,239
Speaker 1: men do. I've definitely been guilty of like trying to

808
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 1: do that, whereas like the problem is underlying and a

809
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 1: lot more than the surface level what he sees Like

810
00:36:57,920 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: I've been guilty of that.

811
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 2: Why do you want to have again?

812
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 1: Because she genuinely loves this man. Okay, it's been three

813
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 1: and a half years. I would like if they've grown

814
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 1: a lot update on this one. More information of how

815
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 1: he's breaking it down. I want to see if he's

816
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 1: actually controlling and then also why do you love him?

817
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 1: You know what, even though it was a long dilemma,

818
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:16,919
Speaker 1: I would like more info as well.

819
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:19,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like everything from what we heard, what does

820
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 2: she want help with at the end?

821
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 5: Please help me understand if I'm being all in my

822
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:25,919
Speaker 5: head and how to bring these up in a way

823
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 5: that will resonate with an introverted man who needs alone time.

824
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 1: Okay, so it's not all you're giving him too much

825
00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 1: benefit of the down there, Yeah, and an introverted.

826
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 2: Man who needs his alone.

827
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:39,799
Speaker 1: Just because you're an introverted man that needs his alone

828
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 1: time doesn't mean you need to be a dick. Yeah, yeah, exactly.

829
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:44,960
Speaker 1: My dilemma is going to be really good going off this.

830
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:45,399
Speaker 2: But.

831
00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, too much benefit of the doubt.

832
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:51,879
Speaker 2: I think my advice would be put your foot down

833
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,760
Speaker 2: with girl. What made you realize you need better be off? Sorry?

834
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 2: What made you realize that you'd be better off alone?

835
00:37:58,800 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 4: Yeah?

836
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,760
Speaker 1: Put your foot down on business because how you feel

837
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: is valid and logical solutions aren't the answer all the time,

838
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 1: and the way to move past this relationship is to

839
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 1: voice your emotions to him and see if it fixes

840
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:19,719
Speaker 1: your anxiety if he changes his actions. Also, she was like,

841
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 1: I always have to ask him, when's he going to

842
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 1: organize a dinner?

843
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:23,320
Speaker 2: Or are you going to come to my place? Or

844
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 2: are we going to go to your place? Right?

845
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:28,919
Speaker 5: And he's like, I'm too tired. Were you too tired

846
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:30,760
Speaker 5: when you went out drinking midweek with your friends?

847
00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:32,239
Speaker 2: Yeah? Fuck you.

848
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:34,799
Speaker 1: Normally we want to say is like, normally what we

849
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 1: want to say is breakup. But you haven't given us

850
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 1: enough information to say breakup, so give us some more.

851
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:42,399
Speaker 1: But also you might be able to tell us why

852
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:46,359
Speaker 1: this guy is a good guy. Yeah, okay, intermission guy, right,

853
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 1: hold up, we need a title for the dilemma of this,

854
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:55,719
Speaker 1: a specific title. Okay, okay, okay, okay, update mine, I got,

855
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:59,360
Speaker 1: I gotta, I got My introverted boyfriend is too logical.

856
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 2: That's the title of your next dilemma.

857
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 5: Okay, keep in mind, please, and then we will be

858
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:06,080
Speaker 5: looking for it each week.

859
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:08,799
Speaker 2: Will you get this? He's like a Vulcan from Star Trek.

860
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:10,720
Speaker 2: So a vulcan.

861
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:15,759
Speaker 1: They are like the geniuses of that universe, correct sort of?

862
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:18,439
Speaker 5: They operate on logic yeah, and they don't have emotions. Yeah,

863
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 5: everything everything that's spock. Yeah, yeah, point is yeah.

864
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 2: Can you do that? I can't do it?

865
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 4: Or you can do it.

866
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 2: You're a vulcan. Maybe this girl's boyfriend is a vulcan.

867
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 2: He might be the only alien on planet. Check his ear.

