1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,840 Speaker 1: You can sing Dad's ally. 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:08,200 Speaker 2: Hey aren't they Australian represent Ye shout out, Yeah you 3 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:08,680 Speaker 2: needed that. 4 00:00:15,480 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 1: M This is so sad you're leaving in like less 5 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: than a week. I'm leaving in six days. Jed enough. 6 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 3: I'm so fucking excited. I'm so fucking excited just. 7 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:31,320 Speaker 2: Going to London for those are one way flight to 8 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:33,880 Speaker 2: London for those who don't know, I'm planning on staying 9 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:37,880 Speaker 2: for well, I've booked accommodation for two months, just planning 10 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 2: and working living over there, kind of just like sussing 11 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 2: the vibe. I would like to do a few years 12 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 2: of like some are their summer in Australia, like follow 13 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:48,559 Speaker 2: the sun kind of vibe. 14 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 3: I'm so excited. I'm going over with my friend Malita. 15 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 3: We're staying. 16 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 1: I lead. It's such an angel, Like she's such an angel, 17 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:57,280 Speaker 1: and she's such a good cook. 18 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:00,279 Speaker 3: Such a good cook, good I know. 19 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 2: So we've got a little apartment in West London and 20 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 2: we're just going to stay there, base ourselves out of 21 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:07,279 Speaker 2: there for a couple of months. 22 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, I've got a few people. 23 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 1: No, fuck hugely, I know, because I love I love London. No, 24 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: I think I think you'll like it. Yeah, like London 25 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:20,280 Speaker 1: was the one place I could have seen myself moving 26 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:22,560 Speaker 1: if I ever was able to take that late. So yeah, 27 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 1: I think you like it. 28 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 3: I think I love it. 29 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 2: I've got a few people that I know they're it 30 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:28,640 Speaker 2: was so good meeting some extra girls like Coachella. I've 31 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:31,919 Speaker 2: got a few girls staying with me. So last minute, 32 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 2: but I've been chatting to Maddie, she works for remy 33 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 2: by Riley, and she was like, oh my god, I 34 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:40,560 Speaker 2: want to stay in London so bad because I was 35 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 2: replying to her story. 36 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:43,320 Speaker 3: She's there at the moment and she's actually. 37 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 2: Extended for another week, so she's going to come stay 38 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:47,920 Speaker 2: with me and we're gonna stay around there and hang 39 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 2: out together. We've never met, so we were really interesting. 40 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 1: But you're good at that shit. That's how you met Melita. 41 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 3: Yeah. 42 00:01:53,920 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 2: I met Melita from this podcast because she is from 43 00:01:58,280 --> 00:01:59,880 Speaker 2: the Gold Coast and she danned me. She saw that 44 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 2: I was up there by myself, and she's like, if 45 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 2: I listened to the podcast, if you want to go 46 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 2: for a walk, Like. 47 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: We actually used Melita. We did like this segment once 48 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 1: and I think girls doing this segment caused more of 49 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:12,320 Speaker 1: an issues than the boys doing it, but it's like 50 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,360 Speaker 1: who's punching in the relationship and with Malita and her boyfriend, 51 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: Like she sent in her and Levi and then Sam 52 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 1: and her ended up going on. 53 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 3: A walk and now we've been like she's the best. 54 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: Shout out to you, Malina. 55 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 3: So yeah, when you're listening to this, I'll be over there. 56 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:28,359 Speaker 3: I'm sure I'll be. 57 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:31,080 Speaker 1: Updating on my socials. 58 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm so excited for this tree exited for you. 59 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 2: You're excited to get out of Melbourne. It's so bad 60 00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 2: because I live for the future, like I live for 61 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 2: my next trip. Yeah, like I always have something booked. 62 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 2: But I'm okay with that at this point of my life. 63 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 2: And I'll figure that probably, well. 64 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:48,520 Speaker 1: You're young, and why not if you have the freedom 65 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:51,919 Speaker 1: and the financial freedom to be able to experience those things, 66 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 1: I feel like it's amazing and if like I would 67 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 1: have loved to do stuff like that, but I'm not 68 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: sure that I could live without my family, you know. 69 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 3: So I feel like you definitely takes a certain type 70 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 3: of person. 71 00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:03,679 Speaker 1: Yeah. 72 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, I moved out of home quite young and I 73 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 2: always grew up as quite an independent kid, So I 74 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:13,800 Speaker 2: like don't like obviously I'll miss my family, but I 75 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 2: don't feel I don't feel the feeling of missing someone. 76 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 2: Yeah right, Yeah, I may say it's a little bit 77 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 2: psychopathic of. 78 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 1: Me, but no, well why not you get to experience 79 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:27,520 Speaker 1: all these amazing things. Yeah, you can to hear about 80 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: it can get big. It's so exciting. 