Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Where's Your Head At? Hotline, our
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Speaker 2: one of our episodes. I'm Anna and I'm Matt.
Speaker 1: Let's jump in.
Speaker 2: Good morning, Good morning, Anna. Freezing morning, but we're here
Speaker 2: with our coffees warming up.
Speaker 1: You know that we got down to zero degrees this
Speaker 1: morning in Melbourne, really crazy.
Speaker 2: A sheet on. Did you I run hot?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you must run very hot. I'm in three layers
Speaker 1: this morning.
Speaker 2: I'm that cold compared to my one T shirt.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know. I don't know how you do it. Actually,
Speaker 1: I was driving to the podcast this morning and I
Speaker 1: saw this girl and she's wearing shorts, and I was like,
Speaker 1: you are in the wrong country, Like we are not
Speaker 1: in Queensland.
Speaker 2: I saw a guy on the weekend. Actually it was
Speaker 2: in the cold morning, and he had shorts and a
Speaker 2: T shirt on, and I thought the exact same thing.
Speaker 2: I was like, man, you're lost. And he wasn't even
Speaker 2: like doing like a run or anything. He was literally
Speaker 2: just on like a walk to get like a paper.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I was like, jeez, I mean if you do
Speaker 1: go on a run like you do, tend to warm up.
Speaker 1: But still I feel like, well.
Speaker 2: I've been doing cold showers in the morning, so I
Speaker 2: run my hot shower and then at the end, I
Speaker 2: have like a stand in a cold shower. So I
Speaker 2: think that like maybe my body's like, you can't get
Speaker 2: colder than you were an hour ago, Like it's yeah,
Speaker 2: the whole day, my body's trying to heat itself up.
Speaker 2: So maybe that's why.
Speaker 1: Do you know? What I realized is that I'm really
Speaker 1: good at having cold showers in summer, but when it
Speaker 1: gets to winter and it's freezing outside, the last thing
Speaker 1: I want to do is be having a cold shower
Speaker 1: because it really takes a lot to warm art.
Speaker 2: That's the that's the thing, so you have to like
Speaker 2: get through. That's what I've been really struggling with. So
Speaker 2: I just turn the cold up real hot, and the
Speaker 2: first thing, I just put my stuff around me and
Speaker 2: I run in and get like as warm as I
Speaker 2: came quickly. It's hard. I want to clean out one
Speaker 2: of my my recycling bins at home, like wash it
Speaker 2: out with cold water, go for a run around, and
Speaker 2: then pick up a bag of ice, walk back home,
Speaker 2: put it in the bin so it's full of water,
Speaker 2: and then have like an ice bath in there.
Speaker 1: But when it's dirty, clean clean at first.
Speaker 2: But I haven't got around to cleaning it, so I
Speaker 2: haven't done that yet.
Speaker 1: I thought you meant in the process of cleaning it, they.
Speaker 2: Definitely clean it out first, because I think that like
Speaker 2: I can't fit in my bath. I'm fucking huge, so
Speaker 2: I don't fit in the bath, so I need to
Speaker 2: get like a big bin and then I can just
Speaker 2: like crouch in it and all the ice and I'll
Speaker 2: be real good. So let you know how I go. Actually,
Speaker 2: I'll just do that now that I've now that I'm
Speaker 2: held accountable and talking about it, I have to do it,
Speaker 2: so I will.
Speaker 1: This actually reminds me of what I want to buy
Speaker 1: Michael for his birthday, because Michael is like a health fiend.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I've been spoken about this to
Speaker 1: you guys, but he is like so big on health.
Speaker 1: He loves running, he loves eating healthy, which is great
Speaker 1: because it has encourage you. It encourages me. Heaves like
Speaker 1: I'm you know, I can be quite influenced to eat
Speaker 1: like you know, chili fries, pizza, like all of the
Speaker 1: bad stuff, but the good stuff, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But yeah, Michael's a health fi and so I was
Speaker 1: thinking for his birthday. I was actually looking them up
Speaker 1: last night. So it's funny that you say this. I
Speaker 1: was thinking of buying him like these little baths and
Speaker 1: then you can put like the ice in cold water
Speaker 1: in it. They're like three hundred and fifty dollars.
Speaker 2: You can make it. So what people are doing now
Speaker 2: is I looked into the exact same thing. You get
Speaker 2: an old chest freezer, so you buy it our Facebook
Speaker 2: marketplace for gum track the face and then you seal
Speaker 2: it up with like some cealant, and then you put
Speaker 2: like a thing in there, so you've got like a
Speaker 2: suction and like a pool pump sort of thing. Because
Speaker 2: I don't know what I'm doing, I could do it,
Speaker 2: and you have your own like ice bath that constantly
Speaker 2: filters the water. I was thinking about doing the same thing,
Speaker 2: so might I might make one for Michael.
Speaker 1: Then Matt's going again to give the best.
Speaker 2: Or you can buy your mind will be you come
Speaker 2: from the heart. I would have made it from scratch,
Speaker 2: almost put a lot of love work into it.
Speaker 1: Well it's of love. Yeah, Well, I mean three hundred
Speaker 1: and fifty dollars isn't the worst. It's kind of like
Speaker 1: a little like a paddling pool, but like for an adult, is.
