WEBVTT - "He Used 6 Condoms In One Session" || HOTLINE 0:00:05.840 --> 0:00:07.400 Welcome back to the Where's Your Head At? 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:10.360 Hotline, our weekly show where we catch up with each 0:00:10.360 --> 0:00:13.600 other and connect with you all on our hotline voicemail. 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:15.600 We want to hear from you, guys, so please send 0:00:15.640 --> 0:00:18.840 your stories, questions, advice or tea So Where's your Head 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:21.560 at pod at gmail dot com to be featured on 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:23.840 one of our episodes. I'm Anna and I'm Matt. 0:00:24.239 --> 0:00:33.000 Let's jump in. Hello everyone, Hello Matthew. 0:00:32.720 --> 0:00:35.760 Hello Anna. What's going on? And something exciting I feels 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:36.559 in the air today. 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:38.360 It is a huge day for us. 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:42.000 I was awake at five am because, as you know, 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:45.199 today we drop our merch. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:49.960 How good is this? Anna? I'm going to say, look, 0:00:50.520 --> 0:00:53.040 I'm not sexually attracted to you, but in that top 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:57.560 you are doing some things. It looks unreal. Have a 0:00:57.560 --> 0:00:59.720 look at it. This is the this is the gray 0:00:59.760 --> 0:01:01.400 one that we're both running at the moment. 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:04.280 It was twinning this morning. I know we didn't know 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:04.839 which one. 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:07.240 I thought Matt might have chosen the black, so I 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:09.200 was like, I'll go to the opposing I'll go the 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:09.960 gray mile. 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:12.280 But we've both rolled. 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:15.080 In looking at like twins, which I'm not mad about. 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:18.800 How excited are you? To be dropping merch? Is this crazy? 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:21.120 I know, it's been a long time in the making. 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:23.679 We've been going back and forth on this for ages 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:26.800 we were coming and our ring. It's just been a 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:29.160 real process. But we've got there and now we're here 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:30.600 and we can't wait to share it with everyone. 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:33.760 Yeah, Like everyone's always saying to us, why haven't you 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:36.679 dropped merch? Like are you guys going to do merch? 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:40.720 And the real reason why we didn't drop merch earlier 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:44.600 is because we actually set ourselves some goals that we 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:48.560 had to accomplish before we felt like almost like we 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:51.440 were deserving to kind of sell merched. 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:51.880 Don't you reckon? 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:53.800 Yeah, well that was a conversation we had. We're like, 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:55.280 all right, well, we don't want to just come out, 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:58.600 you know, l like everyone else stars have a podcast 0:01:58.840 --> 0:01:59.880 and then just drop merch. 0:02:00.200 --> 0:02:01.160 Don't throw shame. 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:03.280 I was throwing shade. I'm not throwing shape. But it's 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:05.640 what a lot of podcasts do. They start a podcasting, 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:07.280 let's sell merch straight away, you know what I mean? 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:10.640 Like it's hot. We're like, no, let's set some goals 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:13.120 for us that we can do then, so we do it. 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:14.800 So what were some of those goals in okay. 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:16.880 So the first goal we set for ourselves as we 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:19.800 wanted to hit a million listens, which, to be honest, 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:21.840 when we set that goal, we didn't know if that 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:25.839 was an achievable goal, Like that seemed like a bit 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:26.520 far fetch. 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:27.440 I'm not gonna lie. 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:29.799 No, I did I think a lot. As I read 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:31.639 back on the goals that we have here that we wrote, 0:02:31.720 --> 0:02:34.400 I think a lot of them. I was like, hah, 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:36.120 all right, let's do this, Let's see how we go. 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:37.480 But we got them all done. 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:39.480 Like we were like, reach for the stars, let's make 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:41.840 them big ones. So the next one we did is 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:44.079 was just really simple. We wanted to have the podcast 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:47.440 for at least a year. We ticked that box. Our podcast, 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:49.520 they feel like has just kept growing, like we did 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:53.880 two episodes a week now, so a year done. Next 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:55.600 one was we wanted to do a live show. 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:56.320 Done. 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:58.760 A lot of our team we're like, oh, you should. 0:02:58.480 --> 0:03:00.720 Do merch for the live show, but we were like, no, 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:02.680 we want to just like see see if. 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:03.320 We're good. 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:07.400 Selling tickets first, let's. 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:09.360 Get able to come to the show. Let's try and 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:13.200 do our best, let's not fuck it up and we'll. 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:14.040 Do that, I know. 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.000 Another one was get over a million views on a 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:17.200 TikTok oh. 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:19.560 Yeah, and we did that at the end of last year. 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:22.040 Yeah, so that was one, and that was we were like, yes, 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:23.160 we've got ticked another box. 