81 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 3: We're doing dilemmas today. Do you want to hit us 82 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 3: with the with the first one of the week? 83 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: It's kind for question of the week? Would you rather 84 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: be universally liked but mid at everything or kind of 85 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: hated but elite at everything you do? 86 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 3: I could argue that I'm both. 87 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 2: I'm very hated, but I'm very good at what I 88 00:03:58,480 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 2: do because people wait for. 89 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: Me, so you know, that's what I'm also last one 90 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 1: that's saying kind of hated but eladed everything you do. 91 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 2: That's but I'm also mid minted everything. Yeah, you just 92 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 2: like I'm not good at it? 93 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: You mean you're kind of hated be omitted everything. 94 00:04:13,640 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, like I wish one. 95 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: Would you rather? I disagree that that's the case. You're 96 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:26,920 Speaker 1: great at whatever you set your mind to. Oh, but 97 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: I'm very hated. People online seem to have their own 98 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: personal opinions but you're not hated. It's people that's a percentage. 99 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 3: It's just people that know me, don't hate me, people 100 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 3: who think they know me. 101 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:42,120 Speaker 1: It's just online. And I feel like that comes with 102 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: the envy that we were talking about in the last one. 103 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: They know I personally would rather be kind of hated 104 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:48,280 Speaker 1: and elided everything. 105 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:50,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, because I will understand why people hate me. It's like, 106 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 3: fuck me. 107 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:53,839 Speaker 2: She can do javelin and she can fucking swim one 108 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 2: hundred meters really fast, and it's. 109 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I hate me too, Yeah, trying to go 110 00:04:58,960 --> 00:04:59,960 Speaker 3: up against me against anything. 111 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 1: You wouldn't want to surround yourself with people that are 112 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: jealous of your achievements anyways, you know. 113 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I was like, I'd love to walk in 114 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:08,360 Speaker 2: and be like, yeah, I can fucking break dance and 115 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,080 Speaker 2: I can sing, I can dance, and like I want 116 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 2: to be a triple to it and I can act. 117 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 1: Then I can just do anything. I'd be loaded. Yeah, 118 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: I'd be like Hugh Jackman of the Entsanement world. Hu 119 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:18,680 Speaker 1: Jackman can do everything. 120 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:21,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, And probably a lot of people hate he. 121 00:05:21,400 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 1: Q because they're like, you can sing, dance and act 122 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: a Helly or Hailey helly, aren't they slay? Jackman, Australian 123 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 1: represent Yeah, shout out, Yeah you needed that. Yeah. 124 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 2: I feel like he's dying at the moment, Like he's 125 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 2: like not getting as much like public Wolverines breaking. 126 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. So like we're just. 127 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 2: Gonna hype him up again because I feel like he's 128 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:41,400 Speaker 2: getting back into the spotlight. 129 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: You know, we'll do it for you here. Yeah, we 130 00:05:43,040 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: got you, Hugh love ya looking up your Tuesday. 131 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 2: The Lamatte number one. Hey girls, jumping right in. I'm 132 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 2: moving to London this August or September for six or 133 00:05:54,360 --> 00:05:54,919 Speaker 2: twelve months. 134 00:05:55,040 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 3: L Hey kay show. This has been a dream of 135 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 3: mine for years. 136 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 2: I want to step out of my comfort zone, travel, 137 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 2: meet new people, and hopefully figure out what I want 138 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 2: in my life. 139 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,560 Speaker 3: Same sister. I'm twenty four and still not sure about 140 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:10,720 Speaker 3: my career or future path. Same sister. 141 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:15,840 Speaker 2: He's a complication. I'm in an amazing six year relationship. 142 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:18,160 Speaker 2: I've been with him since I was eighteen. We're in 143 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 2: such a good place. Our love and communication is so 144 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 2: strong and I truly believe he's my great love. 145 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 3: But he's not coming with me. 146 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,040 Speaker 2: He just got his dream job offer in Melbourne and 147 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 2: He's waited over a year for it, and it starts 148 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 2: in September. We've talked about maybe doing long distance or 149 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 2: publicsibly separating. 150 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 3: Well, I'm away. It's hard. 151 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:38,920 Speaker 2: Sometimes we think it's best to take our break to 152 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,240 Speaker 2: go on our own. Other times we get really sad 153 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 2: at the thought of being a part. We haven't made 154 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,479 Speaker 2: the decision yet. Neither of us want to see other people. 155 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 3: It's not about that. 156 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:49,880 Speaker 2: We just wonder living separate lives will help us for 157 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 2: a bit to grow as individuals. Long distance seems tough, 158 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:56,479 Speaker 2: especially when I don't know exactly when I'll return. I'd 159 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:59,479 Speaker 2: love an outside perspective. What would you do in this situation, 160 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:02,360 Speaker 2: especially you Sam, since you're also going. 161 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 3: I probably get the soul searching side of this. Help 162 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 3: a girl out. 163 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 1: I think that you should do long distance if you 164 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: don't want to see anyone and you just feel like 165 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: this is your guy. It's like you can soul search 166 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: and experience and be over there and meet new people 167 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 1: and do new things while still having that connection to 168 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: that person that you love. 169 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 3: I disagree. 