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Speaker 1: This is the fitsy and with her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: He got a personal one here fits really tricky situation.

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Speaker 2: Friend of mine, let's call it Claire. Claire has been

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Speaker 2: on the dating scene for quite a while, tried a

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Speaker 2: couple of the apps and not a lot of luck. Anyway,

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Speaker 2: in recent times through some mutual friends, meets a guy

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Speaker 2: out and about his name is let's call him Kevin.

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Speaker 2: So Claire and Kevin and they have been dating, i

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Speaker 2: would say, or in the early stages of dating for

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Speaker 2: about three to four weeks. Okay, so that's a good

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Speaker 2: start and things are going really well. Then there's the

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Speaker 2: next step in the relationship. Yeah, we all know that

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Speaker 2: next minute where he says, Claire, maybe you should meet

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Speaker 2: my family. Everyone's a little bit nervous about that because

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Speaker 2: it's kind of like pulling back the curtain, isn't it,

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Speaker 2: and seeing what's behind You're.

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Speaker 3: Cementing the relationship. That's a huge step. You're pretty keen

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Speaker 3: to maybe take it to the next level.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because you're saying to the family, here's someone I've

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Speaker 2: chosen and I'm not going to introduce them unless they

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Speaker 2: are considered a possibility all time, and someone who I

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Speaker 2: think the family would like anyway.

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Speaker 4: So they go over. It's Sunday Rice classic stuff. Great

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Speaker 4: to meet you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, anyway, Claire.

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Speaker 4: Sorry.

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Speaker 2: Kevin then gets a phone call that night. So they've

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Speaker 2: had lunch that night, probably four hours after lunch and

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Speaker 2: they've left, gets a phone call from Kevin's mum who

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Speaker 2: rings and just says, you can do better than that. Now,

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Speaker 2: Kevin and Claire have been dating for a while and

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Speaker 2: from his own mum, he is from his own mum

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Speaker 2: who Corden said, you can do better than that, and

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Speaker 2: that would just be heartbreaking because maybe you're completely in

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Speaker 2: love with the girl and you see a future. And secondly,

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Speaker 2: you're insulting my judgment as well. And this happens in

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Speaker 2: families where people then go, well, I need to make

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Speaker 2: a decision. Am I going to push my family away

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Speaker 2: because I'm in love and my gut says I'm over here?

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Speaker 4: Or is blood thicker than water?

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Speaker 2: And you stay with your family because mum's been right

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Speaker 2: and knows best because that's what you brought up to believe.

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Speaker 4: So did Lisa blow up? No no, no, no, no no no.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, situation just a friend of mine. I'm not suggesting

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Speaker 2: that I'm just friends forteen years down the track of

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Speaker 2: marriage and mum's decided to say Licia is not good enough.

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Speaker 4: You could have told me earlier. I've got three kids

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Speaker 4: with her, mum, So what would you do?

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Speaker 2: And have you been in a situation like this where

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Speaker 2: the family has said not good enough or I don't

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Speaker 2: think it's the right way forward. It happened to some

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Speaker 2: other friends of ours where he said to the daughter.

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Speaker 2: Dad said to the daughter, he will never grow with you.

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Speaker 2: That's how he worded it. He'll never grow with you, darling.

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Speaker 2: And she chose to still marry him and he's a

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Speaker 2: bit of a drip. But that's okay. These things happen,

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Speaker 2: Felicity in North Sydney. What did you want to say?

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Speaker 4: Fits? No, I was going to say.

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Speaker 3: Every family is protective and it's very it takes a

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Speaker 3: while to get the trust.

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Speaker 4: From a family.

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Speaker 3: So you've got to push through that initial sort of response,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you do you do, Felicity? Is it okay for

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Speaker 2: a mother to intervene like this?

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Speaker 5: Hi, guys, well, I think initially.

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Speaker 6: I think an opinion is a good thing. This happened

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Speaker 6: not so keen on me to begin with, and then

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Speaker 6: he said, you know, sorry, Mum, I'm just going to

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Speaker 6: push on and give it a bit more time. And

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Speaker 6: thankfully it did, because we've been made twenty.

