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Speaker 1: This is the Fitsy and with Kate Richie podcast. I

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Speaker 1: want to talk about why why boyfriends can't break up

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Speaker 1: these days and why they tend to opt for the

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Speaker 1: ghosting option. But now that I've read the story again

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Speaker 1: this morning, I actually think we should just throw it

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Speaker 1: out there and find out. When was that? Like the

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Speaker 1: moment when they actually broke up with you and you

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Speaker 1: cannot believe that this is when they've decided to do it.

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Speaker 1: What would you prefer? Though? Like, do you on the heartache?

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to fade away, Kate, It's not you,

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Speaker 1: it's me. I'm so sorry that is, But I think

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Speaker 1: that's true. Well so, I know it sounds really lame,

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Speaker 1: but I do. I mean, and I know a lot

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Speaker 1: of people have used it as an easy way out,

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Speaker 1: but I do think that sometimes the conversation is it's

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Speaker 1: not what's going on for you, I need to focus

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Speaker 1: on myself. What is it? The meaning? You put it

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Speaker 1: back on yourself and you say, you know what, I

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Speaker 1: just don't think i'd ever be able to make you happy.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna loser, man. You run off now, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: have to And then they end up feeling sorry for

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Speaker 1: you and you could go off into your life being

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Speaker 1: I would like to think, is the good guy. But

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Speaker 1: you're already hooking up with her friend. No that's no, No,

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Speaker 1: that's that's what happens to you. You're not with everybody else.

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Speaker 1: But what they're talking about this because there are so

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Speaker 1: many women it seems this is what the stats are

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Speaker 1: in their late twenties and thirties who have dedicated a

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Speaker 1: lot of time to a particular relationship and they've given it.

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Speaker 1: They've given it so much. I mean some of the

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Speaker 1: stories are that they've moved states, and they've given up jobs,

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Speaker 1: and they have even followed somebody else's career perhaps around

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Speaker 1: the country. They and the man has said all of

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Speaker 1: the things that you think you want them to say,

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Speaker 1: like your my forever.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 1: The quote is, which I don't know whether it's a

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Speaker 1: compliment or not, you are really good wife material. Now

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Speaker 1: I don't know exactly what that means. I think it's

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Speaker 1: I think he thinks it's meant to be a compliment.

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Speaker 1: You tick all the boxes. Yeah, yeah, you tick. So

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Speaker 1: they're doing all of that stuff, and then when it

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Speaker 1: gets down to the nitty gritty, you just don't hear

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Speaker 1: from them. Again. And then you've got all of these

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Speaker 1: women in their thirties who think that they need a

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Speaker 1: you know man or that was part of the plan,

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Speaker 1: that you know, I was going to be married. I

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Speaker 1: think my plan was I was going to be married

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Speaker 1: by twenty six. This is at high school. This is

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Speaker 1: the fairer. When I'm twenty six, I'll get married and

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Speaker 1: I will have children. Your three children, coming from a

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Speaker 1: family of four kids, I thought it was important to

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Speaker 1: have more children for your you and to have a

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Speaker 1: white picket fance with a crab apple in the front

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Speaker 1: because you're great, like married, like I think I am. Well, cook,

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Speaker 1: you can plan no go down.

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Speaker 2: I'm not.

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Speaker 1: Can I give you a few exam can iron?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Do you know what?

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Speaker 1: I'm glad that we've got. We've got an audience today

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Speaker 1: to actually witness. This is not my maths where we

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Speaker 1: cut it together and look bad. This is the real whippers.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you would you would be, for an amount

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Speaker 1: of time a great wife. How many give us a call?

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Speaker 1: Thirty twenty Oh, we've got a call. Oh Jordy, okay,

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Speaker 1: Jeordie and horns but good morning Jordie, good morning, Hi Jeordie.

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Speaker 1: Are you one of these women or why do you

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Speaker 1: think men can't do the big breakup? Is it a

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Speaker 1: fear of important conversations?

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Speaker 2: Well, I think so? Sad a story. Yeah, So I

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Speaker 2: met this guy on hinge and he lives like an

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Speaker 2: hour and a half away from me, and we had

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Speaker 2: about seven dates and he would drive to me every time.

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Speaker 2: That's so putting in a lot of efforts. We always

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Speaker 2: had like the best time. Our dates would go on

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Speaker 2: for like five or six hours. Well, just like talk

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Speaker 2: and hanging out and have like a really good time

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Speaker 2: I thought anyway, And then after our dates one time,

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Speaker 2: I just send this like nice message just saying like

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Speaker 2: how much I'm enjoying spending time together and stuff like that,

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Speaker 2: because he was also moving closer to me. He was

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Speaker 2: moving like half an hoarroway to me just for a job.

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Speaker 1: Well that's good, Okay, So you can't what's the connection?

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Speaker 2: What happened?

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Speaker 1: What happened here?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? So I sent that big, long message and I

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Speaker 2: just literally still haven't heard back that it was like

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Speaker 2: four months ago.

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Speaker 1: Since since the one message.

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Speaker 2: Nothing, nothing, radio silence.

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Speaker 1: Do you feel like that you want to go out

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Speaker 1: there and sort of track him down and get an answer,

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Speaker 1: because I would. It's part of your hoping that he's dead, Jody. No,

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Speaker 1: she really likes him, mate, she just wants another reason

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Speaker 1: and not to be her that he hasn't replied, if

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Speaker 1: he can't, if you can't find the time to respond,

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Speaker 1: I think there's a very clear message there isn't there.

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Speaker 1: It's it's unfair. But you'd rather run out like this

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Speaker 1: rather than the you know, the option of you he's

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Speaker 1: he's not on the run or anything like that from

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Speaker 1: the law is not No.

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Speaker 2: Who knows. I wouldn't know.

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Speaker 1: Would you do a follow up message? I'd probably yeah,

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Speaker 1: I would. I'd say hi and resend it. Maybe, But

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Speaker 1: I think beyond that you need to have a little

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Speaker 1: bit of self respect. And and then and then you said,

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Speaker 1: start sending the nasty ones. Don't he right? What's wrong

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Speaker 1: with you? And what did I do to deserve this?

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Speaker 1: And after all the time we've spent together, Jody, what Georgeorge?

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Speaker 1: What about if we gave him a call on air?

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Speaker 1: Do you know what, Jordy, just forgetting on our show,

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Speaker 1: you are in the running to go see Taylor Swift

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Speaker 1: in Vancouver. It's a final show of the year as tour.

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Speaker 1: So if you win it you get to take someone

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Speaker 1: with you. That is a prime opportunity for you to

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Speaker 1: tell him I've got a spare ticket to Taylor and

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Speaker 1: i just want to give you the it's up. You're

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Speaker 1: not coming, your loser, and maybe you could offer him

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Speaker 1: to come and then see his stand at the effort. Well,

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Speaker 1: Aunt Jeordie, thank you for your call. It's in Whippa

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