WEBVTT - Explosive Secrets & Moving Away: Your Dilemmas Part 2 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.840 You can sing Dad's ally. 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:08.200 Hey aren't they Australian represent Ye shout out, Yeah you 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:08.680 needed that. 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:20.919 M This is so sad you're leaving in like less 0:00:20.960 --> 0:00:24.840 than a week. I'm leaving in six days. Jed enough. 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:28.840 I'm so fucking excited. I'm so fucking excited just. 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:31.320 Going to London for those are one way flight to 0:00:31.400 --> 0:00:33.880 London for those who don't know, I'm planning on staying 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:37.880 for well, I've booked accommodation for two months, just planning 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:40.800 and working living over there, kind of just like sussing 0:00:40.800 --> 0:00:43.520 the vibe. I would like to do a few years 0:00:43.560 --> 0:00:47.280 of like some are their summer in Australia, like follow 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:48.559 the sun kind of vibe. 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:52.280 I'm so excited. I'm going over with my friend Malita. 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:53.280 We're staying. 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:55.560 I lead. It's such an angel, Like she's such an angel, 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:57.280 and she's such a good cook. 0:00:57.240 --> 0:01:00.279 Such a good cook, good I know. 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:04.080 So we've got a little apartment in West London and 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:06.240 we're just going to stay there, base ourselves out of 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:07.279 there for a couple of months. 0:01:07.480 --> 0:01:08.600 Yeah, I've got a few people. 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:14.440 No, fuck hugely, I know, because I love I love London. No, 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.240 I think I think you'll like it. Yeah, like London 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:20.280 was the one place I could have seen myself moving 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:22.560 if I ever was able to take that late. So yeah, 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:23.360 I think you like it. 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:24.360 I think I love it. 0:01:24.480 --> 0:01:26.280 I've got a few people that I know they're it 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:28.640 was so good meeting some extra girls like Coachella. I've 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:31.919 got a few girls staying with me. So last minute, 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:36.800 but I've been chatting to Maddie, she works for remy 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:39.120 by Riley, and she was like, oh my god, I 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:40.560 want to stay in London so bad because I was 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:41.360 replying to her story. 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:43.320 She's there at the moment and she's actually. 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:45.240 Extended for another week, so she's going to come stay 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:47.920 with me and we're gonna stay around there and hang 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:50.720 out together. We've never met, so we were really interesting. 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:52.840 But you're good at that shit. That's how you met Melita. 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:53.760 Yeah. 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:58.240 I met Melita from this podcast because she is from 0:01:58.280 --> 0:01:59.880 the Gold Coast and she danned me. She saw that 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:01.440 I was up there by myself, and she's like, if 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:02.920 I listened to the podcast, if you want to go 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:03.520 for a walk, Like. 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:07.360 We actually used Melita. We did like this segment once 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:10.440 and I think girls doing this segment caused more of 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:12.320 an issues than the boys doing it, but it's like 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:15.360 who's punching in the relationship and with Malita and her boyfriend, 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:19.520 Like she sent in her and Levi and then Sam 0:02:19.560 --> 0:02:20.880 and her ended up going on. 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:24.080 A walk and now we've been like she's the best. 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:25.040 Shout out to you, Malina. 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:27.480 So yeah, when you're listening to this, I'll be over there. 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:28.359 I'm sure I'll be. 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:31.080 Updating on my socials. 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:34.200 But yeah, I'm so excited for this tree exited for you. 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:36.880 You're excited to get out of Melbourne. It's so bad 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:38.840 because I live for the future, like I live for 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:41.440 my next trip. Yeah, like I always have something booked. 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:44.000 But I'm okay with that at this point of my life. 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:45.280 And I'll figure that probably, well. 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:48.520 You're young, and why not if you have the freedom 0:02:48.560 --> 0:02:51.919 and the financial freedom to be able to experience those things, 0:02:51.960 --> 0:02:54.720 I feel like it's amazing and if like I would 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:56.960 have loved to do stuff like that, but I'm not 0:02:56.960 --> 0:02:59.640 sure that I could live without my family, you know. 0:02:59.800 --> 0:03:02.560 So I feel like you definitely takes a certain type 0:03:02.600 --> 0:03:03.040 of person. 