868
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:34,879
Speaker 1: But intermission, guys, before we get onto my dilemma. If

869
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 1: you want more of all of this, it's on Patreon

870
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:42,000
Speaker 1: for five dollars a month's cheap as chips, and that's

871
00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:45,000
Speaker 1: a u D so if you're in other countries, it's

872
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 1: basically free, guys. And you also get the book club

873
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 1: five days early, and we're doing reacts. We got all

874
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 1: the summer I turned pretty finales over there. Yeah, I

875
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 1: mean hey, also we need to start watching another show.

876
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're thinking about Bridgeton. How many seasons is out?

877
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:01,440
Speaker 2: You know what's hard these things is trying to catch up.

878
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 2: The hard thing is copyright.

879
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:09,839
Speaker 1: Actually yeah that is true, but patron Yeah no copyright. Yeah,

880
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 1: but guys, my dilemma. We didn't plan this, but extremely fitting. Okay, Hi,

881
00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 1: Mummy and daddy. I have a relationship dilemma. I am

882
00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 1: really struggling with I have been with my boyfriend for

883
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 1: over a year and really feel like he is the one.

884
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 1: He said it, I think it, Both our friends and

885
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 1: family think it. However, this last week he has said

886
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:37,000
Speaker 1: he's struggling mentally and just wants to isolate himself to

887
00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:40,359
Speaker 1: get through it. I want to respect him and give

888
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:43,759
Speaker 1: him the space, but he no longer replies to my

889
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 1: I love you, can't reassure me that he's not questioning

890
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:52,239
Speaker 1: the relationship and refuses to see me. The first few

891
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 1: days of this, I sent him the odd message saying

892
00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 1: I'm there for him and I love him. I asked

893
00:40:57,280 --> 00:41:00,319
Speaker 1: to see him once, but just got turned down. I

894
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:03,239
Speaker 1: have not messaged him for four days now, and it's

895
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 1: killing me. Crying myself to sleep, too nauseous to eat,

896
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 1: and can't concentrate at work. My dilemma is, is it

897
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 1: normal for men to isolate themselves, even from those who

898
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:16,840
Speaker 1: love them, when they are really when they are really struggling.

899
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 1: Or does it sound like he's done with a relationship.

900
00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:25,040
Speaker 1: You have to work up with him instantly. Yeah, that's insane.

901
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's that's the most. That's so selfish.

902
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 1: It's very selfish, and it's hard. It's very hard for

903
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 1: you to be in this position because your boyfriend is

904
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 1: probably going through something and I don't want to take

905
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 1: that away from him, But he doesn't have any of

906
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 1: the tools mentally or emotionally to deal with it with

907
00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:50,240
Speaker 1: a partner in his life, slash, deal with it in general.

908
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 2: If he's acting this.

909
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:56,359
Speaker 1: Way, I mean, I I don't know.

910
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:58,840
Speaker 2: I think it's.

911
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know about the tools. Thing Like,

912
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 1: he has a girlfriend, All right, you're allowed to go

913
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:15,440
Speaker 1: through tough mental times, but to completely like you're under

914
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 1: sound allowed to go through tough mental times, right, but

915
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 1: to isolate yourself not message no more, I love you

916
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 1: is can't reassure her that he's not rethinking the relationship.

917
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:32,759
Speaker 2: Like oh I say that.

918
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: I just think, like I think saying that he doesn't

919
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: have the tools for something is giving him the benefit

920
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 1: of the doubt, and like almost would make the girl

921
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 1: that's going through Like I personally think, even if he's

922
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 1: going through a mental battle right now, I think that

923
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:51,479
Speaker 1: there is ways to handle it selfishly, and there's ways

924
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 1: to handle it not selfishly, And right now he's handling

925
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 1: this in a way where he doesn't give a fuck

926
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 1: about her at all.

927
00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:58,399
Speaker 2: That's what I personally.