170 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 1: Tell me about it. 171 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 2: So you've been dating since you were eighteen in our 172 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 2: twenty four if your love is strong enough you will 173 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 2: come together. But I think in your twenties, especially in 174 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 2: your early twenties, I was in a very serious relationship 175 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 2: and I thought that were my be all and or. 176 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 2: But being single in your early twenties has made me 177 00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 2: grow so much more without the back end, without feeling 178 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 2: like you can lean on someone. And when you've created 179 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 2: that distance by actually physically being apart from each other, 180 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:56,440 Speaker 2: I think you also emotionally need to be a part 181 00:07:56,520 --> 00:07:59,679 Speaker 2: on each other because you being completely and utterly lone 182 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 2: in and other country without him will force you to 183 00:08:02,800 --> 00:08:04,240 Speaker 2: be out of your comfort zone. And I feel like 184 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 2: you'd get so much more out of the experience than 185 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 2: knowing that you've got him to fall back on. And 186 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:11,800 Speaker 2: I just think with the time, it's a difference in everything, 187 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:14,320 Speaker 2: and you're both being on two different stages. He's really 188 00:08:14,440 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 2: experiencing life in a full time job and everything like that. 189 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 2: I just think having no pressure on it, like doesn't 190 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 2: mean that you going over there, you're gonna hook up 191 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:25,679 Speaker 2: and kiss and fucking sleep with a bunch of guys. 192 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 2: I just think not having someone to fall back on 193 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 2: and not someone having to someone to rely on and 194 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 2: communicate with every single day you'll get so much more 195 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:37,079 Speaker 2: out of your experience for six to twelve months that 196 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:39,360 Speaker 2: if you're meant to come back together, you'll come back 197 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 2: together as such better and different individuals because you've had 198 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:44,959 Speaker 2: that time apart. 199 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 1: I get that. I just think that if you are 200 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: going to make that decision, you need to lay some 201 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:53,000 Speaker 1: serious ground rules about what you expect of the other person. 202 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:55,319 Speaker 1: Say if you're like, when I get back, we'll get 203 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 1: back together. If that's like what you're laying out, you 204 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 1: need to have like some serial rules on like being 205 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:03,559 Speaker 1: with other people, or like I know you may say 206 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:05,679 Speaker 1: that now that you're not going to, but you never 207 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 1: know what could happen, And I feel like you need 208 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 1: to lay those rules out because those can get really 209 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:13,319 Speaker 1: foggy if you're on a break. I feel like rules 210 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:16,439 Speaker 1: around a break or a breakup to get back together 211 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:17,200 Speaker 1: when you get home. 212 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:19,960 Speaker 2: I don't think you break up to get back together, 213 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:22,680 Speaker 2: but I think you just say, we can really appreciate 214 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 2: the time that we've had over the last six years. 215 00:09:25,000 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 3: If it's meant to be, it will be, but let's 216 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:28,439 Speaker 3: give ourselves a year. 217 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 2: Let's when I get back from London, let's meet up 218 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 2: sus from there, maybe you have moved on, maybe you haven't. 219 00:09:33,920 --> 00:09:35,200 Speaker 3: Maybe if you were meant to. 220 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:37,120 Speaker 2: Find somebody else and this was a reason as to 221 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:39,599 Speaker 2: how you found somebody else. Like, I just think you 222 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:44,880 Speaker 2: go in with absolutely no expectation, just be like, we 223 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 2: love what we've had. If it were meant to be, 224 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 2: we can either be friends and catch up when I 225 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:52,439 Speaker 2: get home, but for right now, like, let's end it 226 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:54,960 Speaker 2: and see each other in a ear. 227 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 1: Fair enough, I'm sure regardless you'll get some amazing experiences 228 00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 1: out of all of this, and just try and be 229 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 1: present in the moment regardless. I just I find letting 230 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:08,960 Speaker 1: go of someone you love would be so challenging if 231 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:11,640 Speaker 1: it is an amazing relationship. But I think you guys 232 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:13,199 Speaker 1: will both be able to figure that out and know 233 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 1: what's right. 234 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 2: I think the fact that you guys are even discussing 235 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:22,440 Speaker 2: potentially breaking up should be what you end up choosing, 236 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:24,839 Speaker 2: because if that was like not on the cards at all, 237 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:26,280 Speaker 2: and you're like, no, I'm going to go leave over 238 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 2: there for six to twelve months and we're just got 239 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 2: distance like then that that would have been the question. 240 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 2: But the fact that you guys are questioning that you 241 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 2: don't know what your relationship to do. 242 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't know if. 243 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 2: Your relationship can last that distance because you've never experienced 244 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 2: that before. So I think you owe it to each 245 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:45,560 Speaker 2: other to end it, to save yourself from putting yourself 246 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 2: in those positions, because you are questioning it at the 247 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 2: end of the day, and if you really thought your 248 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:52,920 Speaker 2: love could handle it, you wouldn't be questioning it in 249 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 2: the first place. God have so much fun, though, girl, 250 00:10:56,120 --> 00:11:01,560 Speaker 2: that sounds fun. Dilemon number who Hey, ladies, I need 251 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 2: your advice. 