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:03.679 Yeah. 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:07.680 Yeah, I moved out of home quite young and I 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:11.280 always grew up as quite an independent kid, So I 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:13.800 like don't like obviously I'll miss my family, but I 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:17.680 don't feel I don't feel the feeling of missing someone. 0:03:17.880 --> 0:03:21.760 Yeah right, Yeah, I may say it's a little bit 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:22.960 psychopathic of. 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:25.360 Me, but no, well why not you get to experience 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:27.520 all these amazing things. Yeah, you can to hear about 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.320 it can get big. It's so exciting. 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:32.760 We're doing dilemmas today. Do you want to hit us 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:36.040 with the with the first one of the week? 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:47.760 It's kind for question of the week? Would you rather 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:51.520 be universally liked but mid at everything or kind of 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:53.360 hated but elite at everything you do? 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:55.960 I could argue that I'm both. 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:58.440 I'm very hated, but I'm very good at what I 0:03:58.480 --> 0:03:59.440 do because people wait for. 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:03.440 Me, so you know, that's what I'm also last one 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:06.200 that's saying kind of hated but eladed everything you do. 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:10.480 That's but I'm also mid minted everything. Yeah, you just 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:11.480 like I'm not good at it? 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:13.440 You mean you're kind of hated be omitted everything. 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:18.440 Yeah, like I wish one. 0:04:18.440 --> 0:04:23.440 Would you rather? I disagree that that's the case. You're 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:26.920 great at whatever you set your mind to. Oh, but 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:29.960 I'm very hated. People online seem to have their own 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:35.200 personal opinions but you're not hated. It's people that's a percentage. 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:38.080 It's just people that know me, don't hate me, people 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:39.080 who think they know me. 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:42.120 It's just online. And I feel like that comes with 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:43.960 the envy that we were talking about in the last one. 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:47.080 They know I personally would rather be kind of hated 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:48.280 and elided everything. 0:04:48.200 --> 0:04:50.920 Yeah, because I will understand why people hate me. It's like, 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:51.360 fuck me. 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:53.839 She can do javelin and she can fucking swim one 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:56.560 hundred meters really fast, and it's. 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:58.880 Like, yeah, I hate me too, Yeah, trying to go 0:04:58.960 --> 0:04:59.960 up against me against anything. 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:02.120 You wouldn't want to surround yourself with people that are 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:04.200 jealous of your achievements anyways, you know. 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:06.480 Yeah, Like I was like, I'd love to walk in 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:08.360 and be like, yeah, I can fucking break dance and 0:05:08.560 --> 0:05:11.080 I can sing, I can dance, and like I want 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:12.400 to be a triple to it and I can act. 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:14.680 Then I can just do anything. I'd be loaded. Yeah, 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:17.640 I'd be like Hugh Jackman of the Entsanement world. Hu 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:18.680 Jackman can do everything. 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:21.320 Yeah, exactly, And probably a lot of people hate he. 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:23.880 Q because they're like, you can sing, dance and act 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:28.960 a Helly or Hailey helly, aren't they slay? Jackman, Australian 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:32.320 represent Yeah, shout out, Yeah you needed that. Yeah. 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:34.400 I feel like he's dying at the moment, Like he's 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:37.120 like not getting as much like public Wolverines breaking. 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:38.680 Yeah. So like we're just. 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:40.200 Gonna hype him up again because I feel like he's 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:41.400 getting back into the spotlight. 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:42.920 You know, we'll do it for you here. Yeah, we 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:46.000 got you, Hugh love ya looking up your Tuesday. 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:51.360 The Lamatte number one. Hey girls, jumping right in. I'm 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:54.320 moving to London this August or September for six or 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:54.919 twelve months. 0:05:55.040 --> 0:06:00.360 L Hey kay show. This has been a dream of 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:01.039 mine for years. 