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Speaker 4: Years now, right, Okay, So he pushed through.

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Speaker 7: It, push through it, and now the mother in law

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Speaker 7: and I are super close and it's all worked out

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Speaker 2: What about the one, Felicity, because this happened to me too.

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Speaker 2: I was dating a girl for a while and then

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Speaker 2: we broke up, and then both my mother and two

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Speaker 2: sisters said we never liked her anyway, and so they

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Speaker 4: The relationship and just hoping that it wouldn't go anywhere.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes you need to do.

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Speaker 3: But I agree with their decision. You need to work

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Speaker 3: that out for yourself. I don't think family members should

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Speaker 4: I don't think my mom and dad always all right

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Speaker 3: Protect, very protective early on BJ, it took BJ quite

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Speaker 3: a while to earn their trust, and like Felicity just said,

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Speaker 3: my mum and BJ now are best mates. They do

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Speaker 3: they do stuff with each other every single day now.

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Speaker 3: But it took what dad was more protective than mum,

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Speaker 3: But they never said anything to me because they knew that.

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Speaker 4: I had to work it out. True, Lena, Welcome to

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Speaker 4: the show. Involved, Lena, So it's.

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Speaker 8: Actually the officer. I'm not for the parents getting involved.

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Speaker 8: I think we've got to figure it out our own.

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Speaker 8: But my actually started speaking to a guy she was

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Speaker 8: a bit hesitant about, but my mum actually put her input.

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Speaker 8: It said, you know, I think this is really good.

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Speaker 8: And pass forward five years later they're still married, expecting

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Speaker 8: their first child.

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Speaker 4: That's good, Elena. Yeah, I quite like that. So Elena,

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Speaker 4: that that's great advice from mom.

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Speaker 3: I mean, it's you know, it's not it's usually they're

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Speaker 3: being protective of you and they're being negative about someone

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Speaker 3: that you've just met. But if she's just gone, I

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Speaker 3: really like this guy.

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Speaker 4: Stick with it. That's great.

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Speaker 8: Remember how to stick through, go through all the troubles

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Speaker 8: and stuff of a relationship, and five years later worked

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Speaker 8: out amazingly.

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Speaker 4: Tall We remember what your dad said to you?

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Speaker 9: Oh what did my dad definitely say to me?

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Speaker 4: You're a bit of a basic kid, and she's inder

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Speaker 4: you hang on to it. Oh yeah, hang on to it.

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Speaker 8: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: She did the pro that Brian would never get involved.

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Speaker 3: Did he get involved with continueing it for quite a while.

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Speaker 3: Were your parents sort of saying to you, to me,

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Speaker 3: maybe make a move within and we really like her.

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Speaker 9: The moment mine weren't fine. Her parents were a bit

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Speaker 9: cautious of me because they said I was suspiciously nice.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, suspiciously nice. I would agree with that.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, they thought there was something untoward.

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Speaker 2: You're the kind of guy who is ninety nine point

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Speaker 2: nine percent of the time perfect until he turns up

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Speaker 3: You're that kind Yeah, it's like he's too nice and

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Speaker 3: there's got to be bodies buried somewhere. And there was

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Speaker 3: Victoria in Bowrel. Tell us about your brothers, Vick, Yeah,

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Speaker 6: Think it was good intentions, I believe, but they just

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Speaker 4: Do not like my partner.

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Speaker 10: Oh no, I like my older brother's stealing with it.

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Speaker 6: But my younger brother, every time I see him, it's

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Speaker 6: always like last he broke us. They broke up, and

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Speaker 6: I was like, why do you last?

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Speaker 7: He just goes, oh, you could.

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Speaker 6: Do better, all right, what's better?

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Speaker 4: Protective?

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Speaker 3: You see, that's protective brothers. They shouldn't they should not

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Speaker 3: be getting involved. So can you so, can your boyfriend

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Speaker 3: socialize with them at all or not at all? Victoria?

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Speaker 4: Oh he does?

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Speaker 2: It just goes.

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Speaker 10: It's really awkward.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, Vick.