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:25.239 What did that TikTok get? 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:28.000 I think it's on six point one million views, which 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:29.520 is crazy, still moving. 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:30.960 And the last one was. 0:03:32.800 --> 0:03:35.200 Which you wouldn't believe that this was on the list 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:37.440 and was probably one of the hardest things that we 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:39.880 had to achieve, But it was just to not fight 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:42.520 for two months, to not bicker. 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:45.440 We've done well. Actually, we've done very well coming out 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:46.920 of that December month as well. 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:49.200 I mean we did have like a two week break, 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:51.680 so it made it mildly easier to not fight for 0:03:51.720 --> 0:03:57.160 two months, but we did it nonetheless. So we have 0:03:57.320 --> 0:04:02.120 merch guys that we have three pieces that we're starting with. 0:04:02.320 --> 0:04:05.360 So we have the gray mild tea that. 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:10.839 Says Wyha and then Est twenty and twenty one. 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:14.880 I personally love this this color gray. Literally, I reckon 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:17.520 it's my favorite color shirt. It's like that real like 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:20.719 vintage sort of look. It looks like like what we're 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:21.000 going for. 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:22.839 The college tea sort of college style. 0:04:23.160 --> 0:04:25.640 Yeah, because I love my vintage teas. We know that, 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:30.520 and this one will fit handsomely into my wardrobe, into 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:31.080 my collection. 0:04:31.360 --> 0:04:34.160 Now we have the black tea it says where's your 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:38.080 header esty twenty one because we started the podcast in 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:40.880 twenty twenty one. And then we have a tote because 0:04:41.040 --> 0:04:43.240 I just feel like we love a tote. 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:45.160 We both use them. 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:48.800 I can see myself walking down to South Melbourne Market 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:52.080 getting all my fresh products, fresh fruit, fresh. 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:54.440 Vegetables, seeing fresh fresh produce. 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:56.520 My fresh produce with this or my fresh fruit, my 0:04:56.560 --> 0:04:59.799 fresh vegetables, putting it into my tope bag, and walking home. 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:01.520 We're hipstars, very hell. 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:05.039 As you walk into our house, we have these hooks 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:07.720 and they've got tope bags hanging there. So we've got like, 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:11.120 I think, country road one. I can't like a moa one. 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:13.000 And then I got one from Taco Bill when I 0:05:13.040 --> 0:05:15.159 went there and had a big night there. They gave 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:17.080 me one for some reason. So I've got that hanging there, 0:05:17.120 --> 0:05:18.960 and then this one will fit perfectly on that rack. 0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:20.320 Or do we just clear the shelf? 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:25.080 Where's your head? So you grab them as you go shopping? Yeah? 0:05:25.080 --> 0:05:27.680 Well, anyway, guys, we really hope that you love the merch. 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:30.440 We spent a lot of time designing it, back and forth. 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:32.800 We nearly had arguments on designing it. 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:35.440 So know, Matt and I sometimes don't see eye So 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:37.760 for us to pick three products that we both love, 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:39.720 we hope that you guys love them. 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:41.640 Too as much as we do. And for our first 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:44.000 hundred customers, we have a little surprise in there, don't 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:47.200 we know we do well. I love being sentimental. We 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:49.960 know that my gifts are sentimental, so I thought it'd 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:52.279 be nice for us to do a little sentimental gift. 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:55.719 So I've printed off a photo of Anna and myself 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:57.719 and we will give you a personal message on the back. 0:05:58.040 --> 0:06:00.800 Very HiPE Matt. And speaking of sentiment, you know how 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:01.640 at the end. 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:05.560 Of last year, I gave you your Birthday present like 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:08.839 six to eight months late, probably more like eight months, 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:11.320 but that's okay, And then you ended up giving me 0:06:11.360 --> 0:06:15.520 a little Christmas present. Well, since you're so sentimental, I 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:19.880 found I reckon the most sentimental gift that you could 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:20.520 ever receive. 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:23.080 Oh my head's sticking over. 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:25.880 I guess, like, what's something that you love more than 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:26.839 anything in the world? 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:33.600 Coffee? And I got you a thank you. I don't 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:34.359 know you tell me. 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:36.080 Okay, close your eyes. 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.839 Oh no, I'm actually so excited to give that this 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:42.000 gift open. 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:42.640 Don't put my hand out. 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:49.320 Oh yeah, do not explain what it is. 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:52.800 So Anna has got me, which is very cute and 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:56.240 very funny, but I've got story behind this, very sentimental. 0:06:56.360 --> 0:06:59.880 She's got me my own little sausage dogs. Where do 0:06:59.880 --> 0:07:00.520 you find this? 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:02.640 It was in a little gift shop and there was 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:04.840 this like girling guy. It was the last one. There 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:05.960 was this girling guy. 