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:03.000 I want to step out of my comfort zone, travel, 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:05.080 meet new people, and hopefully figure out what I want 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:05.640 in my life. 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:08.560 Same sister. I'm twenty four and still not sure about 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:10.720 my career or future path. Same sister. 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:15.840 He's a complication. I'm in an amazing six year relationship. 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:18.160 I've been with him since I was eighteen. We're in 0:06:18.240 --> 0:06:20.440 such a good place. Our love and communication is so 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:22.800 strong and I truly believe he's my great love. 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:25.080 But he's not coming with me. 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:28.040 He just got his dream job offer in Melbourne and 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.400 He's waited over a year for it, and it starts 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:33.640 in September. We've talked about maybe doing long distance or 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:35.000 publicsibly separating. 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:36.800 Well, I'm away. It's hard. 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:38.920 Sometimes we think it's best to take our break to 0:06:38.960 --> 0:06:41.240 go on our own. Other times we get really sad 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:43.360 at the thought of being a part. We haven't made 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:46.479 the decision yet. Neither of us want to see other people. 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:47.360 It's not about that. 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:49.880 We just wonder living separate lives will help us for 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:53.200 a bit to grow as individuals. Long distance seems tough, 0:06:53.440 --> 0:06:56.479 especially when I don't know exactly when I'll return. I'd 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:59.479 love an outside perspective. What would you do in this situation, 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:02.360 especially you Sam, since you're also going. 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:05.760 I probably get the soul searching side of this. Help 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:06.560 a girl out. 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:11.600 I think that you should do long distance if you 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:13.520 don't want to see anyone and you just feel like 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:16.200 this is your guy. It's like you can soul search 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:18.920 and experience and be over there and meet new people 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:22.440 and do new things while still having that connection to 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:23.600 that person that you love. 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:24.680 I disagree. 0:07:25.440 --> 0:07:26.120 Tell me about it. 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:29.280 So you've been dating since you were eighteen in our 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:32.720 twenty four if your love is strong enough you will 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:35.640 come together. But I think in your twenties, especially in 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:38.080 your early twenties, I was in a very serious relationship 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:39.880 and I thought that were my be all and or. 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:42.480 But being single in your early twenties has made me 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:46.840 grow so much more without the back end, without feeling 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:50.520 like you can lean on someone. And when you've created 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:53.760 that distance by actually physically being apart from each other, 0:07:54.080 --> 0:07:56.440 I think you also emotionally need to be a part 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:59.679 on each other because you being completely and utterly lone 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:02.720 in and other country without him will force you to 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:04.240 be out of your comfort zone. And I feel like 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:07.080 you'd get so much more out of the experience than 0:08:07.160 --> 0:08:09.360 knowing that you've got him to fall back on. And 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:11.800 I just think with the time, it's a difference in everything, 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:14.320 and you're both being on two different stages. He's really 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:17.200 experiencing life in a full time job and everything like that. 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:21.200 I just think having no pressure on it, like doesn't 0:08:21.240 --> 0:08:23.560 mean that you going over there, you're gonna hook up 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:25.679 and kiss and fucking sleep with a bunch of guys. 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:28.120 I just think not having someone to fall back on 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:30.560 and not someone having to someone to rely on and 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:33.920 communicate with every single day you'll get so much more 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:37.079 out of your experience for six to twelve months that 0:08:37.280 --> 0:08:39.360 if you're meant to come back together, you'll come back 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:44.160 together as such better and different individuals because you've had 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:44.959 that time apart. 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:47.040 I get that. I just think that if you are 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:49.760 going to make that decision, you need to lay some 0:08:49.960 --> 0:08:53.000 serious ground rules about what you expect of the other person. 