Speaker 1: You can sing Dad's ally.
Speaker 2: Hey aren't they Australian represent Ye shout out, Yeah you
Speaker 2: needed that.
Speaker 1: M This is so sad you're leaving in like less
Speaker 1: than a week. I'm leaving in six days. Jed enough.
Speaker 3: I'm so fucking excited. I'm so fucking excited just.
Speaker 2: Going to London for those are one way flight to
Speaker 2: London for those who don't know, I'm planning on staying
Speaker 2: for well, I've booked accommodation for two months, just planning
Speaker 2: and working living over there, kind of just like sussing
Speaker 2: the vibe. I would like to do a few years
Speaker 2: of like some are their summer in Australia, like follow
Speaker 2: the sun kind of vibe.
Speaker 3: I'm so excited. I'm going over with my friend Malita.
Speaker 3: We're staying.
Speaker 1: I lead. It's such an angel, Like she's such an angel,
Speaker 1: and she's such a good cook.
Speaker 3: Such a good cook, good I know.
Speaker 2: So we've got a little apartment in West London and
Speaker 2: we're just going to stay there, base ourselves out of
Speaker 2: there for a couple of months.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've got a few people.
Speaker 1: No, fuck hugely, I know, because I love I love London. No,
Speaker 1: I think I think you'll like it. Yeah, like London
Speaker 1: was the one place I could have seen myself moving
Speaker 1: if I ever was able to take that late. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I think you like it.
Speaker 3: I think I love it.
Speaker 2: I've got a few people that I know they're it
Speaker 2: was so good meeting some extra girls like Coachella. I've
Speaker 2: got a few girls staying with me. So last minute,
Speaker 2: but I've been chatting to Maddie, she works for remy
Speaker 2: by Riley, and she was like, oh my god, I
Speaker 2: want to stay in London so bad because I was
Speaker 2: replying to her story.
Speaker 3: She's there at the moment and she's actually.
Speaker 2: Extended for another week, so she's going to come stay
Speaker 2: with me and we're gonna stay around there and hang
Speaker 2: out together. We've never met, so we were really interesting.
Speaker 1: But you're good at that shit. That's how you met Melita.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I met Melita from this podcast because she is from
Speaker 2: the Gold Coast and she danned me. She saw that
Speaker 2: I was up there by myself, and she's like, if
Speaker 2: I listened to the podcast, if you want to go
Speaker 2: for a walk, Like.
Speaker 1: We actually used Melita. We did like this segment once
Speaker 1: and I think girls doing this segment caused more of
Speaker 1: an issues than the boys doing it, but it's like
Speaker 1: who's punching in the relationship and with Malita and her boyfriend,
Speaker 1: Like she sent in her and Levi and then Sam
Speaker 1: and her ended up going on.
Speaker 3: A walk and now we've been like she's the best.
Speaker 1: Shout out to you, Malina.
Speaker 3: So yeah, when you're listening to this, I'll be over there.
Speaker 3: I'm sure I'll be.
Speaker 1: Updating on my socials.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm so excited for this tree exited for you.
Speaker 2: You're excited to get out of Melbourne. It's so bad
Speaker 2: because I live for the future, like I live for
Speaker 2: my next trip. Yeah, like I always have something booked.
Speaker 2: But I'm okay with that at this point of my life.
Speaker 2: And I'll figure that probably, well.
Speaker 1: You're young, and why not if you have the freedom
Speaker 1: and the financial freedom to be able to experience those things,
Speaker 1: I feel like it's amazing and if like I would
Speaker 1: have loved to do stuff like that, but I'm not
Speaker 1: sure that I could live without my family, you know.
Speaker 3: So I feel like you definitely takes a certain type
Speaker 3: of person.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I moved out of home quite young and I
Speaker 2: always grew up as quite an independent kid, So I
Speaker 2: like don't like obviously I'll miss my family, but I
Speaker 2: don't feel I don't feel the feeling of missing someone.
Speaker 2: Yeah right, Yeah, I may say it's a little bit
Speaker 2: psychopathic of.
Speaker 1: Me, but no, well why not you get to experience
Speaker 1: all these amazing things. Yeah, you can to hear about
Speaker 1: it can get big. It's so exciting.
Speaker 3: We're doing dilemmas today. Do you want to hit us
Speaker 3: with the with the first one of the week?