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:08.360 Being like, this is so cute. This person would like it, 0:07:08.360 --> 0:07:10.640 and I was like, do not buy that. I was 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:12.240 like had my eyes glued to it. 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:15.280 And they put it down and I literally snatched it 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:17.440 up and went straight to the counter. It's like a 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:19.760 little sausage dog, and it's like stretchy. It's kind of 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:20.560 like a stress ball. 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:22.440 It's like a stressful Yeah, it's the same stress ball. 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:24.600 Well yeah, and I feel like you've had quite a 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:27.840 stressful couple of months, and I'm like, let's get mad 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:31.239 a stress ball in the form of a sausage dog. 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:32.440 What better gift? 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:35.080 Thank you? I've got to be honest with you now, 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:38.000 Oh god, what Jenny and I have one of these. 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:43.680 So I've got so but but yes, so've We've got 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:46.960 a brown one and this blonde one, and there are 0:07:47.160 --> 0:07:50.040 so like we want a brown sausage dog called Ready 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:52.920 and a blonde one called Sage. Yeah, but she gets 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:54.800 to keep Sage, so this will be my Sage that 0:07:54.880 --> 0:07:57.720 I keep. So I'll keep this on my bedside tape. 0:07:57.800 --> 0:07:59.800 So I'm like sitting here thinking I've just got that 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:01.000 best gift ever. 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:01.960 And he has it. 0:08:02.000 --> 0:08:05.000 Well, we found him in Hamilton Island, in a gift 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:08.160 shop in Hamilton Island. Yeah, random matts. So that's that's 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:09.960 very cute, very thoughtful. Give you a hug. I don't 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:16.280 think I wasn't expecting that. 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:18.280 I didn't give you a proper hug because I didn't 0:08:18.280 --> 0:08:19.679 want to get makeup on your merch. 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.480 I was like, I want that to look Christine. 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:24.480 For the video, thank you, Thank you for that. Anna. 0:08:24.600 --> 0:08:27.000 I yeah, I really appreciate that. That will go on my 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:27.840 bedside table. 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:28.640 That's all good. 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:30.760 Well, look, guys, there is a link in our description 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:32.480 if you'd like to get the merch and let's get 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:33.840 into today's hotline. 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:36.960 Hello, you've reached Anna and Nutt. 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:39.000 We can't get to the phone right now, but. 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:42.199 Please leave us a message on our hotline after the beep. 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:43.920 Okay, Matt. 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:47.040 So, this week we had a bunch of absolute gold 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:49.800 in our voicemail, and our producer Alex has chosen a 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:50.920 few for us to listen to. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:53.440 Okay, So, the first one comes from Harry. 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:57.080 I guess I didn't tell you, guys, but I think 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:00.000 your podcast is one of the best podcasts I've ever done. 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:01.880 This is good questions. 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:05.439 How good you guys bounce off each other, like. 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:07.719 Genuinely, like. 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:13.880 You guys had really really good questions And I felt 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:17.320 I left that podcast really really good. So if no 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:19.120 one's told you you guys that, I think you guys 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:20.120 should be really proud of yourselves. 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:25.199 And you got something something special. That's really sweet of him. 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:27.000 Man, doesn't that warm your heart? 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:28.360 Does? Are you tearing up? 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:28.920 No? 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:32.040 No? Yeah, that's really nice of him because obviously he 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:34.520 has his own podcast. We know that he does the Rounds, 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:35.959 he goes on a lot of podcasts, a lot of 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:38.920 radio shows. For him to say that that's really nice, 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:43.800 that's really sweet and just shows and gives us that confidence, yeah, 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:45.920 and recognition for something that we've done. And I really 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:46.480 like to hear that. 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:48.960 Yeah, that was really sweet. He didn't have to do that. 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:50.880 As you said, He's been on a lot of podcasts 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:53.120 and has been interviewed by a lot of people around 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:55.959 the world, so for him to kind of like make 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.840 a comment like that about our podcast, I mean, I'm 0:09:59.880 --> 0:10:01.040 just like very proud of us. 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:03.080 So yeah, it's a. 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:07.240 Very like heartwarming, like start to the day selling Mesh. 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:10.439 We got we got the nice little compliment from. 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:13.120 Harry, and we're about to hear what the other people 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:15.400 have in the hot line, so hopefully they don't lower 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:17.880 their tone. This one comes from Victoria. 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:20.280 Okay, hey guys, I'm Victoria. 