928
00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:02,200
Speaker 1: Think I agree with what you're saying. I think they

929
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 1: should break up, and it's not fair by anyone. But

930
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 1: I'm giving an explanation to Like I'm not giving him

931
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 1: a benefit of doubt, but like, what do you say

932
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 1: at the end of then, Like, I just think that

933
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 1: it's fucking super so selfish. Yeah, he doesn't see it

934
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:21,760
Speaker 1: selfish because he doesn't have the emotional intelligence or mental

935
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 1: intelligence to deal with these issues.

936
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 2: And that's and that's a reason to break up. Yeah,

937
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:27,280
Speaker 2: that's what I agree, it's breaking up. But he doesn't

938
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,840
Speaker 2: He wouldn't see that there's a problem here at all. Yeah,

939
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 2: Like he's just in his own head. Yeah, you're right,

940
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:33,360
Speaker 2: he wouldn't see a problem. That's the problem.

941
00:43:33,400 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's the problem.

942
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 1: He's in his own head doing whatever he's thinking is right,

943
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:40,319
Speaker 1: which is not right by anyone. And he doesn't have

944
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 1: the capability to have anyone else in his life. And yeah,

945
00:43:43,239 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 1: basically all of his actions have shown that he's not

946
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:48,319
Speaker 1: ready to be in a relationship fu fact, because it's

947
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 1: not it's not fair on you, it's not fair on anyone.

948
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: And it's hard because you love this man and everyone

949
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 1: else thinks you're a great couple, but you can't be

950
00:43:56,960 --> 00:43:57,760
Speaker 1: treated this way.

951
00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 2: No, I don't know. I feel like.

952
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 5: Even if someone died, granted, you're gonna want to have

953
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:07,400
Speaker 5: some alone time.

954
00:44:07,880 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 1: But there's things that she said that's like I can't

955
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 1: wrap my head around that. There's times where yes, you

956
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:18,280
Speaker 1: will want alone time, but also you have to remember

957
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 1: you are in a relationship Like that to me is insane. Yeah,

958
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:26,719
Speaker 1: it's And also how your feeling is completely valid and

959
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:27,560
Speaker 1: he's put you.

960
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 2: He's cornered you kind of.

961
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:31,359
Speaker 1: It's kind of yeah, and like and you're the bad

962
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:33,280
Speaker 1: person if you leave, yeah, giving you no options.

963
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

964
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: Also because if he's going through a tough time and

965
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 1: you break up with him, you're like, oh, I'm a

966
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:38,800
Speaker 1: bad person, which is not because he treated you terribly.

967
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:40,919
Speaker 1: We will reassure you that you're not the bad person

968
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 1: if you leave, because he is currently being the bat

969
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 1: And like I suppose, I guess the step before a

970
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:52,080
Speaker 1: breakup is how could someone who's going through a tough

971
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:56,319
Speaker 1: time stay in a relationship and deal with what they're

972
00:44:56,360 --> 00:45:01,040
Speaker 1: going through while still doing their past or giving the

973
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 1: counterpart reassurance Because she could she could go to this

974
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:07,719
Speaker 1: guy and say, hey, I know you're going through a

975
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 1: tough time. This isn't on this is what should be done,

976
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 1: because I understand I want to support you.

977
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 2: But if you don't do this, yeah, I don't know.

978
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 5: I feel like she can't give him the answer. I

979
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 5: think it's got to be one of those cases maybe

980
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 5: where she says, so this like right, like literally x

981
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 5: YZ is what has been going down. Here is reason one, two, three, four, five.

982
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:29,440
Speaker 5: However many you've got right of why. It makes me

983
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 5: feel like shit, and it's valid that I feel like shit,

984
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 5: all right.

985
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:34,880
Speaker 1: I just want to let you know. I feel like

986
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:36,920
Speaker 1: I've said this is someone before to give advice. I

987
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 1: just want let you know that that's not how I'm

988
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 1: going to live my life. So it's up to you,

989
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 1: Like you have to remember, we're in a relationship. I'm

990
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:45,360
Speaker 1: not being selfish here. I do want to help you.