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Speaker 2: Appreciate the coronet and greenacre. What's your situation?

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Speaker 7: Mother in laws?

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Speaker 10: That's all I have to stay toxic mother in law's yes.

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Speaker 10: Yet my mother in law does not like me. My

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Speaker 10: partner and I have been together nearly ten years, and

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Speaker 10: my god, the things that she had started. She told

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Speaker 10: my partner that I'm choosing to be with him and

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Speaker 10: I'm the one that's making the decision to stay with him.

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Speaker 10: Told my partner I'm not good enough for him. Told

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Speaker 10: my partner and I that I'm not allowed to be

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Speaker 10: pregnant next month in July when her wedding is going

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Speaker 10: to be, and she doesn't want the limelight on me.

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Speaker 10: My partner and I get married next month. She has

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Speaker 10: removed herself from our wedding. I'm sorry to hear our

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Speaker 10: wedding is going to be too much attention on her.

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Speaker 4: Give me. She's a stinker.

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Speaker 3: Does your your your bloke he understands that. Does he

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Speaker 3: see where you're coming from? He backs you up.

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Speaker 10: I am one hundred percent blessed that I have the

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Speaker 10: best partner and he's she through it all, and unfortunately

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Speaker 10: they haven't spoken since January because of her own decisions.

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Speaker 10: And like I said, we're getting married next month, so

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Speaker 10: this is going to continue, Renee.

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Speaker 4: That's really hard. I feel for you. It's hard for

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Speaker 4: you and for your husband.

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Speaker 10: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's her loss.

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Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly. And she's going to miss out

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Speaker 10: on the grandkids relationship.

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Speaker 4: That's crazy. Hopefully she comes to her senses, Renee.

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Speaker 10: Hopefully, but I doubt it.

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Speaker 4: Tommy.

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Speaker 2: I feel for a name, We've got to like a

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Speaker 2: trading toilet paper or chicken.

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Speaker 4: I don't think chickens to help.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, why don't we do? Oh this is nice paology.

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Speaker 4: No we can do.

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Speaker 9: Why we do a pair of Specs Savers frames with

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Speaker 9: any lens options valued up to four hundred dollars.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, give it to your mother in law till to

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Speaker 2: get a new outlook on life.

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Speaker 8: I love that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, should have gone to spect so say that to

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Speaker 4: What's up with your mum? Should have gone to Speaks?

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Speaker 4: That so true? Good luck with everything, good luck for

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Speaker 4: the wedding. Thank you, Yeah, I love you. And I'm

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Speaker 4: going to miss you.

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Speaker 3: Don't do that.

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Speaker 4: She doesn't have a mother in law.

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Speaker 10: Mate, Bye bye.

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Speaker 2: She's having a tough time, so I can't hugger over

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Speaker 2: the radiocause huggs don't make sound.

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Speaker 4: So we're giving a little quick.

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Speaker 3: So how many, like I mean, how many did you

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Speaker 3: have to change in that story?

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Speaker 1: This is the fits In with Cake Richie podcast.

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Speaker 4: We haven't done this for a while. I'd like to

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Speaker 4: have a chat about romantic or pathetic? Is it romantic?

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Speaker 5: Just buzz the.

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Speaker 4: Romantic or pathetic? What do you do for your partment?

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Speaker 4: Twenty four ten? Get involved? We saw this grape list

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Speaker 4: last night.

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Speaker 2: There's the little things to say I love you without

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Speaker 2: saying I love you. Fits you know where you just

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Speaker 2: acknowledge or you might recognize or do something knowing what

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Speaker 2: their next move might be.

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Speaker 4: That's often a cute one.

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Speaker 2: I know Lisa is always the last one to put

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Speaker 2: Francesca to bed, so I make sure there's a cup

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Speaker 2: and have a sleepy time together.

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Speaker 4: Said a good time to have a tea. I suppose

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Speaker 2: It's just called sleepy Time and there's a bear and

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Speaker 4: Who's the bearies?

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Speaker 4: Something's missing in the relationship.

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Speaker 9: Don't your eyes that we're doing romanticalpathetic.