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:23.240 I went on a date with this guy last year 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:27.320 and he was just not it, you know. So I 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:29.880 met up with him and he was kind of worse 0:10:29.920 --> 0:10:32.520 than his pictures, Like his pictures were like a five 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:33.800 and then he. 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:34.880 Was like a four. 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:38.800 Anyway, we were talking and I felt like. 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:43.000 An interview and he knew, like I told him that 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:45.880 I had ADHD and he was like, oh, yeah, I've 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:48.960 got a stepsister like that, so I know all about it. 0:10:49.600 --> 0:10:51.960 And then he turned around and said, I don't see 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:56.080 ADHD as a disability now, I have ADHD and I 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:59.120 work in a support so like I know all about it, 0:10:59.200 --> 0:10:59.400 you know. 0:10:59.800 --> 0:11:03.079 And anyways, I was like okay. Then we were talking. 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:04.880 He turned around and asked with his like, so, what 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:06.040 do you like when you're frustrated? 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:08.040 And I was like, well, tind of a question is that? 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:09.800 I what do you mean? And he goes, I just 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:11.320 want to know what I'm getting myself into. 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:16.760 Talking some more and he's like, so would you do, 0:11:16.840 --> 0:11:20.520 like any heavy work and I was like, yeah, Like 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.360 what do you mean. He goes pick up a shovel 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:23.640 and he's like I was like yeah, and he goes, 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:25.200 I just noticed that get nails done. 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:28.920 Oh I haven't broken now as well. I was like, needing. 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:32.080 I was getting my nails done the next day. I 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:34.720 don't need to have my nails done to not do 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:35.640 heavy work. 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:36.720 You know, or pick up a shovel. 0:11:36.720 --> 0:11:40.360 As he said, Anyways, we're talking some more and he 0:11:40.480 --> 0:11:41.720 I was like, oh, yeah, so what did you do 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:44.160 after high school? I noticed that you like, we're in 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:46.720 the army and he's like, oh, yeah, I was in 0:11:46.760 --> 0:11:48.280 the army for a year. And I was like, oh, 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:51.240 I have a mate whose fiancee at the time was 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:52.880 in the Navy and. 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:55.360 He goes, no, they're completely different. 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.920 I was like, I'm sorry, I'm not the one that's 0:11:58.000 --> 0:12:01.720 dating the guy Navy, Like I know one's a water 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:02.960 and one's a dot, but I don't know what the 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:03.640 difference was. 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:06.920 And then he said that he was in it for 0:12:07.040 --> 0:12:07.440 a year. 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:10.000 Now, that's a massive red flag if you're in the 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:11.000 Navy for a year. 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:14.040 And so I called my friend after and. 0:12:14.320 --> 0:12:17.160 She told him, and he said, you can only be 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:21.640 in the military for a minimum of four years. And 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:24.440 he goes, there's no way you could leave the military 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:29.360 after a year unless you've been psyched out or got 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:32.760 a criminal record, like there's no other way sort of thing. 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:35.000 I was like, oh shit, what a massive red flag, right, 0:12:35.040 --> 0:12:38.040 what is he not telling me? And then later on 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:40.640 we were talking about what we look. 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.760 For in people and all that, and I. 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:44.720 Said, oh, yeah, I look for honesty because in my 0:12:44.880 --> 0:12:49.880 last relationship situationship, the guy that broke up with me, 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:51.960 he told me that he wasn't ready for one for 0:12:52.000 --> 0:12:53.560 a couple of months and then he got with some 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:56.920 chip the next day, so that was great. So I said, oh, yeah, 0:12:56.960 --> 0:13:01.000 me too, like I like honesty too, And then he's like, well, 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:05.400 I'm honest because I'm a dick, and you're honest because 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:06.199 you can't help it. 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:08.240 And I'm like, well thanks. 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.679 And it turns out it was his first Tinder date 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:14.199 or first day in general, because he had a lassical X. 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:18.600 We were talking about communication and he would only message 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:22.400 me in twenty minute increment sort of thing, and he 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:24.600 was like, oh, yeah, I'm not on my phone a 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:27.280 lot sort of thing. He goes like, I'd see your message, 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:30.200 but like I would just reply to it later. 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:30.760 And all that. 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:33.640 And I was like, well, if you really like someone, 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:36.320 you make the time to message them, you know. 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:39.840 So then after the date, I like said thank you 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:43.280 for the day and then blocked him because like, I'm 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:44.960 not wasting my time on that. 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:46.600 It's just not worth it. 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:51.240 Okay, So first of all, a. 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:53.160 Lot there is a lot to unpack the. 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:56.040 Yes, Victoria Vicky. There is a lot of red flags 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:58.520 with this guy. He could have just like, can't you 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:02.760 design the army as well? You like ditch who knows? 