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:55.319 Say if you're like, when I get back, we'll get 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:58.040 back together. If that's like what you're laying out, you 0:08:58.200 --> 0:09:01.760 need to have like some serial rules on like being 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:03.559 with other people, or like I know you may say 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:05.679 that now that you're not going to, but you never 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:08.080 know what could happen, And I feel like you need 0:09:08.160 --> 0:09:10.120 to lay those rules out because those can get really 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:13.319 foggy if you're on a break. I feel like rules 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:16.439 around a break or a breakup to get back together 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:17.200 when you get home. 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:19.960 I don't think you break up to get back together, 0:09:20.120 --> 0:09:22.680 but I think you just say, we can really appreciate 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:24.880 the time that we've had over the last six years. 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:27.480 If it's meant to be, it will be, but let's 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:28.439 give ourselves a year. 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:31.280 Let's when I get back from London, let's meet up 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:33.880 sus from there, maybe you have moved on, maybe you haven't. 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:35.200 Maybe if you were meant to. 0:09:35.200 --> 0:09:37.120 Find somebody else and this was a reason as to 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:39.599 how you found somebody else. Like, I just think you 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:44.880 go in with absolutely no expectation, just be like, we 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:47.000 love what we've had. If it were meant to be, 0:09:47.240 --> 0:09:49.000 we can either be friends and catch up when I 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:52.439 get home, but for right now, like, let's end it 0:09:52.800 --> 0:09:54.960 and see each other in a ear. 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:59.920 Fair enough, I'm sure regardless you'll get some amazing experiences 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.800 out of all of this, and just try and be 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:06.960 present in the moment regardless. I just I find letting 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:08.960 go of someone you love would be so challenging if 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:11.640 it is an amazing relationship. But I think you guys 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:13.199 will both be able to figure that out and know 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:13.720 what's right. 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:18.000 I think the fact that you guys are even discussing 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:22.440 potentially breaking up should be what you end up choosing, 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:24.839 because if that was like not on the cards at all, 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:26.280 and you're like, no, I'm going to go leave over 0:10:26.320 --> 0:10:28.480 there for six to twelve months and we're just got 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:31.600 distance like then that that would have been the question. 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:34.280 But the fact that you guys are questioning that you 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:35.920 don't know what your relationship to do. 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:37.360 Yeah, you don't know if. 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:41.000 Your relationship can last that distance because you've never experienced 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:42.800 that before. So I think you owe it to each 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:45.560 other to end it, to save yourself from putting yourself 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:47.920 in those positions, because you are questioning it at the 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:50.920 end of the day, and if you really thought your 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:52.920 love could handle it, you wouldn't be questioning it in 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.520 the first place. God have so much fun, though, girl, 0:10:56.120 --> 0:11:01.560 that sounds fun. Dilemon number who Hey, ladies, I need 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:02.080 your advice. 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:04.320 I'm from Melbourne and spend a lot of time in Bali, 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:06.880 with plans to move there soon. I have a great 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:09.360 group of friends, including one of known for four years. 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:12.120 Let's call her Sarah. She was my first friend there 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:15.080 and has always been super into dating, often seeing multiple 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:17.280 guys in a short time. And that is Bali. 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:21.840 Bali is like fucking open relationships Central ever. 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:23.599 Because a lot of guys come in and out, so 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:25.360 it's like you'll date someone and then they'll like go 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:26.240 back to where they're from. 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:28.240 Yeah, and it's like you've lived like a four years 0:11:28.320 --> 0:11:30.520 relationship in two weeks and it goes so fast and 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:33.040 you like rush everything and then next week you've got 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:33.840 a new. 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:38.800 One, or you just send it Hi Mario. 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:43.120 He got a new girlfriend like two weeks after and 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:44.559 now they live together and have a dog, and he's 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:46.439 got a tattoo with her initials on it. 