Speaker 1: It's kind for question of the week? Would you rather
Speaker 1: be universally liked but mid at everything or kind of
Speaker 1: hated but elite at everything you do?
Speaker 3: I could argue that I'm both.
Speaker 2: I'm very hated, but I'm very good at what I
Speaker 2: do because people wait for.
Speaker 1: Me, so you know, that's what I'm also last one
Speaker 1: that's saying kind of hated but eladed everything you do.
Speaker 2: That's but I'm also mid minted everything. Yeah, you just
Speaker 2: like I'm not good at it?
Speaker 1: You mean you're kind of hated be omitted everything.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I wish one.
Speaker 1: Would you rather? I disagree that that's the case. You're
Speaker 1: great at whatever you set your mind to. Oh, but
Speaker 1: I'm very hated. People online seem to have their own
Speaker 1: personal opinions but you're not hated. It's people that's a percentage.
Speaker 3: It's just people that know me, don't hate me, people
Speaker 3: who think they know me.
Speaker 1: It's just online. And I feel like that comes with
Speaker 1: the envy that we were talking about in the last one.
Speaker 1: They know I personally would rather be kind of hated
Speaker 1: and elided everything.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I will understand why people hate me. It's like,
Speaker 3: fuck me.
Speaker 2: She can do javelin and she can fucking swim one
Speaker 2: hundred meters really fast, and it's.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I hate me too, Yeah, trying to go
Speaker 3: up against me against anything.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't want to surround yourself with people that are
Speaker 1: jealous of your achievements anyways, you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I was like, I'd love to walk in
Speaker 2: and be like, yeah, I can fucking break dance and
Speaker 2: I can sing, I can dance, and like I want
Speaker 2: to be a triple to it and I can act.
Speaker 1: Then I can just do anything. I'd be loaded. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd be like Hugh Jackman of the Entsanement world. Hu
Speaker 1: Jackman can do everything.
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, And probably a lot of people hate he.
Speaker 1: Q because they're like, you can sing, dance and act
Speaker 1: a Helly or Hailey helly, aren't they slay? Jackman, Australian
Speaker 1: represent Yeah, shout out, Yeah you needed that. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I feel like he's dying at the moment, Like he's
Speaker 2: like not getting as much like public Wolverines breaking.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So like we're just.
Speaker 2: Gonna hype him up again because I feel like he's
Speaker 2: getting back into the spotlight.
Speaker 1: You know, we'll do it for you here. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: got you, Hugh love ya looking up your Tuesday.
Speaker 2: The Lamatte number one. Hey girls, jumping right in. I'm
Speaker 2: moving to London this August or September for six or
Speaker 2: twelve months.
Speaker 3: L Hey kay show. This has been a dream of
Speaker 3: mine for years.
Speaker 2: I want to step out of my comfort zone, travel,
Speaker 2: meet new people, and hopefully figure out what I want
Speaker 2: in my life.
Speaker 3: Same sister. I'm twenty four and still not sure about
Speaker 3: my career or future path. Same sister.
Speaker 2: He's a complication. I'm in an amazing six year relationship.
Speaker 2: I've been with him since I was eighteen. We're in
Speaker 2: such a good place. Our love and communication is so
Speaker 2: strong and I truly believe he's my great love.
Speaker 3: But he's not coming with me.
Speaker 2: He just got his dream job offer in Melbourne and
Speaker 2: He's waited over a year for it, and it starts
Speaker 2: in September. We've talked about maybe doing long distance or
Speaker 2: publicsibly separating.
Speaker 3: Well, I'm away. It's hard.
Speaker 2: Sometimes we think it's best to take our break to
Speaker 2: go on our own. Other times we get really sad
Speaker 2: at the thought of being a part. We haven't made
Speaker 2: the decision yet. Neither of us want to see other people.
Speaker 3: It's not about that.
Speaker 2: We just wonder living separate lives will help us for
Speaker 2: a bit to grow as individuals. Long distance seems tough,
Speaker 2: especially when I don't know exactly when I'll return. I'd
Speaker 2: love an outside perspective. What would you do in this situation,
Speaker 2: especially you Sam, since you're also going.
Speaker 3: I probably get the soul searching side of this. Help
Speaker 3: a girl out.