991
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: I've told you I want to help you, right, But

992
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:50,880
Speaker 1: you need to make a decision. Literally he needs to

993
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 1: make a decision, or she does she needs to break

994
00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 1: up with him, or yeah agreed, Yeah, and but okay, dilemma,

995
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 1: that dilemma over, how can someone who's going through a

996
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 1: tough time still maintain their their started the relationship and

997
00:46:04,719 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 1: communication when they are going through a tough time, because

998
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:10,600
Speaker 1: communication just this guy's decided to He goes, I'm going

999
00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:14,239
Speaker 1: through a tough time, and then he's like, word for word,

1000
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 1: says the worst way to deal with going through a

1001
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:18,800
Speaker 1: tough time, I want to isolate myself. That's insane. He

1002
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:21,239
Speaker 1: stuck with his own thoughts. If you went through a

1003
00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 1: tough time and then you want to isolate yourself, that's

1004
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:29,719
Speaker 1: fucked up. Apologies you feel that way, but communicate. It's

1005
00:46:29,760 --> 00:46:32,759
Speaker 1: also I feel like a relatable feeling is you feel

1006
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 1: it's your responsibility to help him get better.

1007
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 2: But it's a good point.

1008
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:44,600
Speaker 1: But his responsibility to be in a relationship he's just

1009
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 1: completely forgot about.

1010
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 2: So yeah, I don't know. Yeah, it's crazy.

1011
00:46:48,080 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 1: It's yeah, it's crazy when feelings are involved here.

1012
00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1013
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:57,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's two men were very stiffy with very stereotypical

1014
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 1: type responses of being in relationships and when they have

1015
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 1: to deal with emotions.

1016
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:07,960
Speaker 2: I just don't know what this guy expects you to do?

1017
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 2: How long does he need? Like?

1018
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 1: And also when he's better, is he just going to

1019
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 1: be better and never tell you what he.

1020
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:18,719
Speaker 2: Was going through? Yeah? What? Yeah? Is he just going

1021
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:20,480
Speaker 2: to go back to the way it was, Like, it's crazy.

1022
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:23,520
Speaker 1: I also think this is a great dilemma to talk

1023
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 1: to your parents about. Yeah, you're crying yourself to sleep. Yeah,

1024
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 1: Like if you go to your mom or dad and

1025
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 1: tell them this, they would be like, what the fuck. Yeah,

1026
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 1: this is not Yeah, no one should treat my daughter

1027
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:33,799
Speaker 1: this way.

1028
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:35,880
Speaker 2: It's fucking crazy. Yeah, it's not fair. Fair enough. He

1029
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:37,439
Speaker 2: was a good bloke before, but he's not right now.

1030
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:40,319
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, just because he was a good bloke,

1031
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:42,760
Speaker 1: don't don't hit him with like the just because someone's

1032
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 1: a good bloke once, Yeah, I mean they're allowed to

1033
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 1: be a.

1034
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:45,720
Speaker 2: Bad bloke exactly.

1035
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 1: You get to have better for the doubt for that.

1036
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:55,920
Speaker 2: Baddie's up next is comments.

1037
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:58,319
Speaker 1: If you want to get your comment, read comment on

1038
00:47:58,360 --> 00:48:01,279
Speaker 1: today's episode and we might to it the following week. Yeah,

1039
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:04,720
Speaker 1: whatever platform you're on, either Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube.

1040
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:07,120
Speaker 1: I've got Spotify today. And I also want to say

1041
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:11,600
Speaker 1: there was a lot of really nice comments in relation

1042
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:15,400
Speaker 1: to my problem on last week's episode about potentially losing

1043
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:19,239
Speaker 1: a friendship, and I appreciate everyone's input. And I'm going

1044
00:48:19,320 --> 00:48:23,320
Speaker 1: to start with this one from soap about Otdie's dilemma.