252 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 1: I'm from Melbourne and spend a lot of time in Bali, 253 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 1: with plans to move there soon. I have a great 254 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:09,360 Speaker 1: group of friends, including one of known for four years. 255 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:12,120 Speaker 1: Let's call her Sarah. She was my first friend there 256 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 1: and has always been super into dating, often seeing multiple 257 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,280 Speaker 1: guys in a short time. And that is Bali. 258 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 3: Bali is like fucking open relationships Central ever. 259 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:23,599 Speaker 1: Because a lot of guys come in and out, so 260 00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:25,360 Speaker 1: it's like you'll date someone and then they'll like go 261 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:26,240 Speaker 1: back to where they're from. 262 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like you've lived like a four years 263 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 2: relationship in two weeks and it goes so fast and 264 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 2: you like rush everything and then next week you've got 265 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:33,840 Speaker 2: a new. 266 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: One, or you just send it Hi Mario. 267 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 2: He got a new girlfriend like two weeks after and 268 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:44,559 Speaker 2: now they live together and have a dog, and he's 269 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:46,439 Speaker 2: got a tattoo with her initials on it. 270 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 3: And I was apparently the love of his life and 271 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 3: he'll never. 272 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:51,959 Speaker 1: Is a little it's like a vacuum. 273 00:11:52,360 --> 00:11:53,839 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a fantasy, it really is. 274 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: It's a fantasyland. 275 00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:55,760 Speaker 3: It's just funny. 276 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:57,920 Speaker 1: On my last trip, we were watching the sunset with 277 00:11:58,040 --> 00:12:01,200 Speaker 1: friends when Sarah invited a guy named She hooked up 278 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:03,439 Speaker 1: with him briefly back in November and hadn't really mentioned 279 00:12:03,480 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 1: him since. When I met him, I was instantly attracted, 280 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 1: and Sarah encouraged it, saying he was totally my type 281 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 1: and they were just friends now. Oh after that, Josh 282 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:15,559 Speaker 1: and I started talking once Sarah left Bali for working, 283 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:17,400 Speaker 1: and I spent a lot of time together. I even 284 00:12:17,480 --> 00:12:19,719 Speaker 1: messaged her to check if she was okay with it, 285 00:12:19,760 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 1: and she said, go for it. We're just friends, babe. 286 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 1: Later she confirmed in person she had no feelings for 287 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 1: him and that she will always put her girls first. 288 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: So far, this chick seems like a legend. I feel 289 00:12:29,960 --> 00:12:32,640 Speaker 1: like we're getting somewhere though fast forward, things are going 290 00:12:32,720 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 1: really well with Josh. She even bought me a cute 291 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:38,680 Speaker 1: little ring, I promise ring. She didn't say promise ring, 292 00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 1: but I just did. After I left, we kept talking. 293 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:43,520 Speaker 1: He said he missed me, and we were planning my 294 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:47,800 Speaker 1: return to Bali. I assum. Then five days later, my 295 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:51,440 Speaker 1: friends saw Sarah and Josh leaving Mexicola together. I don't 296 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:54,439 Speaker 1: know why I'm hearing Mexicola. I'm like eight, I booked 297 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 1: my trip to Bali. 298 00:12:55,320 --> 00:12:56,920 Speaker 3: I know I'm too excited, you told me. 299 00:12:57,360 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: Ever since, she's been posting him on a story every 300 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 1: single day, and just like that, Josh ghosted me. Sarah 301 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:06,439 Speaker 1: hasn't messaged me either. FU. 302 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:09,120 Speaker 2: She's one of those friends that's like, I want to 303 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:11,400 Speaker 2: still I still get it and bruin what they have 304 00:13:11,559 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 2: because she thinks it's so strong, but I just want 305 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:13,959 Speaker 2: to see back and break it. 306 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:15,719 Speaker 1: One of those friends that's like I need to know 307 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:18,240 Speaker 1: that everyone's boyfriend just thinks I'm really hot though, like 308 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:19,880 Speaker 1: you can date him, but I need to know that, 309 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:21,839 Speaker 1: like if ye had the chance, he would leave you 310 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:22,160 Speaker 1: for me. 311 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:23,120 Speaker 3: I can't. 312 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:26,200 Speaker 1: There are people like that in every fucking friendship group. 313 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:30,920 Speaker 1: I'm thinking of specific people like that. I haven't confronted 314 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:33,960 Speaker 1: either of them, but I feel completely blindsided. Sarah had 315 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:35,840 Speaker 1: a chance to be honest, and Josh could have shut 316 00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 1: it down to I feel like I've lost a friend 317 00:13:37,880 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: and a guy I really liked. She's coming to visit 318 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:42,240 Speaker 1: me in Melbourne in two weeks. What do I do? 319 00:13:42,400 --> 00:13:44,360 Speaker 1: I don't want to pretend I'm not hurt, because honestly, 320 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:47,000 Speaker 1: I feel in my gut that they've slept together. So 321 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:49,839 Speaker 1: I reckon you ask Yasca. 