Speaker 1: I think that you should do long distance if you
Speaker 1: don't want to see anyone and you just feel like
Speaker 1: this is your guy. It's like you can soul search
Speaker 1: and experience and be over there and meet new people
Speaker 1: and do new things while still having that connection to
Speaker 1: that person that you love.
Speaker 3: I disagree.
Speaker 1: Tell me about it.
Speaker 2: So you've been dating since you were eighteen in our
Speaker 2: twenty four if your love is strong enough you will
Speaker 2: come together. But I think in your twenties, especially in
Speaker 2: your early twenties, I was in a very serious relationship
Speaker 2: and I thought that were my be all and or.
Speaker 2: But being single in your early twenties has made me
Speaker 2: grow so much more without the back end, without feeling
Speaker 2: like you can lean on someone. And when you've created
Speaker 2: that distance by actually physically being apart from each other,
Speaker 2: I think you also emotionally need to be a part
Speaker 2: on each other because you being completely and utterly lone
Speaker 2: in and other country without him will force you to
Speaker 2: be out of your comfort zone. And I feel like
Speaker 2: you'd get so much more out of the experience than
Speaker 2: knowing that you've got him to fall back on. And
Speaker 2: I just think with the time, it's a difference in everything,
Speaker 2: and you're both being on two different stages. He's really
Speaker 2: experiencing life in a full time job and everything like that.
Speaker 2: I just think having no pressure on it, like doesn't
Speaker 2: mean that you going over there, you're gonna hook up
Speaker 2: and kiss and fucking sleep with a bunch of guys.
Speaker 2: I just think not having someone to fall back on
Speaker 2: and not someone having to someone to rely on and
Speaker 2: communicate with every single day you'll get so much more
Speaker 2: out of your experience for six to twelve months that
Speaker 2: if you're meant to come back together, you'll come back
Speaker 2: together as such better and different individuals because you've had
Speaker 2: that time apart.
Speaker 1: I get that. I just think that if you are
Speaker 1: going to make that decision, you need to lay some
Speaker 1: serious ground rules about what you expect of the other person.
Speaker 1: Say if you're like, when I get back, we'll get
Speaker 1: back together. If that's like what you're laying out, you
Speaker 1: need to have like some serial rules on like being
Speaker 1: with other people, or like I know you may say
Speaker 1: that now that you're not going to, but you never
Speaker 1: know what could happen, And I feel like you need
Speaker 1: to lay those rules out because those can get really
Speaker 1: foggy if you're on a break. I feel like rules
Speaker 1: around a break or a breakup to get back together
Speaker 1: when you get home.
Speaker 2: I don't think you break up to get back together,
Speaker 2: but I think you just say, we can really appreciate
Speaker 2: the time that we've had over the last six years.
Speaker 3: If it's meant to be, it will be, but let's
Speaker 3: give ourselves a year.
Speaker 2: Let's when I get back from London, let's meet up
Speaker 2: sus from there, maybe you have moved on, maybe you haven't.
Speaker 3: Maybe if you were meant to.
Speaker 2: Find somebody else and this was a reason as to
Speaker 2: how you found somebody else. Like, I just think you
Speaker 2: go in with absolutely no expectation, just be like, we
Speaker 2: love what we've had. If it were meant to be,
Speaker 2: we can either be friends and catch up when I
Speaker 2: get home, but for right now, like, let's end it
Speaker 2: and see each other in a ear.
Speaker 1: Fair enough, I'm sure regardless you'll get some amazing experiences
Speaker 1: out of all of this, and just try and be
Speaker 1: present in the moment regardless. I just I find letting
Speaker 1: go of someone you love would be so challenging if
Speaker 1: it is an amazing relationship. But I think you guys
Speaker 1: will both be able to figure that out and know
Speaker 1: what's right.
Speaker 2: I think the fact that you guys are even discussing
Speaker 2: potentially breaking up should be what you end up choosing,
Speaker 2: because if that was like not on the cards at all,
Speaker 2: and you're like, no, I'm going to go leave over
Speaker 2: there for six to twelve months and we're just got
Speaker 2: distance like then that that would have been the question.
Speaker 2: But the fact that you guys are questioning that you
Speaker 2: don't know what your relationship to do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't know if.