Speaker 2: It the same thing what I'm talking about, Like, sorry
Speaker 2: sort of thing? I think. So, so you switch it
Speaker 2: on and what happens is I saw this guy do
Speaker 2: it on our Instagram or TikTok, and it freezes over
Speaker 2: the top, So it doesn't freeze all the water, just
Speaker 2: the layer of ice on the top freezers. And then
Speaker 2: before you go and you smash it.
Speaker 1: I'm getting cold just thinking about this. I think this
Speaker 1: one that I'm talking about, it actually gives you like
Speaker 1: a tray that you can put in any freezer. Then
Speaker 1: you put the ice into the water and it like
Speaker 1: freezes it up. But anyway, we digress, we digress.
Speaker 2: How was your weekend?
Speaker 1: It was good and we went house hunting because I
Speaker 1: just think I've like come to terms with the fact
Speaker 1: that like everything that I like is not in my budget.
Speaker 2: Have you done your pre approval?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, we've we hit up the bank, did
Speaker 1: all that fun stuff. But yeah, no, we've been looking
Speaker 1: kind of all over our house. Is it's been fun. Actually,
Speaker 1: my parents joined us and Michael's parents joined us, so
Speaker 1: there was like six of us going into like these
Speaker 1: open in sections. It was actually really cute. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: like seeing our parents get along is just so sweet.
Speaker 1: Like Michael and I were like on cloud nine and
Speaker 1: they were kind of like, I mean I think I
Speaker 1: enjoyed it, but like we were really enjoying it. So yeah,
Speaker 1: it's really nice that they get along. But all weekend,
Speaker 1: I've been having the craziest symptoms, like what just like, okay,
Speaker 1: so yesterday I had a smoke salmon bagel. You know
Speaker 1: how much I love my bagels. I just I hated it.
Speaker 1: And then last night I was like, okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: make us cause like Sunday night, you know, we have
Speaker 1: all of our like cheap meals before like Monday, right,
Speaker 1: So I was like, I'm gonna make my like, you know,
Speaker 1: a metric kind of pasta that Michael and I love
Speaker 1: with some garlic bread. Hated it just did not like it,
Speaker 1: like it had like a funny taste to it, and
Speaker 1: I was like, does it tastes sour to you? And
Speaker 1: Michael was like, no, it tastes unreal. And I was like,
Speaker 1: what is wrong with me? And then I was like, fuck,
Speaker 1: I've either got COVID or I'm pregnant.
Speaker 2: Both depends how you look at it.
Speaker 1: So last night I did a COVID test and it
Speaker 1: was negative. So then this morning, on the way to
Speaker 1: the podcast, I took myself to Colds and I got
Speaker 1: a pregnancy test and I did it just cle it,
Speaker 1: called it have it test mad.
Speaker 2: Pregnant, No, congrats, not pregnant. There you go, I did.
Speaker 1: I did so yeah. I mean, I don't know why
Speaker 1: I always think I'm pregnant, thinking it's not wish for
Speaker 1: thinking my food literally tasted disgusting, like I have a
Speaker 1: food a version, which is a sign of either COVID
Speaker 1: or pregnancy unless there's another reason for it. If there is, guys,
Speaker 1: feel free to tell me on our Facebook page. But
Speaker 1: I don't know why, Like I just think maybe me
Speaker 1: not being on like a form of contraception, even though
Speaker 1: I love it and I feel like I know my
Speaker 1: body so well now, I feel like every month I'm
Speaker 1: like traking you in your.
Speaker 2: Own getting stressed out every time. There's some sort of
Speaker 2: symptom about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then I've got my mum being like, don't
Speaker 1: get pregnant before the wedding. You're gonna have like a
Speaker 1: two month old at the wedding. That's gonna be fucked.
Speaker 2: It's pretty cute.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but how am I supposed to take a child
Speaker 1: to Europe? True, that's just I mean, unless you want to, Like, no,
Speaker 1: I'll be.
Speaker 2: Busy, trust me, I'll be busy in Europe.
Speaker 1: But anyway, I'm not pregnant. Thank goodness.
Speaker 2: I've seen the thing. The clear blue says, she's not
Speaker 2: She's fine, she's now. For now, I'm not pregnant.
Speaker 1: I don't know why, Like why is my food taste?
Speaker 1: Like why is my taste buds taste? And I have
Speaker 1: a metallic taste in my mouth and the last time
Speaker 1: I had that. Maybe I do have COVID. Maybe I'm
Speaker 1: early stages and you're about to get it too. WI.
Speaker 2: Actually I've had a crook. I've had some crook stomach
Speaker 2: issues as well. The last couple of the last couple
Speaker 2: of days have well I'm not going to put it
Speaker 2: in fully into detail, but I had can of baked beans.
Speaker 1: Say no more, Say no more?
Speaker 2: Very windy geez baked beans. There what it could for
Speaker 2: your heart? The more you eat, the more you fart.