322 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:52,120 Speaker 3: And be like, have you slept with him? Why would 323 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:52,400 Speaker 3: you do that? 324 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:54,679 Speaker 2: When you said you didn't have any feelings or anything? Like, 325 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:57,120 Speaker 2: why would you tread on something that you knew? I like, 326 00:13:57,200 --> 00:14:00,839 Speaker 2: I knew I really liked him and then for him. Boys, 327 00:14:00,840 --> 00:14:03,160 Speaker 2: I'm not justifying their actions, but sometimes they literally just 328 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:04,120 Speaker 2: think with their dick. 329 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:05,559 Speaker 1: And I think you need a message the guy and 330 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:08,760 Speaker 1: be like, Hey, what's happened, Yeah, something happened. We haven't 331 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:13,079 Speaker 1: spoken in a while. Like, I appreciate it. I just appreciate, Yeah, 332 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:14,000 Speaker 1: you being honest with me. 333 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:16,440 Speaker 2: I just feel like I'm I deserve a little bit 334 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:18,839 Speaker 2: more than be ghosted, Like I'm interested in me. 335 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:19,960 Speaker 1: Things are going well? 336 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, all good if you're not interested in me anymore. 337 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:24,119 Speaker 2: I just feel like I deserve a bit of clarification. 338 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:26,080 Speaker 1: And if Sarah has gone and slept with him, it's 339 00:14:26,160 --> 00:14:28,680 Speaker 1: definitely something then to reconsider whether you feel like you 340 00:14:28,760 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 1: should be as close as you are, because girls like that, 341 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:33,240 Speaker 1: the type of girls that we were just referring to, 342 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:37,160 Speaker 1: never change, and you don't want a friend like that 343 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:37,720 Speaker 1: in your life. 344 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:44,200 Speaker 3: Sam number three, the lovem number three, Yeah, number three. 345 00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:48,000 Speaker 3: I've been a fan of your TikTok days and love 346 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:49,280 Speaker 3: listening to for Jesa girls. 347 00:14:49,320 --> 00:14:51,040 Speaker 2: But I've really hit a tough spot and I don't 348 00:14:51,080 --> 00:14:53,240 Speaker 2: know what to do. I mean with my boyfriend for 349 00:14:53,320 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 2: nearly two and a half years, and he generally makes 350 00:14:55,840 --> 00:14:57,720 Speaker 2: me so happy. He brings out the best in me, 351 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:00,600 Speaker 2: and we've always had such a strong connect, lots of 352 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 2: laughs and only minor disagreements. But lately things have changed. 353 00:15:04,440 --> 00:15:07,120 Speaker 2: We both just graduated. He's trady and I'm in UNI 354 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 2: and well, I believe couples can grow together. 355 00:15:09,760 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 3: I'm scared we're starting to grow up. 356 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:15,040 Speaker 2: Part I struggle with anxiety and sometimes spiral with overthinking, 357 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 2: which I know affects how I see relationships. 358 00:15:18,440 --> 00:15:19,160 Speaker 3: There's an issue. 359 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:22,120 Speaker 2: I've tried opening up about how I feel disconnected, and 360 00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:24,680 Speaker 2: every time I do, he reassures me. 361 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:26,600 Speaker 3: But then two weeks later we're distant again. 362 00:15:27,360 --> 00:15:29,560 Speaker 2: We can go days without a meaningful conversation and I 363 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 2: miss him so much, but I don't even know how 364 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 2: to express that properly. It's my anxiety that makes me 365 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 2: question everything. I really love him and can see a 366 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 2: future with him, but I feel stuck. Am I overthinking it? 367 00:15:40,280 --> 00:15:42,800 Speaker 2: Or is this distance something I really need to face? 368 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:43,960 Speaker 2: Thank you so much, I'd. 369 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:44,400 Speaker 3: Love your advice. 370 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 1: I wonder if this distance is coming from entering a 371 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 1: new era and just trying to get a manage on things, 372 00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Because the fact that he's 373 00:15:51,400 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 1: reassuring you of it. Yeah, Like I feel like if 374 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:58,760 Speaker 1: a boy is like really not interested, if you mention it, 375 00:15:58,840 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 1: they'll take that out, you know what I mean. Yeah, 376 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 1: but he's just started probably this new job you've just 377 00:16:04,080 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 1: started UNI. Maybe he's just trying to get a manage 378 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 1: on everything. 379 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:09,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's really easy to get in your 380 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:12,280 Speaker 2: head when but like I is, he said, you guys 381 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 2: are both starting new eras and you can grow together. 382 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:16,120 Speaker 1: But it's like. 383 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 2: What you guys were once comfortable with is now not 384 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:24,000 Speaker 2: your norm. So it's like, I think prioritizing doing nice 385 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 2: things for one another and just be like, let's go 386 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 2: on a date night and like mixing the quality times, yeah, 387 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:31,080 Speaker 2: and like mixing things up in your day to day 388 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:34,200 Speaker 2: life and normal relationship while you adjusted this new period 389 00:16:34,240 --> 00:16:36,120 Speaker 2: and just be like, I think we need to prioritize 390 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:37,960 Speaker 2: each other a little bit more and do something nice 391 00:16:38,320 --> 00:16:39,000 Speaker 2: as you guys. 392 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:41,320 Speaker 1: Are disconnected now, Yeah, you know what I mean. I 393 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:44,680 Speaker 1: think honesty and transparency is the only way to move 394 00:16:44,840 --> 00:16:47,440 Speaker 1: through these times if you do want to continue it, 395 00:16:47,560 --> 00:16:47,760 Speaker 1: you know. 396 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 2: And I think it's okay going days without having a 397 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:54,320 Speaker 2: meaningful conversation. You don't need to have a deep, meaningful conversation. 398 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:57,000 Speaker 2: Every single relationship should also be l liked. Yeah, a 399 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 2: bit of an escape from that sort of stress. So 400 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:02,960 Speaker 2: I wouldn't stress that there are meaningful conversations, Like you've 401 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:04,120 Speaker 2: been dating for two and a half years. 402 00:17:04,160 --> 00:17:07,200 Speaker 1: But as fellow anxious girlies, we can understand how you 403 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:09,160 Speaker 1: get in your head hatically with that sort of stuff. 404 00:17:09,160 --> 00:17:10,159 Speaker 1: But I think you just going to give it a 405 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:13,000 Speaker 1: bit of time and an adjustment period because you are 406 00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:16,879 Speaker 1: both entering new stages and just be honest, be open, 407 00:17:17,160 --> 00:17:20,080 Speaker 1: and hopefully if you can at least see that he's 408 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:22,040 Speaker 1: trying to make new steps to make that connection. 