Speaker 2: Your relationship can last that distance because you've never experienced
Speaker 2: that before. So I think you owe it to each
Speaker 2: other to end it, to save yourself from putting yourself
Speaker 2: in those positions, because you are questioning it at the
Speaker 2: end of the day, and if you really thought your
Speaker 2: love could handle it, you wouldn't be questioning it in
Speaker 2: the first place. God have so much fun, though, girl,
Speaker 2: that sounds fun. Dilemon number who Hey, ladies, I need
Speaker 2: your advice.
Speaker 1: I'm from Melbourne and spend a lot of time in Bali,
Speaker 1: with plans to move there soon. I have a great
Speaker 1: group of friends, including one of known for four years.
Speaker 1: Let's call her Sarah. She was my first friend there
Speaker 1: and has always been super into dating, often seeing multiple
Speaker 1: guys in a short time. And that is Bali.
Speaker 3: Bali is like fucking open relationships Central ever.
Speaker 1: Because a lot of guys come in and out, so
Speaker 1: it's like you'll date someone and then they'll like go
Speaker 1: back to where they're from.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like you've lived like a four years
Speaker 2: relationship in two weeks and it goes so fast and
Speaker 2: you like rush everything and then next week you've got
Speaker 2: a new.
Speaker 1: One, or you just send it Hi Mario.
Speaker 2: He got a new girlfriend like two weeks after and
Speaker 2: now they live together and have a dog, and he's
Speaker 2: got a tattoo with her initials on it.
Speaker 3: And I was apparently the love of his life and
Speaker 3: he'll never.
Speaker 1: Is a little it's like a vacuum.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a fantasy, it really is.
Speaker 1: It's a fantasyland.
Speaker 3: It's just funny.
Speaker 1: On my last trip, we were watching the sunset with
Speaker 1: friends when Sarah invited a guy named She hooked up
Speaker 1: with him briefly back in November and hadn't really mentioned
Speaker 1: him since. When I met him, I was instantly attracted,
Speaker 1: and Sarah encouraged it, saying he was totally my type
Speaker 1: and they were just friends now. Oh after that, Josh
Speaker 1: and I started talking once Sarah left Bali for working,
Speaker 1: and I spent a lot of time together. I even
Speaker 1: messaged her to check if she was okay with it,
Speaker 1: and she said, go for it. We're just friends, babe.
Speaker 1: Later she confirmed in person she had no feelings for
Speaker 1: him and that she will always put her girls first.
Speaker 1: So far, this chick seems like a legend. I feel
Speaker 1: like we're getting somewhere though fast forward, things are going
Speaker 1: really well with Josh. She even bought me a cute
Speaker 1: little ring, I promise ring. She didn't say promise ring,
Speaker 1: but I just did. After I left, we kept talking.
Speaker 1: He said he missed me, and we were planning my
Speaker 1: return to Bali. I assum. Then five days later, my
Speaker 1: friends saw Sarah and Josh leaving Mexicola together. I don't
Speaker 1: know why I'm hearing Mexicola. I'm like eight, I booked
Speaker 1: my trip to Bali.
Speaker 3: I know I'm too excited, you told me.
Speaker 1: Ever since, she's been posting him on a story every
Speaker 1: single day, and just like that, Josh ghosted me. Sarah
Speaker 1: hasn't messaged me either. FU.
Speaker 2: She's one of those friends that's like, I want to
Speaker 2: still I still get it and bruin what they have
Speaker 2: because she thinks it's so strong, but I just want
Speaker 2: to see back and break it.
Speaker 1: One of those friends that's like I need to know
Speaker 1: that everyone's boyfriend just thinks I'm really hot though, like
Speaker 1: you can date him, but I need to know that,
Speaker 1: like if ye had the chance, he would leave you
Speaker 1: for me.
Speaker 3: I can't.
Speaker 1: There are people like that in every fucking friendship group.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of specific people like that. I haven't confronted
Speaker 1: either of them, but I feel completely blindsided. Sarah had
Speaker 1: a chance to be honest, and Josh could have shut
Speaker 1: it down to I feel like I've lost a friend
Speaker 1: and a guy I really liked. She's coming to visit
Speaker 1: me in Melbourne in two weeks. What do I do?
Speaker 1: I don't want to pretend I'm not hurt, because honestly,
Speaker 1: I feel in my gut that they've slept together. So
Speaker 1: I reckon you ask Yasca.
Speaker 3: And be like, have you slept with him? Why would
Speaker 3: you do that?