Speaker 1: Just jesus, it really took it out. You had a
Speaker 1: whole can of them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just I sort of hated it up the
Speaker 2: whole can. I dumped it in. I was rushing and
Speaker 2: I couldn't be bothered like cooking something, so just put
Speaker 2: him in the microwave, and I hated it up the
Speaker 2: whole thing. And then I just ended up putting it
Speaker 2: on my toast and just smashed it.
Speaker 1: You know, some people love that, but that is probably
Speaker 1: one of the only things that I would not eat,
Speaker 1: like a can of baked beans.
Speaker 2: Really.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I just hate used to well, like this
Speaker 1: spaghetti with that red sauce, Like, oh, I hate that.
Speaker 2: I hate spaghetti because that was my ritual can spaghetti
Speaker 2: on toast before I played football every day for like
Speaker 2: ten years, so now I used By the end, I
Speaker 2: hated playing football, so so.
Speaker 1: Then you've associated it with the food.
Speaker 2: So I can't even look at that or try it.
Speaker 2: I was like, every time I smell it makes me
Speaker 2: feel sick.
Speaker 1: It's so funny how we associate like specific foods or
Speaker 1: smells with like places or times in our life, or music.
Speaker 2: Actually music.
Speaker 1: Sometimes in music, I have like ex boyfriends we would
Speaker 1: have songs together and the songs come on the radio
Speaker 1: and I'm like, next, it's not going to happen today.
Speaker 2: There was. I do smells as well, So I'm wearing
Speaker 2: this role on. It's this one that I swear when
Speaker 2: I used to travel Europe, and I've actually started wearing
Speaker 2: it now full time because I actually know I like
Speaker 2: the smell and yeah, now so I for a bit
Speaker 2: there a couple of months, I was like, oh, I
Speaker 2: want to go back, but now it's just my every
Speaker 2: day smell again.
Speaker 1: It makes you feel like you're like traveling, traveling.
Speaker 2: But now it's just my every day roll on.
Speaker 1: Nice. I love it. How was your weekend?
Speaker 2: It was good. I spent a weekend away, so so
Speaker 2: Jen and I went away to Shepherd and I had
Speaker 2: to quote a couple of jobs up there and just
Speaker 2: made a trip of it. It was good. I didn't
Speaker 2: go on my phone the whole time, so full of to.
Speaker 1: Notice that you were mia.
Speaker 2: Full off the greed. Were you wondering where I was?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like what's happened to it? Where's he? Ah? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I just felt like, you know what, I'm just gonna
Speaker 2: live in the moment. But again, like I struggled so
Speaker 2: hard to live in the moment, Like I just struggle,
Speaker 2: like before I know it, I'm always focusing on what
Speaker 2: happens next. Even though I was on my phone, I
Speaker 2: actually was beating myself up at the end, really, which
Speaker 2: I just lived more in the moment. So I'm trying
Speaker 2: the hardest to do that.
Speaker 1: It's actually a lot harder said than done. I think
Speaker 1: a lot of people, do you know what? I even
Speaker 1: did it? Like after my engagement party went like the
Speaker 1: next day, I was like, so what now? And I
Speaker 1: was like, Anna, like come on, like I'm still on
Speaker 1: Maybe it wasn't the Sunday, but definitely on the Tuesday,
Speaker 1: I was like, so what next? You know what I mean? Like,
Speaker 1: sometimes you just have to like live on the high
Speaker 1: or like live in those like amazing moments, because otherwise
Speaker 1: you just wish your life away exactly.
Speaker 2: And it's been a problem like my whole life that
Speaker 2: I've brought up with my mum multiple times, like I
Speaker 2: just can't just focus on the now, like you know,
Speaker 2: I'm even here thinking about like, oh okay, well i
Speaker 2: leave here, I've got to do this and do that.
Speaker 2: Like I've got to like try and train my mind
Speaker 2: to live in this present moment. I think it's easier
Speaker 2: said than done. If anyone's got any tips, yeah, I
Speaker 2: want to know, Yeah, but yeah, we went.
Speaker 1: I think being grateful for the moment is I think
Speaker 1: how I've learned to live better in the moment, just
Speaker 1: being like I'm grateful for being in this studio right now.
Speaker 2: You know, Like, do you have a gratitude.
Speaker 1: I don't, but I do mantras every morning when I
Speaker 1: wake up. It's the first thing I say, like I'll
Speaker 1: be like to Michael, I'm grateful for you. I'm grateful
Speaker 1: for our apartment. I'm grateful for and I kind of
Speaker 1: like list things that I'm grateful for in my life.
Speaker 2: I am, I have one before I go to sleep,
Speaker 2: and I write three every night. And they started, like,
Speaker 2: you know, getting a bit cliche, like I'm grateful for,
Speaker 2: like I am grateful for like running water on my roof,
Speaker 2: over my head, all this sort of stuff. But I
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, I'm going to focus on
Speaker 2: each day and be grateful for those things in that day,
Speaker 2: so I am living in the moment, so I write
Speaker 2: things that are solely about that day. So that's good.
Speaker 2: That's a good way of doing that as well. But
Speaker 2: on the weekend, we went to Cactus Country. We've always
Speaker 2: spoke about going there.
Speaker 1: That's cool there. No, I didn't even know it was
Speaker 1: a thing until you were there.