409 00:17:22,720 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 2: As you both said, like you're both starting new jobs, 410 00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:26,879 Speaker 2: like maybe be like, let's go to the markets and 411 00:17:27,440 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 2: make a really nice lunch or something on a Sunday, 412 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:32,000 Speaker 2: Like prioritize doing something nice in the weekend, so then 413 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:33,240 Speaker 2: you can ed to the new week. 414 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:36,840 Speaker 1: A booked dinner, like let's go have a cute little 415 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:39,159 Speaker 1: date night hang out. Then maybe you can have a 416 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:42,639 Speaker 1: meaningful conversation. Then yeah, I think just you have to 417 00:17:42,680 --> 00:17:45,040 Speaker 1: play it by year when you're entering new settings. 418 00:17:44,720 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 3: Like that, Yeah, and give each other some grace. It's 419 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:48,600 Speaker 3: a grace period. 420 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:51,840 Speaker 1: Good luck. Eirly happy for you, though, I'm happy for 421 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:58,479 Speaker 1: everyone that's in love, happy and jealous. Dilema number four, Hi, 422 00:17:58,960 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 1: Love the Pod. Need your advice on something super messy. 423 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 1: Do share please? My friends both Mary and Bob not 424 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:13,960 Speaker 1: their real names, you don't. They've been together for three years, 425 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:16,240 Speaker 1: but things have been rocky. Mary just got offered her 426 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:19,679 Speaker 1: dream job in Sydney, huge opportunity, and Bob's freaking out 427 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:22,480 Speaker 1: and begging her not to go. Bob needs to grow 428 00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:26,480 Speaker 1: a pair. Straight out the gate, you should want the 429 00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 1: best for the people that you love, you know. 430 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:32,080 Speaker 2: While Mary, sometimes there are those relationships they're like so 431 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:35,080 Speaker 2: jealous of their partner that they like sabotage. 432 00:18:34,600 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 1: Or that they're worried that they'll get these opportunity and 433 00:18:36,880 --> 00:18:40,920 Speaker 1: leave them behind. While Mary was in Sydney for work recently, 434 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 1: she cheated on Bob. 435 00:18:42,200 --> 00:18:44,520 Speaker 3: Oh, Mary, come on, I was patching for you. 436 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:47,800 Speaker 1: She didn't say it was messy. It was a one 437 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:53,159 Speaker 1: night thing with the guy she calls her soulmate. Now 438 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:55,880 Speaker 1: she's torn. Does she stay with Bob safe option move 439 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:58,000 Speaker 1: or move to Sydney, take the job and explore this 440 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 1: new connection because she knows that herself. I'm going with 441 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:01,200 Speaker 1: option two. 442 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:05,119 Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's also like, is he your soulmate or 443 00:19:05,200 --> 00:19:07,679 Speaker 2: it's like forbidden free and that's why you really like him. 444 00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, But Bob telling her not to go and take 445 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:12,280 Speaker 1: this incredible opportunity that he knows she really wants is 446 00:19:12,440 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 1: a red flag straight out the gate. 447 00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:14,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. 448 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:17,840 Speaker 1: So I don't think Bob's your soulmate either. No, you 449 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:21,000 Speaker 1: might find maybe this guy isn't it, But hopefully I 450 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:22,080 Speaker 1: don't think Bob is he it. 451 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:24,960 Speaker 3: Will help the transition period to Sydney to get a 452 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:25,760 Speaker 3: little sick. 453 00:19:26,359 --> 00:19:29,280 Speaker 1: It gets more complicated. Oh fuck, Bob also got a 454 00:19:29,359 --> 00:19:32,120 Speaker 1: job off friend Sydney. Oh, he hasn't told Mary yet. 455 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:35,359 Speaker 1: He wants to surprise her if she accepts her offer 456 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:36,959 Speaker 1: so they can move together. 457 00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:41,160 Speaker 3: Why are you the middleman? 458 00:19:41,520 --> 00:19:45,200 Speaker 2: I would like, you're sitting a fucking mad tea. Babe, 459 00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:47,879 Speaker 2: does like buck know that she's been cheated on? Like, 460 00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:50,800 Speaker 2: because if my friend cheated. I always said, if I 461 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:53,400 Speaker 2: was really close with my friend's boyfriend and I knew 462 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:55,800 Speaker 2: that my friend cheated, I would force her to say I. 463 00:19:55,800 --> 00:19:57,160 Speaker 1: Would say, you tell him what I will. 464 00:19:57,560 --> 00:20:01,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, I couldn't like knowing you know that Bob is 465 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:04,240 Speaker 2: gonna surprise her, But you've also know that Mary's cheated 466 00:20:04,280 --> 00:20:04,680 Speaker 2: on Bob. 467 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,159 Speaker 3: Babe, I'd go like, I don't send me into a 468 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:10,600 Speaker 3: fucking like psychiatric wall. 469 00:20:10,720 --> 00:20:13,120 Speaker 1: You can't let Bob go over there without all the information. 470 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:17,399 Speaker 1: He has no idea she cheated on him, or that 471 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:20,399 Speaker 1: she's thinking about this other guy. I'm completely stuck. I 472 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:22,440 Speaker 1: know both sides of the story. I feel awful. Do 473 00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:24,760 Speaker 1: I tell Bob the truth before he moves or do 474 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 1: I stay quiet and let it play out. I don't 475 00:20:26,560 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 1: want to betray anyone, but I also don't want to 476 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,040 Speaker 1: see Bob completely blindsided. Please help. I hate being in 477 00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:31,360 Speaker 1: the middle. 478 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:32,840 Speaker 3: You tell Mary to tell Bob. 479 00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:36,920 Speaker 1: I think you tell Mary about Bob's thing and say 480 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:38,760 Speaker 1: you need to tell him because this is what he's 481 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,120 Speaker 1: thinking of doing. So you need to decide now whether 482 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 1: you want to be with Bob. 483 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:45,159 Speaker 3: I don't think he should. 