1045
00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:26,360
Speaker 1: I think you guys are on the absolute right track

1046
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 1: with how you want to handle it. I think the

1047
00:48:28,640 --> 00:48:31,400
Speaker 1: biggest thing that I consider in situations like this is

1048
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 1: the pattern of the behavior. It sounds like this type

1049
00:48:34,160 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 1: of behavior is a pattern where the person is consistently

1050
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:40,320
Speaker 1: not a good friend or not understanding and not showing

1051
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:43,959
Speaker 1: up physically and emotionally for you. To me, that's enough

1052
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: to take a step back from the relationship because it's

1053
00:48:46,760 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 1: no longer fulfilling me.

1054
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:59,799
Speaker 5: Fair or from Keeley McAllister, I think, fuck that reaching

1055
00:48:59,840 --> 00:49:03,120
Speaker 5: out and forgiving reason, reaching out, forgiving internship friends, she

1056
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 5: say not do it. I wanted to see if it

1057
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:08,280
Speaker 5: was always me reaching out to one of my closest friends.

1058
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 5: So I distanced myself over the last few weeks to

1059
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:13,200
Speaker 5: see if she'd make plans. We go to the gym

1060
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 5: together a couple of times a week. Two and I

1061
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 5: haven't heard from her in two weeks. She also just

1062
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 5: went through a breakup a couple months ago, and I

1063
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 5: felt like I had been pushed to the side once

1064
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 5: she'd healed, which was harsh reality to realize. And hey,

1065
00:49:30,360 --> 00:49:34,560
Speaker 5: maybe she will reach out eventually, but the balls in her.

1066
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:37,479
Speaker 1: Court, So I think leave it and leave the ball

1067
00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 1: in his court, or let Jake reach out and let

1068
00:49:40,640 --> 00:49:43,439
Speaker 1: him know what the deal is, so when he knows

1069
00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:47,480
Speaker 1: what's wrong and he can either reach out and reconcile,

1070
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:49,920
Speaker 1: or if he doesn't have the clue, I don't think

1071
00:49:49,920 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 1: I should reach out personally. I saw a few that

1072
00:49:52,600 --> 00:49:55,360
Speaker 1: said Jake should tell him how it is. I honestly,

1073
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 1: I don't think I should eate.

1074
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:58,520
Speaker 2: I've come Did you have one more about it or not?

1075
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 2: I don't know I have one more.

1076
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:03,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was think because I thought about it, I

1077
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:06,920
Speaker 1: was gonna come to the conclusion that I'm not going

1078
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 1: to do anything, okay, And the reason being is because

1079
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 1: after this, unless he does reach out, I'm not thinking

1080
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:15,040
Speaker 1: about it.

1081
00:50:15,120 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not thinking about him fair I'm just not

1082
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 2: thinking about it at all. And I think what resonated

1083
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 2: with me was the pattern.

1084
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:25,360
Speaker 1: There's been a lot of things that I've looked past

1085
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:29,319
Speaker 1: and reassessing the relationship now that I see it for

1086
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:31,359
Speaker 1: what it is and I just don't need it in

1087
00:50:31,400 --> 00:50:33,320
Speaker 1: my life, and me reaching out I could get a

1088
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:35,480
Speaker 1: little bit of closure. I guess I've got closure on

1089
00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 1: my own terms.

1090
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:36,879
Speaker 2: I don't do anything.