Speaker 2: So I was saying that they've actually got the cheat code,
Speaker 2: like what they've done there, so they've made like a
Speaker 2: full cactus area. But cactus are the most easiest thing
Speaker 2: to maintain, Like if not, you don't have to maintain them.
Speaker 2: They just grow by themselves.
Speaker 1: True. I mean I did once kill a cactus, but
Speaker 1: I am like, I don't have a green thumb.
Speaker 2: Did you manage that?
Speaker 1: Don't even ask me, But anyway, you shouldn't be able
Speaker 1: to kill a cactus.
Speaker 2: Yes, And they reproduced so easily. You cut them off
Speaker 2: and you just replant them, so you're not spending any money.
Speaker 2: Once you buy a cactus, you can just keep. So
Speaker 2: they found like the cheat code on that. It was
Speaker 2: really cool, like reminded me of like Arizona Desert or
Speaker 2: the cactuses. But I put a story up. I'm smash
Speaker 2: Naked and Afraid. Do you know that?
Speaker 1: I do know that you watch that, but I haven't
Speaker 1: watched it myself.
Speaker 2: So they dumped two people in random wild situations naked
Speaker 2: and give them like a pot of machete and like
Speaker 2: a fire starter, and they have to survive for twenty
Speaker 2: one days. And in this one episode they ate prickly
Speaker 2: pears and I was like, I know what a prickly
Speaker 2: pair is. How can you eat that? So I was like,
Speaker 2: I want to try prickly pair? And then they were
Speaker 2: selling prickly pear stuff there a the caacters. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: got to try a cake, ice cream, and a cider.
Speaker 2: I actually put a story up and I explained the
Speaker 2: naked and afray thing and I tagged Naked and Afraid
Speaker 2: and they've liked my things, so I've got an open
Speaker 2: thread with them now. So I'm thinking about messaging him saying, Hey,
Speaker 2: can I go in and do a twenty one day challenge?
Speaker 1: Would you actually do that? That is my idea of
Speaker 1: fucking torture?
Speaker 2: Well, it is genuinely tat do you reckonize?
Speaker 1: And also your dick is like out for everyone out
Speaker 1: for the world to see, Like I would be watching it, like,
Speaker 1: how would wear it?
Speaker 2: Wear it?
Speaker 1: I'd want to see blurred you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: You wouldn't want to see me cry in fucking in
Speaker 2: some random wild if I.
Speaker 1: Was to do it, give me crying after like ten minutes,
Speaker 1: and there he'd be like.
Speaker 2: Imagine me without my retainer or fucking my toothpaste.
Speaker 1: What about your fucking colsal creepy premium. That will be
Speaker 1: like your whole face will be covered in colesaws by the.
Speaker 3: End of that.
Speaker 2: Why vitamins, No vitamins, no, no food, Like it'd just
Speaker 2: be how long can I.
Speaker 1: Your face moisturizer?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: No, yeah, face hand.
Speaker 2: Face hand. I'd be fucked. They'd be like wife Matthews
Speaker 2: scurrying off. He's got like a sack of this stuff
Speaker 2: and you're like, no, you don't rip it off me.
Speaker 2: Regon I go two days, Well.
Speaker 1: Don't say that.
Speaker 2: I'd go the whole time. I'd clock it. I'd clock it,
Speaker 2: and I'd make some serious good TV.
Speaker 1: Guys, make some great TV. You just cry for forty
Speaker 1: eight hours straight and they'd be like, I need some
Speaker 1: serious psychiatric help.
Speaker 2: People do it and respect to people that do it.
Speaker 2: I reckon twenty one days out there, no fucking yeah,
Speaker 2: no anything, no TV. You've got to make your own fire.
Speaker 1: I don't even I don't even camp. So like I
Speaker 1: think for me and you too go in and do
Speaker 1: something like that, it's a little far fetch. Like for
Speaker 1: people who live on the lamb.
Speaker 2: Well they do pick survival, yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, then of course for them it makes sense. I
Speaker 1: think for you to do it like it's it.
Speaker 2: Just comes straight, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: There's no like eyebrow tintings or now that you do that.
Speaker 2: But you know what I mean, I'm straight from my
Speaker 2: like my fucking bamboo pillows. It's just nice, like mattress
Speaker 2: to sleeping on the floor.
Speaker 1: I actually have a great recommendation seeking of like sleeping arrangements,
Speaker 1: just to do like a swift left turn from that conversation,
Speaker 1: I bought a mattress topper.
Speaker 2: I've got one. Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: I was literally on TikTok and I never do this this.
Speaker 1: It was like this girl and she was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, my sleep has changed. This is incredible, And
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I'm just gonna buy
Speaker 1: what she's selling and I'm going to pray to God
Speaker 1: that it works and trust me, when I say I've
Speaker 1: put this mattress topper on our bed, this weekend has
Speaker 1: been the most rested, beautiful sleep I've had in a
Speaker 1: very long time.
Speaker 2: Let me know after is what one you got, and
Speaker 2: I'll see if it's the same as mine. Mine's unreal.
Speaker 2: I swear by it.
Speaker 1: It's like it's like sleeping in a hotel bed.