Speaker 2: When you said you didn't have any feelings or anything? Like,
Speaker 2: why would you tread on something that you knew? I like,
Speaker 2: I knew I really liked him and then for him. Boys,
Speaker 2: I'm not justifying their actions, but sometimes they literally just
Speaker 2: think with their dick.
Speaker 1: And I think you need a message the guy and
Speaker 1: be like, Hey, what's happened, Yeah, something happened. We haven't
Speaker 1: spoken in a while. Like, I appreciate it. I just appreciate, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you being honest with me.
Speaker 2: I just feel like I'm I deserve a little bit
Speaker 2: more than be ghosted, Like I'm interested in me.
Speaker 1: Things are going well?
Speaker 2: Yeah, all good if you're not interested in me anymore.
Speaker 2: I just feel like I deserve a bit of clarification.
Speaker 1: And if Sarah has gone and slept with him, it's
Speaker 1: definitely something then to reconsider whether you feel like you
Speaker 1: should be as close as you are, because girls like that,
Speaker 1: the type of girls that we were just referring to,
Speaker 1: never change, and you don't want a friend like that
Speaker 1: in your life.
Speaker 3: Sam number three, the lovem number three, Yeah, number three.
Speaker 3: I've been a fan of your TikTok days and love
Speaker 3: listening to for Jesa girls.
Speaker 2: But I've really hit a tough spot and I don't
Speaker 2: know what to do. I mean with my boyfriend for
Speaker 2: nearly two and a half years, and he generally makes
Speaker 2: me so happy. He brings out the best in me,
Speaker 2: and we've always had such a strong connect, lots of
Speaker 2: laughs and only minor disagreements. But lately things have changed.
Speaker 2: We both just graduated. He's trady and I'm in UNI
Speaker 2: and well, I believe couples can grow together.
Speaker 3: I'm scared we're starting to grow up.
Speaker 2: Part I struggle with anxiety and sometimes spiral with overthinking,
Speaker 2: which I know affects how I see relationships.
Speaker 3: There's an issue.
Speaker 2: I've tried opening up about how I feel disconnected, and
Speaker 2: every time I do, he reassures me.
Speaker 3: But then two weeks later we're distant again.
Speaker 2: We can go days without a meaningful conversation and I
Speaker 2: miss him so much, but I don't even know how
Speaker 2: to express that properly. It's my anxiety that makes me
Speaker 2: question everything. I really love him and can see a
Speaker 2: future with him, but I feel stuck. Am I overthinking it?
Speaker 2: Or is this distance something I really need to face?
Speaker 2: Thank you so much, I'd.
Speaker 3: Love your advice.
Speaker 1: I wonder if this distance is coming from entering a
Speaker 1: new era and just trying to get a manage on things,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Because the fact that he's
Speaker 1: reassuring you of it. Yeah, Like I feel like if
Speaker 1: a boy is like really not interested, if you mention it,
Speaker 1: they'll take that out, you know what I mean. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but he's just started probably this new job you've just
Speaker 1: started UNI. Maybe he's just trying to get a manage
Speaker 1: on everything.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's really easy to get in your
Speaker 2: head when but like I is, he said, you guys
Speaker 2: are both starting new eras and you can grow together.
Speaker 1: But it's like.
Speaker 2: What you guys were once comfortable with is now not
Speaker 2: your norm. So it's like, I think prioritizing doing nice
Speaker 2: things for one another and just be like, let's go
Speaker 2: on a date night and like mixing the quality times, yeah,
Speaker 2: and like mixing things up in your day to day
Speaker 2: life and normal relationship while you adjusted this new period
Speaker 2: and just be like, I think we need to prioritize
Speaker 2: each other a little bit more and do something nice
Speaker 2: as you guys.
Speaker 1: Are disconnected now, Yeah, you know what I mean. I
Speaker 1: think honesty and transparency is the only way to move
Speaker 1: through these times if you do want to continue it,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: And I think it's okay going days without having a
Speaker 2: meaningful conversation. You don't need to have a deep, meaningful conversation.
Speaker 2: Every single relationship should also be l liked. Yeah, a
Speaker 2: bit of an escape from that sort of stress. So
Speaker 2: I wouldn't stress that there are meaningful conversations, Like you've
Speaker 2: been dating for two and a half years.