1091
00:50:37,320 --> 00:50:39,480
Speaker 1: Give a fuck, yeah, like that what it is, or

1092
00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:41,680
Speaker 1: you gave a fuck. But at the end of the day,

1093
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:48,759
Speaker 1: I do think also where our lives are heading. Not

1094
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:50,960
Speaker 1: saying his direction is bad by any means they're in

1095
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:56,520
Speaker 1: two very different directions and we're starting to see that

1096
00:50:56,920 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 1: we don't align. And also that's not just him, it's

1097
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:04,400
Speaker 1: also our friendship group. Yeah yeah, well yeah, we just

1098
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 1: we're different to all the friend We don't like the

1099
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 1: same things, we don't have the same morals, we don't

1100
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 1: see things the same way. No, which she is fair enough,

1101
00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:14,280
Speaker 1: and I think I didn't want to accept that because

1102
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:16,319
Speaker 1: he was such a close mate. And I was talking

1103
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 1: to Cassy about it, my girlfriend, and she's she said

1104
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 1: to me, like, because she's met some of our friends,

1105
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:22,800
Speaker 1: she's guys, like, you don't really have much in comment

1106
00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 1: with your friends, And I was like, I used to.

1107
00:51:25,800 --> 00:51:28,439
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess we could probably start saying old friends. Yeah,

1108
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:32,400
Speaker 1: like unfortunately, yeah, yeah, yeah exactly, and we just don't

1109
00:51:32,520 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 1: like any of the same things at all at all.

1110
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:39,280
Speaker 1: I would agree, I would definitely, I would definitely agree.

1111
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 2: It's hard. Yeah, because I thought about it, I was like, I.

1112
00:51:42,160 --> 00:51:44,839
Speaker 1: Was like, should I say something, and then I thought, well,

1113
00:51:45,440 --> 00:51:48,520
Speaker 1: I suppose it's not really like my thing, and so

1114
00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:53,479
Speaker 1: then I was thinking so personally because of it, I'm

1115
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:56,360
Speaker 1: not going to reach out to him for anything at all,

1116
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:57,200
Speaker 1: you know what I mean.

1117
00:51:57,680 --> 00:51:59,319
Speaker 5: But if he was to like reach out to me,

1118
00:51:59,640 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 5: I'll walk to him. But like, I'm not going to

1119
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:04,880
Speaker 5: do any reaching out to him. The only time I

1120
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:07,080
Speaker 5: would say something is if he if he asked me,

1121
00:52:07,280 --> 00:52:10,120
Speaker 5: if he's like he's already mad at me, I'd be like,

1122
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 5: are you fucking dumb? Obviously, or actually i'd be like,

1123
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:16,239
Speaker 5: well he's not anymore because you're a fucking ship bloke,

1124
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:17,520
Speaker 5: Like I would tell him.

1125
00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:21,239
Speaker 1: Then if he It was kind of like nailing the

1126
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 1: coffin the other day. I love being able to turn

1127
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 1: on the pod because none of our friends listened to

1128
00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:28,280
Speaker 1: the po He called Jake the other day wanting something,

1129
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:31,759
Speaker 1: and I was like, you're a fucking kidding. He just

1130
00:52:31,800 --> 00:52:32,839
Speaker 1: wanted something out of him.

1131
00:52:33,120 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 2: He wanted something.

1132
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 5: I mean, to be fair, like we chatted, but he

1133
00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:39,400
Speaker 5: wouldn't have called me just to he wanted. He's asking

1134
00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:42,040
Speaker 5: about his friends moving into somewhere that that I used.

1135
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:45,360
Speaker 1: To live, and I was like, no, it's not an available.

1136
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 2: My cousin lives. All right, next comment, Lion Tess, Jake,

1137
00:52:55,520 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 2: come on.

1138
00:52:56,400 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 4: Wash your hand.

1139
00:52:57,480 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 2: I was just gonna say my next comment is wash

1140
00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:00,239
Speaker 2: your hands, Jake.

1141
00:53:00,320 --> 00:53:05,880
Speaker 1: Period seven, like seven, like everybody podcast, listen, thanks for

1142
00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:09,000
Speaker 1: what we recorded that episode, and I'm all like, standing

1143
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 1: on business.