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:49.480 And I was apparently the love of his life and 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:50.000 he'll never. 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:51.959 Is a little it's like a vacuum. 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:53.839 Yeah, it's a fantasy, it really is. 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:54.880 It's a fantasyland. 0:11:55.000 --> 0:11:55.760 It's just funny. 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:57.920 On my last trip, we were watching the sunset with 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:01.200 friends when Sarah invited a guy named She hooked up 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:03.439 with him briefly back in November and hadn't really mentioned 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:06.280 him since. When I met him, I was instantly attracted, 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:09.400 and Sarah encouraged it, saying he was totally my type 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:12.720 and they were just friends now. Oh after that, Josh 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:15.559 and I started talking once Sarah left Bali for working, 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:17.400 and I spent a lot of time together. I even 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:19.719 messaged her to check if she was okay with it, 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:21.640 and she said, go for it. We're just friends, babe. 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:24.280 Later she confirmed in person she had no feelings for 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:26.120 him and that she will always put her girls first. 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:29.920 So far, this chick seems like a legend. I feel 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:32.640 like we're getting somewhere though fast forward, things are going 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:34.520 really well with Josh. She even bought me a cute 0:12:34.600 --> 0:12:38.680 little ring, I promise ring. She didn't say promise ring, 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:41.800 but I just did. After I left, we kept talking. 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:43.520 He said he missed me, and we were planning my 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:47.800 return to Bali. I assum. Then five days later, my 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:51.440 friends saw Sarah and Josh leaving Mexicola together. I don't 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:54.439 know why I'm hearing Mexicola. I'm like eight, I booked 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:55.160 my trip to Bali. 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:56.920 I know I'm too excited, you told me. 0:12:57.360 --> 0:12:59.640 Ever since, she's been posting him on a story every 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:03.800 single day, and just like that, Josh ghosted me. Sarah 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:06.439 hasn't messaged me either. FU. 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:09.120 She's one of those friends that's like, I want to 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:11.400 still I still get it and bruin what they have 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:13.160 because she thinks it's so strong, but I just want 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:13.959 to see back and break it. 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:15.719 One of those friends that's like I need to know 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:18.240 that everyone's boyfriend just thinks I'm really hot though, like 0:13:18.360 --> 0:13:19.880 you can date him, but I need to know that, 0:13:20.040 --> 0:13:21.839 like if ye had the chance, he would leave you 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:22.160 for me. 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:23.120 I can't. 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:26.200 There are people like that in every fucking friendship group. 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:30.920 I'm thinking of specific people like that. I haven't confronted 0:13:31.000 --> 0:13:33.960 either of them, but I feel completely blindsided. Sarah had 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:35.840 a chance to be honest, and Josh could have shut 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:37.760 it down to I feel like I've lost a friend 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:40.480 and a guy I really liked. She's coming to visit 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:42.240 me in Melbourne in two weeks. What do I do? 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:44.360 I don't want to pretend I'm not hurt, because honestly, 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.000 I feel in my gut that they've slept together. So 0:13:47.160 --> 0:13:49.839 I reckon you ask Yasca. 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:52.120 And be like, have you slept with him? Why would 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:52.400 you do that? 0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:54.679 When you said you didn't have any feelings or anything? Like, 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:57.120 why would you tread on something that you knew? I like, 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:00.839 I knew I really liked him and then for him. Boys, 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:03.160 I'm not justifying their actions, but sometimes they literally just 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:04.120 think with their dick. 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:05.559 And I think you need a message the guy and 0:14:05.640 --> 0:14:08.760 be like, Hey, what's happened, Yeah, something happened. We haven't 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:13.079 spoken in a while. Like, I appreciate it. I just appreciate, Yeah, 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:14.000 you being honest with me. 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:16.440 I just feel like I'm I deserve a little bit 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:18.839 more than be ghosted, Like I'm interested in me. 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:19.960 Things are going well? 