Speaker 1: But as fellow anxious girlies, we can understand how you
Speaker 1: get in your head hatically with that sort of stuff.
Speaker 1: But I think you just going to give it a
Speaker 1: bit of time and an adjustment period because you are
Speaker 1: both entering new stages and just be honest, be open,
Speaker 1: and hopefully if you can at least see that he's
Speaker 1: trying to make new steps to make that connection.
Speaker 2: As you both said, like you're both starting new jobs,
Speaker 2: like maybe be like, let's go to the markets and
Speaker 2: make a really nice lunch or something on a Sunday,
Speaker 2: Like prioritize doing something nice in the weekend, so then
Speaker 2: you can ed to the new week.
Speaker 1: A booked dinner, like let's go have a cute little
Speaker 1: date night hang out. Then maybe you can have a
Speaker 1: meaningful conversation. Then yeah, I think just you have to
Speaker 1: play it by year when you're entering new settings.
Speaker 3: Like that, Yeah, and give each other some grace. It's
Speaker 3: a grace period.
Speaker 1: Good luck. Eirly happy for you, though, I'm happy for
Speaker 1: everyone that's in love, happy and jealous. Dilema number four, Hi,
Speaker 1: Love the Pod. Need your advice on something super messy.
Speaker 1: Do share please? My friends both Mary and Bob not
Speaker 1: their real names, you don't. They've been together for three years,
Speaker 1: but things have been rocky. Mary just got offered her
Speaker 1: dream job in Sydney, huge opportunity, and Bob's freaking out
Speaker 1: and begging her not to go. Bob needs to grow
Speaker 1: a pair. Straight out the gate, you should want the
Speaker 1: best for the people that you love, you know.
Speaker 2: While Mary, sometimes there are those relationships they're like so
Speaker 2: jealous of their partner that they like sabotage.
Speaker 1: Or that they're worried that they'll get these opportunity and
Speaker 1: leave them behind. While Mary was in Sydney for work recently,
Speaker 1: she cheated on Bob.
Speaker 3: Oh, Mary, come on, I was patching for you.
Speaker 1: She didn't say it was messy. It was a one
Speaker 1: night thing with the guy she calls her soulmate. Now
Speaker 1: she's torn. Does she stay with Bob safe option move
Speaker 1: or move to Sydney, take the job and explore this
Speaker 1: new connection because she knows that herself. I'm going with
Speaker 1: option two.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's also like, is he your soulmate or
Speaker 2: it's like forbidden free and that's why you really like him.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But Bob telling her not to go and take
Speaker 1: this incredible opportunity that he knows she really wants is
Speaker 1: a red flag straight out the gate.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I don't think Bob's your soulmate either. No, you
Speaker 1: might find maybe this guy isn't it, But hopefully I
Speaker 1: don't think Bob is he it.
Speaker 3: Will help the transition period to Sydney to get a
Speaker 3: little sick.
Speaker 1: It gets more complicated. Oh fuck, Bob also got a
Speaker 1: job off friend Sydney. Oh, he hasn't told Mary yet.
Speaker 1: He wants to surprise her if she accepts her offer
Speaker 1: so they can move together.
Speaker 3: Why are you the middleman?
Speaker 2: I would like, you're sitting a fucking mad tea. Babe,
Speaker 2: does like buck know that she's been cheated on? Like,
Speaker 2: because if my friend cheated. I always said, if I
Speaker 2: was really close with my friend's boyfriend and I knew
Speaker 2: that my friend cheated, I would force her to say I.
Speaker 1: Would say, you tell him what I will.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I couldn't like knowing you know that Bob is
Speaker 2: gonna surprise her, But you've also know that Mary's cheated
Speaker 2: on Bob.
Speaker 3: Babe, I'd go like, I don't send me into a
Speaker 3: fucking like psychiatric wall.
Speaker 1: You can't let Bob go over there without all the information.
Speaker 1: He has no idea she cheated on him, or that
Speaker 1: she's thinking about this other guy. I'm completely stuck. I
Speaker 1: know both sides of the story. I feel awful. Do
Speaker 1: I tell Bob the truth before he moves or do
Speaker 1: I stay quiet and let it play out. I don't
Speaker 1: want to betray anyone, but I also don't want to
Speaker 1: see Bob completely blindsided. Please help. I hate being in
Speaker 1: the middle.
Speaker 3: You tell Mary to tell Bob.