Speaker 2: Do you have what mattress? Do you have a spring
Speaker 2: or a memory home mattress?
Speaker 1: I'm not sure, but I know it's a good one.
Speaker 1: But it was brought a while ago. It's probably like
Speaker 1: ten years old at this I don't know how long
Speaker 1: the mattresses last.
Speaker 2: Year, probably at any mattress France.
Speaker 1: In my new house, Michael and I have said that
Speaker 1: we want to get a king bed because we're both
Speaker 1: quite tall. Right now, we're rolling a queen and it's
Speaker 1: just not that we don't like being close together, but
Speaker 1: like sometimes it is nice to kind of spread out.
Speaker 1: We just don't have that luxury and like you know,
Speaker 1: Michael six to three, I'm five or eleven, like we
Speaker 1: could use the extra space.
Speaker 2: Looking at bedrooms that can fit a king in there, Yes, yeah,
Speaker 2: I want to get a king as well. For the
Speaker 2: next one, even if it takes up the whole room,
Speaker 2: that's my bed room, that's my bed walk, that's my bedroom.
Speaker 1: That's the thing. Is our room at the moment, it's
Speaker 1: a queen. We have a queen bed and the room
Speaker 1: is like quite tight. So like that's like Michael's main focus.
Speaker 1: My main focus when looking for house is I want
Speaker 1: a bath in the house because I love having a bath.
Speaker 1: They find them so relaxed.
Speaker 2: Just renovate it and put a bath in.
Speaker 1: True, Well what when we get it? Yeah, true, true,
Speaker 1: sure house, yeah true. And Michael's is like I want
Speaker 1: a big bedroom, main bedroom so that I can fit
Speaker 1: a king.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well I was going to get a king, but
Speaker 2: it was when I was moved out with my mates,
Speaker 2: so my room would would literally have been the bedsroom.
Speaker 2: Nothing the bedsroom. So I got a queen. But my
Speaker 2: recommendation is Guardians of the Galaxy Volume three went to
Speaker 2: the premiere last week because my mum brought my mum movie. Yes,
Speaker 2: so have you seen any of Marvel movies? You could
Speaker 2: probably watch this as a standalone.
Speaker 1: Wait, hold on, is Margot Robbie in one of them?
Speaker 2: No, that's that's that's just wholesome. So you say, okay,
Speaker 2: just moving on. I have no idea, you see I Oh, well,
Speaker 2: if you're if you love this is for people that
Speaker 2: love Marvel. It's it goes back to the like the
Speaker 2: old Guardians of the Galaxy, not the new phase of movies.
Speaker 2: So it's really good. But I've got a funny story.
Speaker 2: So we went to the premiere all fun saw the movie,
Speaker 2: teared up a little bit, then went to the after
Speaker 2: party at the Forum. So it was hosted by Spotify, Marvel,
Speaker 2: and Disney Plus it was pretty cool. They had some
Speaker 2: DJs playing. It was Cosmo DJ's. It was pretty cool,
Speaker 2: cool setup. But when we were leaving, my mom's like,
Speaker 2: I really need to go to the toilet, and I
Speaker 2: was like, yeah, cool. Like we walked down a side
Speaker 2: bit and then she walked down the stairs went to
Speaker 2: the toilet. I was like, I'll go as well, But
Speaker 2: in that split moment, Mum didn't say anything to me.
Speaker 2: So I walked down the stairs, walked into the bathroom.
Speaker 2: I walked around. It was a big one. If anyone's
Speaker 2: been to the forums like I had like all the
Speaker 2: cubicles around. I tried to find a urinal I couldn't
Speaker 2: find one. I was like a bit suspicious. Went into
Speaker 2: one of the bathrooms there was you know that girls
Speaker 2: have the toilet dispenser there. Yeah, I was like the girls, Well,
Speaker 2: my mind was this is a unisex setup. As I
Speaker 2: walked in, you know, like like all toilets, it was
Speaker 2: giving chumicles and then like had the sinks in the middle,
Speaker 2: so it had like a unisex sort of setup. When
Speaker 2: I didn't see urinals, I was like, okay, like this
Speaker 2: might be a full unisex one, like just cute, like
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. So when in went to
Speaker 2: the toilet, heard a lot of girls in there, walked out.
Speaker 2: There were girls like taking selfies in the mirror, and
Speaker 2: they just stopped and looked at me, and I was
Speaker 2: just like this is this isn't a unisex bathroom, is it?
Speaker 2: And they're like no, it says ladies on the outside.
Speaker 2: And I've never ran so fast in my life. I
Speaker 2: was like, I am so sorry. It just sprinted out,
Speaker 2: sprinted out. Well, my I was like every unisex bathroom
Speaker 2: I had been was like that, Like I mean, at you,
Speaker 2: it was like that. I went to one in the
Speaker 2: fed Square, which was exactly like that was unisex as well.
Speaker 2: So I just think it was.
Speaker 1: In my mind that's so funny.
Speaker 2: It was so embarrassing. So I'm sorry to those girls
Speaker 2: that we're in that bathroom. There was there was one
Speaker 2: absolutely just going helpful leather in the bathroom next to me.