1144
00:53:09,520 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 2: I'm not afraid to be who I am. All right,

1145
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, I don't wash my hands when I

1146
00:53:13,080 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 2: piss in a public place or usually even at home.

1147
00:53:15,080 --> 00:53:17,680
Speaker 2: All Right, I don't give a fuck. We getting adies like, Jake,

1148
00:53:17,719 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 2: your GROCERYR toxic, Your GROCERR toxic. We get in the cardigo,

1149
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:21,880
Speaker 2: get lunch. After that, he goes, I don't wash my

1150
00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:31,439
Speaker 2: hands either. I was like, what the fuck? Bullshit all

1151
00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:35,879
Speaker 2: the time. I also do it some.

1152
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 4: I don't do it in Bali though.

1153
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:43,400
Speaker 2: In Bali it's hand sanitizer. Yeah, I'd prefer not to

1154
00:53:43,400 --> 00:53:43,920
Speaker 2: touch anything.

1155
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:47,399
Speaker 1: No, but it's like after everything hand you.

1156
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:49,040
Speaker 2: Got really passionate about it. I'm just gonna I was like,

1157
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 2: I'm gonna kicking this.

1158
00:53:53,840 --> 00:53:57,439
Speaker 1: Okay, but it is time for the baddie sign off,

1159
00:53:57,480 --> 00:53:59,960
Speaker 1: and with us being in Bali, we can't call an

1160
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 1: of you lovely baddies, but we do have a baddie

1161
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:04,400
Speaker 1: in the studio with us.

1162
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:05,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, three three.

1163
00:54:08,719 --> 00:54:12,239
Speaker 5: Okay, last week we tried and we failed to be fair.

1164
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:16,000
Speaker 5: Our eyes were too big for a tommy now one three?

1165
00:54:16,600 --> 00:54:21,320
Speaker 1: Can you please tell us how to say relatables? Baddies

1166
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:31,520
Speaker 1: unite in Indonesian.

1167
00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:31,759
Speaker 2: United in.

1168
00:54:37,480 --> 00:54:45,080
Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, okay, Relative in Indonesia means.

1169
00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 2: Wait, is there no translation?

1170
00:54:53,360 --> 00:54:56,360
Speaker 6: Is that's why?

1171
00:54:56,800 --> 00:54:59,279
Speaker 2: This is why? That's why?

1172
00:54:59,520 --> 00:54:59,879
Speaker 6: Is it?

1173
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:01,840
Speaker 2: It is?

1174
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's weird.

1175
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:11,600
Speaker 2: But what about let's just go relatables? Yeah, just relatables.

1176
00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:14,200
Speaker 2: That's why?

1177
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 4: Why?

1178
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:16,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we are why?

1179
00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:17,799
Speaker 4: This is why?

1180
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:22,840
Speaker 2: I love that perfect. I like that. At least you

1181
00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:24,120
Speaker 2: know how to say our podcast now.

1182
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:26,200
Speaker 1: And I think we'll try ye why, and we'll try

1183
00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:28,359
Speaker 1: and add to it each week from now on. Okay, now,

1184
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 1: I actually just want to how do you say I

1185
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:31,960
Speaker 1: love you?

1186
00:55:32,400 --> 00:55:34,000
Speaker 2: That's a good one. Yeah, so we can say to

1187
00:55:34,000 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 2: our girlfriends, I love you and.

1188
00:55:37,640 --> 00:55:46,960
Speaker 6: A cool cool it means I love China's see, I

1189
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:51,840
Speaker 6: am the a coul Chinta. Yeah, come come, it's me

1190
00:55:51,840 --> 00:55:52,040
Speaker 6: and you.

1191
00:55:52,280 --> 00:55:55,880
Speaker 2: Okay chinta cam.

1192
00:55:56,000 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 1: Yeah there you go au Chinta come oo.

1193
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll cool you come let's go. Thank you very much. Three,

1194
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:08,680
Speaker 2: we love you. Ald Baddies, stay bad,