Speaker 1: I think you tell Mary about Bob's thing and say
Speaker 1: you need to tell him because this is what he's
Speaker 1: thinking of doing. So you need to decide now whether
Speaker 1: you want to be with Bob.
Speaker 3: I don't think he should.
Speaker 1: I don't think she wants to be with Bob at all.
Speaker 2: No, but I don't think she should say like, Bob's
Speaker 2: got a job offer, because it's like, don't get in
Speaker 2: the middle, because then this is exactly how it will
Speaker 2: play out.
Speaker 3: You'll be to blame for something. If something hits the wall,
Speaker 3: you'll be the blame.
Speaker 2: I actually reckon you fuck can take a step back,
Speaker 2: you put your hands up and go Let you guys
Speaker 2: figure it out, because.
Speaker 1: No, you need to first say you tell Bob about
Speaker 1: the cheating, or I fucking will.
Speaker 2: No, I don't think you have anything to do. I
Speaker 2: know it's so hard, but you fucking bite your tongue, Babe.
Speaker 2: You say fucking nothing, because it's going to bite you
Speaker 2: back in a babe.
Speaker 1: No, feelings and stuff exactly.
Speaker 3: But a man, they're still mad, they're hurting one another,
Speaker 3: and you are going to be to blame.
Speaker 1: I personally think that you need to say, Hey, I
Speaker 1: think you should be open with Bob about this. She's
Speaker 1: already got that in the back of her head that
Speaker 1: this guy he might not be the guy because he
Speaker 1: didn't want her to take that opportunity in Sydney. I
Speaker 1: think that you need to be honest with your partner
Speaker 1: if you've cheated, and if you can move forward, great,
Speaker 1: If you can't, don't.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you say like Mary, like, I support you.
Speaker 2: I think you should tell Bob, But I don't think
Speaker 2: you should tell Mary that Bob's got a job up.
Speaker 1: No, well maybe not, but you need to tell Mary
Speaker 1: to tell her so then Bob doesn't go to Sydney,
Speaker 1: and Bob can make the decision on his own whether
Speaker 1: he wants to move his life to Sydney for a
Speaker 1: girl that cheated on him. Oh he doesn't.
Speaker 2: I just think you can try your best to stay
Speaker 2: out of it as much as possible because it.
Speaker 3: Will backfire you on you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, try because they want someone to blame, and I'm
Speaker 2: so sorry you'll be that chick to blame and then
Speaker 2: it will just blow up even more.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think the first step one is Mary
Speaker 1: needs to help Bob. She cheated on him, yeap, which
Speaker 1: I can't even imagine having a conversation like that, But
Speaker 1: that's her fault. She needs to do it. Good luck
Speaker 1: Mary and Bob. I'd actually really love to know how
Speaker 1: this turns out, so if you can please update me,
Speaker 1: that'd be great.
Speaker 3: Yeah, please send me the update, all right?
Speaker 1: The last dilemma. Hey, girls, big fan of the pod,
Speaker 1: You're my safe space when I'm spiraling, so I'm really
Speaker 1: hoping you can help me with something I just can't
Speaker 1: figure out on my own. I've been stuck in this
Speaker 1: on and off thing with my ex for about five
Speaker 1: months now, and honestly, it's been one of the most
Speaker 1: painful experiences I've ever had. He broke my trust this
Speaker 1: earlier this year. It wasn't full blown cheating, but it
Speaker 1: was enough to really shatter me. I stayed for a bit,
Speaker 1: hoping things would get better, but the effort just wasn't
Speaker 1: there on his end, so we ended things. Since then,
Speaker 1: we've still been in contact, We've been kept sleeping together,
Speaker 1: and he's always telling me how much he loves me
Speaker 1: and wants to get back together. Here's where I'm stuck.
Speaker 1: I keep saying no, but the second he tries to
Speaker 1: move on or see someone else, I panic and start
Speaker 1: to backtrack. I don't even know of I believe we
Speaker 1: could work again, but the thought of losing him feels
Speaker 1: completely unbearable. We had such a strong connection and a
Speaker 1: great relationship before things got messy. He just had some
Speaker 1: really unhealthy habits that made me feel like I was
Speaker 1: in a priority. Now he's made some changes though he
Speaker 1: has a solid job, doesn't party like he used to,
Speaker 1: and seems more grounded. But still a part of me
Speaker 1: is scared to go back and scared to let go completely.