Speaker 2: What do you mean she'd had Muma's enchiladas the night
Speaker 2: before that.
Speaker 1: You can't go to a girl's toilet and then shame
Speaker 1: the girl.
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, shame in that. I had faked beans
Speaker 2: the other night, and I'm telling you I had issues,
Speaker 2: but I just it.
Speaker 1: Was worse enchiladas or the beans.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to pull myself under the bus.
Speaker 1: Oh god, Okay, on that, Speaking of events, I'm actually
Speaker 1: going to and Juliet the musical. Have you heard of that?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: I haven't, but I fucking love a good musical. There's
Speaker 2: nothing better than the theater. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So it's kind of like a spin off on Romeo
Speaker 1: and Juliet. But I think Juliette is like an empowered
Speaker 1: woman and she's like stronger than the Romeo and Juliet character.
Speaker 1: She's kind of like, well fuck it, I'm going to
Speaker 1: be an independent woman.
Speaker 2: Does kill usself at the end. Is this a prequel
Speaker 2: or a sequel sequel?
Speaker 1: I don't know what. Don't ask the question. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I'm like very excited to see. I think it's gonna
Speaker 1: be great. I'm going to give you guys an update.
Speaker 1: I'm going with all the girls. So, yeah, the girls
Speaker 1: are going to see and Juliet.
Speaker 2: And empowering women's one. That's cool. It is, it is okay,
Speaker 2: So let me know how that goes next week. Then
Speaker 2: I'm excited to hear. Maybe I might go check it
Speaker 2: out afterwards. It's a good one on that. Well, let's
Speaker 2: jump into the hot line.
Speaker 1: Hello, you've reached Anna and Nutt.
Speaker 2: We can't get to the phone right now.
Speaker 1: But please leave us a message on our hot line
Speaker 1: after the beap.
Speaker 2: This hot line comes from Amber.
Speaker 1: Hi, Matt, Nana.
Speaker 4: My name's Amber, love your pod.
Speaker 2: Thanks Amber.
Speaker 4: I just wanted to send in this funny story to
Speaker 4: you guys. So a couple of years ago, I was
Speaker 4: seeing this guy and we've been seeing each other for
Speaker 4: about eight nine months, and I get a message from
Speaker 4: one of my friends that worked at the local bar
Speaker 4: and she's like, Oh, are you still seeing And I
Speaker 4: was like, yeah, why do you ask, and turns out
Speaker 4: who's been seeing one of the other girls that she
Speaker 4: works with the Buck And so I kept it to
Speaker 4: myself and organized to get.
Speaker 1: A job there to work with this girl.
Speaker 4: He knew about that we were together, and my first
Speaker 4: shift was just her and I on and when she
Speaker 4: got there, her face looked like she'd seen a ghost
Speaker 4: and was like, what is she doing here? Anyway, we
Speaker 4: sorted out differences and we ended up being really good friends,
Speaker 4: and we're still really good friends today.
Speaker 2: So the other girl obviously knew they were together, and
Speaker 2: she was seeing the guy at the same time as Amber.
Speaker 1: That's kind of dog. I don't know if I'd be
Speaker 1: able to be friends with someone after they've done that
Speaker 1: to me.
Speaker 2: Well, you know what, you know where they morals stand.
Speaker 2: I guess yeah, but they don't care about that sort
Speaker 2: of stuff, and she might do it again to you Amber,
Speaker 2: So who knows.
Speaker 1: Yeah, be careful. I don't know, Like I feel like,
Speaker 1: eight to nine months of seeing someone, you can't be
Speaker 1: doing that.
Speaker 2: No, you can't.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm assuming they're like official, eight nine months of
Speaker 1: being official.
Speaker 2: You would have had the exclusive chart. Surely, surely, I mean,
Speaker 2: some people don't we just move really fast.
Speaker 1: No, I think you would. She said they were seeing
Speaker 1: each other for eight to nine months.
Speaker 2: Well, that's enough time to produce a baby, so it's
Speaker 2: enough time to produce a relationship.
Speaker 1: I just like don't know why or how people can
Speaker 1: like sleep at night, Like I would just be so
Speaker 1: riddled with guilt, Like how would he be.
Speaker 2: More than anything that? Like, it's just obviously they people
Speaker 2: know people. There's seven degrees of separation is not a
Speaker 2: thing anymore. It's like three to people know. Everyone knows
Speaker 2: fucking everyone in this day and age, and like with
Speaker 2: technology and everything and just the way everything is these days,
Speaker 2: people work gets back.
Speaker 1: So he would be one hundred percent. I saw this
Speaker 1: video recently and it was this psychologist and she said,
Speaker 1: if you cheat, it's not a matter of if they'll
Speaker 1: find out, it's when. And she's like, I've dealt with
Speaker 1: this for like couples who the guy cheated like twenty
Speaker 1: years earlier and they're in like a thirty year marriage
Speaker 1: and they find out thirty years later. Because the thing
Speaker 1: is is the more people live, the more they integrate,
Speaker 1: the more people they know, and it's always a case
Speaker 1: of when, and.
Speaker 2: It's not that hard for like say, someone to be like,
Speaker 2: oh you like you know, I mean you cross past
Speaker 2: some or someone says oh I know blah blah, they
Speaker 2: know blah, and they go, oh, I slept with blah blah.