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:22.200 Yeah, all good if you're not interested in me anymore. 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:24.119 I just feel like I deserve a bit of clarification. 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:26.080 And if Sarah has gone and slept with him, it's 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:28.680 definitely something then to reconsider whether you feel like you 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:31.240 should be as close as you are, because girls like that, 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:33.240 the type of girls that we were just referring to, 0:14:33.520 --> 0:14:37.160 never change, and you don't want a friend like that 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:37.720 in your life. 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:44.200 Sam number three, the lovem number three, Yeah, number three. 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:48.000 I've been a fan of your TikTok days and love 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:49.280 listening to for Jesa girls. 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:51.040 But I've really hit a tough spot and I don't 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:53.240 know what to do. I mean with my boyfriend for 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:55.800 nearly two and a half years, and he generally makes 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:57.720 me so happy. He brings out the best in me, 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:00.600 and we've always had such a strong connect, lots of 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:04.120 laughs and only minor disagreements. But lately things have changed. 0:15:04.440 --> 0:15:07.120 We both just graduated. He's trady and I'm in UNI 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:09.560 and well, I believe couples can grow together. 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:11.280 I'm scared we're starting to grow up. 0:15:11.280 --> 0:15:15.040 Part I struggle with anxiety and sometimes spiral with overthinking, 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:17.960 which I know affects how I see relationships. 0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:19.160 There's an issue. 0:15:19.240 --> 0:15:22.120 I've tried opening up about how I feel disconnected, and 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:24.680 every time I do, he reassures me. 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:26.600 But then two weeks later we're distant again. 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.560 We can go days without a meaningful conversation and I 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:31.960 miss him so much, but I don't even know how 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:35.080 to express that properly. It's my anxiety that makes me 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:37.440 question everything. I really love him and can see a 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:39.800 future with him, but I feel stuck. Am I overthinking it? 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:42.800 Or is this distance something I really need to face? 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:43.960 Thank you so much, I'd. 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:44.400 Love your advice. 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:47.720 I wonder if this distance is coming from entering a 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:49.880 new era and just trying to get a manage on things, 0:15:49.960 --> 0:15:51.320 you know what I mean? Because the fact that he's 0:15:51.400 --> 0:15:56.360 reassuring you of it. Yeah, Like I feel like if 0:15:56.400 --> 0:15:58.760 a boy is like really not interested, if you mention it, 0:15:58.840 --> 0:16:01.040 they'll take that out, you know what I mean. Yeah, 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:04.040 but he's just started probably this new job you've just 0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:06.440 started UNI. Maybe he's just trying to get a manage 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:07.040 on everything. 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:09.960 Yeah, I think it's really easy to get in your 0:16:10.040 --> 0:16:12.280 head when but like I is, he said, you guys 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:15.400 are both starting new eras and you can grow together. 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:16.120 But it's like. 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:19.880 What you guys were once comfortable with is now not 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:24.000 your norm. So it's like, I think prioritizing doing nice 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:25.880 things for one another and just be like, let's go 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:28.840 on a date night and like mixing the quality times, yeah, 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:31.080 and like mixing things up in your day to day 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:34.200 life and normal relationship while you adjusted this new period 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:36.120 and just be like, I think we need to prioritize 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:37.960 each other a little bit more and do something nice 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:39.000 as you guys. 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:41.320 Are disconnected now, Yeah, you know what I mean. I 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:44.680 think honesty and transparency is the only way to move 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:47.440 through these times if you do want to continue it, 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:47.760 you know. 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:51.360 And I think it's okay going days without having a 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:54.320 meaningful conversation. You don't need to have a deep, meaningful conversation. 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:57.000 Every single relationship should also be l liked. Yeah, a 0:16:57.040 --> 0:16:59.400 bit of an escape from that sort of stress. So 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:02.960 I wouldn't stress that there are meaningful conversations, Like you've 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:04.120