Speaker 1: I've got a lot going for me right now. I
Speaker 1: know I deserve something stable and safe, but I just
Speaker 1: can't shake the feeling that there's something missing when he's
Speaker 1: not in my life. He thinks I'm stringing him along
Speaker 1: while I figure things out, but the truth is I
Speaker 1: just feel completely lost. Any advice to you, girls and
Speaker 1: give I'm truly stuck.
Speaker 2: I think you need to give it one more go
Speaker 2: and figure it out yourself, because if you walk away,
Speaker 2: you'll still wonder what if and if you stay, you'll
Speaker 2: figure that out yourself. It might be two months, it
Speaker 2: might be the rest of your life, but you haven't
Speaker 2: figured that out yet, so you need to figure that
Speaker 2: out yourself.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I just think you go heads first and
Speaker 1: head first and see how you go. Like, try it
Speaker 1: again with this guy, you think. Yeah, I've never been
Speaker 1: in a situation like this, so I don't know, but
Speaker 1: I will take time advice.
Speaker 3: Get your notes up, babe, and I have a message
Speaker 3: in from church ept that you can use.
Speaker 1: I want to get it out to you. Adding yourself
Speaker 1: in every aspect right now. Yeah, well, as in you
Speaker 1: think to just try one more time with the guy
Speaker 1: and if not, yeah, send that. Is that what you're saying.
Speaker 2: I think, because you have hesitations, you should send this,
Speaker 2: see what he replies is and then go from there.
Speaker 3: Okay, you say he loves you and he wants to
Speaker 3: be better, but this is.
Speaker 1: What you so we're based. Don't read it out? Oh
Speaker 1: why not? Because I think you need to send it
Speaker 1: to her privately because then she can use it. Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: message me and I can message me say hey, I'm
Speaker 1: the girl from the last dilemma. Yeah, can you please
Speaker 1: send me that message. I was gonna read it for
Speaker 1: anybody else who needed to just send it to their X.
Speaker 1: But you could just message me. But then it's like
Speaker 1: they can't really use it because then the ex is like,
Speaker 1: you just got that straight from just for girls.
Speaker 2: You don't even care, okay, And then I'd be like, okay,
Speaker 2: well you're listening just for girls, why aren't you treating
Speaker 2: me better? Take you just out of yourself that you
Speaker 2: listen to the girls and you still don't know how
Speaker 2: to treat you right.
Speaker 1: If you need a message like that to get your ex,
Speaker 1: and maybe you're on your last leg and you want
Speaker 1: to give them one last chance and you want to
Speaker 1: start prioritizing, you message Sam, Yeah, and she'll send you
Speaker 1: this message to send them. Yeah, go to give chat JBT. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I actually my mum is a Chat JBT fanatic, like
Speaker 1: actually thinks it's her new spiritual guide. I love you, mom,
Speaker 1: I love you more than anything. But it's worrying.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: It's actually really bad for the earth.
Speaker 2: Like it's like really really bad for the earth because
Speaker 2: every single time you put something into chat GPT uses
Speaker 2: a cup of water to keep the computers that are
Speaker 2: running it to cool it down, so it's like fucking waste.
Speaker 1: I can't even begin to imagine what our world's gonna
Speaker 1: look like in fucking fifty I don't want to. I
Speaker 1: think there will be life sized robots you can buy
Speaker 1: one day that I have AI to like communicate with you.
Speaker 1: You've got to break up message from AI. They're pretty good.
Speaker 3: I got I didn't get one.
Speaker 1: I sent one, as in, you got the message from
Speaker 1: chat GBT. Yeah, yeah, fuck, we're relying on that bad
Speaker 1: boy way too much these days.
Speaker 3: Well, it just like speaks everything that I want to say,
Speaker 3: and like puts it in a very literal way.
Speaker 1: So why wouldn't you want to date a chat GBT robot?
Speaker 3: Well, I am right now, fucking hell on my phone
Speaker 3: literally could out my whole.
Speaker 1: Life something for you to think about. AI fucking terror alright, guys, Puck,
Speaker 1: that was a lot of t unpack.
Speaker 3: Yeah, message me.
Speaker 1: I can send it to you, all right, Guys, we
Speaker 1: love you and we will speak to you next week.