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Speaker 4: But this is just how people. I'm not touching her up.

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Speaker 4: You lose your hand saying thank you for dinner. So

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Speaker 2: So important to say thank you for dinner. Does anyone

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Speaker 4: Came in a jar.

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Speaker 2: I was furious, but I couldn't say anything because I've

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Speaker 4: Of where does came in jar? Have a restaurant, I

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Speaker 2: But I said, I've said to her so many times,

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Speaker 4: So I had to bite my tongue because it was burning.

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Speaker 3: And I don't care let's go to Katie and right, Katie,

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Speaker 3: what does your hobby do for you?

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Speaker 7: He cleans the kitchens when I'm done cener So having dinner,

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Speaker 4: Okay, Then does you finish it off?

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Speaker 2: Because quite often I'm told that I've left a couple

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Speaker 7: Nah, he finishes it off.

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Speaker 5: He does a pretty good job of it.

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Speaker 4: Let's go to Steward on the Central Coast.

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Speaker 3: You've worked out how to keep your girl happy?

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Speaker 4: Way, how's that's true?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 10: Good.

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Speaker 6: She comes home from work and like she's on a

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Speaker 3: That's one thing I've stopped doing is the foot massage.

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Speaker 4: BJ didn't mind that.

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Speaker 3: But I suppose it's just there's a few infected bunions

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Speaker 2: For a while, but this time yesterday we're talking about

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Speaker 4: thinking about that. Linda and Granville. Hello, Hi, good morning, Linda.

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Speaker 4: What does your hobby do?

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Speaker 8: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Well, for the four kids under ten, he makes the

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Speaker 3: That's good Sally, Who Linda? Who is this guy? What's

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Speaker 5: His name's Anthony. He's an amazing dad and he enjoys

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Speaker 5: making the lunches. So what I say? No?

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Speaker 8: Love it?

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Speaker 2: And does he do a majority of the lunchbox the

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Speaker 4: For the next day.

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Speaker 5: Oh he No, definitely makes it all fresh for them,

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Speaker 5: and even you know, cuts up the fruit and goes

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Speaker 2: Linda, this might sound strange. I think he's cheating on you.

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Speaker 8: No, no, no, not at all, not at all.

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Speaker 5: We celebrate our twenty second anniversaryy smumt.

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Speaker 2: Oh, that's fantastic, Linda around Linda, sleep wonderful warm with Linda.

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Speaker 2: We haven't had any pathetics. Tom, So, why don't we

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 4: Very good? What did you do in Melbourne Cup?

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Speaker 5: Doough?

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Speaker 4: When she wanted to go to the races but you

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Speaker 4: couldn't go? Oh yeah no.

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Speaker 9: I got all the soft toys like around the house

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Speaker 4: Not the life size Uh no, no, of course, leve

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Speaker 9: Yeah yeah, yeah, absolutely, and made like through the house

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Speaker 4: when he pulled the curtain up, unfortunately she.

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Speaker 1: Broke her leag This is the fit and with her

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Speaker 1: with Kate Richie podcast is it roman?

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Speaker 2: Just we want to know the small gestures you do.

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Speaker 2: I've got a great list in front of him. Who

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Speaker 2: we want to add to it? You know, engaging in

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Speaker 2: your wife's favorite movie is another way, Fitzy where.

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Speaker 4: You make I love watching Pitture perfect?

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, bad boy, Bobby. I didn't know Lisa

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Speaker 3: What's the romantic gesture that you do or your partner

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Speaker 7: My partner does for me. So he has a list

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Speaker 7: take way. So if you've ever just out about you

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Speaker 7: can just surprise me with something.

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Speaker 4: And how often does you do it those days?

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Speaker 7: Pretty regularly, actually, I'll be honest. Anytime he's kind of

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Speaker 4: Shop, is a feeder? Is he Stacey? Just checking? All right?

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Speaker 2: I'd call that romantic. Absolutely. I think that's beautiful. With

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Speaker 2: a salery juice for the Lisa every now salary what's

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Speaker 2: the salary?

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Speaker 9: A salary juice or a celery juice?