Speaker 2: Yeah you know yeah, and then they go, oh, well
Speaker 2: then I'm going to tell thing. And it just yeah,
Speaker 2: seven degrees of separation is anything? It's like three? Yeah,
Speaker 2: I reckon. Yeah, So just yeah, that guy's an idiot.
Speaker 1: Yeah I feel bad for it, but I mean I
Speaker 1: feel like she's kind of done the whole like keep
Speaker 1: your friends close and your enemies closer almost, and you
Speaker 1: know what, that is a thing people do that, Definitely
Speaker 1: people do that. Like I remember, before I went on
Speaker 1: Too Love Island, I was seeing this guy and then
Speaker 1: obviously I went on Too Love Island and came out
Speaker 1: in a relationship. But the guy who I was seeing
Speaker 1: I went into Love Island had been seeing this other
Speaker 1: girl whilst I was, you know, in Love Island, and
Speaker 1: they had like gotten together with them separated, and she
Speaker 1: tried to like befriend me because like I felt like
Speaker 1: she was like trying to keep her friends close but
Speaker 1: her enemies closer by being friends with me. She that
Speaker 1: guy date him again, even though I was in a
Speaker 1: happy relationship at the time, but like you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, and then it's like once once they know, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, you know what I mean. I was happy
Speaker 1: at the time, but like you know, once I became
Speaker 1: single from Josh, she very quickly like turned on me again.
Speaker 1: Well she had actually said some like things to him,
Speaker 1: being like don't hook up with Anna or something, and
Speaker 1: then he told me and anyway, long story, sure, you
Speaker 1: know what, it wouldn't surprise me. Like I feel like
Speaker 1: Melbourne is very like incestuous. Wasn't like your extron hook
Speaker 1: up with my ex at one point to get back
Speaker 1: at both of us.
Speaker 2: Just so it's you know, it's excited. It's exciting, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like you just can't predict anything. And the thing is
Speaker 1: is like they all think it's not going to.
Speaker 2: Get back, but it all I think that one was
Speaker 2: trying to get back. I think I was going to
Speaker 2: get back to us.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just funny, like the four of us
Speaker 1: all hung out and then like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: we all go our separate ways. We're still friends, and like,
Speaker 1: you know, anyway.
Speaker 2: Some people just don't know you can't trust them.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's hear the next hot line.
Speaker 2: This hot line comes from Ashley.
Speaker 3: Hi, Anna and nad absolutely love your podcast. And I'm
Speaker 3: a few weeks too late, but I just thought i'd
Speaker 3: share my long distance relationship story. So me and my
Speaker 3: partner met a couple of years ago. I was living
Speaker 3: in Melbourne at the time. He was in Brisbane. He's
Speaker 3: in the Army and I was working in hotel quarantine
Speaker 3: and that's when the Army had to come down and assist.
Speaker 3: So we were both working together in one of the
Speaker 3: hotels and that's how we met. However, when we first met,
Speaker 3: it was strictly platonic, like we were just good mates.
Speaker 3: For me, there was no physical attraction there whatsoever. Like
Speaker 3: all I saw him was as a mate. We had
Speaker 3: hung out a few times when Melbourne reopened and nothing
Speaker 3: ever happened. So he was in Melbourne for about three
Speaker 3: months and then left in May and went back to
Speaker 3: Brisbane and Melbourne had just gone back into lockdown. We
Speaker 3: continued to FaceTime every day just as mates, and slowly
Speaker 3: it just progressed to more and we just got to
Speaker 3: know each other on a really like intimate level, but
Speaker 3: like really emotional as well. We just had this complete
Speaker 3: emotional side and a little bit of a physical but
Speaker 3: as much as you can like being long distance, and
Speaker 3: by the end of June we had decided that we
Speaker 3: were exclusive kind of Unfortunately in Melbourne stayed in lockdown
Speaker 3: until November, so we're constantly just doing this long distance
Speaker 3: and when the boarders finally reopened, he actually got sent
Speaker 3: away for three weeks for a training camp, so he
Speaker 3: wasn't able till mid December. About a week before he came,
Speaker 3: I just started to like really panic and freak out
Speaker 3: because I was just like in my head thinking we've
Speaker 3: only ever hung out as mates, like we've never hung
Speaker 3: out as a couple, We've never hung out as anything more.
Speaker 3: And I just started to worry that it wasn't going
Speaker 3: to progress to in pass and as it has been
Speaker 3: an online relationship kind of thing. However, when he got here,
Speaker 3: everything just fit. We had our first kiss at the
Speaker 3: airport and it all just fell into place and was
Speaker 3: magic pretty much. Three months later, I moved to Brisbane.