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:06.840 But that was just so much like I had heaps 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:09.080 of shit to say after the first point she made, 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:11.719 never mind ten points later. I mean, there's a lot 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:14.959 of red flags with this guy. Why is he saying like, Oh, 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:17.120 I don't see ADHD as a disability. 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:18.840 That's a weird thing to say. 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:22.800 Sounds very ignorant, Yeah, very stupid. 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:26.120 And like like I feel like I need to re listen. Yeah, 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:31.480 to like listen, we need to real listen. Okay. 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:37.000 So firstly she's she's given this guy a five out 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:41.840 of just from pictures, but then the guy the poor 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:47.000 guys have rocked half and she's like, nah, he's a four. Okay, 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:50.640 there's obviously nothing worse than going on a first day 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.960 and someone's interviewing me. I mean, the guy kind of 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:55.400 sounds a little bit. 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:57.720 Like a no it all. What did she say that? 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:00.480 She was like, oh, I have eighty HG and has 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:03.000 kind of like opened up to him about that. And 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:05.320 then his first response is, oh, I know everything about 0:15:05.360 --> 0:15:06.880 that because when my step say start, it's. 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:08.880 Like no, no, you're not the one living with it 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:09.360 every day. 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:12.760 And also like everyone's different, Like one person's experience is 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:14.680 not the same as like someone else's. 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:17.880 I don't like think that you know me because you don't, 0:15:19.240 --> 0:15:19.840 you know what I mean. 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:22.080 Yeah, he does sound like a know it all, know 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:24.120 it all, and that's a turn off. As well. Isn't 0:15:24.120 --> 0:15:25.280 it when you go on a date with someone in 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:26.960 there and know it all? They're like, oh, I know this, 0:15:27.040 --> 0:15:28.200 and then they start you know what I mean? 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:31.320 Like, like, I think it's a worse combination, like an 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:35.280 interview style interview mixed with a know it all attitude, 0:15:35.360 --> 0:15:39.760 Like that has to be the worst first date kind 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:41.480 of little mix there is. 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:43.400 To be fair, I would have already called them in 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:45.080 on this date if I was Vicky by now, I. 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:47.200 Reckon absolutely Okay, let's hear more. 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:50.480 I think a lot of my exes would have saved 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:52.480 themselves a lot of time if they'd ask me that 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:55.960 on the first day. Yeah, what do you like when 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:59.600 you're frustrated? I get fucking frustrated and really irritable. 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:02.880 I'm a fucking nightmare, nightmare to deal with. 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:05.800 It's just such a stupid question to ask someone like 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:07.680 on a first day, on a first day, like who 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:11.320 is going to be? Like I'm an absolute nightmare run like, 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:12.360 you know what I mean? 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:14.360 Like, you have to get to know people. 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:18.400 And also in saying that, I feel like different personalities 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:23.040 affect how you are in you know, conflict situations. For instance, 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.960 me with my ex boyfriend, you could probably classify me 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:30.400 as a nightmare. Me with Michael, I'm pretty understanding. I'm 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:34.120 pretty level headed. I definitely don't bite it at him. 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:37.000 I'm very like cool, come conflected, I think things through. 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:40.440 I don't really yell. So like different people are different. 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:43.440 To say that, with my ex, it was like we 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:45.600 were both just two ones that would just go at 0:16:45.600 --> 0:16:48.200 it and like it would be no if we're frustrated, 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:51.000 there was no no resolution to the conflict. We'd just 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:53.840 go going at it NonStop. Yeah, it just depends who 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:54.600 you're with, I guess. 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:56.280 So it's a weird question to ask. 0:16:56.600 --> 0:16:58.720 It sounds like this guy would be the worst guy 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:01.120 to have it be frustrated with. He sounds like he 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:02.280 would be you know it all and. 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:05.760 You know what, it sounds like. It sounds like he's 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:08.560 not a very level headed guy. So he's like trying 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:11.280 to check her frustration levels to see if she can 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:11.880 deal with him. 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:15.359 Maybe maybe if we listen, well then give it to him. 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:19.920 That's pretty smart. Okay, So if a guy asked you Anna, 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:22.040 if you do any heavy lifting, I would. 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:27.199 Say absolutely not. Go fuck yourself. What type of question 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:28.400 is that on a first date? 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:30.639 Would you do any heavy work, And it's almost as 0:17:30.680 --> 0:17:33.440