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Speaker 4: Celery do you do? You show you then put it

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Speaker 4: into a blender? I get a salary? Is it sealery?

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Speaker 2: It's not easy to say no, go from celery into

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Speaker 2: Sally in bellgal how I sell.

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Speaker 4: What suggests yourself?

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Speaker 7: So usually often at midnight I go through midnight we.

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Speaker 5: My partner leaves the.

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Speaker 7: Role of toilet paper on the toilet there for me,

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Speaker 7: so my twist doesn't get cold on the cold toilet seat.

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Speaker 2: Hang on a minute, so does he line the toilet

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Speaker 2: seat for you.

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Speaker 7: He just leaves a toilet roll there for me, a

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Speaker 4: I mean, you could just squat. I'd say that's pathetic,

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Speaker 4: that's I mean, if you're going to come in to it,

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Speaker 5: You.

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Speaker 4: Jason, Jason in Padstowe.

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Speaker 3: What have you been doing for your partner for ten years?

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Speaker 6: Hey, guys, good morning. So most mornings I text my

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Speaker 6: and that she's enough.

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Speaker 4: Oh every morning. Get a bit.

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Speaker 6: Repetitive most mornings. But if she serves me in a

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I know that, especially when it's fussy, you're obviously guilty.

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Speaker 3: Of something there, Jason, If you have to do that

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Speaker 4: Christine and Bexley, Hello.

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Speaker 5: Good morning guys. My husband gets me a cappuccino down

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Speaker 10: Rail rain show, I.

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Speaker 4: All shoe rain show.

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Speaker 5: Ohail well, and he goes down and gets me coffee

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Speaker 5: and we're celebrate now forty nine wedding anniversary.

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Speaker 2: Oh what are you going to do for your wedding anniversary?

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Speaker 7: He's taken me out to seafood restaot.

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Speaker 3: Oh great, Christine, My mom and dad actually their fiftieth

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Speaker 3: winning anniversary was last year as well.

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Speaker 4: What do you love? What sort of seafood? Your love?

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Speaker 2: It doesn't natural? Maybe a vinigarette or what are you chasing?

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Speaker 4: I love the morning? Oh yeah, Oh.

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Speaker 3: My god, I can't take better than a fisherman's basket, Christine.

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Speaker 4: Seafood play for terms the lobster.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, will you deserve it?

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Speaker 4: Forty nine years with that? You deserve it? Yes?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? What's his name? Christine? Do you want to say

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Speaker 4: a couple of guys? Do you want to say a

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Speaker 8: I'm just a really good person.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, Well you make out with him much, Christine?

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Speaker 4: I'm too busy.

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Speaker 5: I'm always working.

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Speaker 4: Has he been faithful? Christine?

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Speaker 3: He hasn't had one wondering eyes at all in that

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Speaker 3: forty nine years, Christine?

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Speaker 4: Has he?

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Speaker 7: I had a bit of trouble with him when we're

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Speaker 4: He slipped a couple of times, did he, Christine?

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Speaker 10: Yeah, he slipped up a couple of times.

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Speaker 4: Did you know who he slipped into onto? Yes?

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Speaker 2: I She regrets it, Yeah, she would, Hey buddy, he's off.

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Speaker 4: He was getting all you can eat seafood. Do you

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Speaker 4: that one on the edge, isn't it?

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Speaker 3: Can we give Christine one hundred dollars to spend an

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Speaker 3: el Jada plates Christine?

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Speaker 2: Okay? And we can even pop into Chuggle and Charlie's ash.

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Speaker 2: What about you, I mean your man Christian, you're newly married.

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Speaker 2: Does he do anything romantic?

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Speaker 11: Yeah, he's constantly doing lovely little gestures, most recently like

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Speaker 11: he'll often get me flowers and little surprises. Most recently though,

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Speaker 11: because I take a keep cup to work every day

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Speaker 11: with my coffee in it. He realized my initials that

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Speaker 11: he ordered me and surprised me with a new little

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Speaker 11: keep cup with my.

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Speaker 6: New initials on it.

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Speaker 3: That is not pathetic. That is amazing. That is I mean,

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