484 00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 1: I don't think she wants to be with Bob at all. 485 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:49,320 Speaker 2: No, but I don't think she should say like, Bob's 486 00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 2: got a job offer, because it's like, don't get in 487 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 2: the middle, because then this is exactly how it will 488 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:54,600 Speaker 2: play out. 489 00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 3: You'll be to blame for something. If something hits the wall, 490 00:20:57,560 --> 00:20:58,320 Speaker 3: you'll be the blame. 491 00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:00,920 Speaker 2: I actually reckon you fuck can take a step back, 492 00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,040 Speaker 2: you put your hands up and go Let you guys 493 00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:04,360 Speaker 2: figure it out, because. 494 00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:07,760 Speaker 1: No, you need to first say you tell Bob about 495 00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:09,240 Speaker 1: the cheating, or I fucking will. 496 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 2: No, I don't think you have anything to do. I 497 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:14,040 Speaker 2: know it's so hard, but you fucking bite your tongue, Babe. 498 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:16,280 Speaker 2: You say fucking nothing, because it's going to bite you 499 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:17,080 Speaker 2: back in a babe. 500 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:19,320 Speaker 1: No, feelings and stuff exactly. 501 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:22,960 Speaker 3: But a man, they're still mad, they're hurting one another, 502 00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:24,359 Speaker 3: and you are going to be to blame. 503 00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:29,359 Speaker 1: I personally think that you need to say, Hey, I 504 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:32,600 Speaker 1: think you should be open with Bob about this. She's 505 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: already got that in the back of her head that 506 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:35,680 Speaker 1: this guy he might not be the guy because he 507 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:38,119 Speaker 1: didn't want her to take that opportunity in Sydney. I 508 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:40,240 Speaker 1: think that you need to be honest with your partner 509 00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:42,200 Speaker 1: if you've cheated, and if you can move forward, great, 510 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 1: If you can't, don't. 511 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:45,639 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you say like Mary, like, I support you. 512 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 2: I think you should tell Bob, But I don't think 513 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:50,240 Speaker 2: you should tell Mary that Bob's got a job up. 514 00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:52,320 Speaker 1: No, well maybe not, but you need to tell Mary 515 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:54,359 Speaker 1: to tell her so then Bob doesn't go to Sydney, 516 00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:56,240 Speaker 1: and Bob can make the decision on his own whether 517 00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 1: he wants to move his life to Sydney for a 518 00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 1: girl that cheated on him. Oh he doesn't. 519 00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:02,680 Speaker 2: I just think you can try your best to stay 520 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:04,080 Speaker 2: out of it as much as possible because it. 521 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:05,240 Speaker 3: Will backfire you on you. 522 00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:07,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, try because they want someone to blame, and I'm 523 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:09,600 Speaker 2: so sorry you'll be that chick to blame and then 524 00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:10,720 Speaker 2: it will just blow up even more. 525 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:15,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think the first step one is Mary 526 00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:18,240 Speaker 1: needs to help Bob. She cheated on him, yeap, which 527 00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:21,440 Speaker 1: I can't even imagine having a conversation like that, But 528 00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:25,600 Speaker 1: that's her fault. She needs to do it. Good luck 529 00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: Mary and Bob. I'd actually really love to know how 530 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 1: this turns out, so if you can please update me, 531 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:31,720 Speaker 1: that'd be great. 532 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:36,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, please send me the update, all right? 533 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:41,680 Speaker 1: The last dilemma. Hey, girls, big fan of the pod, 534 00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:45,760 Speaker 1: You're my safe space when I'm spiraling, so I'm really 535 00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:47,560 Speaker 1: hoping you can help me with something I just can't 536 00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:50,399 Speaker 1: figure out on my own. I've been stuck in this 537 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:53,240 Speaker 1: on and off thing with my ex for about five 538 00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:55,680 Speaker 1: months now, and honestly, it's been one of the most 539 00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:59,080 Speaker 1: painful experiences I've ever had. He broke my trust this 540 00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,520 Speaker 1: earlier this year. It wasn't full blown cheating, but it 541 00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,119 Speaker 1: was enough to really shatter me. I stayed for a bit, 542 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 1: hoping things would get better, but the effort just wasn't 543 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:09,679 Speaker 1: there on his end, so we ended things. Since then, 544 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:12,359 Speaker 1: we've still been in contact, We've been kept sleeping together, 545 00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:14,200 Speaker 1: and he's always telling me how much he loves me 546 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:16,960 Speaker 1: and wants to get back together. Here's where I'm stuck. 547 00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,000 Speaker 1: I keep saying no, but the second he tries to 548 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:21,920 Speaker 1: move on or see someone else, I panic and start 549 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,840 Speaker 1: to backtrack. I don't even know of I believe we 550 00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 1: could work again, but the thought of losing him feels 551 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:30,119 Speaker 1: completely unbearable. We had such a strong connection and a 552 00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 1: great relationship before things got messy. He just had some 553 00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:35,440 Speaker 1: really unhealthy habits that made me feel like I was 554 00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:38,399 Speaker 1: in a priority. Now he's made some changes though he 555 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:40,560 Speaker 1: has a solid job, doesn't party like he used to, 556 00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:43,520 Speaker 1: and seems more grounded. But still a part of me 557 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,880 Speaker 1: is scared to go back and scared to let go completely. 