Speaker 3: A couple of months later after that, we actually got engaged,
Speaker 3: getting married at the end of this year. So romantic
Speaker 3: long distance relationship story even though it was hard. But
Speaker 3: what we've actually had to do is continue during long
Speaker 3: distance at periods of times. As I mentioned, he's in
Speaker 3: the Army, so he does go away quite a bit,
Speaker 3: sometimes just for a couple of weeks, sometimes for a
Speaker 3: few months, and we don't actually get to do those
Speaker 3: like online date things like we would get to do
Speaker 3: when I was in Melbourne, like setting up the same
Speaker 3: time to watch a movie, or doing like pizza dates
Speaker 3: or taco Tuesdays, that kind of thing, because he obviously
Speaker 3: doesn't have time for that, and some of the times
Speaker 3: he actually doesn't have his phone, Like he actually just
Speaker 3: got back from one training that he was gone for
Speaker 3: two months and he didn't have his phone for a
Speaker 3: month and a.
Speaker 1: Half of it.
Speaker 3: So it's just about relying on that kind of trust
Speaker 3: and in your relationship that it's going to survive and everything.
Speaker 3: But I guess the hardest thing that I find being
Speaker 3: having too long distance is and a lot of people
Speaker 3: I wouldn't actually be able to relate to this unless
Speaker 3: you are dating someone in the Army, is just not
Speaker 3: knowing if they're okay, especially when they get them somewhere
Speaker 3: and you just kind of wait by the phone and
Speaker 3: hope that phone call never comes, and then when you
Speaker 3: do get a random number phone call and you answer
Speaker 3: in a panic and it's just spam James from the
Speaker 3: Wine club, and but you're safe and hope to do so.
Speaker 3: But yeah, that's just my long distance story and it
Speaker 3: is hard, but it definitely was worth it in my case.
Speaker 1: I love a positive story, and that was the.
Speaker 2: Thinking that was going to go the other way or
Speaker 2: how Cynica was. I just thinking this is going to
Speaker 2: go there's a butt's everything. Well. I love the troops,
Speaker 2: like serving us in that, but a lot of our stories,
Speaker 2: when it's someone in the army, it goes pair shape
Speaker 2: very quickly. So it's good to see that this one
Speaker 2: worked out on you know.
Speaker 1: What, when I think back to like really like big
Speaker 1: feelings that I've had with people, it's always when they're
Speaker 1: like far away or like you haven't been able to
Speaker 1: be in close contact at the start, because you like
Speaker 1: build it up and up and up in your head
Speaker 1: and your feelings just get like so overwhelming.
Speaker 2: Something that I thought about and when I was in
Speaker 2: a long dist relationship as well, was imagine, like you've
Speaker 2: been all this talking, you've had phone sex, sending nudes,
Speaker 2: the usual stuff, you know what I mean, and then
Speaker 2: you finally made up, and imagine if the sex just
Speaker 2: doesn't link off and you've been talking for like multiple
Speaker 2: months on end, I don't know, sex is just.
Speaker 1: Like, oh, I mean, how bad can the sexually be?
Speaker 1: Let's put it that way, like, yes.
Speaker 2: Sex is always good exactly.
Speaker 1: I was thinking that, like, yes, like it can be
Speaker 1: like there's like definitely like someone who's very you know
Speaker 1: what's the word like knowledge, curiance, knowledgeable, yes, experience, and
Speaker 1: there's obviously like level. But like when there's those types
Speaker 1: of intense feelings, it's just always going to be good.
Speaker 2: I feel like passionate and passionate, yeah, you.
Speaker 1: Know what I mean, just like when you act actually
Speaker 1: when at first finally happens, finally it's like a crescendo
Speaker 1: of fire.
Speaker 2: If it was just like just not good, just did
Speaker 2: not link af and you're like, oh, I mean it
Speaker 2: was obviously great because he proposed three months later, he's
Speaker 2: dropping like this is unreal, imagined one and a half
Speaker 2: months not talking to him and like she said, not knowing,
Speaker 2: like they're I can't imagine if they're actually doing like
Speaker 2: going out to war and that would be fucked like
Speaker 2: the stress of that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I get sad Michael's work. Michael's gone back to
Speaker 1: like he was doing three days working from the office,
Speaker 1: two days at home, and they his work has just
Speaker 1: changed back to five days. And I'm literally like so
Speaker 1: sad that he's backward Michael.
Speaker 2: Cramming what's out there.
Speaker 1: I actually can't imagine like that type of like constant
Speaker 1: anxiety of like it's it's like life or death, Like
Speaker 1: that's so stressful.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I couldn't do that.
Speaker 1: I don't just and like she said, like unless you're
Speaker 1: in the situation, you just would never fully understand it.
Speaker 2: It's amazing, Like it's amazing what the troops do, but
Speaker 2: then imagine the people they leave at home in the
Speaker 2: stress they have.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Absolutely, it has a whole impact on families.
Speaker 2: Well, Ashley, I am so happy for you. We love
Speaker 2: to hear positive stories on this hotline. A lot of
Speaker 2: them are very you know, cynical or don't end up
Speaker 2: with a happy ending, so it's good to finally hear
Speaker 2: one or get to hear one.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, if you guys have a positive story that you
Speaker 1: want to send us in or not positive story, we're.
Speaker 2: Open to the miment. Yes, we hear a positive story
Speaker 2: the wild ones that end on like you know, a
Speaker 2: negative note. Sometimes people need to hear them and you
Speaker 2: need to let them out, so let us let us
Speaker 2: hear them.
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