558 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:48,760 Speaker 1: I've got a lot going for me right now. I 559 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:51,440 Speaker 1: know I deserve something stable and safe, but I just 560 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,480 Speaker 1: can't shake the feeling that there's something missing when he's 561 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:55,800 Speaker 1: not in my life. He thinks I'm stringing him along 562 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:57,480 Speaker 1: while I figure things out, but the truth is I 563 00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:00,080 Speaker 1: just feel completely lost. Any advice to you, girls and 564 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:01,320 Speaker 1: give I'm truly stuck. 565 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:02,960 Speaker 2: I think you need to give it one more go 566 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,160 Speaker 2: and figure it out yourself, because if you walk away, 567 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:10,840 Speaker 2: you'll still wonder what if and if you stay, you'll 568 00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 2: figure that out yourself. It might be two months, it 569 00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 2: might be the rest of your life, but you haven't 570 00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:17,480 Speaker 2: figured that out yet, so you need to figure that 571 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:18,160 Speaker 2: out yourself. 572 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I just think you go heads first and 573 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 1: head first and see how you go. Like, try it 574 00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:28,040 Speaker 1: again with this guy, you think. Yeah, I've never been 575 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:30,680 Speaker 1: in a situation like this, so I don't know, but 576 00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:32,399 Speaker 1: I will take time advice. 577 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:37,920 Speaker 3: Get your notes up, babe, and I have a message 578 00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:40,160 Speaker 3: in from church ept that you can use. 579 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:44,119 Speaker 1: I want to get it out to you. Adding yourself 580 00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 1: in every aspect right now. Yeah, well, as in you 581 00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:49,840 Speaker 1: think to just try one more time with the guy 582 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,440 Speaker 1: and if not, yeah, send that. Is that what you're saying. 583 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:56,159 Speaker 2: I think, because you have hesitations, you should send this, 584 00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:58,960 Speaker 2: see what he replies is and then go from there. 585 00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:01,240 Speaker 3: Okay, you say he loves you and he wants to 586 00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:02,960 Speaker 3: be better, but this is. 587 00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:05,560 Speaker 1: What you so we're based. Don't read it out? Oh 588 00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:08,480 Speaker 1: why not? Because I think you need to send it 589 00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:10,960 Speaker 1: to her privately because then she can use it. Okay, Yeah, 590 00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:12,960 Speaker 1: message me and I can message me say hey, I'm 591 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,320 Speaker 1: the girl from the last dilemma. Yeah, can you please 592 00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,359 Speaker 1: send me that message. I was gonna read it for 593 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:19,280 Speaker 1: anybody else who needed to just send it to their X. 594 00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:22,159 Speaker 1: But you could just message me. But then it's like 595 00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,680 Speaker 1: they can't really use it because then the ex is like, 596 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:26,720 Speaker 1: you just got that straight from just for girls. 597 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,560 Speaker 2: You don't even care, okay, And then I'd be like, okay, 598 00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:31,560 Speaker 2: well you're listening just for girls, why aren't you treating 599 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,760 Speaker 2: me better? Take you just out of yourself that you 600 00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:36,040 Speaker 2: listen to the girls and you still don't know how 601 00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:36,639 Speaker 2: to treat you right. 602 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:38,920 Speaker 1: If you need a message like that to get your ex, 603 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,120 Speaker 1: and maybe you're on your last leg and you want 604 00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:42,879 Speaker 1: to give them one last chance and you want to 605 00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:47,119 Speaker 1: start prioritizing, you message Sam, Yeah, and she'll send you 606 00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:50,760 Speaker 1: this message to send them. Yeah, go to give chat JBT. Yeah. 607 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:54,840 Speaker 1: I actually my mum is a Chat JBT fanatic, like 608 00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:58,920 Speaker 1: actually thinks it's her new spiritual guide. I love you, mom, 609 00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:00,879 Speaker 1: I love you more than anything. But it's worrying. 610 00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:01,720 Speaker 2: You know. 611 00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:03,280 Speaker 3: It's actually really bad for the earth. 612 00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:05,720 Speaker 2: Like it's like really really bad for the earth because 613 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,240 Speaker 2: every single time you put something into chat GPT uses 614 00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:11,119 Speaker 2: a cup of water to keep the computers that are 615 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 2: running it to cool it down, so it's like fucking waste. 616 00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:16,480 Speaker 1: I can't even begin to imagine what our world's gonna 617 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,840 Speaker 1: look like in fucking fifty I don't want to. I 618 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,080 Speaker 1: think there will be life sized robots you can buy 619 00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,960 Speaker 1: one day that I have AI to like communicate with you. 620 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:30,200 Speaker 1: You've got to break up message from AI. They're pretty good. 621 00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:32,719 Speaker 3: I got I didn't get one. 622 00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:36,480 Speaker 1: I sent one, as in, you got the message from 623 00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:40,120 Speaker 1: chat GBT. Yeah, yeah, fuck, we're relying on that bad 624 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:41,400 Speaker 1: boy way too much these days. 625 00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:44,840 Speaker 3: Well, it just like speaks everything that I want to say, 626 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:46,880 Speaker 3: and like puts it in a very literal way. 627 00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 1: So why wouldn't you want to date a chat GBT robot? 628 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:52,080 Speaker 3: Well, I am right now, fucking hell on my phone 629 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:55,720 Speaker 3: literally could out my whole. 630 00:26:55,560 --> 00:27:02,720 Speaker 1: Life something for you to think about. AI fucking terror alright, guys, Puck, 631 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:04,000 Speaker 1: that was a lot of t unpack. 632 00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:05,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, message me. 633 00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,280 Speaker 1: I can send it to you, all right, Guys, we 634 00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:08,920 Speaker 1: love you and we will speak to you next week.